Dear Men Podcast

why narcissists and fckboys succeed with women

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 03:47:38 +0000

The modern man has been fed a beautiful delusion: "Just be kind, communicative, and emotionally available and women will want you."

This is a half-truth. In this episode, we dive into exactly why and what to do instead.

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poly… or just longing for the village?

Thu, 22 May 2025 16:47:56 +0000

In this episode I explore what I believe is a misdiagnosed hunger for tribe, elders, touch, and true belonging in a world that’s lost the village. We unpack the collapse of communal life, the overconsumption of intimacy, and why many are mistaking emotional starvation and gluttony for expansive love.

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How to keep her sexually attracted to you

Sun, 04 May 2025 15:17:01 +0000

Most men lose their woman’s desire because they forget the three P’s: penetration, presence, and polarity. In this episode, we break down how to embody these core masculine principles so she stays turned on by you not just emotionally, but sexually. If you’ve ever felt her pull away or have been in a sexless relationship without knowing how you got there, this will hit different.

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Women are just as nasty, freaky, and kinky as you, but...

Thu, 20 Feb 2025 04:05:59 +0000

Women are just as wild, kinky, and sexual as men—sometimes even more. But if she’s not bringing that side out, it’s not because she doesn’t have it… it’s probably because she doesn’t trust you with it. This episode is for you if you want to unlock a deeper level of attraction, passion, and desire in your relationships.

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Are they your partner or your renovation project?

Fri, 31 Jan 2025 20:09:45 +0000

If you have to constantly set boundaries and remind someone how to treat you, you didn’t choose a partner you may have signed up for a renovation project. In this episode, how to spot misalignment before you get attached, and the key to choosing relationships that don’t require you to potty train, coach, or micromanage their healing work. Tune in and learn how to stop dating potential.

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Be a little bit possessive bro, its actually healthy

Thu, 23 Jan 2025 16:52:57 +0000

Possessiveness gets a bad rap, but what if a little bit of it is actually healthy? In this episode, I break down the difference between obsession (toxic and rooted in insecurity) and possessiveness (a natural, protective instinct). Learn how to set boundaries that make her feel claimed, not caged, and why embracing your territorial nature is part of being a strong, integrated man.

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You cannot save her, only God can

Wed, 15 Jan 2025 17:40:35 +0000

In this episode, we dive into the complex struggle of wanting to save a woman we care about, only to realize that some battles are beyond our control. That we are not heroes or superhuman, but simply humans. What does it mean to let go and trust a higher power?

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Your vulnerability isn't the problem, your approach is

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 19:33:27 +0000

In this episode, we explore how to be truly open and vulnerable with women in a way that connects, not pushes them away. Learn the art of male vulnerability—what works, what doesn’t, and how to show up authentically without losing your strength or her respect.

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Why women are drawn to men who own their darkness

Thu, 26 Sep 2024 19:44:40 +0000

In this episode, we dive deep into the raw, untamed power of a man who’s unafraid to face his shadows. We explore how owning your darkness makes you magnetic, confident, and surprisingly, safe in relationships—and why it’s the key to attracting the kind of deep intimacy you’ve always craved. Tune in to learn how tapping into this primal energy not only sets you apart but makes you the man she respects and feels safe with.

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Why men avoid therapy—how therapy fails men

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 12:58:44 +0000

Why are so many men avoiding therapy? Is it really just the stigma, or is the system not built to meet men where they are? In this episode, we explore the untouched conversation around why men aren’t showing up to therapy and what needs to change.

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She Wants Sex Just As Much As You, But ...

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 23:03:27 +0000

Think your sex drive is higher than hers? Think again. In this episode, we explore the misconceptions about women's sexual desires. We dive into the societal norms, communication issues, and emotional neglect that can shape a woman's level of interest. If you want to deepen your understanding or enhance your relationship, this episode is for you.

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5 Powerful Ways to Inspire His Masculine Energy

Thu, 30 May 2024 15:58:43 +0000

In this episode, we dive deep into five ways to inspire and empower masculine energy. Whether you're looking to support your partner, or close friend these powerful insights will help you welcome more balanced, supportive, and fulfilling connections with the men in your life.

