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153. What no-one admits about self-love

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 09:00:00 +0000

Discover four key elements that will reshape your self-image and strengthen your relationship with yourself. Tune in for practical inner work insights to help you build a more fulfilling and loving life.

Show Notes

1:24 How I’ve *really* been doing

2:18 Why I love Valentine’s Day

3:24 Self-love and what it means

4:01 The categories of self-love

5:27 Navigating the pressure/anxiety around not being in a relationship

6:47 Putting yourself first regardless of your relationship status

7:27 Three things that make up self-love

8:36 How to build your inherit self-worth

10:15 Try to see the nuance in things

12:58 Self-esteem as a crucial component in building confidence

15:00 If you’re swayed by other people’s opinions, you’’ never feel a true sense of self

15:22 Let’s talk about self-discipline

17:18 Redefining self-discipline

18:11 Realizing you deserve more and acting accordingly

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152. Being selfish is self-care

Thu, 25 Jan 2024 12:10:00 +0000

It's time we redefine selfishness, break free from old people-pleasing habits, and unapologetically prioritize our needs. It's easy to let life slip by without realizing how much we bend over for others' expectations, responsibilities, or demands that don't contribute to our well-being or personal growth.

We'll explore the consequences of sacrificing our needs for others and dive into the transformative journey of declaring our 'selfish era.' Tune in for practical insights on shifting your mindset and embracing an authentic, unapologetic way of living.

Show Notes

1:37 Managing the emotions that come with the end of a long-term relationship

2:23 Entering your selfish era and prioritizing your needs

3:07 Importance of investing in yourself

4:04 Ways to be intentional with your time and energy

5:20 Developing a hobby/identity to create a sense of self outside your relationship

6:59 Ask yourself, are you doing things for yourself or to appease someone else?

7:38 What do you want your life to look like?

8:44 The drawbacks of giving too much

11:43 Relinquishing control over certain outcomes

12:51 Utilizing calming affirmations to remain levelheaded

13:56 What does being selfish mean to you?

15:59 Knowing when to walk away

16:37 Self-esteem vs self-worth

17:55 Stop seeking validation from others

18:49 Stop taking responsibility to make everyone help

19:27 Self-care isn’t selfish, but being selfish is self-care

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151. How to deal with people who try to make you feel small

Thu, 18 Jan 2024 10:00:00 +0000

Join me for a raw and candid conversation as I unpack recent insults, dealing with haters in real life, and strategies for facing those who try to make you feel small.

We're unraveling the layers of people-pleasing, and why it's crucial to protect your energy in a world full of energy vultures.

Show Notes

2:00 You can’t be everything and still be liked

3:11 Protecting your energy as an ambitious person

4:31 Avoiding relationships with insecure people

5:32 Using accolades to remedy insecurities

7:00 Feeling as though you have something to prove

8:48 Understanding your subconscious lack of boundaries

10:12 Discerning between people pleasing and genuine interest

12:19 Chasing perfection never yields happiness

13:22 Feel the pain that comes with someone neglecting your success, but don’t let it define you

15:20 “If you don’t like me that’s fine…”

16:22 It’s only embarrassing if you’re embarrassed

17:24 Having the courage to be yourself

19:22 On being Nice and Pretty

20:31 Nice girls don’t win

21:34 It’s important to be discerning with who you trust/share information with

23:11 No one can make you feel inferior without your consent

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Westman Atelier Vital Skin Foundation Stick

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150. My ins and outs for 2024 (habits, mindsets and self care)

Thu, 11 Jan 2024 11:35:08 +0000

Let's catch up! Tune in for some recent life updates, reflections on my dating life, and my ins and outs of 2024. I'll be sharing insights on mindsets, habits, self-care, and what I will absolutely NOT be tolerating this year. Join me for a breakdown of what's been happening and what's on the horizon!

Show Notes

2:42 Life update!

6:36 Burnout prevention

8:01 What classes am I taking!

9:29 Going with the flow

10:48 Dating again after a long-term relationship breakup – learning to be intentional

13:37 Setting personal standards and sticking to them

14:08 New Year’s resolutions – planning for a year of fun and achievement

15:24 Stopping to reflect on how far I’ve come

18:32 Enjoy the fruits of your labor!

19:09 Ins and Outs of 2024

19:22 Outs!

19:29 Sleeping with your phone

20:26 Favoring aesthetics in lieu of genuine connection

21:29 Dating content from people who’ve never been in relationships

22:48 Believing that your dreams are too big

24:24 Neglecting to get pedicures

25:53 Ins!

25:26 Hard gel manicures

26:30 Pampering yourself

27:17 Baths for stress relief

27:42 Supplements and increased water intake

28:24 Investing in bodycare

29:24 Being unapologetic!

Products mentioned:

Naturium Glycolic Acid Exfoliating Body Wash

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149. The 411 on getting off birth control and healthy habits to balance hormone health

Thu, 04 Jan 2024 10:00:00 +0000

Today, we're diving into my journey getting off birth control and the lifestyle changes I've made to balance my hormones. I'll walk you through how I prepared my body to remove hormonal birth control, discuss the side effects I noticed, and share my research on the impact of birth control on our bodies. Additionally, I share what I'm doing now to balance my hormones, my list of favorite supplements, and other non-negotiable habits that have transformed my health.

Note: around minute 16:00 when I mention excess progesterone, I meant to say excess estrogen.

Resources mentioned:

Women Code by Alisa Vitti

Moody Bitches by by Julie Holland

Aura Ring

Beam Dream (supplement for sleep)

Binto Supplements

Arrae Bloat Pills

Nutrafol (for hair growth)

Elix (healing elixirs)

Alive App (workouts)

Peloton App (workouts)

Flo app (cycle tracking)

Simple Modern 40oz Cup

Study: High cholesterol in women because of skipping breakfast

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148. My 2023 favorites: skincare, makeup, home, fashion and more

Thu, 28 Dec 2023 10:00:00 +0000

This one's for all the material girls out there! In this episode, Alexis shares her 2023 favorites. Discover the secrets behind Alexis's glowing skin, must-have makeup essentials, luxurious home picks, fashion picks, and even book recs!

