Bold Love & Soulful Sex: on dating, relationships, lineage & legacy with Violet Lange

179 Which of These 5 Patterns Is Holding You Back From Lasting Love?

Tue, 18 Aug 2026 13:00:38 +0000

What if the thing keeping you from lasting love isn’t bad luck—but a pattern you can actually change?

In this episode, I’m breaking down five of the most common patterns I see in dating and relationships: dating down for safety, being sexually shut down, hiding behind performance, overgiving, and trying to strategize your way into love.

More importantly, we’ll look at how each pattern actually shows up in your love life—and what needs to shift so you can create something different.

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178 A Cosmic Queer Love Story with Anu & Gabe

Fri, 14 Aug 2026 12:00:26 +0000

What happens when two people do the inner work, get radically honest about who they are and what they want…and then find each other?

In this joyful conversation, Anu and Gabe share their cosmic queer love story—from psychedelic visions and dark nights of the soul to a first date in a cemetery, choosing each other, navigating enormous life initiations, and creating a marriage that generates more love, magic, and possibility for everyone around them.

We talk about being fully met, why healthy love can initially feel almost too good, the freedom of creating relationships outside prescribed roles, and what it means to keep choosing each other.

Find Anu at Fire in the Belly Alchemy and IG @fireinthebellyalchemy

Find Gabe at Raven Bodywork and IG @gabrielravengold

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177 Why won't they commit to me? If you get dates but no relationship

Tue, 11 Aug 2026 22:37:21 +0000

Do your connections keep fizzling out somewhere between a few dates and a few months?

In this episode, we explore why getting to commitment isn't always about meeting more people or playing the dating game better. Sometimes the very strategies we use to seem desirable—playing it cool, overgiving, hiding what we really want—keep us from creating the relationship we're actually longing for.

I share a client story and the shifts that helped her move from dating spin cycle to a passionate, co-created partnership.

Ready to shift your patterns in love?

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176 Astrology for Love with Ayesha Durrani

Fri, 07 Aug 2026 03:41:51 +0000

Can astrology help you create extraordinary love?

In this episode, I sit down with astrologer and Oath Oracle founder Ayesha Durrani to explore what your birth chart can reveal about relationships, shadow work, self-awareness, and why your chart is never your destiny—it simply points you toward your greatest opportunities for growth and love.

Connect with Ayesha

✨ Free Astrology Guide

✨ Venus Codes Masterclass 80% off!

🎙️ Aquarian Age Business Podcast

📸 Instagram: @oathoracle

Ready to become the match for extraordinary love?

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About Ayesha Durrani

Ayesha Durrani is an astrologer, business mentor, founder of Oath Oracle™, and host of the Aquarian Age Business podcast.

The premise of her work is that our birth chart is the instruction manual for creating our Heaven on Earth. When we live—and do business—in alignment with our energetic blueprint, we become attuned to the rhythm of nature and the cosmos.

Ayesha has served more than 3,000 clients worldwide and generated millions doing what she loves. She supports mystic entrepreneurs in creating sacred success that is deeply aligned, believing that extraordinary outcomes become available when we live in harmony with our astrological blueprint.

175 Break Your Patterns in Love: my journey from Harvard Business School to Love Coaching

Tue, 04 Aug 2026 14:17:16 +0000

Why do so many brilliant, successful people keep repeating the same painful relationship patterns?

Listen to the surprising realization that transformed my love life forever, via my own journey from Harvard Business School and executive coaching to becoming a love coach.

You'll learn why dating isn't a numbers game, how childhood patterns quietly shape attraction, and how to become a cycle breaker so you can create extraordinary love.

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Doors open August 17 and welcome gifts ship on August 24th.

Because your happily ever after begins with you.

174 Can Plants Help You Find Lasting Love?

Thu, 30 Jul 2026 13:15:11 +0000

What if healing your nervous system could transform the way you love?

In this conversation with herbalist Marysia Miernowska, we explore how plant allies, embodied practice, and nervous system regulation can help you break inherited relationship patterns and become more available for healthy, lasting love. I also share my own journey with the plants and how the School of the Sacred Wild changed my relationships, and continues to support my clients to find lasting love.

🌿 Learn more about Marysia's School of the Sacred Wild (registration is now open, with special bonuses available)

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173 Finding Love After Sexual Abuse, Incest & Complex Trauma

Tue, 28 Jul 2026 18:46:24 +0000

Can you create extraordinary love after childhood trauma?

In this deeply personal episode, I share my own journey of healing from childhood sexual abuse, incest, narcissistic family dynamics, and complex trauma—and the relationship patterns that kept me stuck for years. We explore why talk therapy alone often isn't enough, how attachment wounds shape dating, and the tools that helped me create healthy, lasting love. If you've ever wondered whether your past is keeping you from your future, this episode is for you.

