The Sh*t They Should've Taught Us In School with Rachelle Indra

For The Plot

Wed, 31 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 14 : For The Plot

In this captivating episode, Rachelle takes us on a journey through one of her most unforgettable "for the plot" stories. Imagine walking in on an orgy, encountering a centaur, and experiencing pure magic—all in just 25 minutes.

This whirlwind tale isn't just about wild events; Rachelle reflects on how these extraordinary experiences often come from daring to do something different. She explores the importance of stepping out of your comfort zone to embrace life's unexpected adventures, and talks about how saying yes to ecstatic dance deepened her understanding of her Ego, her body, and her heart.

Ready to create your own unforgettable stories? Listen in and let this episode inspire you to start collecting those 1% memories that make life truly extraordinary. Join Rachelle in exploring the magic that happens when you invite more spontaneity and wonder into your life.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

The things we do for the plot, purposely or accidentally, come when we get outside of our comfort zone
Getting out of your comfort zone does not mean you should ever feel physically unsafe
Life is not about being good at things. Sometimes it's just about enjoying them.

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July 31, 2024 || 46 Minutes

Sober Curious

Wed, 17 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 13: Sober Curious

*Welcome Back to a VERY special episode of "The Sh!t They Should've Taught Us In School", a live chat with Rachelle's business partner, right hand Woman, and recently graduated Professional Counselor Advocate, Shonna Edwards.

Due to the setting, you may notice variations in sound quality during portions of the episode. We appreciate your understanding as we work to improve our audio experience for future episodes.

Thank you for tuning in, and we hope you enjoy the authentic atmosphere of this extra special recording*

Join Rachelle and Shonna in an inviting, candid, and intimate discussion on the nuances of living alcohol-free. Where they share their personal journeys with alcohol and encourage listeners to reflect on their own habits with curiosity.

Check your judgement or shame at the door, because whether you’re sober, sober-ish, or sober-curious, this conversation is packed with valuable insights and relatable anecdotes that will inspire you to explore, and perhaps redefine, Your relationship with alcohol.

Tune in for an episode filled with heartfelt stories, laughter, and thought-provoking discussions that challenge the norms and champion personal well-being.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

***The content of this podcast is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding Alcohol Addiction.

Quitting alcohol abruptly can be dangerous and potentially life-threatening. Withdrawal symptoms can vary in severity and may require medical intervention to ensure safety and well-being.

Always consult with a healthcare professional before making changes to your alcohol consumption habits. Your health and safety are our top priorities.***

You don't need to be addicted to alcohol to examine it's place in your life.
Reflection Prompt: How do you interact with alcohol? How does it influence your life? In social settings? In your health (mind/body/spirit)?
AA is not the only resource for support and community for living alcohol free
"Quit Like a Woman" By: Holly Whitaker
QLAW Facebook Group
Instagram: Shine With Shonna
Mindset Mentor: What Are You Addicted To?

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July 17, 2024 || 33 Minutes

Giving Up One Dream For Another

Wed, 03 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 12 : Giving Up One Dream For Another

In this episode, Rachelle explores the complexities of relinquishing one dream for another, sharing her reflections in real-time, and spilling all the tea about how ending her most recent relationship brought on deep lessons in sacrifice and personal growth.

Rachelle reflects on the struggle of choosing between immediate gratification and long-term fulfillment, drawing parallels with everything from food choices, and learning new skills, to prioritizing personal goals over immediate responsibilities.

With vulnerability and grace, she discusses the fresh emotions of navigating her breakup, and the clarity gained from understanding her own needs and boundaries. Rachelle acknowledges the difficulty of letting go of a season that brought happiness, and recognizes the importance of staying true to oneself.

Listen in and be invited to consider your own experience with compromise in the pursuit of happiness, and be challenged to see where you might be settling for immediate comfort over long-term fulfillment.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Podcast about Toxic Compromise
Reject the idea of settling for less than what aligns with your long-term dreams and values, even if the present situation seems comfortable or appealing
Love, even great love, isn't enough to dismantle all that you've built and accomplished.
Embrace the idea of living an unconventional life path and being true to yourself despite societal norms and expectations.
What is a long term goal you have? How bad do you want it? Map out what it would take to get there, and identify places you would need to compromise, settle, or sacrifice to achieve it.
Reflect on a time when you had to give up a short-term desire or situation for a long-term goal. How did you navigate that? What did you learn from the experience?

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July 3, 2024 || 31 Minutes

Europe Embodied

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 11 : Europe Embodied

IIIIIIT’S THAT TIME AGAIN!

In this thought-provoking episode, Rachelle dives into the deep end, taking you on a journey of self-discovery and reflection as she prepares to take another solo-adventure through Europe.

She invites listeners to explore the universal themes of expectation, presence, and acceptance. With her signature raw honesty, she reflects on past relationships and the struggle to let go of preconceived futures, drawing parallels to broader experiences of loss and grief.

Rachelle gets candid about the challenges of being fully present, both in the midst of bustling European cities and tranquil Hawaiian retreats, and challenges us to question our own tendencies to fixate on expectations, so we can embrace the beauty of simply existing in each moment.

Tune in as Rachelle shares her wisdom and invites us to join her in the pursuit of living an embodied life while embracing life’s fluid nature, one experience at a time.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Approach familiar experiences with curiosity and openness
Release expectations so you can appreciate being in the present moment
Practice self-compassion. Allow yourself to exist without judgement or pressure to constantly achieve
Shift from overthinking and living in the head to embodying experiences fully in the present moment
JOURNALING PROMPTS: Identify an area of your life where you have expectations. How can you practice letting go? Reflect on a recent experience where you were fully present. How did it feel? What did you learn from it? How can you cultivate a sense of openness and curiosity in your daily life, especially in familiar environments or routines?

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June 19, 2024 || 37 Minutes

How Rejection Is Helping You

Wed, 05 Jun 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 10: How Rejection Is Helping You

Welcome to another candid episode of The Shit They Should Have Taught Us in School, where Rachelle talks about the ever-present fear of rejection, and how it can subconsciously permeate every facet of our lives.

From relationships to career pursuits, and even in social settings, Rachelle explores how isolating rejection can feel, whether real or perceived. Drawing from personal experiences and observations, she sheds light on how fear of rejection manifests in our lives, and offers a powerful perspective shift, urging listeners to view "rejection as redirection".

Listen in as Rachelle invites you to embark on your own journey of desensitization to rejection, so you can embrace it with curiosity in the name of personal growth and self-discovery, and foster a resilience that will open doors to unforeseen possibilities.

Imagine all the doors that could open if we just had the courage to try!

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

TED Talk: What I learned from 100 days of rejection
Oftentimes we are so afraid of rejection, it's so deeply engrained in us, that we subconsciously avoid it.
Journal Prompts: Where am I so afraid of rejection that I don't even try? How can I experiment with rejection? Where can I be curious instead of afraid? How can I change my relationship with rejection? Where do I feel rejection in my body? What emotions arise when I feel rejected?
Affirmations: I like myself. I can handle rejection, disappointment, and pain.

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June 5, 2024 2024 || 18 Minutes

Heartbreak Is My Super Power

Wed, 22 May 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 9 : Heartbreak Is My Super Power

What is the greatest super power we can possess?

This week, Rachelle shares her answer and explores the topic of surviving heartbreak. With honesty and soulful reflection, she shares personal stories of overcoming heartbreak in all aspects of life from romantic relationships, engagements, and young love to fur-babies, friendships and more, highlighting how each loss informed her journey and strengthened her resilience.