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Jealousy Is Not the Thief of Joy

Mon, 20 May 2024 14:37:16 +0000

Explore with me how this complex emotion can actually serve as a powerful tool for personal growth and self-awareness. We'll delve into how understanding the root causes of jealousy can reveal the desires and values that matter most to us. Tune in to redefine your relationship with jealousy and harness it for your benefit.

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How To Love a Man Who's Learned to Hate Women

Tue, 14 May 2024 14:25:00 +0000

In this episode, we explore the complex journey of loving and understanding men who harbor negative feelings toward women. We unpack some of the origins of these attitudes, their impact on relationships, and some strategies for mutual healing.

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How To Love a Woman Who's Learned to Hate Men

Mon, 06 May 2024 12:30:00 +0000

There are no ready-made partners in life, everyone brings their shadows and scars into relationships. This episode is to help men who are willing to engage in that complexity, not just to bridge gaps of mistrust, but to foster mutual healing.

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Why Women Dont Want Men To Be "In Touch With Their Feelings"

Thu, 01 Feb 2024 16:17:51 +0000

In this episode, we dive into the complex dynamics of emotional expression in relationships. Exploring a nuanced reality behind a woman's preference regarding male vulnerability and the misunderstandings that often come up in the emotional communication between men and women.

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Healing Your Father & Mother Wounds With This One Method

Sun, 21 Jan 2024 14:09:11 +0000

If you want to experience a breakthrough in healing your father and mother wounds then this episode is for you.

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Life Update: Why I Dont Chase My Purpose

Sun, 07 Jan 2024 15:58:30 +0000

In this episode, I share my relationship to my purpose and calling in this life, how I am navigating the challenges that come with it and the spiritual aspect that keeps me grounded and centered.

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Want To Date High-Quality People? Use This One Method

Tue, 26 Dec 2023 17:49:47 +0000

Discover a game-changing approach to elevate your dating life. We delve into a simple yet profound strategy that will transform how you meet and connect with high-quality individuals. If you're tired of the usual superficial dating scene and want to step up your game, this episode is for you.

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Wife Her, If She Does These 5 Things

Wed, 06 Dec 2023 14:24:18 +0000

If you're looking for more than just a beautiful face, but a partner to build a lifetime of love with, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore the subtle cues and profound gestures that signify a woman who embodies the elements that can help you create a foundation for a lasting and meaningful connection.

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Who Really Leads? Man or Woman?

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This episode is a journey into redefining intimacy, leadership, and connection, perfect for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of love and partnership in the modern world.

Tune in to discover new ways of connecting that are not just about leading or surrendering, but about creating a union built on mutual respect, and understanding, and embraces the fullness of our humanity.

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How Can We Feel Claimed Without Feeling Possessed?

Sat, 18 Nov 2023 15:00:38 +0000

This episode unpacks the fine line between being cherished and claimed and feeling controlled and owned. Join us for an insightful discussion and practical advice on nurturing a bond that balances emotional belonging with personal autonomy. It's all about loving and being loved, without the shadows of possession.

Perfect for anyone looking to deepen their devotion while maintaining their sense of self.

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Why We Polarize: Cultivating Compassion in Times of War

Sat, 04 Nov 2023 16:49:28 +0000

In this episode, we unpack the challenge of staying grounded amidst a crisis. Discover how to discern the media you consume, remain present during conflict, and approach your privileges with compassion. Gain insights on how to nurture self-love, unity, and personal integrity in a polarized world.

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How Your Darkest Sexual Desires Can Make Your Relationship Stronger

Sun, 24 Sep 2023 16:10:00 +0000

In this episode, we dive deep into the dark textures of our sexual fantasies and explore how they can be powerful components of creating a fulfilling and empowering relationship and how unveiling our darker textures is key to unlocking a more authentic version of ourselves.