💜 Love Harmonics is my new 6-week live experience to help you become the match for extraordinary love. Through live coaching, embodiment, Family Constellations, ceremony, and your personalized Divine Union Blueprint, you'll repattern the unconscious dynamics that keep you stuck in love.

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✨ Doors open August 17 (join by August 24 to receive a beautiful welcome gift in the mail!)

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172 Love, Leadership, and Self-Authorship with guest Julie Parker

Thu, 23 Jul 2026 19:53:49 +0000

How we lead ourselves shapes how we love.

In this inspiring conversation, I'm joined by Julie Parker—founder of The Beautiful You Coaching Academy, Australia's leading life coach training organization. For more than two decades, Julie has mentored thousands of coaches, counsellors, and sacred leaders around the world, and is an award-winning author, speaker, and host of two top-ranking podcasts.

Together, we explore self-authorship, inherited stories, sacred leadership, and why the quality of our relationships begins with the relationship we have with ourselves. Whether you're longing for extraordinary love, building a purpose-driven business, or simply wanting to live more authentically, this conversation is full of wisdom.

Connect with Julie's Sacred & Sovereign coaching program

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171 What Is Divine Union? And how do you create it?

Thu, 23 Jul 2026 17:08:50 +0000

What if extraordinary love isn't something you find... but something you create?

In this episode, I share the blueprint for Divine Union, why trauma and conditioning distort our experience of love, and how becoming the match (instead of seeking, searching, swiping, or settling) changes everything.

Together, we're remembering the blueprint for Divine Union... and reclaiming extraordinary love.

✨ Love Harmonics opens August 17. Join the waitlist

170 Want your Beloved and a Baby??? But worried time is running out?

Thu, 16 Jul 2026 11:55:13 +0000

If you dream of becoming a mother but haven't yet met your beloved, this episode is for you.

Violet explores one of the deepest fears many women carry: What if time is running out? She shares why you don't have to settle for the wrong partner just to have a baby, the many beautiful pathways to parenthood available today, and how to date from your deepest values instead of panic, scarcity or shame.

You'll also learn why fear of repeating your parents' mistakes can quietly block your path to love, and how healing those patterns can help you create the family you've always envisioned.

Whether you're hoping to meet your soulmate first, become a single parent by choice, build a blended family, or simply keep your options open, this episode offers hope, practical perspective, and a new way to think about your future.

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169 Great at Career...but still Longing for Lasting Love?

Tue, 14 Jul 2026 11:55:24 +0000

You're brilliant at what you do. You've built a meaningful career, overcome incredible challenges, and created a successful life. So why does lasting love still feel elusive?

If you've ever wondered why someone can look perfect on paper but still not feel like home,

or if you've ever heard you're intimidating or too picky,

or if you're crushing it in your career but just can't seem to figure out love, this episode is for you.

Here I explore why many accomplished women unknowingly approach dating the way they approach work—leading with strategy, competence, and self-protection instead of allowing genuine connection to unfold. But without settling.

We unpack the hidden cost of dating from your head instead of your heart, why your checklist may be masking a deeper longing, and how to discern character, emotional availability, and true compatibility beyond what's impressive on paper.

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168 What's Really Keeping You Single? Hint: it's not the apps...

Sat, 11 Jul 2026 22:27:50 +0000

You've worked on yourself. You've tried the apps. You've manifested. You've prayed. You've even "put yourself out there."

So why does love still feel harder than it should?

In this episode, I explore how fear—not lack of worthiness—is often the invisible force shaping our love lives. We unpack the four nervous system survival responses (flight, fight, freeze, and fawn), how they quietly influence dating and relationships, and what it takes to move from survival into genuine connection.

If you're tired of swiping, overthinking, or feeling like you're always repeating the same patterns, this conversation will give you a completely different way of understanding what's happening—and what to do next.

Join the Love Harmonics waitlist -- doors open August 17th, sign up by August 24th & get a free gift!

167 Stop Waiting for Love to Find You: why your soulmate won't show up until you do

Sat, 11 Jul 2026 03:30:42 +0000

We've been taught that love is something that simply happens—that the right person will appear when the timing is perfect.

But what if that story is keeping you stuck?

In this episode, I explore why shame quietly keeps so many people passive in their love lives, why dating requires the same courage and growth as any meaningful part of life, and how becoming more embodied, authentic, and emotionally available completely changes the way we attract love.

I also share part of my own journey before meeting Jason—and why learning new relationship skills changed everything.