Rachelle encourages listeners to embrace the pain of heartbreak, as it opens the door to immense joy and growth. She emphasizes the freedom and courage that comes from knowing we can endure and move through heartache. Listen in and hear how this could transform your approach to relationships and life itself.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

What would open up for you in your life if you weren't afraid of heartbreak? If you simply KNEW that you could get through it?
What areas of your life have been held back because of the fear of pain, rejection, or loss? Romantic Partnership, Friendship, At Work, With Animals?
Grief, Pain, Heartbreak...they're all just a process. Can you allow that kind of pain?
AFFIRM: I trust the process. I will get through the pain and it will not drag me under.

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May 22, 2024 || 22 Minutes

Feminism, Allyship, and Accountability

Wed, 08 May 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 8 : Feminism, Allyship, and Accountability

This week's podcast is full of passion as Rachelle explores the (sometimes controversial) topic of Feminism. Listen in to hear her talk everything from it's definition to the actionable steps we can take to hold ourselves and each other accountable.

She challenges listeners to examine their actions and question how they are supporting women's rights in their daily lives. Encouraging us to call out inappropriate behavior and language towards women amongst our peers.

This thought-provoking episode promises to ask important questions about the true meaning of allyship and how men can actively contribute to the fight for gender equality.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

For Women: Ask the men in your life, "What are you doing about women's rights? How do you hold other men accountable?"
For Men: Look at how much you are participating in allyship, and ask yourself what you can do to live up to the true essence of that space. **When was the last time I confronted a man who was doing or saying something inappropriate or unfair, whether directly to a woman in front of me or just talking amongst men? How am I speaking about women when they aren't around?
it doesn't have to be confrontational, but STOP laughing at the "jokes". STOP participating. STOP smiling/ STOP being silent when you're uncomfortable.

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May 8, 2023 || 16 Minutes

Did Part Of You Leave Too?

Wed, 24 Apr 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 7: Did Part Of You Leave Too?

In this episode, Rachelle explores the nuanced terrain of grief, a universal experience that touches every aspect of our lives.

With heartfelt sincerity, she guides listeners through the complex layers of loss, from mourning the departure of a loved one to bidding farewell to cherished aspects of themselves. Drawing from her own journey, she invites listeners to reflect on those pieces of ourselves that may get left behind, and encourages us to embrace this process of self-discovery as a means of healing.

Join Rachelle as she navigates the delicate balance of honoring the past while embracing the present, reminding us that the journey to rediscovery is about uncovering the authentic self beneath the layers of grief and longing.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Grief happens in waves. Sometimes the waves are one right after another, and sometimes there are long periods between them. Some are massive like a tidal wave and some are barely ankle deep.
We grieve the loss of something, but we may also need to grieve the version of us that existed when we had that thing.
We don't allow ourselves to feel something unless our brain can justify it, and if the ego doesn't get the answer it likes, it doesn't allow you to feel the thing.
When we try to THINK, we get ourselves out of FEELING.
What pieces of you did you let go of when you had to let go of that person/place/thing?

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April 24, 2024 || 19 Minutes

How Far Have You Come?

Wed, 10 Apr 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 6 : How Far Have You Come?

In this week's engaging episode, Rachelle explores the dynamics between relationships and personal growth, inviting listeners to join her on a reflective journey of self-discovery. Through her trademark relatable anecdotes and heartfelt musings, she shares her insights on the transformative power of curiosity and vulnerability in navigating all types of connection. Rachelle celebrates the beauty in embracing change and highlights the importance of recognizing our progress in real time. With humor and authenticity, she encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and celebrate their growth. This episode promises to inspire listeners to ask themselves "just how far have YOU come?"

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

How you do anything is How you do everything.
Reflect on a time period in your life (a relationship, a friendship, a career, a project, etc) and ask yourself "How far have I come? What have I learned? How have I changed?" Where Was I? Where am I now?
It is important to have awareness of our strengths and weaknesses so we can reflect with clarity and authenticity
Celebrate all of your progress in all it's forms, small and large! Give yourself kudos!! YOU DESERVE IT!

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April 10, 2024 || 33 Minutes

How To Reclaim Your Curiosity

Wed, 27 Mar 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 5 : How To Reclaim Your Curiosity

In this captivating episode, Rachelle shares the transformative power of curiosity in our lives. With warmth and insight, she explores how embracing curiosity can enrich our relationships, spark personal growth, and deepen our connection with the world around us.

Through engaging anecdotes and practical advice, Rachelle encourages listeners to rediscover their sense of wonder and curiosity, inviting them to ask meaningful questions and embrace the beauty of change. Join her on a journey of self-discovery and exploration, and discover the joy of living with curiosity at the heart of it all.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

You don't need things, people, experiences to be the same in order for them to be safe
Inviting a curious mindset into your life enhances our awareness and allows for deeper, more present connection with ourselves and the world around us
Curiosity Questions Mentioned in the episode: What would you like in your future? What's your favorite memory of us? How do you know what love is? Where do you feel pain in your body? Where do you feel sorrow? What was the thing you were first attracted to in me? What are you most attracted to in me now? When do you most feel helpless? What situations can I be curious about? How can I see everyday activities with fresh vision?

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March 27, 2024 || 31 Minutes

Who Is Your Ego Forcing You To Be?

Wed, 13 Mar 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 4 : Who Is Your Ego Forcing You To Be?

In this episode, Rachelle dives into the concept of the Ego, unpacks the role it plays in relationships, and explores how it can shape self-worth and even influence our patterns of attraction. Listen in as Rachelle spills about her own dating experience, and the complexity of seeking both independence and partnership.

Touching on the Ego's need for control and predictability, Rachelle shares insights into the challenges of vulnerability and transition in relationships. She candidly reflects on her own journey of realizing the need to shift from a mindset of reinforcing personal strengths to embracing true partnership dynamics. Through vulnerability and introspection, Rachelle invites listeners to reconsider their own relationship patterns and explore new pathways to connection and growth to get you to your very own "It's scary, but I don't want it to stop."

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Book Recommendation - "Untethered Soul" By: Michael Singer
The Ego Voice is the voice that says "I AM..." and puts things into black and white boxes. It craves control and safety, and doesn't like to be challenged.
Vulnerability is strength. It is the Ego that gets scared and hears it as weakness
Awareness is the first step to change
QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER:
What is it you identify with?
What does your Ego want you to be?
Where do you feel like you need to prove yourself?
What is the Ego's greatest fear? How does it show fear?
How are you in relationships?
Are you always trying to save other people?
Do you find yourself wanting to be safer by having the upper hand? Or wanting people to take care of you?
You can change the pattern and lean into a healthier, more aligned YOU!!!

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March 13, 2024 || 39 Minutes

We Didn't Want To, So Why Didn't We Listen?

Wed, 28 Feb 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 3 : We Didn't Want To, So Why Didn't We Listen?

TW: Brief Mention of Sexual Assault

In this episode, Rachelle delves into the complexity of sacrificing our own desires to make others happy through the lens of sexual intimacy.

While both challenging the black-and-white view of cheating and exploring the nuanced motivations that lead to it, she bravely recounts the one time she cheated on a boyfriend, and why it took close to 20 years to process.

Talking everything from societal pressures to shame and guilt, Rachelle vulnerably revisits how cheating led to a long-believed story she's held about herself for decades, and invites listeners to hear her untangle it in real time.

