SUMMARY

Not every version of you makes it to where you are today — and that’s what this episode is about. In this reflective conversation, Gissell and Charleston explore the quiet moments where doubt creeps in, progress feels invisible, and giving up feels easier than continuing. They open up about the frustration of not seeing immediate results, the importance of recognizing small wins, and the reality that growth isn’t always loud or dramatic — sometimes it’s simply choosing to try again. This episode is a reminder that the moments where you almost gave up are often the ones that built your strength. Because resilience isn’t formed in comfort — it’s built in the decision to keep going.

KEY QUESTIONS

• Have you ever been close to giving up on something that truly mattered to you? 

• What made you keep going when things felt like they weren’t working? 

• Are you overlooking small wins because you expected bigger results? 

• Is taking a pause part of growth, or are you calling it quitting too soon? 

PATIO MOMENT

“Sometimes the decision to continue isn’t dramatic… it’s just waking up the next day and deciding to try again.”

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SUMMARY

Growth sounds like a positive thing — and it is — but it doesn’t always feel easy. In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston dive into the uncomfortable reality that growth doesn’t just change you… it changes how people respond to you. As your habits, mindset, and priorities shift, the people around you may not always understand the version of you you’re becoming. This conversation explores why growth can create distance, how it reveals which relationships are aligned, and why evolving sometimes comes with discomfort. Because sometimes, that discomfort isn’t a setback — it’s proof that change is happening.

KEY QUESTIONS

• Why does growth sometimes make other people uncomfortable? 

• Is change a bad thing, or just unfamiliar to others? 

• Why do relationships shift when you start evolving? 

• Are you growing for yourself or for how others perceive you? 

PATIO MOMENT

“Growth doesn’t always break relationships… sometimes it just reveals which ones were built for who you were, and which ones can grow with who you’re becoming.”

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Patio Talks Podcast | Emotional strength, burnout, being the dependable person, personal growth and relationships

Summary

Some people naturally become the dependable one — the person everyone calls when things fall apart. From the outside, strength looks admirable, but behind that role there can be quiet exhaustion. In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore what it really means to be “the strong one” in a family, workplace, or relationship. They reflect on the pressure of always holding things together and the danger of carrying everyone else’s problems without support of your own.

Key Questions

• Who supports the person everyone depends on?

• Is being the “strong one” a blessing or a burden?

• Why do people stop asking how the dependable person is really doing?

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It’s a question most of us have asked at some point — sometimes quietly, sometimes painfully, sometimes just curiously.

In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore the deeper meaning behind that question and why it appears in so many areas of life: relationships, careers, recognition, and personal milestones.

They reflect on moments of comparison, the difference between ambition and insecurity, and how the same question that can break confidence can also build clarity.

Through personal stories and honest reflection, they discuss:

• When “Why not me?” comes from ambition instead of jealousy

• How timing and redirection shape our lives

• Why comparison can hide the growth we’ve already made

• Turning doubt into motivation and reflection

Because sometimes the question isn’t asking for validation —

it’s asking for patience.

Your path, your timing, and your growth are not supposed to look like the person next to you.

And sometimes “Why not me?” becomes the beginning of the next chapter.

In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore what silence really means beyond the surface. Is it weakness? Is it fear? Or is it sometimes protection, processing, and power?

From feeling unheard in childhood to learning when to speak up in critical moments, this conversation dives into emotional maturity, self-awareness, and the internal dialogue we all carry. They unpack the difference between empowering silence and heavy silence, and how creative expression — music, writing, art — can become the voice we once struggled to use.

You’ll hear reflections on fear vs. habit, boundaries vs. shrinking, and how sometimes the loudest message comes from what isn’t said.

Because silence isn’t absence.

It’s presence.

If you’ve ever stayed quiet with too much to say… this episode is for you.

What happens when you stop reacting and start responding?

When you realize remembering someone’s actions doesn’t make you bitter — it makes you wiser?

This conversation explores:

• The difference between boundaries vs walls
• Matching energy vs emotional balance
• Protecting your peace without pushing people away
• Moving forward without resentment
• Quiet growth and intentional living
• Why clarity is lighter than bitterness

Blending real experiences, honest dialogue, and reflective questions, this episode shifts the focus from calling people out to calling yourself forward.

This isn’t about grudges.

It’s about growth.

It’s about learning to move different — not angry, just aligned.

From harsh online comments to unexpected encouragement from strangers, this conversation dives into how words, tone, and small moments of kindness can shape someone’s confidence, day, or even their life. The hosts reflect on emotional responsibility, the impact of support in parenting, and why encouragement often comes from the least expected places.

This episode is not about perfection — it’s about awareness. It’s about pausing before reacting, choosing clarity over cruelty, and remembering that every interaction leaves a mark. Through real-life stories, humor, and honest reflection, Patio Talks reminds listeners that kindness is not weakness, and respect does not mean silence.

