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]]> episodic no Arjuna Perkins gentlemanthepod@gmail.com no full Male Performance Anxiety - How I Deal With It Male Performance Anxiety - How I Deal With It 26 Arjuna Perkins Audio from the YouTube video - watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gtVSKVI5nAY

The typical response to men experiencing performance anxiety is "deal with it! Take pills. Study Tantra. It's your problem." Today's rumination is all about whether we have to take responsibility for our performance at all. Intimacy should be about celebrating - and not judging - each other's pleasure. This offers a different way of working with it.

Apologies for the audio issues. I'm still ironing out my setup with OBS. You'd think it would be simple, but... apparently it isn't.

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]]> <p>Audio from the YouTube video - watch here: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gtVSKVI5nAY" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gtVSKVI5nAY</a></p><p>The typical response to men experiencing performance anxiety is &#34;deal with it! Take pills. Study Tantra. It&#39;s your problem.&#34; Today&#39;s rumination is all about whether we have to take responsibility for our performance at all. Intimacy should be about celebrating - and not judging - each other&#39;s pleasure. This offers a different way of working with it.</p><p>Apologies for the audio issues. I&#39;m still ironing out my setup with OBS. You&#39;d think it would be simple, but... apparently it isn&#39;t.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</a></p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</a></p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</a></p><p><a href="https://gentlemanpodcast.org/" rel="nofollow">https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</a></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 8751a070-bca7-43c7-b86b-d415874d1355 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Sat, 02 Aug 2025 22:31:32 +0000 2773 yes full The Male Loneliness Epidemic - Causes and Solutions The Male Loneliness Epidemic - Causes and Solutions 24 Arjuna Perkins It’s official – men are in a loneliness epidemic. Equimundo recently published its “State Of

American Men 2023” report, showcasing some alarming statistics related to men’s social and mental health. Some of the most striking statistics: 

40% of all men show depressive symptoms; 44% of all men had thoughts of suicide in the prior two weeks; 65% of men aged 18 to 23 say that “no one really knows me well” ;  48% say their online lives are more engaging and rewarding than their offline lives ; and almost 30% of younger men reported not spending time with someone outside their household in the past week.

Find the full report here: https://www.equimundo.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/STATE-OF-AMERICAN-MEN-2023.pdf

There are so many reasons for this, some of which are covered in the episode: men are lacking the soft skills (relational skills) that would help them build social infrastructures that support their wellbeing. Today’s discussion covers how this hurts men, especially when things take a turn for the worse in their lives, and how men can proactively address this. Men need to get better at finding and growing emotionally deep and resilient relationships.

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This episode references a previous episode, "Men's Groups - Why They're Critical to Everyone's Wellbeing". Listen to that here:

https://pod.fo/e/20ec84

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]]> <p><span>It’s official – men are in a loneliness epidemic. Equimundo recently published its “State Of</span></p><p><span>American Men 2023” report, showcasing some alarming statistics related to men’s social and mental health. Some of the most striking statistics: </span></p><p><span>40% of all men show depressive symptoms; 44% of all men had thoughts of suicide in the prior two weeks; 65% of men aged 18 to 23 say that “no one really knows me well” ;  48% say their online lives are more engaging and rewarding than their offline lives ; and almost 30% of younger men reported not spending time with someone outside their household in the past week.</span></p><p><span>Find the full report here: </span><a href="https://www.equimundo.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/STATE-OF-AMERICAN-MEN-2023.pdf" rel="nofollow">https://www.equimundo.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/05/STATE-OF-AMERICAN-MEN-2023.pdf</a></p><p><span>There are so many reasons for this, some of which are covered in the episode: men are lacking the soft skills (relational skills) that would help them build social infrastructures that support their wellbeing. Today’s discussion covers how this hurts men, especially when things take a turn for the worse in their lives, and how men can proactively address this. Men need to get better at finding and growing emotionally deep and resilient relationships.</span></p><p><span>--</span></p><p>This episode references a previous episode, &#34;Men&#39;s Groups - Why They&#39;re Critical to Everyone&#39;s Wellbeing&#34;. Listen to that here:</p><p>https://pod.fo/e/20ec84</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p><p><br></p><p><br></p> 9e1dde25-6769-4bbf-8fe0-3bf36fa74567 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Thu, 28 Dec 2023 05:50:07 +0000 2544 no full Videogames and their Role in Male Violence - Robin Nelson Videogames and their Role in Male Violence - Robin Nelson 23 Arjuna Perkins Gentle Man is proud this week to host a longtime collaborator, Robin Nelson. Robin is a podcaster and lifelong enjoyer of videogames. We discuss videogames and their role (if any) in perpetuating real-life violence. We examine how gaming intersected our other childhood influences and the role it plays in our adult lives. Robin also explores gun ownership and how gaming fostered that interest in him. This conversation is a critical meditation on the role that outside and media influences play on male violence.

