This episode is about changing the script. Not by bypassing reality, but by meeting it honestly.

Opening Update. Surgery, Uncertainty, and Narrative Choice

Kristina shares an update on a planned surgical biopsy that ultimately could not proceed. Rather than framing this as loss or avoidance, she explores how preparing for surgery moved a deeper story forward. Fear of death, fear of leaving family, and inherited narratives were confronted directly.

Key themes:

• Reconciling with uncertainty
• How preparation itself can be transformational
• Choosing meaning without denial
• Letting go of the need for visible “proof” of healing

Healthcare Reality. Advocacy and Systemic Blind Spots

The conversation shifts into a candid discussion about healthcare systems, fallibility, and the importance of self-advocacy.

Highlights include:

• Why patients must advocate for themselves
• The power of asking providers to document refusals
• Gendered dismissal in medical settings
• Insurance denial as a systemic issue, not a personal failure

This section grounds the episode firmly in lived reality before returning to psychological and spiritual frameworks.

Control vs Illusion. Anchor and Drift

Anna revisits a core distinction from earlier episodes: control-based villains versus illusion-based villains, reframed as Anchor and Drift.

Key insight:

• Anchors grow through joy, movement, and emotional flow
• Drifts grow through responsibility, structure, and self-anchoring

This reframing avoids gendered language while clarifying relational dynamics across work, parenting, money, and intimacy.

The 12 Steps as Villain Work

The discussion explores how 12-step frameworks function as deep transformational tools within the Inner Villain system.

Key points:

• Surrender as medicine for control
• Responsibility as medicine for illusion
• Why hybrid villains often benefit from both
• Addiction, avoidance, and invisibility as shared roots

Obedient Critic. Control in Everyday Life

Both hosts share personal examples of how the Obedient Critic shows up in domestic life, hosting, and expectations.

Topics include:

• Silent rules and unspoken standards
• Judgment versus communication
• Humor as a bridge away from control
• Learning to state needs without shame or superiority

Vengeful Martyr. Boundaries and Burnout

The conversation turns to over-giving, over-servicing, and emotional exhaustion.

Key themes:

• How silencing needs creates resentment
• Why boundaries are emotional, not intellectual
• Anger as an early boundary signal
• Boredom as a late-stage warning sign
• Boundaries as other people’s growth edges

Both hosts share work-related examples where firmer boundaries led to more sustainable energy and better outcomes.

Invisible Destroyer (The Nothing). Spiritual Bypass and Embodiment

This section explores how spirituality and busyness can become tools for avoidance.

Key insights:

• Toxic positivity as emotional suppression
• Regulation mistaken for constant calm
• Busyness as grief avoidance
• Activity as bypass versus activity as embodiment
• The difference between thinking emotions and feeling them

Kristina speaks to slowing down as a path to embodiment, while Anna highlights movement and physical activation as her gateway to emotional truth.

Hero Energy. Becoming Embodied

The episode closes by naming the hero of the Invisible Destroyer: the Embodied.

Practices discussed:

• Slowing down to feel rather than interpret
• Letting emotions unfold without reframing
• Moving the body to access grief, anger, and joy
• Staying present without transcending the human experience

Season Reflection and Closing

The hosts reflect on the impact of the Inner Villain work over the season and the relief of stepping out of victim and villain identities altogether.

The season ends not with answers, but with better questions.

And with permission to be human.

Key Topics

• Why common storytelling tropes feel manipulative once you can “see the scaffolding”
• Plot armor, fish-out-of-water, and how character arcs predict what “can” happen in a story
• The idea that the subconscious is knowable, because it’s made of stories, not mystery
• A working hypothesis: the nine Inner Villains are nine recurring story structures in human life
• Stewardship vs elimination. You don’t delete the story, you change how it plays out
• Ancestral patterning, embodiment, and what it means to carry a lineage thread without becoming it
• How relationship dynamics can become “setups” that keep a villain role alive (the trash-day example)
• Sankhara, craving, aversion. As story addiction, not just “bad habits”
• Choosing an arc intentionally. Using attention as the lever for behavioral change
• A simple exercise: identify what chapter you’re in, then choose a different next page

Notable Moments and Quotes (short excerpts)

• “The subconscious is not unknowable.”
• “We are taught we are just the tree, not the root system.”
• “Trauma is not the beginning of something. It’s the middle of something.”
• “You’re not that character anymore.”
• “I’m sick of choosing the same page.”

Practical Takeaways

1) Name the script while you’re in it

When you hear yourself saying lines you’ve said a hundred times, pause and label it: “Oh, this is that story.”

2) Swap “fixing” for “stewarding”

Ask: “What would the easier version of this lesson look like?” Not “How do I eliminate this forever?”

3) Find the setup

If a conflict repeats like clockwork, assume there’s a hidden payoff. Example: being the savior, being righteous, being indispensable.

4) Use attention as your control lever

Behavior is mostly automatic. Attention is the steering wheel. Practice moving attention on purpose.

5) Try the chapter exercise

“This is the chapter where I’m angry.”

“This is the chapter where I make a plan.”

“This is the chapter where the protagonist stops performing the old role.”

Suggested Listener Reflection Prompts

• What story do I keep reenacting because it gives me an identity?
• Where do I get to be the savior, the martyr, or the judge?
• What would it look like to let consequences happen without drama?
• If I’m not trying to “win” this scene, what choice becomes available?
• Which arc am I unintentionally feeding with my attention right now?

Mentioned

• Delaney Rowe (comedian, Instagram) for character trope satire
• Game of Thrones as an example of subverting plot armor
• Fallout as fish-out-of-water worldbuilding
• The Pitt (HBO) as fish-out-of-water workplace introduction
• Murder at the End of the World (Brit Marling) as a female-led “sleuth” archetype
• Richard Powers, The Overstory and the root network metaphor
• Aboriginal Australian songlines and ancestral story-carrying
• Ainslie MacLeod (past-life framing and “you’re not in that story anymore”)
• Drama Triangle vs Empowerment Triangle (reframing roles and choice)

Listener Homework

Pick one recurring conflict this week.

1. Name the story.
2. Identify your role.
3. Choose one small inversion. A different tone, a different action, or no action at all.
4. Notice what becomes possible when you refuse the old script.

Call to Action

If this episode hit you, send Kristina and Anna a note with:

• The story you’re realizing you live inside, and
• The one choice you want to practice to steward it differently.

Revisiting the Medicine of Each Inner Villain

In this episode, Kristina and Anna step back and do something essential. They revisit every Inner Villain, not to re-explain the theory, but to clarify the medicine. What actually helps. What works in real life. What moves someone out of being stuck.

This conversation reframes villain work as inversion, retrograde, and polarity shifts. Nothing to purge. Nothing to fix. Just learning how to move differently with what already exists.

Stuckness is the real enemy. Movement is the cure.

Core Theme

Retrograding a Villain means changing the spin, not erasing the trait.

Every villain contains intelligence. When that intelligence freezes, it becomes destructive. When inverted, it becomes power.

This episode walks through each villain with:

• A grounded overview
• The Hero form (the inversion)
• The Legend form (integrated mastery)
• Practical, lived examples of medicine

Villain-by-Villain Breakdown

1. Obedient Critic

Core wound: Belonging, hierarchy, credentials

Hero: The Anarchist

Legend: The Equalizer

Medicine:

• Break inherited hierarchies without trying to destroy everyone else
• Play consciously with power dynamics instead of submitting to them
• Practice lowering yourself in hierarchies you secretly worship

Practical example:

Deliberately stop being “the competent one.” Let others rise. Let systems wobble. Watch what equalizes.

2. Vengeful Martyr

Core wound: Abandonment

Hero: The Self-Possessed (Selfish, in the healthy sense)

Legend: The Nourisher

Medicine:

• Use resources instead of martyring
• Ask for help without explaining or over-justifying
• Make yourself obsolete on purpose

Practical examples:

• Pool childcare, money, labor
• Outsource tasks you secretly hoard
• Stop being the only one who knows how things work

Martyrdom is not generosity. It is control disguised as virtue.

3. Vain Controller

Core wound: Status, image, worth

Hero: The Unveiled

Legend: The Inventor

Medicine:

• Reveal vulnerability without collapsing
• Confess judgment instead of acting it out
• Use resources to create, not to prove

Practical example:

Say out loud what you are afraid of being seen as. Especially to the people you subtly judge.

4. Eternal Child

Core wound: Entitlement, victimhood, arrested development

Hero: The Reflective

Legend: The Traveller

Medicine:

• Radical self-reflection
• Moral inventory
• Recognizing available choices

A key insight discussed through The Choice:

Victimhood comes from believing you have no choice.

Practical tools:

• Mirror work
• Asking “Where did I participate?”
• Listing real choices, not imagined constraints

5. Evasive Expert

Core wound: Over-intellectualization, emotional suppression

Hero: The Passionate

Legend: The Integrator

Medicine:

• Somatic and kinesthetic practices
• Slowing down
• Humor and play

Key insight:

If you’ve lost your sense of humor, you’re back in the villain.

Embodiment tools:

• Nature
• Laughter
• Sensation-based awareness
• Moving before thinking

6. Divisive Immortal

Core wound: Safety, loyalty, fear of death

Hero: Death

Legend: The Healer

Medicine:

• Direct confrontation with death and fear
• Ego death
• Exposure to impermanence

Practical examples:

• Death meditations
• Ritual grief
• Cultural practices that normalize death

Avoiding death creates rigidity. Facing it restores life.

7. Hungry Shapeshifter

Core wound: Attention, identity diffusion, time

Hero: The Present

Legend: The Fabricator

Medicine:

• Presence over performance
• Attention returned to self
• Time-based embodiment

Practical tool:

A Raja Yoga technique involving extremely slow head rotation to anchor awareness in the present moment.

Identity stabilizes when attention stops scattering.

8. Righteous Bully

Core wound: Opinion, certainty, savior complex

Hero: The Surrendered

Legend: The Channeler

Medicine:

• Recognizing choice
• Letting others lead
• Releasing the need to fix

Strong opinions are not wisdom. Channeling replaces enforcing.

9. Invisible Destroyer

Core wound: Disembodiment, addiction, stagnation

Hero: The Embodied

Legend: The Architect

Medicine:

• Pleasure in the body
• Structure and containment
• Creation after destruction

Practical focus:

• Sensory pleasure
• Nature
• Passion projects
• Routine and structure

Bad luck often follows disengagement. Embodiment reverses it.

Fusion Villains Explained

Some villains are composites:

• Righteous Bully = Obedient Critic + Vengeful Martyr
• Hungry Shapeshifter = Vain Controller + Eternal Child
• Invisible Destroyer = Evasive Expert + Divisive Immortal

When stuck at a composite level, work downstream with its components.

Final Takeaway

Nothing here is about becoming someone else.

Retrograding a villain means:

• Changing direction
• Restoring movement
• Letting intelligence flow again

You don’t heal by erasing parts of yourself.

You heal by letting them evolve.

In this second part of the “Communicating with Villains” series, Kristina and Anna get very practical about how to actually talk to people who are running these archetypes, including when you are the one in the villain seat.

They move from real stories about teeth, genetics, and breast health into concrete language, strategies, and “do not do this” warnings for each villain.

This is the “how to handle them in real life” episode.

In this episode

Kristina and Anna explore:

• How the Vengeful Martyr shows up in health, caregiving, and self neglect
• Why dental and breast health can become a mirror for martyrdom
• The role of Divisive Immortal catastrophizing in medical decisions and safety
• How to make choices that are logical, not fear based, even around cancer risk
• How to actually talk to:
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• Evasive Expert
• Divisive Immortal
• Hungry Shapeshifter
• Righteous Bully
• The Nothing / Invisible Destroyer

They also name the difference between doing “self work” on your villain and learning to stay in relationship with someone else’s.

The Vengeful Martyr: health, teeth, and breast tissue

Anna shares:

• How her “Vengeful Martyr era” lined up with sleep deprivation, breastfeeding, and her first major dental issues
• The realization that she invests in visible hygiene and beauty, while neglecting things no one sees, like gums, pap smears, and internal health
• A concrete shift: flossing, water picking, changing dentists, and choosing a provider who does not shame her
• A genetic test that revealed increased risk for breast cancer and skin cancer, and her decision to act now rather than “martyr” herself by ignoring it
• Why she is seriously considering prophylactic bilateral mastectomies as an act of self nourishment, not fear

Kristina reflects on:

• The symbolism of breasts as sources of nourishment and pleasure, and what it means to “retire” the functional side of them in order to care for the self
• How the Nourisher legend of the Vengeful Martyr is “drink while you pour,” and how that plays out in real bodies and real choices
• The overlap between Vengeful Martyr and Divisive Immortal when it comes to health, anxiety, and medical systems

Divisive Immortal: fear, loyalty, and catastrophe

They unpack:

• How the Divisive Immortal can show up as catastrophizing doctors, shaming providers, and rigid ideas about safety
• The Enneagram 6 “loyal skeptic” flavor, and how loyalty plus fear becomes rigidity
• The difference between making a logical preventive decision and making a fear based decision
• How two people can face the same medical risk but be activated in different villains, one in Vengeful Martyr, one in Divisive Immortal

Communication tips for Divisive Immortal:

• Avoid “us versus them” language and triangulation
• Emphasize “you and me versus the problem”
• Reassure safety and solidarity
• Say things like:
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• “I feel the fear you are feeling, and I understand it”
• “I am not your enemy, we are on the same team”
• “Our relationship is bigger than this argument”

Evasive Expert: logic, avoidance, and emotional shutdown

For the Evasive Expert, Kristina and Anna cover:

• How they over rely on logic and under express emotion, or explode when emotion finally leaks out
• Classic tells: “I do not know how I feel,” or answering questions with cerebral analysis
• Why approaching them with pure emotion makes them disappear

Communication tips for Evasive Expert:

• Lead with logic, not drama
• Present the impact as a logical chain: “A and B happened, which led to C and D, can you see why I might be upset”
• Use “logic puzzles” to pierce the emotional shell
• In full blow up mode, give them time to process, then return with calm, structured reasoning

Hungry Shapeshifter: attention, performance, and multiplicity

For the Hungry Shapeshifter, they discuss:

• The need for attention, lightness, and performance
• How calling out their shifting identities can feel humiliating, not helpful
• Why dramatic outbursts are often releases, not always indicators of deep relational rupture

Communication tips for Hungry Shapeshifter:

• Let them perform, be the audience rather than the critic in the moment
• Notice patterns over time, not just one dramatic scene
• When they are calm and grounded, take them more seriously than in full performance mode
• Invite coherence by asking, “Which part of you feels most true right now”

Righteous Bully: conviction, protection, and curiosity

For the Righteous Bully, Anna shares how working this arc has changed what even triggers her, and why things that used to set her off no longer land.

