Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

270. The Relationship Advice You Inherited Might Be Wrong ft. Monica Tanner

Mon, 20 Apr 2026 06:00:50 +0000

Marriage coach Monica Tanner joins Ali to challenge the unwritten rulebook most of us absorbed about relationships without ever questioning it. Monica, the author of Bad Marriage Advice, breaks down why a lot of the advice well-meaning people pass down is not just unhelpful but actively working against us. The conversation covers why "never go to bed angry" is a recipe for sleep deprivation, what it actually means to teach your partner how to treat you, and why compromise is not always the goal. Ali also shares her own examples from her relationship with Skyline.

In Updates, Ali reflects on her ongoing curly hair journey and an unexpected emotional realization it triggered, shares a story about a college situationship she had completely forgotten about, and celebrates two years with Skyline, including a special anniversary dinner.

This week's Media Mention is "4 Styles of Cleaners" by Amanda Dodson (@nestingyourlife on TikTok), a framework for understanding where you and your partner fall on the tidy/cluttered and sanitized/natural spectrums, and why it matters more than you think for cohabitation.

Where to find Monica: On Instagram @monitalksmarriage and at www.monicatanner.com.

Grab Monica's book "Bad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What To Do Instead" here: https://www.badmarriageadvice.com/get-the-book

Timestamps: Monica joins us at around minute 29.

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269. Interdependence, Earned Security, and the Art of Being Unsingle ft. Amy Chan

Mon, 13 Apr 2026 06:00:25 +0000

Amy Chan returns to the pod for an in-person recording with Ali, a conversation spurned from her own deep attachment work. The two chat about Amy’s new book Unsingle, where she leverages her personal experiences to help you identify your recurring patterns in relationships. The two get into why you keep choosing the same person in a different body (and how to actually change that), the mechanics of dating from first swipe to long-term commitment, and what healthy interdependence looks like.

In Updates, Ali shares a packed couple of weeks including a Broadway show, an intentionally unplanned weekend with Skyline, and a healing curly hair journey that’s going swimmingly.

This week's Media Mention is: "Portfolio Careers Are Meant for Generalists" from On Work by Shaina Anderson (Substack), shared by past guest Miriam Tinney on Instagram.

Where to find Amy: On Instagram @missamychan, on TikTok @missamychan, at www.missamychan.com.

Pre-Order Amy's book "Unsingle How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts" Here: https://missamychan.com/unsingle/

Timestamps: Amy joins us at around minute 24.

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268. Listener Storytime: Building a Full Sex Life on Your Own Terms

Mon, 06 Apr 2026 06:00:32 +0000

This week, Ali sits down with Julia, a listener who shares her experience discovering that vaginal sex just doesn't work for her body. She walks through how that shaped her early dating experiences, including a two-and-a-half year situationship, and what it was like to tell her current partner. They get into why penetration isn't the gold standard of sex, how societal expectations create feelings of unworthiness, and what it looks like to build a full and satisfying sex life on your own terms.

In Updates, Ali shares about her birthday week, including her first dry curly cut, a birthday party, and her mom being in town for all of it.

This week's Media Mention is allll about the Summer House drama that’s unfolded over the last week, and specifically the racial dimension of the situation and what it reflects about the experience of dating as a Black woman.

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267. The Deeper Pattern Beneath Your Dating Life ft. Meg Tuohey

Mon, 30 Mar 2026 06:00:26 +0000

Relationship coach and author Meg Tuohey joins Ali to introduce her concept of the HeartPrint, the idea that each of us is as unique as our fingerprints in how we move through the world and relate to others. Meg breaks down why frameworks like attachment styles and love languages, while helpful, can only take us so far, and how real self-knowledge requires a deeper, more individualized kind of attunement. The conversation covers why we're drawn to familiar patterns in dating even when they don't serve us, what it actually looks like to move from awareness to change, and how the walls we've built to protect ourselves can be honored without letting them define our future.

In Updates, Ali reflects on a birthday week that started with grief and ended with omakase, and shares what she's been sitting with as she turns 39.

This week's Media Mention is The Love Drive podcast, hosted by friend of the pod Shaun Galanos, specifically his March 17th solo episode, "When Shit Hits the Fan." Trigger warning: Ali shares a personal experience with sexual assault at 49:00 - 55:00.

Where to find Meg: On Instagram @megtuoheyofficial, on TikTok @megtuoheyofficial, at www.megantuohey.com and on her podcast Wisdom Stripes.

Grab Meg's book "HeartPrint: Unlock the Wisdom of You Here: https://megantuohey.com/megan-book-heart-print/

Timestamps: Meg joins us at around minute 14.

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266. The NYT Tried to Give Us Dating Rules and We Have Notes ft. Darcy

Mon, 23 Mar 2026 06:00:05 +0000

Returning guest and Ali’s good friend Darcy is back on the pod, and they’re diving straight into the New York Times' crowdsourced list of 35 dating rules. Some of them? Genuinely solid. Some of them? Completely unhinged. And several of them directly contradict each other, which is so indicative of modern dating. Topics include how people treat servers, outsourcing your nervous system to a partner, paying on dates, the pacing of physical intimacy, whether you actually need to like someone's friends, and a $75 first-date filet mignon story.

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265. Dating Advice We Wish We'd Taken Sooner ft. Ilana Dunn

Mon, 16 Mar 2026 06:00:15 +0000

Ali sits down with Ilana Dunn, host of Seeing Other People, for a conversation about the dating advice they both either ignored in the past or wish they’d taken sooner. They dig into the patterns that kept them stuck longer than necessary: from ignoring gut feelings and making excuses for bad behavior, to chasing potential over reality and performing chill they never actually felt. Listener submissions are woven throughout, and the conversation gets personal fast: secret relationships, toxic situationships, unreliable narrators, and the moment things finally felt different with the right person.

In Updates, Ali reflects on a last-minute girls trip to Miami and shares a media mention - "The Friend Group Fallacy" from The Atlantic - written for anyone who has ever felt left out for not having a tight-knit crew of adult friends.

Article linked here

Where to find Ilana: On Instagram @seeingotherpeople, on TikTok @ilana.dunn, and on her podcast Seeing Other People.

Timestamps: Ilana joins us at around minute 24.

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264. Hot Topics #22: First Messages, Being Someone's "Type," and People-Pleasing in Progress

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 06:00:15 +0000

We’ve got some amazing listener questions this week, and the thread running through all of them is a concept introduced in this week's Media Mention: high involvement, low attachment, inspired by a TikTok from @mother.of.a.dilemma.

From there, she answers three listener questions: one from a man who freezes before sending a first message, one from a woman who only swipes right when she already knows what to say, and one from a listener who is spiraling after learning a recent date is now dating someone who looks like his ex. Ali also tackles a question from a listener in therapy who can see her people-pleasing patterns clearly but can't stop them in the moment yet.

In Updates, Ali recaps the FMH five-year anniversary party (including some unexpected social anxiety), a secret date night at Chateau Royale and underground jazz club Smalls, and a truly small-world moment at a couples happy hour.

Media Mention: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8QcdfWg/

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263. Listener Storytime: Holding Grief While Choosing What’s Next

Mon, 02 Mar 2026 07:00:47 +0000

TW: This episode includes discussion of grief, loss, and suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out. You can call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline — they're available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and it's free and confidential.

This week, Ali is joined by a listener who opens up about grieving the loss of a partner and navigating life (and dating) while healing from deep trauma. She shares what helped her through the hardest years, how healing unfolded in non-linear ways, and what it’s been like to build a full life on the other side of grief. They explore what it really means to seek connection while carrying grief, the tension between moving forward and honoring loss, and how dating can feel especially complicated after partner loss.

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262. Are We Watching Love (Is Blind) Stories or Unresolved Patterns? ft. Jackie Dorman

Mon, 23 Feb 2026 07:00:25 +0000

Matchmaker Jackie Dorman joins Ali to break down the latest season of Love Is Blind through the lens of someone who has helped over 1,600 people get engaged or married. They dig into why the pod format rewards anxious attachment, what emotional over-functioning really looks like on screen, and how to tell the difference between genuine chemistry and chaos. Plus, couple-by-couple predictions on who actually makes it to the altar!

In Updates, Ali had some very exciting shopping adventures with Skyline plus a fun triple date. And, we hear from Katy & Tony for one last Dating Diaries update with some serendipitous timing.

This week’s Media Mention (aside from Love is Blind!) is a Youtube video on Patriarchal Bargaining by the Gender Equality Network, found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C82QxH4hWwM&t=19s

Where to find Jackie: On Instagram @jackiedormanofficial, on TikTok @jackiedormanofficial, at www.jackiedorman.com.

Pre-Order Jackie's book "Modern Dating Sucks: A Matchmaker's Guide to Finding Love in a Swipe-Left World" here: https://jackiedorman.com/mdsbook

Timestamps: Jackie joins us at around minute 27.

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261. How to Stop People-Pleasing Without Becoming Rigid ft. Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond

Mon, 16 Feb 2026 07:00:00 +0000

Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond joins Ali to discuss people-pleasing and how it relates to control in dating and relationships. Paula, a therapist and author of Toxic Striving, breaks down how people-pleasing and rigid boundary-setting are two sides of the same coin: both are attempts to control outcomes and avoid uncomfortable feelings. The conversation explores how to identify when you're prioritizing external validation over your own values and what the middle ground looks like between being overly accommodating and overly rigid. Paula also shares insights on acceptance and commitment therapy, learning to hold your desires lightly while staying grounded in your values.

In Updates, Ali shares a vulnerable conversation that originally aired on the Patreon about societal expectations around women's appearance.

This week's Media Mention is: "The New Rules of Dating for Ambitious Women" from the Ambition 2.0 podcast (by Girlboss), featuring breakup expert and friend of the pod Amy Chan.

Where to find Dr. Paula: On Instagram @mindfuldrpaula, on TikTok @mindfuldrpaula, at www.paulafreedmandiamond.com and www.humankindpsych.com.

Grab Dr. Paula's Book "Toxic Striving" here: www.paulafreedmandiamond.com

Timestamps: Dr. Paula joins us at around minute 33.

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260. Hot Topics #21: Attachment Patterns, Workplace Feedback, and Dating Dynamics

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 07:00:26 +0000

Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode, starting with listener updates and reflections sparked by a recent listener storytime and a past Hot Topics question. She then dives into your submitted questions, covering losing interest once the chase ends, making sense of mixed signals when someone’s words and actions don’t align, receiving vague “executive presence” feedback at work, and navigating early dating when planning and consistency feel off.

In Updates, she is back from Mexico City and recapping her trip - including some brutal PMS symptoms that she’s still digging into and a very exciting plan made on the plane ride home.

This week’s Media Mention is about letting your partner “fail” vs carrying the mental load and how to handle small misses without building resentment. The TikTok we discuss is on Tiktok, from @thisisapaigeturner here: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8HGQsxu/

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259. Using Conflict to Build Trust ft. Anna Lecat

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 07:00:12 +0000

This week, Ali hosts Anna Lecat for a conversation that reframes conflict as a powerful tool for connection rather than something to avoid. Together, the two unpack why so many of us fear uncomfortable conversations (especially in dating) and how that fear can quietly sabotage intimacy.

Throughout the episode, they’re exploring how to recognize meaningful early dating conflicts, communicate needs without blowing things up, and tell the difference between discomfort that leads to growth and misalignment that won’t work long-term. If you’ve ever worried that bringing something up might “ruin” a connection, this episode offers practical, grounding ways to approach conflict with more confidence, presence, and care.

In Updates, Ali chats about the recent NYC snowstorm, a fun concert outing with friends (plus a successful concert presale for later this year!), plus looks forward to a trip to Mexico City with Skyline this week. She also updates on podcast planning for this year and how she’s thinking about various segments as the pod evolves.

This week’s Media Mention is the podcast Good Hang with Amy Poehler, especially her January 20th episode with Jennifer Lawrence.

We’re celebrating five years of the pod next month!! Join Ali on Saturday, February 28th, 8pm at The Folly NYC. RSVP at https://tinyurl.com/fmh5years for free entry and access to Ali’s first come-first serve bar tab. And Patrons - check out the Patreon for early entry info! Can’t wait to see you there.

Where to find Anna: On Instagram @anna_lecat, on TikTok @anna.lecat, at www.annalecat.com.

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Timestamps: Anna joins us at around minute 28.

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258. Relatability Creates Chemistry: Feel a Real Connection on Dates ft. April Beyer

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 07:00:29 +0000

This week, Ali sits down with veteran matchmaker April Beyer (who has 25+ years in the industry!) to unpack why dating feels harder than ever and how to make it more human again. They talk about letting go of attachment to outcomes, loosening rigid “criteria,” and why going on more dates can actually lead to love faster than waiting for the perfect match.

April breaks down her idea of “relatability” as the real driver of chemistry, and shares practical ways to create connection on a first date without overperforming. Plus, tips for avoiding burnout and showing up as your full self from the very beginning.

In Updates, Ali is coming off of January’s surprise date night, which was also Skyline’s birthday! She also chats about an upcoming vacation plus an exciting shopping trip in the near future.

Where to find April: On Instagram @levelconnections and at www.levelconnections.com.

Timestamps: April joins us at around minute 23.

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257. Listener Storytime: Designing a Relationship That Breaks All the Rules

Mon, 19 Jan 2026 07:00:45 +0000

Ali sits down with FMH listener Allison for a storytime episode all about building a relationship that works for you, even if it breaks societal norms. Allison shares what it was like feeling like a late bloomer as she navigated finding her now-partner in her late 30’s. From dating a divorced dad with two kids to navigating mismatched timelines around moving in, engagement, and merging lives, Allison walks through how they used curiosity, therapy, and a lot of real conversations to get on the same page without defaulting to what relationships are “supposed” to look like.

It’s a refreshing reminder that commitment can be real, secure, and deeply intentional even when your relationship doesn’t look traditional.

In Updates, we’re celebrating five years of the pod next month!! Join Ali on Saturday, February 28th, 8pm at The Folly NYC. RSVP at https://tinyurl.com/fmh5years for free entry and access to Ali’s first come-first serve bar tab. And Patrons - check out the Patreon for early entry info! Can’t wait to see you there.

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256. How To Make First Dates More Fun ft. Miriam Katz

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 07:00:51 +0000

Did you ever think that improv could apply to dating? Repeat guest Miriam Katz is back this week, a fun, hands-on conversation about how to feel lighter, more confident, and more authentic on dates…using improv! They talk about tone and enthusiasm, how to practice presence in low-pressure everyday moments, and why “being good” is not the goal if you’re trying to connect like a real human. Ali flips the usual script and lets Miriam run a few playful prompts to demonstrate how loosening up and staying curious can pull you out of performance mode and into actual connection - especially when nerves start to spike. This interactive episode features tools you can use before dates, interviews, and any situation that triggers self-consciousness. And ps: FMH The Pod is now on Youtube so you can see these exercises in action!

But first, we hear from Tony and Katy in Dating Diaries as Tony navigates an energy shift with someone new and Katie shares a promising update ahead of a fourth (!) date.

Where to find Miriam: On Instagram @theexappealpodcast, on TikTok @exappeal, at www.miriamkatz.com.

Timestamps: Miriam joins us at around minute 22.

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255. New Year Reset: Foundation, Routines, and Intentional Living

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 07:00:07 +0000

In this New Year episode, Ali shares her word for the year, foundation, and the theme guiding how she’s setting up the year ahead: less chaos, more intention.

She explains her process for reflecting on the past year and talks through the unglamorous but powerful changes she’s focusing on in her daily life, including routines, work structure, habits, and health.

Ali also answers listener questions about building routines without burning out, staying consistent when motivation fades, and how to pursue stability without slipping into stagnation.

At the end, she teases last week’s Patreon episode with Skyline, where they talk about building a future intentionally and a big event coming this year.

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254. The 2025 Relationship Year In Review One ft. Skyline

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 07:00:29 +0000

In this episode, Ali is joined by Skyline for a continuation of last week’s year in review episode, this time focused on their relationship. Using a framework from her friend Talia, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, they reflect on the past year as a couple. It’s an honest, conversational look at what stood out, what worked, what surprised them, and what the year actually felt like when you zoom out and look at it together.

They talk through big-picture moments, favorite memories, travel, routines, energy, and what quality time really means in day-to-day life, before looking ahead to the year to come. Plus, a little recap on life at home with Mama J and a preview of deeper conversations on the Patreon.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 4.

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253. The 2025 Year In Review One

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 07:00:37 +0000

In this solo Year in Review episode, Ali shares an honest recap of 2025, including the wins, the messy parts, and why this year felt more like a quiet level-setting season than a highlight reel. She reflects on how Finding Mr. Height has evolved, what surprised her about self-employment, and what it looked like to grow “offline” while seeing online growth around her.

Ali also gets real about the hardest parts of 2025, from building confidence around consulting to navigating self-doubt and struggles. She closes with the biggest personal lessons from the year, how her perspective on partnership and routines has changed, and the intentions she’s calling in for 2026, plus a takeaway for anyone feeling behind heading into the new year.

In Updates, Ali reflects on her trip to Costa Rica plus a wild 48 hours of travel. Plus, we hear from Katy & Tony! From mismatched energy to reflecting on how communication styles can stall momentum and signal it’s time to walk away. The conversation ends on a hopeful note with new post-holiday dates, clearer standards, and reminders that feeling safe, seen, and energized matters more than chasing inconsistent effort.

Timestamps:

Katy & Tony's updates begin at around minute 18.

Topic talk begins at around minute 44.

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252. The Family Holidays One ft. Mama J

Mon, 15 Dec 2025 07:00:50 +0000

Ali is joined by her mom (aka Mama J) from their girls trip to Costa Rica for a real, funny, and super practical convo about holiday logistics when you’re dating someone. They start with trip updates (a crab in the hallway, a fully gluten-free resort, and the upcoming “48-hour travel day + cats” marathon), then dive into what listeners said in IG polls about where they’re spending the holidays, when people talk about plans, and what stresses everyone out most.

Ali and Mama J unpack how holiday decisions actually get made, why spending holidays apart isn’t automatically a red flag, and how to communicate with your partner and your family without resentment. They talk about merging traditions, the difference between “the actual day” vs “the feeling,” and why being in your partner’s family space can feel like performing. Plus: a legendary Akavit story, Norwegian Christmas customs, and the surprisingly emotional power of something as small as a stocking with your name on it.

P.S. The two Costa Rica hotels are Occidental Papagayo and Hotel Hacienda Guachipelin

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 13.

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251. Listener Storytime: Entering Menopause at 36

Mon, 08 Dec 2025 07:00:35 +0000

Content note for this episode: we talk in detail about menopause, infertility and IVF, chronic pain, medical dismissal, and depression.

This week, Ali is joined by longtime listener Sara, who shares a powerful Storytime about discovering she was essentially in menopause at 36. After years of symptoms like debilitating periods, anxiety, depression, fatigue, Sara finally got answers when fertility testing revealed primary ovarian insufficiency likely caused by endometriosis.

Sara walks us through her journey from “something feels off” to tracking her cycle, being dismissed by multiple providers, finally landing in a fertility clinic where she uncovered what had been happening to her body all along. She opens up about the emotional toll of IVF with very low ovarian reserve, moving to egg donor, navigating failed transfers, and what it has meant for her identity, her mental health, and her marriage.

In Updates, Ali is back in NYC and reflecting on relational skills she’s grown while in a relationship with Skyline.

Where to find Sara: On Instagram @blankplatepod, on TikTok @blankplatepod, at www.blankplatepodcast.com.

Timestamps: Sara joins us at around minute 22.

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250. The Seventh Dating Diaries One ft. Katy & Tony

Mon, 01 Dec 2025 07:00:06 +0000

Katy & Tony are back this week to share their updates from the dating trenches. First, Tony tells us about the guy he’s surprisingly started dating long distance - we unpack mixed signals, hookup-to-date pivots, and how long distance might work better for him.

Then we chat with Katy, whose dating life is serving a completely different flavor of excitement. Think: texting energy, red flags, self-check moments, friends meeting your date, and more. Plus, we send a follow-up text live on the mic!

In Updates, I’m reflecting on my first holiday spent with Skyline’s family (and the first spent away from mine in 20 years).

Timestamps: Katy & Tony joins us at around minute 21.

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249. The Unspoken Etiquette One ft. Miriam Tinberg

Mon, 24 Nov 2025 07:00:05 +0000

This week, Ali welcomes the brilliant and endlessly curious Miriam Tinberg, a content creator who describes herself (rightly so!) as a conversation starter. If you like discussions that make you say, “wait, I’ve never thought about it like that,” you’re in the right place. We dive into unspoken rules, etiquette, communication patterns, and the gray space we all actually live in - not just in dating & relationships, but in all of life!

The two also chat about this week’s Media Mention, “Good Conversations Have Lots of Doorknobs” by Adam Mastroianni: https://www.experimental-history.com/p/good-conversations-have-lots-of-doorknobs

In Updates, Ali is back from vacation, where she and Skyline relaxed, reset, dealt with a surprise back injury, and started dreaming up future trips. They also tackled some big home and routine changes now that he’s back in an office five days a week.

Where to find Miriam: On Instagram @miriam_tinny, on Substack.

Timestamps: Miriam joins us at around minute 22.

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248. The Somatic Sex Coach One ft. Rachel Overvoll

Mon, 17 Nov 2025 07:00:40 +0000

In this episode, Ali sits down with somatic sex coach and author Rachel Overvoll for an honest, expansive conversation about divorce, desire, and learning to feel safe in your own body. The two talk about the shifting stigma around divorce, why “it might end” is not a reason to avoid marriage, and how women are often conditioned to over-function in relationships until they burn out.

Rachel also breaks down what it means to be relational in partnership, how to tell the difference between fighting for your relationship and staying out of obligation, and practical ways to work through resentment when a partner is finally stepping up.

Then we get into sex and embodiment, including how to recognize performative sex, why pressure kills pleasure, and simple somatic tools you can use to get out of your head during intimacy.

In Updates, Ali is on vacation in Mexico and using that time to chat shifting domestic roles with Skyline.

Where to find Rachel: On Instagram @rachelovervoll and at www.modernintimacy.com.

Timestamps: Rachel joins us at around minute 11.

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247. The Twentieth Hot Topics One

Mon, 10 Nov 2025 07:00:46 +0000

Ali is solo this week answering questions submitted by you, the listeners! Our question round up includes: navigating comfort vs spark chasing in a new relationship, starting to date when you’re still getting over your ex, how Skyline and I establish de-escalating tactics in every day life, finding a partner who appreciates your independence, and more.

