Latina Writing Comunidad

Tias & Primas, with Hady Mendez

Mon, 19 May 2025 10:05:00 +0000

Vanessa brings on bestselling author and public speaker Hady Mendez. We discuss Prisca Dorcas Mojica Rodriguez's book 'Tias & Primas: On Knowing and Loving the Women Who Raise Us'.

The conversation dives into various archetypes the women in our lives, examining their cultural and societal significance. We reflect on how these roles resonate with our personal experiences and share stories of overcoming hurdles while embracing our Latina identities.

00:00 Intro

08:21 Archetypes That Resonate

18:30 Generational Differences

31:27 Personal Growth

38:48 Empowerment Through Writing

46:09 Representation

52:02 Supporting Latines

58:02 Conclusion

Defectors by Paola Ramos with Ruby Garcia

Sun, 27 Apr 2025 10:05:00 +0000

Ruby and Vanessa dive deep into themes of identity, traditionalism, and the impact of white supremacy on the Latine community. They discuss the exploitation of religion in Christian nationalism, the importance of community, intersectionality, and actionable ways to combat right-wing tactics. The conversation also highlights the personal and collective tasks required to overcome internalized oppression and build a united front against systemic inequalities. Tune in for an enlightening, honest, and raw discussion on reclaiming power and uplifting the Latino community.

00:00 Intro

00:25 Meet Ruby

02:14 'Defectors' by Paula Ramos

02:23 Individualism

05:46 Colonialism

13:47 Traditionalism & Religion

21:06 Politics & Latino Identity

35:34 Fear Mongering in Politics

37:03 Building a Leftist Coalition

37:35 Intentional Spending & Community Support

59:42 Staying Hopeful

01:01:58 Final Thoughts & How to Support

First Gen by Alejandra Campoverdi w/ Dr. Lisette Sanchez

Mon, 24 Mar 2025 10:05:00 +0000

Join Vanessa, the host of the Latina Writing Comunidad podcast, and her special guest, Dr. Lisette Sanchez, as they review the book 'First Gen' by Alejandra Campoverdi. This episode explores themes of empowerment, breaking barriers, finding balance, and the unique challenges faced by first-generation Latinas. Vanessa and Dr. Lisette share personal anecdotes and discuss the importance of mental health, community, and accessibility in overcoming the 'imposter phenomenon.' Get insights into Alejandra's journey from being a 'perfect daughter' to working for the White House, and learn why this memoir resonated deeply with them both. Don't miss their candid discussion on navigating the bicultural balancing act, emotional inheritance, and the power of intentional self-care.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:28 Special Guest: Dr. Lisette

01:14 Balancing Work and Life

02:36 The Importance Pauses

03:43 Reviewing The Book

04:39 The Value of Community

08:31 Alejandra's Journey & Impact

14:14 Navigating First Gen Challenges

24:41 Emotional Inheritance

26:05 Inherited Behaviors

26:30 Expressing Anger

28:09 Speaking Event

30:32 Therapist's Self-Discovery

33:26 Imposter Syndrome vs. Phenomenon

38:03 Navigating Racism

43:45 The Lonely Hustle

47:52 Hope for an Inclusive Future

54:10 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview

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Dr. Lisette on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefirstgenpsychologist/

Buy the book & not from Am@zon! https://penandhoneybooks.com/bookstore/p/first-gen-a-memoir-by-alejandra-campoverdi?srsltid=AfmBOooEyBhcARSe7f_3aWfOmSM71IpM9gXl0qZVOiQ8B7qmuQGXG6Or

Essential Federal Tax Compliance Workshop for Small Businesses

Mon, 10 Mar 2025 14:59:24 +0000

The first Latina Writing Comunidad session on youtube hosted by Christina Cayas, CEO and founder of Elite Accounting and Tax Consulting. In this enlightening session, Christina covers key federal tax obligations, common tax forms, income reporting, maximizing deductions, and staying in compliance.

00:00 Intro to Federal Tax Compliance

00:25 Meet Your Cristy

02:09 Key Federal Tax Obligations

13:00 Common Tax Forms

18:20 Income Reporting

20:04 Maximizing Deductions

29:21 Staying in Compliance

33:16 Q&A Session

44:35 Closing Remarks and Contact Information

Book a call with Cristy on her website: https://eliteaccountingtax.com/

Follow Cristy on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elite_accountingtax_consulting/

Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together?

Mon, 24 Feb 2025 11:05:00 +0000

Vanessa, the host of the Chick Lit, dives deep into the themes of race and identity with her friend Krystal as they review 'Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?' by Beverly Daniel Tatum. They discuss critical issues such as systemic racism, educational inequities, and personal identity development, while sharing their experiences and insights. Krystal also talks about her upcoming workshop with the Latina Writing Comunidad and the challenges and triumphs of graduating from law school. The episode encapsulates a heartfelt conversation about the importance of representation, supporting each other, and pushing for systemic change.

00:00 Intro to Chick Lit

00:29 Krystal's Journey

03:21 The Book

04:09 Personal Experiences

06:19 Identity & Privilege

12:07 Systemic Issues in Education

24:03 Burnout & Passion

29:56 Reforming the System

30:29 Key Themes in the Book

31:10 Racism & Education

33:44 Systemic Racism & Institutional Barriers

34:42 Convos with Kids

40:37 Diverse Latino Experiences & Histories

44:10 Bad Bunny's Cultural Impact

51:09 Final Thoughts & Future Plans

Buy today's book, HERE!