They cover:

• The intensity and danger of the Righteous Bully when they have reached their limit
• How they will burn things down to protect what they love or believe in
• The shift from externalized bullying to internalized self criticism

Communication tips for Righteous Bully:

• Be deeply curious, not defensive
• Reflect their point of view back accurately so they feel heard
• Use permissive language:
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• “Would you be open to hearing my perspective”
• “My love for you is bigger than this disagreement”
• Do not try to tell them they are wrong in the heat of the moment, it only adds fuel
• Later, you decide whether you want a Righteous Bully in your life, even a more integrated one

The Nothing / Invisible Destroyer: avoidance, presence, and tiny actions

For The Nothing, they highlight:

• Question deflection, disappearing into thought, and vanishing from shared spaces
• Deep sensitivity to rejection and criticism
• Difficulty taking action, even when they intellectually understand the issue

Communication tips for The Nothing:

• Name and value their presence: “It means so much just having you in the room with me”
• Invite tiny actions, “Can we take one small step toward this together”
• Use humor and embodiment practices to bring them back into their bodies
• Use the compliment–criticism–compliment “sandwich” if feedback is needed
• When they disappear after a big top, lure them back with low pressure, body doubling, and no heavy processing at first

Before the communication section, the episode also covers:

• Purpose vs meaning

• Why your purpose isn’t defined by you

• How creation works when it’s not about control

• A new metaphor for the 9 Villains as phases in the lifecycle of a flowering plant

• Why people “get stuck” in certain villain phases

• What it means to grow in order vs out of order

EPISODE BREAKDOWN

00:00 — Opening & Check-In

Kristina and Anna reconnect after a break from recording.

They talk somatic healing, practical implementation struggles, and the tension between “etheric narrative work” and real-life applicability.

05:00 — Purpose vs Meaning

Anna shares insights from her Kabbalah class:

• Meaning is personal interpretation.

• Purpose is assigned externally (source, God, universe).

• You don’t get to define your purpose. Others and life events reveal it.

Kristina connects this to Viktor Frankl, creation without attachment, and Buckminster Fuller’s idea that purpose arrives at a perpendicular angle to your intentions.

13:00 — BREAKTHROUGH DREAM: The 9 Villains as the Life Cycle of a Flowering Plant

Kristina shares a liminal-space dream that reframed the entire Villain System through the natural growth stages of a plant.

A concise map:

1. Obedient Critic — Seed. Rules, inherited limitations, instruction set.
2. Vengeful Martyr — Cotyledon (baby leaves). Self-generated energy. Doing everything alone.
3. Vain Controller — True leaves + root establishment. Channels, resources, trust.
4. Eternal Child — Explosive growth, abundance, chaos.
5. Evasive Expert — Balancing inputs. Regulating water/light.
6. Divisive Immortal — Flowering. Death, risk, community, cross-pollination.
7. Hungry Shapeshifter — Seed production. Creativity, potentiality.
8. Righteous Bully — Seed release. Letting go. Not controlling outcomes.
9. Invisible Destroyer — Desiccation / return to soil. Crone, surrender, dissolution.

Use it to locate yourself. If you’re “stuck,” look at the developmental stage you skipped.

41:53 — PRACTICAL SECTION: COMMUNICATING WITH EACH VILLAIN

This is the part listeners asked for. Clear, real-world communication strategies, conflict prevention tools, and repair patterns for each villain.

1. The Obedient Critic (OC)

Rule-set oriented, easily offended, perfectionistic, rigid.

Preventive strategies:

• Exchange rule-sets explicitly. Ask: “What does X mean to you?”

• Agree on shared relationship rules or a “contract.”

• Avoid assuming your interpretation matches theirs.

• Overshare context up front to avoid catastrophic misinterpretation.

During conflict:

• Use permissive, soft entry language: “Could we try…?” “Maybe we consider…?”

• Validate their meaning first: “I see how in your world this means X.”

• Never say “You’re wrong.” Reframe instead: “In my world, this means something different.”

2. The Vengeful Martyr (VM)

Energy-banker, does everything alone, keeps score, collapses into exhaustion.

Preventive strategies:

• Do not exploit their over-functioning.

• Build real competence in the areas they normally shoulder alone.

• Remove responsibility from them physically (take the kids out of the house, run point on meals, etc.).

• Combine gratitude + competent action.

During conflict / meltdown:

• Open with: “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings.”

• Listen. Don’t defend. Don’t reason.

• Offer immediate relief from responsibility.

• After they calm: reduce the systemic over-responsibility that created the blowup.

3. The Vain Controller (VC)

Status-driven, work-driven, image-driven, terrified of betrayal.

Preventive strategies:

• Avoid competition or one-upping.

• Celebrate small vulnerability when they offer it.

• Keep your promises. No exceptions.

• Reward their hard work in tangible, visible ways.

During conflict:

• Acknowledge the breach directly: “I recognize I broke a promise here.”

• Use “I will work harder” language.

• Outline concrete steps you will take to restore trust.

• Don’t joke about their insecurities. They will not take it well.

4. The Eternal Child (EC)

Dream-logic, confabulation, entitlement, dramatic swings.

Preventive strategies:

• Set clear expectations + consequences. Consistency matters more than anything.

• Bring in practicality without shaming their dream-side:

“I love your vision. Let’s anchor it with two practical steps.”

• Give them structure, timelines, and follow-through.

During conflict / tantrum:

• Do not debate their story. It won’t land.

• Provide grounding: “I’m here. I’m not abandoning you.”

• Hold consistent consequences afterward.

• If they escalate to destructive behavior: remove yourself and hold the boundary firmly.

Closing

Next week: Part 3, continuing through the remaining villains (Evasive Expert → Invisible Destroyer) with more scripts, tools, and examples.

Chapter Markers

• 00:00 Checking in: ego death, gratitude as daily practice
• 02:23 Why the Villain work feels more useful than “primal wounds” alone
• 04:58 Anti-heroes and arcs: we’re rarely pinnacle villains for long
• 05:58 What is time blindness and how it strains relationships
• 08:49 Calendar blindness vs time blindness
• 09:58 Time for mortals: insights from Four Thousand Weeks (Oliver Burkeman)
• 11:58 Estimation traps, executive function, and project-management “laws”
• 13:58 Tools: timers, delayed conversations, and tech to protect relationships
• 15:00 The Evasive Expert must slow down: decompression blocks and focus holds
• 16:48 Safety, protection, and the urge to “fix it now”
• 18:00 Cities, homes, couples as arcs; mapping a house as Evasive Expert
• 21:45 Diagnostic combos: how 7-8-9 become “advanced” villains
• 24:50 Obedient Critic rabbit holes and living by rule sets
• 27:15 Laws of nature over personal rules; the Law of Procession
• 31:40 Case study: two Obedient Critics and the family rule set clash
• 33:50 Couples and houses as Villain ecosystems
• 39:00 The FUNNY framework to invert the Evasive Expert
• 44:10 Golden Hour: shared effort to reduce isolation
• 50:10 Righteous Bully with the Nothing: common pairing patterns
• 54:15 Other frequent pairings and why they happen
• 58:40 Meme break: naming the villains with humor
• 1:03:10 Working with parts: IFS, deconditioning, and flipping subtypes
• 1:06:15 Homework and next episode: communicating with each villain

Key Concepts & Tools

• Time Blindness vs Calendar Blindness
• Time blindness: difficulty perceiving passing minutes and sequencing tasks.
• Calendar blindness: difficulty tracking dates, planning horizons, and overlaps.
• Villain Arcs (selected)
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• Obedient Critic (OC): lives by rigid rule sets; seeks correction and order. Legend: Equalizer.
• Vengeful Martyr (VM): over-gives to earn belonging; nourishes, then resents.
• Eternal Child (EC): entitled to care; toggles anxious/avoidant; covert romantic.
• Righteous Bully (RB): fusion of VM + OC; imposes “right” for safety and control.
• Evasive Expert (EE): over-intellectualizes, compartmentalizes; feelings drive from underground.
• Invisible Destroyer / The Nothing (ID): EE + Divisive Immortal; withdrawal, disappearance.
• Hungry Shapeshifter (HS): attention-seeking blend of Vain Controller + Eternal Child.
• Common Pairings (why they attract)
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• RB + ID (Nothing): control/pursuit meets withdrawal; each amplifies the other.
• VM + EC: Wendy and Peter; nourishment meets eternal dependency.
• EE + Divisive Immortal: logic and safety bind; loyalty sustains low intimacy.
• HS + ID/EE: performance pairs with a quieter partner who recedes.
• Practical Tools
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• Timers & Alarms: outsource time perception to protect relationships.
• Deferred Conflict Scheduling: drop a calendar note to discuss when regulated.
• Decompression Blocks: 15-minute buffers after sessions to downshift.
• Golden Hour: whole-family or couple co-work on one project to restore “together energy.”
• Framework: FUNNY (to invert the Evasive Expert)
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• F — Free: create time and space to slow down.
• U — United: do unpleasant tasks together; reduce divide-and-conquer loneliness.
• N — Nuanced: reject all-or-nothing; find middle paths.
• N — Natural: return to body signals and instinct, not just cognition.
• Y — You: keep it personal and present; ask, “Is this funny?” as a shorthand check.

Quotes

• “You don’t save your kid from pain. You help them become the leader of their own system.”
• “The Evasive Expert can’t think its way out. It has to slow down.”
• “Repetition isn’t punishment. It’s practice.”
• “Have a honey-driven life. Purpose arrives at 90 degrees.”

References & Mentions

• Oliver Burkeman, Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals
• Internal Family Systems (IFS) for working with parts
• Law of Procession (purpose arrives indirectly)
• Loki (Marvel), Vision, Agatha as archetypal studies of time and shadow
• Marshall Thurber TedxTalk Melbourne

Takeaways

1. Identify whether your issue is time blindness, calendar blindness, or both. Choose tools accordingly.
2. When you feel the urge to correct, schedule the talk instead. Protect the bond first.
3. Map your home, town, or relationship as an arc. Ask what gift already emerged from the “problem.”
4. Use FUNNY to invert overthinking into connection.
5. Diagnose pair dynamics. If you are RB and your partner tends to Nothing, design pauses, gentle bids, and agreements around withdrawal and pursuit.

Homework

• Take the Villain quiz: identify your primary arc and your partner’s.
• Try one decompression block today and one Golden Hour this week.
• Journal: Which rule sets are mine, which are borrowed, and which align with laws of nature.

Next Episode

How to communicate with each villain type without escalating the spin.

Episode Credits

• Hosts: Kristina Wiltsee and Anna Stromquist
• Series: Inner Villain, Inner Repair

SEO Keywords

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Timestamps

• 00:00 — Catch-up: Niagara River energy, moving into an RV, new podcast soft-launch, hosting 30 for Thanksgiving
• 06:00 — Why this work hits differently when you start applying it
• 07:00 — “Reversing the spin” and why we take gifts from each villain
• 09:30 — The filter metaphor: turning life’s burn into clearer water
• 10:30 — Vain Controller in the wild: image, status, resources, and vulnerability practice
• 17:45 — Scarcity vs strategic generosity; non-transactional networking
• 21:00 — The “villain houses” road trip: Inventor, Equalizer, Traveller, Nothing, Healer, Hungry Shapeshifter
• 33:45 — Eternal Child patterns, enabling, and compassionate honesty
• 39:20 — Righteous Bully 101, medicine, legend, and a domestic case study
• 55:00 — When “surrendered” gets stuck, and stepping back into leadership
• 57:00 — Take the Villain Quiz and next steps

Villain deep dives

Vain Controller (VC)

Core pattern

• Seeks safety through appearance, performance, and perceived success.
• Manages for resources and status; swings between vanity and vulnerable insecurity, and between scarcity control and trusting abundance.

Legend: The Inventor

• Uses resources creatively, shares generously, and builds networks that multiply value.

Medicine

• Vulnerability and confession.
• Strategic generosity over transactional control.
• Practising trust that resources and relationships are renewable.

Practices you can try

• Micro-confession: when you feel the urge to posture or criticize, name the fear underneath to a safe person.
• Non-transactional gift: offer one connection, resource, or introduction this week with no ask attached.
• Audit your “appearance routines”: keep what is self-respecting, release what is fear-managing.

Moments to listen for

• The “snark, then confess” experiment, and what it revealed about fear of failure and being unlovable.
• The networking story that models non-transactional giving.

Eternal Child (EC)

Core pattern

• Entitled to care, victim-armoring, denial, and story-bending to avoid responsibility.
• Draws disproportionate resources in the “drama triangle.”

Legend: The Traveller

• Expands perspective through literal or metaphorical travel, meets life directly, and participates in fair exchange.

Medicine

• Compassionate honesty and natural consequences.
• Replace enabling with clear agreements and accountability.
• Perspective-expansion experiences.

Practices you can try

• One honest sentence: state the concrete impact of a behavior without softening the facts.
• Consequence alignment: stop padding timelines, covering, or reframing the truth.
• Perspective field-trip: choose an experience that expands empathy and scale.

Moments to listen for

• The “villain houses” tour and how a welcoming, playful home embodied the Traveller.
• How enabling keeps everyone living inside someone else’s “fake world,” and what shifted when honesty landed.

Righteous Bully (RB)

Core pattern

• Opinion hardens into gospel, dissent becomes threat, and “correction” tips into character assassination.
• Gift hidden inside: raw leadership energy.

Legend: The Channeler

• Holds a strong point of view, listens deeply, integrates the wisdom of the group, and leads fairly.

Medicine

• The Surrendered: curiosity, humility, and shared problem-solving.
• Distinguish data, opinion, and impact.
• Repair through ownership rather than domination.

