Our House with The Smylies

Brian Davila: Jesus Gave Me the Peace Money Never Could

Thu, 09 Jul 2026 11:15:27 +0000

Brian Davila made millions in real estate, paid off his house, and bought $50,000 Rolexes. And he still woke up anxious, empty, and without peace. In this episode, the real estate millionaire and host of The Way sits down with us to tell the truth about having everything the world sells as success and still feeling like something was missing, until he gave his life to God and everything changed.

This is one of the most honest conversations we've had on Our House. Brian opens up about the anxiety he carried his whole life and the moment it lifted after one prayer, the secret struggles with anger and pornography he never told anyone, and how confession and baptism set him free. He shares what it was like to build wealth alongside Ryan Pineda and still feel restless, and how faith finally gave him the peace that money never could.

We also walk through the story of his son Joshua, who was born with Down syndrome. Brian and his wife were pushed hard by doctors to end the pregnancy, and they refused. He explains why every child is a gift made in the image of God, and why his family sees Joshua not as a burden but as a blessing. Malia, a nurse midwife who has delivered these diagnoses to families herself, brings a perspective you rarely hear on both sides of that room.

Jason also shares his own testimony of being healed of lymphoma without chemotherapy, and together they talk about why God so often has to bring us to our knees before we finally look up. If you are chasing success, struggling to find peace, or trying to bring God to the center of your home, this one is for you.

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him." Romans 8:28

CHAPTERS

00:00 Everything money could buy, still no peace

04:06 From teen dad to real estate millionaire

06:51 Their son Joshua and a Down syndrome diagnosis

09:28 When doctors kept pushing abortion

19:14 "Joshua is not a glitch. He is a gift."

23:18 The success that left him empty

28:13 The prayer that healed his anxiety

33:04 Jason's testimony: healed of cancer

46:06 Building a God-centered home

56:58 One tip to bring peace into your home

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Youth Expert: The Biggest Mistake Parents of Teens Make

Thu, 02 Jul 2026 12:37:57 +0000

Every parent of a teenager knows the fear: your kid is pulling away, the conversations are getting shorter, and you wonder if you're slowly losing them. In this episode we sit down with Brandon Davis, a youth expert who spends around 80 hours a week with kids as the youth director at City Light Vegas, a regional Young Life director, and a former high school teacher. He's walked thousands of teenagers through the exact season your kids are in, and he names the single biggest mistake parents of teens make: correcting more than they connect.

If you're a Christian parent trying to raise kids who keep their faith, this conversation is for you. Brandon breaks down why most people who follow Jesus come to faith before age 18 and why that number collapses after their twenties, what to do when your teen doesn't want to go to church, and how to bring church into your home when you can't get them through the doors. We talk about being a leader to your kids instead of just a friend, why connection has to come before correction, and what a dad leading the faith at home actually changes for a child's future.

Jason and Malia also open up about their own discipline that was quietly disconnecting them from one of their boys, and how they course-corrected. This is an honest look at teenage rebellion, faith, and the long game of parenting, from someone who sees what happens behind the scenes in families every single day.

Brandon is also a kingdom entrepreneur. He founded Ash Clothing, a Christ-centered streetwear brand built to help people wear their faith in a way that points back to God. Give him a follow and check out the brand below.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Intro

02:04 Meet Brandon Davis

03:41 Why youth ministry matters

06:36 Teaching teens vs mentoring teens

08:03 What Young Life is

12:08 Why families feel safer outside church walls

16:54 Building trust with teenagers

18:25 The power of showing up consistently

24:41 The biggest mistake parents make with teens

25:26 What teens really need from parents

28:19 Connect before you correct

31:25 Teens need leaders, not just friends

34:07 God-centered homes and family contrast

36:09 Honest conversations with your kids

38:15 When kids do not want church

40:02 Letting your child choose faith

42:46 When your child walks away from faith

44:52 God is not done with their story

46:52 Faith, business, and setting culture

52:29 Being the Bible someone reads

54:27 Staying present as a busy parent

58:14 A simple habit for more peace at home

01:00:00 Closing

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Instagram: @brandondavis8

Clothing brand: Ash Clothing (Christ-centered streetwear)

https://ashclothing.co/

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As for our house, we will serve the Lord.

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We've Hosted 4 Au Pairs. Here's the Honest Truth

Thu, 25 Jun 2026 12:30:35 +0000

We've hosted four au pairs over the years, and in this episode we tell the honest truth about what it's really like to invite one into your home. Our former au pair Judith lived with us for two years, flew back from Spain to surprise our boys, and the reveal went viral with millions of views. She sits down with us to talk through the good, the hard, and the parts nobody warns you about, whether you're a parent thinking about hiring an au pair or a nanny, or a young person wondering if becoming an au pair is right for you.