Be part of the Latina Writing Comunidad! Register HERE!

Buy the book Krystal mentioned, Harvest of Empire HERE!

Creating Your Limitless Life by/with Dr. Esther Zeledón

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 11:05:00 +0000

In this episode of ChickLit, Vanessa welcomes Dr. Esther Zeledón, author of 'Create Your Limitless Life.' They discuss themes of self-discovery, the power of family heritage, and methods for achieving true personal and professional alignment. Tune in as Vanessa and Dr. Zeledón delve into the challenges faced by minoritized people and the necessity of finding one's sense of purpose amidst systemic limitations!

00:00 Intro

01:09 Latina Writing Comunidad

02:54 Family Legacies

05:20 Trailblazing

13:11 Teaching

16:05 Financial Mindset

19:48 Aligning Purpose and Career

26:10 Create Change

26:25 Challenges of Being a Teacher

26:53 Podcasting

27:18 Aligning with Your Values

27:50 Authenticity

29:21 The Right Fit

31:41 Influence

37:52 Writing a Book

41:53 Reconnecting with Ancestral Practices

44:56 Celebrating Small Wins

51:17 Conclusion and Future Goals

Loud by Drew Afualo with Adri Dominguez

Mon, 09 Dec 2024 11:05:00 +0000

Vanessa, host of Chick Lit, explores empowering women through book reviews and meaningful conversations. In this episode, she dives into "Loud: Accept Nothing Less Than the Life You Deserve" by Drew Afualo, a Samoan influencer known for calling out misogyny on TikTok. The book challenges harmful myths about women, addresses imposter syndrome, and encourages self-empowerment by focusing on personal happiness, confidence, and resilience.

Vanessa is joined by guest Adriana Dominquez, a public speaker and Zumba instructor, to discuss themes like valuing community, rejecting societal expectations, and navigating sexism in various contexts, from the workplace to family dynamics. They reflect on Drew’s unapologetic approach to confronting misogyny, the emotional labor placed on women, and the importance of body neutrality.

Key Takeaways:

- Prioritize personal desires over societal pressures.

- Advocate for yourself with the same respect you offer others.

- Start small, tend to your inner child, and regulate your nervous system.

- Community and self-awareness are crucial for empowerment.

Set Boundaries, Find Peace with Dr. Cassandre Dunbar (@BeWellSis_Podcast)

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 12:05:00 +0000

In this episode, Vanessa, the host of the Chick Lit Podcast, explores the themes of the book 'Set Boundaries, Find Peace' by Nedra Glover Tawab, joined by special guest Dr. Cassandre Dunbar @BeWellSis_Podcast. The discussion delves into boundary setting, self-advocacy, and the importance of support systems, particularly for marginalized women. Vanessa and Dr. Cassandre share their personal experiences, highlighting the importance of clear communication and the cultural dynamics of motherhood, while emphasizing how setting boundaries can positively influence future parenting.

Listen Be Well Sis on YouTube here

Listen Be Well Sis on Spotify here

00:00 Introduction to Chick Lit Podcast

00:35 Connecting Through Social Media

01:37 Discussing 'Set Boundaries, Find Peace'

04:10 Personal Reflections on Boundaries

05:12 Immigrant Experiences and Parental Sacrifices

10:06 Balancing Responsibilities and Setting Priorities

16:32 Navigating Relationships with Boundaries

24:18 Building a Strong Foundation for Motherhood

26:15 The Importance of Support Systems for Mothers

27:55 Cultural Differences in Postpartum Care

35:02 The Role of Boundaries in Mental Health

41:00 More About Be Well Sis Podcast

Set Boundaries, Find Peace

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 12:05:00 +0000

In this episode listeners are introduced to the book 'Set Boundaries, Find Peace' by Nedra Glover Tawwab. Vanessa emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries to prioritize oneself and maintain healthy relationships. She discusses the three types of boundaries: porous, rigid, and healthy, and provides practical advice on how to set and maintain boundaries. She also shares her personal experiences and insights from the book. Vanessa highlights the significance of assertiveness, the roles of ultimatums, and avoiding oversharing to maintain relationship integrity. Special mention is made of the challenges marginalized groups may face in setting boundaries. The episode ends with a teaser for the next episode featuring Dr. Cassandra Dunbar from the podcast 'Be Well, Sis'.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:12 Book Overview: Set Boundaries, Find Peace

00:45 Personal Reflections and Exercises

04:00 Understanding Boundaries

05:33 Types of Boundaries

13:17 Signs You Need Boundaries

16:11 Communicating and Enforcing Boundaries

18:13 Assertiveness and Guilt

20:54 Prioritizing Yourself

21:51 Changing Relationship Dynamics

24:43 Codependency and Setting Expectations

27:25 Trauma Bonding and Healthy Ultimatums

30:19 The Importance of Not Oversharing

32:20 Identifying Relationship Agreements and Norms

37:20 Power and Status in Setting Boundaries

39:56 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview

Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell with Pam Ortiz, Solo Para Ti