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]]> <p>Gentle Man is proud this week to host a longtime collaborator, Robin Nelson. Robin is a podcaster and lifelong enjoyer of videogames. We discuss videogames and their role (if any) in perpetuating real-life violence. We examine how gaming intersected our other childhood influences and the role it plays in our adult lives. Robin also explores gun ownership and how gaming fostered that interest in him. This conversation is a critical meditation on the role that outside and media influences play on male violence.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 1dac4090-4e66-458f-bf71-47ce0c6b5f21 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Wed, 20 Dec 2023 17:00:00 +0000 3289 yes full Men's Anxiety is a Mask for Other Emotions with Shura Eagen, MS, LPC Men's Anxiety is a Mask for Other Emotions with Shura Eagen, MS, LPC 22 Arjuna Perkins Today I’m thrilled to share my conversation with Shura Eagen, MS, LPC. Shura is a licensed therapist who works with men on a daily basis in a number of applied modalities. I invited her on the show to talk about the common issues she sees coming up for the men she works with. We discuss how men often experience unknown emotions as “anxiety”, and that befriending the sensations - rather than fixing them - is the way forward. We discuss the dynamics of partners in the home, dating in the age of digital loneliness, and raising children with more opportunity to play and find their self expression.

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Shura Eagen has a master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with an emphasis in Somatic Psychology through Prescott College. She has completed advanced training in trauma-informed Hakomi Mindfulness-based Somatic Psychotherapy and Experiential Attachment Psychotherapy through the M.E.T.A. Institute in Portland, OR. In 2020, she became a level I AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy) therapist, and her current focus in working with her clients is breathwork. Find Shura and learn more about her offerings at

https://www.luminousheartwellness.org/

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]]> <p>Today I’m thrilled to share my conversation with Shura Eagen, MS, LPC. Shura is a licensed therapist who works with men on a daily basis in a number of applied modalities. I invited her on the show to talk about the common issues she sees coming up for the men she works with. We discuss how men often experience unknown emotions as “anxiety”, and that befriending the sensations - rather than fixing them - is the way forward. We discuss the dynamics of partners in the home, dating in the age of digital loneliness, and raising children with more opportunity to play and find their self expression.</p><p>--</p><p>Shura Eagen has a master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with an emphasis in Somatic Psychology through Prescott College. She has completed advanced training in trauma-informed Hakomi Mindfulness-based Somatic Psychotherapy and Experiential Attachment Psychotherapy through the M.E.T.A. Institute in Portland, OR. In 2020, she became a level I AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy) therapist, and her current focus in working with her clients is breathwork. Find Shura and learn more about her offerings at</p><p><a href="https://www.luminousheartwellness.org/" rel="nofollow">https://www.luminousheartwellness.org/</a></p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> a204b7af-3709-4172-98fe-8e4e5bc03869 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Wed, 13 Dec 2023 22:52:00 +0000 4264 no full The Myth of Male Polarity - David Deida is Full of Crap The Myth of Male Polarity - David Deida is Full of Crap 21 Arjuna Perkins Today we are discussing the (what should be) controversial topic of male polarity. This is a theory popularized by David Deida that states that masculine and feminine energies must be balanced and opposite to create attraction between people. In his book "The Way of the Superior Man" and through his teachings, David outlines how people can improve their relationships and their sex lives by adhering to the behavioral guidelines of the polarity they're trying to achieve. In this episode we cover why these teachings are problematic and how they are essentially a New Age repackaging of old patriarchal ideals. We also cover alternate teachings and theories that provide much more useful and realistic blueprints for people trying to grow or preserve intimacy in their relationships.