If you're ready to stop waiting and start creating the love you desire, this episode is for you.

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166 Should I burn it all down?!? Trust Issues & Sexual Triggers

Fri, 26 Jun 2026 14:18:44 +0000

What do you do when every part of you wants to burn it all down?

In this deeply personal episode, Violet shares how old trust wounds, sexual trauma, collective grief, and relationship triggers unexpectedly resurfaced after more than a decade with her husband—and how, instead of walking away, they chose a new path of honesty, attunement, nervous system healing, and profound intimacy.

If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is truly over—or whether there's another invitation beneath the trigger—this conversation is for you.

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165 How to Call In Your Soulmate: Become the person love can actually find

Fri, 26 Jun 2026 14:17:45 +0000

What if calling in your soulmate has nothing to do with luck…and everything to do with devotion to your path?

In this episode, Violet shares the deeper story of meeting her husband, Jason—from a dream three weeks before they met in real life to the inner work that made their connection possible. She explores the role of shadow work, embodiment, sensuality, visibility, and wholehearted self-expression in creating the kind of love that doesn't just find you—but recognizes you.

If you're ready to stop searching for love and start becoming the person love can actually find, this episode is for you.

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164 Real Love Stories 10: Angela

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:17:48 +0000

Angela had built a beautiful life.

A thriving veterinary practice. Strong friendships. A deep commitment to the people and animals she loved.

But somewhere along the way, she had become so busy caring for everyone else that there was very little room left for love.

In this episode of Real Love Stories, Violet shares how one woman stopped overgiving, reconnected to her own needs, and discovered that receiving love requires a different kind of courage than earning it.

Together, they didn't focus on finding the right partner. They focused on embodiment, boundaries, pleasure, and creating a life that could actually hold the love she was asking for.

Then, in the most unlikely place, she met a man who could truly meet her—and a whole new chapter began.

Want the reflection prompts, practices, and mini-dare that accompany this episode? Join the free Real Love Happens experience at violetlange.com/real

Ready for your own love story this season? Learn more about The Love Field at violetlange.com/thelovefield

163 Real Love Stories 9: Rachel

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:16:27 +0000

Rachel had spent years healing, growing, and learning about relationships.

And yet, there was still a part of her that felt slightly disconnected—from herself, from her body, and from the kind of love she truly wanted.

In this episode of Real Love Stories, Violet shares how one woman uncovered an old survival pattern, learned to listen to her own needs, and discovered that the deepest relationship transformation wasn't about finding love—it was about fully inhabiting her own life.

Together, they didn't focus on finding a partner. They focused on embodiment, self-trust, desire, and learning to honor what was true for her instead of settling for what was merely available.

What followed was not only a deeply aligned partnership, but a richer relationship with her work, her purpose, and herself.

Want the reflection prompts, practices, and mini-dare that accompany this episode? Join the free Real Love Happens experience at violetlange.com/real

Ready for your own love story this season? Learn more about The Love Field at violetlange.com/thelovefield

162 Real Love Stories 8: Carmen

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:15:23 +0000

Carmen knew how to date.

She knew how to keep a conversation going, how to stay desirable, and how to make a good impression. But despite plenty of dates, nothing ever seemed to become the kind of love she actually wanted.

In this episode of Real Love Stories, Violet shares how one woman stopped treating love like a game, put down the performance, and discovered the power of being fully herself.

Together, they didn't focus on better dating strategies. They focused on vulnerability, authenticity, and the courage to let herself be seen.

Then one honest conversation revealed the difference between chemistry and real connection—and changed the course of her love life.

Want the reflection prompts, practices, and mini-dare that accompany this episode? Join the free Real Love Happens experience at violetlange.com/real

Ready for your own love story this season? Learn more about The Love Field at violetlange.com/thelovefield

161 Real Love Stories 7: Alice

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:14:51 +0000

Alice had a huge heart.

The challenge wasn't learning how to love. It was learning how to stop giving her love away to women who couldn't truly receive it.

In this episode of Real Love Stories, Violet shares how one woman transformed heartbreak into discernment, stopped falling in love with potential, and learned to trust what people were actually showing her.

Together, they didn't focus on finding the perfect woman. They focused on self-worth, boundaries, nervous system healing, and the courage to walk away sooner when something wasn't aligned.

What emerged wasn't just a healthy relationship—it was a completely different way of loving.

Want the reflection prompts, practices, and mini-dare that accompany this episode? Join the free Real Love Happens experience at violetlange.com/real

Ready for your own love story this season? Learn more about The Love Field at violetlange.com/thelovefield

160 Real Love Stories 6: Rita

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:13:44 +0000

Rita loved her husband.