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 10:05:00 +0000

In this episode, Vanessa and her guest Pam discuss Malcolm Gladwell's book 'Outliers,' touching on topics like the importance of circumstances and timing in success, the power of supportive communities, and the unique challenges and advantages faced by Latinas. Discover their personal journeys, their thoughts on seizing opportunities, and how representation truly matters. Don't miss out on practical insights and heartfelt stories that highlight the significance of perseverance and intentionality.

https://shopsoloparati.com/

@makeupbypamo

@soloparatiLLC

00:00 Intro

00:18 Meet Pam

01:31 How We Met

03:32 Support Each Other

05:59 Diving into 'Outliers' by Malcolm Gladwell

18:59 Pam's Journey

23:04 Financial Privileges

23:39 Career and Personal Growth

24:15 Family and Upbringing

25:51 Historical and Cultural Contexts

27:56 The Journey of Development

31:34 Representation

36:55 Intentional Relationships

44:10 How to Support

45:45 Conclusion and Call to Action

Outlier by Malcolm Gladwell

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 10:05:00 +0000

In this episode of Chick Lit, host Vanessa dives into Malcolm Gladwell's seminal book 'Outliers,' exploring key themes and powerful stories that illuminate the hidden factors driving success. From the 10,000-hour rule and affirmative action to practical intelligence and historical timing, Vanessa discusses how preparation, opportunities, and societal advantages play crucial roles in achieving excellence. Tune in for inspiring stories about the Beatles, Bill Gates, and more, and learn why fostering autonomy and practical skills in children is essential for long-term success.

00:00 Intro

00:53 Accumulative Advantage

03:16 Affirmative Action

05:19 IQ vs. Social Savvy

07:32 The Rosetos

09:30 The Beatles

11:34 Bill Joy

15:11 Chris Langan

20:03 Historical Timing

22:50 Jewish Immigrants

23:25 Resourcefulness in Poverty

23:48 Health Insurance

26:26 Practice Makes Perfect

27:39 Parental Guidance

29:50 Practical Intelligence

34:48 Educational Inequality

38:26 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes

The Body Keeps the Score with Latina Therapist, Juliana Londoño

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 10:00:00 +0000

Empowering Conversations: Latina Therapy, Chick Lit, and The Body Keeps the Score

In this episode of the Chick Lit Podcast, host Vanessa connects with her friend and Latina therapist Juliana Londoño. They discuss their deep bond rooted in their Latina and Colombian heritage and shared experiences in northern New Jersey. The conversation dives into the misconceptions about therapists being perfect and highlights the importance of humanizing their struggles. They also explore the heavy themes in 'The Body Keeps the Score' by Bessel van der Kolk, touching on trauma, community support, and the impact of early life experiences on mental health. Additionally, they discuss the importance of creating new neural pathways by challenging oneself and reframing thoughts. The episode emphasizes the intersectionality of Latinos and BIPOC communities in mainstream mental health discussions. Juliana shares her latest project, a bilingual mental health newsletter, and her goal of raising awareness about mental health within these communities. The episode ends with a call for support for their respective ventures and an invitation for speaking engagements.

Hire Juliana as a speaker, fly her out, and subscribe to her newsletter

Juliana's website - https://www.juliana-londono.com/

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/juliana-londono18/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/juliana.londono_/

The Blackfoot Wisdom that Inspired Maslow’s Hierarchy - https://www.resilience.org/stories/2021-06-18/the-blackfoot-wisdom-that-inspired-maslows-hierarchy/

00:00 Intro

00:23 Meet Juliana

02:01 The Importance of Therapist Vulnerability

08:21 Discussing 'The Body Keeps the Score'

15:01 Community Support

25:28 Neuroplasticity

31:48 Decolonizing Therapy

35:02 Entrepreneurship and Mental Health Advocacy

36:44 How to Connect w. Juliana

39:04 Outro

The Body Keeps the Score - Part 1

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Unpacking Trauma: Insights from 'The Body Keeps the Score'

Vanessa delves into 'The Body Keeps the Score' by Bessel van der Kolk, exploring its themes of trauma and healing. She discusses key concepts such as the body's response to trauma, the importance of having a secure base during traumatic events, and the ACE test. Additionally, Vanessa addresses the role of medication in treating trauma and the complexities of individual healing journeys.

00:00 Introduction to Chick Lit Podcast

00:11 Exploring 'The Body Keeps the Score'

00:49 Controversies Surrounding Bessel van der Kolk

01:36 Themes and Insights from the Book

03:17 Personal Reflections and Experiences

05:56 Understanding Trauma and the Nervous System

12:12 The ACE Test and Childhood Trauma

33:08 Healing and Self-Awareness

40:15 Critique of Medication and Therapy

43:34 Conclusion and Recommendations

The Rachel Incident - Complexities of Love & Friendship (Part 2)

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 10:05:00 +0000

Join Vanessa and her friend Priscilla in part two of their deep dive into 'The Rachel Incident'. In this episode, they explore the tumultuous lives and relationships of the book's characters, particularly focusing on themes of personal growth, youthful delusions, and the complexities of love and friendship. Vanessa and Priscilla share their insights and personal anecdotes while discussing the novel's richly drawn characters and the pivotal 'Rachel Incident.' Tune in for a thoughtful exploration of this engaging story.