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What Polyamory Has Taught Me About Love

Sat, 09 Sep 2023 18:16:58 +0000

While it's not a lifestyle I choose for myself, my research and interactions with those who do have offered me invaluable insights into love, commitment, and human connection. So whether you're poly-curious, in a polyamorous relationship, or like me, prefer monogamy, I hope this episode will invite you to think more deeply about what love can look like.

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The Myth & Trap of Unconditional Love

Tue, 22 Aug 2023 15:06:19 +0000

In this eye-opening episode, we dive into the often-misunderstood concept of unconditional love. While the idea of loving someone without conditions may seem ideal, it can actually hinder personal growth and authentic connection. Explore with me why seeking unconditional love can lead to unrealistic expectations and how embracing a more nuanced understanding of love can foster deeper, more fulfilling relationships.

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How to Properly Court a Woman

Sat, 05 Aug 2023 12:06:00 +0000

Do you know the difference between dating and courting? In this episode, we dive into the lost art of courting and how it distinguishes itself from modern casual dating. I share the intentional, respectful, and masculine approach along with key principles and guides to follow when truly courting a potential wife.

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Parental Wounds are Portals to the Divine

Sat, 29 Jul 2023 17:37:31 +0000

In this episode, we delve into the intricate and complex wounds of our relationships with our parents. We explore the idea that the wounds we have from these experiences are far from being barriers, and can actually serve as transformative gateways or initiations leading us toward profound spiritual growth.

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How to Create Enriching Relationships: Going Beyond Role-Playing

Sun, 09 Jul 2023 17:42:47 +0000

In this episode, we dive deep into the fabric of what truly creates an enriching relationship. How to move beyond societal expectations, beyond the cooking and cleaning, beyond the paying of bills. This conversation is an invitation to shift your perspective and cultivate relationships that are truly enriching.

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Healing the Father Wound: Everything You Need To Know

Thu, 15 Jun 2023 14:37:56 +0000

If you grew up with a father that was physically absent, emotionally unavailable, or verbally or physically abusive, chances are the relationship you had with him is still impacting your relationships and self-worth. In this podcast episode, we confront this deep-seated issue, its manifestations, and ways to heal. If you're seeking to understand how this wound holds you back, this episode is for you.

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Life Update: Living with Trust Issues

Mon, 15 May 2023 20:09:31 +0000

After some positive feedback from my last life update episode, I decided to keep the series going. In this episode, I vulnerably and openly share my struggles with trust in my life and relationships.

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Part 2 How the World Is Being Dehumanized: What Drives Female Objectification?

Tue, 18 Apr 2023 21:44:18 +0000

When women are objectified they're seen as just bodies, instruments and objects designed for the use and pleasure of others. But what drives us as a collective to reduce women to less than human, is it cultural norms, gender roles, religious institutes, or is it the media we consume? And is there anything we can do about it?

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Part 1 How the World Is Being Dehumanized: Social Media Stripping Us of Our Humanity?

Sun, 09 Apr 2023 20:50:53 +0000

What happens when you grow up in a world where communication is instant, where you have access to so much information, and so many different types of people, their lives, relationships, and personal story, and you can interact with whoever you wanted whenever you wanted?

How does this impact our psychology and our relationship with self and others?

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Embracing impermanence & Navigating the Shadow of impermanence

Sun, 02 Apr 2023 21:46:41 +0000

Maybe you've heard the Buddhist philosophical concept of impermanence before, and maybe you haven't. But in this episode, I share my relationship with impermanence and uncertainty and navigating the possible shadows that manifest as a result of this integration.

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Life Update: Messiness of the Journey, Inviting Play and more

Thu, 23 Mar 2023 16:02:48 +0000

This episode is a brief update on my life. I talk about the importance of sharing the messiness and complexities of the human experience, my challenges around balancing work and play, and making time for my spiritual practice.

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Stopping the Cycle of Terrible Relationships Requires You Understand These 5 Steps

Wed, 15 Mar 2023 20:15:27 +0000

Have you found yourself constantly attracting the same person in a different body? In this episode, I share why this may be happening and provide insight into a five-step process that when followed can create lasting changes in the type of partners and dynamics you attract.