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MAKEUP

REFY BROW GEL: https://howl.me/cli2ELNZUu7
REFY LIP IN FAWN: https://howl.me/cli2EMpvKXc
AMI COLE LIP OIL: https://howl.me/cli2ELouUFp
DIOR ROSEWOOD BLUSH: https://howl.me/cli2ELBhcM5

SKIN

PEACH AND LILLY GLASS SKIN: https://howl.me/cli2ELhWFXH
SUMMER FRIDAYS MOISTURIZER: https://howl.me/cli2EL6YhZI
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BODY & FRAGRANCE

OUAI ST BARTHS SCENTS: https://howl.me/cli2hTY0d0Z& https://howl.me/cli2EMN8BxY
YSL BLACK OPIUM: https://howl.me/cli2ELKYNHX
11:11 BODY OIL: https://howl.me/cli2EMqB5lg
SOL DE JANIERO NIGHT ONE

HAIR

OUAI DETOX SHAMPOO: https://howl.me/cli2EM3BIaF
REV AIR: https://myrevair.com/products/q4tp2023
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CURLING IRON
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HAIR STICK
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HOME

11 11 DIFFUSERS
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NESPRESSO MACHINE
https://www.nespresso.com/us/en/vertuo-coffee-machines
DYSON FAN
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OUAI X DEDCOOL LAUNDRY DETERGENT
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LULULEMON ALIGN MINI FLARES
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MONDAY SWIMWEAR SWIMSUITS
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AGOLDE LOW RISE JEANS
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HOUSE OF CB DRESSES
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ACCESSORIES

VIVRELLE: vivrelle.com
MY BLUE LIGHT GLASSES; https://amzn.to/3NJow7h
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BOOKS

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU: https://amzn.to/3tqq1At
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TRAVEL

AWAY SUITCASES : https://howl.me/cli2ENiiJlx
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STONEY CLOVER POUCHES: https://www.stoneycloverlane.com/

OTHER / TECH

SUPERHUMAN APP
PINTEREST
TRIPOD: https://amzn.to/3NIHPgR
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MY DJI POCKET 2: https://amzn.to/3TJgnU6

TV SHOWS:

Real Housewives
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The Bear

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147. How to reinvent yourself in 2024

Thu, 21 Dec 2023 10:00:00 +0000

In this week's Too Smart For This, Alexis shares her goal-setting tips for the new year! Chock full of insight, practical tips, and inspiration, this solo episode is a must for empowering you on your journey toward a fulfilling and purpose-driven future. Tune in to discover the keys to unlocking your potential and making 2024 the year you turn your aspirations into reality!

Show Notes

3:27 How to set goals and create a vision board!

5:05 You can’t control time, but you can change your relationship with the clock

6:07 The subtle power of changing your identity

7:47 Rewriting your narrative and crafting your identity

9:57 Transforming resilience into suffering

11:30 Using goal visualization to get what you want

13:35 Categories for creating a personal brand/identity

16:30 Use/focus on what you don’t want

17:09 Understanding your capacity and capabilities

19:44 Reviewing and evaluating your calendar performance

21:15 Create capacity buckets!

25:21 Goals: feelings vs accomplishments

29:21 Capacity and intent in identity development

29:55 Building accountability structures for yourself

31:26 Aim for the maximum!

33:09 Utilizing the structures that exist around you

33:50 The benefits of morning meditation(s)

35:02 Develop a framework for responding to negative situations

35:13 Move, regulate, vent

36:48 Build a self-care buffer zone

38:48 Making vision boards for the 5 areas of your life

Resources/Mentioned

Nespresso Vertuo – use code 20Alexis!

Atomic Habits by James Clear

Superhuman App

Google Calendar hacks video

Management Leadership for Tomorrow

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146. Wharton AMA: cliques, finances, academics, parties

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 17:00:00 +0000

Welcome back to Too Smart For This episode 146! In this episode, Alexis shares details of her first semester experience in the Wharton MBA program. She covers everything you want to know - from finances and academics to social life.

If you're considering applying for an MBA, especially at a top program like Wharton, this episode is essential listening. Alexis tells all about the realities of B-school and life on campus as a first year MBA student.

Show Notes

1:20 Wharton Q&A!

2:29 Overview of business school

8:04 Utilizing the deferred enrollment program

9:21 Breaking down the b-school landscape

11:23 Let’s talk academics

17:08 Social dynamics of an MBA program

20:20 Navigating the social scene

25:57 Budgeting for social travel/events

32:36 Scholarships

33:47 First semester summary

Resources/Mentioned

The Consortium

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145. Lessons from 24, goals for 25

Thu, 07 Dec 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Welcome to a special milestone episode of Too Smart For This! Today, Alexis is celebrating her 25th birthday, and she's taking a moment to reflect on the valuable lessons she's learned in the past year. Join her as she shares personal insights, growth moments, and the wisdom gained on her journey so far. It's a candid episode filled with reflections, gratitude, and the anticipation of what lies ahead. Let's celebrate and learn together on this birthday edition of Too Smart For This!

Quick Notes

1:20 Recapping 24

2:15 Thank you!

2:30 Life lessons from 24 years

2:41 Putting yourself first without feeling guilty

5:45 The myth of the balanced life

7:04 Embracing the unexpected

8:11 No one is coming to save you

11:05 Viewing failure as a good thing

13;43 How to own your shit and stop blaming others

16:57 Figuring out what’s most important to you

18:43 Trust YOUR timing

22:07 Goals for 25!

22:48 #1 Have fun and enjoy life

23:06 #2 Become a version of you your younger self would look up to

23:31 #3 Show up for yourself

25:50 #4 Invest in personal care

27:20 #5 Don't allow yourself to dream small

NARS Radiant Creamy Concealer

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144. breaking free from boy stress, desperately trying to stay sane in the chaos, avoiding self-sabotage

Thu, 30 Nov 2023 17:10:00 +0000

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In this episode of Too Smart For This, join Alexis as she candidly shares some takeaways from what have been chaotic times, to say the least. She talks about prioritizing yourself again, how she came to the decision that she doesn't want to be actively dating and is ok with being single and walking through the uncomfortable changes that she’s going through.

Show Notes

1:46 Whirlwind first semester of Wharton

2:30 Life update!