0:00 Intro

0:17 Delulu in your 20’s

18:30 V loud, sry

18:52 Aborshon

25:25 Closure

The Rachel Incident - Being In Your 20's (Part 1)

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 10:05:00 +0000

In this episode of the Chick-lit, Vanessa is joined by her friend Priscilla as they dive into an insightful conversation about friendships, self-reflection, and personal growth. They reminisce about their shared history, discuss forming connections over time, and explore the underlying themes in the book 'The Rachel Incident.' The discussion navigates through the nuances of personal relationships, the challenges of motherhood, and the journey toward self-realization, all while highlighting their own experiences and the impact of cultural backgrounds. Tune in for heartfelt stories, laughter, and a deeper understanding of past selves and present realities.

0:00 Guest: Priscilla

6:11 Motherhood

10:06 Being Jobless

12:36 Astrology

13:56 $ is Fake

18:03 If Women Ruled

18:44 Comms Styles

19:49 Latinas @ work

22:34 Matriarch

25:17 We are Rachel

28:48 20’s

29:25 Book Recap

30:08 James Devlin

31:27 Coming Out

Happy Birthday, Chick Lit!

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 10:00:00 +0000

1-Year Anniversary Special: Reflections, Gratitude, and Future Goals

Join Vanessa as she celebrates the 1-year anniversary of the Chick Lit podcast! In this special episode, Vanessa reflects on her journey in podcasting over the past year, thanks her supporters, and shares personal stories. From heartfelt shout-outs to friends and family, to overcoming professional challenges, this episode is a deep dive into Vanessa's experiences and lessons learned. She also discusses future goals for the podcast, making it an inspiring listen for avid listeners and new fans alike!

0:00 HBD Chick Lit

1:04 Thank Yous

5:51 Family Support

9:42 BF Support

10:31 School

16:39 Mom Support

18:04 Writing A Book

19:20 Podcast Purpose

20:47 Podcast Progress

24:38 Public Speaking

27:04 Self Confidence

29:12 AI Help

32:35 Faves

33:30 Cultura & Cash

34:48 Future of CL

Changes coming to Chick Lit & Merari touring NJ

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 10:00:00 +0000

Vanessa shares what changes are coming to Chick Lit (youtube & spotify) and Merari shares all things they did as she toured NJ. Enjoy!

Queenie with @LifeWithMeganB

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 10:00:00 +0000

Queenie is a new TV show out on Hulu based on the book written by Candice Carty-Williams!

ACOMAF - A Court of Mist and Fury

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 05:00:00 +0000

Listen to the episode A Court of Thorns and Roses, ACOTAR, the first book in this series.

Sex Talks

Mon, 20 May 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Sex Talks by Vanessa and Xander Marin • Vanessa and Xander, a Latinx therapist and her husband, pull sex out of the shadows, offering a framework for crucial conversations all couples need, regardless of background. They celebrate diversity and ditch cultural shaming, focusing on empowering you to explore your sexuality openly. Consent is key, with playful tools and metaphors to navigate boundaries and awkward conversations. Get ready for a journey of self-discovery, healthy communication, and ultimately, a more fulfilling sex life.

Survivor’s Guide - https://free.vmtherapy.com/survivors-guide-opt-in?_ga=2.196800492.1341826083.1716124524-1227998665.1716124524

latinxtherapy.com

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us

Fourth Wing with my bff Marbz

Mon, 13 May 2024 11:00:00 +0000

ATTENTION: Please fill out this survey! https://forms.gle/gFNR5m5PQPEq51617

I am currently working with a mentor to make Chick Lit Podcast a success. One of her requests was to survey my listeners. Your feedback will directly influence the future direction of the podcast and ensure it continues to resonate with amazing listeners like you. Gracias!

You know that conspiracy meme where Charlie from Always Sunny is strung out, trying to explain something? Yeah. This entire episode is Marbz and me going back and forth talking about Violet, Xanden, Dragons, and Dain for the entire hour. Enjoy!

P.S. - Stay tuned for a bonus episode where Marbz and I dive into our friendship; how we met, what connects us, and what the last 8ish years have been like being bff.

Class, Race, & Motherhood in Shaker Heights

Mon, 06 May 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng • At the end of the book the author leaves us, the readers, a letter and I think it captures the essence of the book well so instead of writing my own review, I’ll just paste some of the letter: “Dear readers, When I first began Little Fires Everywhere, I knew I wanted to write about my beloved hometown of Shaker Heights, Ohio. I started with a story about troubled families-the wealthy Richardsons and their complicated family dynamics, mysterious Mia and her daughter, and the secrets they all carry with them-and set the story in my hometown. Shaker Heights, I realized, is full of fascinating contradictions. It's a wealthy, highly regulated city-one of the first planned communities in the United States-and the belief in planning is so strong that the city even planned for diversity in everything from the appearance of its houses to the racial makeup of its population. It was founded on utopian principles and even today brims with idealism and a sense of exceptionalism. And despite all this, of course, Shaker Heights still struggles with the same race and class issues as the rest of the nation. Like many places in our country, Shaker Heights is full of idealistic, altruistic people— of all races— who are good at heart and sincerely want to do the right thing. Yet when personally affected by the issues, even idealists often end up making selfish choices with far-reaching effects. It's human nature, yet I wanted to explore how-and how often—we justify it to ourselves when we cross moral lines. Where do we follow the rules, and where do we justify breaking them? Do our pasts determine what we deserve in the future? And is it ever possible to leave your past behind? These are some of the questions I hope the novel raises.” & that’s exactly what it did.