In Updates, Ali had a wonderful time at the Red Door Community gala - plus we hear from Elyse!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25

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246. The Self-Trust One ft. Stacey Sherrell of Detangling Divorce

Mon, 03 Nov 2025 07:00:51 +0000

Therapist and creator of Detangling Divorce, Stacey Sherrell, joins Ali to talk about the role of self-trust in finding a strong partnership, her own path to divorce, and how couples can set themselves up for success long before a crisis. Topics also include: respect as a non-negotiable and how to spot corrosive conflict, the invisible mental load, when to start couples therapy, the questions to ask yourself before having kids, and talking money with your partner.

In Updates, Ali is recovering from food poisoning and reflecting on feeling safe to be triggered in a relationship (a very timely reflection with this week’s guest!).

Where to find Stacey: On Instagram @detanglingdivorce and at www.detanglingdivorce.com.

Timestamps: Stacey joins us at around minute 17.

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245. The Third Profile Review One ft. Katy & Tony

Mon, 27 Oct 2025 06:00:53 +0000

Katy & Tony are back on the pod for a deep dive into their dating app profiles (plus a sneak peek at some upcoming updates). In this Dating Diaries episode, Ali reviews each of their profiles - Hinge for Katy, Tinder & Grindr for Tony - and the three come away with some great updates to make. From dimly lit photos to making bios sound like your unique voice…there’s a lot to cover! And the vibe between these two friends as they review each other’s profiles is amazing, too.

But first, Ali recaps her housewarming party with Skyline featuring a new kind bar, plus looks ahead to how division of household labor will need to change with Skyline’s shifting work schedule.

Timestamps: Katy & Tony join us at around minute 13.

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244. The Hot Chef One ft. Katherine Wela Bogen

Mon, 20 Oct 2025 06:00:15 +0000

If you haven’t come across the Hot Chef saga on Threads…first of all, how?! Second of all, you’re truly missing out. But not to worry - this week, Ali sits down with the woman at the center of it all, Katherine Wela Bogen. We dive into this joy-filled, captivating, and refreshingly real modern-day romance from start to finish. After a string of disappointing dating experiences, Katherine shares how a trip to Paris — and one bold move into a restaurant kitchen — led her to where she is today. In this heartwarming episode, we’re unpacking how intuition, risk-taking, and a little romantic courage can change everything.

But first, in Updates, Ali is back from Japan and preparing for her housewarming with Skyline (with a few cranky moments along the way!). We’re also looking forward to upcoming pod topics and previewing a new guest!

Where to find Katherine: On Instagram @k.w.bogen, on Threads @k.w.bogen, and on TikTok @sexualityscholar. Pre-Order Katherine's book Queering Him here.

Timestamps: Katherine joins us at around minute 31.

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243. The Crimes of the Heart One ft. Rory Uphold

Mon, 13 Oct 2025 06:00:02 +0000

Ali is collaborating in the studio with Rory Uphold, host of the Crimes of the Heart podcast! The two set out to chat about their most and least favorite pieces of dating advice, but quickly realize that this conversation is the start of a new friendship. Topics range from who should pay on a first date to why dating is so hard right now to the specific difficulties women face in navigating today’s world. It’s their first time talking but certainly won’t be the last!

In Updates, Ali is coming to you live from Japan!! She chats a bit about the trip so far, what she’s enjoying most about the country (hint: it’s edible), how Skyline is faring with the cats at home, and more. Plus, she’s caught up on the first 6 episodes of Love Is Blind and can’t believe what she’s watching (no spoilers though).

Where to find Rory On Instagram @icouldbeblonder, on TikTok @roryuphold, the Crimes of the Heart Podcast and her book Dating is a Horror Show. Be the Final Girl. Use code HEIGHT15 to get 15% off your copy.

Timestamps: Rory joins us at around minute 28.

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242.5 Comparing Notes Pt 3: The Truth About Relationships at 1 Year w/ Talia Koren

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 07:00:36 +0000

It’s the final part of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence. Check out part one (ep # 234.5) and part two (ep # 238.5) for tips on navigating the first three months and first six months.

In part three, Ali and Talia explore what reaching the one-year mark in a relationship looks like. Topics include: moving in together, starting engagement conversations, navigating career shifts and family introductions, and keeping the spark alive after a year. They also reflect on celebrating anniversaries, working through anxieties, and the key conversations that helped their relationships grow. Listener questions cover whether it’s too soon to talk marriage, how to handle changes in sex and intimacy, and what to do if you’re still unsure about long-term commitment. Overall, we’re chatting about reflection, growth, and alignment as couples enter a new stage together.

Want to watch the full video? You can find it at the Dating Intentionally YouTube page.

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242. The Sixth Dating Diaries One: Introducing Katy & Tony

Mon, 06 Oct 2025 06:00:10 +0000

We’re meeting two new Dating Diaries participants this week…and they’re recording together! Real-life friends Katy & Tony introduce themselves to the pod and give us all some background as we look forward to following their dating journeys. From divorces to scarcity mindsets to pattern breaking…we hear it all (and they chime in on each other too).

But first, Ali is preparing to leave for Japan and racing to get as much done as possible in her new shared space with Skyline before she leaves. Plus, a quick update on focus groups!

This week’s Media Mention is from The Gottman Institute and titled "How to Maintain Individuality in Shared Spaces.”

Timestamps: Katy & Tony join us at around minute 22.

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241. The Perimenopause & ADHD One ft. Mandi Dixon, LPC

Mon, 29 Sep 2025 06:00:03 +0000

Did you know that perimenopause can start in your 30s and last up to 10 years?? Many people (your host included, until recently) do not and Mandi Dixon, LPC is here this week to talk about it. In her work as a therapist, she also focuses on navigating ADHD during this time of life and how those hormone swings can hit especially hard. Without us even realizing it! She sits down with Ali to break down why so many women are diagnosed with ADHD later in life, how estrogen impacts dopamine and executive function, and what all of this means for your relationships (plus much more!).

But first, in Updates, Ali reflects on a long weekend with her family (and Skyline) as they continue to organize their home and prepare for a housewarming. Plus, we hear from Elyse in a Dating Diaries update section!

Where to find Mandi: On Instagram @adhdmenopausetherapist, on TikTok @adhdmenopausetherapist, at www.mandidixonlpc.com.

Timestamps: Mandi joins us at around minute 41.

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240. The Nineteenth Hot Topics One

Mon, 22 Sep 2025 06:00:28 +0000

It’s a Hot Topics episode answering listener questions!! Ali is diving into three listener topics: navigating dating in small cities when friends match with the same people, reassessing long-term friendships as values and priorities evolve, and combatting feeling shallow on dating apps with a “no photos” experiment that prioritizes prompts and compatibility.

In Updates, we’re catching up on a week away with Skyline’s family and how meaningful moments strengthened the partnership. Plus, an exciting update on the Finding Mr. Height Patreon - productivity, budgeting, and organization content!

Timestamps: Hot Topics begins around minute 26.

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239. The Ex Appeal One ft. Miriam Katz

Mon, 15 Sep 2025 06:00:28 +0000

What happens when you interview every single person you’ve ever dated (or even kissed?!)? Miriam Katz joins Ali to talk about her bold new podcast The Ex Appeal, where she sits down with everyone from her fifth-grade crush to a rabbi, a stripper, and even a semi-famous ex. We get into the nerves, surprises, and emotional moments along the way while exploring the entire concept of closure. What is closure even and is it really all it’s cracked up to be?

In Updates, Ali is on vacation with Skyline’s family! She’ll be back next week with a full debrief on the week.

Where to find Miriam: On Instagram @theexappealpodcast, and on TikTok @exappeal. Listen to Miriam's podcast The Ex Appeal, launching September 21, 2025.

Timestamps: Miriam joins us at around minute 7.

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238.5 Comparing Notes Pt 2: Milestones at 6 Months in a New Relationship w/ Talia Koren

Fri, 12 Sep 2025 07:00:48 +0000

It’s part two of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence. Check out part one (ep # 234.5) for tips on navigating the first three months.

In part two, Ali and Talia discuss the significant milestones and experiences that occur around the six-month mark in a relationship. Topics include: milestones like traveling together and experiencing first conflicts, understanding if someone is marriage material, the importance of relationship check-ins, discussing future plans/timelines, and handling family dynamics. It’s all about communication and alignment in relationships, providing listeners with insights and tips for fostering healthy connections while building trust and intimacy in building a future.

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238. Listener Storytime: When Parenthood Isn’t What You Expected

Mon, 08 Sep 2025 06:00:15 +0000

In this raw and deeply honest episode, Ali speaks to listener Sarah as she shares her story of loving her children while still questioning whether she would make the same choice if she could go back in time. She opens up about the invisible labor of motherhood, not feeling fulfilled by it when all her friends seem to be, and what she wishes she’d thought about it before becoming a mom (while striving to be the best mom she can be). If you’re feeling how Sarah does - you’re not alone!

This week’s Media Mention is Rini Frey, @ownitbabe, on Instagram, who shares super vulnerably about the challenges of motherhood (and other parts of life!).

In Updates, Ali is one week into cohabitation and reflects on her first “Weekly Stand Up” (cue eye rolls) with Skyline. Plus, they’re prepping to go on vacation with each of their families, back to back!

Timestamps: Sarah joins us at around minute 19.

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237. The Detached Dating One ft. Sabrina Bendory

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 06:00:21 +0000

In this episode, Ali is joined by Sabrina Bendory - author, creator, and voice behind some of the internet’s most-shared advice on healing, self-worth, and emotional detachment. Together, we dive deep into what it really means to reclaim your power in dating and relationships. Highlights include: the turning point in Sabrina’s own (v relatable) story, why detachment isn’t cold or avoidant, and how to let go of someone who isn’t aligned.

In Updates, it’s move-in week!!! Ali shares how the day went moving Skyline into her condo and a bit about what’s to come.

Where to find Sabrina: On Instagram @sabrinabendory, on TikTok @sabrinabendory, at www.sabrinabendory.com.

Pre-order Sabrina's book Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible, available September 9th.

Timestamps: Sabrina joins us at around minute 23.

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236. The Gen Z Dating One ft. The Cerca Dating App Team

Mon, 25 Aug 2025 06:00:44 +0000

Are you burned out on dating apps? Or not even interested in swiping left and right on a bunch of strangers in the first place? The founders of the new Cerca dating app have been there, and this week Ali is taking you behind the scenes of building their app. Three members of the Cerca team - Myles Slayton, Carter Munk, and Campbell Arnone - sit down in Ali’s living room to talk about why Gen Z is shunning the apps, how apps can evolve to meet them where they’re at, and how they’re positioning Cerca to address all of this.

In Updates, it’s move-in week!!! Ali prepares for the big move and is feeling like everyone is talking about the topic. Including this week’s Media Mention from The Gottman Institute, titled “20 Essential Questions to Ask Before Moving In Together.”

Download Cerca in the Apple app store and check them out on IG @cercadating and on TikTok @cercaofficial.

Timestamps: The Cerca team joins Ali at around minute 25.

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235. The Moving In One ft. Skyline

Mon, 18 Aug 2025 06:00:11 +0000

Ali is joined by Skyline this week on what is soon to be their shared couch! The move-in date is fast approaching, and they’ve both come with a list of things they’re thinking about as the day draws closer. From cleaning schedules to alone time to compromising on decor…they’re talking it through for you! Plus answering listener questions and sharing some of your best advice from past experiences.

But first, this week’s updates are all about Elyse! She kicked off her week with a failed Facetime date but then made it out onto a first date from an app! Hear whether there will be a second and also what’s going on with Coco Jones…

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 24.

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234.5 Comparing Notes Pt 1: The First 3 Months Of A New Relationship w/ Talia Koren

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 07:00:50 +0000

New relationships come with so much to navigate! In this three-part series, Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence.

In part one, Talia and Ali discuss the complexities of the first three months of a relationship, and give advice while sharing insights from their own personal experiences. The two cover: common challenges with shifts in affection and communication, the need for calibration in how partners interact with each other, the transition from a single mindset to a couple's mentality, and more.

Want to watch the full video? You can find it at the Dating Intentionally YouTube page.

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234. The Choosing A Therapist One ft. Nancy Walters, LICSW

Mon, 11 Aug 2025 06:00:36 +0000

We hear about the benefits of therapy SO often, but how does one even go about finding a therapist? There’s no how-to guide…until now! Ali chats with Nancy Walters, LICSW all about how she, as a therapist, recommends selecting one for yourself. She lovingly refers to her approach to therapy as Hot Mess Therapy: real, raw, intuitive, and deeply human. And is encouraging our listeners to find a real & raw therapist relationship for themselves, with actionable tips plus a step-by-step guide creating just for FMH. You can find that at https://tinyurl.com/fmh-therapist-guide.

Our Media Mention is S7 E31 of the Shrink Chicks podcast, “When Therapy Isn’t Working (Or So It Seems)”

This week’s Updates are all about our Dating Diary participant, Caeli! We hear about what she’s been up to since we last spoke as well as chat about the future of her segment and what she’s learned from sharing publicly.

Timestamps: Nancy joins us at around minute 23.

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233. The Pre-Divorce One ft. Sarah Intelligator, Esq.

Mon, 04 Aug 2025 06:00:04 +0000

Sarah Intelligator runs her family law practice like she runs her yoga studio - with a holistic approach that looks to make people feel stronger leaving than they did entering. In this frank conversation, we get into what Sarah sees most in divorcing couples - and how she advises couples avoid it based on her experience. And prenups? You might be surprised by her opinion on them! But as always, it’s all about communication.

In Updates, Ali shares a special weekend away with Skyline in her one true happy place and reflects on how she feels inviting him into that space.

Where to find Sarah: On Instagram @sarah.a.intelligator.esq, and at www.lafamilylawpractice.com.

Timestamps: Sarah joins us at around minute 22.

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232. The Navigating Feedback One

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 06:00:25 +0000

Last week on our Patreon live, Ali shared about navigating feedback - both constructive and otherwise - in such a public sphere. This week, she’s bringing that conversation to the main pod in the spirit of transparency, accountability, and vulnerability. She’s working on focusing on the constructive and appreciates those of you who have shared your thoughts so openly. If you’d like to contribute to the podcast feedback survey, you can do so here: https://tinyurl.com/fmhsurvey25. And if you’d like to join a focus group, please shoot Ali a note on IG!

Before Topic Talk, this week’s Media Mention is an episode of NPR Life Kit, “How To Make Decisions You Won’t Regret.” Ali also chats a bit about an upcoming trip!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.

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231. The Kids Or Childfree One ft. Keltie Maguire

Mon, 21 Jul 2025 06:00:52 +0000

Are you struggling with the decision to have children or not? Or worried about making that decision in the future? Clarity coach Keltie Maguire is here to help! She and Ali chat about Keltie’s personal journey with the decision that led her to her current work, how societal pressures impact the choice, and how to have more grace with ourselves during indecision. Is there data on future regret on both sides of this choice? What if you never “just know” one day? What’s the best way to navigate this decision with a partner? These are just a few of the questions this episode gets into!

Before Keltie joins, Ali chats a bit about her own journey being undecided about kids and how her recent binge of Southern Charm’s early seasons brought this topic to the forefront of her mind.

Where to find Keltie: On Instagram @kidsorchildfree, on TikTok @kidsorchildfree, at www.kidsorchildfree.com.

Timestamps: Keltie joins us at around minute 18.

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230. The Fifth Dating Diaries One ft. Caeli & Elyse

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 06:00:32 +0000

Caeli & Elyse are back on the pod this week with updates for us and a whole lot of relatable discussion on dating burnout.

First, we hear from Elyse about a recent first date and how a string of those has left her feeling really dejected about dating apps. IRL dating, though? That’s feeling much better and she has an update (and a goal for herself) with Coco Jones!

Caeli has some huge personal news that’s leaving her with a couple months of down time before life really ramps up. Ali challenges her with a goal to bring some magic back into her dating life.

In Updates, Ali shares a story about a chaotic afternoon from Emmy’s adoption week and chats new benefits on the Patreon!

Timestamps: Caeli & Elyse join at around minute 20.

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229. The Love Isn’t Blind One ft. Alli Goldberg & Sascha Mombartz

Mon, 07 Jul 2025 06:00:18 +0000

Ali went to one of the best shows she’s seen in a LONG time - Love Isn’t Blind, a comedy dating show where the men can’t speak - and she’s on the pod with the creator and host this week! Alli Goldberg created Love Isn’t Blind as an antidote to her own cynicism in dating and it’s truly taken off. Not only do we have Alli in the house - one of the suitors from the recent NYC show, Sascha Mombartz, is here too! The three chat dating IRL, the state of dating apps, cultural dating differences between the US and Europe, strategies for meeting more people offline, and more.

In Updates, Ali & Skyline are one week in with baby kitten Emmy and looking forward to introducing her to Rory & Logan. Ali also reflects more on one of last week’s AITA discussions plus ponders about the future of dating apps with the recent news of Bumble’s layoffs & Hinge’s partnership with Esther Perel.

If you’d like to apply to Love Isn’t Blind as a bachelor or bachelorette, visit loveisntblind.co where you can also grab tickets for an upcoming show in a city near you! Alli is also on Instagram @alli_goldi.

And ladies, Sascha is single! If you’re interested in chatting, you can reach out to him @supermombartz.

Timestamps: Alli & Sascha join Ali at around minute 30.

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228. The Fourth AITA One ft. Skyline

Mon, 30 Jun 2025 06:00:35 +0000

We’re bringing back Am I The Asshole discussion episodes, this time featuring Skyline going back and forth with Ali on 5 different AITA submissions! The submissions include: red flags in early dating app conversations, boundaries within a relationship, dealing with a friend’s partner whom you don’t like, losing a friend to their relationship, and navigating childcare disagreements.

But first, we’re chatting about our very eventful week - from getting caught in a thunderstorm on a lake during surprise date to adopting a kitten! And doing a name reveal…

Timestamps: AITA begins at around minute 15.

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227. The Co-Regulating One

Mon, 23 Jun 2025 06:00:39 +0000

We’re talking about co-regulating this week: where two people help each other navigate their emotions. It’s a solo episode with Ali featuring a deep dive into her week away with Skyline that ended with a cancelation of the music festival they were at and a lot of stress surrounding the logistics. She shares a few stressful situations from the weekend, strategies that work for them when navigating conflicting opinions or tough situations, and a moment where she struggled to self-regulate herself. Plus, a listener sent in a question about how anxious attachment might tie into craving structure in relationships, and it’s super relevant to this discussion.

This week’s Media Mention is an article from Psychology Today titled, “The Secret to Resolving Relationship Conflict: Co-Regulating.” It goes into an example from a couples therapist about co-regulating and shifting perspective to prioritizing each other’s needs vs just your own.

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226. The Swipe With Me One ft. Caeli & Elyse

Mon, 16 Jun 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Our two Diary Daters are officially meeting for the first time! In this week’s Dating Diaries episode, Ali brings Caeli & Elyse together to share updates plus swipe together on each of their dating apps. The three discuss how each dater approaches swiping and some best practices to address patterns they’re discovering. Plus, we chat dealbreakers, initial messages, first impressions, and more. And we end up with one potential match for each dater!

In Updates, Ali is meeting Skyline’s family for the first time at his aunt and uncle’s in the South. She reflects on family meetings past and how this feels compared to those. Plus looks forward to leaving for Bonaroo!

This week’s Media Mention is from The Atlantic and titled, “Dear James: I Miss Being On Dating Apps.” You can read it here: https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2025/03/dear-james-dating-app-fomo/682071/

Timestamps: Caeli & Elyse join around minute 25.

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225. The Human Design One ft. Erin Claire Jones

Mon, 09 Jun 2025 06:00:00 +0000

TW: Grief/Death discussion from around minute 4 to 16.

Have you heard of Human Design, a framework that can help you navigate your unique, innate way of operating in the world? After this week’s conversation with Erin Claire Jones, you’re going to want to look it up ASAP. Ali first learned about Human Design years ago, but it’s only recently that she’s been realizing how much she can apply it in her every day life. Jone’s book, “How Do You Choose?” is the perfect place for anyone to start - it spans romantic relationships, work style, friendships, self care and so much more. Tune into their conversation this week for a sneak peek into how you yourself can apply Human Design to your relationships and discover a more aligned way of moving through the world.

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In Updates, Ali has an emotional moment reflecting on her dad’s birthday and how her recent mental health struggles remind her of how she was feeling when he passed.

This week’s Media Mention is the May 28th episode of Victoria Garrick Browne’s (@victoriagarrickbrowne on IG) podcast, Real Pod. It’s titled, “28th Birthday Reflections: Healing My Hustle Era, Ditching People Pleasing, & Learning to Trust Myself Again.”

Where to find Erin Claire Jones: On Instagram @erinclairejones and @humandesignblueprint, at www.humandesignblueprint.com.

You can find Erin's Book "How Do You Choose?" here: https://humandesignblueprint.com/order-book/

Timestamps: Erin joins us at around minute 23.

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224. The Fourth Dating Diaries One ft. Caeli

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Our Diary Dater Caeli re-joins us on the pod after a whirlwind couple of weeks in her life, from a big interview to a new job. Ali & Caeli revisit a first date that never materialized into a second and debate Caeli’s potential next steps. Then, the two dive into Caeli’s Bumble and chat opening lines, messaging approach, and how to avoid getting overwhelmed by too many matches. Through it all, we may have identified a pattern that Caeli would like to work on as she moves forward!

In Updates, Ali is back from a baby shower trip to San Diego and a last-minute volleyball trip to Denver. She reflects on conversations about the decision to have kids or remain child free and bonding across generations.

This week’s Media Mention comes from the Gottman Institute’s newsletter, titled “Finding a Culturally-Relevant Therapist

Timestamps: Caeli joins us at around minute 20.

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223. The Third Dating Diaries One ft. Elyse

Mon, 26 May 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Elyse, one of our Diary Daters, is back on the pod and full of updates to share! First, she goes on a first date that hits a snag when the dude won’t stop looking at his phone. Then, we go back in time to hear some history about a guy who may be entering the picture. But she wonders: should she move forward with getting to know him given some new information she learns?

On Ali’s end, she’s taking Skyline’s advice to heart and approaching her mental health journey with baby steps. She chats about some concrete moves she’s made this past week plus ones she’s looking to put into place moving forward.