6:47 Decentering men

8:50 You are in charge of your own happiness

9:36 Believing that you can accomplish great things

11:26 Cultivating patience in an immediate gratification world

14:09 Everything is happening for your highest good … you will be okay

14:45 Discomfort as a catalyst for growth

15:57 The power of being present

18:18 Realizing when you’re engaging in self-sabotaging behavior

Resources/Mentioned

Rhode Glazing Milk

e.l.f. Power Grip Primer

Fenty Beauty Match Stix

The Mountain is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage into Self-Mastery

Ami Cole Lip Treatment Oil

The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power by Katherine Morgan Schafler

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143. Tangbile Tips I Used to Glow Up This Year

Sun, 26 Nov 2023 14:45:00 +0000

Welcome back to Too Smart For This! This week, Alexis is sharing the tangible tips she used to #glowup this year! Make sure to rate the show 5 Stars and share on Instagram @toocollective

Don't forget that Too Collective is having our BIGGEST SALE OF THE YEAR: 25% off all robes! Get them before we sell out!

Show Notes

2:20 How to transform your life

4:23 TooCollective Black Friday sale!

5:13 10 tools I’ve used to glow up over the past year

5:57 #1 Dreaming + being honest with yourself

8:45 #2 Everything is happening for your highest good

11:34 #3 Importance of discomfort for personal growth

13:01 #4 Check in with yourself and your priorities!

14:49 #5 Minimizing digital interaction

18:52 #6 Maximizing calendar productivity

19:37 #7 Build routines that enable you to become your best self

21:23 #8 Habit stacking and its importance

24:01 #9 You need to live life!

27:26 #10 Be present!

Resources/Mentioned

Superhuman App

Binto Supplements

You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

Conscious Luck: Eight Secrets to Intentionally Change Your Fortune by Gay Hendricks and Carol Kline

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142. q&a: wharton finances, transitioning to single life, should you go to grad school?

Thu, 16 Nov 2023 15:45:00 +0000

Welcome back to Too Smart For This! This week, Alexis is answering all of your questions on everything from Wharton to her new single life. Enjoy and make sure to follow her on Instagram for more!

Show Notes

4:11 Instagram Q&A!

4:59 How do you know if you’re ready for Grad School?

6:10 Creating an intentional career plan

8:26 How old is the average MBA student?

11:01 What is the overall Wharton experience ;ole?

13:42 Knowing when to ask for help

16:02 What am I learning at Wharton?

22:11 Prepare your finances for Grad School!

22:45 Navigating life post-break-up

24:26 Dealing with your guilt so it doesn’t drag you down

26:38 Do you like him? Or the attention?

28:14 Dating vs relationship

30:53 Solitude as a testament to self-love

32:42 Shop the TooCollective robes!

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141. Mented Cosmetics Founder KJ Miller Shares the Realities of Entrepreneurship, Pivots, and Her Take on The Beauty Industry Today

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 14:06:37 +0000

Welcome back to the Too Smart for This podcast! In today’s episode, Alexis is joined by KJ Miller, the dynamic force and co-founder behind Mented Cosmetics. KJ's journey is one of inspiration, innovation, and sheer determination as she has played a pivotal role in revolutionizing the beauty industry. In this exclusive interview, KJ will take us through her remarkable journey, sharing the behind-the-scenes process and experiences that led to the creation of Mented Cosmetics. If you’re passionate about entrepreneurship, inclusivity, and the world of cosmetics, this is an episode you won’t want to miss!

Show Notes

5:06 Rapid fire questions!

11:08 Nurturing intimacy in your romantic relationships

14:26 Debunking the over-glamorized narrative of entrepreneurship

16:26 The history of Mented Cosmetics

21:14 Embracing the bumps along the road of entrepreneurship

24:06 How do you decide when to scale back?

25:53 Navigating burn-out

27:18 KJ’s week in the life

28:11 Foregoing the grindset

30:23 Molding your fundraising process to fit the demands of the time

34:12 The undeniable purpose of a business plan

35:34 Learning and growing from initial feedback

38:47 How to build a positive community around your product

40:26 Navigating between direct-to-consumer and wholesale

43:14 The importance of capital in the early stages of a business

44:31 Resources that enabled Mented Cosmetics to thrive

45:52 The necessity of building a founder network

47:40 KJ’s favorite founders/mentors

48:52 Juggling your personal brand with entrepreneurship

50:57 Learning from failure as the key to success

52:06 Taking constructive from feedback and growing from it

54:00 Importance of approaching every experience from a place of learning

55:13 The decision to start ‘Not Another Business Podcast’

57:49 Gatekeeping in the business-sphere

58:29 Why Harvard Business School?

1:00:59 Lessons learned from business school

1:03:05 Traits of a successful entrepreneur

1:07:05 Brands to watch!

1:09:43 Entrepreneur resources for starting a successful brand

Resources/Mentioned

Parfait Wigs

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@kjmiller on Instagram

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Mented Cosmetics

Rhode Vanilla Peptide Lip Treatment

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140. From Burnout to Forging Her Own Path with Carly Cardellino, former Cosmopolitan Beauty Director

Thu, 26 Oct 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Hi, babes! Welcome back to the Too Smart for This podcast! In this week’s episode, Alexis is joined by former Cosmopolitan beauty editor Carly Cardellino, who shares her insights on establishing a thriving career and her bold decision to forge her own path in content creation. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that’s sure to ignite your passion for beauty and entrepreneurship!

Show Notes

1:29 Rapid fire questions!

6:04 Importance of prioritizing authenticity

9:24 Keys to embracing aging

12:19 Refuse to be discouraged

13:00 Pivoting from Cosmopolitan

15:24 Day in the life of a beauty editor

18:06 Going above and beyond

18:28 Navigating burnout

19:41 Knowing when to walk away

21:04 Confidence is a conscious decision

22:33 How to stop limiting/putting parameters on yourself

23:31 Building your confidence in a new city/environment

24:59 Avoid passion burnout

28:26 Being consistent with your content even in the midst of changing algorithms

30:10 Carly’s favorites for vintage clothes and furniture

31:05 Gaining confidence in yourself and your style

35:43 Book recommendation

36:48 Fall in love with the process!

Keep up with Carly!