Fake Dating Never Works

Mon, 29 Apr 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Things We Never Got Over by Lucy Score • Knox, a tattooed, gruff, bearded barber enjoys his life solo – think dog best friend, several businesses, and zero time for bullsh!t. Then comes Naomi barreling into town- a runaway bride on a rescue mission for her wild-child twin. Sparks fly like rogue hairs despite Knox and Naomi’s attempts at a cool facade. Buckle up, because their path to healing is anything but ordinary, even by the standards of cheesy romance novels.

https://xtown.la/2021/11/15/domestic-violence-restraining-order/

Silent Patient

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 11:00:00 +0000

The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides • This novel delves into the world of Theo, a psychotherapist with a complex past. Raised by a physically abusive father, Theo grappled with his childhood trauma his whole life.

Through therapy, Theo learned the value of self-worth, respect, and healthy relationships, concepts vastly different from the violence he endured as a child. This experience shapes Theo's approach when he takes on a new role at a secure mental health facility. He finds himself drawn to a patient named Alicia, an enigmatic artist who has remained silent since brutally murdering her husband, Gabriel. No one has been able to unlock the truth behind her crime.

Theo embarks on a journey to understand Alicia's silence, unraveling the motivation for her horrific act. The story explores the complexities of the human psyche.

Fear of Dying Alone

Mon, 15 Apr 2024 11:00:00 +0000

The Brilliant Life of Eudora Honeysett by Annie Lyons • We don't talk enough about how growing up during & post WWII impacts our society today. The book explores complex questions surrounding death and dying in old age. It raises a thought-provoking scenario: a woman who, at 85, contemplates assisted dying despite finally finding love and support.

Just like birth doulas are compassionate professionals who support pregnant people, death doulas support terminally ill patients in their final days. Their role emphasizes the value of open communication about death, reminding us that while death is inevitable, it can be faced with comfort and peace.

I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 14:12:00 +0000

This book explores the grief of a younger sister, Julie, coming to terms with the sudden loss of her seemingly perfect older sister, Olga. While Olga embodied tradition, attending church and prioritizing family, Julie harbors dreams pursuing a more modern path. Torn between resentment for a sister she never fully understood, Julie embarks on a quest to uncover her sister’s suspected secrets. This journey not only sheds light on her sister's true self but also fosters healing within the fractured family, particularly between a grieving Julie and her mother.

Mentioned in the episode:

The author’s article, How Libraries Discriminate Against Undocumented Children, 2017 https://time.com/4982107/libraries-discriminate-undocumented-children/

Jedfoundation.org

The Life is Precious program from the nonprofit that is a culturally and linguistically appropriate support for Latina teens - comunilife.org/life-is-precious

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - text “START” to 741-741 or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Maybe You Should Talk To Someone (A Therapist)

Mon, 01 Apr 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb • Lori pulls back the curtain on therapy in a unique way. We see her not only as a therapist guiding her clients, but also as a client herself, seeking guidance through a tough breakup that uncovers deeper issues. Through her personal and professional experiences, Gottlieb paints a compelling picture of therapy's power. It's not just for those in crisis, but a valuable tool for anyone navigating life's challenges.

Mentioned in episode:

psychologytoday.com

https://shanesafir.com/2020/12/before-maslows-hierarchy-the-whitewashing-of-indigenous-knowledge/

Behind The Mic PART 2

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 06:00:00 +0000

This episode is unscripted and unfiltered, a chance to connect on a real level and get to know me. I'm peeling back the layers and revealing more about my life behind the mic.

Curious about how this podcast comes to life? I'm spilling the beans! From the spark of inspiration to the nitty-gritty production details.

I'll also be sharing my perspective of being first-gen / bicultural, as usual. We'll delve into the joys and challenges of navigating cultural identities, finding my place in the world, and the richness it brings to everything I do.

Feel free to ask questions, share thoughts, and join the conversation!

There Is No "Right" Decision, Do What You Want

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 10:00:00 +0000

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig • This book explores the multiverse theory, proposing an infinite number of parallel lives unfolding simultaneously. We meet Nora, a character brimming with regrets. As she explores the multiverse, we, the readers, learn valuable lessons alongside her. It's a healing journey that reminds us that we have the power to be anything! After all, in some reality, we already are.

The book doesn't shy away from the harsh truths. It acknowledges that comparing ourselves to others, even our past or imagined selves, can fuel dissatisfaction.

This thought-provoking read will stay with you long after you turn the last page. It's a reminder to embrace the complexities of life, both beautiful and ugly, and celebrate the unique journey that is yours alone.

Cultura & Cash Part 2 w/ Violetta @Latinx_Estrangement

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Join Vanessa and her second-ever guest, Violetta, of @Latinx_Estrangement! Violetta is a Spanglish speaking, Mexican-American licensed therapist who works with clients in California and Texas. She supports folks who don't feel safe and supported by their families.