If you're weighing the au pair program, you'll hear how the matching process actually works, what it costs, the difference between an au pair and a nanny, the horror stories to watch out for, and how to know if it's the right fit for your family. And if you're thinking about becoming an au pair yourself, Judith shares exactly what she was scared of, what surprised her, and the advice that made her take the leap.

This is a real conversation about opening your home, building trust, and how someone who starts as a stranger can become family for life.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Judith reacts to the viral video

01:04 The au pair who became family

03:32 Judith’s dream to come to America

06:22 Her mom prayed for this family

08:39 Trusting an 18-year-old with three boys

10:41 She was never just hired help

14:20 When Judith first felt at home

24:24 Boundaries and empathy

28:49 The nightly routine that mattered

31:32 What changed when God became central

35:39 Parenting so kids want to come back

37:52 Letting kids be who they are

38:48 The story behind the viral video

40:52 Why the video touched millions

45:33 Advice for taking the leap

47:40 Final thoughts

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Why you always want more, and how we stopped

Thu, 18 Jun 2026 12:30:47 +0000

We had a beautiful home, four healthy boys, and a good life, and Malia still searched for a bigger house almost every night. This is the story of how we stopped chasing more and finally found contentment.

If you have ever told yourself "I'll be happy when we get the bigger house, the next promotion, the more comfortable life," this episode is for you. We talk honestly about discontentment, why nothing you have ever feels like enough, and how the constant pull toward more quietly steals the joy of right now. We get into money and the love of money, the pressure of the American dream and keeping up with the Joneses, raising kids in a culture of instant gratification, and what finally shifted our hearts toward gratitude and trust in God.

We’re sharing the real moments that changed how we see our home, our marriage, and what "enough" actually means. The grass isn't greener on the other side. It's greener where you water it.

If this encourages you, the best way to support the show is to like, subscribe, and leave a comment with the one thing you're choosing to be content with today.

CHAPTERS :

00:00 – Intro

01:03 – Is the Grass Really Greener?

05:52 – The Love of Money vs. a Scarcity Mindset

10:18 – Finding True Gain: Godliness with Contentment

13:13 – Raising Kids in an AI Era & Shifting Career Views

17:41 – Teaching Patience to Our Children (The Marshmallow Test)

20:45 – Real Estate Temptations: Shifting from Zillow to Contentment

27:49 – Life-Changing Mission Trip to the Dominican Republic

31:50 – Surrendering to God's Timing in Business & Leadership

39:23 – Embracing the Seasons, Sacrifices, and Nuances of Marriage

43:03 – Viewing Our Children as God's Children (The Art of Stewarding)

46:27 – Conclusion: Water the Grass Where You Are Planted

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ABOUT OUR HOUSE We're Jason and Malia Smylie, married over 15 years with four boys. We're not pastors, just parents sharing how we're learning to build a God-centered home with more peace, contentment, and joy. New episodes every week.

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When Rock Bottom Is Best For Your Marriage

Thu, 11 Jun 2026 12:30:47 +0000

In 2022, Omar and Aubi Foster sat in a counselor's office asking the question no couple wants to ask: how did we get here? Seven years married, two kids, a thriving gym, and a marriage quietly falling apart. This is the story of how rock bottom became the best thing that ever happened to them.

In this episode of Our House with The Smylies, the Fosters share how God restored their marriage after they nearly walked away. Aubi opens up about the "boss babe" lie, chasing corporate success while losing her family, and the moment she stopped fighting. Omar shares how seeking affirmation outside his marriage almost cost him everything, and what it took to finally lead his home.

Then came the prayer that changed it all. They asked God to close doors so clearly they couldn't mess it up. Three days later, Aubi lost her six-figure job. What looked like disaster became the beginning of a completely new life: a God-centered marriage, homeschooling their kids, turning their gym into a ministry, and a family stronger than they ever thought possible.

If your marriage feels stuck, distant, or close to over, this conversation is proof that the valley is where the fruit grows.

WHAT WE COVER:

- The slow drift that almost ended their marriage (it's never one big thing)

- The counselor's office moment: "Do you want to fix this?"