@carlycardellino on Instagram

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Resources/Mentioned

Rhode Peptide Glazing Fluid

Rishi English Breakfast Tea

The Antique Warehouse

The Knack Shoppe

Silver Linings Consignment

Housing Works

Chop Wood Carry Water: How to Fall in Love with the Process of Becoming Great by Joshua Medcalf

The Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo

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139. In My Selfish Era: How to Put Yourself First [& A Life Update]

Thu, 28 Sep 2023 12:55:00 +0000

In this episode of Too Smart For This, Alexis takes the listeners on a candid journey through the challenging months that prompted her to prioritize self-care and make some necessary, selfish decisions. Don't miss this inspiring episode as she discusses the power of choosing oneself and the personal growth that can arise from even the toughest of times.

Show Notes

1:00 Embracing adversity and finding the courage to choose yourself

1:47 Setting boundaries and prioritizing yourself/your needs

2:17 Reflecting on the past few months

3:33 You are capable of change

5:05 Spending time with yourself to visualize your future

5:47 Being unapologetic in your personal decisions to create success on your own terms

7:33 Nothing is permanent. Not even your problems.

8:03 Importance of putting yourself first in your relationships

11:16 Using data in the decision-making process over emotions

13:31 Stop arguing for your limitations

14:19 No one can hurt you unless you allow it

15:53 Knowing that you are capable of learning and accomplishing new things

19:16 Sometimes, letting go means loving yourself more than you love them

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138. What All The Hot Girls Are Doing To Glow Up Ft. 4AM Skin Founder, Jade Beguelin

Wed, 20 Sep 2023 14:52:01 +0000

This week on the Too Smart For This podcast, we welcome Jade Beguelin, a content creator and businesswoman whose journey through entrepreneurship and personal growth has been nothing short of aspirational/inspiring. The two dive into Jade’s story, sharing invaluable insights into the world of business, and information bound to ignite your passion and help you chart your own path to success!

Show Notes

1:13 Rapid fire questions

9:38 Learn about Jade!

13:41 Souls searching process to find your life’s purpose

15:05 4am Skin beginnings

17:24 How to spot a gap in the market

19:24 Gaining initial traction for your brand

21:22 Signs it might be time for a career pivot

22:23 The product launch process

27:20 Biggest challenge(s) for new business owners

29:40 Framing “No’s” as a blessing in disguise

34:20 Pivoting from private social media to creating content

36:37 Steps for glowing up!

38:44 #1 Finding confidence without comparison

38:27 #2 Creating healthy habits for yourself

40:04 Adapting to a society that rewards extroverts

43:48 Complimenting strangers will change your life

44:48 Tackling organizing and prioritizing habits for success

46:30 Hot girl maintenance things

47:17 Nails!

47:47 The Real Real – encouraging more intentional buying

49:40 Apps that enhance your life

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@jadebeguelin on Instagram

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4am Skin

Resources/Mentioned

Superhuman

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137. Healthy Habits That Have Changed My Life

Thu, 14 Sep 2023 19:30:00 +0000

Busy is an understatement! As Alexis continues her journey at Wharton, she shares her tips/tricks/habits for staying mindful and maintaining composure amidst the chaos.

Show Notes

2:41 Doing your best is good enough!

3:13 Importance of making time for movement

4:32 Role of exercise in boosting self-esteem

5:17 Benefits of working out in the morning

5:28 Using the “Power Hour” approach to get things done

6:26 How to quantify things in a healthy way

6:52 How tools like Google Calendar can elevate your life

7:48 Using the Two-Minute Rule to stop procrastinating

9:18 The Closing Shift strategy!

10:44 Habit Stacking as your best friend

12:18 Journaling to heal

14:21 Benefits of walking meditations

16:57 Shop the robes!

Resources/Mentioned

Superhuman App

Nars Radiant Creamy Concealer

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136. My First Month at Wharton: Finances, Schedule, and Life Updates

Sun, 10 Sep 2023 13:00:00 +0000

Alexis is BACK with the Sunday Solo Series, and today she shares her first impressions of Wharton, balancing her hectic life, and more!

Show Notes

1:04 Smart tip of the week

1:41 Superficial tip of the week

2:51 Wharton observations!

3:03 Finding time for introspection amid chaos and uncertainty

5:20 Navigating increased expenses

9:24 Approach to socializing

9:49 My class schedule!

12:26 Poconos recap!

Resources/Mentioned

Dellara’s Diary

The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts

Kosas Revealer Concealer

Hourglass Ambient Soft Glow Foundation Brush

Joyce Meyer Devotional Books

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135. HBO Sweet Life's @AmandaSaidSo: Living Life on Your Own Terms, Financial Literacy Tips, and Managing Friendships as an Adult

Thu, 07 Sep 2023 19:00:00 +0000

From the PR world, to reality television, Inglewood-born Amanda Scott is this week’s guest on Too Smart For This! The ‘Sweet Life: Los Angeles’ star discusses everything from the realities of being in the limelight, to her self-care journey, and even money management advice for recent grads. It’s an episode you won’t want to miss!

Show Notes

2:00 Rapid fire questions

11:07 Reality TV portrayal

12:24 Developing and maintaining friendships with age

15:46 Confident people make better friends

18:24 Managing interpersonal conflict

20:52 Best part(s) of being on Sweet Llife: Los Angeles

23:14 Worst part(s) of being on Sweet Llife: Los Angeles

24:28 Recovering from being in the spotlight

25:43 Amanda’s career trajectory after college

30:24 Quitting your job to figure things out

31:34 Reprioritizing your life

33:13 Focus on yourself and be your own priority

36:03 Self-care resources

37:52 Importance of effectively communicating your needs

39:12 Homebuying process

45:19 Pertinent money management advice

45:30 #1 Max out your 401K

46:16 #2 Life insurance as an investment

47:17 #3 Have an emergency savings!

47:59 #4 Credit cards are your friend

49:25 Current aspirations

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www.amandasaidso.com

@housepartycreative on Instagram

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Resources/Mentioned

Sula by Toni Morrison

How to Be a Founder: How Entrepreneurs Can Identify, Fund and Launch Their Best Ideas by Alice Bentinck and Matt Clifford

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134. What To Do When You're Starting a New Era (In Career, Life, Or Otherwise)

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 02:05:00 +0000

In this week’s Solo Sunday, Alexis delves into her tips for beginning a new era. Tune in as she discusses her product faves, the importance of leaving your comfort zone, and more!