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Esther Perel's article "In Long-Term Relationships, When Do You Find Yourself Most Drawn to Your Partner?"

https://www.estherperel.com/blog/when-are-you-drawn-to-your-partner-in-long-term-relationships

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]]> <p>Today we are discussing the (what should be) controversial topic of male polarity. This is a theory popularized by David Deida that states that masculine and feminine energies must be balanced and opposite to create attraction between people. In his book &#34;The Way of the Superior Man&#34; and through his teachings, David outlines how people can improve their relationships and their sex lives by adhering to the behavioral guidelines of the polarity they&#39;re trying to achieve. In this episode we cover why these teachings are problematic and how they are essentially a New Age repackaging of old patriarchal ideals. We also cover alternate teachings and theories that provide much more useful and realistic blueprints for people trying to grow or preserve intimacy in their relationships.</p><p>--</p><p>Esther Perel&#39;s article &#34;In Long-Term Relationships, When Do You Find Yourself Most Drawn to Your Partner?&#34;</p><p>https://www.estherperel.com/blog/when-are-you-drawn-to-your-partner-in-long-term-relationships</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 94af7884-fc7c-4d11-95d5-cbe30679dde7 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Wed, 29 Nov 2023 23:55:37 +0000 2083 no full Inhabiting the Male Body - Why Many Men Feel Constricted Inhabiting the Male Body - Why Many Men Feel Constricted 20 Arjuna Perkins The rigidness of expectation on male behavior from our culture is mirrored in the rigidness in the bodies of men. We internalize messages about how we’re supposed to hold ourselves and act, and these messages literally shape our bodies. It can take a lifetime to assess and address the implications of this. When we are held back from expressing our authentic desires, we restrict the flow of our life’s force. When we allow social expectations to limit our behavior, we stifle vital parts of ourselves. This episode identifies areas in which this commonly happens for men and outlines strategies for giving ourselves more freedom.

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]]> <p>The rigidness of expectation on male behavior from our culture is mirrored in the rigidness in the bodies of men. We internalize messages about how we’re supposed to hold ourselves and act, and these messages literally shape our bodies. It can take a lifetime to assess and address the implications of this. When we are held back from expressing our authentic desires, we restrict the flow of our life’s force. When we allow social expectations to limit our behavior, we stifle vital parts of ourselves. This episode identifies areas in which this commonly happens for men and outlines strategies for giving ourselves more freedom.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 3a223179-3f23-42b6-be35-e64dcfe4b5ea https://gentlemanpodcast.org Tue, 14 Nov 2023 02:25:00 +0000 2423 no full How Shame Harms Men & 6 Ways To Overcome It How Shame Harms Men & 6 Ways To Overcome It 19 2 Arjuna Perkins Shame is one of the deepest challenges men face and one of the strongest reinforcing elements defining gender roles in culture. From the moment we are born and continuing on into our lives, we are exposed to shaming by our parents, siblings, peers, romantic partners and coworkers. Shame is so pernicious because it often lurks internalized in our own psyches – we may not even be aware of the original external motive that informed our negative internal dialogues. The amount of restrictions that shame places on men consciously and unconsciously is monumental. Working through shame gives men greater access to the things they often want: success in dating and their careers, and the esteem of their peers. This episode outlines many of the ways in which shame gets instilled in us, and then supplies 6 tools and approaches for working through it.