This week we have two Media Mentions, both from one of Ali’s favorite podcasts, The Daily. First, from The Daily’s interview with Whitney Wolfe Herd (founder of Bumble) about her take on the future of dating apps. Then, a Modern Love episode revisiting the 36 Questions To Fall In Love, which has Ali reminiscing about when she first knew she was falling in love with Skyline.

Timestamps: Elyse joins us at around minute 34.

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222. The Relationship “Rules” one ft. Skyline

Mon, 19 May 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Skyline joins Ali on the pod this week to chat about relationship “rules” (aka agreements) coming out of the Vacation Rules ep a few weeks ago. The two talk about rules they’ve come up with in their relationship, both communicated and otherwise - for example, Ali realizes in real time that they have a rule when they order take out. Then, it’s time to hear from the experts as three friends of the pod chime in on agreements they have in their own relationships. Thanks to Talia Koren, Sabrina Zohar, and Charisse Cooke for their input! They close out the show with input from the listeners - including rules surrounding bedtime smooches, gift giving, conflict resolution, and more.

In Updates, Ali shares some mental health struggles she’s been facing lately and Skyline opens up about why he relates to her feelings - plus offers some advice!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 19.

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221. The Eighteenth Hot Topics One

Mon, 12 May 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Ali is answering listener questions in a dedicated Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener receives a no ghosting script after a fourth date and wonders if she should ask for more clarity. Then, we talk about sarcastic/negative answers on dating app profiles - are they a dealbreaker? Our third listener has an old hook-up come back into the picture, and she’s struggling to see it objectively. Then, a listener worries that her partner isn’t aligned with her five-year plan. And finally, we chat about proactive communication in early dating - what to do if you haven’t heard from someone after a great second date?

In updates, Ali is back from Morocco and enjoying being home for a while. She chats highlights like surprise date night and makeup lessons, and lowlights like a triggering moment that has her reflecting on past experiences (TW: SA).

This week’s media mention is from The New Yorker article, “The New Business of Breakups.” (for Apple pods, link here: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2024/12/09/the-new-business-of-breakups)

Timestamps: Hot Topics begins at around minute 30.

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220. The Second Profile Review One ft. Elyse

Mon, 05 May 2025 06:00:00 +0000

We’re hearing from both of our Dating Diaries ladies this week!! First, Caeli joins to update Ali & the listeners on Executive Chef, plus a new (gentle)man enters the picture. Then, Elyse has been busy with two first dates in one night last week. Plus the main reason we’re here: reviewing her Hinge profile! Ali goes through her photos and prompts, providing insight along the way on brevity, calls to action, and incorporating more of Elyse’s hobbies. Check out the Patreon for full video if you’d like to see Elyse’s profile for yourself!

Timestamps: Caeli joins around minute 7 and Elyse at around minute 30.

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219. The Vacation Rules One

Mon, 28 Apr 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Ali is fresh off her one-year anniversary trip with Skyline and dishing about her favorite parts (and not so favorite parts) of the trip. She shares the “vacation rules” that she and Skyline have come up with to help them best enjoy their trips and how some of those “rules” have expanded into every day life. Plus, a stressful moment provides an opportunity to reflect on managing low-level conflict and responding vs reacting in relationships. Ali also answers two listeners questions: one about a friend who consistently brings down the vibe at events and one from a listener who’s debating if she should reach out to a former situationship.

This week’s Media Mention comes from the IMO Podcast with Michelle Obama & Craig Robinson - it’s their episode about joyful dating with Tracee Eliss Ross from April 16th.

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218. The Introducing Skyline One

Mon, 21 Apr 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Ali and Skyline are on their first anniversary vacation and he’s just been introduced on social media…no better time to introduce him to the podcast! This week, you’ll hear an interview that Ali & Erica did on the Patreon back in February.

Skyline joined us to answer your questions and introduce himself to the community he’s heard so much about. Our discussion includes: his version of how he met Ali (and what her nickname would have been if he’d given her one), how he was listening along to the pod during early dating, his thoughts on dating someone who talks about dating so openly, how being divorced has impacted his approach to his relationship with Ali, and lots more.

But first, we hear updates from Elyse (one of our Diary Daters) who went to visit a guy in NYC. Will he make good on his nickname as Three Minute Makeout Man?!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 24.

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217. The First Profile Review One ft. Caeli

Mon, 14 Apr 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Caeli from our Dating Diaries segment is back on the podcast this week and we’re diving into her Bumble profile! We walk through her bio, prompts, and photos and discuss where she can make improvements to set herself up for more success. Through Ali’s notes on photo guidelines, best ways to elicit a reply with your prompts, and ways that different people swipe you’ll get some great tips for crafting your own profile! Plus, Caeli fills us in on a first date she went on and the two debate whether she should go on a second. Note: Ali’s mic wasn’t hooked up properly for the updates section, we apologize for the less-than-stellar audio.

In Updates, Ali is back from Colombia with a renewed zest for creating community through travel and is looking forward to this month’s surprise date (planned by Skyline) and their anniversary trip to Mexico. She also reflects on Love On The Spectrum in this week’s Media Mention.

Timestamps: Caeli joins us at around minute 22.

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216. The Second Dating Diaries One: Introducing Elyse

Mon, 07 Apr 2025 06:00:00 +0000

It’s time to meet our second Dating Diaries participant…Elyse! A 26-year-old living in a major east coast city, Elyse is ready to dive back into dating after recovering from her longest relationship to date. In this introduction episode, you’ll learn about Elyse’s dating history as a self-proclaimed “late bloomer,” how her last relationship played out, plus a very recent development that’s hot off the presses. Stay tuned as we hear more from Elyse and offer her some big sister advice on her journey that’s unfolding right here on the podcast.

In Updates, Ali has a rough week in her personal life and sets out to have a rejuvenating weekend with Skyline - from new outfits, to sunshine-filled park walks, to yapping with friends, and ending with a relaxing belated birthday present.

Timestamps: Elyse joins us at around minute 26.

Want to leave us a voice note? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 with your question and we will weigh in!

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215. The Bored of Dating Apps One ft. Jessica Hope

Mon, 31 Mar 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Feeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! Coming to you from Ali’s living room couch, Jess chronicles the dating frustrations that led her to focus more on dating in person and start her own IRL dating events…a journey that ultimately led to her now partner. Ali and Jess chat flirting strategies, how to approach dating events, and much more in this super fun conversation.

But first, Ali is still glowing from her birthday week (plus a surprise date!), feeling so celebrated and loved by everyone in her life. She introduces a relationship check-in lens to her updates, opening up about an emotional moment from last week.

This week’s Media Mention comes from one of Ali’s faves: The Gottman Institute. The article is called Accepting Influence: Find Ways to Say “Yes” and you can find it here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/accepting-influence-find-ways-to-say-yes/

Where to find Bored of Dating Apps: On Instagram @boredofdatingapps on TikTok @boredofdatingapps, at www.boredofdatingapps.com.

Where to find Jessica: On Instagram @jessica.hope.boda.

Timestamps: Jessica joins at around minute 25.

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214. The First Dating Diaries One: Introducing Caeli

Mon, 24 Mar 2025 06:00:00 +0000

It’s our very first Dating Diaries episode, a new segment following listeners along their dating journeys. We’re kicking things off with two listeners, and our first Diary Dater is Caeli, a 32-year-old living in the Chicago suburbs who is ready to start dating intentionally. In this intro episode, you’ll learn more about Caeli’s story including her dating history (and some nicknames), what she’s looking for, her current dating goals/challenges, and more. Stay tuned in future episodes as we follow along with Caeli’s dates and help her get some outside guidance.

But first, in Updates, Ali is having an emotional day (okay, week) while recording and shares her release from that. But the week kicked off celebrating her best friend’s birthday starting with a group trip to New Orleans and wrapping with a relaxing day at a bath house!

Timestamps: Caeli joins at around minute 19.

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213. The Second Re-Introducing Ali One

Mon, 17 Mar 2025 06:00:00 +0000

We’ve got part 2 of my re-introduction this week - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I pick up where we left off last week and dive deep into my live since starting FMH. We chat toxic relationships, career changes, regrets, and much more in part two of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, I share some exciting news on the Skyline front (and promise to highlight more about our relationship in future episodes, including with him as a guest!).

This week’s media mention comes from Josh Lora, @tellthebeees on TikTok and IG, discussing The Cut’s article “My Friends Abandoned Me When They Had Kids.”

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 12.

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212. The First Re-Introducing Ali One

Mon, 10 Mar 2025 06:00:00 +0000

TW: Grief and SA (see below for more). It’s my (Ali’s) first official solo episode and we’re starting things off with a re-introduction to my background - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I share deeper insights into my childhood/early adulthood & the things that led me to who I am today. We chat friendship wounds, anxious attachment origins, grief, and much more in part one of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, we get into some early days nicknames from before FMH as you know it existed and chat about a strategy I recently learned for managing overthinking!

Trigger warning: I discuss grief/loss throughout the episode, beginning around minute 15, and briefly discuss SA around minute 27 lasting for 35 minutes (both are called out verbally before they are mentioned).

This week’s media mention comes from episode 11 of Felix Levine’s podcast, Unlike Me, and the clip is posted to his TikTok @felixlevine.

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211. The Farewell to Erica One

Mon, 03 Mar 2025 07:00:00 +0000

We’re saying goodbye to Erica as a Finding Mr. Height co-host on this week’s episode of the podcast, and it’s definitely an emotional one! After getting the latest Roommate update, Ali interviews Erica using questions from both you the listeners and ones Ali has herself. Topics include: Erica’s highlights and learnings from her journey on the podcast, her favorite (and least favorite) piece of dating advice, what she hopes for her career moving forward, advice she has for Ali on the pod moving forward, and more. Erica, we will miss you SO much. We love you!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.

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210. The Third AITA One

Mon, 24 Feb 2025 07:00:00 +0000

For Erica’s second to last episode on the pod, we’re doing one of our favorite formats one last time together…Am I The Asshole featuring submissions from Reddit! This week we have: a man wonders if he’s being unreasonable in wanting his girlfriend to loosen up her 50/50 view of household chores, the finances of a long distance relationship causes resentment, and a husband and wife clash over whose responsibility it is to wake themselves up in the morning.

In Updates, Erica is still traveling and reflects on her communication and connection with The Roommate while she’s been gone. Ali celebrates Valentine’s Day with Skyline and the gals reminisce about Valentine’s Days past.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.

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209. The Thirteenth Grab Bag One

Mon, 17 Feb 2025 07:00:00 +0000

We had so many grab bag questions from you that we’re back to answer more this week! Tune in for our thoughts on: choosing bridesmaids & navigating friends’ feelings about it, texting with someone who canceled a first date, feeling anxious when you haven’t heard from someone you’re dating, admitting romantic feelings for a friend, deciding whether to pay for dating apps, and navigating your partner’s friendship with an ex.

In Updates, Erica sees The Roommate twice (!!) before she leaves for the east coast. Ali celebrates a major accomplishment with Mama J.

Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 32.

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208. Storytime: Dating After Divorce

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 07:00:00 +0000

TW: Mention of verbal abuse & body shaming. We’re joined by an FMH listener this week for a Storytime about his journey through a bad marriage and into the dating journey that followed his divorce. He takes us through all the lessons he’s learned along the way (and some intense stories) as he worked on himself to lead to his current, healthy partnership (and new baby!).

In Updates, Erica recaps her long-awaited first date with The Roommate and reflects on how her upcoming travel could impact their connection. Ali is excited to have Skyline on the Patreon for the first time, but is dealing with some medical issues.

Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Justin joins us at around minute 25.

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207. The How To Be Dateable One ft. Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 07:00:00 +0000

This week we are joined by Julie & Yue, cohosts of the amazing Dateable podcast and authors of the new book, ‘How To Be Dateable!’ Julie & Yue have drawn on their deep dating histories to develop the advice in their book (and their podcast). And it turns out our two duos have something in common: we’re both Dreamer/Maverick cohost teams! Ali, Erica, Julie, & Yue dive into how these archetypes have shaped their dating journeys and give advice on how listeners can make their type work for them (plus what pitfalls to look out for).

But first, Ali & Erica discuss the upcoming Valentine’s Day holiday and how they’ve approached it in the past. Plus, Ali recaps her January surprise date with Skyline and Erica looks forward to her first date with The Roommate.

Where to find Julie & Yue: On the Dateable podcast and on Instagram @dateablepodcast. Order their book, How To Be Datable for more from this episode!

Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Julie & Yue joins us at around minute 24.

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206. The Twelfth Grab Bag One

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are answering your rapid-fire questions in another grab bag episode! Including: filtering out ghosters, dating in other cities besides your own, handling breakups, and managing expectations for a second date.

In Updates, Ali is back from her travels and recounts some special & emotional memories from introducing Skyline to her San Diego people. Erica looks forward to the roommate date when she returns to LA.

Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 46.

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205. The Second AITA One

Mon, 20 Jan 2025 07:00:00 +0000

Erica & Ali have a major podcast update at the top of the episode. It’s an emotional one, and we thank you all for being here for it.

We then transition to a lighter topic, discussing several Am I The Asshole situations from Reddit. First, a woman disagrees with her mother in law on who should pay for a broken phone. Then, a husband has issues with her sister in law’s new partner (and they how they got together). And lastly, a woman wonders if she went too far when she told her boyfriend he was being arrogant.

Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February 22nd! Tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 28.

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204. The Conflict Styles One

Mon, 13 Jan 2025 07:00:00 +0000

We’ve all been in conflict before, but have you ever thought about how your conflict style affects the outcome? And how that style might shift over time and in various situations? This week, Ali & Erica dive into five conflict styles: Competing, Accommodating, Avoiding, Collaborating, and Compromising. Is any one better than the others? Or are some styles more effective than we might think depending on the scenario? We also dive into our own conflict styles and how we’ve experienced them in past relationships. Let us know what parts of this discussion you’d like us to dive into further!

In Updates, Erica has a series of frustrating exchanges with the NYE guy but looks forward to returning home for a date. Ali recounts her gift exchange with Skyline as they prepare to leave for Mexico.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.

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203. The Men’s Dating Coach One ft. Blaine Anderson

Mon, 06 Jan 2025 07:00:00 +0000

If you’ve ever wondered what men are thinking as they’re out there dating, Ali & Erica have got your back: this week, we chat with Blaine Anderson, who exclusively coaches men on their dating journey! Blaine gives insight into what her clients struggle with most, what makes them seek out her coaching, how to make it more likely that a man will approach you IRL, and more. Plus, she gives a plug for giving “nice guys” more of a shot - attraction can grow, y’all!

In Updates, the gals are fresh off of New Year's Eve: find out which plans Erica decided to do and how Ali’s hosting went. Plus, Ali shares highlights from her Paris trip with Skyline!

Where to find Blaine: On Instagram @datingbyblaine, on TikTok @datingbyblaine, at www.datingbyblaine.com.

Timestamps: Blaine joins us at around minute 27.

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202. The Best Of 2024 One

Mon, 30 Dec 2024 07:00:00 +0000

It’s our last episode of 2024 and we’ve got a roundup of the year coming at you! We polled our audience for your best superlative categories plus added in a few of our own. Tune in as we discuss our best/worst dates (and kisses) of the year, best new movie, pop culture moment, place to meet people IRL…and more! PS apologies for the occasional ticking sound when Erica is talking in the topic section - we had some audio issues that should be resolved now!

In Updates, Erica has a bit of a NYE dilemma coming out of a great first date while Ali makes a new connection on Christmas Eve.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 28.

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201. The First AITA One

Mon, 23 Dec 2024 07:00:00 +0000

We’re doing a full episode debating Am I The Asshole submissions from Reddit! Ali & Erica discuss the following scenarios: a couple quarrels over their holiday traditions, a poster questions whether he should have told his friend he doesn’t like her boyfriend, a guy comes back from my vacation to discover that his partner has left his apartment a total mess, and a couple disagrees about whether it’s okay for one of them to attend a rehearsal dinner alone.

In Updates, Erica encounters a very realistic scam attempt from a fake Bumble match while Ali is off on her Christmas markets adventure. Plus, the gals discuss the latest list of best/worst cities for dating from The New York Times.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 27.

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200. The Queer Matchmaking One ft. Dr. Frankie Bashan

Mon, 16 Dec 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica welcome an OG of queer dating coaching & matchmaking onto the pod this week - Dr. Frankie Bashan! You may know her from the sexually fluid season of Are You The One? or from her company Little Gay Book Matchmaking. Dr. Frankie tells us about the specific challenges her queer clients face compared to other daters (and what parallels she sees!) along with giving advice on approaching dating IRL and coming into your own at a later age. We can’t wait for you to hear our conversation!

In Updates, Erica has yet another encounter from her past (what is the universe trying to say??) while Ali recounts her monthly surprise date with Skyline and looks forward to their Paris trip.

Where to find Dr. Frankie: On Instagram @drfrankiebashan on TikTok @drfrankiebashan at www.littlegaybook.com.

Timestamps: Dr. Frankie joins us at around minute 38.

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199. The Seventeenth Hot Topics One

Mon, 09 Dec 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are answering listener questions on the pod this week! But first, we start out with a listener update from a prior Hot Topics episode - remember our distant security guard?? Then, the gals answer 3 new questions. First, what to do if a match’s app profile disappears before your first date? Second, we give advice to a listener who is struggling with getting back onto the apps after a dating hiatus as the only single friend. Lastly, a listener is headed to a wedding where she’ll see an old fling - should she tell her current partner? Don’t forget you can submit questions (and updates!) of your own at findingmrheight.com/podcast!

In Updates, Erica has a ~magical~ blast from the past while Ali reveals what she’s getting Skyline for Christmas (and how they decided on gifts!). Skyline, if you’re listening to this, no you’re not.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 22.

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198. The First Uncensored One ft. Abigail Jensen

Mon, 02 Dec 2024 07:00:00 +0000

It’s our first ever public Uncensored episode, featuring Abigail Jensen of the Rat Girls podcast! Abigail was such a popular Patreon Uncensored guest that we had to bring her practical sex and pleasure tips to the main pod. You’ll come away with some amazing tips from this discussion including: navigating mismatched libidos (and why they may not actually be mismatched!), working on initiating sex when it doesn’t feel natural, testing out new things in the bedroom, working through intimacy with body insecurities, and more.

In Updates, Ali has a conversation with Skyline that might have been difficult for her in the past while Erica has a very meta first date that takes a turn.

Where to find Abigail: On Instagram @vibeslut, on TikTok @abigailjensen_, and on the Rat Girls Podcast.

Timestamps: Abigail joins us at around minute 42.

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197. The Myers Briggs One

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are breaking down one of their favorite personality tests this week: Myers Briggs! The episode starts with a break down of Myers Briggs as a concept - each aspect of the types and the limitations. The gals then discuss their own (basically opposite, lol) personality types and how they impact relationships, both romantic and otherwise. Plus: What personality type is Skyline??

In Updates, Erica has an IRL encounter with a potential date while Ali recaps her surprise date night with Skyline.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.

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196. The Flirting One ft. Benjamin Camras

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 07:00:00 +0000

It feels like flirting just comes naturally to some people, but is it possible to learn to be a better flirt? Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, says yes! He’s taking us through his best flirting tips this week, all the way from approaching a stranger at a party to keeping the flirt going in a long-term relationship. You’ll come out of the episode with concrete tips designed to get you out there and flirting!

In Updates, Erica is back in LA and reflecting on how life has blossomed in her new city. Meanwhile, Ali returns from a weekend away with her friends where she was part of a couple for the first time ever.

Where to find Benjamin: On Instagram @benjamincamras, on TikTok @benjamincamras, & on the Flirtations Podcast.

Timestamps: Benjamin joins us at around minute 33.

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195. The Facebook Groups One

Mon, 11 Nov 2024 07:00:00 +0000

We’ve heard more and more in the dating space about Facebook groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy lately - so we sent a survey out to our listeners asking your thoughts. On this week’s episode, we discuss all sides of these groups, including their original intent, what they’ve become, and how they seem to be impacting our view of dating.

In Updates, Erica recounts how dating burnout seems similar across the world and prepares to bring her apps back stateside. Meanwhile, Ali reflects on lessons from last week’s episode as it relates to “sitting comfortably in” her relationship with Skyline.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 42.

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194. The Jewish Matchmaker One ft. Aleeza Ben-Shalom

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Jewish Matchmaking remains one of Erica and Ali’s favorite dating shows, and this week we welcome its host: Aleeza Ben-Shalom! We get into her viral dating philosophies including no touching for five dates and “date them until you hate them,” plus her thoughts on what qualities make a good match.

In Updates, Ali debriefs a Halloween night that was very out of her comfort zone while Erica discovers that dating app tropes span multiple continents.

Where to find Aleeza: On Instagram @aleezabenshalom, on TikTok @aleezabenshalom, at www.marriagemindedmentor.com.

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Timestamps: Aleeza joins us at around minute 42.

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193. The Nobody Wants This One

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Did you binge Nobody Wants This on Netflix as quickly as we did? Ali & Erica are diving into the show that took over our social media feeds (and for good reason) and how it relates to real-life dating. For Ali, the early days of the characters’ relationship hits very close to home and both gals contemplate how they’d react to some of the scenarios if they happened IRL.

In Updates, Erica spends time with her Italian family & learns more about dating/relationships in their culture. Ali is fresh off her 6-month anniversary trip with Skyline, which was magical while also including a frustrating moment or two…

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 46.

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192. The International Long Distance One ft. Kacie Rose

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Have you ever dreamed of travelling abroad and meeting the love of your life? Kacie Rose (@kacierose_ on IG) just did that and she’s here to tell us all about dating long distance and cross-culturally. We discuss her best tips for long distance, what worked in managing conflicts between her and her now-fiancé, and how dating an Italian man is different. Note: Ali’s mic wasn’t hooked up properly for Kacie’s interview, we apologize for the less-than-stellar audio.

In Updates, Erica & Ali recount their last night in Lisbon and Erica has some surprises for Ali about the end of the night.

Where to find Kacie: On Instagram @kacierose_, on TikTok @kacierose4, at www.kacierosetravel.com. Check out her book, You Deserve Good Gelato.

Timestamps: Kacie joins us at around minute 20.

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191. The Sixteenth Hot Topics One

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Have a question? Erica & Ali are here to answer it! This week, we answer three listener questions. First, a woman has been setting her friend up on dates and wonders if she should share “exit interview” feedback with her. Second, when should you share potential dealbreaker like pet allergies with a date? Lastly, a listener considers canceling a date when she notices something has changed on his profile.