2:01 Smart tip of the week

4:48 Superficial tip of the week

7:18 Life update!

10:33 Setting your anchor – the power of prioritization

11:16 Making friends in a new environment

12:42 Leaving your comfort zone to experience motivation, growth

15:30 The stress of social comparison

16:12 Instagram Q&A!

17:54 Starting a new job the right way

19:02 Importance of staying grounded

20:23 Why work friends are crucial

21:51 Take advice from good leaders

Resources/Mentioned

Rhode Glazing Milk

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133. How to Manage Your Time When Life is Unpredictable

Thu, 24 Aug 2023 13:05:00 +0000

Welcome back to Too Smart for This! In this week’s episode, Alexis delves into the intricate interplay between efficient time management and the essential practice of self-care. Join her as she discusses practical strategies for maximizing productivity while ensuring your well-being remains a top priority.

Show Notes

2:03 Creating a structured but flexible daily routine

2:21 OCEAN personality test

3:36 Importance of being more conscientious

4:40 Employing measures to offset spontaneity/impulsiveness

5:44 Avoiding emotion-informed decisions

6:11 Think about how you want to impact the world

7:44 Reframing what consistency means to you

8:51 What do you value?

9:31 “Making it” should include creating space for yourself

10:13 Scheduling your days for maximum productivity

11:27 Using project management tools to tackle tasks

12:21 How to reduce decision fatigue

15:41 Importance of mandatory self-care

17:15 Translating work into impactfulness

19:35 NEW TooClassic Terry Cloth Robe!

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132. How to Handle [And Give] Criticism Better

Mon, 21 Aug 2023 12:32:57 +0000

Welcome back to another Sunday Solo episode! Alexis dives into her life updates and gives you a sneak peek into what she's learning in the Wharton Classroom.

Show Notes

1:27 Superficial tip of the week

2:12 Life update!

4:49 Making friends at Wharton

6:26 How I’ve been adjusting to Philadelphia

8:21 TooCollective GMA3 Mention!

10:15 Unlearning rote negativity and choosing to celebrate yourself

14:04 Smart tip(s) of the week

15:51 How to give negative feedback

Resources/Mentioned

Anthropologie Mugs

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131. Sixtine Rouyre on Why Your Body Isn't Everything, How to Make Your Dreams Happen While Having Fun

Thu, 17 Aug 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Welcome back to Too Smart For This! Today’s guest is the charismatic Sixtine Rouyre, a model and influencer who proudly champions body neutrality. With an SI Swimsuit Issue under her belt, the creator uses her platform to empower women, encouraging them to embrace their bodies unconditionally and regardless of their shape and size. This week, the two get candid about their respective body image journeys, and the unrealistic expectations placed on a woman’s beauty.

Show Notes

7:49 Transitioning from modeling to influencing

10:41 Being at the forefront of the Posting Age

11:49 Finding your niche as a creator

13:21 Embracing self-love and thanking your body

17:14 Divesting from the Tumblr pro-ana movement

18:57 How TikTok can fuel toxic mindsets

21:14 Combating day-to-day disordered thinking

25:36 Finding creative inspiration from/in other creators

27:41 Life in New York!

30:04 Wild dating stories

33:58 Meeting people outside of dating apps

37:12 Why you should stop expecting others to be who they aren’t

41:04 Finding the balance between modeling and content creation

41:59 It’s important to take/make time for yourself!

44:56 Londre Bodywear collaboration

47:34 What shooting Sports Illustrated was like!

49:41 Not if, but when

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@sixtine on Tiktok

@sixtinerouyre on Instagram

Resources Mentioned

House of CB

Youth to the People

Supergoop

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130. Everything You Need to Know About Getting an MBA: Wharton, Choosing Schools, Interviews, Balance, and More

Sun, 13 Aug 2023 12:05:00 +0000

In this week’s Solo Sunday, Alexis answers all your Wharton related questions! Tune in as she details the challenging yet rewarding path of pursuing an MBA while managing entrepreneurship and content creation. If you’re in need of some concise insights on harmonizing education, business, and creativity – this one’s for you!

Show Notes

0:52 Wharton Q&A

1:34 Excitement about starting an MBA program

3:07 How do I know which business school is the right fit for me?

7:40 Deciding which classes to take

10:52 Thinking about an MBA? Here’s how to plan for it.

13:28 Aceing your MBA admissions interview

15:45 Why get an MBA?

17:27 Aspects of B-School I’m most looking forward to

19:01 GRE/GMAT study plan

20:21 Balancing work, school, and social life

24:47 Shop the new Too Classic Terry Cloth Robe!

Ole Henriksen Pout Preserve Peptide Lip Treatment

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129. From Scarcity to Abundance with Queen of Confidence, Achieng Agutu - @noordinarynoire

Thu, 10 Aug 2023 10:00:00 +0000

On this week’s episode of Too Smart For This, Alexis is joined by the dynamic Achieng Agutu – a model and digital content creator who empowers her audience to embrace their most authentic selves. Tune in as the two discuss the journey of self-discovery, and curating a summer of unapologetic self-love.

2:56 Rapid fire questions!

8:40 Faking it until you BECOME it

11:49 Accepting that life has to continue

12:12 How to choose yourself. If you don’t, then who will?

14:04 No Ordinary Noir beginnings

16:05 Ignoring negative comments

18:38 Why vulnerability will change your life

20:30 How to deal with hard truths

21:50 Moving from scarcity to abundance

28:40 Just do it!

29:11 There’s a space and niche for you

30:45 Finding inspiration from others

32:45 Product recommendations!

34:24 Tips for leading a Hot Girl Summer

35:41 Practicing self-care in the day-to-day

37:56 It’s okay to take up space

Resources/Mentioned

Brandon Blackwood

Osea Undaria Algae Body Oil

Osea Plant-Based Body Brush

Marc Jacobs Perfect Eau De Parfum

Sol De Janeiro Brazilian Crush Cheirosa 62 Perfume Mist

Rule of Thirds

Everyday People

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The Queen’s Archives with Achieng Agutu

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128. What To Do When You Drop The Ball

Sun, 30 Jul 2023 16:21:19 +0000

Hii ladies! Alexis is back with another Sunday solo - mostly a life update and some inspo on how to get yourself back on track.