This episode reminds listeners of the importance of checking in with ourselves and prioritizing our own needs, and warns of the pitfalls that come with abandoning that inner voice. Rachelle extends her insights beyond gender, acknowledging that societal pressures affect individuals across the spectrum, emphasizing the universal relevance of the message.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Cheating is not black and white.
Societal Pressures around sex and intimacy effect people of all genders.
Personal check-ins are essential!
PERSONAL CHECK IN: Am I engaging in sexual behaviors when it's not an enthusiastic yes? Am I doing this FOR someone else's benefit? Where is the pressure coming from?
Even if you're in a partnership with somebody that you love very much doing sexual things with them long term when you don't want to does damage.
Take inventory of your stories and allow for moments of reflection

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February 28, 2024 || 31 Minutes

The Role We Needed To Play

Wed, 14 Feb 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 2 : The Role We Needed To Play

This week's episode kicks off with a deep dive into the roles we adopt throughout our lives, and invites us to explore whether they still align with who we truly are. Rachelle shares her own journey of self-discovery, reflecting on how a conversation with her brother sparked her to look at whether the label of extrovert was actually her true nature.

She invites listeners to explore the roles they played growing up and question whether those roles still serve them. Through personal anecdotes and insightful analysis, Rachelle encourages us to embrace authenticity and stop the cycle of forcing ourselves into molds that don't fit.

This introspective episode challenges us to let go of societal expectations and embrace our truest selves, reminding us that tremendous growth comes from allowing ourselves to simply be who we are.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

It is not about becoming something people want you to be, or doing more. It is about UNdoing old patterns and allowing who you are to shine.
Questions and Journaling Opportunities:
What was expected of you as a child?
What was important to your parents?
What traits/actions got you love vs. pain?
Does that still apply to who I am today?
If you were on a desert island, who would you be?
When you're alone, who are you?

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February 14, 2024 || 25 Minutes

The Shallow Bond

Wed, 31 Jan 2024 08:00:00 +0000

Season 3 Episode 1 : The Shallow Bond

Welcome back to Season Three!

In this kickoff episode, Rachelle dives into a candid conversation about GOSSIP, and provides profound perspective on how it may be what is hindering genuine connections.

Listen in as she shares a personal story about a dinner dominated by gossip, and delves into the dynamics of mob mentality and the ego's love for superiority... Discover the illusion of bonding through gossip and join Rachelle in breaking free from 'us versus them' mentalities.

From 'Dorito Conversations' to questioning gossip's impact on intimacy, this episode sparks self-reflection on the depth of our relationships. Ready to foster more authentic connections? Let's dive in!

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Gossip offers a false sense of security, taking us further away from vulnerability and authentic connection
Not every one of your friendships needs to be deep, emotional, and bonding. You are allowed to have fluffy, fun, surface level friendships, too.
"Dorito conversations," offer momentary satisfaction but a lack of depth and true connection.
Some Questions To Reflect On If You Have Relationships That Don't Feel Bonded or Intimate:
Are you holding back because you want to keep things surface level in your friendship (partnership, etc)?
Am I safe enough to get to a deeper level?
Are you not offering opportunity for deeper bonding? Is it because of habitual gossip?
Are you spending time with people who keep things surface level? If yes, why?
Do you want to change it?

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January 31, 2024 || 28 Minutes

The Importance of Shedding

Wed, 25 Oct 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 30 : The Importance of Shedding

In this week's episode, Rachelle takes us on a journey through the transformative season of fall. Reminding us that now is the perfect time to shed what no longer serves us. Rachelle dives into the art of letting go, and talks shedding everything from habits to humans.

This episode promises to validate how habits may have once protected us, while encouraging us to trace their roots, acknowledge their protective intentions, and ultimately guide us to release them and adopt healthier behaviors.

Rachelle's insights provide a refreshing reminder to assess and declutter our physical spaces, inviting us to let go of remnants of our past selves. This episode is a soothing and introspective exploration of how we can gracefully transition into a new season of self-discovery and personal growth.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Things you may need to shed this season...
Habits (with self, work, family, or other)
Foundational Beliefs, the deeply ingrained narratives that can either empower or limit us.
People / Relationships (gray area relationships are often trickier to recognize and release than ones that are "good" or "bad")
Items in your home
The awareness of knowing what we need to shed is half the battle. its ok to make recognition the first goal

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October 25, 2023 || 24 Minutes

I'm Sorry Isn't Enough

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 29 : I'm Sorry Isn't Enough

In this week's straight-talking episode, Rachelle breaks down exactly why "I'm Sorry" isn't enough. Listen in as she dives into the complexities of change within relationships, and explains the reasons why change doesn't happen even though it's possible.

Rachelle delves into the impact of societal norms on men and women's capacity for change, as she passionately advocates for improved emotional communication and support for men, while emphasizing that significant change often requires outside support in the form of therapy or personal growth work.

This episode ultimately underscores the importance of asking specific questions when someone promises to change, and serves as a compelling reminder to seek transparency and actively participate in personal growth within relationships.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

CAN someone change is different than WILL they change
People don't change either because they don't want to or because they don't know how.
When somebody says, they'll change, ask them, "How?". How will you change? How will you work on that? What can I expect?
Don't marry somebody who won't go to therapy.
Therapy, Self-Help Books, and Podcasts are great resources to facilitate change

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October 18, 2023 || 28 Minutes

I Didn't Owe Him My Time

Wed, 11 Oct 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 28 : I Didn't Owe Him My Time

In this week's episode, Rachelle explores the intricate dynamics of attraction and societal expectations, emphasizing how self-awareness and confidence have empowered her to navigate situations differently in her 40s compared to her 20s.

Sharing a personal experience with her trademark humor and sass, Rachelle passionately challenges the notion that women are obligated to cater to men's desires, and expertly debunks patriarchal narratives.

Throughout the episode, Rachelle champions the idea that it is essential to assert boundaries and stand firm in one's autonomy, despite outside expectations, and invites listeners to rethink societal conditioning, embrace assertive communication, and ultimately pave the way for healthier, more authentic connections.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Be okay turning somebody down. Even if they did something nice for you.
You are responsible for compassionately and honestly asserting/holding your boundaries... NOT for how people receive them. It's ok of they are uncomfortable or feel exposed.
Women are conditioned to put other's needs first, and we forget that somebody just getting to spend time with us is enough.
YOU DO NOT OWE ANYONE YOUR TIME, ENERGY, OR BODY
You should be able to make boundaries with somebody that has interest in you and have them be respectful that you're not interested. Period.

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October 11, 2023 || 34 Minutes

How You're Letting Your Insecurity Choose

Wed, 04 Oct 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 27 : How You're Letting Your Insecurity Choose

In this week's thought-provoking episode, Rachelle explores the impact insecurities have on our life choices, especially when it comes to dating. As always, through candidly sharing her own experiences, Rachelle challenges common stereotypes and biases around physical appearance, highlighting how both men and women might miss out on meaningful connections due to rigid preferences based on societal norms.

This episode promises to question common beliefs about both men and women, and expose how these beliefs perpetuate traditional gender roles. Rachelle passionately advocates for broadening our horizons, encouraging listeners to break free from societal standards and embrace deeper, more authentic connections.

This episode serves as a powerful reminder to examine our insecurities and prejudices, whether in dating, career choices, or friendships, and to open ourselves up to a wider, more diverse range of experiences.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Are your insecurities making you choose the wrong people in life?
What are your priorities when it comes to Dating? Friendship? Career?
What are the self-limiting beliefs and preferences that keep you from expanding your "type"?
You might be missing out on great connections because of that Ego-driven ideology
How have societal standards and expectations shaped your perspective?