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Why I Dont Actually Value Productivity

Mon, 20 Feb 2023 22:01:09 +0000

I think productivity is over-glorified, over-valued, and over-emphasized in our culture. The glorification of productivity conditions us to externalize our value and believe that our worth does not exist beyond what we are capable of producing and doing for others. In this episode, I also unpack and explore what the obsession with productivity, being busy, and chasing goals is helping us avoid.

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5 Reasons Why Every Man Needs to Go Celibate

Mon, 06 Feb 2023 18:08:10 +0000

In this episode, I share 5 reasons why I believe every man needs to go celibate at some point in his journey. I share some of the benefits I noticed from my own celibacy journey, things men need to unlearn and deprogram, and how future relationships will be impacted as a result.

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Why I Do Not Teach Polarity

Sat, 21 Jan 2023 20:49:06 +0000

In this episode, I discuss why I do not identify as a polarity teacher, the ways that these teachings can be harmful rather than constructive in a relationship, and how I apply these teachings in my own personal life.

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Why Darkness Is So Repressed and Misunderstood

Sat, 14 Jan 2023 19:25:22 +0000

In this episode, I talk about what dark masculine and feminine energy are, what they are not, and how we can begin to integrate, purify and embody these energies in an authentic and empowered way.

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6 Tips for Setting Stronger Boundaries

Tue, 10 Jan 2023 20:08:01 +0000

In this episode, I cover my 6 tips to help you set stronger boundaries. So whether you are new to developing this skill, or have had years of practice, the tips I share will be able to support you in refining and strengthening this ability no matter where you're at in your journey.

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The Addiction to Healing & Self-Improvement

Thu, 29 Dec 2022 11:26:24 +0000

Healing our deepest wounds and improving ourselves is such a gift not only to ourselves but also to our relationships, but often this endless ambition to be better or more "healed" feels more comforting and safe than being and accepting who we are right now in this moment at this point in our journeys. This is how healing gradually becomes a cover-up for perfectionism...

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Fact or Myth: "If He Wanted To, He Would"

Wed, 21 Dec 2022 21:00:34 +0000

When advice like "if he wanted, he would" goes viral and is validated and approved by thousands of people we end up taking it at face value, ignore the nuances and fail to skillfully filter it through the context of our life and unique relationships.

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My Personal & Spiritual Journey So Far

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 16:02:24 +0000

In this episode, I wanted to share more about my personal and spiritual journey. What are the events that lead me to the work that I'm doing today, what are the experiences in my childhood that shaped the beliefs I have, and a glimpse into my spiritual awakening and initiations that took place in my early 20s.

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What is The Rise of the Sacred Feminine

Tue, 06 Dec 2022 11:29:10 +0000

What does the rise of the sacred feminine mean to us as a collective, as individuals, and to our future? How can we consciously participate in this awakening?

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The Real Reason Why You Believe “There Aren’t Enough Good Men or People Left”

Sat, 19 Nov 2022 14:54:12 +0000

I hear this all of the time, “where are all the good men?” “All the available people are taken and married.” But what does this belief secretly give us permission to do, what is the unconscious benefit/payoff we get from believing this?

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The Art of Being Authentic

Tue, 25 Oct 2022 17:22:06 +0000

Being authentic is about being your true self, accepting yourself, and not shrinking who you are or your values to avoid rejection or being misunderstood. But how can we be authentic without trying to control other people’s views of us? How can we be our full, vibrant selves while also being mindful of those around us?

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Your Guide On Going No Contact With a Toxic Parent

Tue, 27 Sep 2022 14:49:32 +0000

There comes a time in your journey when the most empowering, healing, and healthiest thing you can do for yourself is to choose to no longer engage or maintain a relationship with your toxic family. This episode is a guide to help you know when and how to establish no contact.