But first, the gals are together in Portugal with their moms! Erica reveals a side mission she started with the single ladies on the trip while Ali reflects on Skyline meeting Mama J.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.

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190. The You Love & You Learn One Ft. Sarah Yudkin

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Do you experience anxiety in dating and relationships? Worrying that you’ll say the wrong thing, be in the wrong relationship, or ruin things with the right one? Sarah Yudkin, relationship anxiety coach and host of You Love and You Learn podcast, has some soothing words for you (and us!). Sarah shares how her own experience with her now fiance shaped her relationship anxiety work and we discuss issues such as: knowing if it’s your gut or anxiety, how to bring up anxiety with your partner, and dealing with outside opinions about your relationship.

But first, Erica & Ali are back from Chicago and reminiscing about the show and their time in the city (which joins NYC for one of the worst cities to date, apparently). Ali reveals Skyline’s surprise for her end-of-corporate celebration and Erica makes an very fun purchase.

Where to find Sarah: On Instagram @youloveandyoulearn, on TikTok @youloveandyoulearn, at www.youloveandyoulearn.com

Timestamps: Sarah joins us at around minute 33.

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189. The Second SATC Theories One

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Erica & Ali are back with another hilarious (at least to us) Sex And The City episode, where we dissect its theories while acting out scenes from the show. This week, we’re covering Taxi Cab Theory, how long it takes to get over a break up, and faking orgasms (with a new character introduced!).

In Updates, Erica attends a friend’s wedding…or is it one of those “pitch your friend” events?? Ali awaits Skyline’s surprise and the gals discuss Hinge’s latest update that’s designed to keep conversations going.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 30.

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188. The Quiet the Clock One ft. Beth Gulotta

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 06:00:00 +0000

We always hear, “it will happen when you least expect it,” but letting go of societal timelines and expectations isn’t as easy as a catchy phrase. Enter Beth Gulotta, therapist and host of Quiet The Clock podcast. We chat with Beth about quieting the noise surrounding what you “should” be doing (hint: stop using that word!) and getting more in touch with your inner voice. She gives incredible advice on dealing with social pressure, the urge to compare yourself to others, feeling present in the now while working towards the future, and more.

In Updates, Ali introduces Skyline to one of her oldest friends and looks forward to a surprise celebration he’s planning. Erica is preparing for a month-long trip and looking forward to some much-needed family time. Plus, with their moms trip coming up, the gals chat about a TikTok trend about being close with your mom.

Where to find Beth: On Instagram @quiettheclockpod, on TikTok @quiettheclockpod, at www.quiettheclock.com.

Timestamps: Beth joins us at around minute 34.

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187. The Eleventh Grab Bag One

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 06:00:00 +0000

This week, Ali & Erica are answering short-form listener questions, rapid fire style. We take turns asking each other things like: is it ever okay to be sexual in your dating app profile? Can you be friends with a past situationship? Is it better to be good on paper or have good chemistry? And are people ever actually bad texters, or do they just not like you that much? Plus many more!

In Updates, Erica explores a new app designed to meet people in person while Ali winds down at work and hangs out with Skyline’s friends without him.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 26.

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186. The Sixth Ask A Man One ft. Charles McBee

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 06:00:00 +0000

It’s our first time doing Ask A 40-Something Man, featuring Erica’s good friend and standup comedian Charles McBee. We asked our listeners: “What’s something you’ve always wanted to ask a man?” and y’all did not disappoint! Tune in for Charles’s thoughts things like: moving on after a breakup, how much men share with their friends, and whether you can tell your partner you don’t like their gifts.

In Updates, Erica’s Don’t Tell Comedy set is live!! Thanks to all of you for the support. Ali navigates an emotional milestone with Skyline.

Where to find Charles: On Instagram @charlesmcbee, on TikTok @charlesmcbee, at www.charlesmcbee.com.

Timestamps: Charles joins us at around minute 31.

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185. The First SATC Theories One

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica switch it up this week with a new episode format: discussing scenes from Sex And The City and how they apply to life today (complete with some voice acting!). We discuss lending money to friends, whether friends can be your true soulmates, & what to do if you hate going down.

In Updates, Erica gets her Don’t Tell set back and works on selecting social clips. Meanwhile, Ali settles further into life with Skyline and confronts some things coming up from past relationships.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 34.

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184. The ShrinkChicks One ft. Jennifer Chaiken & Emmalee Bierly

Mon, 26 Aug 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Erica & Ali could not HELP but let this interview with ShrinkChicks (aka Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT & Emmalee Bierly, LMFT) run a bit long because, y’all, it is incredible. The foursome starts off discussing how difficult it can be to find a therapist and offer some advice for navigating that journey. Then, we move into our most popular listener submission: boundaries and conflict. What is a boundary, anyway? How best to set one to invite closeness (because it turns out that’s what boundaries are for!)? Is there a right way to handle conflict in any type of relationship? And so much more.

In Updates, Erica gets film back from a recent taping while Ali reunites with Skyline after 3 weeks apart.

Where to find Jennifer & Emmalee: On Instagram @shrinkchicks, on TikTok @shrinkchicks, at www.shrinkchicks.com and on the ShrinkChicks Podcast.

Timestamps: Jennifer & Emmalee join us at around minute 24.

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183. The Fifteenth Hot Topics One

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Erica & Ali are back answering your questions in a Hot Topics episode this week! We counsel a listener who is nervous about having sex for the first time. Then, a listener is struggling with a guy who’s chronically late and recently stood her up. Third, Erica gives advice on navigating a herpes disclosure in your relationship. And finally, a listener isn’t feeling cared for by the guy she’s dating.

With Ali still traveling and Erica focused on work (check out last week’s episode for more on that!), the two discuss an article that a listener sent in about relationship dynamics. After listening, are you usually the bird or the hand?

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 32.

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182. The Second Debate Team One

Mon, 12 Aug 2024 06:00:00 +0000

We’re back with another debate team episode, where Ali & Erica debate topics submitted by our listeners! We’ve got four topics up for debate this week. Let us know where you stand! Marathon dates early in the game - yay or nay? Is it okay to be late for a date? Can you date someone you work with? And finally, should you go ring shopping with your partner before getting engaged?

In Updates, Erica navigates next steps in her comedy career and opens up about her current focus. Meanwhile, Ali is back from Mexico City and came across a New York Times article about dating after 50.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 38.

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181. The Emotionally Online One ft. Maddie Dragsbaek

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Straight from your guest suggestions, we have Maddie Dragsbaek, host of the Emotionally Online podcast, in an amazing episode this week! Maddie has been opening up about her life online since before podcasts were a thing and this week is no exception. Our conversation focuses first on her bisexuality - what exploring that both privately and publicly has looked like, her advice for anyone thinking they might be bi, and her experience taking dating off the apps and into the real world. We then dive into dating as a fat woman - her tips for approaching dating online and if she sees a difference when dating women vs men.

But first, Erica is fresh off of her (accidental) fourth date with Tony and comes to a decision about their future. Meanwhile, Ali recounts how she has managed anxieties around communication and scheduling in the early stages with Skyline. Plus we recap your responses to our anniversary poll!

Where to find Maddie: On Instagram @maddiedragsbaek, on TikTok @maddiedragsbaek, and the Emotionally Online podcast.

Timestamps: Maddie joins us at around minute 35.

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180. The First Updates One

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Erica & Ali have so many updates to share this week that we did an episode full of them (plus a lot of girl talk in between)! Erica is fresh off her third date with Tony Soprano and is on the fence about a fourth (until she accidentally pushes herself off). The gals get into a great discussion about the frustration of someone being “good on paper” and how to know when to cut something off. Meanwhile, Ali celebrates two milestones with Skyline - 3 months of dating that happens to coincide with a tough day for her, plus 3 (not so) little words. If you liked this style episode, you’ll love our Patreon! Join at www.patreon.com/findingmrheight.

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179. The Attachment Solution One ft. Charisse Cooke

Mon, 22 Jul 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Psychotherapist Charisse Cooke is back on the pod this week and Erica & Ali could have talked to her for hours! Our conversation focuses on attachment theory, answering listener questions such as how to self soothe an anxious attachment, best strategies for navigating an anxious/avoidant dynamic, and why avoidant attachment gets such a bad rap.

In Updates, Ali reflects on project management in a relationship while Erica plans her third date with Tony Soprano.

Where to find Charisse: On Instagram @charissecooke, on TikTok @charissecookeofficial, and grab her book at www.charissecooke.com.

Timestamps: Charisse joins us at around minute 26.

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178. The Cheating One ft. Chloe Radcliffe

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 06:00:00 +0000

We hear about cheating a lot, but it’s rarely from the perspective of the person who does the cheating. This week, standup comedian Chloe Radcliffe opens up about her pattern of cheating (which she wrote a solo show about!). We dive into her thoughts on the origins of cheating, what she’s learned from her pattern and is applying in her new relationship, and so much more culminating in a round of rapid-fire Debate Team!

In Updates, Erica has an adorable second date with Tony where they get deeper on values and life goals. Meanwhile, Ali is back from a weekend away with Skyline’s friends.

Where to find Chloe: On Instagram @chloebadcliffe, on TikTok @chloebadcliffe, at www.chloeradcliffe.com.

Check out all of Chloe's upcoming shows at www.choleradcliffe.com.

Timestamps: Chloe joins us at around minute 22.

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177. The Second Past Beliefs One

Mon, 08 Jul 2024 06:00:00 +0000

We had so much fun talking about our past beliefs the other week that we’re bringing it back for a series including your submissions! We discuss submissions such as “your person will complete you,” “trying hard isn’t cool,” and “you should share many common hobbies with your partner.” Let us know if you like this series and submit more of your past beliefs for future episodes!

But first, Erica has an exciting first date with (new nickname alert) Tony Soprano and Ali has a heck of weekend with old friends, volleyball wins, and a fun day with Skyline. We also chat about NYC’s dating scene vs other cities, emotional hangovers, and a new spot to meet men in LA.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 34.

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176. Storytime: Dating With Depression

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are joined this week by Kelly, a listener who wrote in to share her story about dating with depression & anxiety. Kelly shares her journey towards getting diagnosed, how depression impacted her dating, & what growing in her first serious relationship has been like. It’s a powerful, relatable story that we can’t wait to share.

But first, Erica has a long-awaited update on Comic Con while Ali reflects on more Skyline learnings.

Timestamps: Kelly joins us at around minute 35.

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175. The First Past Beliefs One

Mon, 24 Jun 2024 06:00:00 +0000

We asked for your submissions about dating philosophies or “rules” you used to believe, but don’t anymore, and WOW did you deliver! So much so that we’ll be continuing this topic in future episodes. We’re starting this week with things that Ali & Erica used to believe, but don’t anymore, such as: when you know you know, men should ask women out for the second date, don’t save phone numbers until you’re official, and more.

In Updates, Erica is back from her travels and has learned something veryyyy interesting about her photos organization methods. Meanwhile, Ali opens up about the anxieties of relaxing into a new relationship.

Timestamps: Topic Talk joins us at around minute 43.

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174. The First Debate Team One

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 06:00:00 +0000

We’re debuting a new segment on the pod this week…Debate Team! Ali & Erica will each be assigned a side of a debate and debate each other. This week, we’re starting with “should you live together before getting engaged?” and “can you be friends with an ex?” It gets especially fun when we have to argue for the side we don’t actually agree with!

But first, it’s a BIG week of updates on the pod. Ali recaps her long-awaited reunion with Skyline - did she follow through on her hard commit to DTR??

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 42.

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173. The Date Brazen One ft. Lily Womble

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Erica & Ali welcome feminist dating coach and debut author Lily Womble to the pod this week! We chat about bringing more joy into your dating life, how to narrow down your search to what Lily calls essences-based preferences, and how to reframe your mindset when you feel like you’re “too much.” Order Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, out June 11th!

In Updates, we have a special Patreon teaser that Ali recorded with Talia Koren (@ Dating.intentionally) while Erica was on vacation. You’ll hear some tea that never aired on the main pod as Ali awaits Skyline’s return to NYC.

Where to find Lily: On Instagram @datebrazen, on TikTok @datebrazen, at www.datebrazen.com and on The Date Brazen Podcast.

Timestamps: Lily joins us at around minute 31.

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172. The Fourteenth Hot Topics One

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 06:00:00 +0000

It’s a slightly new Hot Topics format, with both listener questions and a couple AITA situations. First, Ali & Erica debate if a man is the a-hole for not helping his wife carry things in from the car and whether a women is the a-hole for not giving up her comfy coffee shop chair. Then, we answer two listener questions: one listener who is concerned about her date’s grooming choices and one who is worried about potential dating prospects in her smaller city.

In Updates, a psychic reading prompts Erica’s family to try to set her up while Ali continues to await Skyline’s return.

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171. The FMH Feedback One

Mon, 27 May 2024 06:00:00 +0000

We asked for feedback and you delivered!! This week, Ali & Erica are going through the biggest takeaways and themes from our podcast survey and previewing what’s to come for the future of the pod. We dig deep on our own opportunities for growth, taking into account both what the listeners shared as well as our own reflections. It’s a vulnerable conversation that we can’t wait for you to hear!

In Updates, Ali looks forward to Skyline’s (early) return and Erica officially declares the opening of Ruthless Summer.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 20.

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170. The Second Therapy Jeff One ft. Jeff Guenther

Mon, 20 May 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Back by popular demand, Therapy Jeff (aka Jeff Guenther, LPC) is on the pod answering your burning questions. We dive into topics such as: what does it mean if I attract emotionally available people? How to approach pre-marital counseling? What does it mean to “settle” and how do I know if I am? As always, Jeff’s advice is on point with some laughs along the way.

But first, Erica’s car repair flirtation continues (on the phone!!) and Ali has an excellent third date with Skyline before he leaves town.

Where to find Jeff: On Instagram @therapyjeff, on TikTok @therapyjeff and on his website www.therapyjeff.com. Looking for the therapist-finding resource Jeff mentions? Check out www.therapyden.com.

Timestamps: Jeff joins us at around minute 42.

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169. The Deeper Questions One

Mon, 13 May 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Erica & Ali are getting deep this week, going through all sorts of questions you can use to connect on first dates, in early dating, or even when already in a relationship. We’re answering our favorite ones plus listing a few you probably shouldn’t ask. Let’s start having some more interesting conversations!

In Updates, Erica meets a new man (or is it an automated text system?) and Ali makes a decision about one of her second dates this week.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 39.

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168. The A Little Nudge One ft. Erika Ettin

Mon, 06 May 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Erica & Ali are diving into the apps with dating coach & app expert Erika Ettin of @alittlenudge. We talk about whether it really matters what opener you send (hint: YES), how to deal with dating app burnout, and why Erika recommends dating NATO (not attached to outcome).

But first, Erica is back from a rejuvenating Bachelorette weekend while Ali had quite the week of first dates (with 2 new nicknames!).

Where to find Erika: On Instagram @alittlenudge, on TikTok @alittlenudge, at www.alittlenudge.com.

Timestamps: Erika joins us at around minute 22.

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167. The Roundup One

Mon, 29 Apr 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Erica & Ali are bouncing around in a roundup episode this week, chatting about recent dating-related news items. First, we have some updates from last week’s ep! Then, we dive into the risks of buying a house with someone you’re not married to (Tom & Ariana, anyone?) and discuss why dating apps have been on a downswing.

Erica has a “friendly” update from her recent speed dating event, while Ali is setting up two first dates for this week.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 38.

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166. The Female Friendships One ft. Danielle Bayard Jackson

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are back for another episode about friendship, featuring incredible friendship coach, Danielle Bayard Jackson! Danielle’s upcoming book, Fighting for Our Friendships, is all about the science behind women’s relationships and she brings us SO much knowledge: from deepening your bond with an acquaintance, to the influence our friends have on our romantic relationships, to how we should romance our friends, too.

In Updates, Ali sees Montana Boy at an event while Erica attends a speed dating event and expresses her continued frustrating at the state of dating on the apps.

Where to find Danielle: On Instagram @daniellebayardjackson, on TikTok @thefriendshipexpert, at www.betterfemalefriendships.com.

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Timestamps: Danielle joins us at around minute 32.

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165. The First Date One

Mon, 15 Apr 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica have a first date guide for you this week! We’re breaking down everything you need to know: getting from dating app convo to date, pre-date texting guidelines, first date arrival logistics, conversation tips to avoid and awkwardness, and so much more.

In Updates, Erica finds out why people call LA “Flake City” as she prepares for multiple first dates. Meanwhile, Ali is back from Costa Rica and reflects on her communication with Mr. Worldwide.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.

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164. The Ick One

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Have you ever gotten the ick from a match or a date? Ali & Erica have rounded up all sorts of icks from the listeners and we’re debating them on this week’s episode. It’s a fun and silly one this week!

In Updates, Ali goes on a thoughtful fourth date with Mr. Worldwide. Meanwhile, Erica is excited to be back in LA for a while, making swiping easier. And, she is still taking submissions to be setup with her DC friends at fmhsetups@gmail.com.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.

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163. The Pretty Much Done One ft. Julia Mazur

Mon, 01 Apr 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Have you ever considered picking up and moving to a new city? Julia Mazur, host of the Pretty Much Done podcast, did just that. Having spent her whole life in Los Angeles, she moved to Austin after a break up and has never been happier. And, in addition, to her move, we get into a great discussion about hyper-independence and how it can affect relationships. It’s a conversation you don’t want to miss!

In Updates, Ali & Erica are fresh off their D.C. show and Erica has some very exciting news for our listeners in the area. Meanwhile, Ali has her third date with Mr. Worldwide and reflects on what she appreciates about him while also enjoying a fantastic birthday party.

Where to find Julia: On Instagram @pmdpod, on TikTok @pmdpod, at www.prettymuchdonepod.com.

Timestamps: Julia joins us at around minute 31.

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162. The Thirteenth Hot Topics One

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are back with questions submitted by you, the listeners! We start with the age-old question: should you give a ghost a second chance? Then, a listener has a crush at work - how can she get this man on a date? Or should she give up? And lastly, we advise a listener who is about to visit a long-distance situationship.

But first, Ali has quite the day of updates starting with a Montana Boy flirtation and ending with a second date with Mr. Worldwide. Erica shares some amazing career news!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 40.

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161. The Ask A Matchmaker One ft. Maria Avgitidis

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Your calls have been answered…Matchmaker Maria is back on the pod!! We’re answering all sorts of listener questions, Ask A Matchmaker style. For example: how do you balance a hoe phase with dating intentionally? What should you learn about someone before sleeping with them? And so much more…

In Updates, Ali has an awesome first date with Mr. Worldwide (no, not that one) while Erica has a good * start * of a first date with The Heartbreaker.

Where to find Maria: On Instagram @matchmakermaria, on TikTok @realmatchmakermaria, at www.agapematch.com.

Timestamps: Maria joins us at around minute 33.

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160. The Meeting IRL One

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 06:00:00 +0000

How do people meet IRL these days?! Are there things we can be doing, places we can going, openers we can be using to make it all feel easier? This week, Ali & Erica are breaking down their best tips on meeting people “in the wild” plus sharing some of yours. We cover everything from body language when you’re out alone to opening lines for a cute stranger to going in for the number exchange.

But first, Erica goes on a date that doesn’t even deserve a nickname (Mr. Distracted, perhaps?) and Ali has a few irons in the Bumble fire.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 31.

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159. The Hello Hayes One ft. Alexandra Hayes

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are welcoming an advice column legend to the pod this week…it’s Hello Hayes, answering all your questions about friendships! We start by diving into her Six Besties Theory and then get to your questions - ranging from navigating a friendship breakup to feeling like the odd one out in your friend group.

In Updates, the girls report back on their first manifesting experiment and Ali flexes her wingman skills at the Chaotic Singles Party.

Where to find Hayes: On Instagram @afhayes, on TikTok @hellohayes, at www.hellohayes.substack.com.

Timestamps: Hayes joins us at around minute 21.

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158. The Test Test Manifest One

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Dating apps getting sued? Financial columnist scammed out of $50k? Ali & Erica reading a book about manifesting? We’re rounding up the week’s most unbelievable stories on this week’s episode. Tune in for our (non-lawyer) verdicts on the dating app case, our advice for future scam attempts, and the kickoff to the next few weeks of attempting to manifest using the book E-Squared by Pam Grout.

In Updates, Erica has a second date with Lemon Drop (official nickname locked in), but isn’t sure she wants a third. Meanwhile, Ali attends a singles mixer where the odds are decidedly not in her favor.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 45.

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157. The Twelfth Hot Topics One

Mon, 19 Feb 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are answering your questions this week! First, a listener worries she’s slipping into a FWB situation. Next, we give advice for letting someone know you’re newly single (hint: do not use the company Slack). Next, a listener wonders why her first dates keep getting “friends only” vibes from her - is she doing something wrong? And lastly, a listener in a long distance relationship struggles to bring up something she found in her boyfriend’s apartment.

In Updates, Erica goes on a first date down the shore and discovers the joys of a Lemon Drop. Meanwhile, Ali is back from Costa Rica and recaps the most well-organized speed dating event she’s ever been to.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 37.

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156. The Third Fertility One ft. Jordana Abraham

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are continuing our fertility series with a third installment this week, welcoming Jordana Abraham back to the pod. In this deeply vulnerable episode, Jordana opens up about her fertility journey navigating pregnancy loss and the IVF process. We discuss the emotional toll this has taken and how she’s handled each step along the way.

In Updates, Ali receives an unsolicited exit interview from a prior date and Erica has an update on her disappointing colleague.

Where to find Jordana: On Instagram @jordanaabraham, on TikTok @jordana_abraham, and on the Baby Steps Podcast.

Timestamps: Jordana joins us at around minute 25.

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155. The First Race & Dating One

Mon, 05 Feb 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are starting a long-awaited series, race and dating, and we kick things off as Erica interviews Ali about her experiences as a multiracial woman. Ali relates what it was like growing up in mostly-white spaces, how that impacted her world (and self) view, and ultimately her dating life. We look forward to more episodes in the future digging into various aspects of this vast topic!

In Updates, Erica is disappointed (understatement of the year) by a new acquaintance and Ali has quite the energy shift from last week.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 35.