If you’ve ever wondered why negativity spreads faster than positivity, or how small supportive gestures can change someone’s path, this episode offers a grounded, relatable perspective on empathy, communication, and personal growth.

In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore a simple but powerful question: how do we show up better as humans to other humans?

From harsh online comments to unexpected encouragement from strangers, this conversation dives into how words, tone, and small moments of kindness can shape someone’s confidence, day, or even their life. The hosts reflect on emotional responsibility, the impact of support in parenting, and why encouragement often comes from the least expected places.

This episode is not about perfection — it’s about awareness. It’s about pausing before reacting, choosing clarity over cruelty, and remembering that every interaction leaves a mark. Through real-life stories, humor, and honest reflection, Patio Talks reminds listeners that kindness is not weakness, and respect does not mean silence.

If you’ve ever wondered why negativity spreads faster than positivity, or how small supportive gestures can change someone’s path, this episode offers a grounded, relatable perspective on empathy, communication, and personal growth.

Key themes:

kindness • emotional intelligence • parenting support • online behavior • tone and communication • empathy • self-worth • personal growth • relationships • intentional living

Charleston reflects on registering his songs, the significance of seeing his work live on streaming platforms, and how maturity changed the way he approaches music. What once felt like pressure transformed into purpose, and the phrase “wasted potential” became a personal statement of correction and control rather than criticism.

This episode explores themes of self-belief, patience, creative independence, and the power of continuing forward even when recognition isn’t guaranteed. It’s an honest look at what it means to build something meaningful in real time — not for fame, but for fulfillment.

Listeners will hear a candid conversation about turning doubt into direction, choosing personal validation over external approval, and understanding that growth often arrives quietly before it becomes visible.

In this episode, Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs reflect on closing out Season 1 and stepping into a new chapter — not by starting over, but by continuing forward with clarity. They talk openly about how life, family, and real responsibilities shaped the transition into Season 2, and why growth now feels quieter, more intentional, and more grounded.

This conversation explores what it looks like to build together as a couple with different backgrounds, perspectives, and personalities — without chasing perfection or pretending disagreements don’t exist. Gissell and Charleston discuss alignment versus agreement, learning each other’s stress language, protecting their foundation, and choosing intention over reaction.

Rather than rehashing trauma, this episode focuses on refinement, direction, and shared purpose. It’s about living life while growing, redefining peace and strength, and allowing listeners to witness growth in real time — not after the fact.

If you’re navigating a season where you’re no longer surviving but still becoming, this episode is an invitation to move forward with clarity, patience, and intention.

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In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs reflect on the quiet, often uncomfortable space between who you were and who you’re becoming. When life doesn’t wrap itself up neatly, when expectations fall short, and when growth feels unfinished, this conversation offers language for what many are silently carrying.

Together, they explore:

• Why peace isn’t always gentle — and how it can be mistaken for survival
• The difference between managing life and leading it
• Letting go of responsibility for everything and everyone
• How discernment, rest, and thoughtful responses redefine strength
• Why transition isn’t failure — it’s unfolding

Through honest dialogue, personal reflection, and grounded insight, this episode speaks to anyone entering a new season without closure, clarity, or applause — but with intention.

If you’ve felt behind, in-between, or quietly disappointed by where you are, this episode reminds you:

You’re not broken. You’re transitioning.

Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs discuss how silence, guilt, and over-responsibility often come from survival—not truth. Gissell shares how finding her voice changed her relationship with herself, while Charleston reflects on letting go of the belief that strength means carrying everything alone.

They describe this season of growth as a middle space—where you haven’t fully arrived, but you’ve clearly outgrown who you were. A space that feels heavy, uncertain, and necessary.

This episode reassures listeners that feeling “in between” isn’t being lost—it’s becoming. Growth doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means something is aligning.

Together, they unpack how these unseen weights shape relationships, identity, and emotional resilience. They challenge listeners to name the heaviness they’ve normalized, to stop suffering quietly, and to reclaim the freedom found in vulnerability, honesty, and support.

This episode is a reminder: you don’t have to carry it alone.

They dive into the silence many adult children carry, the generational patterns that need breaking, and the guilt that comes with choosing peace over proximity.

If you’ve ever felt alone in setting boundaries with your parents, questioned if biology guarantees belonging, or wondered whether healing means distance — this one’s for you.

Because choosing yourself shouldn’t feel like betrayal. It should feel like coming home to peace.

Topics include:

• Family boundaries and emotional safety

• Generational trauma and guilt

• Healing without permission

• Rebuilding peace after dysfunction

• Choosing your own seat at the table

Together, they explore the intersection of grief and grace, how healing doesn’t always look like a highlight reel, and why saying “thank you” through tears is still powerful. They validate the messy middle, remind listeners that not feeling festive doesn’t mean you’re broken, and hold space for anyone slowly finding their way back to joy.