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3 Reasons Why Nice Guys and Assholes Finish Last: What Women Truly Want

Tue, 06 Sep 2022 15:26:34 +0000

When it comes to dating women there's a common belief amongst men that in order to get the girl, you have to embody and become the asshole or the jerk. So the saying goes, “nice guys finish last.” But this is so far from the truth so today I want to demystify this myth and talk a little about what women actually want from a man.

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Love Beyond Restricting Gender Roles

Sun, 04 Sep 2022 16:53:29 +0000

There was a time when the primary purpose of our relationships was to ensure our survival and the continuation of our lineages. Now today that has become only one aspect of why we seek partnership and love. We now are driven by the desire for emotional depth, intimacy, spiritual evolution, and healing. But the fulfillment of these desires cannot truly unfold when we are relating to each other within the context of assigned gender roles.

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How Porn is Hurting Your Relationships

Sun, 21 Aug 2022 18:54:51 +0000

There’s no doubt that the consumption of porn is more accessible and more acceptable in our society and sometimes even in our relationships. Porn sites get more traffic than Twitter, Instagram, Netflix, Pinterest, and LinkedIn combined. Even though for the most part it is free, there is definitely a price we pay. And when it comes to creating healthy, intimate connections with others, the price may be too high.

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Why Mature Men Don't Date Sweet & Nice Girls

Sun, 31 Jul 2022 14:38:07 +0000

There is this sweet and nice girl persona that women tend to embody as a way to create safety for themselves but also as a way to secure a man. But the men that they secure that desire them to be sweet and nice in order to love and commit to them, are not actually real men. In this episode, I explore why men like this are immature and what fears they're protecting themselves from by being with a woman that’s sweet and nice all the time.

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Why Men Are Violent & Emotionally Disconnected

Sat, 30 Jul 2022 11:00:00 +0000

It is easy today to notice how disconnected men are from their emotional sensitivity and how this lack of self-awareness and emotional intelligence has and continues to lead to violent outbursts of rage and violence towards other men and women. In this episode, I want to focus on of the biggest reasons I believe men lose sensitivity to their emotions and how they affect others.

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Your Savior Complex is Also Your Pattern of Codependency

Sat, 09 Jul 2022 01:19:38 +0000

Have you ever felt that you were responsible for someone’s healing or wellbeing? And if you weren’t in the picture or if you didn’t tend to their needs they would be a wreck and couldn’t take care of themselves or something terrible would happen to them? In this episode, I discuss how this pattern of relating known as codependency, when it goes unchecked and unnoticed evolves and becomes what can be seen as a Savior Complex.

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Effects of Our Collective Father Wound

Wed, 29 Jun 2022 19:20:40 +0000

Fathers today are either completely absent or emotionally unavailable. And how fathers show up today not only affects women and daughters but men and young boys— it shapes their perspective of manhood and masculinity. So based on the state of men today there is a conversation that men are not having with each other about the effects of having absent or emotionally unavailable fathers.

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Learning To Trust Again After Betrayal

Tue, 14 Jun 2022 16:05:32 +0000

How do you recover and heal from a betrayal by someone close to you? How do you find the courage to remove your armor in order to let love in? How could you ever put your trust in someone else again after seeing what happened when you did?

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Expanding What It Means to Provide & Protect

Sun, 12 Jun 2022 18:42:06 +0000

When a man loves a woman he does three things profess, provide, and protect. And on this episode, I want to focus on how we as a collective define and view the responsibility of providing and protecting, and how it can and has negatively impacted our relationships and the evolution of men as a whole.

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Why You Keep Recycling Terrible Relationships

Sun, 05 Jun 2022 20:23:05 +0000

Why is it that even after we've learned a lesson, or seen what happens when we ignore specific red flags in people, we somehow recycle the same relationship? We recreate the same dynamics that exhausted us and caused us to negotiate boundaries and abandon ourselves in the process. In this episode, I explore some of the conditions that shape that experience.

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The Wounds We Each Share

Sat, 28 May 2022 20:59:30 +0000

Though our traumas may be unique and different from each other, there is a trauma that we all share, and this trauma formed a deep wound inside our souls that we all carry. In this episode, I explore that trauma, how it affects us and our relationships, and the things we can do to tend to it.