- Why chasing career success left Aubi empty and stretched thin

- How Omar stepped up to lead his family, faith, and finances

- The prayer that cost Aubi her job 3 days later

- Selling his dream car to bring his wife home to their kids

- Chaos is not a lack of peace, it's a lack of order

- Surrendering their business and losing members because of their faith

- Their family values: Fosters love God, love people, do hard things, never quit

- Raising kids without TV or video games (and why)

- Practical first steps to bring peace into your home this week

CHAPTERS:

00:00 - Bringing God to the Center of Your Home

01:26 - Meeting Omar and Abby Foster (CrossFit Social City)

02:56 - How High School Sweethearts Reconnected After 10 Years

05:33 - Hitting Rock Bottom: Marital Disconnection and the "Boss Babe" Lie

12:47 - The Turning Point: Shifting from Worldly Success to Biblical Order

14:05 - Reclaiming the Role of a Spiritual Leader and Provider

17:49 - The Power of Surrender: Losing Jobs and Selling Cars

24:14 - Walking with Your Kids: Generational Change and Personal Healing

27:38 - Strengthening Father-Son Bonds Through Running Marathons

31:15 - Learning to Move into the Valley and Giving Up Total Control

34:53 - Using Your Business as a Ministry for the Community

39:45 - Practical Faith Habits and Consistency for Busy Families

47:59 - Choosing a Screen-Free Home: Why the Fosters Ditched the TV

50:01 - Establishing Core Family Values That Last

53:17 - Teachable Moments: Biblical Discipline and Grace vs. Legalism

56:16 - One Piece of Advice: Daily Scripture and Practicing Gratitude

59:43 - Where to Find Omar and Abby Foster

CONNECT WITH THE FOSTERS:

Omar Foster: https://www.instagram.com/oldskoolomar

Aubi Foster: https://www.instagram.com/aubi

CrossFit Social City: https://www.instagram.com/

BOOKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED:

- Imagine Heaven by John Burke

- Bringing Up Boys / Bringing Up Girls by Dr. James Dobson

- Matthew 6:25-30

- Soul Surfer (film)

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We're Jason and Malia Smylie. We've been married over 15 years, have 4 boys, and we help families bring God to the center of their home, their marriage, and their business.

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5 Rules That Protect Our Kids From Technology

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 12:05:22 +0000

The 5 rules every Christian parent should know to protect kids from the dangers of technology, social media, and smartphones in 2026. Inspired by The Anxious Generation.

Teen depression is up 134%. Teen suicide is up 121%. Kids are spending 7+ hours a day on a screen, and face-to-face time with friends has dropped in half. The data is alarming, and most parents don't know where to start.

In this episode, Jason and Malia Smylie walk through the GUARD framework, the 5 rules they use to guard their 4 boys from the dangers of phones, iPads, social media, video games, and the algorithm-driven world Jonathan Haidt calls "The Great Rewiring of childhood."

This isn't just a screen-time conversation. It's a parenting conversation for the moment we're living in. Because your kids are being formed by something right now. The question is whether it's you, or the device in their pocket.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

•⁠ ⁠The real data behind the teen mental health crisis (and what Jonathan Haidt's research actually says)

•⁠ ⁠The 4 foundational harms of a phone-based childhood

•⁠ ⁠How screens, social media, and video games affect boys and girls differently

•⁠ ⁠The GUARD framework for digital parenting in a Christian home

•⁠ ⁠How to handle the pushback when other parents (or your own kids) push back

•⁠ ⁠Why "calculated independence" in the real world is safer than freedom online

CHAPTERS

00:00 The Hook

02:35 Jonathan Haidt and The Anxious Generation

05:01 The 4 Foundational Harms of a Phone-Based Childhood

07:44 How Screens Affect Boys vs. Girls Differently

09:20 The Suicide Threat in Our Son's Group Chat

12:51 The GUARD Framework for Digital Parenting

13:30 G — Gatekeep (Delay the Device + Monitoring)

14:45 U — Uninstall the Apps (No Social Media, No YouTube)

16:10 A — Always in the Open (Where Devices Live)

17:20 R — Ration the Time (No Weekday Screens, No Screens at Meals)

18:00 D — Day of Rest (The Digital Sabbath)

18:55 Navigating AI and the Future of Technology

25:21 Why Real-World Independence Matters More Than Digital Freedom

27:54 The Spiritual Cost of Constant Distraction

RESOURCES MENTIONED

The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt

Bark (device monitoring tool we use): bark.us

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ABOUT OUR HOUSE

The Our House Podcast helps Christian families move from surviving to thriving by bringing God to the center of the home. Hosted by Jason and Malia Smylie, this show is for believing parents who want practical, faith-centered rhythms for marriage, parenting, and building a home God's peace can fill.

New episodes weekly. If this conversation helped you, please like, subscribe, and share it with another parent. That's how we get this message into more homes.

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Neurofeedback Can Heal ADHD, Anxiety and More Without Meds

Thu, 28 May 2026 12:30:17 +0000

Neurofeedback helped our family heal ADHD, anxiety, rage, and trauma without medication. In this episode we sit down with licensed therapist Jillian Wendelin to break down what neurofeedback actually is, how it works, and why it transformed our marriage and our kids.