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127. The 4 Types of Rest: Why Partying is Good For You & How to Have a Blob Day

Thu, 27 Jul 2023 10:00:00 +0000

In this week’s solo episode, Alexis delves into the art of resting and how it holds the key to finding balance in our fast-paced lives. Join her as she explores practical strategies to embrace rest and achieve a realistic work-life harmony.

Show Notes

1:36 Importance of unplugging in a busy world

2:09 The benefits of being alone

2:33 The advantages and disadvantages of the different types of rest

4:04 Too Collective Robe Launch!

5:12 Blobbing, Connecting, Restoring, and Pampering

5:31 What is Blobbing?

6:25 Slowing down as the answer to better health

7:58 What is Connecting?

8:48 The power of human connection

9:03 What can connecting look like?

10:32 Recontextualizing connection in a globalized world

1:12 What is Restorative rest?

12:16 Choosing activities that are right for You

13:54 What is pampering?

15:01 Pampering as a necessity

16:06 Developing a work-rest balance

16:24 Avoiding the depression spiral

17:39 Finding time to be alone with yourself

19:33 Avoid chasing an unrealistic sense of vitality

21:12 When self-care does more harm than good

22:04 The hidden dangers of excessive pampering

The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power by Katherine Morgan Schafler

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126. How to Glow Up For Real This Time with Dr. Danielle Richardson, Author of "The Glow Up Journal"

Thu, 20 Jul 2023 15:04:31 +0000

In this week’s episode of Too Smart For This, Alexis is joined by Dr. Danielle Richardson, a visionary entrepreneur who fearlessly left behind a career in optometry that left her unfulfilled. Driven by her passion for empowering others and a burning desire to revolutionize the health and wellness industry, she embarked on an inspiring journey to create a platform specifically tailored for the " healthy baddies" of the world. If you’re in need of a little extra clarity or direction in your life, this episode’s for you!

Show Notes

2:07 Rapid fire questions!

5:03 The importance of learning to say “No”

8:16 What is a healthy baddie?

10:22 Recognizing and honoring your multidimensionality

14:16 Fierce Clarity beginnings

16:36 How to trust your timing

17:51 The power of journaling for mental health

18:34 Practices/tools to manage the other side of ambition

20:25 Leaving situations before misery consumes your life

22:02 Taking intentional steps for a satisfying life

22:56 Stop complaining, start creating

25:44 Meditation to boost health and well-being

26:27 How changing how you think of stress could help you be less affected by it

31:23 Overcoming “All-Or-Nothing” thinking

34:26 Glow Up Journal sneak peek

36:08 Finding your personal style

38:04 Defining your identity and reconnecting with yourself and the world

39:38 Book recommendations

41:56 Becoming a “career chameleon”

43:58 Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable

45:11 To find meaning in work, change the way you think about it

47:40 Breathe!

48:33 Seeing the value of bumps in the road

50:01 Stop comparing your life, start living it

Resources/Mentioned

Living in the Light: A Guide To Personal And Planetary Transformation by Shakti Gawain

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Pocket Guide to Fulfilling Your Dreams by Deepak Chopra

Beyonce: Year of Four

Homecoming: A Film by Beyoncé

Oprah Winfrey on Career, Life, and Leadership

Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead by Nell Scovell and Sheryl Sandberg

Keep up with Danielle!

The Glow Up Journal: Everything You Need to Set Goals, Create Inspo―and Make It Happen!

Fierce Clarity

Fierce Clarity Instagram

Fierce Clarity TikTok

Dr. Danielle Richardson O.D. Instagram

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125. How to Deal with Bad Mental Health Days [Sunday Solo]

Sun, 16 Jul 2023 15:43:44 +0000

Hi friends! Alexis is back with a classic Sunday solo. She shares moving updates, her current favorites, and more!

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124. It's Never Gonna Be Balanced: How to Embrace Flexibility When You're Ambitious

Thu, 13 Jul 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Life is a journey filled with countless possibilities and opportunities. And while it’s natural to dream big and aspire to achieve great things, it's equally important to maintain a realistic perspective. Placing unrealistic expectations on ourselves can lead to disappointment, stress, and a loss of motivation. In this week’s episode of Too Smart For This, Alexis explores the importance of setting attainable goals, embracing flexibility, and practicing self-compassion. By understanding and avoiding unrealistic expectations, you can cultivate a healthier mindset, find joy in the present moment, and pave the way for a more fulfilling, balanced life.

Show Notes

1:13 How to relinquish unrealistic standards

1:59 Negative self-evaluation resulting from unrealistic goals

3:19 Finding stability in the midst of chaos

4:03 Making peace with imbalance

4:53 Detaching from routines to relinquish pressure on yourself

5:35 Importance of creating structures in which self-love thrives

5:49 Developing new frameworks for thinking

6:22 #1 Set a goal

6:29 #2 Establish your priorities

6:48 #3 Reframe what consistency means to you

6:52 #4 Set personal policies (i.e. boundaries)

7:11 The ultimate goal-setting process

8:35 Prioritize! Prioritize! Prioritize!

11:41 Importance of writing out your priorities and categorizing them within the context(s) of your goals

16:04 Reframing what consistency means to you

17:31 How to stop the self-sabotage cycle

18:53 Simple ways to check in with yourself

19:35 Utilizing habit stacking

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123. How to Start Journaling, How I'm Paying for Wharton, and Martha's Vineyard Recap

Sun, 09 Jul 2023 13:05:00 +0000

Good morning friends and welcome to another Sunday Solo episode! Alexis is back to chat all things journaling, Wharton, and her recent trip to Martha's Vineyard.

Smart Tip of the Week: Notebook & Pen for Journaling

Superficial Tip of the Week: Amazon Prime Day! Check out Alexis's Storefront

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122. How to Invest in Your Mind, Body, Soul, and Career; Soft Life Living, and Glow Up Tips with Jodie Taylor

Thu, 06 Jul 2023 10:00:00 +0000

A fellow Northwestern University alum, Jodie Taylor has dedicated her career towards championing and supporting diverse entrepreneurship in and beyond the tech sector. And with her foray into TikTok, she’s using her newest platform to create a space/community for women to navigate their individual journeys. On today’s episode of Too Smart For This, join Alexis and Jodie as they engage in a candid conversation about womanhood, career, and all the challenges in between.