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October 4, 2023 || 32 Minutes

Your Easiest Tool to Tackle Anxiety and Overwhelm

Wed, 27 Sep 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 26 : Your Easiest Tool to Tackle Anxiety and Overwhelm

In this episode, Rachelle takes us on a journey through an array of simple, cost-free tools to combat overwhelm and anxiety. She introduces the concept of "comfort shows," and explains how the familiarity can soothe an activated nervous system.

Not into TV? No Problem! Rachelle explores a long list of creative activities that provide solace and reduce anxiety, and encourages listeners to embrace familiar routines that offer relief from life's unpredictability. By creating a toolbox of comforts, and nurturing our nervous system, we can better navigate life's challenges... AND adventures!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

The nervous system craves familiarity and predictability when in stress, so watching a show you've seen before can help alleviate symptoms of anxiety.
You can have anxiety and feel overwhelmed by the good things in your life, too.
It's important to recognize small accessible ways you can control to calm the nervous system.
Make a list of the things that give soothing comfort to your nervous system: books, movies, shows, activities

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September 27, 2023 || 20 Minutes

Why Solo Travel is for You

Wed, 20 Sep 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 25: Why Solo Travel is for You

Fresh off three months in Europe, Rachelle takes you into the world of solo travel where she shares valuable insights and tips, making this episode a comprehensive guide to solo travel.

Rachelle highlights the transformative potential of traveling alone, emphasizing the learning opportunities that arise when we step out of our comfort zone. She describes how traveling this way can help us identify (and overcome) self-imposed limitations and help us discover hidden capabilities.

Offering practical advice on everything from safety to money-saving strategies, this episode is blasting out valuable tips to make your solo travel an accessible and fulfilling experience.

Make sure to stay to the end to hear Rachelle's "must-have" packing list for solo travelers.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Books Mentioned in this Episode: "Wild" a book about hiking the PCT, "Eat Pray Love", "The Untethered Soul: by Michael Singer
Solo travel reminds us how safe we are in our own skin, in our own thoughts, in our own decision making.
Start Small: Go to countries that are known for being safe, or where you can speak the language
IMPORTANT TIP: Get travel recommendations from people in a similar demographic as you: sex, gender, age, culture, financial background, etc
TIPS TO SAVE MONEY: house swapping, camping, pet sitting.
Pack for who you are, not who you want to be
Important questions you get to answer during solo travel: Who are you when you're alone? Who are you when you get to do whatever you want, whenever you want? Where would you go? What would you see? When would you sleep? What would you eat? Where would you eat?

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September 20, 2023 || 62 Minutes

Why (and How) You Should Have Friends of the Opposite Sex

Wed, 13 Sep 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 24 : Why (and How) You Should Have Friends of the Opposite Sex

Rachelle is back from her European adventure, and she has quite the treat for you! Join in this week as she discusses the importance of having friends of the opposite sex.

Touching on society's tendency to segregate by gender Rachelle emphasizes just how important friendships with people of the opposite sex are, sharing how those relationships offer us diverse perspectives that foster a better understanding of each other and ourselves

This episode promises a "how to" on having relationships with the opposite sex, with a strong emphasis on strong boundaries and clear communication, as Rachelle walks us through exactly how that maturity will open doors to half the population. People who can provide unique insights and enrich our lives regardless of their gender.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Having friends of the opposite sex can indicate a person's ability to trust themselves around members of the opposite sex without sexualizing them.
It is imperative to have open and honest discussions about boundaries and expectations in ALL relationships
Someone's romantic feelings for you is none of your business. Once you have been explicit with your boundaries and desires, their feelings are theirs to figure out.
Your partner will never meet all of your needs. They aren't supposed to.
Don't miss out on really special, magical and aware people, who could teach you so many wonderful things and share such good times with you, simply because they have opposite sex organs than you.
Questions to consider: 1) How would your life be different if you had friends of the opposite sex? What would open up for you? 2) Can you make/hold boundaries with yourself? 3) Can you make sure that when you say you don't want to be romantic with someone that your energy doesn't show something different?

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Sept. 13, 2023 || 30 Minutes

You Aren’t Allowing Yourself This Necessity

Wed, 06 Sep 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 23 : You Aren’t Allowing Yourself This Necessity

In this episode, Rachelle explores the topic of rest, and why we often struggle to fully embrace it.

Tune in as she talks everything from identifying your Ego voice to the impact of societal expectations on our productivity, and emphasizes the significance of rest as a fundamental necessity.

Encouraging listeners to challenge their ego's influence and recognize the importance of indulging in simple pleasures, Rachelle speaks to the benefits of allowing for moments of stillness and, "Dare I say?", boredom, so creativity and presence can arise.

Ultimately, Rachelle's episode serves as a reminder that rest is a vital part of our lives, an act of self-love, not something to be earned, and promises to show you how to embrace it without guilt or reservation.

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Not only is it okay to stop, sit, and just exist, it's a necessity for overall health and well-being.
The energy of The Divine Feminine encourages us to rest and rejuvenate, to settle into the wholeness of simply being, and balance out society's demand of us to do more and go harder.
Boredom leads to altruistic thoughts
BOOK RECOMMENDATION: "The Untethered Soul" By: Michael Singer
Reflection Prompt : What do you enjoy? What does your body enjoy? Your heart? Your soul? How often does the ego voice tell you not to do those things?
Your Ego voice is oftentimes trying to sabotage you, or get you to do the opposite of what would be in alignment.

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September 6, 2023 || 35 Minutes

What My Sex Life Says About Me

Wed, 30 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 22: What My Sex Life Says About Me

How many people have you slept with, and what does that say about you?

In this week's hard-hitting episode, Rachelle opens up a candid conversation about society's perceptions and judgments around sexuality. Fearlessly challenging deeply ingrained beliefs, Rachelle dissects the double standards that plague the discussion about women's sexual experiences vs. men's. Listen is as she talks everything from the Puritans to the Patriarchy

With a mix of passion and humor, Rachelle encourages listeners to embrace advocacy and self-acceptance to end the cycle of judgment, shame, and guilt, fostering an empowering environment that facilitates change!

Your self-worth isn't defined by a numerical count!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Your number doesn't define you (...or Them)!
There are prevalent double standards in society's perception of women's and men's sexual experiences
Puritan values and Patriarchal structures perpetuate the stigmatization of women's sexual autonomy
It's important to have open discussions around sexual experiences, and challenge judgments that arise within ourselves or with others.

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August 30, 2023 || 40 Minutes

Why You Need a Hobby and Don’t Have One

Wed, 23 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 21: Why You Need a Hobby and Don’t Have One

Join in this week as Rachelle delves into the wonder-filled world of hobbies and explores why we sometimes let them slip away. Confronting the notion of time management head-on, Rachelle challenges us to stop saying "we don't have time," and instead, start examining what we are prioritizing instead.

Through the exploration of her personal experiences in diverse hobby groups, from knitting circles to pickleball teams, Rachelle unwraps the multifaceted nature of hobbies, explaining how they can both satisfy the need for solitary introspection and provide us a sense of community.