Practices you can try

• Three breaths, three questions: What am I assuming, what else could be true, what would repair look like.
• Tone check in the kitchen: correct the action, not the person.
• Leadership rep: where do I need to stop over-surrendering and actually lead.

Moments to listen for

• The vestibular case study: fury when sound advice wasn’t followed.
• The “jumpy house” story: how fear of a blow-up created the perfect storm, and what repair requires.
• Kristina’s flip-side: when over-surrendering blocked necessary leadership on IP and contracts.

Key ideas and language

• Reversing the spin: Integration is not skipping villainy, it is harvesting its gifts and re-orienting them.
• The filter metaphor: Life’s burn leaves ash, charcoal, and heat; arranged well, they clarify the water of love.
• Non-transactional generosity: Strategic resourcing without ledgers grows real networks.

Pull quotes

• “We’re not meant to be just heroes and legends. You take a gift back from being a villain.”
• “Compassion without honesty is enabling. Honesty without compassion is punishment.”
• “Leadership isn’t losing your opinion, it’s holding it while you listen.”

Resources mentioned

• Inner Villain Quiz — link in show notes
• Articles and videos on Vain Controller, Eternal Child, Righteous Bully — link in show notes
• The Executive & The Mystic podcast — link in show notes

Take it further

• Take the quiz, then pick one medicine practice above and run it for seven days.
• Journal prompt: Where am I managing for image or control instead of resource flow. Where am I enabling instead of telling the truth. Where am I correcting a person instead of a behavior.
• If you’re a leader, bring one of these frameworks into a team retro: What villain pattern did we slip into, and what medicine would rebalance us.

Credits and housekeeping

• Hosts: Kristina Wiltsee and Anna
• Recorded: September
• To share reflections or questions, reply to the newsletter or send a note to the show inbox.
• Light launch of Kristina’s new podcast, The Executive & The Mystic; more to come.

Key Themes Covered

• The Vengeful Martyr in Archetypes & Systems
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• Enneagram Type 2 (The Helper)
• Human Design: Sacral Center
• Core wound: Abandonment
• The second half of the codependent cycle, following the Obedient Critic
• Cultural & Story Examples
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• Star Wars: Anakin Skywalker’s descent into Darth Vader
• Les Misérables: Fantine’s self-destruction through over-giving
• The Giving Tree: The ultimate cautionary tale of depletion
• The Shadow Forms
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• Successful Antagonist (The Banker): Keeps score, tallies good deeds, and expects repayment—often doing things no one asked for.
• Wounded Child (The Abandoned): Believes they must become indispensable to avoid being left again.
• Covert Form (The Apologetic): Withdraws into burnout, endlessly justifying rest but never truly allowing it.
• Villain Patterns
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• Guilt-tripping as a primary tool of influence
• Over-functioning to secure love or loyalty
• Creating credit for actions others didn’t request, fueling resentment
• Attachment patterns: anxious-leaning, often paired with avoidant partners
• Transformation Path
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• Hero Form (The Selfish): Learning to establish boundaries, honor one’s own needs, and balance giving with receiving.
• Legend Form (The Nourisher): Giving from overflow instead of depletion; embodying the affirmation “I am enough”; allowing energy and abundance to flow in cycles of give and take.
• Modern Illustrations
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• An “Am I the Asshole?” Reddit post on college funds, addiction, and guilt dynamics as a lens for the Vengeful Martyr.
• Real-life parallels of guilt-driven self-sacrifice and difficulty resting.

Why It Matters

The Vengeful Martyr may appear as the glue of community, but unchecked, this archetype sacrifices itself to exhaustion, resentment, and martyrdom. By reclaiming self-worth and learning the art of healthy boundaries, the Vengeful Martyr transforms into the Nourisher—someone who sustains life and energy without losing themselves in the process.

Along the way, the discussion winds through fitness updates, cultural differences between the US and UK, Anthony Horowitz mysteries, and Anna’s humorous experiment of “playing stupid” as medicine for the Obedient Critic. Kristina dives into how direct vs. indirect shadow work parallels physical therapy techniques, and how each villain’s arc—from humiliation to abandonment, betrayal to immortality—offers a map toward becoming the Hero or Legend.

Together they reveal:

• How mnemonic devices can simplify complex systems like astrology or the nine villains.
• Why culture differs from entertainment, and how this connects to villain work.
• The personal ways the Obedient Critic and Vengeful Martyr show up in daily life.
• Direct vs. indirect methods for working with villains, and how they mirror healing practices.
• Stories of humor, humility, and what happens when shadow work meets spilled milkshakes.

If you’ve struggled to remember the villains or want practical tools to spot your own inner critic, martyr, or controller in action, this episode will help you laugh, reflect, and find new entry points into your own shadow work.

Next up: The pair plan to explore the Vain Controller and the Eternal Child, including how these archetypes show up in dreams and daily life.

Timestamps

• 00:00 — Welcome, final villain in the series
• 00:15 — Invisible Destroyer, aka The Nothing
• 00:30 — Archetypal map: Enneagram 9, head center, separation wound, house of addiction
• 01:20 — Why it feels like “a combo of the 5 and 6”: evasive expert + divisive immortal
• 01:45 — The NeverEnding Story and the Nothing as lack of human attention and imagination
• 03:00 — Paralyzed by possibility: endless questions without action
• 04:10 — The wake of destruction from inaction and addiction
• 04:40 — Successful Antagonist: The Questioner, delaying decisions forever
• 06:10 — Wounded Child: The Overwhelmed, never big enough to handle life
• 07:00 — Covert Form: The Addict, disappearing through escapism
• 08:10 — Hero: The Embodied, choosing incarnation, creation, and presence (with pleasure as a pathway)
• 09:20 — Legend: The Architect, building grounded worlds from imagination
• 10:00 — Why this arc belongs at the end of the villain cycle: outward, complex, foundational
• 10:45 — Real-life dynamics: undervaluing presence and its destructive impact on relationships
• 11:30 — AITA case study: birthday dinner, avoidance, blocking, and the Nothing’s invisibility wound
• 13:30 — Radiohead soundtrack: How to Disappear Completely, Lotus Flower, and the addictive undertones of disappearing
• 17:00 — Closing thoughts: start with villains 1–6 before tackling the complexity of 7–9

The arc at a glance

• Pinnacle Villain: Invisible Destroyer (The Nothing) — Inspiration ungrounded, inertia that consumes.
• Successful Antagonist: The Questioner — Delays action indefinitely by demanding more certainty.
• Wounded Child: The Overwhelmed — Believes they can never be big enough to handle life.
• Covert Form: The Addict — Escapes through substances or compulsions, invisibly eroding relationships.
• Hero: The Embodied — Chooses presence, incarnation, creativity, and embodied pleasure.
• Legend: The Architect — Builds tangible worlds from imagination and dreams.

Key ideas and language

• The Nothing: Inaction as destruction; the void left when imagination is unused.
• Addiction as covert destruction: Disappearing through self-harm, leaving collateral damage.
• Paralysis of possibility: Asking without acting, researching without deciding.
• Presence as medicine: Recognizing that showing up, even imperfectly, matters.
• Imagination grounded: Dreams are valuable only when incarnated into lived form.

Practices for listeners

1. Pleasure as embodiment
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• Use sexual or sensual pleasure as a direct route into your body.
• Notice how aliveness shifts when you commit to being present in sensation.

1. The small action rule
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• Pick one tiny step toward creation daily, even if imperfect.
• Doing badly is better than not doing at all.

1. Name the overwhelm
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• Write down three things you cannot do right now.
• Then choose one thing you can do and act on it.

1. Reclaim visibility
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• Ask yourself: “Where am I pretending my presence doesn’t matter?”
• Practice showing up where you assume no one cares.

Case study insights

• Birthday dinner scenario: Downplaying one’s presence leads to relational collapse. The Invisible Destroyer thinks, “It doesn’t matter if I’m there,” but others feel abandoned. Repair requires recognizing that presence itself carries value.

Pull quotes

• “When imagination is left fallow, the Nothing takes over.”
• “Addiction is the covert face of disappearance.”
• “The Architect builds worlds. The Invisible Destroyer erases them by never beginning.”

Glossary

• Head Center: Pressure for inspiration; linked to Enneagram 9 and separation wound.
• Paralysis of possibility: An endless loop of questions that prevents movement.
• Architect: The Legend who incarnates dreams into grounded creation.

Mentions

• The NeverEnding Story (book vs. film) and the Childlike Empress’s need for a new name.
• Radiohead songs: How to Disappear Completely and Lotus Flower as archetypal expressions.
• Where the Heart Is (film reference) for addiction and self-directed harm.

Resources and next steps

• Try the Inner Villain quiz to identify where you sit with this arc.
• Revisit earlier villains (1–6) before tackling the 7–9 arcs for deeper clarity.
• Explore the Invisible Destroyer playlist, including Radiohead’s catalog, to feel the archetype somatically.

Credits

Hosts: Kristina Wiltsee and Anna

Series: Inner Villain → Hero → Legend

Timestamps

• 00:00 — Banter and setup, villain 8 overview
• 01:00 — Core question: “Have you ever hurt someone by ‘just being honest’?”
• 01:15 — Centers and types: Ajna center, Enneagram 8 “Challenger/Enforcer”
• 02:00 — The everyday Righteous Bully: opinions as law, triangulation, blanket statements
• 02:30 — Straw story: moral superiority, environmental righteousness as enforcement
• 04:45 — Why Thanos fits the archetype: opinion as solution, the Snap as “righteous fix,” unintended consequences
• 07:00 — Successful Antagonist: the Fixer, “I told you so” as identity
• 07:50 — Wounded Child: the Pathogen, blamed for everything, fights to avoid being the problem again
• 08:45 — Covert Form: the Sacrificial, peacekeeping by self-erasure in groups and teams
• 10:50 — Hero: the Surrendered, releasing attachment to being right and aligning with group coherence
• 12:40 — Legend: the Channeler, becoming a vessel for greater wisdom rather than a mouthpiece for self
• 13:30 — Somatic tell: elation and lightness vs heaviness when it’s true surrender
• 14:50 — Vehicle note: practicing healthy selfishness, daily give-and-take, not grand gestures
• 15:30 — AITA case 1: wedding budget conflict, opinion used as a weapon
• 19:00 — AITA case 2: Lego Millennium Falcon, destruction as moral enforcement, shared-home boundaries
• 22:30 — Reflections: how both sides can slip into righteousness and how to course-correct

The arc at a glance

• Pinnacle Villain: Righteous Bully — Opinion as law, truth as a weapon, moral superiority.
• Successful Antagonist: The Fixer — Solves you without consent, resents not being followed.
• Wounded Child: The Pathogen — Blamed for everything, over-responsible, braced for attack.
• Covert Form: The Sacrificial — Abandons their view to avoid conflict, self-bullying through silence.
• Hero: The Surrendered — Releases attachment to being right, aligns with a larger coherence.
• Legend: The Channeler — Becomes a clear instrument for wisdom, not a megaphone for ego.

Key ideas and language

• Weaponised honesty: “I’m just being honest” used to control or shame.
• Ajna fixation: overvaluing thinking and opinion as ultimate truth.
• Righteousness vs justice: righteousness centers the self’s opinion, justice centers reality, repair, and relationship.
• Surrender vs sacrifice: sacrifice abandons self to avoid conflict; surrender chooses alignment and feels relieving, not heavy.

Practices for listeners

1. Three-beat check before you “tell it like it is”
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• What is my intention, really.
• Do I have consent to offer this.
• Can I state this as a perspective rather than a fact.

1. Somatic truth test
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• Say the proposed action aloud and notice your body.
• Surrender tends to feel lighter, more spacious. Sacrifice feels heavy, collapsed, or resentful.

1. Channel, don’t bulldoze
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• Write the guidance you think you are “channeling.”
• Circle what is verifiable vs interpretive.
• If it still feels true after separating opinion from observation, offer it with permission and choice.

1. Daily take-and-give
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• One small “take” for yourself each day, not a big, infrequent blow-up. Nap, boundary, five-minute walk, saying no.

Spotting the Righteous Bully in the wild

• Big blanket statements delivered as moral verdicts.
• Triangulation: “Everyone thinks you’re not nice.”
• Conditional “protection”: “I didn’t call you out because you do good work.”
• Destroying or undermining what others love to make a point.

Case study insights

• Wedding budget fight: Opinion leveraged as moral judgment (“greedy,” “rude”) rather than collaborative planning. The counter-move is to invite shared values, constraints, and consented trade-offs.
• Lego destruction: Moral enforcement by force. The needed boundary is joint in a shared home, with consequence that protects relationship to the child and to each partner’s autonomy.

Reflection prompts

• Where have I called control “honesty.”
• When have I swallowed my voice and called it surrender.
• What does elation feel like in my body, and when did I last feel it while choosing alignment.
• What is one small daily “take” that would keep me out of explosive righteousness.

Pull quotes

• “The Righteous Bully holds their opinion as gospel. The Channeler becomes a vessel for something larger.”
• “Sacrifice abandons yourself. Surrender aligns yourself.”

Glossary

• Ajna center: The mental/third-eye hub where opinions and interpretations crystallise.
• Enneagram 8: Challenger/Enforcer, intensity toward truth, control, and protection.
• Triangulation: Bringing a third party’s supposed view to pressure someone into compliance.

Mentions

• Thanos in Avengers: Infinity War and Endgame, as an exemplar of opinion enforced as salvation.
• Group-work dynamics where covert sacrifice masquerades as peacekeeping.

Resources and next steps

• Take the Inner Villain quiz to locate your current arc, then revisit this episode with your results for practical application.
• Try the “Middle Path” meditation to feel the somatic difference between sacrifice and surrender.

Credits

Host: Kristina Wiltsee, with Anna

Series: Inner Villain → Hero → Legend

Quick guide to this arc

• Villain (Primary): Hungry Shapeshifter
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• Core hunger is attention and specialness. Masters of adopting identities and stories to secure validation.
• Pinnacle Villain: The Thief
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• Steals attention, time, and identity, often unconsciously.
• Successful Antagonist: The Persecutor
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• Uses pressure, performance, and voice to dominate the narrative.
• Wounded Child: The Defensive
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• Highly reactive when the crafted identity is questioned.
• Covert Form: The Entertainer
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• Irresistible at parties, self-deprecating, will “do anything” for a good story.
• Hero: The Fabricator
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• Stops using force, integrates formerly rejected identities, chooses non-violence and nuance.
• Legend: The Present
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• Stillness and presence replace performance. Time “slows” through grounded attention.