Show Notes

2:24 Rapid fire questions

6:12 The role of curiosity in developing a rich, fulfilling life

8:04 Finding more joy in Womanhood

14:46 Analyzing your career from a brand viewpoint

16:00 Importance of developing transferable/tactical skills to aid in switching career paths

18:02 When is it time to leave a job?

18:00 1) Diminishing returns

18:57 2) Check in with yourself – how is your mental well-being?

19:19 3) No longer feeling challenged

22:16 Living life with a sense of urgency

23:24 Importance of fellowship in hard times

25:56 You don’t have to have it all figured it out

26:50 Pour your energy into you

27:06 WEAR! SUNSCREEN!

27:56 Utilizing your early twenties as a medium/vehicle for self-exploration + growth

30:25 Relinquishing the idea that relationships are the apex of your life

34:24 Creating space for vulnerability in relationships

36:05 The importance of naming your emotions

38:03 Ask for your needs to be met

41:52 Manifesting anything you desire

43:14 Standing firm and steadfast in what you seek in life

44:46 Plastic surgery in the modern world

47:06 Procedure recommendations

48:59 Skincare recommendations

53:39 How to: build your confidence and brand

55:05 Think about your brand ethos from an outsider persecptive

55:21 Take inspired action

55:45 Creating a brand profile from a social standpoint

56:05 Your social media presence will precede you

57:52 Creating proof points for yourself to validate your self schema

Resources/Mentioned

Paula’s Choice BHA Liquid Exfoliant: https://rb.gy/okw7m

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121. How To Deal with Rejection & Survive Post-Grad [Sunday Solo Ep. 4]

Sun, 02 Jul 2023 13:20:44 +0000

Hey ladies! Alexis is back with another Sunday Solo Ep recapping her trip to Tulum, what she learned about making new friends, and her current faves. Then, she answers a listener question about dealing with rejection and surviving and thriving post-grad.

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120. Why I've Been Acting Brand New: Mid-Year Check In, Favorites, & Health Updates

Thu, 29 Jun 2023 10:00:00 +0000

With June coming to a close, it’s time to engage in self-reflection – contemplating the lessons and experiences that have shaped the first half of 2023. For Alexis, these past few months have been filled with moments of growth, challenges, and surprising discoveries, all of which have left an indelible mark on her journey. In this week’s solo episode of Too Smart For This, she dives into what she’s leaving behind in H1 of 2023, what she’s bringing into H2, and the products/resources she’s picked up along the way.

Show Notes

0:18 Mid-Year Check-in!

0:51 Benefits of planning in quarterly increments

1:15 What we’re leaving in the first half of 2023, and what we’re bringing into the next 6 months!

2:45 Let’s review H1

6:35 Importance of making the right decisions for YOU

7:13 Trust your timing! Peaks cannot exist without valleys

9:03 Stop chasing perfection and just be you

11:45 What’s being left in the first half of 2023

12:55 What we’re taking into the next half

15:26 Radical acceptance as a means of minimizing your suffering!

17:21 Everything (products, routines, etc) I’ve loved about the past 6 months

22:36 Self-Care/Mindset favorites

24:45 Not letting astrology define/dictate your life

26:24 Body/Skincare/Hair favorites

32:01 Utilizing quarterly vision boards to visualize your upcoming success

Resources/Mentioned

Elix Cycle Balance Drops: https://rb.gy/vf7mm

Alive by Whitney Simmons: https://rb.gy/llvwd

Lululemon Align Mini-Flared Pant: https://rb.gy/6rmsq

Lululemon Cropped Define Jacket: https://rb.gy/u5w31

Ratio Food Protein Yogurts: https://rb.gy/4s1nv

Premier Protein Shakes: https://rb.gy/y11c9

The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power by Katherine Morgan Schafler: https://rb.gy/2zf84

Conscious Luck: Eight Secrets to Intentionally Change Your Fortune by Gay Hendricks, PhD: https://rb.gy/nwp35

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho: https://rb.gy/ms9zz

You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay: https://rb.gy/vj9f8

Superhuman App: https://rb.gy/dot84

Big Conversations with Haley Hoffman Smith: https://rb.gy/qitg4

The Twelfth House Podcast: https://rb.gy/xdyzt

Balanced Black Girl Podcast: https://rb.gy/w95ru

The Colin and Samir Show: https://rb.gy/ig101

Female Founder World: https://rb.gy/8j5l8

I’ve Had It Podcast: https://rb.gy/hjnny

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett: https://rb.gy/pwyws

Bravo! We're Black Podcast: https://rb.gy/itfo4

Hot Off The Mess Podcast: https://rb.gy/jmvwn

Ouai St. Barts Body Cleanser: https://rb.gy/p0ib0

Summer Fridays Dream Oasis Serum: https://rb.gy/96e0f

Peach & Lily Glass Skin Refining Serum: https://rb.gy/fauxa

Bread Beauty Supply Hair Cream: https://rb.gy/flbak

Bread Beauty Supply Hair Gel: https://rb.gy/46a3u

Act+Acre: https://rb.gy/blpuo

Ami Cole Lip Treatment Oil

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119. How to Make New Friends [Sunday Solo Ep. 3]

Fri, 23 Jun 2023 19:53:42 +0000

Hey baddies! Welcome to the third Sunday Solo episode! Alexis chats current life updates and how she's changed her perspective on making friends.

Show Notes

0:48 Smart tip of the week

2:51 How to reframe your mindset

3:24 Superficial tip of the week

4:59 Life update!

10:58 Tips for making new friends

12:12 How to become more confident in who you are

13:50 The most embarrassing thing you can be in this world is embarrassed

14:37 Don’t take things personally!

15:43 Worrying less about whether people like you

17:19 Importance of joining likeminded clubs/organizations

18:10 Talking with anyone and everyone

19:45 Authenticity attracts people

19:51 Be chill!