Our family came to neurofeedback looking for a non-medical alternative for our son. What we found changed everything. Malia healed from years of noise sensitivity and daily fight-or-flight as a mom of four. Jason broke through decades of emotional avoidance. Our marriage shifted in ways five years of counseling never produced. And we did it without putting our kids on medication or under a lifelong label.

In this conversation we cover what neurofeedback is and how it works, the difference between low energy neurofeedback and traditional neurofeedback, what to actually expect from a session, why it helps ADHD, anxiety, PTSD, trauma, body pain, sleep issues, migraines, and rage, how it pairs with EMDR and traditional therapy, the “garden and tree” framework for understanding the adjustment period, why this is not woo woo and how to think about it from a Christian worldview, the trickle-down effect on kids when parents become regulated, and why we believe every family should consider this before defaulting to medication.

Jillian is the co-founder of Integrative Wellness Clinic of Nevada and has been a licensed therapist for 15 years. She is one of the most trusted voices we know on this topic and the reason we tell every family we meet about neurofeedback.

If your family is struggling and you’re not sure where to start, take our free 4-minute assessment at ourhouse.faith/assessment. It will give you a window into what your family might be working through.

Timestamp:

00:00 - Trailer

01:09 - Introduction & Welcome

02:53 - What is Neurofeedback?

06:10 - How it Works: Low Energy vs. Traditional Neurofeedback

12:41 - Common Conditions Treated (ADHD, Anxiety, PTSD, Migraines)

15:06 - Malia’s Story: Overcoming Noise Sensitivity & Overwhelm

20:03 - Addressing Christian Concerns: Is it New Age or Safe?

22:04 - The Truth About Big Pharma & Insurance Coverage

26:06 - Healing Marriage Dynamics, Attachment Styles & Generational Trauma

30:17 - The Garden Analogy: Navigating the Adjustment Period

36:22 - Neurofeedback Intensives for Fast-Tracking Healing

37:43 - How to Connect with Jillian & Free Family Assessment

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Dr. John Gottman — researcher cited for his work on marriage dynamics and the impact of parental stress on children: gottman.com

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) — the frontline trauma treatment Jillian practiced for seven years before neurofeedback

CONNECT WITH JILLIAN AND INTEGRATIVE WELLNESS CLINIC OF NEVADA

Instagram: @iwcnevada

Website: https://iwcnv.com

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- Joshua 24:15

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EDC Missionary and the Raver Who Found Jesus

Thu, 21 May 2026 12:00:40 +0000

Philip Renner is a missionary and worship leader who walks into the world's darkest festivals, including EDC in Las Vegas, to preach the gospel. In this conversation he tells Jason and Malia Smylie what he actually sees when he steps onto that ground, the night God told him one word that changed everything, and how he leads total strangers to Jesus in the last place anyone would expect.

He also gets honest about the part of his life that does not make the highlight reel. What it costs to be gone, why he refuses to be an absentee father, and the simple thing he and his wife do with their kids every single night to keep their own home anchored while he carries this calling.

Jason opens up about his own years in the rave scene and what he realized the last time he stood at EDC. It turned into one of the most unexpected conversations we have had in our home.

Timestamp:

00:00 – Introduction: Meeting Philip Renner

01:30 – Philip's Backstory: Growing up as a Missionary in Russia

09:37 – Shifting Seasons: Returning to America and Driving Uber in Tulsa

19:51 – Confronting Spiritual Darkness at Music Festivals and EDC

29:19 – Reaching Believers and Sharing the Simple Gospel with Love

35:18 – How to Train and Prepare for Street Ministry

44:33 – Discipleship and Staying Connected After the Encounter

47:13 – Daily Family Rhythms: Communion, Blessings, and Being a Present Parent

If this episode moves you, the best next step is to find out where your own home actually stands.

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Connect with Philip Renner

Website: https://philiprenner.com

Instagram: @philiprenner

Book: A Fasted Life

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Pastors Are Now Talking About UFOs, Aliens & AI

Thu, 14 May 2026 12:30:24 +0000

The government just released undisclosed UFO files. Pastors are being privately briefed about what's coming. And AI is quietly becoming the new false "Holy Spirit" for millions of people.

In this episode, Malia interviews Jason, a former atheist who spent decades exploring Eastern religions, new-age spirituality, and transhumanism before finding Jesus, on how Christians can navigate UFOs, AI, and the spiritual realm with discernment instead of fear.

This isn't a fear-based take. It's not a UFO-hype take either. It's a conversation about how we anchor ourselves (and our kids) in Christ when the world is getting louder, weirder, and harder to ignore.