But after years of motherhood, caregiving, and putting everyone else's needs first, she had lost touch with something essential: her own desire.

In this episode of Real Love Stories, Violet shares how one woman rekindled intimacy in a marriage that had gone five years without sex—not by forcing herself to want more, but by reconnecting to her body, her pleasure, and her aliveness.

Together, they didn't start with sex. They started with sensation, self-awareness, emotional truth, and the courage to reclaim ALL of herself.

What happened next transformed not only her marriage, but her relationship with herself.

Want the reflection prompts, practices, and mini-dare that accompany this episode? Join the free Real Love Happens experience at violetlange.com/real

Ready for your own love story this season? Learn more about The Love Field at violetlange.com/thelovefield

159 Real Love Stories 5: Luna

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:12:32 +0000

Luna spent years wondering if she was simply too much for love.

Too passionate. Too outspoken. Too intense.

In this episode of Real Love Stories, Violet shares how one woman stopped shrinking herself to fit other people's comfort and discovered that real love doesn't require us to become less—it asks us to become more fully ourselves.

Together, they didn't focus on becoming more palatable or more agreeable. They focused on boundaries, discernment, self-worth, and learning to recognize the difference between intensity and commitment.

What followed wasn't a whirlwind romance. It was something much rarer: a love that could grow alongside the fullness of who she was.

Want the reflection prompts, practices, and mini-dare that accompany this episode? Join the free Real Love Happens experience at violetlange.com/real

Ready for your own love story this season? Learn more about The Love Field at violetlange.com/thelovefield

158 Real Love Stories 4: Heidi

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:11:50 +0000

For years, Heidi was drawn to men who couldn't fully choose her.

Unavailable men. Complicated men. Men who made love feel uncertain, intense, and just out of reach.

In this episode of Real Love Stories, Violet shares how one woman stopped chasing chemistry that led to heartbreak and began creating the conditions for something lasting.

Together, they didn't focus on finding the right man. They focused on changing what her nervous system recognized as connection, attraction, and love.

Then one date—and an unexpected second chance—changed everything.

Want the reflection prompts, practices, and mini-dare that accompany this episode? Join the free Real Love Happens experience at violetlange.com/real

Ready for your own love story this season? Learn more about The Love Field at violetlange.com/thelovefield

157 Real Love Stories 3: Deborah

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:10:16 +0000

For most of her life, Deborah lived in her head.

At 40 years old, she had never experienced the kind of intimacy, desire, and connection she longed for.

In this episode of Real Love Stories, Violet shares how one woman slowly rebuilt trust in her body, healed the effects of trauma, and discovered that love didn't require her to override her fear—it required her to stay with herself through it.

Together, they didn't focus on finding a partner. They focused on safety, embodiment, self-trust, and reconnecting Deborah to parts of herself she had long left behind.

Within a year, she met a man who was both hot and safe—and her life changed forever.

Want the reflection prompts, practices, and mini-dare that accompany this episode? Join the free Real Love Happens experience at violetlange.com/real

Ready for your own love story this season? Learn more about The Love Field at violetlange.com/thelovefield

156 Real Love Stories 2: Anthony

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:09:07 +0000

After years of personal growth, Anthony found himself approaching 50 and wondering if love had passed him by.

It hadn't.

In this episode of Real Love Stories, Violet shares how one man stopped trying to be everything for everyone, got clear about what he truly wanted, and discovered that love was waiting on the other side of that clarity.

Together, they didn't focus on becoming a better man. They focused on desire, direction, presence, and the courage to choose the life he actually wanted.

A week before a wedding in Europe, an unexpected encounter in Italy changed everything.

Want the reflection prompts, practices, and mini-dare that accompany this episode? Join the free Real Love Happens experience at violetlange.com/real

Ready for your own love story this season? Learn more about The Love Field's Hot Love Summer at violetlange.com/thelovefield

155 Real Love Stories 1: Sarah

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:08:50 +0000

After eight years without dating, Sarah quietly began to wonder if her love story was over. It wasn't.

In this first episode of Real Love Stories, Violet shares how one woman reconnected to herself, reopened to life, and discovered that love was closer than she imagined.

Together, they didn't start with dating apps or strategy. They started somewhere much deeper: hope, aliveness, presence, and embodiment.

Two months later, a simple moment in a coffee shop changed everything.

Want the reflection prompts, practices, and mini-dare that accompany this episode? Join the free Real Love Happens experience at violetlange.com/real

Ready for your own love story this season? Learn more about The Love Field at violetlange.com/thelovefield

154 Do Past Lives Affect Your Love Life Now?

Fri, 29 May 2026 14:18:36 +0000

In this episode, Violet explores the mysterious ways unfinished love, unconscious vows, trauma, attachment patterns, ancestral memory, and even possible past life experiences may shape our relationships today.