How it differs from nearby arcs

• Versus Vain Controller (3): The 3 works to accrue status and resources. The 7 curates identities and stories for attention and specialness.
• Versus Eternal Child (4): The 4 escapes into inner worlds for meaning. The 7 samples identities and external experiences for validation.

Clinical and energetic notes

• Wound: Father wound, with emphasis on identity and power
• Center: Throat (voice, expression)
• Pattern often seen: ADHD tendencies, diffused focus and persona-switching
• Path of healing: Focus, presence, integrity in speech, letting attention be earned by reality rather than performance

Pop-culture anchors

• Loki as the archetypal shapeshifter
• Evelyn in Everything Everywhere All at Once: early ravenous sampling of parallel selves, later pivot to Waymond’s gentler strategy
• Jude Law’s character in I Heart Huckabees: recycled stories for validation, performative charm

Timestamps

• 00:00–03:10 Hello and warm-up, quick recap of arcs 1–6
• 03:10–05:25 Introducing the Hungry Shapeshifter, Father Wound, Throat Center, Enneagram 7
• 05:25–07:30 Specialness and attention as fuel, the cost of consuming others’ identities
• 06:20–07:45 I Heart Huckabees example, story-stealing for validation
• 07:45–10:30 The Thief, unconscious attention-taking, “stealing time,” personal anecdote
• 10:30–12:15 Wounded Child: defensiveness when identity is challenged
• 12:15–13:15 Diagnostic shortcut: when someone feels like a 3 and a 4, look at 7
• 13:15–14:10 Covert form: the Entertainer at parties
• 14:10–16:20 Actors and open throats, personal resonance and life phases
• 16:20–17:25 Multiple active villains over a lifetime, complexity beyond a single arc
• 17:25–19:10 Hero: the Fabricator, Waymond’s non-violence and relational repair
• 19:10–19:55 Legend: The Present, stillness, “the generous present moment”
• 19:55–21:56 AITA reading: “I am an empath,” or attention-seeking
• 22:00–23:26 Real-life example of making another’s crisis about oneself
• 23:26–24:06 ADHD, focus, presence as medicine, close

Practice prompts

• Voice audit: Where do I speak to be seen, rather than to be true
• Story integrity: Which stories do I retell for attention, and are they mine to tell
• Focus training: One commitment, one audience, one promise at a time
• Presence reps: Two minutes of quiet before speaking in a charged moment

Episode glossary

• Father Wound: Distortions around self-worth, identity, power
• Throat Center: Expression, timing, and the compulsion to speak for attention
• Fabricator: Hero form that fabricates reality through choiceful, ethical creation, not performance
• The Present: Legend form, a clear, still field where attention is no longer chased

Mentioned works

• Everything Everywhere All at Once
• I Heart Huckabees

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Credits

• Hosts: Kristina Wiltsee, Anna
• Production: Inner Villain Works

Note: Contains light spoilers for Everything Everywhere All at Once.*

Episode theme: The Divisive Immortal — fear of mortality, safety through control, and how division masquerades as protection.

Core arc mapping

• Enneagram: Type 6 (Loyalist/Loyal Skeptic)
• Human Design: Undefined Splenic Center (safety, instinct)
• Wound: Injustice
• Forms:
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• Successful Antagonist: Catastrophizer
• Wounded Child: Outcast
• Covert: The Faithful (loyalty to creed/leader)
• Hero: Death (turning toward the fear of death)
• Legend: The Healer (body peace, acceptance, service)
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Key takeaways

• Division often sells safety; loyalty can be a currency for borrowed certainty.
• Catastrophizing is a protector with real utility, but not a compass for vision.
• The inversion hinges on intimacy with death and the body, which collapses the control loop.
• Healers midwife people back to their own perfection; they do not replace the journey.

Possible pull-quotes

• “You can’t be a cult leader without the faithful.”
• “I’m great with change I initiate, and panicky with the change I don’t.”
• “The cure for the Divisive Immortal is a relationship with death—then the body softens.”

Before diving in, Anna shares an unexpected update from her own life—how applying lessons from The Second Mouth changed something as simple (and overlooked) as how she pees. What begins as lighthearted banter becomes a surprising doorway into the episode’s theme: the tension between body, emotion, and intellect.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• The Evasive Expert Defined
• How this archetype shows up as the pinnacle villain of the control arc—intelligent, compartmentalized, and emotionally cut off. Linked to the Enneagram 5, the open/undefined solar plexus in Human Design, and the core wound of rejection.
• Pop Culture Mirrors
• Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, Hannibal Lecter, Sherlock Holmes, and Dexter all embody aspects of this archetype—brilliant, contained, but haunted by dark passengers.
• The Wounded Child: The Sensitive
• Stories of early emotional suppression (like a young boy teaching himself not to cry) and how those walls become lifelong strategies.
• The Covert Form: The Compartmentalizer
• How socially “professional” compartmentalization can become a way of hiding feelings rather than processing them.
• The Hero: The Passionate
• Why passion and embodied emotional expression are the way through—and how intellectual brilliance can become grounded in true connection.
• The Legend: The Integrator
• A life where intellect and emotion live side by side, leading to deeper relationships, creativity, and balance.

Key Themes

• The danger of compartmentalization and hidden “dark passengers.”
• The difference between control villains and illusion villains.
• Why bypassing emotion through intellect can look functional, but often hides deeper fractures.
• The importance of somatic and body-based practices for healing.

Trigger Warning

This episode includes discussion of dark passengers such as addiction, hidden lives, and child exploitation. Listener discretion is advised. For resources in the U.S., contact the CyberTipline at 1-800-THE-LOST if you or someone you know needs support.

You’ll hear how this archetype shows up in everyday relationships, the difference between harmless childlike play and destructive immaturity, and why “love bombing” often masks the need to be taken care of. Kristina shares personal stories, literary analysis, and a biting “Am I the Asshole?” example that perfectly illustrates this villain in action.

We also explore the Hero form (The Reflective) and the Legend form (The Traveler), and how travel, self-awareness, and facing reality are key to moving out of the Eternal Child cycle.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• How the Eternal Child confabulates reality vs. intentionally gaslights
• The entitlement of “having your cake and eating it too” in relationships
• Why Peter Pan is a surprisingly dark figure when you read the original story
• How the Eternal Child differs from the Vain Controller (Regina George)
• Real-life and pop culture examples, from Kanye West to Parks & Rec’s Andy
• Practical ways to recognize and invert the Eternal Child archetype

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We unpack:

• Why “people pleasing” is just one face of deeper shape-shifting strategies to stay safe and resourced.
• How the Vain Controller expresses in culture, including its Human Design (undefined heart/ego), Enneagram type (3), and root wound (betrayal).
• The burn book logic of self-sabotage: When controlling image becomes more important than truth.
• The connection between this archetype and narcissistic personality traits—and how healing doesn’t require shame, but rather, courage to be seen.
• The deeper spiritual medicine of trust and redefinition of success that liberates the Inventor (the transformed form of this archetype).
• Why “faking good” might be the most dangerous form of self-abandonment.
• Plus, two Am I the Asshole case studies that illuminate the painful edge between vanity, betrayal, and the fear of losing power.

Key Archetypal Stages Covered:

• Pinnacle Villain: The Vain Controller – The one who would burn down her own castle if it meant staying on top.
• Successful Antagonist: The Influencer – Bulletproof facade, all approval, no intimacy.
• Wounded Child: The Envious – The one who mistakes wealth and appearance for worth.
• Covert Form: The Compliant – Faking good, performing growth, staying hidden behind praise.
• Hero: The Unveiled – Naked truth. Willing to lose clout to find connection.
• Legend: The Inventor – Rebuilding from authentic resources, turning passion into purpose.

We also touch on:

• The time periods and cultural climates that amplify this archetype (hello, 1980s).
• The trap of ambition without desire.
• Why so many “successful” people are secretly crumbling from a lack of real trust.
• And how to recognize when this archetype is showing up in your work, relationships, or self-image.

This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt like they needed to look good while falling apart, or who’s ready to be seen for real—not just admired.

Referenced in the episode:

• Mean Girls (film)
• The Emperor’s New Clothes (folktale)
• Human Design: Undefined Heart/Ego Center
• Enneagram Type 3 (The Achiever)
• “Am I the Asshole?” Reddit posts

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We explore the transformation journey from perfectionist and people-pleaser to the Hero (the Anarchist) and ultimately the Legend (the Equalizer), who is free of internalized hierarchy and embodies true humility and presence.

Archetype Breakdown:

• Pinnacle Villain: The Obedient Critic — uses shame and order to control.
• Successful Antagonist: The Perfectionist — believes perfect behavior can prevent shame.
• Wounded Child: The Impostor — feels inherently outside the system.
• Covert Form: The People Pleaser — overfunctions to relieve pressure and maintain peace.
• Hero: The Anarchist — dismantles internal and external hierarchy.
• Legend: The Equalizer — creates belonging through humility and integrity.

Key Concepts:

• The wound of humiliation leads to rigid systems of control.
• How early childhood environments (e.g. rigid parenting, institutional pressure) shape this archetype.
• The trap of confusing shame avoidance with moral superiority.
• Why the Equalizer isn’t just rebellious—but relational and rooted.
• Releasing “obedience to the system” in favor of creating systems rooted in mutual dignity.

Case Study: Reddit AITA Post Analysis

• Scenario: Husband lies about Valentine’s plans to be with his abusive mother.
• Archetypes:
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• Mother = Obedient Critic
• Husband = People Pleaser (covert)
• Wife = Anarchist in transition
• Themes: Shame, inherited obedience, loyalty vs protection, moral blindness.

Referenced Tools:

• Human Design: Root Center (pressure to act, perform, do)
• Enneagram: Type 1 (Reformer/Perfectionist)
• Drama Triangle: Persecutor (Villain), Victim (Wounded Child), Rescuer (Covert Form)
• Study link: https://www.canonsociaalwerk.eu/1971_stigma/1973%20Rosenhan%20Being%20sane%20in%20insane%20places%20OCR.pdf?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Quotes:

• “You are effectively keeping yourself in a toxic system and calling it integrity.”
• “The Obedient Critic doesn’t want connection—they want order.”
• “Humiliation is the worst possible wound for this archetype. They will do anything to avoid it—even betray love.”

Next Episode:

The Vengeful Martyr — the Villain of Sacrifice and Resentment

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Whether you resonate with Regina George, Darth Vader, or Nurse Ratched, this episode gives you a mythic yet grounded framework for recognizing and alchemizing your deepest inner patterns—one archetype at a time.

Topics Covered:

• The origin story of the Inner Villain system
• Why maladaptive patterns show up in clusters
• How the nine villains align with Human Design centers and Enneagram types
• The concept of “negations” (deep limiting beliefs) and how they point to core villain archetypes
• The development of the oracle deck and game
• Understanding the arc: Pinnacle Villain → Sub-Villains → Hero → Legend
• Inversion as the key spiritual movement (inspired by yoga, polarity, and karmic unwinding)
• How gameplay and roleplay deepen awareness of inner dynamics
• Disney character analogs for each Enneagram/villain archetype pairing

Inner Villain Archetypes Introduced:

• Type 1: Obedient Critic → Legend Form: Equalizer
• Type 2: Vengeful Martyr → Legend Form: Nourisher
• Type 3: Vain Controller → Legend Form: Inventor
• Type 4: Eternal Child → Legend Form: Traveler
• Type 5: Evasive Expert → Legend Form: Integrator
• Type 6: Divisive Immortal → Legend Form: Healer
• Type 7: Hungry Shapeshifter → Legend Form: Presence
• Type 8: Righteous Bully → Legend Form: Channeler
• Type 9: Invisible Destroyer → Legend Form: Architect

Key Quotes:

• “You don’t need to become a better person. You need to become better at change.”
• “Villains are like pendulums—when we’re stressed, we swing into their worst form. When we’re grounded, we move toward the hero.”
• “These aren’t parts. They’re entire universes.”
• “You don’t jump stars—you invert the spin. That’s the hero moment.”
• “Everyone has all nine villains. The goal is self-love across every domain of your life.”

Game Mechanics Preview:

• Oracle deck includes 63 cards: 9 Pinnacle Villains, 3 Sub Villains (Persecutor, Victim, Rescuer), Hero, Legend, and 9 Power Cards
• Designed for solo shadow work or group gameplay
• Involves roleplay, self-inquiry, and archetypal progression
• Roleplay scenarios bring unconscious patterns into awareness through embodied practice

Resources & Links:

• Learn more or sign up for the newsletter: www.kristinawiltsee.com or www.playconscious.com
• Be notified when the Inner Villain Oracle Deck Kickstarter launches (Fall 2025)
• Explore the nine mini-episodes coming soon—one for each villain archetype

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Also in today’s episode:

• Training your pelvic “second mouth”
• Outlive by Dr. Peter Attia
• Tapping into cold (and heat) therapy for women
• The science of stress recovery
• Using physics to explain exercise?!
• Why visualizing your workout changes everything

Anna & Kristina’s Hacks for Women’s Health and Fitness Over 40:

• Rethink the Pelvic Floor: Learn to open rather than clench using insights from The Second Mouth by Dr. Nicole Fleischman
• Visualize Success: Picture your next workout before bed and first thing in the morning
• Shift Your Strength Strategy: Focus on 6–8 reps of heavy weights, not endless light reps
• Use Your Car as a Posture Trainer: Red lights = pec stretches + headrest alignment
• Try Japanese Interval Walking: Alternate 3 minutes fast / 3 minutes slow for 30 minutes total
• Tune Into Your Cycle: Do more strength in your follicular phase, recover more during luteal
• Stop Fasting (Especially Before Workouts): Women need to fuel before they move
• Cold Plunges? Maybe Not: Women benefit more from sauna (2–3x/week for 20 mins)
• Embrace HIIT Smarter: 30 seconds all-out, 90 seconds recovery, repeat up to 5 rounds
• Fix Your Protein Intake: Combine collagen with pea protein milk for a complete protein
• Sleep Matters More Than You Think: Especially for women—8 to 10 hours is ideal

Referenced Books, Podcasts, & People:

• The Second Mouth by Dr. Nicole Fleischman
• Outlive: The Science and Art of Longevity by Dr. Peter Attia
• Mel Robbins Podcast featuring Dr. Stacy Sims
• Dr. Stacy Sims — Expert in female physiology and fitness science
• Paul Lewis – Personal Trainer and Mediator
• Vital Proteins Collagen Peptides
• Ashtanga Yoga with Laruga
• Use Interval Timer App for HIIT workouts
• Substitute weights with bags of kitty litter for home training
• Do your posture exercises while driving—because multitasking can be healing

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Conscious Wealth Investors

12 Miraculous Moments

How do we repair the Sibling Wound? The same way we repair any relationship, only this relationship has more history and key characters. In today’s episode you will discover realistic expectations to healing your sibling bond, and a step-by-step plan to repair it. We hope you enjoy listening!