With her trademark humor and depth, Rachelle challenges the hesitations we may hold about trying new things by embracing imperfections and vulnerability. This episode concludes by encouraging us to rekindle our hobbies, no matter our age, like children do—with openness to new experiences and the sheer joy of trying something for ourselves.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Stop saying "I don't have time for hobbies," and start asking "What am I prioritizing instead?"
Hobbies are a great way to both connect with others (groups or classes) AND with yourself (doing something purely for you enjoyment)
When you prioritize yourself, you are both modeling how others can prioritize themselves AND giving them permission to!
It's ok to suck at things!! Embrace the child-like wonder that comes with newness and vulnerability.
A small List of Potential Hobbies mentioned in this episode: Art, reading, outdoor activities, knitting, crocheting, needlepoint, a sport puzzles, Sudoku, animals, beekeeping, singing, photography, dance, cooking, baking, video games, gardening, writing, hiking, birdwatching, chess, pottery, travel, fishing, woodworking, learning a new language, playing an instrument.

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August 23, 2023 || 31 Minutes

What If You Didn’t Have To Fight For It?

Wed, 16 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 20 : What If You Didn’t Have To Fight For It?

In this episode, Coach Rachelle offers a personal glimpse into her ongoing journey of self-discovery and growth. Through deep introspection, Rachelle confronts fundamental questions about identity and reflects on the tendency to reserve self-praise solely for accomplishments that require struggle. She challenges this mindset and encourages us to redefine our relationship with achievement.

Whether you're listening out of voyeuristic curiosity or seeking insights from another's experiences, join in to hear about her recent endeavors. Take a contemplative stroll through exactly what can unfold when a warrior discovers themselves in a space where fighting is no longer necessary.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

You can feel empowered by the tools and armor you have access to without wearing the heaviness of living in a hyper-vigilant state
Some Questions to reflect on and consider: *What if you just let go? *What if the change was easy? *What if the change was peaceful? *What if the change was loving? *What if you didn't have to jack hammer up a foundation to break it apart? *What if it could just dissolve? *What if it could be easy?
Trust that you can relax and you're safe and comfortable so you can then deal when something goes wrong.

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August 16, 2023 || 46 Minutes

The Enneagram: Why I Think You Will Become as Obsessed as Me

Wed, 09 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 19 : The Enneagram: Why I Think You Will Become as Obsessed as Me

This week Rachelle brings us a thorough introduction to the Enneagram Personality Types with the hope that it sparks inspiration to learn more, and shares exactly how to utilize the information gained. Join in as she dives into why she finds this method of categorizing so powerful, and explains how learning it can benefit everyone, not only personally, but in professional settings as well.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

There are 9 Personality Types in the Enneagram
The 9 personality types are divided into 3 categories of 3: 1) Thinking Triad 2. Feeling Triad and 3. Instinctual Triad
There are online quizzes you can take to learn your type
The best way to learn your personality type is to read about them all, and to learn with family or friends!

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August 9, 2023 || 46 Minutes

How Art Will Teach You Who You Are

Wed, 02 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 18 : How Art Will Teach You Who You Are

This episode is all about enjoying the process! Join in as Rachelle discusses the importance of art in self-expression and personal growth.

Believing that art and creativity have the power to help individuals understand themselves better, Rachelle urges listeners to embrace different forms of artistic expression without judgment or comparison, and find joy in the present moment.

Learn how letting go of self-imposed limitations and societal pressures can help you tap into your creative potential, so you can lean into joy, and embrace the artist in you!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

You are creative. You are A creative
Make an art piece with the intention of throwing it away, so you can let go of the pressure of the outcome and embrace the joy of the process itself
Art can express all the things that cannot be expressed in words.
By leaning into the process of creating, you can learn to let go of self-consciousness and judgment to be more present and in the moment.

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August 2, 2023 || 20 Minutes

What They Don't Teach Us About Grief

Wed, 26 Jul 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 17 : What They Don't Teach Us About Grief

In this week's insightful episode, Rachelle explores the oftentimes raw topic of grief and the profound impact it has on our lives. Vulnerably drawing from her personal experiences, she challenges society's time-bound expectations of grief, while empowering listeners to confront and process their grief.

This episode provides practical tools to help individuals navigate and honor their grief process by addressing different forms of grief, offering constructive ways to channel emotions, and stressing the significance of open conversations and authentic support.

As the episode concludes, Rachelle reminds us that grief is a natural expression of love and encourages listeners to embrace their grief, seek support when needed, and extend empathy to others facing grief's challenges. With Rachelle's guidance, this episode offers invaluable insights to help us navigate the complexities of grief and grow through the process

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

There is no timeline for grief.
There are many kinds of grief (death of a person or pet, ideas, a time in your life, end of a relationship, the simplicity of another era, belief systems)
Tools for navigating grief: 1) Create a safe space where you go to grieve. 2) Make a ritual around your grief. 3) Create an altar in honor and remembrance. 4) Give yourself permission to change 5) Move your body 6) Write/Journal/Make Art about it. 7) Breath-work Practices 8) Grief Counseling and Therapy
How to support others in grief: 1) Be there and Listen 2) Don't give advice unless asked. 3) Start a meal train. 4) Send a sympathy care-package 5) Invite them to share memories and stories
Journal/Reflection prompt: Reflect on what grief feels like in your body. Write down what you feel you still need to grieve.

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July 26, 2023 || 57 Minutes

What Does Success Really Look Like?

Wed, 19 Jul 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 16 : What Does Success Really Look Like?

"If you change your definition of success you may begin to see that it is so much closer than it seems" -Rachelle Indra

This week, Rachelle challenges listeners to redefine their definition of success to set themselves free from society's expectations. Exploring various aspects of life, such as career, health, relationships, and community, she invites us to determine our own unique measurements for success.

As always, Rachelle shares her personal experiences while supporting listeners in celebrating their own milestones and successes; guiding them to foster a sense of appreciation and self-empowerment. The episode concludes with a powerful reminder to prioritize personal well-being and to embrace the celebration in YOU!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

There are many aspects of our lives to consider when thinking about success (Career, Health, Relationships, Community)
YOU are the person who defines success for yourself - outside of societal standards, family expectations, pressure from friends, religion, and more, so consider this: If you were on a deserted island, with no one else around, what choices would you make?
It's important to recognize, acknowledge, and celebrate the successes you already have in your life in real time. (Are you celebrating the success you have? Are you celebrating how far you've come?)
Take a moment, sit, and look at some of those categories then journal: What is success for me? What does success look like for me? What does success feel like?

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July 19, 2023 || 22 Minutes

Are You Keeping Your Partner From Being Themselves?

Wed, 12 Jul 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 15: Are You Keeping Your Partner From Being Themselves?

This week's episode touches on something we can ALL work on, so buckle up as Rachelle walks us through exactly how to answer the tough question, "Are you keeping your partner from being themselves?"

Join in as Rachelle challenges us to consider the pitfalls of trying to control our partners and highlights the dangers of becoming complacent in relationships. Pondering all things from gratitude and presence, to the limitations of monogamy, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing that our partners actively choose us every single day.

This episode concludes with a call to examine the authenticity in our relationships, and encourages the need for honest conversations (not only with others, but also ourselves), so we stop taking each other for granted, step courageously into the power of choice, and boldly express ourselves for who we are!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Your partner does not belong to you. They are not an extension of you. You are you.
Would you do things differently in your relationship if you truly believed there was a possibility of it ending?
We often treat our friends better than we treat our partner because we have less expectations of them to change for us.
It's important to differentiate between feeling safe to express oneself authentically (which is positive) and "feeling safe" that our partner won't leave us resulting in neglect of the relationship
In order to truly love someone, allow them to have a full life, rich with experiences, and opportunities to discover and express their truest selves.

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July 12, 2023 || 24 Minutes

Who Are You Changing For?

Wed, 05 Jul 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 14 : Who Are You Changing For?

Join in as Rachelle reflects on the concept of identity and asks, "Who are you changing for?"