From soulmate fantasies and twin flame obsession to emotional availability, nervous system safety, and real embodied partnership, this conversation invites us to ask:

Are we loyal to old love stories…or available for love now? ❤️‍🔥

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love.

Learn more and join us in The Love Field's Hot Love Summer

153 I Can Feel Them in My Field…But How Do I Make Sure They Find Me?

Fri, 29 May 2026 14:17:51 +0000

What if your future partner can already feel you…but still can’t fully find you?

In this episode, Violet explores the difference between sensing love energetically and becoming truly available for it in real life. She dives into emotional availability, embodiment, nervous system openness, visibility, archetypal attraction, relational patterns, and the practical ways we can participate in love instead of just waiting for it.

This conversation is for anyone who feels like love is close…but not quite landing yet. ❤️‍🔥

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love

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152 Where Did the Passion Go? aka what happened to my sex life?

Fri, 22 May 2026 00:17:09 +0000

Why does passion fade in relationships, and even with ourselves, and is it actually inevitable?

In this episode, Violet explores the deeper emotional, relational, hormonal, and spiritual reasons we lose desire over time… and how soulful sexuality can continue evolving for years.

From parenting, resentment, trauma, and nervous system shutdown to erotic blueprints, transparency, fantasy, healing, and life-force energy, this conversation explores what it really takes to keep intimacy alive.

Because thriving sex isn’t about perfection or performance.

It’s about aliveness, honesty, embodiment, and continuing to meet each other as you evolve.

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love

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151 They Say They're Not Ready...should you believe them?

Thu, 21 May 2026 23:17:26 +0000

What does it actually mean when someone says they’re “not ready” for a relationship? In this episode, Violet explores the difference between desire and capacity, why readiness is a spectrum, how to recognize embodied cues instead of just words, and why mutual choosing matters more than fantasy. A nuanced conversation about dating, attachment, sovereignty, vulnerability, and the messy beauty of becoming ready for love.

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love

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150 What Oracle Cards Won't Tell You About Love

Thu, 21 May 2026 04:17:01 +0000

Oracle cards. Twin flames. Psychic readings. Angel signs.

In this episode, Violet explores the difference between intuition and spiritual bypassing in love. A deep conversation about sovereignty, nervous systems, embodiment, destiny, relational patterns, and why lasting love is not something we predict — it’s something we participate in creating.

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love

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149 Do You Have to Change Yourself to Find Love?

Thu, 21 May 2026 03:17:33 +0000

Do you really have to change yourself to find love?

In this episode, Violet explores the difference between abandoning yourself for approval… and allowing love to transform you into more of who you truly are. From attraction patterns to archetypes, polarity, desire, and the stories we inherit about relationships, this is an invitation to soften the defenses that keep love out — without losing yourself in the process.

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love

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148 How to Date: The 4 Ds of Dating...even if you hate dating

Thu, 21 May 2026 02:17:49 +0000

Modern dating can feel exhausting, performative, and disconnected from what we actually want.

In this episode, Violet shares the 4 Ds of Dating — a framework for approaching love in a more alive, embodied, and spiritually connected way:

Determined. Devoted. Desire-driven. Dynamic.

This conversation explores how to stop dating from fear, cynicism, and burnout — and start approaching love as a practice of aliveness, authenticity, pleasure, and growth.

If you want love but hate dating, this episode is for you.

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love

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147 Should I Stay...or Should I Go?

Tue, 19 May 2026 23:17:11 +0000

In this episode of Bold Love & Soulful Sex, Violet Lange explores one of the hardest questions we face in love and partnership. Through stories, nervous system wisdom, relationship patterns, grief work, polarity, attachment, and embodied discernment, she unpacks how to know whether a relationship is asking you to deepen…or let go.

Because healthy love isn’t about perfection.

It’s about truth, growth, aliveness, and the courage to stop abandoning yourself in the name of staying.

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love

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146 How to Stop Repeating the Same Patterns in Love

Sat, 16 May 2026 17:17:10 +0000

What if your patterns in love aren’t proof that you’re broken?

In this episode of Bold Love & Soulful Sex, Violet Lange explores why we repeat painful relationship dynamics — and how to finally shift them. From nervous system wiring and childhood conditioning to chemistry, attraction, and embodied communication, this episode dives into the deeper roots of love patterns and the micro-experiments that can change them.

Because healthy love isn’t about luck.

It’s about learning how to create new experiences of connection that teach your body something different.

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love

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145 Can Chemistry Be Created or just found?