Five Levels of a Disharmonious Relationship:

Level 1: 0-20% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 2: 20-40% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 3: 40-60% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 4: 60-80% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 5: 80-100% of interactions are disharmonious

Five Tips to Heal A Sibling Wound:

1) Forgiveness (Emotional)

2) Feed Your Demon / Family Constellation (Mental)

3) The 360 Life Review

4) Conversation with your Sibling

5) Mediation with your Sibling (optional)

Episodes Referenced In this Episode:

1.14 Hooponopono / True Forgiveness

2.07 The Drama Triangle

4.11 Near Death Experiences

6.16 Reconnecting

6.17 Siblings

Books Referenced:

Limitless Book

The Four Agreements

John Gottman’s New Book

Celestine Prophecy

Links:

Harvesting Your Own Seeds

Me+ App (ADHD Calendar)

Pearls (Daily Book Summaries)

How To Feed Your Demons

Robbie Houcek Contact (Shaman)

Paul Lewis Contact (Mediator)

Common sense caution: This is a guided meditation and may put you into a trance state, do not listen to it while driving, or other performing activities that require your full attention.

Note:

This meditation pairs well with episode 6.19 on Elementals.

Here are the symbols and a brief description of what they mean:

☉ Conscious Sun – Your Divine Invitation

Your conscious sun is the most important placement in your chart and is the “aim” the soul wants to experience. It makes up about 70% of your energy. Everything else in the chart supports the suns brightest expression.

⊕ Conscious Earth – Your Stability

The energy that keeps you grounded, stable, and able to show up authentically.

Note: The conscious sun and earth are part of your incarnation cross. I do a deep dive on all four gates of your incarnation cross in the human design map.

☽ Conscious Moon – Your Relationship with Self

How you relate to your intuition, emotions, and needs. Often, the moon will be a significant part of your inner dialogue and the way you talk yourself through situations.

☊ and ☋ Conscious Nodes – Your Petri Dish of Purpose

The way you will observe your own growth and expansion. From birth until Uranus Opposition, the south node is the petri dish, and after Uranus Opposition, the north node takes over.

☿ Conscious Mercury – Your Currency

How you communicate and exchange value with your energy (aka not what you are saying, what you are being).

♀ Conscious Venus – Your Sense of Beauty

What you find beautiful about life and likely to place immense value on.

♂ Conscious Mars – Your Poison Arrow

The thing you must express in the world lest it poisons your mind, body, and spirit

♃ Conscious Jupiter – Your Expansion Excellerator

The thing that expands your consciousness when embodied in the high frequency and shuts down your consciousness when embodied in the low frequency

♄ Conscious Saturn – Your Caution Light

The thing you must keep in check to receive the bounty of Jupiter.

♅ Conscious Uranus – Your Quirks

The unusual or unique thing about how you express that energy. These tend to be more generational than personal because of the long transit time.

♆ Conscious Neptune – Your Maya

The illusions you get trapped in and fight to escape. This also tends to be more generational because of transit time.

♇ Conscious Pluto – Your Key of Truth

The things that unlocks the truth in your expression.

Links:

Christe Inge Gates Library

Free Personalized Chart

Pictures of Charts Discussed in the Episode

Links:

Siblings without Rivalry

Freakanomics Chapter on Parenting

Siblings Influence on Each Other

Encanto

Indomitable Blackman Episode

Links:

Paul Lewis - coach and mediator Immortal Executive

Italian Retreat with Kristina October 6 - 12, 2024

Hanna at Bridge to Connection

How Not to Murder Your Partner in a Pandemic

From Stacy:

I am a Spiritual Medium, Channeling Artist, End-of-life Doula, Mom, wife and a Soul that is becoming truer to myself with each passing day. Shame and guilt will always be things I work through as they're deep in my ancestry but I know now that I can love and accept all parts of me without judgement. Please remember that you are not alone and you're perfect as you are. Thank you for allowing me to use my voice and speak my truth! Sending so much love and gratitude to you all 💙 

If you want to stay in touch you can reach me at:

Stacy.carlson.soul.speak@gmail.com

On TikTok and Instagram:

@stacy.carlson.soul.speak

Have you ever experienced the sadness of feeling rejected ? In this informative episode you will learn how to recognize the ways in which the rejection wound shows up in your every day life. Our hosts discuss how “fugitive” behavior is the coping mechanism to protect oneself from this wound. And, they explore tools and experiences that helped them forgive and love their own sense of rejection.

Did you enjoy this episode? Explore our other episodes on the primal wounds of abandonment, injustice, betrayal, and humiliation.

If you liked this episode, click here to learn about our five week masterclass on healing The Mother Wound.

PDF Download:

1.16 Summary of the Rejection Wound

Healing Packet:

Heal your Injustice Wound

Quiz:

What is your primary wound ? Click here.

Links:

I Am That, by Nisargadatta Maharaj

Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self, By Lise Bourbeau

How to Feed Your Demons

Rejection-Proof your Inner Child, video by Marisa Peer

Uncompromised Life 8-week Course by Marisa Peer

Where is My Mind, by the Pixies

Kristina leads this conversation, exploring the wound of Betrayal. Have you ever experienced the emotional assault of feeling betrayed? In this episode you will learn how to recognize the ways in which the betrayal wound shows up in your every day life. Anna and Kristina explore how controlling behavior is the coping mechanism to protect oneself from this wound. They discuss how self-trust is the ultimate lesson for the betrayal wound, and how you can develop that. They explore tools and experiences that helped them forgive and love their own sense of betrayal.

Did you enjoy this episode? Explore our other episodes in this seven part series: forgiveness, abandonment, rejection, injustice, humiliation, insight, and compassion.

If you liked this episode, click here to learn about our five week masterclass on healing The Mother Wound.

PDF Download:

1.19 Summary of the Betrayal Wound

Healing Packet:

Heal Your Betrayal Wound

Quiz:

What is your primary wound ? Click here.

Links:

Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self, By Lise Bourbeau

How to Feed Your Demons

In this fifth episode in our eight part series on the Primal Wounds, our cohosts explore the final primal wound, the wound of Humiliation. Have you ever experienced the feelings of shame and unworthiness wrapped up in the the pain of humiliation? In this episode you will learn how to recognize the ways in which the humiliation wound shows up in your every day life. Anna and Kristina explore how masochistic behavior (self-suffering) is the coping mechanism to protect oneself from this wound. And, they explore tools and experiences that helped them forgive and love their own sense of humiliation.

Did you enjoy this episode? Explore our other episodes on the primal wounds of abandonment, rejection, injustice, and betrayal. 

If you liked this episode, click here to learn about our five week masterclass on healing The Mother Wound.

PDF Download:

1.18 Summary of the Humiliation Wound

Healing Packet:

Heal your Humiliation Wound

Quiz:

What is your primary wound ? Click here.

Links:

Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self, By Lise Bourbeau

How to Feed Your Demons

Links:

Have you ever experienced the rage and indignation of injustice? Do you find the people who don’t agree with you, “beneath you?” Have you ever wanted to even the scales or take revenge? In this episode you will learn how to recognize the ways in which the injustice wound shows up in your every day life. Kristina and Anna explore how “rigid” behavior is the coping mechanism to protect oneself from this wound. We will explore tools and experiences that help us forgive and love their own sense of injustice. And you can do it, too!

If you liked this episode, click here to learn about our five week masterclass on healing The Mother Wound.

PDF Download:

1.17 Summary of the Injustice Wound

Healing Packet:

Heal Your Injustice Wound

Quiz:

What is your primary wound ? Click here.

Links:

Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self, By Lise Bourbeau

How to Feed Your Demons

LET NO MAN PULL YOU LOW ENOUGH TO HATE HIM.

- MARTIN LUTHER KING

HATE CANNOT DRIVE OUT HATE. ONLY LOVE CAN DO THAT.

- MARTIN LUTHER KING

Theo is a second year doctoral student studying Early Modern English Literature, specializing in Sexual Diversity studies. Theo has a Master’s degree in English Literature from the University of Toledo, and a Master’s degree in Medieval Icelandic studies from the University of Iceland. Theo studies trans theory, asexuality studies, queer theory and pre-modernity.

In this second episode the Primal Wounds Again, Anna takes us on a journey to explore the first primal wound of Abandonment. Have you ever experienced the pain of feeling abandoned ? In this fascinating episode you will learn how to recognize the ways in which the abandonment wound shows up in your every day life. Anna and Kristina discuss how codependent behavior is the coping mechanism to protect oneself from this wound. And, they explore tools and experiences that helped them forgive and love their own sense of abandonment.

Did you enjoy this episode? Explore our other episodes on the primal wounds of rejection, injustice, betrayal, and humiliation.

PDF Download:

1.15 Summary of the Abandonment Wound

Heal Your Abandonment Package:

Here

Quiz:

What is your primary wound ? Click here.

Links:

Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self, By Lise Bourbeau

How to Feed Your Demons

On Children, poem by Kahlil Gibran

Rejection-Proof your Inner Child, video by Marisa Peer

RB Martinez is a Gemini sun, Scorpio moon and rising, who lives in Tampa, Florida.

This dialogue is about how forgiveness sets you free from the burden of suffering, and also collapses the story that keeps you stuck. Kristina discusses “True Forgiveness” from A Course in Miracle, as taught by Gary Renard. Anna discusses Ho'oponopono as taught by Dr. Hew Lin. If you want to learn the art of collapsing dimensions, which opens the door to new possibilities, you won’t want to miss this episode

PDF Download:

1.14 Six Methods for Forgiveness

Quiz:

What kind of villain are you?

What is Your Primary Wound?

Links:

The Original Episode (S1, Ep 14)

A Course in Miracles

The Disappearance of the Universe by Gary Renard

Ho’oponopono on Wikipedia

Original Ho’oponopono Prayer by Mornah Nalamaku Simeona

Zero Limits by Dr. Joe Vitale

Links:

Thirteen Days of Wishes

Synchronicities Practice

Feng Shui Episode

Society of Snow

200 Bodies on Mount Everest

Links:

Personal Energy App

Marie Diamond’s Website

Feng Shui Your Life

Double Hearts Rose Quartz

Globe

TSF Feng Shui Episode

Links:

Celestine Prophecy

Lawson Patterson

ChatGPT

Links:

Neale Donald Walsch

GodTalk

Links:

Cleaning Episode

Groundhog Day

Hydrogen Peroxide

Links:

Free Human Design Chart

Part One of Human Design

Chicken Soup Recipe

Links:

C B Strike

Invasion

Leave the World Behind

Declutter Reddit Post

Disclaimer: This episode had an unexpected sound-glitch. We apologize for the nature of the sound quality in this episode.

Get your Human Design Chart

Links:

Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft

You can’t get in trouble

Villain Quiz

Chart comparing villain and abusers

Links:

Infrasound

Practical Magic, Film

Villain Quiz

Kristina walks us through her three-step process: 

1) Identify and clear where your money wound is located

2) Identify and unenroll your money detractors

3) Find and move yourself to your new money universe

Trigger warning: suicide and self-injury.

Links:

The Money Wound, Part I

The Money Wound, Part II

The Money Wound, Part III

Ken Honda on Mind Valley

Self Harm Study 

Self Injury

Van Gogh’s Ear

Channelled Message about Universes

Also discussed today: Jamais vu, deja vu, and new Mandela Effects.

Links:

Lawson Patterson

John Edwards

Jamais Vu

Snape Cult

New Mandela Effect

Reddit Ghost Stories

Halloween Special (2022)

Halloween Special (2021)

Drake is the official hypnotist to the U.S. Olympic Cycling and has more than 40 years’ experience in the field of hypnotism. He and his wife maintain a thriving private practice with offices in the Denver Metro area. He works with clients globally via telephone, Zoom, and Skype. His wife works with women facing fertility challenges.

One of the most prolific authors in contemporary hypnotism, Drake has written seven books on the subject, several of which are used in hypnotherapy trainings globally. His books include The Power of the Past (healing through regression hypnotherapy); Power Patter (a script book for hypnotherapists); The Therapeutic Hypnotist (become the best therapeutic hypnotist you can be); The Power of Suggestion—What Every Hypnotist Needs to Know; No Time to Waist—Powerful Hypnotic Weight Loss Secrets You NEED to Know, and the definitive work on his profession, What Is Hypnosis? Drake’s most recent publication The Hypnotist’s Bible—A Reference and A Journey was released in 2019.

Links:

Drake's Website

The conflict here is deeply rooted in historical, political, and religious complexities with injustices and violence on both sides. We must understand clearly that terrorism is never justified. No innocent human deserves to experience terror or violence. It's important to remember at this time that the actions of Hamas, a terrorist group, do not represent the beliefs of all Palestinians, nor do they represent the beliefs of all Muslims. The Israeli government's perspective is that swift and decisive retaliatory action is the only way terrorists like Hamas can be defeated. The Israeli government is not all Jews, just as Hamas is not all Palestinians. We wish for a speedy end to this war and for as few civilian deaths as possible on both sides. 

Today, we would like to say a prayer for peace. For ourselves, for the children of Israel, for the children of Palestine, and for the children and inner children all over this planet. Polarization is a seed that can grow into violence, and to break our ties with polarity we must build our capacity for tolerance. Participating in active compassion practices for the children of the Middle East is a way for each and everyone of us to begin to bridge the divide and work towards a more peaceful future. 

Compassion for children is an excellent starting point for this journey towards unity. As your compassion for innocent children on both sides of the border grows, you can build upon your compassion for their mothers, fathers, aunts, and uncles.