This week's episode delves into the theme of losing ourselves in other people's stories, and explores the consequences of constantly adapting who we are for others. Touching on everything from Enneagram personality types, to TikTok videos, code-switching, and alcohol consumption, Rachelle raises important questions about authenticity, personal identity, and self-discovery.

Full of existential questions, and with an emphasis on the importance of setting boundaries, this episode tackles everything from grief to purpose, and offers ample opportunity to reflect and experiment, so you can more confidently remember Who You Are.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Take time to reflect on who you are when you are alone.
Take time to reflect on the main relationships in your life (children, partner, parents, friends, pets, etc.) and who you are in them.
Who are you the most You with?
If you are changing for relationships: Are you changing because of a level of appropriateness (work vs. social)? Or are you changing your identity?
If you've lost yourself take time to journal: Who, what, where, when, why?

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July 5, 2023 || 32 Minutes

What Are You Missing About Forgiveness?

Wed, 28 Jun 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 13 : What Are You Missing About Forgiveness?

In this week's deeply introspective episode, Rachelle dares you to delve into a world beyond surface-level forgiveness, but don't worry, she won't leave you in the deep end alone!

Listen in, with a pen and paper in hand, and join her in answering potent, life-changing questions as she shares her personal insights on inner-child work, gratitude, and acceptance.

This episode emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and patience in the ongoing journey of forgiveness, and promises to offer you multiple pathways to actively work with it's transformative power.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Write down the things you would like to forgive others for.
Write down the things that you would like to be forgiven for.
Write down what you would like to forgive yourself for.
When you think you're finished, write 3 more things.
Dive deeper: Can you forgive the Universe? Can you forgive God?
How can you help the process of forgiveness? Meditation, journaling (free write until the ego gives up and the heart takes over, and gentle movement (walking, yoga, stretching)

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June 28, 2023 || 29 Minutes

Are You Taking on Pain to Keep Others From Discomfort?

Wed, 21 Jun 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 12 : Are You Taking on Pain to Keep Others From Discomfort?

In this week's episode, Rachelle asks the penetrating question, "Are you taking on pain to keep others from discomfort?". Beginning with a gripping personal story of sustaining an injury during a massage, she shares how that experience inspired her to take a look at this lesson.

Throughout the episode Rachelle uncovers heartbreaking examples of individuals enduring physical pain and discomfort to avoid inconveniencing or hurting others.

Reflecting on how societal gender expectations prime us to put others first, Rachelle breaks down how that differs for men and women, and explores childhood patterns that uncover some of the reasons we can't (or don't) stand up for ourselves.

Be sure to listen until the end where Rachelle shares a compelling experiment that just might remind you to reclaim your voice, honor your worth, and assert your needs and desires!

You are the hero of your story.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

You need to matter the most to yourself. You are the hero of your own story!

Are you putting myself in pain for others? How?: Change begins with awareness

Why are you putting yourself in pain for others? : Societal pressures? Childhood patterns?

Self-Love, Self-Worth, and Self-Confidence are key to retraining our brain to believe that our physical safety, our physical comfort, is more important than how somebody else feels.

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June 21, 2023 || 24 Minutes

Is Your Dream Holding You Back?

Wed, 14 Jun 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 11 : Is Your Dream Holding You Back?

This week Rachelle takes us on a journey sharing the true price of getting your dreams "at any cost". She bravely and boldly explores the host of reasons we may not reach our dreams, and explains why it's ok to pivot.

Listen in as she breaks down the narrative we've been sold through society, entertainment, and media, that we have to put everything into one dream, and challenge yourself to lean into your creativity and agility.

Learn to embrace the wisdom gained through failures and step more authentically into your choices... which might even mean embracing a new dream.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

It is ok to give up on a dream
When thinking about your dream ask yourself: What are you willing to sacrifice? What is your family willing to sacrifice? Am I open to other dreams...to different dreams?
Masculine tells us to push, work to exhaustion, sacrifice anything to get to a dream, which can lead us down dead ends, and keep us closed off to new pathways of success.
Feminine says, "this is what I want, but I'm open to how I get there." Offering creative solutions, flexibility, and agility
Take into consideration if it is your goal, or if it was put into your head by someone/where else? (society? partner? parent? culture? religion?)
Reframe "failures" as "pivots"
Make a list of how you'll know when you've achieved your dream: Define what success looks like and feels like, so you know when you've reached that place

Are you willing to throw in. Your entire life savings, is that safe? Is that healthy

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June 14, 2023 || 22 Minutes

What Rewards Does This Season Have For You?

Wed, 07 Jun 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 10 : What Rewards Does This Season Have For You?

Welcome to SUMMER!!!

This week is all about embracing the energy of the season: Living in abundance and enjoying excess!

It doesn't have to cost a thing to indulge in the benefits of Summer, Every.Single.Day, all Summer long. So, tune in for an enthusiastic reminder not to be afraid of the good things coming your way, as Rachelle takes us from "Guilty Rest" to "Fun in the Sun"!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Are you giving yourself time to take a break?
Embrace the energy of the season: Indulge, enjoy, and rest
Rest is not a reward. It's essential.
Everything should be done in moderation...including moderation, so embrace abundance and enjoy living in excess

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June 7, 2023 || 27 Minutes

You First Have To Be Your Own Mochaccino

Wed, 31 May 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 9 : You First Have To Be Your Own Mochaccino

Listen in this week to hear Rachelle explain what her clients say is the piece of wisdom they most share with friends and family, The Cup of Coffee Theory.

Whether you apply this lesson to friendship, romantic partnership or beyond, Rachelle teaches us the power and freedom that comes with healing our wounds and saving ourselves, so we can let go of expectations, stop looking for external validation, and more deeply enjoy our relationships with others.

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We need to be our own full cup of coffee (warm, satisfying and perfectly delicious all on our own), so that when someone comes and offers us whipped cream (themselves) we can simply *enjoy* the addition to our already full cup
You cannot love somebody into loving themselves.
There is not enough coffee in anybody's mug to make up for a lack in another's, so be wary of getting into a relationship with someone who only has half a cup
The most successful and happy couples are not trying to save each other, they are enjoying each other
If you save someone over and over again they do not develop the tools to do it for themselves

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May 31, 2023 || 26 Minutes

Breaking Up With The Nice Guy

Wed, 24 May 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 8: Breaking Up With The Nice Guy

This week Rachelle checks in with an episode all about the TikTok video that made her go viral!

After 14 million views, and a comment section FULL of people asking, "Why did you break up with the nice guy?!" Rachelle openly and compassionately addresses the nuances of her personal story while journeying through a multitude of other reasons "why".

Discussing everything from values, desires, and childhood wounds to non-negotiables stemming from culture and religion, this conversation promises to make you feel seen, and may even help you define what you are (or aren't) willing to compromise for in a partnership.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Feelings of Embarrassment, Guilt, or Shame (especially when leaving someone who is good to us) are just some of the reasons we get stuck in something that isn't right for us long term.
Somebody can be a wonderful person who is great to you and still not be the right partner for you.
You can compromise yourself out of happiness : Toxic Compromise
Defining your values, priorities and desires will help ground you into decisions and stay aimed toward gratitude.
Time, (LOTS of) Communication, and Clear Boundaries are the cornerstones for being able to stay friends with an Ex.

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May 24, 2023 || 28 Minutes

Are you allowing the shithead in you?

Wed, 17 May 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 7 : Are you allowing the shithead in you?