Sat, 16 May 2026 16:17:10 +0000

Is chemistry fate…or something we can create? Violet explores attraction, nervous system, embodiment, attachment, desire, and the deeper dynamics behind romantic spark — and why bold love means expanding our sense of who and what we're attracted to.

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love

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144 Are You Practicing Love? Or Waiting for It?

Sat, 16 May 2026 15:17:50 +0000

What if love isn’t something you wait for, but something you practice? In this episode, Violet explores how connection, intimacy, attraction, and aliveness are cultivated through the way we live now — not someday when partnership arrives or when our existing partner changes.

Join me for 10 Days of Summer Love

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143 Is Your Definition of Love Too Small?

Sat, 16 May 2026 14:17:00 +0000

Why I'm expanding from The Pleasure Path to Bold Love & Soulful Sex: on dating, relationships, lineage & legacy for love rebels. Let's make some magic!

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142 Prayer for Partnership & Matchmaking with Zev Aaron

Mon, 16 Mar 2026 22:24:21 +0000

Have you ever had a prayer for partnership, but felt forlorn? Do you believe there's a spiritual dimension to finding love? In this episode, my special guest Zev Aaron talks about matchmaking as a path to meet your partner—but not traditional matchmaking. He and I also discuss embodiment, being human, accountability (especially for men), and the courage for women to open and blossom so they might be seen and felt in their deepest truths and desires.

Fun fact, I was coaching Zev's now wife when the two of them met romantically, and now they've been together for 4 years. The magic is real!

If you're intrigued by Zev's work, you can connect with him at the links below:

Free Matchmaking Form -- sign up to be on his list: lovezev.com/join
Instagram
Facebook

141 From Chemistry to Coherence: Love as Initiation

Mon, 16 Feb 2026 19:55:55 +0000

What if love isn’t something you find — but something you practice?

In this episode, I’m sharing a deeper, embodied conversation about love:

not the fantasy version we’re sold,

not the pressure-filled performance we see on social media,

but the kind of love that lives in the body… and is actually sustainable.

Toward the end of the episode, I introduce Love, Integrated — my new 12-week initiation into embodied partnership, offered through three pathways:

Sacred Cohort (group experience)
Mentored Path (group + private Love Recalibration sessions)
Private Mentorship (fully bespoke 1:1 container)

Love, Integrated is not a course.

It’s a recalibration of how love lives in your body — working with nervous system regulation, attachment patterns, archetypes, polarity, lineage healing, shadow integration, and relational devotion.

If something in your body is recognizing itself as you listen, trust that.

You can learn more or book a free connection call here:

violetlange.com/loveintegrated

140 The Heart of Shadow for Women

Sun, 01 Feb 2026 20:17:09 +0000

In this episode, I sit down with my husband Jason Lange and our dear friend Luke Adler to introduce The Heart of Shadow for Women, a program we've been dreaming about for years and are finally bringing to life. We dive deep into what shadow work actually is, why it's so transformative when done in community, and how this embodied, somatic approach differs from other modalities. Jason and Luke share their expertise from years of leading shadow work for men, while I add perspective on what makes this journey unique for women, from reclaiming our anger and power to finding safety in our softness, and everything in between. If you've ever felt like you silence your truth, shrink your power, or carry patterns you can't seem to break, this conversation is for you.

Learn more and join us for the Spring 2026 cohort at heartofshadow.com/women.

139 How Can Your Love Life Get Better Through Menopause? (with Jo Ann Panneton)

Sat, 17 Jan 2026 16:00:16 +0000

Did you know menopause can be a way to improve your love life? That intimacy, connection, and commitment can actually improve -- whether you're single or partnered? Listen now to the hidden opportunities in this season of renewed vitality and confidence, with my special guest Jo Ann Panneton.

Learn more about, and join, her program helping women to THRIVE through menopause at Your Invitation to THRIVE

138 What Season is Your Relationship In?

Wed, 05 Nov 2025 19:13:28 +0000

In this episode my husband Jason and I break down why your relationship can’t always be sunny and perfect—and why that’s actually a good thing. We walk through the four seasons of relationships and the reality of how different parts of your partnership can be in completely different seasons at the same time. Your sex life might be in spring while your emotional connection is in winter, and not knowing that can keep you confused about what’s actually going wrong.

If you’ve ever wondered why the spark faded or why connection feels harder than it used to, this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening—and what to do about it before you lose years to autopilot.

Join our free connection date night for couples at https://evolutionarycouples.us/evolutionofus

Learn more about our programs Evolutionary Couples and 12 Epic Dates at https://evolutionarycouples.us

137 Our Five Scariest Moments as a Couple

Fri, 31 Oct 2025 15:52:50 +0000

Ever get freaked out in your relationship? Do your worries take away from the love you want to build? It’s normal to feel fear in relationship but don’t let it sabotage you both. Listen now to hear our Five Scariest Moments as a Couple and the key ways we worked through them to strengthen our love.