Follow her on socials and sign up for her monthly newsletter here: https://tr.ee/aznxVa8zIJ

Fr33 Pal3stin3

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Evil Eye by Etaf Rum • This book delves into the life of Yara, a first-generation Palestinian millennial grappling with her cultural heritage and personal struggles. The narrative unfolds through her introspective lens, revealing the complexities of navigating life as a child of immigrants.

Yara's family’s displacement from their homeland casts a long shadow, shaping her parents' decision to immigrate to the US in search of a better life. However, the weight of their displacement lingers, leaving Yara with a pervasive sense of not belonging. Yara grapples with reconciling her cultural identity with the realities of American culture.

Art, journaling, and a newfound friendship emerge as Yara's heals, offering solace and space for self-discovery. The book artfully showcases her internal conflict and the challenges she confronts in forging her own path.

The Female Orgasm

Fri, 23 Feb 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

This episode explores how owning your sexuality isn't just about personal fulfillment, but a catalyst for broader societal change. By dismantling harmful power structures around women's bodies, we pave the way for a more just and equitable world. This episode dives into:

• Tools for beginners and the language you need in order to explore your sexuality with confidence and joy.

• "Accelerators" and "brakes" - how to connect with your body and unlock new levels of pleasure.

• How your connections with yourself and others foster a more receptive state for intimacy.

With 8 billion people on Earth, your experiences and struggles are likely shared by many. Join the conversation and empower yourself and others!

How Can You Steal Your Dead Friend's Manuscript?!

Fri, 16 Feb 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Yellowface by R. F. Kuang • When a freak pancake-eating accident tragically claimed Athena's life, June stole her frenemy's unpublished manuscript while she waited for help to arrive. Seizing the opportunity, she made edits and presented it as her own, propelling herself to fame and fortune.

Who gets to tell whose stories? This book plunges us into the complexities of racial narratives and literary privilege through June’s life post-publication. June's self-doubt, envy, and unhealed wounds bubble beneath the surface, blurring her reality.

UNEDITED BONUS EPISODE - 30+ books discussed! Bookclub w/ Jane, Megan, Megan, and Vanessa.

Wed, 14 Feb 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Join our most recent bookclub meetup where we chat about several books we've read over the years, Colleen Hoover, the types of books we like & don't like, and so much more!

Disclaimer: We were in a restaurant so you might hear us munching on bread, the chef's preparing food, or music playing in the background. It's a mess but we had fun and that's all that matters :)

My First Episode w/ A Guest! Instagram: @MelloCandleCo

Fri, 09 Feb 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey •

Admittedly, we started reading McConaughey's memoir with preconceived notions. He was the golden boy of the early 2000s rom-coms, an undeniable Hollywood charm machine. But "Greenlights" shattered that carefully crafted image, revealing a more accurate depiction of the man beneath the Texas drawl.

The raw honesty about his upbringing was eye-opening. It humanized him, reminding us that the past informs the present. He doesn't paint himself a victim, he walks through life with a contagious "just keep livin'" attitude. He acknowledges his privilege and doesn't shy away from highlighting the inequalities that others face.

McConaughey's positive outlook isn't blind positivity. It's a conscious choice, nurtured by introspection and self-awareness. He encourages going back to your roots, reflecting on your journey, and taking charge of your narrative.

Maybe Let's Not Be Murderers

Fri, 02 Feb 2024 12:00:00 +0000

The House Across The Lake by Riley Sager • The author's mastery of the "millennial female voice" is what initially hooked me. Riley Sager effortlessly navigates the nuances of our generation, making the protagonist instantly relatable and at times insufferable. This skill becomes even more crucial in the face of the book's creepy atmosphere when the neighbor's drowning sets the stage for a chilling mystery – she's saved, then vanishes, leaving us unsettled as Casey, the main character, tries to get to the bottom of it. This is not your typical summer retreat; it's a masterclass in building suspense, where every ripple on the lake and creak of the floorboards becomes a potential clue.

First-Gen Latina, Culturally Relevant Financial Self Help Book

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 14:17:37 +0000

Cultura & Cash by Giovanna Gonzalez • I was actually able to get early access through the author's (@gigithefirstgenmentor) Cultural & Cash Crew program and read the book before it was even released!

As a first gen Latina, I felt so seen reading this book. Gigi’s mission is to equip people of the global majority with the tools and confidence to manage our finances, overcome debt, build lasting wealth, and achieve financial freedom. This book is unlike any other financial book out there because these types of books are often written with other audiences in mind. Drawing on her Mexican heritage and collectivist upbringing, Gigi highlights the importance of balancing our community and our personal financial future. This entire book is rooted in Latino culture!

I highly recommend this book for anyone who might feel frustrated or frightened by their current or future financial situation.

Small Black & Jewish Town

Fri, 19 Jan 2024 13:15:59 +0000

The Heaven and Earth Grocery Store by James McBride journeys through the lives of about 30 residents in Pottstown, Pennsylvania, sharing their hopes, struggles, and how they come together. You meet the alleged descendants of the Mayflower and Ellis Island voyagers, newcomers seeking to escape past mistakes, and lifelong townies. I encountered African American, Jewish, Russian, Greek, Italian, Romanian, and Yiddish influences that I was not familiar with and it was such a treat!