The suffering of children is a tragic consequence of our collective failure, and it is our responsibility as adults to work towards a more peaceful and inclusive world. As much as possible in these coming weeks, and years, please set aside your differences, your hurts, your political idealisms, and prioritize the well-being of all children as we strive for a brighter future.

And now, a small prayer:

Love is above me. 

Love is below me. 

Love is to my left. 

Love is to my right. 

Love is before me.

Love is behind me. 

Love comes to me. 

Love comes from me.

Love to the children of Israel.

Love to the children of Palestine.

Love to the children of the Earth.

Love to the Universe. 

Peace is above me. 

Peace is below me. 

Peace is to my left. 

Peace is to my right. 

Peace is before me. 

Peace is behind me. 

Peace comes to me. 

Peace comes from me. 

Peace to the children of Palestine.

Peace to the children of Israel.

Peace to the children of the Earth.

Peace to the Universe. 

Love is above me. 

Love is below me. 

Love is to my left. 

Love is to my right. 

Love is before me.

Love is behind me. 

Love comes to me. 

Love comes from me.

Love to the children of Palestine.

Love to the children of Israel.

Love to the children of the Earth.

Love to the Universe. 

Peace is above me. 

Peace is below me. 

Peace is to my left. 

Peace is to my right. 

Peace is before me. 

Peace is behind me. 

Peace comes to me. 

Peace comes from me. 

Peace to the children of Israel.

Peace to the children of Palestine.

Peace to the children of the Earth.

Peace to the Universe. 

Links:

For those who wish to help people affected by the humanitarian crisis resulting from the October 2023 armed conflict in Israel and Gaza, you can donate to the Red Cross. Write “Middle East Humanitarian Crisis” in the memo line of a check and mail it with a completed donation form to the address on the form or to their local Red Cross chapter. Your donation will be used by the Red Cross Movement where it’s needed most to help all those in the impacted region.

Also discussed today: quantum immortality.

Ten Steps to Healing Your Money Wound

STEP 1) Recognize your Money Type.

+Saver: love saving money. Motivation:control- safety and security. Strength:create security Weakness: fugitive, not connect to conserve energy. (Need more fun, often marry spenders)

+Spender: love spending money. Motivation: control, enjoyment. Strength: trust life, flow Weakness: exhausts himself, out of balance, can’t stop (addictive). (need more security, often marry savers)

+Money-Maker: love making money. Motivation: control - creation. Strength willpower, determined Weakness: forget about other important things.

= Indifferent: love saving money. Motivation: flow, stress-free. Strength: trust in life, focuses on purpose Weakness: lack of someone to support them can lead to problems.

- Hippie/ Monk: money is bad. Motivation: fear. Strength:larger purpose, humanitarian Weakness: disconnected, don’t have the resources to follow their dreams.

-Saver/ splurger: save up for a long time then spend it all. Motivation: fear. Strength:flexibility Weakness: guilt and shame.

-Worrier: worry no matter how much I have. Motivation: fear. Strength:see problems before they come Weakness: paralyzed with fear. Don’t take risks.

-Gambler: takes big risks with money. Motivation: fear. Strength:healthy risks, possibilities Weakness: risky, can loose a lot in thrill of the hunt.

STEP 2) Recognize the Money Type of your Partner to understand any financial misunderstandings.

STEP 3) Recognize your Archetype and Feed Your Demon/s of Ignorance, Entitlement, Scarcity.

Feed Your Demon YouTube video.

STEP 4) Address your needs for Security, Power, Significance, Freedom, and/or Love Through IFS.

Our IFS episode, here.

STEP 5) Address your Money Traumas.

Examine Core Wounds (before age three), Past Traumas, Family Trauma, Family Beliefs Socialization, and Culture and their influences on your beliefs. Make a Money Family Tree to recognize belief patterns and money type patterns.

STEP 6) Automatic Writing to Examine Hidden Beliefs.

Write at the top of a piece of paper, “The Reason I Can’t [Insert Wealth Goal Here] is because . . . “ and then examine what unconscious beliefs come up. Let your hand just write anything, uncensored.

STEP 7) Practice Arigato In / Arigato Out (Gratitude when money comes in, and when it leaves).

STEP 8) Address Your Money Container,

Recognize where your money leaks are. Play with how it feels to expand or contract your money container. Examine what beliefs or emotions that come up with you expand or contract.

STEP 9) Play with Your Perception of the Impossible and the Inevitable.

Perform the NLP exercise of recognize where you hold “inevitable,” “possible,” “and 'impossible” dreams and goals. Practice moving the impossible to the possible and then to the inevitable.

STEP 10) Remember: You will make the most money doing what you love.

Meditate on your PURPOSE: your soul’s big WHY, your PASSION: essence that fulfills you, your HIGH VALUE GIFTS: What are you better than others at, what do people come to you for? And your CHALLENGES: what has the universe taught you over and over again?

Links:

The Money Wound, Part I

The Money Wound, Part II

Creative Visualization

Ken Honda on Mind Valley

IFS Episode

The Discovery (Film about Quantum Immortality)

Trance Episode

Mother Wound Episode

Father Wound Episode

Silva Mind Control (MindValley)

Sacred Wealth Code

Links

Tetris Study with Combat Veterans

Tetris Study in the ER

Tetris Study

Tetris, the Movie

Tetris, the App

Leanne is a Therapist, Healer and Trans-Channel for a Source Frequency Collective Consciousness known as The Galayla Collective, who specialize in assisting souls to master Manifestation at the highest level through intricate and detailed teachings around the nature of Divinity, the Human experience and the very fabric of Reality itself. Leanne and The Galayla Collective are here to support The New Paradigm of Manifestation and the anchoring in of 6th dimensional consciousness on the planet, going far beyond the 5D Frequencies into all levels of our Multidimensionality, tapping into our raw Power as Source Energy in Human Form. Aswell as assisting souls to Create the life they desire in all areas, without sacrifice, they also specialise in helping souls discover their Core Source Frequency Vision and Legacy so they can birth and build their highest Purpose into the world with an impact that is designed to serve the highest frequencies of Love across the planet.

Links:

The Money Wound, Part I

Leanne Rose’s Website

Leanne Rose’s Instagram

First, we discuss two recent, groundbreaking, studies revealing that on average, female surgeons achieve better short-term and long-term patient outcomes compared to their male counterparts. The results revealed that patients treated by female surgeons were more likely to experience lower mortality rates and fewer complications (like infection or stroke) compared to patients treated by male surgeons.

Then, we explore Madeline Murdock's Heroine's Journey, a concept inspired by Joseph Campbell's monomyth. The concept was developed by renowned author and mythologist, Maureen Murdock, as a response to the predominantly male-focused hero's journey. The heroine's journey focuses on the unique challenges and transformative experiences faced by female protagonists.

The stages of the heroine’s journey include:

- Separation from the Feminine: the heroine embarks on a quest for self-discovery, breaking away from societal expectations and limitations.

- Initiation and Descent: She faces trials, confronts her fears, and undergoes a transformative experience that leads to personal growth.

- Return and Integration: the heroine integrates her newfound wisdom and strength into her life, creating positive change in herself and her community.

Links:

Female Surgeons

Maureen Murdock

Joseph Campbell

Heroine’s Journey

Icelandic Board Requirements

Near Death Experience Episode

Anna’s NDE in a British Tabloid

The Alien is Cake!

Down Girl, by Kate Manne

We will discuss what other topics this season will bring: a revisit of the Primal Wounds, The Money Wound, Predictive Astrology, and the Villain Archetypes that play a role in the Drama Triangle.

Links:

All Songs in Public Domain

The Missing Step (Song)

Soul Type Quiz

Private Sessions with Kristina

The Money Wound Episode

In this episode Anna and Kristina discuss topics and themes from his teachings including channelling, bravery, self-love, and spirituality.

Also discussed today: Matt’s latest book titled "All for Love," a guidebook that explores the transformative power of holding space for others.

Links:

Matt Kahn’s Website

Matt Kahn’s YouTube Channel

What it Means to Become Conscious, YouTube

Sounds True

Matt Kahn Course (HayHouse)

Links:

Money Course on MindValley with Ken Honda

Ken Honda Money Personality Test

Astrology- 12 Houses

Links:

Sold A Story Podcast (On Literacy)

Inner Dialogue (TikTok)

Teaching Myself to Read and Inner Monologue (TikTok)

Inner Dialogue Stats

Links:

Gardening Bag

Gardening Tools

Special guest appearance: Anna’s husband, Eric Stromquist.

Links:

Yellowjackets, TV Series

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

TSF NLP Episode

NLP reddit

Also discussed today: pitfalls to spiritual growth, and essentially the entire plot of the movie, Interstellar.

Links:.

4.08 Art of War Episode

Interstellar, 2014 Film

Einstein’s Dreams, Book

All for Love, Book

Aristotle & Causes

TikTok on Hope

1. What tasks do you enjoy?
2. What “should” you be doing?
3. What are you capable of?

This is an episode where we bypass topics such as “the mental load” or “weaponized incompetence” and venture instead into how to make your home more harmonious.

Also discussed today: work flow, breaking mental states, self perceived rating systems, and compassion.

Also discussed today: mysterious mass illnesses, PTSD, The Salem Witch Trials, and the Pied Piper of Hamlin.

Links:

Steenburgen

Synesthesia and PTSD

Stroke and Synesthesia

Dropping Keys, Hafiz

Polishing the Mirror, Rumi

The Laziest Son, Rumi

The Mouse and the Frog, Rumi

Rise O' Day from your fathomless deep, Leaves of Grass, Walt Whitman

Siddhartha, Herman Hesse

Some speculate these disappearances are linked to Bigfoot, cryptids, aliens, or other paranormal activity. A more rational explanation is that these disappearances are simply the result of accidents or foul play. However, this doesn't explain why so many people seem to vanish without a trace. Where do you think these people are going?

Also discussed today: human memory, dementia, and internal family systems.

Links:

David Paulides

The National Park Service

The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat

Internal Family Systems Episode

Unknown White Male

Map of Missing Persons and Caves

Disappearances, Article

The Changeling, Film

Corporal Armando Valdez

Missing Man in Michigan

Links:

I Know my First Name is Steven, (1989) film

Bringing Up Bebe, book

Velvet Beans

Screen Time Statistics

Increasing Dopamine Naturally, article

AI Apology

Also discussed on this episode: Scorpio Moons, intensity, crop circles, Arcturians, the Greys, and Star Seeds.

Links:

Julius Obsequens

Nuremberg

Rendlesham Forest

Jacques Vallee

Dr. Steven Greer 

NPR UFO Report

Congress Reports

Pentagon and UFOs

Star Seeds

Tom Kenyan

Fire in the Sky

Links:

The Secret Life of Plants

A Brave New World

Robot Suicide

Your Body is Your Subconscious Mind

Robot Suicide HITC

Pluto in Aquarius: March 23 through June 11, 2023. January 20 - September 1, 2024 and then November 19th, 2024 through March 8, 2043.

Links:

Astro Cafe Astrology (Free Birth Chart)

Sun Sign (Style Caster Article)

Astrology Episode Part Two. Episode 5.07 (Venus and Ascendant)

Astrology Episode Part One. Episode 5.02 (Mars & Mercury)

Get your free Milkweed Seeds for Monarch Butterflies by sending a self addressed envelope to:

Live Monarch - 2023 Seed Campaign

PO BOX 1339

Blairsville, Georgia 30514

Links:

The Secret Life of Plants

Sleep with Bees (DIY Plans)

Electroculture Website

Simone Gatto Website

Pyramids

TikTok Before & Afters

Fantastic Funghi (Netflix)

The Incredible Journey of Plants

Guardian Article

Harvard Science Review Article

Monarch Foundation for Free Seeds

ELECTROCULTURE UPDATE

On Thursday evening, after the show was recorded, Anna tested her electroculture research by wrapping a copper wire around a stick, and burying it halfway in a pot with a very slow-growing lavender plant in it. She has an identical pot with an identical lavender plant in it that did not get the electroculture. After 36 hours the electroculture plant was taller and wider.

Both plants receive the same amount of sun, water, and are made from the same bag of soil dirt.

If the images are not showing up on your app, click here to and scroll down to see them.

Lavender Plant, Receiving No Electroculture, April 29, 2023

The Marrying Yourself Journey begins with engagement to one's Self so that Self-care becomes the priority. The course moves through different modules, step-by-step, geared to help the student learn to anchor, partner, and cherish their Selves.

Upon the wedding day, Deva Joy's students commit to love, honor, and obey their multidimensional Self, expanding in presence with the vows they to their Self.

The Marrying Yourself Journey is not really a workshop or course. It is a passageway that changes your relationship with yourself for the rest of your life. 

You can sign up for it at themarryingyourselfjourney.com. 

Meet the panel here!

On this TSF Short we are looking at the evolving intelligence of crows, as well as artificial intelligence. What does the future have in store for us?

Links:

A Thought Experiment on the Intelligence of Crows (TED Talk)

Crows in Japan

The CrowBox (DIY Vending Machine)

ChatGPT

AI & Mind-Reading

Music by AntipodeanWriter on AI Music Clip Pixabay

Links:

The Secret Life of Plants, Book

Good Karma Murder Suicide

Research Article

Chakras of the World

Also discussed today: PMEF mats, grounding technology, astral travel, and the Nasca Lines of Peru.

Links:

Labor, Song by Paloma Paris

Earthing Products

Research on Grounding

MagnaWave PMEF Mat

Bemer PMEF Mat

Higher Dose

The Hand Sculpted House, Book

Matangeshvara Temple, Khajuraho

Sanctuary of Chimayo, New Mexico

Nazca Lines (scroll down to images)

Loretto Staircase, New Mexico

Schuman Resonances

PMEF Research

Top 9 Religious Places in the World

Sikh Man Removes Turban

Also discussed today: The Mandela Effect and glitches in the Matrix.

Links:

What is the Mandela Effect?

Examples of Mandela Effect (YouTube)

Reddit Story (Glitch in the Matrix)

OOLA

The Beatles Never Broke Up

Feng Shui (map)

Feng Shui Guide

Movies About Alternative Timelines

Everything, Everywhere, All at Once (movie, 2022, recent Oscar winner!)