We talk about:

• What this week's UFO disclosure actually means for Christians

• Why AI is becoming a counterfeit source of wisdom, and what to do about it

• The "forking of humanity" and the red line Jason refuses to cross

• How to raise kids who can discern truth in an AI-shaped world

• Why signs and wonders without Jesus always lead somewhere dark

• Where to find peace when the noise won't stop

If you've ever felt embarrassed to ask whether UFOs are real, whether AI is dangerous, or how any of this fits into your faith, this one's for you.

CHAPTERS

00:00 – Introduction: The world is getting louder

03:37 – Jason’s Journey: Seeking transcendence before Jesus

06:23 – Why Christians should care about UFO disclosure

11:25 – Explaining AI in layman’s terms: What is it really?

16:45 – The "Forking of Humanity" and simulated realities

19:50 – Technology vs. the hope of the Gospel

21:13 – AI as a counterfeit source of wisdom and spiritual authority

24:28 – Do extraterrestrials fit into the Christian worldview?

29:20 – Spiritual warfare and the principalities of darkness

37:10 – Parenting: How to protect and guide your children

48:40 – Transhumanism: The promise of living forever vs. Eternal Life

56:15 – Final thoughts: Staying grounded in Jesus

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Youth Pastor's 2 Questions Tell You If You're In God's Will

Thu, 07 May 2026 13:00:24 +0000

Most Christians live with quiet anxiety about whether they're in God's will. In this episode of the Our House Podcast, Jason and Malia Smylie sit down with Daniel Knapp, a pastor's kid and Christian youth teacher, who shares the two simple questions that diagnose whether you're walking in the will of God right now.

The conversation unpacks a key reframe: scripture talks about God's will as character transformation and sanctification, but most Christians are anxiously asking about jobs, relationships, and timing. Daniel's two questions bridge that gap and replace anxiety with peace.

The two questions Daniel walks through:

1.⁠ ⁠Am I genuinely pursuing Jesus?

2.⁠ ⁠Am I actively walking in disobedience anywhere?

If both answers are honest, you've found your answer about God's will for your life.

In this episode Jason, Malia, and Daniel discuss:

00:00 — Introduction: Meeting Daniel Knapp in the Dominican Republic

01:27 — Career vs. Calling: Daniel’s transition from business to ministry

04:40 — How to know if you are living in God’s will

12:15 — The importance of surrendering your plans to the Lord

26:08 — Understanding the two types of disobedience

29:30 — How to discern the voice of God vs. your own desires

41:10 — The impact of being raised in a ministry home (PK life)

53:55 — Encouragement for parents dealing with a rebellious child

56:20 — The power of prayer and faithful stewardship in the home

1:00:41 — Closing thoughts and how to support the podcast

This conversation is for any Christian who has ever wondered if they are on the right path, any parent navigating faith with their kids, and any believer who wants a simpler, more biblical way to discern God's will without the anxiety.

Daniel Knapp is a pastor's kid, Christian youth teacher at Cavalry Chapel in Las Vegas. He and his wife Zoe are expecting their first daughter, Eden.

Scripture referenced in this episode:

1 Thessalonians 4 and 5

Romans 12:2

Hebrews 12:1-2

Philippians 4

Matthew 25 (Parable of the Talents)

Joshua 24:15

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Why You Keep Having The Same Fight (Attachment Styles)

Thu, 30 Apr 2026 10:00:35 +0000

Why do you keep having the same fight in your marriage? It might be your attachment style. And it’s quietly running your home.

In this episode of Our House with the Smylies, we sit down and talk through attachment theory, the four attachment styles, and how the way you were cared for as a kid is shaping the way you love your spouse and parent your kids today.

We get personal about the wounds we both walked into our marriage carrying, why anxious and avoidant partners are magnetized to each other, and how that magnet can quietly turn into a trap. We also talk about a fight we had recently and what it taught us about how stress pulls us right back into our oldest patterns.

If you’ve ever felt abandoned every time your husband shuts down, or suffocated every time your wife pushes for resolution, this one’s for you.

We close with what actually heals it. Earned secure attachment, the truth God speaks over our identity, and how understanding our own attachment styles changed the way we’re parenting our boys.

Timestamp:

00:00 Introduction to Our House

00:24 What is Attachment Theory?

02:46 The History: Bowlby and the Strange Situation

07:39 Secure Attachment: The Goal for Every Home

10:30 Understanding Anxious Attachment

14:32 Understanding Avoidant Attachment

20:10 What is Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant) Attachment?

26:22 Jason and Malia's Personal Stories

36:53 Can Your Style Change? (Earned Security)

41:52 How This Changes Your Parenting

45:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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How to trust God when your marriage blows up

Thu, 23 Apr 2026 10:32:43 +0000

What if the 'wilderness' in your marriage isn't a sign of failure, but a sign of formation?