Join our FREE connection night for couples at https://evolutionarycouples.us/evolutionofus

Join our 12 Epic Dates and/or Evolutionary Couples programs at https://evolutionarycouples.us

136 Can Sex Keep Getting Better in Long-term Relationship?

Thu, 10 Oct 2024 19:30:20 +0000

Discover the secrets to a sizzling sex life that keeps getting better and better year after year! In this episode, Jason and I reveal our sexual journey, sharing candid tips on maintaining erotic energy and emotional connection. Learn why safety, vulnerability, and shared responsibility are the keys to unlocking unparalleled pleasure and deepening your bond. Whether you're struggling with sexual challenges or looking to elevate your passion, this episode can revolutionize your approach to intimacy and reignite the spark in your relationship.

Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this episode is your roadmap to unprecedented sexual connection.

Join our LIVE cohort of our Evolutionary Couples program at https://evolutionarycouples.us
Short on time? You can also experience 12 Epic Dates at your own pace and reignite the fire of your relationship

135 Our Three Biggest Fights as a Couple

Thu, 03 Oct 2024 18:52:00 +0000

In this episode, my husband Jason and I dive deep into the raw, real, and often messy side of relationships by sharing our three biggest fights and lessons from them. From trust issues and emotional disregulation to financial stress and fertility struggles, we explore how rupture and repair are essential for growth in any partnership. We also introduce our new programs, Evolutionary Couples & 12 Epic Dates, designed to help couples build stronger, more resilient relationships through skill-building, emotional connection, and polarity. Tune in for an honest conversation about the challenges of love, and how to navigate them with grace, tools, and support.

Find out more about Evolutionary Couples which starts October 19th and has Early Bird until October 7th, and sign up for 12 Epic Dates anytime at https://evolutionarycouples.us

134 Evolutionary Couples & 12 Epic Dates

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 19:50:21 +0000

If you only had about 2 hours a week to spend on your relationship, how could you use that time most wisely?

The truth is relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially in today’s fast-paced world where it can be hard to prioritize the relationship. Even when partners deeply love each other, they may face difficulties in maintaining passion, resolving conflicts, and growing together over the long term. Many couples are stuck in unfulfilling patterns, feeling more like roommates than lovers, or constantly bickering over small issues. Without the right tools and support, it’s easy for relationships to stagnate or deteriorate over time.

My husband Jason and I created the Evolutionary Couples program as a structured experience to help couples revitalize their relationships and foster deeper connection. Through 12 carefully designed “epic dates,” couples are guided to explore key areas like communication, intimacy, finances, and shared purpose. The journey provides a mix of themed dates addressing practical issues and polarity dates to reignite passion and play. With options for self-paced learning or a more immersive experience with coaching and community support, couples can choose the level of engagement that works for them. By dedicating just two hours a week to intentional relationship building, partners can develop new skills, heal old wounds, and cultivate a thriving, passionate partnership that just keeps improving over time!

Learn more and sign up at evolutionarycouples.us

133 Tapping Into Your Power with Wild Sensuality

Wed, 12 Jul 2023 15:00:00 +0000

How do you awaken an innocent connection to your body and the Earth? How do you reclaim all of the parts of you, and be witnessed in your fullness? How can you access greater truth, power, freedom and love?

Tune in to hear more about Wild Sensuality including details on my upcoming retreat in November: https://violetlange.com/wild-sensuality-retreat/

132 How to Embrace Your Sensuality with the Four Elements

Fri, 07 Jul 2023 03:45:44 +0000

Fire + fire will burn out...balancing the elements in our relationships, and in ourselves, is key. Learn how to tap into your elemental sensuality and alchemize stuck areas, so you can plant the seeds of your vision of love.

For more practice and support in this area, check out my Wild Sensuality retreat at https://violetlange.com/wild-sensuality-retreat/ or my Sacred Sensuality program https://violetlange.com/sacred-sensuality/

131 How to Get Your Sex Life Back

Thu, 15 Jun 2023 13:00:00 +0000

Going through a lull, or a total freeze, in your sex life? Not feeling very sexy or radiant? Tune in for a unique perspective on turn-on. To sign up for Sacred Sexuality visit https://violetlange.com/sacred-sensuality/

130 How to Not Fall for the Wrong One

Sun, 11 Jun 2023 13:00:00 +0000

Ever wonder if your "picker" is broken? Have you unknowingly fallen for the same type of person again and again? Listen to learn how to change your patterns of attraction and stop falling for your dating "catnip."