This week Rachelle asks the question, "Are you allowing yourself to be a shithead, or are you so focused on perfection that you miss being in the present moment?"

She walks through how addiction to wellness practices (retreats, workshops, self-help books, bettering ourselves) can develop, and how that has potential to lead us into toxic positivity, taking us away from our authentic selves.

Challenging the narrative that the inner work is guiding us to our "highest self", Rachelle offers permission to put it all down, stop putting happiness on the other side of a wall, and embrace your enough-ness.

This episode is full of opportunities to build awareness and resiliency by peeling back the layers of armor, so you can get closer to your authentic self and embrace the shithead in you!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Are you addicted to doing inner-work?
By denying or rejecting our humanness (being shitheads!) and seeking perfection, we sabotage our ability to show up authentically in the present moment.
Time away from "the work" helps remind us that we can handle things as we are, and have a chance to implement the tools learned.
By defining and focusing on 1-4 things (max) to work on, we learn to let some habits slide to make space for others
The purpose of inner-work isn't to make us more enlightened or worthy, but rather to expose and embrace our humanness so we can get closer to our authentic selves

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May 17, 2023 || 21 Minutes

Finding Home

Wed, 10 May 2023 06:55:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 6 : Finding Home

"This is not an episode with Answers. This is an episode with questions" -Rachelle Indra

In this week's episode Rachelle gets raw! Staying close to the heart Rachelle asks the thought-provoking and sometimes gut-wrenching question "What IS home?". She takes us on a journey through her musings, from her childhood expectations due to societal promises, to pre-covid desires, and finally to where she is now.

Rachelle offers her experience on discerning what is "Home" vs. "Familiarity", and how she leans into what feels right, true, grounded, and settled even during times of transition. Say "Fuck It" to cliches and indulge in exploring the true meaning of finding Home inside yourself despite pain, overwhelm, and trauma.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

*Listed below are a handful of the powerful and thought-provoking questions discussed in the episode

What is Home? A Person? A Place? A Feeling?
Can you exist in two places at once? By falling in love and finding happiness in multiple places, will we always leave pieces of our heart behind? If home is both places, which one is real?
Is it safe to put your heart in another person or place? What happens during times of transition?
Listening to the signs and messages from the Universe will guide us back Home, even (maybe especially) when our ego is telling us to stick to a plan

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May 10, 2023 || 30 Minutes

What Do You Emotionally Want To Plant This Spring?

Wed, 03 May 2023 14:55:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 5: What Do You Emotionally Want To Plant This Spring?

In this episode Rachelle describes how to harness the benefits of Seasonal energies. She shares about living in alignment with those cycles and how each Season prepares us for the next.

We learn the importance of having hobbies as an adult, why we don't (or feel we can't) have them, and get a gentle reminder of the natural desire we had as children to explore and play!

Weaving hard-hitting and thought-provoking questions throughout the episode, Rachelle challenges the "its not good enough" narrative and encourages us to lean into what the Universe has in store.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

What do you want to grow in your life?
What is something new you want to purposefully put into your life? (Hobbies? Habits?)
Hobbies are something we do just for us. Enjoy the process! Enjoy the Doing!!!
Can you see what the Universe has planted for you? Can you see where it's planted you?
Now is the time to trust the gardener, whether that's You or The Universe.

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May 3, 2023 || 17 Minutes

Right Gift, Wrong Package

Wed, 26 Apr 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 4 : Right Gift , Wrong Package

In this episode, Rachelle gets vulnerable!

Join in as she discusses how linear thinking offers ample opportunity for reflection, and the true understanding of "everything happens for a reason" (despite it not always being pretty). Sharing stories of grief, unmet expectations, and disappointments Rachelle reflects on how those unexpected moments turned out to be exactly what was needed.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Let your tears out. Crying is truth, authenticity, and emotions leaving the body
Take the time to reflect on periods in your life where you got what you needed in a way that you didn't want or expect.
If you look at the progression of your life in a linear way (one thing continuously happening after another rather than processing everything as separate events), there is rich opportunity to reflect on how these beautiful gifts arrived in unexpected ways

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April 26, 2023 || 19 Minutes

The European Dating Episode

Wed, 19 Apr 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 3 : The European Dating Episode

This episode is Fun, with a capital F!! Rachelle takes you on her adventures through dating, and gets raw when answering the question, "Why date around Europe?!"

Listen in to hear her thoughtfully express the joys and the setbacks of traveling in your 40's, her love of all things culture, and how she experienced the differences between countries; from languages, food, and units of measurement to education around sexual health, relationships, and social norms. All the while exploring how those differences both enriched her experience and made for funny faux pas along the way!

Rachelle wraps it up with a mind-blowing analogy about Tea and Consent that you won't want to miss!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Learning more languages opens new pathways to different ways of thinking
Same with learning new cultures!!
Relationship Education is just as important as Sexual Education
Consent is like Tea ( https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8 )

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April 19, 2023 || 55 Minutes

What's The Right Word?

Wed, 12 Apr 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 2: What's the Right Word?

Good, Fine, Bad, OK...

This might be a shorter episode, but it packs a big punch! Rachelle takes you on a deep dive into those bullsh!t words, why we use them, and how they might be keeping you from true intimacy not only with others, but also yourself.

Listen in to hear just how to identify, examine, and replace filler words in your own life, giving permission and guidance to everyone you interact with to deepen their own relationship with the language around feeling.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Develop awareness for how often we reply with a BS word
Discern who has access to the authentic answer vs. a superficial answer
What is the feeling behind a numbed out answer? Are you taking time to define emotions for yourself? Are you checking in with YOU?
For a comprehensive encyclopedia of feelings check out "Atlas of the Heart: Mapping meaningful connections and the language of the human experience" By: Brené Brown

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April 12, 2023 || 19 Minutes

Do You Need To Hibernate?

Wed, 05 Apr 2023 07:00:00 +0000

Season 2 Episode 1: Do You Need To Hibernate?

We are back for season two🎉

I left you all right as I was about to embark on a solo adventure for three months in Europe. In this episode, we unpack how I thought it would go versus what happened, what it’s been like since I returned, and what hibernation means in the seasons of our lives.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

Tending to the seasons of life: Letting go in fall, hibernating in winter, planting it in the spring, the vibrancy of the summer, and then the return of the fall and shedding
When the seasons make it so we cannot go outside, we go within to be in the stillness
Seasonal depression - looking at what’s underneath + the patterns that emerge

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Apr 3, 2023 || 31 minutes

Toxic Compromise

Mon, 27 Jun 2022 10:00:00 +0000

Society tells us all the time that to have a healthy relationship with our friends, family, coworkers and certainly in romantic partnership, you have to compromise. Unfortunately, no one teaches us what true compromise is and nobody teaches us how to compromise correctly. Today, Rachelle does just that. She opens up about her own experiences with toxic compromise and shares some common compromise dos and don’ts. Remember, in order for something to be true compromise, both parties must give something.

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

Rachelle’s impending plans
Rachelle’s personal relationship with toxic compromise
Toxic compromise vs. true compromise
Things you do not need to compromise on
How to identify toxic compromise

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Setting Boundaries with Others

Mon, 20 Jun 2022 10:00:00 +0000

We’ve all heard about the importance of setting boundaries, but have you ever been given a list of ways to do so? Today, Rachelle reminds us the importance of determining our own boundaries before sharing some effective ways to set boundaries with friends, family, co-workers and partners. She also points out that even the firmest of boundaries will sometimes be crossed. We can never change how others behave, but there is freedom in the fact that we, ourselves, always reserve the right to change.