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154. The F The Fairytale One ft. Damona Hoffman

Mon, 29 Jan 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica welcome an OG of dating advice to the pod this week - Damona Hoffman, author of the new book “F The Fairytale” and host of the Dates & Mates podcast. We get into topics such as Damona’s best tips for dating mindset, how the online dating landscape has changed in her 15 years of coaching, and how race has played a role in her own dating life (and Ali weighs in too!).

In Updates, Erica has a date that was set up by a listener - but will the long distance be too much? Meanwhile, Ali has a few giddy moments after her second date with Dr. Laundry (previously Pie Guy).

Where to find Damona: On Instagram @damonahoffman, at www.damonahoffman.com

Timestamps: Damona joins us at around minute 35.

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153. The Fifth Ask A 30-Something Man One

Mon, 22 Jan 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are joined by Zach, a 30-something man whose friends are managing his Hinge profile. We talk about how (and why) this arrangement came to be plus what he’s learned from having someone else set up his dates. And, has it been a success? Listen and find out!

But first, Erica and Ali continue to update on outcomes from Dating App Sunday. In particular, Ali has a wild Saturday with 2 first dates plus a singles mixer.

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Timestamps: Zach joins us at around minute 33.

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152. The Birth Order One

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Should firstborns always date lastborns? Are lastborn-lastborn relationships doomed? Or does it even matter? We’re finding out in this week’s episode, using research from around the web plus listener experiences (and our own!). Plus, a listener calls in with a PSA about gift card scams.

In Updates, Ali & Erica both swung for the fences on Dating App Sunday and parse through the results. One of us already has a first date scheduled that we’ll be debriefing live at our show in NYC on January 20th! Snag tickets at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 28.

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151. The Eleventh Hot Topics One

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are answering your questions in a Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener has a crush on a friend of a friend…does he like her back? Second, a listener wonders how to know if she’s experiencing the slow burn or just a lack of attraction. Lastly, a listener runs into an ex while on a date. Should she reach out?

In Updates, Erica goes on a date (maybe??) and has a prediction for the future. We chat about our new years’ resolutions and debate a rising trend: AI girlfriends.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 37.

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150. ‪The Have Him At Hello One

Mon, 01 Jan 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are reviewing the first dating book Ali ever read (15 years ago!!) this week - Have Him At Hello by Rachel Greenwald. The author interviewed 1,000 men about why they didn’t want second dates and we’re debating how her findings apply to modern dating. Ali & Erica both identify (mostly) with The Boss Lady…how about you?

In Updates, Ali & Erica both receive “Merry Christmas” texts from men past and Ali gets the ick on Hinge.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 36.

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149. The Masculinity One ft. Rachel Sievers, M.S.

Mon, 25 Dec 2023 07:00:00 +0000

What is masculinity, anyway? How can you identify someone with healthy masculinity? How about someone who wants to equitably divide the mental load of a relationship? Rachel Sievers, M.S. - retired psychotherapist and host of The Answer To Everything Podcast - is here to help.

In Updates, Erica gets set up from an unexpected place and Ali goes on a surprise first date. We also debate a potential scam that Ali discovered at a singles mixer!

Where to find Rachel: On Instagram @rachelsieversms, on TikTok @rachelsieversms at www.arrivecoachandcounsel.com.

Timestamps: Rachel joins us at around minute 30.

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148. The Smart Dating One ft. Bela Gandhi

Mon, 18 Dec 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Bela Gandhi, dating coach and founder of Smart Dating Academy, joins us this week to answer your questions! Tune in to find out why she insists her clients do video dates before IRL dates, one of the steps in her tried and true method to help her clients find partnership, particularly later in life or after divorce.

In Updates, Ali may have discovered a Bumble hack and a listener may have discovered a Hinge hack! Plus, tickets for our upcoming live shows on 1/20 in NYC and 3/21 in DC are on sale at findingmrheight.com/live.

Where to find Bela:

Website https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/

IG https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

YT https://www.youtube.com/user/smartdatingacademy

FB https://www.facebook.com/smartdatingacademy

Timestamps: Bela joins us at around minute 20.

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147. The 2023 Wrapped One

Mon, 11 Dec 2023 07:00:00 +0000

How did 2023 go for us? We’re breaking it down this week. How many first dates did we go on? What lessons did we learn? And did we succeed at “more kissing, less crying”?? Plus, we’re sharing what you, the listeners, learned this year.

In updates, Ali is feeling meh about seeing Billy Joel again and the ladies announce their next NYC live show on Saturday, January 20th! Snag your ticket at the links in our bios or at findingmrheight.com/live.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 20.

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146. The Mother Daughter One

Mon, 04 Dec 2023 07:00:00 +0000

In honor of our recently-launched mother/daughter trip to Portugal, Ali & Erica have invited their moms on the show! We’re answering your questions: everything from who our moms think we should date to their best tips for lasting relationships. Get a glimpse into our relationships before the trip and learn more about the itinerary at the links in either of our IG bios. We’re staying in the heart of Lisbon and then journeying down the Algarve coast in October 2024!

But first, Ali has been swiping in San Diego - will she end up on a date? Meanwhile, Erica continues her app-free life and encounters an actual scam.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 32.

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145. The Gifts For Men One ft. Sebastian Conelli & Robbie Nunes

Mon, 27 Nov 2023 07:00:00 +0000

It’s that time of year where we all agonize over what to get the men in our lives, whether they’re partners, brothers, sons, or friends. So Ali & Erica sat down with Sebastian Conelli & Robbie Nunes, co-hosts of the Loud About Nothing podcast, to talk gifts. The four of us reveal the best (and worst) gifts we’ve ever gotten plus brainstorm ideas for you to use yourself!

But first, Ali hosts Billy Joel to cook together on their third date. Meanwhile, Erica deletes her apps and promptly has 2 set ups on her hands.

Where to find our guests:

Sebastian On Instagram @sebastianconelli on TikTok @sebastianconelli.

Robbie On Instagram @robbienunes on TikTok @robbienunes.

Loud About Nothing Podcast On Instagram @loudaboutnothing on TikTok @loudaboutnothing, at www.loudaboutnothing.com.

Timestamps: Sebastian & Robbie join us at around minute 29.

Come with us to Portugal! We’re hosting a mother/daughter trip in October 2024 and want YOU to join us. Head to the link in our bios or findingmrheight.com/travel for more details.

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144. The Marry Him One

Mon, 20 Nov 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Are you too picky? Ali & Erica aim to find out this week as we dive into a book that regularly makes the rounds on social media: "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" by Lori Gottlieb. We discuss things that used to be dealbreakers but aren’t any more, whether women need to “settle” more, and how we each navigate our preferences in dating.

But first, Erica goes on a decidedly okay coffee date while Ali frolics through a museum with Billy Joel.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 18.

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143. The Waiting for Marriage One ft. Paul Schissler

Mon, 13 Nov 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Are you waiting for marriage? Or just curious what dating is like for someone who is? Comedian (and Erica’s former roommate - literally, ROOMmate) Paul Schissler joins us to chat about his journey doing just that. We answer listener questions ranging from when to divulge to people you’re dating to how to ensure you’re on the same page with what post-marriage intimacy might look like.

But first, Erica waves goodbye to The Folly and Ali waves hello to Billy Joel on a first date (and updates on Speed Racer).

Where to find Paul: On Instagram @paulschissler, on TikTok @paulyboycomedy, at www.paulschissler.com.

Timestamps: Paul joins us at around minute 39.

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142. The Different Cities One

Mon, 06 Nov 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Have you ever thought that your city is the worst for dating? Turns out most of our listeners do…so Ali & Erica are putting that to the test this week. We’re “traveling” to different cities in our dating apps and reporting back on our findings - plus sharing feedback from the listeners! Did we skip your city? Let us know at findingmrheight.com/podcast.

In Updates, Erica is unsure how to proceed with The Folly and Ali finally has her second date with Speed Racer…which was planned in quite the odd way!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 27.

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141. The Second Fertility One ft Dr. Peter Klatsky

Mon, 30 Oct 2023 06:00:00 +0000

We’re back with the second installment of our fertility series, interviewing a very special guest - Erica’s doctor at Spring Fertility, Dr. Peter Klatsky! We start out by busting a few fertility myths and then get into questions from our listeners! Dr. Klatsky advises us on selecting a fertility provider, pulls back the curtain on egg freezing statistics, and so much more.

In Updates, Erica has a second date with The Folly…but does she want to go on a third? Ali gets a date with Speed Racer on the books, has a new guy on the scene, and resets her Hinge (featuring a special guest call-in!).

We have a unique code “FMH” for our audience to use for $150 off a full consult in any of Spring Fertility clinic locations (CA or NY). This discount runs through December 31, 2023. Cannot be combined with any commercial insurance.

Where to find Dr. Klatsky On Instagram @springfertility, on TikTok @springfertility, at www.springfertility.com.

Timestamps: Dr. Klatsky joins us at around minute 37.

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140. The Tenth Hot Topics One

Mon, 23 Oct 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are taking listener questions (and bring back Weird or Nah!) in this week’s Hot Topics episode. First, we debate a listener’s screenshot dilemma and discuss setting boundaries in early dating. Then, we discuss how (or if) to tell a friend you think she’s settling. And finally, a listener writes in for advice on working with her ex who is dating someone new.

In Updates, Ali has a very loud first date and Erica debuts a new nickname with The Folly.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 30.

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139. The UnF*ck Your Brain One ft. Kara Loewentheil

Mon, 16 Oct 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Are you supervising your brain? Do you even know how? Kara Loewentheil, J.D., Master Certified Coach, and host of the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast is here to help. On this week’s episode, we explore topics of anxiety, particularly in the bedroom, and how to navigate through them. Kara explains how she worked to re-train her thoughts and we dive into how socialization impacts how we think.

In Updates, Erica tries to plan a first date - but will she get any help?? Meanwhile, Ali closes the door on The Stout, postpones with Speed Racer, and has a new guy on the scene.

Where to find Kara: On Instagram @karaloewentheil, on TikTok @karaloewentheil, at www.unfuckyourbrain.com.

Timestamps: Kara joins us at around minute 32.

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138. The Life Coach One ft. Rachelle Indra

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Are you skeptical about life coaches? Rachelle Indra, who literally is one herself, was too! Ali & Erica are truly enthralled by her insights this week, so much so that we actually had to FORCE ourselves to end the interview. In particular, we dive deep into moving through heartbreak & healing going into a new relationship. We also touch on balancing self compassion with accountability and how to avoid toxic positivity - while remaining positive.

In Updates, Ali reports back from her first date with Speed Racer while also questioning her compatibility with The Stout. Erica has a disappointing update on Burger guy but a first date on the horizon!

Where to find Rachelle: On Instagram @coachrachelleindra, on TikTok @coachrachelleindra, at www.rachelleindra.com.

Timestamps: Rachelle joins us at around minute 21.

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137. The r/AskMen One

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 06:00:00 +0000

What do men wish women knew about them?? Well, we asked them for you (and pulled even more insights from around the internet). We hear about things like: avoiding subtlety/hints, how men don’t want to keep chasing you, and gosh darnit it’s nice to be the little spoon sometimes!

But first, The Drummer’s performance does not live up to Erica’s expectations but she has another IRL experience to balance things out. Ali awaits her 2nd date with The Stout and has a new Bumble man on the horizon.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 37.

Reddit thread referenced: https://reddit.com/r/AskMen/s/NOSTd7vzPp

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136. The City Confessions One ft. Mariann Yip

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Have you wondered what the transition is like from single and dating to being in a relationship? Author and lifestyle blogger Mariann Yip is telling Ali & Erica all about how she went from publishing a book about her NYC dating life to starting a family…all within a year! We chat about first dates, feeling lonely in parenthood, and letting go of what you thought your timeline would be.

In Updates, we’ve got two new nicknames in play! Erica gets approached by The Drummer in the wild…but does he ask her on a date? Ali goes out with The Stout and contemplates her next move after the date.

Where to find Mariann: On Instagram @mariann_yip, on TikTok @mariann_yip, at www.un-hinged.com.

Timestamps: Mariann joins us at around minute 39.

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135. The Tenth Grab Bag One

Mon, 18 Sep 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are taking rapid fire listener questions this week in the latest Grab Bag episode! Topics range from defining “exclusive” vs “official,” determining if someone is ready to date, setting boundaries with advice from friends, to ending a date.

In updates, Ali is crushing her IRL activities challenge (but hasn’t forgotten about the apps!) and Erica dips her toe back into the NYC dating app waters.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 21.

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134. The 37 & Single One ft. Jared Freid

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Jared Freid is fresh off his hilarious Netflix special, 37 & Single, and answering your listener questions! What’s the right way to set two people up? Are there certain dating app answers he hates seeing? And many more, followed by what might be our new favorite game: Pick The Ick.

In Updates, Erica hears back from The Accountant and embarks on an NYC dating challenge. Meanwhile, Ali is feeling optimistic about her IRL dating prospects and has a date on the calendar.

Where to find Jared: On Instagram @jaredfreid, on TikTok @wizardofha, at www.jaredfreid.com.

Timestamps: Jared joins us at around minute 40.

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133. The Fiscal Femme One ft. Ashley Feinstein Gertsley

Mon, 04 Sep 2023 06:00:00 +0000

We’re talking finances this week, with Ashley Feinstein Gertsley, CFP and founder of The Fiscal Femme. Are you wondering where/how to start investing? And if you’re even ready to do that? Or maybe you’re trying to create and stick to a spending plan. Ali & Erica learn some things too as we dive into all things money.

But first, Erica has an update on The Accountant and Ali is back from camp with some new girlfriends and a plan to do more IRL events. Did she complete Erica’s challenge? Find out!

Where to find Ahsley: On Instagram @thefiscalfemme, on TikTok @thefiscalfemme, at www.thefiscalfemme.com.

Timestamps: Ahsley joins us at around minute 31.

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132. The Hypothetical One

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 06:00:00 +0000

If you knew you’d meet the person you’re going to marry in 5 years, would you still date? Would you rather win the lottery or find your soulmate? Ali & Erica debate some fun dating hypotheticals this week. Tune in for what Erica would say to a room full of people she’s slept with and why Ali would just break into song.

In updates, Erica shoots her shot at the frame store and Ali is back from a whirlwind wedding in Poland.

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Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 47.

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131. The Ninth Hot Topics One

Mon, 21 Aug 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are back with in-depth listener questions, otherwise known as Hot Topics! This week, we discuss: reaching back out to someone you rejected (or always wondering what if), managing emotions when someone you’re dating updates their app profile, & who should initiate a first date.

In updates, Erica goes on a puzzling first date and successfully executes a DM slide after meeting a man in the wild. Meanwhile, Ali is live from Prague and chronicles her latest attempt to meet people IRL.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 49.

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130.5. The Bonus One

Wed, 16 Aug 2023 23:42:06 +0000

This bonus episode features an exclusive Patreon preview to stay on track with Ali and Erica’s dating updates. Ali recaps an awkward first date that never seems to end, while Erica finds herself in a scenario where she’s fighting her instincts.

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130. Listener Storytime: Sexual Assault

Mon, 14 Aug 2023 06:00:00 +0000

TRIGGER WARNING This episode centers around sexual assault.

This week, we welcome on two incredible listeners to tell their stories. They each offer a deep perspective on both their experiences and their lives since - we can’t thank them enough for their vulnerability. If you’re out there resonating with this episode, please know you are not alone. There are no updates from Ali & Erica in this episode - stay tuned for a Patreon teaser later this week.

If you’d like to connect with Caeli, she invites you to message her on Instagram @happierinthekitchen

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129. The Men Love Bitches One

Mon, 07 Aug 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Do men really love bitches? What IS a bitch, anyway? And can we take anything away from a book that was written over 20 years ago?? Ali & Erica debate a list of “attraction principles” from the recently-resurged bestseller book, “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov to find out.

In Updates, Erica channels vacation energy with some IRL encounters and Ali prepares to channel Erica.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 29.

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128. The Wedding Etiquette One ft. Roark

Mon, 31 Jul 2023 06:00:00 +0000

She’sssss backkkkkk!!!!! Ali & Erica welcome former FMH cohost Roark back onto the pod as our guest this week. With Ali fresh off a bachelorette party, the three dive into wedding etiquette (especially wedding guest etiquette). Can you ask for a plus one? When is it appropriate to leave a wedding? And for goodness sake, can we please stop trying to wear white??

But first, we’re catching up on Roark’s dating life, featuring a nickname OG listeners miiiiiight recognize.

Where to find Roark: On Instagram @roarks_kitchen

Timestamps: Topic talk starts at around minute 39.

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127. The Jewish Matchmaking One ft. Pamela Rae Schuller

Mon, 24 Jul 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Pamela Rae Schuller is more than one thing - she’s more than Tourette Syndrome, she’s more than her stint on Jewish Matchmaking, and she’s encouraging you to embrace your whole self, too. Together, we cover a wide range of topics, including dating with a disability, matchmaking, and achieving self-love.

In Updates, Erica receives a voice memo from the Accountant (that she DOES reply to, for the record) and Ali has her first date since The Publicist.

Where to find Pam: On Instagram @pamelacomedy and at her website pamelacomedy.com. Watch her TEDx Talk here: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_uCubamMyHw.

Timestamps: Pam joins us at around minute 36.

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126. The Wedding Toast One

Mon, 17 Jul 2023 06:00:00 +0000

For those of you who don’t know us…we’re sharing do’s and don’ts on wedding speeches, from both our own experiences and yours! How long should they be? Are certain topics off limits? And can anything be worse than a 45-minute lecture on the Boy Scout motto??

But first, Ali & Erica both have first dates coming up! Ali’s is her first HingeX match and Erica’s is a blast…from Ali’s past.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 38.

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125. The Embarrassing One

Mon, 10 Jul 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Things take a lighter turn this week, as Ali & Erica pull back the curtain on past embarrassing dating moments…and share yours! We crack up over everything from first date stomach issues to surprise queefs.

In updates, Ali has a Tinder penpal (for now) and Erica enjoys some family time.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 39.

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124. The First Fertility One

Mon, 03 Jul 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Do you have updated information on your fertility? This week, we share our journeys discovering our own and Ali details her egg freezing process. We discuss seeking fertility testing, administering egg freezing shots by yourself, and navigating dating while going through any of this.

In updates, Ali bites the bullet on HingeX and has the stats on her experience thus far. Erica completes a key part of her move to L.A. and shares some family news.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 55.

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123. The Oversharing One ft. Jordana Abraham & Dr. Naomi Bernstein

Mon, 26 Jun 2023 06:00:00 +0000

We’re oversharing this week! Ali & Erica welcome Jordana Abraham & Dr. Naomi Bernstein of the Oversharing podcast to the FMH family this week. The four answer several deep-dive listener questions including: how to maintain hope when early-stage dating keeps ending, approaching the engagement conversation with a partner, and deciding whether something is a dealbreaker.

But first, Ali has major, major Publicist news and finally receives her Pear ring. Meanwhile, Erica dabbles in Jersey Shore dating apps.

Where to find Jordana & Dr. Naomi: listen to Oversharing wherever you get your podcasts and follow Jordana on Instagram @jordanaabraham.

Timestamps: Jordana & Dr. Naomi joins us at around minute 45.

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122. The Marrying For Money One

Mon, 19 Jun 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Have you ever thought about marrying for money? Ali & Erica can’t help you with that, but we’re breaking down some financial stats that may surprise you when it comes to getting married vs not. And spoiler alert, there’s way more on the topic where this came from. Let us know what else you want to hear!

In Updates, Ali & Erica are back from Greece! The two talk through Ali’s post-vacation communication with The Publicist and what this might mean for the future.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 27.

Articles mentioned in the episode:

Does Getting Married Really Help You Financially? (Mic)

Yes, Marry For Money (CNBC)

Financial Risks of Divorce (Above The Law)

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121. The Second Herpes One ft. Ella Dawson

Mon, 12 Jun 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Why are STIs so stigmatized despite being so common? Ella Dawson, whose TEDx talk on the subject has been viewed over 800,000 times, is here to talk about about it. We discuss disclosing herpes (or any STI) to your partner, supporting a partner who’s been diagnosed, advocating for yourself at doctor’s appointments, and so much more.

But first, Ali & Erica are together in Greece! Ali works through vacation communication with The Publicist while Erica dips her toe into Greek Bumble.

Where to find Ella: On Instagram @brosandprose, on Patreon at broseandprose, and at elladawson.com.

Timestamps: Ella joins us at around minute 32.

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120. The Ninth Grab Bag One

Mon, 05 Jun 2023 06:00:00 +0000

We’re answering listener questions rapid-fire style in another grab bag episode! We cover everything from feeling clingy in a long-distance relationship, to Hinge messaging etiquette, to balancing your needs with your partner’s.

But first, we have an FMH first…Erica meets The Publicist! She debriefs the hang and afterwards Ali laments a first date gone wrong.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 30.

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119. The First Kids One

Mon, 29 May 2023 06:00:00 +0000

We’re kicking off a multi-episode series on children! We’ll spread these episodes out, and invite guests on, covering how your desire to have kids affects dating, dating with kids, choosing a child-free lifestyle, fertility…and so much more. This week, we start with Erica & Ali’s personal thoughts on having children and how it’s impact their dating lives (plus we take your questions!).

But first, Ali continues her Publicist journey (6 dates already, oh my!) and Erica spends the weekend surrounded by (fittingly) children!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 26.

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118. The Swipe Fat One ft. Alex Stewart & Nicci Nunez

Mon, 22 May 2023 06:00:00 +0000

This week, we’re talking plus-sized dating with Alex Stewart & Nicci Nunez of the Swipe Fat podcast!! We take listener questions about tips for your dating app profile, achieving self confidence while dating, red flags to look for, and so much more. Note: Erica’s wifi gave her major issues this week and so Ali interviews Alex & Nicci on her own.

In updates, Ali continues her romance with The Publicist and Erica has her first date as an LA resident.

Where to find Alex & Nicci: On Instagram @swipefat, on TikTok @swipefat, at www.swipefatpodcast.com.

Timestamps: Alex & Nicci joins us at around minute 47.

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117. The Speaking In Thumbs One ft. Dr. Mimi Winsberg

Mon, 15 May 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Let’s talk about text, baby…this week, we welcome Dr. Mimi Winsberg to the pod, a board-certified psychiatrist with over 25 years of clinical experience and author of Speaking in Thumbs. We dive into research on text communication and practical ways you can apply it to your dating life.

But first, Erica is adjusting to full-time life in LA and relaxing in Palm Springs for her birthday. Meanwhile, Ali has a second AND a third date with The Publicist.