Resources/Mentioned

Conscious Luck: Eight Secrets to Intentionally Change Your Fortune by Gay Hendricks and Carol Kline

Nars Liquid Afterglow Blush

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118. Navigating the Music and Modeling Industries as a Multifaceted Black Woman with Olay Noel

Thu, 22 Jun 2023 10:15:00 +0000

Welcome back to Too Smart For This! This week, Alexis is joined by Olay Noel for a delightful conversation on all things self-care, entrepreneurship, and more.

The Atlanta, Georgia native knew from a young age that she was destined to walk the catwalk, drawing heavy inspiration from Naomi Campbell. While earning her degree from Kennesaw State University, Olay took a trip to New York City and returned with a modeling contract from Wilhelmina Models, the world-renowned agency that has had such clients as Naomi Sims, Anjelica Huston, Beverly Johnson, Patti Hansen, and Whitney Houston among others. Despite facing adversity as a woman of color in the modeling industry, Olay has continued to book countless projects including Essence, Cosmopolitan, and L’Officiel. Upon her parents’ advice, she has expanded her repertoire and started her own clothing and jewelry line with her sister that highlights the Black Diaspora, called MIANIK, which has been in business since 2019.

Listen to Olay's New Single “Flowers”

Show Notes

00:58 Learn more about Olay!

8:10 Solitude as self care

11:05 Olay’s career trajectory

13:03 Developing the confidence to audition yourself

14:52 Juggling and nurturing multiple interests and talents

16:07 Ignoring the pressure of conformity

17:52 Seeking other women for inspiration

20:39 Developing an entrepreneurial spirit/mindset

21:59 How to find structure amidst uncertainty and spontaneity

23:37 Investing in small things that boost your mental health

25:54 Trying to develop community in new environments

27:35 Knowing when to pivot when experiences no longer serve you

29:13 Importance of escaping your comfort zone to realize your true potential

32:15 Thinking of your life as a series of lessons rather than timelines

34:41 Importance of promoting inclusivity beyond fads or trends

37:59 Finding community in a post-pandemic world

39:29 Importance of being the initiator

Resources/Mentioned

Osea Undaria Algae Body Oil: https://rb.gy/5lirg

Osea Advanced Protection Cream: https://rb.gy/sr9bq

Zuri Fate Body Butters: https://rb.gy/so0hs

Laneige Lip Sleeping Mask: https://rb.gy/w550y

Glo Skin Beauty GlyPro AHA Resurfacing Peel: https://rb.gy/dwbwc

The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure by Grant Cardone: https://rb.gy/uq7yp

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117. How To Have a Hot and Healed Girl Summer [Sunday Solo Ep.2]

Mon, 19 Jun 2023 20:53:03 +0000

Hey baddies! Thanks for baring with us after a week of technical difficulties while we switched to a new podcast distributor. Better and brighter content coming to you!

In Alexis' second Sunday solo episode, we chat her lfie updates before heading on a flurry of travels, her current obsessions, and how she's having a hot girl summer.

Show Notes

1:47 Superficial tip of the week

2:47 Importance of prioritzing how you look and feel

3:06 Smart tip of the week

3:51 Life update! What happened this week

10:58 How to curate a Hot & Healed Girl Summer

11:45 Prioritizing like a pro and living a balanced life

14:16 Finding and investing in clothes that make you feel good

15:34 Living in the moment whilst planning for the future

17:00 The benefits of moving your body

17:34 Removing/ignoring anyone who doesn’t add to your life

Resources/Mentioned

Superficial Tip: House of CB

Smart Tip: Superhuman Meditation App

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116. How To Be More Consistent [Solo Sundays Ep. 1]

Sun, 11 Jun 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Welcome to the first installment of Solo Sundays, or Sunday Spiels, or Sunday Sermons? We don't have a name yet, but it's just fun to connect! In these lighter weekly episodes, expect some juicy life updates, product favorites, and an answer to one of your questions, starting with "How do you stay so consistent?" Spoiler: she doesn't always , but she's got some tips that will help you get started. Keep up with Alexis on Instagram to be there when the next AMA drops!

Show Notes

2:48 Smart tip of the week

4:15 Perfectionism takes many different forms

5:11 Superficial tip of the week

6:43 Life update!

13:28 Q&A

14:31 Managing both your energy and your time

16:45 Creating systems to navigate failure

19:47 Reframing: How to learn from failure

20:02 How to simplify your life to be happier

Resources/Mentioned

Smart Tip: "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control" https://amzn.to/3Nq7KdO

Superficial Tip: Lululemon Align Top: https://creatoriq.cc/43LXKRo

1. https://www.wonsulting.com/resumai

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115. Career Advice that People Aren't Saying Out Loud: 10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Google, Accenture, Wharton, and More

Thu, 08 Jun 2023 10:00:00 +0000

The Smart Girl’s Guide returns, and this week, Alexis delves into her early career tips! Whether you’ve just graduated, looking to make a pivot, or simply want to refresh your professional life, this episode is chock full of helpful career advice!

Show Notes

1:22 Let’s talk career!

3:02 10 tips for each stage of your career

3:30 #1 Know what you want

5:15 Recognizing/understanding your personal agency

5:52 Reframe your career goals – understanding when it’s time to pivot

6:05 What are your longterm goals?

6:56 Knowing when it’s time to leave

7:15 Be clear with your intentions!

8:14 #2 Do what is right for you

11:36 #3 Use a brag book + keep track of everything

13:23 Importance of checking in with yourself

15:46 #4 How to respond to negative feedback professionally

15:58 #5 Be authentic, not annoying

17:46 #6 Act on curiosity

18:40 #7 Search for knowledge everywhere

20:18 #8 Be professional + #9 Invest in yourself

25:04 #10 Importance of doing the work and developing your personal brand

26:44 Approach everything with curiosity

27:24 Stop making excuses and own your actions

27:44 Watch your social media!

Career resources for updating your resume & looking for careers:

2. https://resumeworded.com/

3. https://www.rezi.ai/

4. https://simplify.jobs/

5. https://www.tealhq.com/

6. https://secta.ai/

7. https://www.rampedcareers.com/

8. https://www.careerflow.ai/

9. Kickresume: https://bit.ly/3kCHFwo

10. https://usemassive.com/

11. https://www.tryitonai.com/

12. https://www.loopcv.pro/

13. https://www.hiration.com/

14. https://www.biginterview.com/

15. Wave.ai: https://bit.ly/3WSig08