We Should Be Funding Communities, Not War

Fri, 12 Jan 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut • Engaging with banned books brings me immense joy. Banned books expose you to a variety of perspectives and ideas that challenge societal norms, and often leave us with a sense of empowerment. As society advances, women gain the ability to stay informed, voice their opinions, and challenge conventions. It’s important that Chick Lit covers heavy topics like the ones mentioned in today’s book, including anti-war sentiments, consumerism, religion, imperialism, classism, humanity, and the industrial war complex. Although the overall tone leans toward a somber note, the mention of time-traveling aliens injects an intriguing element.

Center Latinos When Creating Media About Us

Fri, 05 Jan 2024 12:00:00 +0000

Too Soon for Adiós by Annette Chavez Macias • The author, Annette Chavez Macias, beautifully captured the Latino/Mexican American experience throughout the book. Annette showcased Latino culture with an incredible blend of tenderness and care. The use of Spanglish in the book is authentic and avoids any cringe-worthy moments, a rarity in media representations. Annette's portrayal of Mexican dishes is brimming with love, skillfully illustrating that food is a genuine labor of love for Latinos. She also delves into the intricacies of being a No Sabo kid. Annette handles the sensitive topics of racism and discrimination with tact, presenting them in succinct bursts and avoiding prolonged, detailed scenes that could potentially retraumatize the audience facing these challenges daily.

Stop Demonizing People with Mental Health Conditions

Fri, 15 Dec 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Mental health stigma is a societal problem that has a significant negative impact on people with mental health conditions. The stigma can lead to reduced hope, lower self-esteem, increased symptoms, difficulties at work, and a lower likelihood of maintaining treatment plans. It can also lead to discrimination in the workplace, housing, healthcare, and more. The stigma is often rooted in negative stereotypes about mental illness that are reinforced in our culture and media. These stereotypes can be particularly harmful for marginalized groups, who may already face discrimination and prejudice. In The Housemaid’s case, mental health stigma further terrorized Nina; on top of the abuse she experienced, society was against her, too.

To truly break down the Mental Health stigma, it has to be addressed at multiple levels. While talking about mental health is a great starting place, more will be needed to truly better the lives of those with mental health conditions.

Systemic change
Research and funding
Media interventions
Mental health literacy
Increased awareness

Puerto Rico Can Flourish Without U.S. Intervention

Fri, 08 Dec 2023 12:00:00 +0000

Olga's ability to navigate the world of the wealthy is showcased alongside her community-focused actions. Despite her avoidance of romance, she unexpectedly finds herself entangled with Matteo, leading to moments of confusion and self-reflection. Matteo challenges Olga's defenses and, throughout the book, patiently supports her during challenging times. Their journey highlights the importance of trust and communication in building a lasting relationship, providing a heartwarming narrative of growth and love.

We Need More Sex Scenes

Fri, 01 Dec 2023 12:00:00 +0000

In this charming holiday romance, Snowed In by Catherine Walsh, Megan and Christian, childhood friends with contrasting personalities, pretend to be each other's significant others for Christmas. Their fake relationship sparks a delightful tension as Christian's thoughtful gestures and Megan's playful banter add to the heartwarming story, making it a perfect read for the holiday season.

Beloved by Toni Morrison

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 12:00:00 +0000

I dive into the haunting tale of Sethe, a former slave who made the agonizing decision to kill her own child, Beloved, rather than let her experience the horrors of slavery. We explore the enduring trauma of slavery, the complexities of intergenerational healing, and the presence of Beloved, a manifestation of Sethe's grief and longing.

In the forward, Toni Morrison lists writers with outrageous talent and I encourage us all to read some of their work: Toni Cade Bambara, June Jordan, Gayle Jones, Lucille Clifton, Henry Dumas, Leon Forrest… She lists scholars with original ideas and hands-on research. I also recommend we read their work: William Hinton’s Shen Fan.. Ivan Van Sertima’s They Came Before Columbus.. Karen DeCrow’s Sexist Justice… Chinweizu’s The West and The Rest of Us.. and some public figures eager to set the record straight, they're the most mainstream on this list and will help guide you through life- Angela Davis, Muhammad Ali, and Huey Newton.

⁠Toni Morrison's Article in the New Yorker, "Make America White Again".⁠

Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J. Maas

Fri, 17 Nov 2023 12:00:00 +0000

A young woman is taken from her home and forced to live in the faerie realm. She falls in love with Tamlin, the High Lord of the Spring Court, but their relationship is threatened by Amarantha and Feyre must find a way to save her loved ones and her world.

Both Twilight and Court of Thorns and Roses are fantasy novels that feature a forbidden romance between a human and a supernatural being. Both stories also involve the supernatural world being in danger, and the human protagonists puts themselves at risk to help.

Verity, By Colleen Hoover

Fri, 10 Nov 2023 12:00:00 +0000

The opening scene of Verity is graphic and violent, but it sets the stage for the suspenseful and thrilling story that follows. Lowen, I call her Lo throughout the episode, is a struggling writer who is hired by Jeremy Crawford to finish his wife's book series after Verity is involved in a car accident. Lowen moves into the Crawfords' home to work on the book, but she soon begins to experience strange and unsettling things. She finds a rough draft of Verity's autobiography, which reveals Verity's dark and twisted thoughts and actions. Lowen is horrified by what she reads, but she can't stop reading.