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Timestamps: Dr. Mimi Winsberg joins us at around minute 38.

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116. The 30s Wisdom One

Mon, 08 May 2023 06:00:00 +0000

What have we learned about dating (and life) since our 20s? Where do we even begin?? Ali & Erica go through listener submissions of life lessons since their 20s and add in thoughts of our own. It’s the big sister chat you’ve been asking for!

In Updates, Erica has a laundry room altercation…is she the asshole? Ali has a new guy on the scene and a marathon first date story.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 42.

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115. The Dating App Fatigue One

Mon, 01 May 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Are you tired? Because Ali & Erica are VERY tired. Of dating apps, that is. This week, we hold space for all of your (and our) fatigue with dating on our phones - from matches turned penpals, to empty profiles, to feeling like we’re on a hamster wheel. It’s tough out there and we feel your pain!

To combat some of this, Ali has turned to Bumble BFF - and has her first Tinder date in a minute! Erica looks forward to life in LA and poses an important question: is it okay to have sex in a friend’s bed?

Vice article mentioned in this episode: https://www.vice.com/en/article/93k9jd/why-dating-sucks-we-asked-experts

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 34.

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114. The Diet Starts Tomorrow One ft. Emily Lubin

Mon, 24 Apr 2023 06:00:00 +0000

TW: This episode addresses disordered eating and intentional weight loss. If you’d like to skip this discussion, we announce in the episode when it begins.

It’s an extremely vulnerable episode this week as Erica and Ali welcome Emily Lubin, of the Diet Starts Tomorrow and RIP Diets podcasts. Emily opens up about her recovery from disordered eating and the path she’s taken to get there. She shares how her struggle impacted her relationships and gives advice for navigating dating while in recovery.

In updates, Ali continues to experiment with Tinder Premium and Erica sees an ex for the first time since their break up.

Where to find Emily: On Instagram @dietstartstomorrow.

Timestamps: Emily joins us at around minute 24.

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113. The Eighth Hot Topics One

Mon, 17 Apr 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Erica are diving into listener questions this week! First, a listener is frustrated at a first date who says they’re going to follow up and doesn’t. Second, we give advice to a listener who has a crush on her friend (and hope for updates!). Lastly, we dive into early dating communication. What should we “expect” and how should we communicate that?

In updates, Erica has air to clear about some ~ vibes ~ the listeners thought they picked up on. Meanwhile, Ali says farewell to her family and hello to Tinder Premium.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 44.

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112. The Dating Intentionally One ft. Talia Koren

Mon, 10 Apr 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Are you trying to go on more dates this year? How about 200? Talia Koren, otherwise known as @dating.intentionally, joins FMH this week to tell Ali & Erica all about her journey from a breakup to a healthy relationship. She went on 200 dates in less than a year and shares the most important things she learned along the way!

But first, Erica has a Hot Chocolate update (or lack thereof) and Ali is seeing a troubling pattern from dating app matches.

Where to find Talia: On Instagram @dating.intentionally and on her podcast, Dating Intentionally.

Timestamps: Talia joins us at around minute 21.

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111. The Cheating Quiz One

Mon, 03 Apr 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Do you think everyone defines cheating the same way? We’re finding out this week, inspired by a Buzzfeed quiz that one of our listeners sent in! Erica and Ali each reveal how their Instagram audiences voted on each situation and discuss the results.

Find the quiz here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/kellymartinez/do-you-consider-this-cheating-or-not

In updates, Erica goes on a first date with Hot Chocolate and Ali does a post-birthday switcheroo.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 27.

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110. The Fourth Ask A 30-Something Man One ft. Jourdain Fisher

Mon, 27 Mar 2023 06:00:00 +0000

It’s our fourth Ask A Man interview, featuring Erica’s close friend, the hilarious Jourdain Fisher. This one starts out spicy with some O-related listener polls and then we move on to peppering Jourdain with questions. And our producer Mike gets involved too! It’s a fun one all around.

In updates, Erica has several blasts from the past - and even has a date scheduled with one of them! Ali recaps last week’s first date and we are both frustrated by people who don’t understand boundaries.

Where to find Jourdain: On Instagram @jourdainfisher and get his comedy show schedule at jourdainfisher.com.

Timestamps: Jourdain joins us at around minute 36.

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109. Storytime: Plus-Sized Fitness & Dating

Mon, 20 Mar 2023 06:00:00 +0000

*CW: This episode centers on body image and mentions intentional weight loss & disordered eating. We continue our Storytime series highlighting listener stories with Heather Boddy, a plus-size fitness professional who shares her journey with body image. The three of us dive into what fitness means to her (and what it does not), her best tips for hyping up our friends in their own journeys, and much more.

In updates, Ali had QUITE the week with four dating-related activities (including back-to-back first dates) and Erica has found a treasure trove of NYC men.

Where to find Heather: On Instagram @heatherboddy

Timestamps: Heather joins us at around minute 37.

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108. The Profile Prompts One

Mon, 13 Mar 2023 06:00:00 +0000

How’s your dating app prompt game? Ali & Erica are here to help you step it up as they brainstorm their best answers to popular prompts! You’ll be starting better conversations in no time.

But first, Ali has a very loud first date and Erica shoots her shot with a mutual friend.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 19.

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107. The Non-Monogamy One ft. Rachel Wright

Mon, 06 Mar 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Don’t think you can relate to non-monogamy? Psychotherapist Rachel Wright just might change your mind. We talk about how relationship frameworks are changing, her personal journey from monogamy to non-monogamy, the difference between rules and agreements (and how to determine them), plus much more from listener questions!

In updates, Erica channels vacation energy to meet a man in the wild and also introduces Ali to a new guy!

Where to find Rachel: On Instagram @thewright_rachel, her website rachelwrightnyc.com, and her podcast The Wright Conversations.

Timestamps: Rachel joins us at around minute 23.

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106. The We Met At Acme One ft. Lindsey Metselaar

Mon, 27 Feb 2023 07:00:00 +0000

We Met At Acme host Lindsey Metselaar joins Finding Mr. Height this week! We debate a slew of Weird or Nah and Mythbusters submissions, then dive into what Lindsey’s learned from marriage and her journey with being sober. We wrap things up with some stellar dating app banter suggestions, pulled straight from your Hinge submissions.

But first, Erica gets a blast from the (recent) past on Valentine’s Day and Ali laments the current dating app landscape.

Where to find Lindsey: On Instagram @wemetatacme and @lindsmetz or on her podcast, We Met At Acme.

Timestamps: Lindsey joins us at around minute 29.

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105. The Dating Etiquette One

Mon, 20 Feb 2023 07:00:00 +0000

By popular demand, Erica & Ali are debating etiquette “rules” from New York’s Magazine recent article. We tackle things like “never purposefully wake up your significant other” and “you can tell any lie to leave a drinks date early.” And we get your opinions on them too! It’s a fun one all around.

In updates, Erica is still in Las Vegas and on a bit of a dating hiatus while Ali pushes herself to make an effort on Bumble (and sees results!).

Read the NYMag article here: https://www.thecut.com/article/tipping-rules-etiquette-rules.html and the Buzzfeed article here: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stefficao/etiquette-rules-for-lurking-soft-launching-fighting

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 19.

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104. The Somatic Coaching One ft. Lauren Zoeller

Mon, 13 Feb 2023 07:00:00 +0000

This week is chock-full of practical nuggets as we welcome somatic relationship coach Lauren Zoeller to the pod. Together, we break down her nervous-system-based approach to coaching and even do some group exercises that you can follow along with at home. We’re all feeling a little less anxious after this one!

But first, Ali & Erica are reporting live from Vegas.Ali shares a non-update update on The Roommate and Erica continues her vacation mentality.

Where to find Lauren: On Instagram @laurenzoeller and at her website laurenzoeller.com.

Timestamps: Lauren joins us at around minute 20.

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103. The Second Dating Theories One

Mon, 06 Feb 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Erica and Ali are back with our second installment of debating dating theories! This week, we cover theories like “if it’s not a f*** yes, it’s a f***no,” whether we’re more likely to value someone who “made us work for it,” and more.

In updates, Ali has her first date with The Roommate and Erica says goodbye to King of Queens.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 36.

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102. The First Dating Theories One

Mon, 30 Jan 2023 07:00:00 +0000

It’s time for a debate! A TikTok dating theories debate, that is. This week, we’ve found some popular theories to discuss, including red nail theory, having a “roster,” coffee as a first date, and manifesting your perfect partner.

In updates, Ali meets (another!) man in the wild and Erica gets a blast from the past in her DMs.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 32.

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101. The Plastic Surgery One

Mon, 23 Jan 2023 07:00:00 +0000

It’s a longgg awaited topic on FMH - plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures. We dive into the shift in recent statistics in these areas and how the last few years have shifted all of our perceptions of ourselves. Then, we get personal, both sharing our own experiences with plastic surgery and how we feel about it years later.

In updates, Erica has a fun facetime and a promising mini golf adventure. Meanwhile, Ali has her first first date of 2023.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 31.

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100. The Tinder Live One ft. Lane Moore

Mon, 16 Jan 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Have you ever swiped on a dating app in a group of friends and felt a sense of community in your shared experiences? Our guest this week, Lane Moore, brings that feeling to the stage in her hilarious Tinder Live shows. We chat about green (and red) flags on a dating app profile and share our best tips!

In updates, Erica has a man in her DMs and Ali starts the year off with 2 cancelled dates (whomp).

Where to find Lane: On Instagram @hellolanemoore and @tinderlive. Her upcoming book You Will Find Your People: How To Make Meaningful Friendships As An Adult is now available for preorder, and her first book How To Be Alone is available now.

Timestamps: Lane joins us at around minute 26.

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99. The Seventh Hot Topics One

Mon, 09 Jan 2023 07:00:00 +0000

We’re back with our latest Hot Topics, where we answer listener questions from our submission form! This week, we start out with a motion-sickness-related AITA. We then advise a listener on communication in between a second and third date, analyze a drawn-out dating app conversation, and discuss how to frame when you’re taking a break from work.

On the dating front, Ali & Erica both have dates lined up with men they met in the wild!

Timestamps: Hot Topics begins at around minute 40.

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98. The Third Ask A 30-Something Man One

Mon, 02 Jan 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Ask and you shall receive…it’s Ali’s brother on the pod! Drake (no, not *that* Drake) joins us for our third installment of Ask A Thirty-Something Man and we answer a ton of listener questions ranging from how guys - or at least Drake - feel about a woman asking them out to whether “bad timing” is just an excuse.

In Updates, Erica shares some health news and Ali proposes a new use for the nickname Kirk.

Timestamps: Drake joins us at around minute 21.

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97. The Dating Wrapped One

Mon, 26 Dec 2022 07:00:00 +0000

You’ve seen the videos all over social media…for our last podcast of the year, we are bringing you our own FMH version of Dating Wrapped! We share YOUR annual dating stats plus review our own year in dating, including how many first dates we went on, how many we actually wanted second dates with, and how many went…further. We wrap things up with our dating goals for 2023, informed by what we’ve learned from this year!

In Updates, Erica has a major comedy career update and went on a first date while Ali schedules dates for next year.

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins around minute 20.

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96. The First Storytime One

Mon, 19 Dec 2022 07:00:00 +0000

We’re introducing a new series on Finding Mr. Height…Storytime! Where we’ll hear from listeners as they share their stories and the lessons they’ve learned. *Update - This previous Storytime guest has requested to be removed from the episode for identity purposes. This episode is now updates only. To submit to be a Storytime guest please see the submission form below. We'd also like to reminder everyone that you can be a guest AND remain anonymous if you'd like. We truly appreciate all your submissions.

In Updates, Erica’s audition will wait another week but she has some fun voice memo news and Ali sits in the Bumble spotlight.

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95. The Second Dating Definitions One

Mon, 12 Dec 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Dating Definitions is back for round two! We continue last week’s discussion, starting with the wiiiiiild number of ghosting-adjacent terminologies. Who knew haunting and orbiting were different? And what is a sneaky link? Or a groundhog?

But first, Erica has some HUGE career news, Ali gets more info on her new matchmaker date, and we both feel burned out by swiping.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at minute 34.

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94. The First Dating Definitions One

Mon, 05 Dec 2022 07:00:00 +0000

If you were hoping to hear us get fired up over the definitions of made-up words…your wait is over. This week begins our series on dating definitions and we kick things off with debating why all these definitions even exist. Then, we get into dating words we wish would be used *less* (here’s looking at you, gaslighting). Lovebombing and fboy make the list, too, and Erica has found the perfect AITA reddit thread to add to the debate. We’ll be back next week with even more!

But first, Erica is back in New York (and has a fun story about a listener) and Ali is excited for a new matchmaker date.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at 26.

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93. The Dating After Trauma One ft. Allyson Roberts

Mon, 28 Nov 2022 07:00:00 +0000

*TRIGGER WARNING* This episode contains accounts of sexual assault. If you’d like to avoid, stop listening around minute 48 (we say trigger warning within the audio as well).

Ali & Erica welcome cognitive behavior expert Allyson Roberts (@allysonroberts_ on TikTok & IG) onto the pod this week. Allyson shared her deeply-moving personal story and how she leverages her experience to coach towards dating after trauma, owning your mindset and setting strong boundaries.

But first, Erica recaps her James Corden set and Ali closes the book on The Padre.

Where to find Allyson: at her website https://www.allysonroberts.com/ and on TikTok/IG @allysonroberts_

Timestamps: Allyson’s interview begins at around minute 18. Trigger warning around minute 48.

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92. The Dating App Openers One

Mon, 21 Nov 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Hey, listeners! Big question for you…what’s your favorite dating app opener? We’re sharing ours this week (and Erica has an idea that Ali just might steal) plus a few that you submitted! From keeping things interesting (even when they might not be) to dealing with an empty profile, this episode has got you covered.

But first, Erica has an update on Spanikopita, of dance floor fame, and Ali recaps her third date and future plans with The Padre.

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 21.

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91. The Chaotic Singles One ft. Cassidy Davis

Mon, 14 Nov 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Finding Mr. Height is getting chaotic this week…chaotically single, that is. It’s our first in-person guest interview where we sit down (on lawn chairs in Ali’s empty apartment - apologies for the slight echo) with Cassidy Davis (@casidynashdavis), creator and host of the Chaotic Singles Parties you’ve seen all over TikTok. The three of us recap our night at NYC’s first installment of the party series plus give our best tips and tricks for meeting people “in the wild.”

But first, Ali is back from a wild Wigs and Onesies weekend with her friends and Erica has a huge comedy announcement!

Timestamps: Cassidy’s interview begins at around minute 32.

Where to find Cassidy Davis and her Chaotic Singles Parties: @cassidynashdavis on TikTok and IG.

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90. The Introducing Erica One

Mon, 07 Nov 2022 07:00:00 +0000

It’s Erica’s first official episode as Finding Mr. Height’s new cohost! We’re kicking things off with an introduction for the listeners using questions *from* the listeners. But first, Ali recaps her second date with The Padre and encounters a Weird or Nah idea, while Erica has an unsettling experience trying to meet a man “in the wild.” Then, the two dive into Erica’s two most significant exes, Eggs Benedict and The Relationship Guy.

Timestamps: Erica’s interview begins at around minute 28.

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89. The Farewell One

Mon, 31 Oct 2022 06:00:00 +0000

And…that’s a wrap for Roark! Ali & Roark sit down for the last time to record her final episode. Emotions were high during this interview-style episode where Ali peppered Roark with questions from the listeners. They dig deep into questions like, “If you could go back to Roark at the start of the podcast, what would you say to her”, “What’s your favorite nickname given to a guy,” and “What’s one topic you never got to discuss on the pod?” During updates, Ali gets out of her swiping funk and Roark finally has the Ranger update everyone has been waiting for.

Timestamps: Roark’s “interview” begins at around minute 26.

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88. The Judging One ft. Adam & Evan

Mon, 24 Oct 2022 06:00:00 +0000

It’s a podcast collab between Ali & Roark and Adam & Evan of the “I’ll Be the Judge of That” pod. The four debate common dating scenarios and ask – “can you?” Like – can you get engaged at another person’s party? Can you tell a friend you don’t like their partner? How about sitting on the same side of the table on a first date? You’ll hear just about every perspective on this episode. During Updates, Roark doesn’t want to go on a date, but is then pleasantly surprised, and Ali attends a Chaotic Singles Party.

Timestamps: Adam & Evan join the podcast at around minute 27.

Where to find Adam & Evan: listen to their podcast I’ll Be the Judge of That on any podcast platform, and follow them on Instagram @judgepod.

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87. The First Cheating One

Mon, 17 Oct 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Shockingly, Ali & Roark haven’t dedicated a podcast to the topic of cheating yet. Today changes that. They start by discussing a well-known dating question: once a cheater always a cheater? And then address listener questions such as how to not bring past cheating trauma to new partners, how to bring up suspicions of cheating with your partner, and when to tell someone you have suspicions of their partner. But first, Ali & Roark share a very big announcement regarding the podcast.

Timestamps: Myth Busters and Topic Talk begins at around minute 34.

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86. The Eighth Grab Bag One ft. Therapy Jeff

Mon, 10 Oct 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark can’t resist recording a super-sized episode when Therapy Jeff is the guest! Jeff joins the podcast for a Grab Bag episode that covers everything from the “ick” to the honeymoon phase to sleeping with someone “too early” to liking bad boys (and girls)! Of course, Jeff tackles all the questions like a pro. You won’t want to miss this one. During Updates, Roark goes to dinner with her Erewhon run-in, and Ali goes out with the Nomad.

Timestamps: Jeff joins the podcast at around minute 29.

Where to find Jeff: @therapyjeff on TikTok and Instagram.

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85. The Sixth Hot Topics One

Mon, 03 Oct 2022 06:05:00 +0000

Ali & Roark are doling out advice again on another Hot Topics episode. During Updates, Roark sees a friend on Bumble and shares bad news about The Writer; and Ali is scheduling dates now that she is illness free. Then, they answer listener questions about noticing a new dating prospect pulling away, feeling uncomfortable with a date’s alcohol consumption, and deciding whether to continue seeing someone when there is a complicated past. And finally, Roark introduces Ali to a new segment – adjudicating an “Am I The A**hole” post about a woman who fails to wake up her oversleeping boyfriend.

Timestamps: Mythbusters and Hot Topics begin at around minute 28.

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84. The Second Finances One ft. Nicole Lapin

Mon, 26 Sep 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali records with author and financial expert Nicole Lapin this week. They talk about how finances can affect relationships and cover topics ranging from pre-nups, developing “FQ” (aka financial intelligence), and how to discuss your credit score, debt, and financial goals with your partner. During Updates, Roark describes her horse-girl adventure and Ali has to back-burner some dates due to illness.

Timestamps: Nicole joins the show at around minute 28.

Where to find Nicole: at her website www.nicolelapin.com, and on Instagram @nicolelapin. Listen to her podcast “Money Rehab,” and of course, buy her books on Amazon and anywhere books are sold.

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83. The First Finances One

Mon, 19 Sep 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Thoughts and prayers to Ali & Roark this week as they wade into the murky waters of dating and finances. Money can be quite the taboo topic and they hope to start breaking that down by discussing sensitive questions like how to split finances, financial power dynamics and insecurities, and of course, they couldn’t not discuss the classic – who pays on a first date? Ali tells Roark about a first date and another one set up for next week; and for once, Roark is the one on another continent!

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around minute 29.

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82. The Fifth Hot Topics One

Mon, 12 Sep 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark record another Hot Topics episode this week – which is perfect because Roark’s entire personality is complaining about the LA heat wave. Don’t worry, she also updates on the Writer. Ali also has some big home-related life updates and has a few Bumble irons in the fire. Instead of Weird or Nah this week, Ali tries to find how many people are weird like her and use the “grimace emoji” like she does. Then, Ali & Roark tackle three Hot Topics: asking your partner to plan more dates, handling a partner’s job opportunity in another country, and whether to date a virgin.

Timestamps: Hot Topics begin at around minute 41.

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81. The Break Up Bestie One ft. Kendra Allen

Mon, 05 Sep 2022 06:00:00 +0000

This week, Ali & Roark chat with Kendra Allen aka Your Break Up Bestie! They talk all about actionable steps to recover from a break up, and they dive into Kendra’s new book, “The Break-Up Workbook.” For example – how to deal with getting your stuff back, cleansing your social media, and whether the no-contact rule is the way to go. Before Kendra joins the pod, Roark shares her great third date, and Ali’s life has taken a real Disney princess turn as birds are literally flocking to her.

Timestamps: Kendra joins the show at around minute 25.

Where to find Kendra: at her website www.breakupbestie.com, and on Instagram @yourbreakupbestie. And of course, buy her book “The Break-Up Workbook.”

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80. The Manifestation One

Mon, 29 Aug 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Did you manifest this episode? Or are you more of a skeptic? Either way, Ali & Roark welcome Haley Hoffman Smith to the podcast to talk all about manifesting. Haley is an author, podcaster, and manifestation coach and breaks down the concepts for Ali, Roark, and the listeners. They learn what exactly manifestation means, discuss all kinds of manifestation basics like how to get started, and Roark shocks Ali by pulling out a vision board! In the Updates section, Roark is really living out some highs and lows, and Ali had two first dates last week.

Timestamps: Haley Hoffman Smith joins the show at around minute 38.

Where to find Haley: on Instagram @haleyhoffmansmith, at her website www.haleyhoffmansmith.com, and on her podcast Big Conversations with Haley Hoffman Smith. Also pick up her book "Her Big Idea."

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79. The Second Career One

Mon, 22 Aug 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark are back this week with another career podcast. This week they’re talking about skills that make someone a good manager, how to be intentional in your career, and navigating imposter syndrome. During the Updates section, Roark had a quick catch-up with the Ranger, but also has a new guy which is the most excited she’s been about someone in a while. Ali is back on Bumble with a viral opener with some unintended consequences.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 26:55

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78. The Seventh Grab Bag One

Mon, 15 Aug 2022 06:00:54 +0000

It’s a perfect week for a grab bag because Ali & Roark are a little all over the place this week. During Updates, Ali debriefs on the Disco Ball and Roark has a bad date (and the texts to prove it). Then they answer a variety of questions such as double-messaging on dating apps, dating someone who still co-habitates with their ex, how to respond when your new partner “drops a bomb,” and dealing with a bad first kiss.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Grab Bag questions being at around 16:25

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77. The First Career One

Mon, 08 Aug 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark take a detour this week away from dating and into careers. They share their very different career paths and start answering some listener questions about finding mentors, asking for a raise, and developing work/life balance. As always, there is way too much to get to so they’ll definitely be doing more career-focused content. Keep the questions coming! In the Updates section, Roark is in love (hyperbolically, of course) and Ali recounts an adventurous date with the Disco Ball.