129 Manifest Your Vision of Love

Wed, 07 Jun 2023 21:41:00 +0000

Creating healthy love isn't just about affirmations or a checklist. Bring your list to life with this episode and get tips for speeding up the process.

128 Three Things You Might Not Know About Men, Dating & Sex w/ Melanie Curtin

Thu, 01 Jun 2023 13:00:00 +0000

My guest Melanie Curtin, host of the Dear Men Podcast, joins to share three things you might not know about men, dating, and sex. Find out more about her at www.melaniecurtin.com

127 Fierce Self-Love: Mindset Shifts & Practices

Mon, 29 May 2023 00:24:54 +0000

If you feel stuck in negative beliefs or have great self-care but something seems missing, listen for how to dial up your self-love to level fierce. The book mentioned: No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz.

126 The Missing Piece: Practical Intimacy

Sun, 21 May 2023 13:00:00 +0000

Emotional and physical intimacy can sweep us away, but practical intimacy is what sustains a relationship. It's also the missing piece to make dating more efficient and effective.

125 How to Clear Resentments in Dating & Love

Fri, 19 May 2023 15:58:15 +0000

Ever let resentments pile up like the dishes, then just avoid them? If you want a smoother, easier relationship or dating experience, listen now.

124 Make it Easy to Find a Good Man

Tue, 09 May 2023 13:00:00 +0000

You might be surprised to discover that good men are everywhere if you know how to look. Tune in to this episode to find out how to make it easy to find a great man.

123 Draw Love Closer with Archetypes

Sat, 06 May 2023 22:01:45 +0000

If you feel like love is just out of reach, this episode is for you. Learn how using archetypes can bring love even closer to you.

122 Reclaim Your Erotic Essence & Save Your Relationship

Tue, 25 Oct 2022 17:21:00 +0000

Want that sizzle, that dazzle, that magical mystique? Of course you do. Everyone does. And if you're in a long-term relationship, it can feel harder to maintain that over time.

We're witnessing an epidemic of sexless relationships — some studies put it at 15% of all marriages. When it comes to sex, sensuality, and a woman's erotic essence, it can be easy to lose.

One way this can show up is as mismatched desire. A man wants sex with his woman (i.e. wants to know, "How do I get my wife to have sex with me more?"), but she's not feelin' it. Maybe she feels like her libido is low. Maybe she wants to figure out whether there's something wrong with her — isn't it her wifely duty to "provide sex" to her husband/man?

Here, we delve into the pattern of losing one's erotic essence as well as the delicious ways to reclaim it. YES, it is possible to get that sexy, sassy, soulful passion back — both in a relationship as well as just in your own body.

If you’re interested in staying in the loop about the program we reference at the end of this episode, reach out at https://violetlange.com/contact

121 Dating with Pleasure: When is the Right Time to Date?

Fri, 18 Feb 2022 09:07:00 +0000

In this episode of my Dating with Pleasure series, I share about the joy of aligning with the right time to date. Should you date after a divorce? When is your heart ready? what if you're sick of the apps and want to take a break? I answer all these questions and more so listen now.

120 Dating with Pleasure: How to Enjoy the Apps

Fri, 11 Feb 2022 09:25:00 +0000

This series of episodes is all about dating with pleasure -- bringing the joy, fun, and romance back to our opening to love. One of the biggest complaints I hear is about dating apps, yet, over 50 million people use them. Tune in to hear how to make this process fruitful and fulfilling!

119 Organic Sexuality with Rahi Chun

Sat, 05 Feb 2022 09:00:00 +0000

Reclaiming and embodying our sexual wholeness is a gift to ourselves, our partners, and the world. Listen as Rahi Chun, host of the Organic Sexuality podcast, shares his wisdom as a practitioner and healer.

118 The Ritual of Adornment with Artist Caren Chroma

Thu, 03 Feb 2022 21:58:34 +0000

What is life without beauty and ritual? Listen in as my special guest Caren Chroma and I talk about adornment as soul empowerment, and how body-painting helps us to celebrate our ever-changing identities.

IG: @carenchroma

https://www.carenchroma.com/

117 Meet the Goddess Within with Dr. Giavanni Washington

Thu, 15 Jul 2021 07:32:00 +0000

My special guest Dr. Giavanni Washington shares about her powerful oracle card deck The Black Goddess Within, her program for ancestral restoration and racial healing Meet the Goddess Within, and we talk about why it’s so important to revere, honor, and see the black body in all it’s divinity and beauty. IG @blackgoddesswithin and https://go.blackgoddesswithin.com/bgw-deck