The Butterfly Effect (movie, 2004)

Run Lola, Run (movie, 1998)

The Discovery (movie, 2017)

Another Earth (movie, 2011)

Entangled (movie, 2019)

The OA (series, 2016)

Stranger Things (series, 2016)

Also discussed today: chance encounters, the Dalai Lama, ADHD, and neurodivergent hacks to cleaning.

Resources:

Small Batch of Water, Bleach and Tide for wiping counters/floors:

1. 4 cups of hot water.
2. 4 teaspoons of bleach.
3. 1/2 teaspoon of powdered Tide®

Speed Cleaning Method:

1. Begin in the left hand corner and move clockwise, carrying Two Bins (one to return misplaced items, one for trash). Move around the room.
2. Put everything away that was not trash.
3. Start again, same circle, carrying a bucket of cleaning supplies. Clean & Wipe all countertop surfaces/dusting and throw the crumbs onto the floor.
4. Vacuum/Mop/Vacuum the floors.

Links:

Little Buddha, Movie

Dad Can’t Keep Up with the Pressure

Marie Kondo Quits

Bleach, Love, Pray

Go Clean Co Handbook

Go Clean Co Instagram

Speed Cleaning, by Jeff Campbell Book

Atomic Habits, by James Clear Book

My Soul Balm, Article on Neurodivergent Cleaning

Marisa Peer Hypnosis for Organization (Code THANKYOU for $30 off)

Fabuloso, Anna’s Favorite Cleaner

Cardboard for Folding Laundry (helpful with kids!)

Pot Scraper

Anna’s Favorite Mop

Anna’s Favorite Vacuum

Anna’s Favorite Sponges

Cleaning is Hard Facebook Group

Sweepy App

Today, Dr. Lisha addresses healing from sexual assault and childhood trauma. She works with private clients, group classes and students through her program and on-line university.

Links:

Contact Dr. Lisha

Dr. Lisha’s TikTok

From Bondage to Happiness, Book

Links:

Astro Cafe Astrology (Free Birth Chart)

Crazy Heart Memorial

Part One of our Astrology (Ep. 5.02)

Astrology Chart (Free)

The Houses (Summarized)

Domicile vs Exaltation vs Detriment vs Fall

Ascendants on Celebrities

We will look at behaviors and mental habits that reflect both a mature and immature way of approaching the world.

Also discussed: attachment styles, parental forgiveness, and the drama triangle.

Links & Resources:

Marisa Peer’s Releasing Grudges Hypnosis (Code THANKYOU gets $30 off)

Tell Me Lies on Hulu

4.11 Near Death Experiences (Joyce Anastasia)

Movies: Turning Red, Coco, Encanto, Everything Everywhere All At Once

Yours Truly 12-Week Course

Grudge: Etymology. A variant of grutch (mid 15th-century, younger than begrudge), from Middle English grucchen (“to murmur, complain, feel envy, begrudge”), from Old French grouchier, groucier (“to murmur, grumble”), of Germanic origin, akin to Middle High German grogezen (“to howl, wail”), German grocken (“to croak”).

Schadenfreude: noun, satisfaction or pleasure felt at someone else's misfortune.

No Man is an Island

No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as any manner of thy friends or of thine own were; any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind. And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee. Olde English Version No man is an Iland, intire of itselfe; every man is a peece of the Continent, a part of the maine; if a Clod bee washed away by the Sea, Europe is the lesse, as well as if a Promontorie were, as well as if a Manor of thy friends or of thine owne were; any mans death diminishes me, because I am involved in Mankinde; And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; It tolls for thee.

MEDITATION XVII Devotions upon Emergent Occasions John Donne

Links:

Episode 4.04

Jay’s Website

Internal Family Systems

Linked In Courses

Yours Truly 12-Week Course

Today we interview Gabriel "Gabe" Hannans, The Indomitable Black Man on TikTok. Gabe is a beloved behavioral therapist and author of the book, "This is Parenting!" Discover in this interview what kind of parenting you experienced as a child. How does this style of parenting show up in your daily inner dialogue? What subtle shifts can you make to help heal your inner child? And, if you are a parent, how effective is your parenting?

Links:

Gabe

Instagram

Youtube

GoFundMe

Tiktok

We will look at behaviors that have become commonplace in our culture but speak to an antiquated immature way of approaching the world.

Also discussed today: The Peter Pan Syndrome, snooping, and psychopaths.

Links:

Dan Savage on Snooping

Hilarious Tiktok

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

Motherwound

Fatherwound

DSM 5 : Antisocial Personality Disorder

Peter Pan Syndrome

"Everyone grows old, but not everyone grows up." - Osho

You will want to know your Mercury and Mars placement before listening to this episode. You can find that here.

Also discussed: preparing for Mars and Mercury retrograde, things to do to lessen its effects on you, your “big three” astrological placements, and using astrology to parent your children.

Mars in Retrograde:

• October 30, 2022 - January 12, 2023, in Gemini.

Mercury in Retrograde:

• December 29, 2022 - January 18, 2023, in Capricorn.
• April 21, 2023 - May 14, 2023, in Taurus.
• August 23, 2023 - September 15, 2023, in Virgo.
• December 13, 2023 - January 1, 2024 in Sagittarius.

Links:

Astrology Chart (Free)

Mercury Placement, Allure

Protection

Mars Placement

Regulate Your Nervous System (Jay Fields Episode)

Domicile vs Exaltation vs Detriment vs Fall

Today’s episode is an invitation for you to join us in exploring and healing the third chakra. This season will be about personal power, growing up, and selfless devotion. Thank you for being part of this community!

Also discussed today: Hocus Pocus, our change in episode frequency, favorite episodes from season four.

the small man

builds cages for everyone

he

knows.

While the sage,

who has to duck his head

when the moon is low,

keeps dropping keys all night long

for the

beautiful

rowdy

prisoners.

- hafiz

Links:

Nine Types of Bhakti

Jay Fields Episode

Third Chakra

Also discussed today: geology, paranormal activity, and then ten most haunted cities in the United States.

p.s. We magically bound this episode to ensure no residual effects of the topics mentioned.

Links:

Last Year's Halloween Special

Geology Article #1

Geology Article #2

Ten Most Haunted Cities in America (USA)

Enjoy a lighthearted conversation between seasons. Today we discuss our favorite and most challenging episodes in season four, and give some teasers for season five.

the small man

builds cages for everyone

he

knows.

While the sage,

who has to duck his head

when the moon is low,

keeps dropping keys all night long

for the

beautiful

rowdy

prisoners.

- hafiz

Links:

Bridge to Connection

TikTok

If you are experiencing an abusive relationship, find resources here.

Links:

Trauma Bonding, by Lauren Kozlowski

TRE exercise

Galayla Collective

Yours Truly Course

EFT Tapping

Reiki vs Placebo

Sukyo Mahikari

Acupuncture

Exposure Therapy

Legalities of DMT

Marisa Peer (Hypnosis)

What is Ahuayasca

If you are experiencing an abusive relationship, find resources here.

Links:

Trauma Bonding, by Lauren Kozlowski

TRE exercise

TRE and MS

EMDR

Galayla Collective: email leanne@leannerose.uk

Yours Truly Course

EFT Tapping

Movement Therapy

UCLA Study on Microbiomes

Parkinson’s and Microbiomes of the Gut

Exercise & Mental Health

Infants & Crawling

Fawn: Trauma Bonding (see previous episode)

Flight Response : Avoidance

Fight Response: Reactive Abuse

Freeze: Depression & Arrested Development

If you are experiencing an abusive relationship, find resources here.

Links:

Trauma Bonding, by Lauren Kozlowski

Adverse Child Experience (ACE)

Fawn: Trauma Bonding

Flight Response : Avoidance

Fight Response: Reactive Abuse

Freeze: Depression & Arrested Development

If you are experiencing an abusive relationship, find resources here.

Links:

Trauma Bonding, by Lauren Kozlowski

The Patient on Hulu

Riptide, Song

The Danny Devito Rule

Also discussed today: grey rape, multidimensional selves (parallel lives), cognitive dissonance, and more.

Links

Reality Transurfing

The Body Keeps the Score

Anna and Kristina check in with each other to discuss: current life challenges, Daith piercings, trauma bonding, and play “ask me anything” with our listeners.

Anna’s Book List for Her 20 Year Old Self:

No Bad Parts, By Dr Richard Schwartz

Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray

Mars and Venus On a Date by John Gray

The Silva Mind Control Method by José Silva

How To Break Free of the Drama Triangle and Victim Consciousness, by Doctors Jane & Barry Weinholds

Disappearance of the Universe by Gary Renard

Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self, By Lise Bourbeau

How to Feed Your Demons

Women Who Love Too Much, by Robin Norwood

Become a Patreon Member

Links:

Contact Robbie or RH@robbiehoucek.com

Robbie's Website

First Interview on TSF

The Water is Wide [Song]

Our apologies for the sound quality on this episode.

Also discussed today: serial murderers, narcissists, manifestations, and more.

Links:

Leanne Rose’s E-mail [Channel for the Galayla Collective]

Blackbird [on AppleTV]

Oprah Interviews Pedophiles

Statistics on Serial Murderers [US Department of Justice]

Serial Murders [Study.com]

Serial Murderer Facts [CNN]

Higher Love [Kygo & Whitney Houston]

Kali & Feminine Rage [Article]

The Divine Feminine Oracle [Card Deck]

Sekhmet

Also discussed today: Roe vs Wade, domestic violence, narcissist abuse, and Wendy Byrde.

Links:

Shitty Boys Meet Greatest Father Ever [Reddit/PettyRevenge]

Satyen Raja

Abortion Legalities

Statistics on Violence Against Women [The UN]

Statistics on Violence Against Women [USA, RAINN]

Intimate Partner Abuse [research article]

Intimate Partner Violence

Intimate Partner Violence [USA Obstetrics & Gynecology]

The Age of Innocence, by Edith Wharton

Beloved listener, please note, that this episode is an example of the shadow work steps of i) access and ii)awareness. Tune in next week when we cover iii) process and iv) remembrance to help bring us closer to healing this wound.

This episode features Stephanie Joplin, host of the Luxury Dropout Podcast. Stephanie is featured as a co-host, today, and not an interviewee.

Also discussed in this episode: The Addams Family, The Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine, Ddating, and non-negotiables.

Links:

Stephanie Joplin

The Luxury Dropout Podcast

AITA Subreddit

Links:

Joyce Anastasia

Contact: joyceanastasia@gmail.com  or 415-322-9442 (USA)

Brock Aho on Tiktok

Research Links:

Features of "near-death experience" in relation to whether or not patients were near death, research study

Near-death experience in survivors of cardiac arrest: a prospective study in the Netherlands, research study

Near-death experiences: Fact or fantasy? article

The Near Death Experiences of Children, article

Raymond Moody, wikipedia

Characteristics of Memories of NDEs, research study

Near-death-like experiences without life-threatening conditions or brain disorders: a hypothesis from a case report, research study

The Life Review, podcast episode from “Where is My Mind? with Mark Grober”

Links:

At Home Ketamine Treatments

The Six Bodies (PDF)

Today, Anna discusses the six different hungers, as taught in the WildFit course, and how understanding these hungers can help you make better decisions and take control over your health and vitality.

The nutritional information presented in today’s episode is not intended as medical advice, or individualized nutrition counseling. Please consult a qualified healthcare professional before making major changes to your diet.

Links:

Castlerock Trailer (Hulu series by Stephen King & JJ Abrams)

Doctors Gave Her Antipsychotics. She Decided to Live With Her Voices, New York Times Article

Yale Researchers on Psychics

Psychics Nonconsensual Reality

Peter Skarsgard has nightmares about playing Pennywise the clown.

Cursed Movie Sets

WildFit Course

“Your health is far more dependent upon you getting enough of the good stuff than it is you eliminating the bad stuff.” - Eric Edmeades

In today's episode, Kristina leads, and she examines how one may use The Art of War to confront one’s own illusions and delusions on the spiritual path. The episode includes an examination of the definition of "the enemy" across cultures and religions.

Links:

Non-denominational People in USA

Submit your Primal Wound Story anonymously

Hoopla - Free Books through your Local Library

Masterclass - The Art of Negotiation

The Art of War - By Sun Tzu

This interview has shifted so much in Anna & Kristina’s lives. We hope listening to it shifts yours.

Links:

Jeff Brown’s Website

Books by Jeff Brown

Jeff Brown on Instagram

Karmageddon, an award-winning documentary

Apologies to the Divine Feminine

Links:

• No Bad Parts, By Dr Richard Schwartz
• Motherwound Masterclass
• IFS Episode
• Putting Yourself into Alpha
• Pendulums for Dowsing
• Muscle Testing
• Ho’oponopono
• Diagnostic Criteria for PMDD
• 
  

Anna’s Strategy for IFS:

1) Establish a yes/no system

2) Put yourself into alpha

3) Take Four Sheets of Paper and Label them: Primary Influencers, Secondary Influences, etc.

4) Using yes/no establish how many clusters are primary influencers, then secondary, etc.

5) When addressing a cluster ask how many pods are in the cluster.

6) Address the protectors (managers & firefighters) first and then the exile within each pod.

7) After the entire cluster has been addressed, have all those parts do ho’oponopono to each other.

If you have a question for us, email this.spiritual.fix@gmail.com.

"Nothing is neither good or bad, but stuck is stuck." - Author Unknown

Links:

Spiritual Bypassing

Apathy vs Detachment

Highly Sensitive Person's Test

Links:

Jay’s Website

Internal Family Systems

Linked In Courses

Yours Truly 12-Week Course

Links:

Existential Kink, by Dr. Carolyn Elliot

No Bad Parts, by Dr. Richard Schwartz

Working with Suzanne Raja

“Becoming whole means we recognize our dark, kinky side, and that we not only accept it, forgive it, and take responsibility for it, but that we love it, enjoy its antics, and finally integrate it into our whole being.”

Dr. Carolyn Elliot

This conversation is an interesting perspective on how you, dear listener, can give yourself more freedom to create. And, how artistic expression may be an essential component to your spiritual journey.