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 38:45

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76. The Second Ask a 30-Something Man One

Mon, 01 Aug 2022 07:01:00 +0000

It’s a Finding Mr. Height first – someone we have dated is on the pod! Ali & Roark welcome the next “30-something man,” who happens to be Mr. Nobody. He answers questions about being friends with exes, date prep, feeling ready for exclusivity, and picking someone up IRL. First, during updates, Roark tells a story about a man from the past who slid into the DMs recently, and Ali shares a story about how the Disco Ball showed up for her.

Timestamps: Mr. Nobody joins the pod for a MythBusters and Topic Talk begins at around 38:40

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75. The Second Bad Date One

Mon, 25 Jul 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark return to the topic of bad dates this week. They analyze what a “bad date” even is and how to determine if you're on one, and how to navigate asking for a date to be over, or how to get out a second date you don’t want to go on. In the Updates section, Roark discusses going on Facetime dates versus IRL dates, and Ali discusses her communication cadence with The Disco Ball.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 29:40

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74. The Matchmaker Maria One ft. Maria Avgitidis

Mon, 18 Jul 2022 06:00:00 +0000

It’s a super-sized episode this week because Ali & Roark have way too much to talk about with Matchmaker Maria! Maria Avgitidis is the CEO of Agape Match and the host of the “Ask a Matchmaker” podcast. She tells them all about “Maria Math,” the 12-Date “Rule,” and how to embrace a Hoe Phase. All throughout she drops wisdom bombs (and shares some industry gossip along the way!). During their Updates, Roark talks about figuring out vacation plans as a single gal, and RIP Greg. Ali reunited with newly minted NYC resident – the Disco Ball!

Timestamps: Maria joins the show at around 29:15

Where to find Maria: on Instagram @matchmakermaria, at her website www.agapematch.com, and on her podcast Ask a Matchmaker.

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73. The First Bad Date One

Mon, 11 Jul 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Time to talk about bad dates! We have all had them, and this week, Ali & Roark share their absolute worst date stories (Ali’s is a real doozie). They use their stories to discuss listeners' biggest questions: how do you handle a catfish-lite (someone who hasn’t totally lied, but is using very old pictures); how do you end a date early; and how do you get out of a potentially bad or scary situation? During their Updates, Roark is trying to figure out Greg’s bizarre texting behavior, and Ali eagerly awaits Disco Ball’s move to NY.

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Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 27:15

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72. The Fourth Hot Topics One

Mon, 04 Jul 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Hot Topics are back as Ali & Roark go in depth with three listener questions. During the Updates section, Ali catches listeners up on the Disco Ball and shares a bit of a phone throwing moment; and Roark talks through dealing with a bad texter. Hot Topics include: a guy who calls his ex his “girlfriend” when he tells stories that involve her; whether a listener is being too hard on her cute neighbor’s social media presence; and if a listener is wasting her time with a guy who is on dating apps “to meet new people and see what happens.”

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 34:30

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71. The Dating After Cancer One ft. Melissa Berry

Mon, 27 Jun 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark are joined by the Cancer Fashionista Melissa Berry to start the conversation about two big topics – dating after cancer and dating after 40. They talk about handling life’s major curveballs and busting expectations and societal pressures. Before Melissa joins the show, Roark and Ali give their yin and yang updates – Roark has several first dates and Ali narrows the field.

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 32:00

Where to find Melissa: her website www.cancerfashionista.com, her Instagram @cancerfashionista, and listen to her podcast Dear Cancer, I'm Beautiful

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70. The Third Conflict One

Mon, 20 Jun 2022 06:00:00 +0000

The conflict series comes to a close (for now) as Ali & Roark discuss conflict resolution. They discuss defensiveness, saying “sorry,” when to compromise, and using relationship check-ins to keep lines of communication open. During the Updates portion, Roark gets vulnerable when discussing body image, and shares about a new matchmaker date; and Ali gives updates on all three of her irons in the fire! They also read a Phone-Throwing Moment from the audience and have a debate over a very silly Weird or Nah.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 28:00

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69. The Friendship One ft. Jillian Richardson

Mon, 13 Jun 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark are joined by Jillian Richardson to talk about a different type of relationship – friendships! They discuss navigating conflict with friends, how to make new friends, friend “break ups,” and overall celebrate the complexity of female friendships! During Updates, Roark and Ali both have matchmaker dates to recap!

Timestamps: Jillian joins the show for a Myth Buster and Topic Talk at around 25:40

Where to find Jillian: at her website www.thatjillian.com and on Instagram @thatjillian

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68. The Second Conflict One

Mon, 06 Jun 2022 06:00:00 +0000

The conflict series has turned into a trilogy – because of course it has. On this episode, Ali & Roark answer questions listeners sent in after the First Conflict One, including: how to make conflict healthier, how to confront “unsolvable” problems, and how to deal with recurring arguments on the same topic. During the Updates portion, Both Ali & Roark read the descriptions of their matchmaker dates and analyze the bios!

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 35:00

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67. The Matchmaking One ft. Chi Love

Mon, 30 May 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark welcome Chi Love to the pod this week! Chi runs her own matchmaking business and is here to answer all our listeners’ questions about how she prioritizes people’s traits and identifies compatible matches, what it means to have “success” as a matchmaker, and how to be your own matchmaker! During the Updates section, Roark talks about an experience that reminds her of SNL’s Stefan sketches, and Ali continues to navigate early dating while being short-term long distance.

Timestamps: Chi joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 30:00

Where to find Chi: at her website https://www.nyaloveanddating.com/ and on Instagram @nyalovebychi

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66. The First Conflict One

Mon, 23 May 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark discuss conflict this week. First, they discuss when they think it’s worth bringing up a topic that could cause conflict. Then, they focus on how to handle hard conversations like when you feel like you might shut down, what happens if you cry through it, and do you re-open the conversation if you think of something else to say later. They couldn’t cover it all, so more conflict-related topics will be on later episodes. Mention “conflict” in your questions on www.findingmrheight.com/podcast so we can answer them all! In the updates section, Roark recaps her work retreat, and Ali talks how she’s handling communication with the Disco Ball.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 32:10

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65. The First Ask a 30-Something Man One

Mon, 16 May 2022 06:05:00 +0000

Ali & Roark start a new series this week with their first recurring guest – Roark’s friend Matt! Ask a 30-Something Man will feature different guys in our lives answering your questions. Matt tackles a variety of different questions like what makes a profile “swipe-able,” whether men tend to be intimidated by smart women, and if men want women to offer to pick up the check. During Updates, Ali recounts her visit to DC and Roark talks about Lots of Dogs.

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 28:05

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64. The FMH Glossary One

Mon, 09 May 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark have a bit of a reset episode this week. Rather than cover a specific topic, they walk listeners down a dating life memory lane – covering all the major exes that are worthy of a nickname. They hope this will be a good reference episode in case you’ve missed any relationship origin stories. During the Updates section, Roark describes a meh first date, whereas Ali has an excellent one!

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 28:15

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63. The Dating with Herpes One ft. Erica Spera

Mon, 02 May 2022 06:00:00 +0000

This week, Ali & Roark have the pleasure of welcoming comedian and podcaster Erica Spera on the podcast. Erica brings her vulnerability and humor to the pod to share her experience dating with herpes, bust herpes myths, and answer listener questions like when and how to disclose with a new partner. Also, Ali has updates galore this week after a weekend in DC and a new (well sorta) guy on the scene.

Timestamps: Erica joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 27:35

Where to find Erica: her website www.ericaspera.com; her podcast Shooters Gotta Shoot; and Instagram @spericaa

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62. The Third Hot Topics One

Sun, 24 Apr 2022 22:13:40 +0000

This week, Ali & Roark cover listener questions in a Hot Topics episode. They start with a question about friends who choose to stay friends with your ex. Then, they tackle a question about disclosing *your own* red flags. And they conclude with a Dating Mythbusters question – do men just decide they’re ready one day? During the Updates portion, Roark accidentally hard launches Lots of Dogs, and Ali has a fabulous date with the Disco Ball!

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 22:00

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61. The Closure One ft. Abby Medcalf

Mon, 18 Apr 2022 12:38:45 +0000

She blinded us with science! Ali & Roark are joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf – a psychologist who tells them all about how the brain affects our relationships. The focus of the conversation is closure – what is it, why do we want it, and how can we get – but Abby goes much further and they probably could have talked for hours because she is so darn lovely and interesting. During Updates, Roark recounts an epic Phone Throwing Moment in her friend-group group chat, and Ali goes on a first date and gives a Disco Ball status report.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 27:00

Where to find Abby: at her website https://abbymedcalf.com/about/

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60. The Astrological One ft. Aliza Kelly

Mon, 11 Apr 2022 06:00:00 +0000

The stars align this week as Ali & Roark get to talk to astrologer Aliza Kelly. Aliza has a really interesting and nuanced approach to astrology that has even consummate cynic Roark intrigued. They discuss topics like what does it really mean to have a particular sign? Is your sun sign the be all end all? And should we *really* not date THAT sign (you know which one we mean)? Before Aliza joins the pod, Ali & Roark give some quick updates on the Disco Ball and Lots of Dogs. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 15:20 Where to find Aliza: at her website www.alizakelly.com and on Instagram @alizakelly If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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59. The First Long Distance One

Mon, 04 Apr 2022 06:00:00 +0000

It’s just Ali & Roark this week as they start a conversation about how to long-distance date. With Ali back from Colombia, the two have a lot to catch up on and they spend more time on updates than usual. Both Ali & Roark had great first dates that they eagerly report. Then, they transition to Topic Talk with a Weird or Nah about starting a relationship while long distance, and Ali tells her story of accidentally ending up in an LDR. They take a few listener questions about how to *date* long distance (how to be in a relationship long distance will be saved for a later episode). Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 36:00 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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58. The Dating After Divorce One ft. Desiree Simone

Mon, 28 Mar 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark are joined by Desiree Simone this week to talk about dating after divorce and dating a partner who has kids. As is par for the course, they bite off more than they can chew, and the three mainly discuss dating after divorce. First, Desiree shares her own story. Then, she offers perspective on sharing your divorce story with a new partner, and, if you’re dating someone who is divorced, how to discuss it with them without being invasive. For the first time in a while Ali and Roark both have first dates lined up this week. Roark’s guy is a blast from the past, while Ali’s unfolds live on air!

Timestamps: Desiree joins for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 23:00

Where to find Desiree: Listen to her podcast Break Bottles, Not Hearts anywhere you listen to podcasts, on Instagram @iamdsimone and on TikTok @_iamdesiree

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57. The Sixth Grab Bag One

Mon, 21 Mar 2022 07:00:00 +0000

It has been a minute since Ali & Roark did a Grab Bag episode and they are excited to bring it back! In this round of Grab Bag questions, they tackle dating as an introvert, breaking up with someone you live with, whether an age gap is too much to overcome in dating and many more! But first, it’s the updates - Roark gets Googled before a first date and Ali gets blocked!

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 26:30

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56. The Lovebombing One ft. Meghan Wainwright

Mon, 14 Mar 2022 06:00:44 +0000

This week, Ali & Roark have Meghan Wainwright on the podcast to share her experience being lovebombed. She talks about what it felt like to experience a “whirlwind” romance and the moments that gave her pause and the red flags she should have seen more clearly. And the three discuss how Meghan approaches dating differently now and how to call out a lovebomber. During updates, Roark is looking at her flaws and Ali heard from … the ROWER.

Timestamps: Meghan joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 24:10.

Where to find Meghan: On TikTok and Instagram @theblondeinpink and listen to her podcast Main Character Moment

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55. The Chronic Illness One ft. Gigi Robinson

Mon, 07 Mar 2022 07:00:00 +0000

This week, Ali & Roark welcome Gigi Robinson to the pod. Gigi uses social media to talk about mental health, body image, chronic illness – and the intersection of them. The three discuss how to tell others about a chronic illness, how to hype yourself up when your body image isn’t at its best, and how to know you’re “enough.” During Ali & Roark’s updates, Ali tells Roark something that literally makes Roark’s jaw drop. And Roark recaps the end of her Dallas stay. Timestamps: Gigi joins the show for Weird of Nah and Topic Talk at around 24:20 Where to find Gigi: her website www.gigirobinson.com and on Instagram and TikTok @itsgigirobinson If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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54. The Gaslighting One

Mon, 28 Feb 2022 07:00:00 +0000

The Topic Talk is a little more serious this week as Ali & Roark discuss gaslighting. They analyze how the term has become vastly overused in a way that can sometimes undermine how genuinely serious real gaslighting is. Given this, they largely focus on unintentional gaslighting or gaslighting “moments” – how to spot them and how to call them out. Before Topic Talk, Roark discusses how Dallas dating has reminded her of her standards, and Ali has a new matchmaker date on the horizon.

They also want to say that if you or a friend you are experiencing gaslighting, check out therapeutic resources: www.therapyden.com/; www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists; www.talkspace.com/

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 21:45

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53. The Timeline One ft. Laura Behnke

Mon, 21 Feb 2022 07:00:00 +0000

It’s official – Ali & Roark celebrate one year of podcasting! And funnily enough, their guest this week joins the podcast to talk all about time. Well, timelines, really. Laura Behnke didn’t have a relationship until she was 35, and she comes on the pod to say “who cares” to following anyone’s timeline but your own. The three discuss embracing your life without a partner, being fully yourself on dates, and much more! Before that, Ali shares a recent first date and a couple phone-throwing moments, and Roark is having fun with a new dating mindset.

Timestamps: Laura Behnke joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 19:35

Where to find Laura: her website https://www.thelifeactuallycompany.com/about and on Instagram @laurabbehnke

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52. The First Love Language One

Mon, 14 Feb 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark dive into the five love languages this week! Although this isn’t a series, this is a big topic and they will definitely revisit it, so please send in your questions if you have any. They walk through the five different love languages, then discuss the utility of the framework, its shortcomings, and their own experiences sharing their love languages and receiving their partners’. During their updates, Ali gives the full story of the end of the Rower, and Roark talks about dating in Dallas.

Timestamp: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk beings at around 33:00

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51. The Widowed Mom One ft. Krista St. Germain

Mon, 07 Feb 2022 07:00:00 +0000

The subject matter of this weeks episode is a bit heavier than usual, but it’s a truly moving conversation between Ali and guest Krista St. Germain, host of The Widowed Mom podcast and founder of Coaching with Krista. They talk about losing a partner, moving forward and dating again, and how to integrate grief. Unfortunately, Roark couldn’t join Ali and Krista, but both Ali & Roark share their updates at the beginning of the episode. Roark gets Ali’s help strategizing her double-date profile for Dallas, and Ali gives some Rower updates as well as tells Roark about a blizzard virtual date. Timestamps: Krista joins the show for Topic Talk at around 38:30 Where to find Krista: on Instagram @lifecoachkrista and on her website https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/- and of course listen to more of Krista on The Widowed Mom podcast. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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50. The Therapy Jeff One ft. Jeff Guenther

Mon, 31 Jan 2022 07:15:24 +0000

This week, Ali & Roark have WAY too much fun with Jeff Guenther (aka Therapy Jeff). So much fun that a fair amount was deemed NSFP (not safe for pod), but Jeff *may* be coming to a Patreon near you sometime soon. You may recognize Jeff from your TikTok FYP. He is incredible at doling out bite-sized relationship advice you absolutely need to hear, and Ali & Roark think you’ll love this episode. They debate what questions to ask new partners and what might be a little too hard-hitting. Before Jeff joins them, Roark talks about shooting her shot with a guy from the past, and Ali discusses her next move with The Rower. Timestamps: Jeff joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 28:45. Where to find Jeff: On TikTok @therapyjeff and on his website www.therapyjeff.com. Looking for the therapist-finding resource Jeff mentions? Check out www.therapyden.com. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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49. The Second Hot Topics One

Mon, 24 Jan 2022 07:00:00 +0000

This week, Ali & Roark cover listener questions in a Hot Topics episode. They start with a question about dating burn out from solid first dates that don't turn into seconds dates. Then, they read a dating-app screenshot where the listener is curious about how she should react to a match’s sexual opening message. And they conclude with a discussion of a listener’s situationship. But before all that, Roark reveals how the first date she was excited for went, and Ali checks in emotionally about where she’s at with The Rower.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 35:10

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48. The Third Breakup One ft. Amy Chan

Mon, 17 Jan 2022 07:00:00 +0000

It’s the final episode of the breakup trilogy and Ali & Roark have the perfect guest – Amy Chan, founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp. Amy used her own breakup as a catalyst to change her life and she shares with Finding Mr. Height listeners how to come out of a breakup stronger than before, and how to avoid getting stuck in negative loops so that we can move onward and upward. Before Amy joins the pod, Roark talks about her series of first dates and Ali had a tarot reading which provided some food for thought on The Rower. Timestamps: Amy joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 23:30 Where to find Amy: check out her website https://amy-chan.com/about/, sign up for Renew Breakup Bootcamp https://renewbreakupbootcamp.com/, read her book called Breakup Bootcamp, and follow her on Instagram @missamychan. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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47. The Second Breakup One

Mon, 10 Jan 2022 07:00:00 +0000

It’s part two of Ali & Roark’s breakup series. This time they’re discussing what it’s like to be the one initiating the breakup. They start by discussing the difficulty of knowing whether your relationship problems are “normal” or “breakup worthy.” And then analyze how to end things with someone as kindly as possible – is there an ideal time, location, or mode of communication? But first, Ali gets vulnerable and shares her story of New Year’s Eve with The Rower, and Roark has her first first date back on the scene.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 25:45

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46. The First Breakup One ft. Dara Pollak

Mon, 03 Jan 2022 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark’s three-part breakup series begins with special guest Dara Pollak – author of a viral post about a blindside breakup. Dara is a wonderful and vulnerable storyteller, and she shares her emotional journey from relationship to breakup to moving forward afterwards. It is a very relatable story and they know the listeners will hear themselves in parts of Dara’s experiences. Before Dara joins the show, Ali discusses New Years Eve plans with the Rower, and Roark is back on the apps! Timestamps: Dara joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 26:45 Where to find Dara: her blog post can be read at https://www.theskinnypignyc.com/2021/10/the-blindsided-breakup-story/; follow her on Instagram @darapollak If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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45. The Second Anxious One

Mon, 27 Dec 2021 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark start off this week’s episode with some huge personal updates – buckle up! Then, they continue their discussion of anxiety in dating from early dates to during a relationship. They cover a huge range of topics including how to share your needs, how to self-soothe, when to bring your partner into your anxiety and ask them for help, and how to manage anxious feelings about being on the same page. Ali and Roark share personal anecdotes of experiences that have made them anxious – accidentally giving each other new things to worry about – and how they reframe their thoughts to feel calmer.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 29:00

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44. The First Anxious One

Mon, 20 Dec 2021 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark start to tackle a big topic this week: feeling anxious. Dating can (and does) frequently cause anxious thoughts and feelings, so Ali & Roark start the multi-episode series by discussing some tried-and-true anxiety management strategies they use. Then, they discuss the situations leading up to a first date that make listeners anxious ranging from wondering if their date will find them attractive to stressing about finding a parking spot. First, Ali is on vacation again (can you believe it!), and Roark seeks her advice on making birthday plans with the Classmate. As a note, Roark’s audio is not up to our usual standard, sorry about that!

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 22:15

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43. The Stylish One ft. Alyssa Dineen

Mon, 13 Dec 2021 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark welcome Alyssa Dineen, stylist and author of the book The Art of Online Dating, onto the podcast this week to discuss discovering your personal style, being confident in your clothes, and what to never wear on a first date. It’s a super fun conversation and don’t blame us if it results in either a closet clean out or a trip to your favorite store! But first, Ali reveals that phone-throwing moments are back in earnest including a Bumble match who is familiar with Ali’s alter ego… Timestamps: Alyssa joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 30:40 Where to find Alyssa: her website - https://stylemyprofilenyc.com/ and her Instagram - @alyssadineen. Take the style quiz at https://content.leadquizzes.com/lp/O3mVbZQcoQ If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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42. The First Hot Topics One

Mon, 06 Dec 2021 07:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark introduce a new episode format this week – Hot Topics. Rather than focusing on only one topic or covering a whole bunch like a Grab Bag, Hot Topics episodes will thoroughly answer your questions from the Finding Mr. Height Google form. For their first Hot Topics episode, Ali & Roark read a listener’s screenshot and discuss whether she should go out with the guy she’s texting, they answer a question about a guy whose friends secretly spied on their date, and finally they address whether one listener is in a situationship with a guy who is “really busy with work.” In the updates section, they both discuss how they’re handling communicating with the people they are seeing while home for the holidays. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Hot Topics begin at around 25:45 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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41. The Couples Therapy One ft. Charisse Cooke

Mon, 29 Nov 2021 07:11:05 +0000

This episode is filled with lightbulb moments as Ali & Roark are joined by relationship therapist Charisse Cooke. And they promise they don’t *totally* derail the Q&A with Charisse by making it a personal therapy sesh. Charisse covers a ton of ground and answers listener questions such as how to handle having doubts about your partner, how to get what you need from a relationship, and how to set boundaries in a gentle way. In the updates section, Roark shares her feelings about not being able to see the Classmate for a bit, and Ali is in much better spirits after a great third date.

Timestamps: Charisse joins the podcast for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk at around 21:40

Where to find Charisse: her website - https://charissecooke.com/ and her Instagram - @thecharissecooke

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40. The Family One

Mon, 22 Nov 2021 07:00:00 +0000

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, Ali & Roark are here this week to discuss a very timely topic: meeting the family. When’s the “right time” to meet someone’s family? Should you bring a gift? What if your relationship to your family isn’t exactly stellar? They answer these questions along with many more and share horror and success stories of their own. In the updates section, Ali gets vulnerable and lets the listeners in on some of her anxious feelings, and Roark recaps her New York visit. Also, this episode has a particularly fun feel as most of it was recorded when Ali & Roark were together in person!