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What Do Mature Men Really Want in a Partner?

Mon, 16 May 2022 01:21:27 +0000

Many women and even men think that what men want and only really care and think about is sex. Which is on the list, no doubt about that. But when men mature there are things that they begin to crave, yearn, and desire from their partner that has little to nothing to do with her physical body or appearance.

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The Mechanics of Men's Healing

Tue, 10 May 2022 21:44:26 +0000

The more men can take the time to look and address how much their relationship with their mother has impacted and continues to influence their relationship with women as an adult, the less difficult it will be for women to feel safe with men.

In this episode, I explore what impedes a man's evolution, and the stories that skew his perception of the women around him.

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How Sexual Purity and Slut Shaming Affects Men

Sat, 07 May 2022 22:25:53 +0000

The idea of purity and the experience of being slut shamed are closely linked but also originate from the minds of men who want to not just control women, but reduce the risk of rejection.

In this episode, I show how each of these is connected, and the harm it causes women but also men that uphold it.

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The Fragility of the Male Ego

Sun, 01 May 2022 22:21:17 +0000

I've noticed in my life an inability to properly process rejection and realized how I was also not alone in this. That there were a lot of men around me and even men I looked up to that didn't also know how to navigate the feeling of being rejected. So in this episode, I explore how this failure to cope and process rejection influences the behaviors and patterns of many, and even determines what personality they choose to embody.

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Technology As a Mirror

Fri, 02 Apr 2021 20:01:50 +0000

We can easily witness and state how technology is made in our image, but how often do we take the time to really integrate what this means? If our phones are a reflection of us, what experiences and stories are taking the most storage? What conversations have over 5GB of data? What can we clear in order to make room for new, more resistant love, relationships, and opportunities?

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Doors to the Inner Child Part 3: The Password is Understanding

Tue, 10 Nov 2020 06:13:56 +0000

In Part 3 of 3, we bring everything we've unpacked in parts one and two, full circle. Looking at the power of understanding, and how it is understanding that moves the fear, anger, or guilt we may uncover as we return home to ourselves, into higher frequencies such as compassion, love, and joy.

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Doors to the Inner Child Part 2: Bringing Balance to the Broken Family Structure

Sat, 31 Oct 2020 13:23:57 +0000

Growing up we enjoyed films and stories like Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, Rapunzel the list goes on. But each of these stories carries the same energy and underlying meaning, they point us to a story that is taking place inside. Where a part or aspect of ourselves seems to have been abandoned or rejected and now awaits our return. In this episode, we explore what are these aspects that we've abandoned and how can we begin to welcome them back home.

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Doors to the Inner Child Part 1: Repeating the Same Lessons Again and Again

Fri, 23 Oct 2020 03:49:18 +0000

In Part 1 of 3 episodes, we unpack one of the biggest factors that lead us to repeat the same lessons in new forms, when it comes to our relationships. Something is happening on a subconscious level that is causing us to date the same person with a new face. To go through the same experiences and dynamics of relationships as the ones we have known and experienced growing up with our parents.

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How Do You Discern Between What Feels Good and Whats True?

Mon, 12 Oct 2020 01:06:56 +0000

Have you ever heard the saying "go with your gut" or "trust your gut"? But have you also heard "detox your gut before you can trust it"? So how often are we trusting our gut or our internal guidance system without clearing it of the things it's accumulated over time, from false perceptions, traumatic experiences and so on. Can we really trust what feels good to us?

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Our Fears Actually Excite Us

Sat, 26 Sep 2020 09:10:49 +0000

In this episode, we unpack and explore the root of our fears around making life-changing decisions that we ultimately and intuitively know will lead us into more of our Highest Joy. Seeing the many voices, and forms of Fear and how it tries to prevent and protect us from new and unknown spaces of ourselves.

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The Pilot

Sat, 26 Sep 2020 07:32:36 +0000

An introduction to the host Jeremie Lotemo and the podcast. Why was it created and what the listeners can look forward to from the episodes to come.

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