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

Being aware of your own boundaries
Forewarning others that they may need to set boundaries with you
Remembering that even firm boundaries will be crossed
Some effective ways to deliver boundaries
Finding the freedom in having the power to change

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Website: rachelleindra.com

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

Mystery Episode

Mon, 13 Jun 2022 10:00:00 +0000

Do you know what’s healthy, free, promotes relaxation, leads to better sleep, reduces stress, clears up acne, helps raise libido, and more?! No, not meditation…It’s MASTURBATION! In this episode, Rachelle initiates the much needed conversation about masturbation. She dives deep into her personal history with masturbation and how she owes it to her parents for her healthy relationship with it in adulthood. She also suggests those who don’t masturbate to inquire why and encourages those within relationships to talk openly with their partners about it. It’s truly sad that something most every human does–and deeply enjoys–is such a taboo topic. So let’s talk about masturbation!

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

The problem with men determining what female self-care looks like
The gender double standard of masturbation
Some tips for educating children about masturbation
Why you and your partner should talk about masturbation

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Instagram: @coachrachelleindra
Website: rachelleindra.com

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

Co-CEOs of Your Family

Mon, 06 Jun 2022 10:00:00 +0000

While traditional gender roles continue to fade, it’s becoming more and more important to have conversations about which tasks you and the partner you live with are responsible for. In this episode, Rachelle talks about the role that clear division of labor plays in cultivating a well-run household and avoiding resentment. Having these conversations can be nerve wracking and challenging, but the strongest partners–or co-CEOs–do it early and often.

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

The importance of allocating roles when you live with your partner
How actually making a list of who has been doing what often paints a different picture than the one in our minds
Remembering that some family tasks take more time and energy than others
Why many of us hesitant to ask for more help

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Instagram: @coachrachelleindra
Website: rachelleindra.com

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

The Elephant Story: Revisiting the Formative Years

Mon, 30 May 2022 10:00:00 +0000

As humans, our entire personality–including the way we give and receive love–forms by the time we’re five years old. On today’s episode, Rachelle explains why it is so important for us to revisit these formative years. Whether it’s talking to our parents, siblings, or friends, we need to question the life lessons we learn in our youth, or we’re subject to living our lives like trained elephants: unaware that the “chains” of our childhood no longer exist, and that we’re actually able to run free.

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

The reasons it’s important to always ask “why”
How our whole personalities are developed by age five
The dismantling of our parents being gods
Why we should question all of our childhood “truths”
The power of non-verbal communication

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Website: rachelleindra.com

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

Needle in a Haystack. Or You're Settling.

Mon, 23 May 2022 10:00:00 +0000

From a very early age, society sells us the idea that a woman’s happiness must come from being in a relationship. The social and economic framework of the western world is built off of this idea. Today, Rachelle explains why these notions are simply untrue, and how they lead many of us to settle for less than what we deserve.

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

How society sells women the idea that they need a relationship to be happy
Why you shouldn’t compromise too much to simply be in a relationship
Asking for things that you can give in a relationship
Why it’s okay to ask for a partner who can give you as much as you give them
Being willing to wait for a partner that meets your wants and needs, and being okay if that partner never comes

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Instagram: @coachrachelleindra
Website: rachelleindra.com

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

Can You Get Your Needs Met in Another Way?

Mon, 16 May 2022 10:00:00 +0000

From an early age, pop culture programs you to believe that all of your needs will be met within a romantic relationship. But your partner cannot, and will not, meet all of them. So where are your needs getting met? In this episode, Rachelle helps you identify your needs, and reminds you that even sexual needs can be met in a variety of ways.

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

How 90’s rom-coms made us believe we need a romantic partner to feel complete
A discussion of some common personal needs to help you identify yours
The role non-romantic relationships play in getting your needs met
Determining which needs you can meet yourself
The dangers of relying on your partner to fill your cup

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Instagram: @coachrachelleindra
Website: rachelleindra.com

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

What’s Your Emotional Home?

Mon, 09 May 2022 10:00:00 +0000

We all have that emotion, that feeling we default to in most situations. And as much as some of us would like to think that emotion is joy or peace…more often than not it’s anxiety, fear, loneliness. Well, today Rachelle dives into that very subject and shares all about our emotional homes. Listen to learn the neuroscience behind how our emotional homes were created, how to figure out what yours is, and learn some practical tools for rewiring your brain and making your emotional home something that brings you joy.

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

What your emotional home is, why it matters, and how to find yours
How our emotional homes are often birthed out of coping mechanisms and childhood trauma
The neuroscience behind your emotional home
Getting into your body to tap into your emotions
How to start making conscious choices about how you want to feel

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Instagram: @coachrachelleindra
Website: rachelleindra.com

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

There Are No Bad People, Just Unhealthy Tools

Mon, 02 May 2022 10:00:00 +0000

Contrary to popular belief, bad people don’t exist. That’s just a message we’ve been told by society, but it doesn’t get to the root of the problem. It doesn't ask the right question: why do people do hurtful things? Well today on the show, Rachelle dives into this topic and more. She shares why we’ve been taught these moral binaries in the first place, why so many of us feel like we’re bad people, and how to start unlearning these beliefs in order to be healthier humans and see people as more than just “good” or bad”.

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

Why there’s no such thing as a bad person
Unlearning our cultural ideas around morality
Why we need to understand the unhealthy tools behind people’s hurtful behavior
How society, religion, and our childhoods ingrained “good” and “bad” binaries in us
A practical exercise for undoing this unhelpful thinking

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This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

Society Needs You to Be a Bad Mom

Mon, 25 Apr 2022 10:02:00 +0000

No one judges mothers more than other mothers. And that’s just how society wants it. Today on the show, Rachelle dives into the totally-not-controversial subject of parenting, and why society has a vested interest in keeping all moms (and dads!) full of shame around how they raise their kids. Listen as she shares her own personal experience with mom shame, how society makes money off you doubting your abilities, and how to break out of the cycle of projecting our own guilt and shame onto the other mothers around us.

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

Why society wants you to feel like a bad mom
How we project our parental shame onto other mothers
Finding freedom to parent in the way that feels aligned with your values
Why only good moms worry about being a bad mom

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This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

Keeping Your Word to Yourself

Mon, 25 Apr 2022 10:00:00 +0000

Everybody likes to talk about creating boundaries with the people around you, but what about creating boundaries with yourself? In this introductory episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School, Rachelle doesn’t mess around and gets straight to the good stuff. Today she shares all about the importance of internal boundary building and why society actually wants you to have no boundaries at all. Plus, listen to get some practical tips on how to start creating them so you can live your fullest life.

In this episode of The Shit They Should’ve Taught Us In School:

The importance of creating boundaries with yourself
Why society has a vested interest in you not having boundaries
Where our childhoods may play into our lack of boundary-making
How those in power benefit from keeping you unhappy
Tips for starting to create healthy boundaries in your life

Follow Rachelle:

Instagram: @coachrachelleindra
Website: rachelleindra.com

Resources:

The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer

This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

The Sh*t They Should've Taught Us In School - The Trailer

Mon, 18 Apr 2022 15:57:08 +0000

Rachelle Indra is a life coach with a focus in neuro-linguistic programming (AKA she helps your brain work for you, not against you) and she’s here to share with you the valuable shit we should have been learning!

Not everyone has the time or resources to gain access to the help they need but everyone DESERVES to have these tools. So, episode by episode, she’ll dig into actionable ways to break down complicated terms + philosophies into fun, funny, and approachable ideas that are digestible and easy to implement.