In this episode, Alexis Smith (founder of Milk & Honey) our dear friend shares her journey from growing up in a secular household to discovering a bold, transformative faith. We dive deep into the 'wilderness' seasons of life. Navigating grief, divorce, and the pruning of old relationships, and how God uses those valleys to do a 'new thing.'

If you are struggling with marriage exhaustion, seeking a Christian family rhythm, or wondering how to fix your marriage by leaning back in, this conversation offers grounded wisdom and hopeful realism for your journey.

In this episode, we discuss:

- Living Faith Boldly: How to naturally share your faith without it feeling like a performance.

- The Power of Invitation: Why inviting someone to church is often the most effective form of evangelism.

- Protecting Togetherness: The importance of being the friend who stands for marriage when things get hard.

- The Wilderness Season: Trusting God’s promise from Isaiah 43 to 'make a way' in the middle of your mess.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction to guest Alexis Smith and Milk & Honey

03:46 - From secular roots to Christmas Eve 2017: The start of faith

05:54 - Walking through the valley: Navigating grief and divorce in 2019-2020

07:04 - Bold vs. Subtle: Finding your approach to sharing faith

09:44 - The "Pruning" season: Letting go of old relationships for new growth

14:17 - Why your "Ordinary" life is your most powerful invitation

19:09 - Facing the unraveling: 16 months of marriage and the choice to endure

26:36 - Standing for marriage: Why Alexis told her friend "Lean back in"

34:51 - Rebuilding with intention: Meeting Matt and setting boundaries

41:42 - New Beginnings: Jason officiating Alexis’s upcoming wedding

50:43 - Isaiah 43: God making a way in the wilderness

TAKE THE MARRIAGE TEMPERATURE CHECK

A 4-minute home assessment to see where your marriage

actually stands. http://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment

GET THE 3FM STARTUP GUIDE

The Faith-Filled Family Meeting is the rhythm we use to

keep our marriage and family connected to God and each

other. Download at http://www.ourhouse.faith

WORK WITH US

DM us on Instagram @ourhouse.faith and tell us where

your family is at. We'd love to hear from you.

LISTEN ON THE GO

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Search: Our House with The Smylies.

As for Our House, we will serve the Lord, and we pray

you will too.

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#marriageadvice #christianmarriagecoaching #biblicalmarriage

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You Love Them So Much But it’s Never Enough

Thu, 16 Apr 2026 10:00:33 +0000

If you and your spouse have read The 5 Love Languages and

still feel empty, this episode is for you. And if you've

never picked it up, this is the conversation that will

make you wish you had years ago.

We break down Dr. Gary Chapman's framework through 15

years of Christian marriage and show you why most couples

are speaking the wrong dialect to each other, even when

they're trying their hardest.

If you're tired of unrelated fights, resentment, and that

"I'm doing everything right but my spouse still feels

unloved" feeling, the love tank concept will reframe

everything.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Intro

01:50 Why this book has been our marriage cliff notes for 15 years

05:04 The love tank concept and why your spouse feels empty

07:05 Words of affirmation: why how you say it matters and the double whammy of public criticism

13:11 Quality time: moving past Netflix and chill to intentional connection

18:45 Acts of service: taking the mental load off your spouse

22:21 Receiving gifts: it's not materialism, it's being truly known

29:18 Physical touch: separating biological needs from soul connection

34:19 How to discover your primary love language plus the 6-Month Challenge for couples who aren't aligned yet

47:16 Parenting with the love languages: the 5-Minute Front-End Rule and the No-Release Hug

TAKE THE MARRIAGE TEMPERATURE CHECK

A 4-minute home assessment to see where your marriage

actually stands. http://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment

GET THE 3FM STARTUP GUIDE

The Faith-Filled Family Meeting is the rhythm we use to

keep our marriage and family connected to God and each

other. Download at http://www.ourhouse.faith

WORK WITH US

DM us on Instagram @ourhouse.faith and tell us where

your family is at. We'd love to hear from you.

LISTEN ON THE GO

Apple Podcasts, Spotify, RedCircle.

Search: Our House with The Smylies.

RESOURCES MENTIONED

The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman

As for Our House, we will serve the Lord, and we pray

you will too.

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#garychapman #christiancouples #christianfamily

#marriageadvice #christianmarriagecoaching #biblicalmarriage

#wordsofaffirmation #qualitytime #physicaltouch

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I Prayed for My Atheist Husband for a Decade

Thu, 09 Apr 2026 10:00:18 +0000

For over a decade, Malia prayed for her atheist husband to come to Christ. This is the episode where Jason and Malia tell you what happened.