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 23:20

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39. The Multiple One

Mon, 15 Nov 2021 07:00:00 +0000

How can you navigate dating multiple people before becoming exclusive with someone? Ali & Roark talk through the logistics and emotions of that early-dating phase. Topics include, how to tell someone you’re still open to dating others (and whether you have to), running into someone you’re dating while on another date, and how to manage your attachment. Before that, Ali reveals she is invested in a new guy, and Roark has been sick.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 22:20

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38. The Fifth Grab Bag One ft. Shaun Galanos

Mon, 08 Nov 2021 07:00:00 +0000

It’s another Grab Bag episode as Ali & Roark are joined by Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive to answer all sorts of questions about direct communication and vulnerability. This is the longest episode yet because the three have way too much fun laughing, commiserating, and agreeing with each other. Questions answered include: how to say “I love you” first, how to slowly bring down your walls, and how to set your standard and live with the person’s reaction even if it’s not what you wanted, and lots more! In this week's updates, Ali has a big reveal about the Threepeat which Roark asks incessant questions about. Timestamps: Shaun joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk, which begins at around 22:45 Here are all the ways to find Shaun! His website: https://www.shaungalanos.com/; TikTok & Instagram: @thelovedrive If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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37. The Second Attachment One ft. Kirstie Taylor

Mon, 01 Nov 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark are joined by special guest Kirstie Taylor this week to dive more deeply into attachment theory and answer listener questions. Kirstie, a dating and relationship writer who authored the book What I Wish I Knew About Love, drops about 83 insightful bombs this episode as the three women discuss their own attachment journey, and answer questions about anxious-avoidant couples, how to move towards being more secure, and many more! In the updates portion, Roark is dealing with the Classmate’s social double-booking, and in a weird or nah and update crossover, Ali reveals a conundrum she’s had with the Threepeat and gets Kirstie’s advice on the matter.

Timestamps: Kirstie joins the show for Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 24:45

Here are all the ways to find Kirstie! Her website: https://www.kirstietaylor.com. Her TikTok: @kirstietaylorr. Her Instagram: @wordswithkirstie

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36. The First Attachment One

Mon, 25 Oct 2021 07:00:00 +0000

After being asked many times to discuss this topic, Ali & Roark are finally talking about attachment styles. This is the first of two dedicated episodes on the topic. This week, they define each attachment style, discuss where their styles came from, and share a few anecdotes about navigating dating through an attachment-style lens. Also, they take an attachment quiz and analyze their results – you can take it too at: https://dianepooleheller.com/attachment-test/. In the updates portion of the podcast, Ali talks about how she’s feeling after another fun date with Threepeat, and Roark drops the L-Bomb!

Timestamps: Topic Talk begins at around 30:40

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35. The Aligned One

Mon, 18 Oct 2021 06:00:00 +0000

How much in common do you have to have with the person you’re dating? Do opposites attract, or do birds of a feather flock together? Ali & Roark discuss a HuffPost article “8 Things You *Don’t* Need To Have In Common With Your Future Spouse” and answer a few listener questions as they parse through what important commonalities are, and which ones matter less. As always, they share their personal updates first. Ali had a very promising fist date, which included a controversial gift (at least Roark thinks so), and Roark’s mom meets the Classmate! Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 32:20 This episode starts out with a preview of our Patreon episode. There, you’ll hear us get a little deeper about what we’re going through, and you’ll get our personal updates much earlier and more in real time. Join us at www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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34. The Defining One

Mon, 11 Oct 2021 06:00:00 +0000

We hope you’re ready to go steady with this podcast, but whether you are or aren’t, Ali & Roark are here to talk all about defining the relationship (the DTR talk). After being asked this question a whole bunch, they finally break down the concept of what it means to be “exclusive.” Also, they discuss how to initiate a DTR and how to handle it if it doesn’t go your way. In the personal updates arena, Ali talks about her France trip and introduces a man from her past who recently made a reappearance, and Roark and the Classmate hit a relationship milestone: the first time someone gets sick. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 22:45 If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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33. The Second Social One

Mon, 04 Oct 2021 06:00:00 +0000

It’s the social media sequel! This time around, Ali & Roark talk about how to navigate social media pitfalls while in a relationship and after a break-up. For example, how to handle a partner who refuses to post photos of you. When (if ever) to delete photos of your now ex. And whether you should block your ex. Before addressing these questions, and many more, Ali talks about BEING IN FRANCE (yes, we all are very jealous) and Roark talks about balancing her new job with her relationship.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 23:00

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32. The Social One

Mon, 27 Sep 2021 06:00:00 +0000

This week, Ali & Roark tackle how social media affects early dating. Is it weird if someone doesn’t have social media? How do you handle someone asking for your social media handle before you’ve gone on even one date? And once you’re ready, do you need to discuss posting your new partner on the grid? First, Ali gives an update on the Aussie and shares about the latest potential matchmaker date while Roark complains about how tired she is.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 23:00

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31. The Fourth Grab Bag One

Mon, 20 Sep 2021 06:00:00 +0000

It’s another Grab Bag week where Ali & Roark take your questions submitted to @findingmrheight on Instagram. This round, topics include: how to move forward after a break up, dating in a new city, and setting boundaries in a new relationship. Before they answer questions, Roark discusses communicating her needs within her relationship and Ali fends off TikTok trolls regarding a text interaction with The Aussie.

Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 27:30

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30. The Swiping One

Mon, 13 Sep 2021 06:00:00 +0000

It is another jam-packed episode this week where Ali & Roark dissect how to build the most right-swipeable (yes, that is a word now) dating app profile. They go over Ali's philosophy for which photos to use and debate the merits of various prompts on Hinge and Bumble. Listen to this episode with your profile open and see if you can upgrade yours! But first, Ali reveals a big decision regarding a current dating prospect and Roark discusses how she did in fact have to deal with Trivia. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 22:45. Want to learn more about dating app strategy? Tune into Ali's live two-part dating app webinar on Wednesday, September 15th. Part 1: The Profile. Part 2: The Messages. More info at findingmrheight.com/workshops If you'd like to hear personal updates before everyone else, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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29. The Dating & New York One ft. Jonah Feingold

Mon, 06 Sep 2021 06:00:00 +0000

This week, Ali & Roark are thrilled to welcome Jonah Feingold (@jonahfeingold) back on the pod! They had the pleasure of watching Dating & New York – Jonah’s debut movie as writer and director – and then getting to chat with him about it. Jonah shares about his creative process, tells an incredible casting story, and discusses rom-com tropes. Before bringing Jonah on, Roark has a big personal update to share with the listeners and Ali continues on her matchmaker dates. Additionally, they weigh in on a couple listener questions: how to find dates who won’t react poorly to personal success; and when calling out a ghoster may not be the right call.

Timestamps: Listener Questions begin at around 29:30; Interview with Jonah begins at around 41:45. Distributed by IFC, Dating & New York opens in theatres and video on demand on Friday, September 10. Follow on IG @datingandnewyork and watch the trailer here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wKfOZGfyrG8

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28. The Opening One

Mon, 30 Aug 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Hey Listener, big question for you… Did you know this is Ali & Roark’s tried-and-true Bumble conversation opener? Filled with practical advice, this episode is all about how to get messages going and grab someone’s interest on the apps. As usual, Ali & Roark both share their personal updates – including Ali’s first matchmaker date. Also, they both open the archives to share some OG phone-throwing moments. Topic Talk begins at approximately 22:25 Don’t forget to join The Search Party at our Patreon for exclusive, additional podcast content: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. And if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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27. The Searching One ft. Jenna Langbaum

Mon, 23 Aug 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark have a big one for you this week! First and foremost, they have launched a Patreon (cue the confetti)! If you want to become a Patron and have access to exclusive, additional podcast content as well as a private Discord channel head to this link: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. Thank you in advance for your support!! In this week's episode, not only do Ali & Roark have some exciting personal updates (which even required an emergency recording session to update the updates!), but they also welcome on the amazing Jenna Langbaum, author of Me in Search of You. Jenna's book is a unique approach to sharing stories of modern dating. In a collection of short stories, she highlights the complicated emotions and bizarre dating stories we all accumulate as we search for the one. You can find her on Instagram @jennalangbaum and you can find her book anywhere you purchase books! Timestamps: Interview with Jenna begins at approximately 34:30 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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26. The Negging One

Mon, 16 Aug 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark think you’ll enjoy this podcast only if you’re smart, cool, and can hold a conversation. Did that statement make alarm bells go off? It should, because it’s an example of negging! (And to be clear, we would never say that for real, we love you all!) This week’s topic is negging: the back-handed compliment aka an insult that unfortunately permeates dating. But first, Ali & Roark start the episode with their updates – including an epic phone-throwing moment on Roark’s part. Next, they recap the insanity of FBoy Island episodes 4 through 6. Finally, they talk about all the ways negging can appear in dating – from subtle to blatant and from dating profile to within a long-term relationship – and how to be aware of it and avoid those who do it.

Timestamps: FBoy Island recap begins at around 23:00; Topic Talk begins at around 40:45.

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25. The Confusing One

Mon, 09 Aug 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Have you ever asked yourself: do they like me? If so, it may because you’re receiving mixed signals. Ali & Roark are here to discuss what it feels like when someone you’re dating is running hot and cold. They answer listener questions about the confusion of having a strong in-person connection but lukewarm texting; and what it’s like to date someone who behaves like you’re in a relationship but tells you they don’t want one. But first, Ali & Roark give their own personal updates as well as start a new segment where they discuss the HBO Max show FBoy Island. Timestamps: FBoy Island talk begins at around 22:10; Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begins at around 43:20. If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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24. The Group Chat One ft. Ilana Dunn

Mon, 02 Aug 2021 06:00:00 +0000

This week, Ali welcomes on Ilana Dunn of Seeing Other People (@seeingotherpeople) to co-host while Roark takes the bar. Ali has about a million personal updates this week ranging from ghosts to phone throwing moments. Then, Ali & Ilana get into how friendships impact dating relationships. For example: how to handle friends who don’t like your new person, and how to handle it when you don’t like your friend’s new person.

Topic Talk begins at approximately 25:00

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23. The Third Grab Bag One

Mon, 26 Jul 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark are back to answer as many of your questions as possible in another Grab Bag Episode! But first, both share personal updates and discover Roark has a lot in common with Ali's exes. They read a *chef's kiss* listener submitted Phone Throwing Moment, and this week's Weird or Nah triggers what will inevitably be a podcast mainstay: Ali's Anger. Then, in this lightning round they tackle: using a childhood photo on your dating profile, meeting the parents, when lack of exclusivity may signal they aren't interested, and if we ever feel too comfortable being single. Grab Bag Questions begin at approximately 28:40 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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22. The Exploding One

Mon, 19 Jul 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Have you ever been lovebombed? Would you like us to describe it to you? Well, Ali & Roark are here to do just that. Before Topic Talk, both Ali & Roark have dating updates to share this week! Then, they define lovebombing and talk about how tricky it can be to separate it from genuine affection and interest. Both share their own experiences being lovebombed and address how to set effective boundaries when you notice lovebombing behaviors.

Topic Talk begins at approximately 23:30

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21. The Undefined One

Mon, 12 Jul 2021 06:00:00 +0000

I think we got a situation, here! Well, a situationship that is. Ali & Roark delve into the messy topic of relationships that aren’t quite relationships, but they’re also totally relationships. We said it was messy! As usual, Ali & Roark share their personal updates including Ali’s fun first date and Roark’s CRIME story. Then, they tell stories of their own experiences with situationships and answer listener questions about them like how you can avoid getting into one, and how to voice your needs when you want more.

Topic Talk begins at approximately 26:20

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20. The After The First One

Mon, 05 Jul 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark finally finish the first date trilogy and address after the first date. How do you tell if you’re into someone enough for a second date? Who should send the first text? Should the text say thank you or something else? How much texting between dates is appropriate? Who should set up date two? They address all these questions and more!

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19. The Queer One ft. Queer Dating Coach Ariella Serur

Mon, 28 Jun 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark have wanted to do an episode focused on LGBTQIA+ dating for a while now, and Pride Month felt like the perfect time! As always, they start with their updates. Ali is *accidentally* perpetrating CRIME and has an all-time phone throwing moment and Roark ran into an ex at a coffee shop. Then, they have two amazing guest segments. First, Ariella Serur, @queerdatingcoach on Instagram, comes on the pod to have both an insightful and fun conversation. Ariella tells Ali & Roark all about her work as (you guessed it) a queer dating coach. They discuss how queer daters don’t have a “map” or “playbook” of norms like heteronormative daters do, and Ariella shares her “four quadrants” for how to meet people. Then, Ali & Roark welcome in Roark’s friend Nicole, @nic_nak_cooks. Nicole is a gay woman dating in LA and brings wild stories from the dating front lines.

Timestamps: Ariella’s interview begins at around 23:20; Nicole joins at around 1:10:00

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18. The Grieving One

Mon, 21 Jun 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark have an emotional discussion this week as they tackle grief in dating. As always, they start the episode with their own dating updates and delve into a canine-related “weird or nah.” The conversation about grief begins at around 25:30, and given that this can be a difficult topic, they both understand if this is an episode you’d prefer to skip. During “Topic Talk,” Ali opens up about her own personal journey since her dad’s death in 2018. She shares what it is like to talk to a new partner about it and how she’s come to understand new needs and boundaries. Roark talks about being on the receiving end of that kind of disclosure and they both discuss how to best support those going through grief. If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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17. The During The First One

Mon, 14 Jun 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark thought discussing the first date would be two episodes, but turns out it is a trilogy! In Episode 14 they covered everything before the date and in an upcoming episode they will tackle after the first date. But first, in this episode, they answer a bunch of listener questions about going on the first date itself. Topics include: how to keep a conversation going and how to end a date before it becomes a marathon hang.

Timestamp: Topic Talk begins at about 25:00

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16. The Not Dying Alone One ft. Logan Ury

Mon, 07 Jun 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark could not be more excited to have Logan Ury on the podcast this week. Logan is a behavioral scientist, dating coach, and author of How to Not Die Alone. Basically, Logan gives Ali & Roark a coaching session as they talk through the three common dating tendencies that may be holding people back, how to keep your standards high while optimizing your search for the traits that really matter, and how to say "f*ck the spark" and find a life partner rather than a prom date. Before they talk to Logan, Ali & Roark catch up to discuss men who can't seem to make a plan for a date and why Ali lost her voice. Follow Logan on Instagram @loganury and find all her information including ordering her book How to Not Die Alone at: https://www.loganury.com/ Timestamps: the Logan Ury interview begins at 20:21 If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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15. The Second Grab Bag One

Mon, 31 May 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark are together this week for a second grab bag episode. You read that right - Ali & Roark are literally together! They had a blast recording this one in-person in New York. Both girls went on first dates this week (some more promising than others), and Ali received an apology text from an ex from five years ago. After sharing their updates, they take a bunch of listener questions.

On this episode Ali mentions her friend Brandon - the professional photographer who took our pictures. Follow him on Instagram @blhstudio

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14. The Before The First One

Mon, 24 May 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark are back this week for part one of two episodes on a very important topic: the first date. In this episode, they discuss everything leading up to the date (part two will be about the date itself). They start off with updates - Ali had her first first date in a hot minute, and Roark had a non-dating related phone throwing moment. Then, they walk the listeners through how to get from in-app messaging onto a date, planning the date, and answer the question - is it ever too late to cancel? Ali & Roark also chat about how to get into a date mood and created a pump-up playlist on Spotify. Link to “Date Pump Up”: https://tinyurl.com/ex7cx7vn If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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13. The Just Friends One ft. Seeing Other People

Mon, 17 May 2021 06:00:00 +0000

It's Ali & Roark's longest episode yet - and for good reason! They welcome on Ilana & Jonah, the duo behind the Seeing Other People podcast, to discuss everything surrounding being friends with an ex. The four swap stories of times they've attempted to remain friends with people they've dated. And they tackle several listener questions: such as the difference between being friends with someone after a couple dates versus a full-blown relationship, and how to set a boundary when someone you're dating is friends with an ex. Follow Ilana & Jonah @seeingotherpeople and download their podcast on your preferred app!

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12. The Motherly One ft. Our Moms

Mon, 10 May 2021 06:00:00 +0000

It is a Mother's Day extravaganza as Ali & Roark welcome their moms to the podcast! As always, Ali & Roark start the episode with their own updates. Roark has been chatting with "Hinge Standout Guy" and Ali has been having egg-freezing related phone throwing moments. Next, they bring on Trude & Christine! Ali's mom Trude and Roark's mom Christine share their dating stories, offer advice to their younger selves, and muse about the men they hope Ali & Roark will end up with. The four share many laughs and even get a little teary. Knowing that Mother's Day can be hard for those who have lost a parent, Ali & Roark totally understand if you want to hop off the podcast when they bring on their moms. The segment begins at around 15:30. If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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11. The Alarming One

Mon, 03 May 2021 06:00:00 +0000

This week, Ali & Roark are seeing red! Flags, that is. They start by defining a red flag: how is it different from a dealbreaker, and is a yellow flag even a thing? Then they go through how to spot common red flags in dating app profiles, in early messaging or texting, and once you've started dating. In the process, Roark reads Ali two listener emails. One wants to know how to recognize a red flag for what it is rather than thinking the issue will work itself out, whereas the other describes herself as hyper vigilant about red flags and wonders if she's reading too much into a new partner's behavior. Ali & Roark quickly realize that this is a massive topic worthy of multiple episodes, but want to hear from you about what topics to dive deeper into...

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Also, this episode mentions DJ Khaled's Proust Questionnaire (yes, that is a sign of how chaotic this episode gets). Linked here: https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2016/11/dj-khaled-proust-questionnaire

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10. The Friendly One ft. Matt and Darcy

Mon, 26 Apr 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali & Roark welcome their first guests to the podcast: their best guy friends Matt & Darcy! But first, Ali & Roark update listeners on their latest dating prospects and Roark discusses a potential hack to get around Hinge's "Roses" paywall. Then, they bring on Matt & Darcy! Ever wondered what it is like to have a close friend of your preferred dating gender? The four cover everything from how to tell a new partner about the friendship, how to navigate awkwardness, to whether or not to give feedback when you think a friend's new partner may not be for them.

As a note to our listeners: for some reason Ali & Darcy's audio sounds a little funky in places and we appreciate you all bearing with us. For the record, Ali blames Darcy.

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9. The First Grab Bag One

Mon, 19 Apr 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ali and Roark are switching it up and trying all the new things! But first, they have a rather long list of updates to share. Then, they introduce a segment where they ask, "is that weird or nah?" and answer as many questions as possible submitted by @findingmrheight Instagram followers. Topics range from middle-distance relationships to situationships to lessons we have learned from our dating past. Follow along @findingmrheight on Instagram to participate in the next "weird or nah" poll or submit a question when another grab bag comes around. If you want to submit a longer question, a screenshot, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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8. The Inviting One

Mon, 12 Apr 2021 13:20:58 +0000

As great philosophers once said, "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends." The Spice Girls were right! Which is why Ali & Roark are talking all things surrounding meeting the friends. Whether you've decided to make the introduction or you've been asked to meet your new person's friends, Ali & Roark are here for you through the entire process. What does it mean to you to meet someone's friends? How do you make the invitation? And what happens after - like if no one gets along? They read some listener questions and share their own experiences to address these key questions and more!

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7. The Boomerang One

Mon, 05 Apr 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Should you get back together with your ex? The bad news: Ali & Roark don’t know. The good news: what they DO know are some questions you can ask yourself when deciding if this is right for you. Using stories of their own and those of friends they discuss how there is no hard-and-fast rule, but there are healthy and unhealthy ways to make the decision. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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6. The Corresponding One

Mon, 29 Mar 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Ever feel like you're having a great back and forth with a match over text, but it just never seems to end with a date? Sounds like you're in a pen pal situation, and both Ali and Roark have been there, too! They read listener questions and discuss how to nudge a match into making a date without being "pushy." Also, they open up their own text archives and read through their experiences with pen pals. Want to find and use the pen pal text scripts in this episode? Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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5. The Needy One

Mon, 22 Mar 2021 06:00:00 +0000

"If he wanted to, he would" - sound familiar? Spoiler alert: Ali & Roark do not approve this message. They debunk this dating myth and rewrite the common phrase to put the focus on communication and understanding your own needs. But first, Ali confesses she had yet another phone-throwing moment (reset the incident clock!) this week. And the girls analyze a perfect example of "if he wanted to, he would" in the Bravo show Summer House.

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4. The Disappearing One

Mon, 15 Mar 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Boo! Don't worry, this podcast isn't disappearing, but Ali and Roark are talking about men who did! Ghosting. One of the most common problems facing modern dating. First, Ali and Roark define what is and what isn't a ghost. Then, they share stories of times they were ghosted, and Ali reveals her tried-and-true "text script" for how to maturely confront a ghost. Finally, they admit that they, too, have been the ghosters. But Finding Mr. Height is a firmly anti-ghosting podcast, so Ali shares another text script: how to tell someone you're not interested rather than disappear. Spooky stuff!

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3. The Skeptical One

Mon, 08 Mar 2021 07:00:00 +0000

This week, Ali and Roark discuss how to talk to people who are skeptical about online dating: parents, friends, and even people ON the apps (we are talking to you lets-lie-about-how-me-met people). But first, Ali confesses to making the same mistake twice in one week and they both muse on the power of sending audio messages to matches.

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2. The Unsolicited One

Mon, 01 Mar 2021 05:00:00 +0000

It's only episode two and Ali & Roark are already tackling *that* topic...that's right, dick pics, requests for nudes, and when a match gets too sexual too soon for your comfort level. Before responding to listeners' questions and sharing their own experiences with this behavior, Ali reveals an embarrassing moment with a Bumble match and Roark nervously talks about a promising first date.

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1. The Actual First One

Mon, 22 Feb 2021 05:01:00 +0000

It's here! The *real* premiere episode of FMH: The Podcast. Get to know your co-hosts as Ali & Roark share both their friendship origin story and walk down memory lane of relationships past. Then, they discuss their vision for the podcast. And finally, Roark tells Ali about a potentially awkward encounter at a recent date's place of business, which reminds Ali of her own story from a few years back. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find our submission form at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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The First One

Wed, 17 Feb 2021 23:11:48 +0000

Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast - a teaser! Meet dating coach Ali from her @findingmrheight TikTok and Instagram and her good friend Roark as they embark on a podcast. Full episode airs on Monday. In the meantime, reach out to Ali & Roark at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast/

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