Links:

Isadora Stowe

Isadora’s Instagram

Artist/Mother Network

Research Articles :

Art Therapy

Art as an Intervention for Anxiety & Depression

Art to Sustain Mental Wellness

Benefits of Art in School

Art as for Mental and Emotional Management

Neural circuits and Neuroendocrine Markers Linked to Art

Art Fosters Adaptive Responses to Stress

Art Reduces Cortisol Levels

Neuroesthetics (the scientific study of the neurobiological basis of the arts)

“Creativity, which is the expression of our originality, helps us stay mindful that what we bring to the world is completely original and cannot be compared.”

Brené Brown

Today’s episode is an invitation for you, dear listener, to understand and harmonize your second chakra. That means dive into, head first, the complexities of the personal & cosmic Father Wound, art & creativity, the kundalini, and the shadow chakra of abandonment.

Links:

WildFit

Internal Family Systems

TikTok about Interdimensional Love

Mother Wound MasterClass

Happy Mother’s Day! We welcome Maya Vorderstrasse to the show to discuss motherhood and mental health. Maya is an instagram sensation who shares her struggles, joy, and journey with other mothers or soon-to-be mothers. She has enjoyed magazine features by Elle, Cosmopolitan, and Us Weekly as well as countless other media outlets.

Discussed today are the seldom spoken-of stressors of motherhood: the changing self, marital strife, and postpartum anxiety, depression, and psychosis.This podcast episode is a must listen for any new parent, or soon-to-be parent.

Links:

Maya’s Instagram (@mayavorderstrasse)

Maya’s TikTok (@mayavorderstrasse)

Maya’s Website

THINKING OF YOU (A Poem)

Mothers who have lost children

Those who have lost mothers

Those with strained mother relationships

Mothers with strained child relationships

Those who have chosen not to be mothers

Those yearning to be mothers

- by Marian Drew

In this fifth episode in our eight part series on the Primal Wounds, our cohosts explore the final primal wound, the wound of Humiliation. Have you ever experienced the feelings of shame and unworthiness wrapped up in the the pain of humiliation? In this episode you will learn how to recognize the ways in which the humiliation wound shows up in your every day life. Anna and Kristina explore how masochistic behavior (self-suffering) is the coping mechanism to protect oneself from this wound. And, they explore tools and experiences that helped them forgive and love their own sense of humiliation.

Did you enjoy this episode? Explore our other episodes on the primal wounds of abandonment, rejection, injustice, and betrayal. 

If you liked this episode, click here to learn about our five week masterclass on healing The Mother Wound.

PDF Download:

1.18 Summary of the Humiliation Wound

Healing Packet:

Heal your Humiliation Wound

Quiz:

What is your primary wound ? Click here.

Links:

Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self, By Lise Bourbeau

How to Feed Your Demons

The Mother Wound Course

August 24

How has stepping back from the drama triangle changed your life? In today’s episode Anna and Kristina reflect upon the lessons presented in the drama triangle series and how this work has impacted their lives, personally, professionally, and romantically.

Also discussed in today’s episode: Dorito chip crumbs, next-level rescuing, and enhancing psychic abilities.

Anna & Kristina’s Hacks for Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle:

1. Ask directly for your needs to be met.
2. Before asking for your needs, make sure you are acting and not reacting (only bringing up the issue at hand).
3. Address your needs as they arise (don’t wait and then explode).
4. Address your inner drama triangle (your inner persecutor, inner victim, and inner rescuer).
5. Practice self-love.
6. When triggered, ask yourself, “Do I want to be the victim/persecutor/rescuer today?, “Is there really cheese at the end of this tunnel?” “How can I get my needs met without drama?”
7. Practice forgiveness and love for the persecutor, rescuer, victim, and inner critic (that annoyed witness).

Links:

How To Break Free of the Drama Triangle and Victim Consciousness, by Doctors Jane & Barry Weinholds

Self Abuse & The Inner Drama Triangle Workbook: Transforming the IDT & Learning to Parent Yourself Well, by Toni Rahman

Overcoming Intrusive Thoughts, by Sally Winston

Our Episode on Forgiveness by This Spiritual Fix

Ram Dass, Youtube lecture, Aspen CO

The Goose is Out, by Osho

Kristina and Anna, together, lead this episode about how forgiveness not only sets you free from the burden of suffering, but collapses the story that keeps you stuck. Kristina discusses “True Forgiveness” from A Course in Miracle, as taught by Gary Renard. Anna discusses Ho'oponono as taught by Dr. Hew Lin. If you want to learn the art of collapsing dimensions, which opens the door to new possibilities, you won’t want to miss this episode. This is the first of an eight part series on the Primal Wounds.

Visit the website show notes here.

We hope you have enjoyed learning about the Root Chakra this season. We aired twenty-one episodes on its related topics, like the divine masculine & feminine, sexual arousal & behavior, the Motherwound, and past-life origins. Journey with us next season as we explore the Sacral Chakra and all its fascinating aspects.

“Intimacy is the bridge that we create between people in which love can move back and forth.” - Kristina Wiltsee

“Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness. One does not exist without the other.” - Esther Perel

Links:

• Motherwound Masterclass
• Sex, Passion, Enlightenment Course with Warrior Sage
• WildFit Masterclass on Mind Valley
• Heal Your Past Life Fears by Ainslie Macleod (audiobook has regression at 1’ 14”)

Kristina and Anna take turns leading each other through an Internal Family Systems (IFS) dialogue, where the internal parts resisting the Divine come up to the surface. Then, these two best friends take turns channelling different parts of the Divine Mother: The Cosmic Mother, and Gaia.

This bonus episode is meant to accompany episode 3.20, “There are No Bad Parts.”

“My mind is part of God’s. I am very holy.” - Lesson 35 of A Course in Miracles

Links:

• No Bad Parts, By Dr Richard Schwartz
• Motherwound Masterclass
• Episode 3.20: There are No Bad Parts
• A Course in Miracles, (ACIM, W-35)

Our podcast hosts explain the basics of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model and how it has transformed modern psychology. It is also a simple and break-through shadow-work method that can be done in any setting. Today you will learn how to identify, give voice to, and love, all your many parts.

Links:

• No Bad Parts, By Dr Richard Schwartz
• Motherwound Masterclass
• Unf*ck Your Brain, Reparenting

Also discussed today: seven questions to ask yourself, four different levels of reality, rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), ADHD, and domestic violence.

Resources:

Domestic Violence Hotline (USA): 800-799-7233

Domestic Violence Hotlines (UK): Click here.

Global Resources: click here and database here.

“Being in love means seeing the beloved all around me.” - Ram Dass

To learn more about Ainslie’s work, listen to our previous episode (aired 3.8.2022, S3 Ep 17) where we give our listeners some Reincarnation 101.

Visit our website for links to Ainslie's website and more.

Countless people who have experienced past-life regressions (or readings) report enhancements to their quality of life — both emotionally and physically.

Next week we interview the renown past life psychic, Ainslie Macleod, and in preparation of that interview we want to give our audience a crash course in reincarnation. Today, we will discuss soul types, soul ages, and the ten past life fears or traumas that may be influencing your current life with triggers (emotional remnants of past drama) or resonances (physical remnants of past illness or trauma).

The Ten Past Life Fears

• Fear of Authority
• Fear of Intimacy
• Fear of Death
• Fear of Betrayal
• Fear of Illness
• Fear of Powerlessness
• Fear of Failure
• Fear of Inferiority
• Fear of Loss
• Fear of Self-Expression

Visit our website for more links to the show.

“Eroticism in the home requires active engagement and willful intent. It is an ongoing resistance to the message that marriage is serious, more work than play; and that passion is for teenagers and the immature. We must unpack our ambivalence about pleasure, and challenge our pervasive discomfort with sexuality, particularly in the context of family. Complaining of sexual boredom is easy and conventional. Nurturing eroticism in the home is an act of open defiance.” - Esther Perel

Visit our website show notes for more.

Our Special Guests

Jefe Living

Jeff is a student and teacher of yoga and any practice that expands the human consciousness. Jeff has trained extensively in Eastern and Western spiritual practices from yoga to shamanic ceremonial traditions.

Jeff facilitates workshops and trainings that inspire, empower and connect students to their inner journey and personal transformation. His brand, Jefe Living, creates community around meditation and coaching to support individuals in their journey and transformational process. 

His book “Jefe Living: Guide to Inner Wisdom” is a 30 day meditation journal that facilitates connection you creating a consistent meditation and journaling practice and all the self-discovery benefits thereof. www.jefeliving.com

Christy Mack

Christy is a former tattoo model and adult film star who currently creates content on OnlyFans.

In 2014, she won an AVN award for Most Promising New Starlet as well as an XBIZ award for Best New Starlet. After just two years, Christy retired from the porn industry in 2015.

In 2016, Mackinday launched a clothing line with the website Pornhub to raise money for domestic violence survivors after her own experience with domestic violence.

In her free time she supports domestic violence survivors and bully (dogs) rescues.

www.christymack.com

Visit the website for more information about our special guests.

Our Special Guests

Jefe Living

Jeff is a student and teacher of yoga and any practice that expands the human consciousness. Jeff has trained extensively in Eastern and Western spiritual practices from yoga to shamanic ceremonial traditions.

Jeff facilitates workshops and trainings that inspire, empower and connect students to their inner journey and personal transformation. His brand, Jefe Living, creates community around meditation and coaching to support individuals in their journey and transformational process. 

His book “Jefe Living: Guide to Inner Wisdom” is a 30 day meditation journal that facilitates connection you creating a consistent meditation and journaling practice and all the self-discovery benefits thereof. www.jefeliving.com

Christy Mack

Christy is a former tattoo model and adult film star who currently creates content on OnlyFans.

In 2014, she won an AVN award for Most Promising New Starlet as well as an XBIZ award for Best New Starlet. After just two years, Christy retired from the porn industry in 2015.

In 2016, Mackinday launched a clothing line with the website Pornhub to raise money for domestic violence survivors after her own experience with domestic violence.

In her free time she supports domestic violence survivors and bully (dogs) rescues.

www.christymack.com

Visit the website for more information about our special guests.

Visit the show notes for links.

Also discussed today: Sexual non-concordance, sexual assault, pleasure, and anatomy.

Visit the website for links and a sexual inhibition quiz.

Also discussed today: weaponized incompetence, Kundalini awakenings, orgasm, self-pleasuring, and more.

Visit our website show notes for links.

Visit our website for show notes.

Also discussed today: Ram Dass, the Mother Wound, feeling unloveable, capitalism, death, and attachment bonds.

Do you want to join Bitches & Bastards remote workshop? We need twenty participants to make it happen. Kristina and Anna will be there! Click here to sign up. Or visit www.thisspiritualfix.com/jamie-catto.

Visit our show notes for more links.

Also discussed today: intuition and psychometry, the Bengali Tea Boy, domestic violence, and more.

Visit our website for links.

Also discussed today: patriarchy, spider webs, the wandering uterus, and more.

Visit our website for show notes to topics discussed in this episode.

Also discussed today: Nisargadatta Maharaj, the Dhammapada, extraterrestrials, alien technology, and more.

Visit our show notes for links to topics discussed on the show.

Also discussed today: third degree mother wounds, chronic PTSD, Buddha, Yukteswar, Ram Dass, and Paramahansa Yogananda,

Trigger warning: brief discussions of eating disorders, sex addiction, and inappropriate touch & nudity.

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In this second part of a three part series on The Mother Wound, Kristina dives into the deeper layer of the Mother Wound: the pain we carry with respect to The Great Mother - the feminine aspect of creation. The Great Mother is maya. Maya, comes from Advaita Vedanta philosophy, which is a branch of Hinduism which subscribes to the idea of non-duality. That is, ultimately we are all one. In this context, maya is “the magic power with which a god can make human beings believe in what turns out to be an illusion. By extension, it later came to mean the powerful force that creates the cosmic illusion that the phenomenal world is real. For the Nondualists, maya is thus that cosmic force that presents the infinite brahman (the supreme being) as the finite phenomenal world. Maya is reflected on the individual level by human ignorance (ajnana) of the real nature of the self, which is mistaken for the empirical ego but which is in reality identical with brahman” (Britannica, 2021). In this episode two silly best friends break down this philosophy to make accessing and healing The Great Mother Wound palpable for all.

Also discussed today: extraterrestrials, alien technology, John Lennon, Ram Dass, Stevie Nicks, and more.

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The Four Steps to Healing the Mother Wound with Two Tools

1. Access:

1. Ask: am I being hypersensitive or hyposensitive?
2. Ask: do I deeply experience the injustice of gender roles or environmental injustices?

2. Awareness

1. Ask: do I trust myself?
2. Ask: when and why am I closing my heart?

3. Process

1. Transmute your energy to the earth, i.e. dig a hole and scream into it.
2. Expand your heart: imagine or feel your heart expanding horizontally, vertically, anteriorly, posteriorly, inferiorly, superiorly (essentially in all directions).

4. Rememberance

1. Connect to the deeper truth: Love is always being given.
2. Connect to the deeper truth: She is always with us.

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“The world is not here to make you happy, it is here to make you conscious.” - Eckhart Tolle

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Also discussed today: secure and insecure attachments, Ram Dass, panic attacks, egregores, and more.

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Today’s episode is all about gratitude, intuition, and finding the hidden gifts in challenges. Laura gives our audience practical tools for finding love and happiness - in one’s self and through that special partner. Enjoy this special bonus episode, and to those in the USA, Happy Thanksgiving!

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Also discussed today: the mother wound, Krishna Das, the pineal gland, and more.

Trigger warning: brief description of a sexual assault.

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Also discussed today: Ram Dass, living from the heart, Sri Siddhi Ma, drug addiction, dreams, and chanting.

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• Note: Kirtan is a practice of bhakti yoga (devotional yoga) that uses call and repeat, reciting or praising through song / chantings an aspect of divinity.

“TO HAVE CONTINUOUS WATER SUPPLY TO A CITY, THE PUMPS MUST BE WORKING DAY AND NIGHT. LIKEWISE, IN ORDER TO KEEP THE HEART FILLED WITH THE SWEETNESS OF THE DIVINE PRESENCE, CONSTANT REMEMBRANCE OF HIM IS ESSENTIAL.” - ANANDAMAYI MA

Also discussed today: Shamanism, Archangel Michael, entity attachments, and energy implants.

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This Q&A comes in response to our Shaman Episode

Also discussed today: stranded in London with Covid, Conversations with God, breaking ties with toxic people, and more.

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