This is the final episode in the Our House series on the Five Silent Killers of a Peaceful Home, and Jason and Malia saved the biggest one for last: spiritual misalignment. It’s the killer that almost ended their marriage before it started.

Jason shares the secret he carried for years. To get permission to marry Malia, he promised her father that God would be at the center of their home. The problem? He was a militant atheist who didn’t believe God existed. For over a decade, Jason and Malia lived in what they now call “separate boats,” drifting in different spiritual directions while life kept hitting harder. Two battles with kidney cancer. A Crohn’s diagnosis. A pregnancy. And underneath all of it, a God-sized hole Jason couldn’t name and Malia couldn’t fix.

In this episode, Jason and Malia walk through:

- The Four Boats analogy and how to figure out which boat your marriage is actually in right now

- The 90% rule and why a father coming to faith changes the spiritual trajectory of an entire family

- The difference between faux peace and the peace that surpasses understanding

Why Malia never stopped praying, and what finally broke through for Jason

If you’re a believing spouse praying for someone who doesn’t believe yet, this episode is for you. If you’re the skeptic in the marriage, this one is for you too.

Timestamp:

00:00 – Intro

01:44 – The Four Boats Analogy

08:50 – Personal Testimonies

10:05 – Malia’s Upbringing

11:45 – Jason’s Journey to Atheism

15:30 – The Secret Promise

35:10 – The Turning Point

41:50 – The 90% Rule

46:25 – Finding Real Peace

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Find out which of the five silent killers are affecting your home and get your next step.

http://ourhouse.faith/assessment

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If this testimony meant something to you, the biggest thing you can do is share it with one person who needs hope today. That’s how this message travels.

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The 3 Money Secrets Tearing Marriages Apart

Thu, 02 Apr 2026 10:00:16 +0000

We lived with a "contingency plan" for 13 years, and it almost cost us our entire marriage.

In this vulnerable episode, we are sharing, for the very first time, the story of our prenuptial agreement. We’re pulling back the curtain on how a legal document intended for "protection" became a silent killer in our home, creating a wedge of resentment and mistrust that nearly led to divorce.

Whether you have a prenup or are simply struggling with the "separateness" of money and bank accounts, this conversation is for you. We discuss:

The "What If" Mindset: Why entering a marriage with an exit strategy is a dangerous foundation.

Contract vs. Covenant: Shifting from legal protection to biblical unity as "one flesh."

The Breaking Point: The raw moment when we realized we had to dissolve our agreement to save our connection.

Total Transparency: Why we believe joint accounts and shared goals are vital for spiritual breakthrough.

📍 TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – The hidden danger of financial "protection"

01:23 – The 5 Silent Killers (SAFES)

05:52 – Why we required a prenup for 13 years

15:28 – The emotional cost and the breaking point

27:54 – The act of faith: Dissolving the contract

35:15 – Why we ditched separate bank accounts

46:41 – Making big financial decisions with God

51:36 – How tithing shifted our hearts from scarcity to abundance

Watch the full episode to hear the advice that changed everything for us.

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🎁 FREE RESOURCE

The Faith-Filled Family Meeting Guide: Is your home feeling more like a business than a sanctuary? Start your journey toward unity with our free weekly rhythm guide.

👉 Download it here:

http://ourhouse.faith

If this episode helped you, please LIKE, COMMENT, and SUBSCRIBE to join our community.

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Why Your Family Won't Open Up (And How to Fix It Tonight)

Thu, 26 Mar 2026 10:00:51 +0000

A lot of families go decades not talking about the things that matter most.

Issues get put on the back burner, they fester, and deep-seated resentment begins to build. For a long time, we tried to solve our family issues like a business, treating our home like a franchise and each other like employees. It didn’t work. In fact, it almost cost us everything. In this episode, we dive deep into the "A" of our SAFES framework: Avoiding Issues.

We get vulnerable about our own struggles with "correcting vs. connecting" and share how we transitioned from a cold, secular business model to what we now call the Faith-Filled Family Meeting. Whether you are dealing with surface-level chores or deep-seated disrespect and "meanness" between siblings, this episode provides a practical, 4-step blueprint to stop the drift and start building a home centered on God’s peace.