This episode is a warm embrace for anyone navigating a season that looks different than it used to. Whether you’re rebuilding, grieving, or just trying to find meaning again — your gratitude still counts. And from their patio to yours, Gissell and Charleston wish you a healing holiday.

In this episode, Gissell and Charleston unpack the emotional toll of pretending to be okay. They explore how a simple smile can hide exhaustion, pain, and deep loneliness — especially for those who’ve learned to perform strength just to survive.

From performative resilience to people-pleasing, they speak honestly about the cost of holding it all together and what it really means to check in with yourself and others.

Together, they explore:

• How childhood messaging impacts dream-building

• The moment Gissell walked away from an internship that didn’t align with her purpose

• Charleston’s journey of trying to be “realistic” while silencing what made him feel alive

• How parents and environments shape what we believe we’re allowed to pursue

• The difference between gratitude and settling

• What it means to unlearn fear and dream without guilt

This conversation is for anyone stuck in a cycle of “being grateful but still unfulfilled.” It’s your invitation to give yourself permission to want more, to believe bigger, and to go after the life that calls to your soul—not the one you were simply handed.

This conversation dives deep into self-realization, motivation, and personal growth, reminding listeners that dreams don’t die when delayed; they evolve. Whether you’re rebuilding your confidence, reigniting your creativity, or simply learning to trust the timing, this episode will help you recalibrate without quitting.

If you're seeking emotional wellness, trauma recovery, or community through authentic conversation, this episode offers gentle encouragement and reflection. Keywords: healing journey, emotional wellness, BIPOC podcast, trauma healing, storytelling, generational patterns.

In the conversation, Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs discuss the concept of "shutting down," which they clarify is not a sign of being cold, distant, or detached, but rather a response to emotional overwhelm. They emphasize that it's not a symptom of weakness or laziness, but a mechanism the body uses to prevent a breakdown. The speakers suggest that when one experiences a loss of words and a need for silence, it's a human response, not a sign of being broken or dramatic. They plan to delve deeper into the "freeze response," the "quiet crash," and the "silent no more," exploring what it means to shut down and how to recover from it.

Transcript

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Outline

Understanding the Concept of Shutting Down

• Gissell Colon introduces the topic by asking if anyone has ever experienced shutting down, emphasizing that it doesn't involve anger or yelling, but rather a state of quietness and no communication.

• Charleston Tubbs clarifies that people often misinterpret shutting down as being cold, distant, or detached, but it can also be a sign of the brain needing a moment to process overwhelming emotions.

• Gissell Colon elaborates that shutting down is not about weakness or laziness but about the body's emotional capacity and its need to prevent a breakdown by taking a step back.

• Charleston Tubbs adds that when words fail and silence becomes more necessary than solutions, it indicates a human response, not a sign of being broken or dramatic.

Exploring the Freeze Response

• Gissell Colon announces the main topic of the discussion: the freeze response, the quiet crash, and the silent no more, focusing on what happens when people shut down and how to recover from it.

• The conversation aims to delve into the reasons behind shutting down, the physical and emotional signs, and strategies to come back from this state.

• Gissell Colon emphasizes the importance of understanding the freeze response as a survival mechanism rather than a personal failure.

• The discussion promises to provide practical advice and insights into managing the emotional and psychological impact of shutting down.

Johnson discussed the emotional challenges, such as compartmentalizing work stress. He highlighted the brotherhood among firefighters and the community's love and support. Johnson also touched on the misconceptions about firefighters and his interest in stand-up comedy.

They highlight the debate over the holiday's origin, with Peter J. McGuire and Matthew McGuire as key figures. The conversation touches on the historical context, including the Pullman Strike of 1894, and the shift from May Day to September to avoid radical associations. They stress the importance of recognizing essential workers who still labor during the holiday and the need for continued advocacy to preserve labor rights.

They argue that softness is often misunderstood as weakness but is essential for authenticity and well-being. Both stress the importance of being true to oneself and not conforming to societal expectations, advocating for self-care and genuine emotional expression.

Ultimately, they agree that evolution involves discarding what no longer serves one's spirit, embracing growth, and finding ways to continue living meaningfully.

Ever catch yourself nose-deep in your phone… and your nostrils? Yeah. This one’s for the distracted, the overstimulated, and the lowkey nose-pickers of the world.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why we do the weird things we do when we think no one’s watching from scrolling in a daze to going elbow-deep mid-scroll.

It’s funny, it’s awkward, it’s a little too real.
Come laugh with us. Or cringe. We won’t judge. Just bring tissues.

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Ultimately, they emphasize that love is a personal experience and that commitment should be based on mutual goals and genuine effort.

We all want to get it right. But when “perfect” becomes the standard, it can steal our peace. In this episode, Gissell and Charleston unpacks the highs, the harm, and the hidden weight of perfectionism and what it really takes to let go. A must-listen if you’ve ever felt like you’re never enough, no matter how hard you try.