Quit Like A Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink In A Culture Obsessed with Alcohol, by Holly Whitaker

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Alcohol is a harmful, addictive drug.

Society has a misconception of what it means to be alcoholic. Alcoholism is not about the amount of drinks you have per week, but about whether drinking negatively impacts your life and continuing to drink anyway.

Current recovery programs, such as AA, were created by white men in the 1930s and are not inclusive of women or people of the global majority.

The author proposes a "feminine centric recovery" framework that assumes you are already whole and perfect, and that the problem is with the system, not with you. This approach focuses on self-advocacy, mothering yourself, growing your own agency, growing a skill set, setting clear boundaries, embracing the world, cultivating a sense of power, and self-trust.

We should do away with the labels "alcoholic" and "alcoholism" because they assert that it is normal to consume an addictive substance with ease and abnormal to not be able to, and that they prevent all drinkers from observing their own relationship with alcohol. These terms shame people for life and that they absolve alcohol companies of their role in mass producing, marketing, and selling this dangerous drug.

Behind the Mic: Why I decided to Start a Podcast

Fri, 27 Oct 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Not a book review! Join me as I unravel the multiple layers of my podcast's origin story, from personal support to cultural impact.

I delve into the compelling backstory of the podcast and the essential support from my mom, loved ones, and boyfriend, which enabled me to dedicate myself to this project. I explore the importance of representation, feeling seen, and humanizing other cultures in the books we read.

How Not to Drown In a Glass of Water, by Angie Cruz

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Cara is a dedicated community member with a strong commitment to making a difference. Within the book, Cara passionately shares her and her community's story, highlighting the struggles they face and how the support often comes from fellow community members facing similar challenges.

Adelaide, by Genevieve Wheeler

Fri, 13 Oct 2023 10:00:00 +0000

The protagonist, Adelaide, navigates challenges such as endometriosis, family mental health issues, and past traumatic relationships. Adelaide's journey is marked by self-destructive behavior and her involvement with Rory, who fails to treat her as she deserves. She also grapples with her relationship with alcohol, often using it as a coping mechanism. Her character frequently puts others' needs above her own, reflecting a common pattern where women feel the need to constantly please others, often at the expense of their own well-being.

I also advocate for meaningful societal changes, such as universal healthcare, fair wages, and stable housing, all of which play vital roles in reducing suicide rates and improving overall mental well-being. Remember, you're not alone, and there's always hope and support available.

Nami.org

Thetrevorproject.org

Beam.community

Asainmhc.org

samhsa.gov

Jedfoundation.org

And twloha.com

Paola Santiago and the River of Tears, by Tehlor Kay Mejia

Fri, 06 Oct 2023 10:00:00 +0000

A sweet and heartwarming story about a young Latina who discovers her magical powers and uses them to save her friend and other missing children. The book is rich in Latinx culture and explores important themes such as classism, colorism, and the importance of family and community.
The book features a strong and relatable Latina protagonist. Pao is intelligent, resourceful, and determined to save her friend. She also struggles with her own identity and her place in the world, which makes her feel more real and relatable.

The book does a great job of representing Latinx culture. The author includes references to Spanish language, folklore, and traditions throughout the story. This helps to create a sense of authenticity and makes the book feel more accessible to Latinx readers.

Remarkably Bright Creatures, by Shelby Van Pelt

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Table of contents:

Vanessa feels like women lose their silliness as they age because they need to mature and handle everything in life. She shares what she does to intentionally be silly.

Vanessa describes the writing style of the chapters when they’re written in Tova, Cameron, and the octopus’s point of view.

Vanessa anticipates the book title drop every time she’s reading so she mentions her theory on this book’s title drop.

Vanessa shares background information on Tova, Erik (Tova’s son), Cameron, the octopus, and how they’re connected.

Vanessa fact checks the facts about octopuses the author included throughout the book.

Vanessa also introduces three new segments in the podcast: Lo Bueno (the good), Lo Malo (the bad), y El Chisme (the gossip).

Crying in H Mart, by Michelle Zauner

Fri, 22 Sep 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Vanessa shares how Michelle being half Korean resonated with her- everything from the food, cultural differences, and identity.

Trigger Warning (TW) - Parental death.

Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, by Gabrielle Zevin

Fri, 15 Sep 2023 10:00:00 +0000

*Spoilers* Vanessa shares a recap of the book, her thoughts on the storyline, and why video games aren't as bad as our parents told us they were!

Lady Tan's Circle of Women, by Lisa See

Fri, 08 Sep 2023 10:00:00 +0000

*SPOILERS* Vanessa gives a run down on the author, the book, and her opinions of the book as well!

Seven Year Slip, by Ashley Poston

Fri, 25 Aug 2023 00:47:56 +0000

SPOILERS, lots and lots of spoilers. Vanessa shares what she liked, what she didn't like, what made her cry, and pretty much every single thought she had about the book so if you've read it, listen and let her know what you think!!!

Therapy

Fri, 28 Jul 2023 18:12:22 +0000

How to get in touch with therapists, how to pay for them, questions to ask when interviewing them, and more

Trailer

Thu, 29 Jun 2023 18:47:26 +0000

Vanessa introduces herself, shares some background info on her life, and welcomes you to the show. Thank you for listening!