TIMESTAMPS:

• 00:00 - The danger of "festering" resentment

• 00:58 - Welcome to Our House: Why we almost lost it all

• 01:43 - Deep Dive: The "A" in SAFES (Avoiding Issues

• 02:40 - Why running your home like a business fails

• 05:58 - Correcting vs. Connecting: The missing piece

• 08:42 - Handling sibling disrespect and "meanness"

• 10:18 - The power of starting with prayer

• 14:58 - Parent Humility: Asking your kids for forgiveness

• 23:10 - Attachment Theory: Avoidant vs. Anxious styles

• 26:44 - The 4 Ps of solving family issues

• 30:34 - Why our 4-year-old was the "Peace Killer"

• 41:35 - How we handle marriage conflict differently now

• 45:34 - Why you must be careful who you share your issues with

• 49:52 - A special gift for your family

OUR GIFT TO YOU:Download the Faith-Filled Family Meeting Startup Guide: https://ourhouse.faith

CONNECT WITH US:

Instagram: @ourhouse.faith

Website: https://ourhouse.faith

ABOUT OUR HOUSE:We're Jason and Malia, married parents of four boys. We help families build the rhythms and rituals to bring God to the center of their home. Everything we share comes from our own living room, not a textbook. This podcast is for any family that's tired of surviving and ready to start thriving together.

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Your Family Is Too Busy for What Matters Most

Thu, 19 Mar 2026 10:00:00 +0000

Do you ever feel like your family is constantly running from one activity to the next and you can't remember the last time you all actually sat down together? Your schedule might be the thing silently destroying your family's connection.

This episode unpacks how the overscheduled family trap steals your connection and what you can do this week to start getting it back. From rethinking club sports to protecting family dinner to turning your daily car ride into the most important 15 minutes of your day, this conversation will change how you look at your calendar.

0:48 - Welcome to Our House

1:37 - How the overscheduled trap starts

7:48 - Why we chose one sport and one instrument

10:30 - Protecting family dinner and the Happy Crappy ritual

17:10 - No devices at the table and what to do instead

18:18 - Adding faith to your family routines

21:13 - Turning car rides into real connection

23:41 - Daily prayer with your kids on the way to school

30:07 - Why your marriage can't wait for the schedule to slow down

31:31 - Date nights and the shared family calendar

39:42 - The Faith-Filled Family Meeting framework

46:02 - How to get started with the free guide

50:45 - You don't have to change everything at once

FREE RESOURCE Download the Faith-Filled Family Meeting Startup Guide for free at ourhouse.faith. It walks you through a simple weekly meeting that keeps your family connected and your schedule in check.

CONNECT WITH US Instagram: https://instagram.com/ourhouse.faith

Website: https://ourhouse.faith

ABOUT OUR HOUSE We're Jason and Malia, married parents of four boys. We help families build the rhythms and rituals to bring God to the center of their home. Everything we share comes from our own living room, not a textbook. This podcast is for any family that's tired of surviving and ready to start thriving together.

LISTEN TO THE FULL SERIES This is Episode 2 in our series on the 5 Silent Killers of a Peaceful Home, our original framework called SAFES: Spiritual Misalignment, Avoiding Issues, Financial Separation, Emotional Disconnection, and Scheduling Chaos.

Episode 1: The 5 Silent Killers of a Peaceful Home (Be Emotionally Intimate with Your Spouse) Upcoming: Avoiding Issues, Financial Separation, and Spiritual Misalignment

The 5 Silent Killers of a Peaceful Home (Be Emotionally Intimate with Your Spouse)

Thu, 12 Mar 2026 10:32:40 +0000

We almost didn't make it.

We were the couple that looked like we had it together. Church on Sunday. Kids in the right schools. Nice house. And behind closed doors, we were falling apart. We weren't connecting. We weren't talking. We were roommates running a household, not partners building a home.

In this episode, we break down the 5 silent killers that keep homes stuck in survival mode: spiritual misalignment, financial separation, lack of emotional intimacy, scheduling chaos, and avoiding issues. We get honest about how every single one of these almost destroyed our marriage, including the Mexico City story we've never told publicly before.

If your family loves each other but it still feels like you're just surviving, this episode is for you.

OUR GIFT TO YOU:

Download the Faith-Filled Family Meeting Startup Guide: https://ourhouse.faith

CONNECT WITH US:

Instagram: https://instagram.com/ourhouse.faith

Website: https://ourhouse.faith

ABOUT OUR HOUSE:

We're Jason and Malia, married parents of four boys. We help families build the rhythms and rituals to bring God to the center of their home. Everything we share comes from our own living room, not a textbook. This podcast is for any family that's tired of surviving and ready to start thriving together.

Welcome to Our House Podcast

Thu, 12 Mar 2026 03:20:05 +0000

Four boys. Chaos. Almost broke us.

This is Our House — a channel for families who are tired of surviving and ready to start thriving. We're Jason and Malia, and we're sharing the rhythms, tools, and faith-centered practices that brought peace back into our home.

New videos regularly on faith, marriage, parenting, and building a Christ-centered home.

👉 Follow us on Instagram: @ourhouse.faith