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https://pod.fo/e/1ebd65

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]]> <p>Shame is one of the deepest challenges men face and one of the strongest reinforcing elements defining gender roles in culture. From the moment we are born and continuing on into our lives, we are exposed to shaming by our parents, siblings, peers, romantic partners and coworkers. Shame is so pernicious because it often lurks internalized in our own psyches – we may not even be aware of the original external motive that informed our negative internal dialogues. The amount of restrictions that shame places on men consciously and unconsciously is monumental. Working through shame gives men greater access to the things they often want: success in dating and their careers, and the esteem of their peers. This episode outlines many of the ways in which shame gets instilled in us, and then supplies 6 tools and approaches for working through it.</p><p>--</p><p>This episode references a previous episode, &#34;Male Body Dysmorphia - It Probably Affects You&#34;. Listen to that here:</p><p>https://pod.fo/e/1ebd65</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 0ee2cb8a-7f6a-41d5-a2c7-702f6e559768 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Fri, 03 Nov 2023 21:42:00 +0000 3282 no full Why Men Feel Afraid to Share Affection & What To Do About It Why Men Feel Afraid to Share Affection & What To Do About It 18 2 Arjuna Perkins Affection is something adult men often struggle to share with each other. We may feel comfortable showing it towards the women in our lives, whether it’s our spouses or kids or other female relatives. But many men, even those who are close in friendship or share familial ties, are loath to share much physical or verbal affection with other men. Many factors go into this, such as a pervasive culture of homophobia, memory of traumatic harm at the hands of other men, and lack of sufficient role modeling in the culture at large. In this episode we explore the challenge and suggest strategies for getting more male affection in your life.

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]]> <p>Affection is something adult men often struggle to share with each other. We may feel comfortable showing it towards the women in our lives, whether it’s our spouses or kids or other female relatives. But many men, even those who are close in friendship or share familial ties, are loath to share much physical or verbal affection with other men. Many factors go into this, such as a pervasive culture of homophobia, memory of traumatic harm at the hands of other men, and lack of sufficient role modeling in the culture at large. In this episode we explore the challenge and suggest strategies for getting more male affection in your life.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 7ef94494-48fc-4a95-bc1f-193364028b00 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Thu, 26 Oct 2023 03:18:00 +0000 1635 no full Men's Wellness & What DNA Dictates with Sage Liskey Men's Wellness & What DNA Dictates with Sage Liskey 17 2 Arjuna Perkins In this episode, we’re honored to bring an interview with Sage Liskey, activist author and founder of Rad Cat Press. His work for the last many years has focused on wellness in many forms. Today’s conversation focuses on men’s wellness, from finding community to being in more direct conversation about changing gender roles. We explore reflections on dating in a contemporary feminist climate and discuss how education could better serve children and young boys. Sage has a wealth of knowledge on wellness that goes all the way down to the genetic level.

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Sage Liskey is an Oregon-born author, artist, designer, poet, event organizer, and public speaker. He is the founder of the Rad Cat Press and writes books about uplifting lives and reimagining society. His works include You're A Snarky Darkness, Radical Self-Care, and You Are A Great And Powerful Wizard.

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]]> <p>In this episode, we’re honored to bring an interview with Sage Liskey, activist author and founder of Rad Cat Press. His work for the last many years has focused on wellness in many forms. Today’s conversation focuses on men’s wellness, from finding community to being in more direct conversation about changing gender roles. We explore reflections on dating in a contemporary feminist climate and discuss how education could better serve children and young boys. Sage has a wealth of knowledge on wellness that goes all the way down to the genetic level.</p><p>--</p><p>Sage Liskey is an Oregon-born author, artist, designer, poet, event organizer, and public speaker. He is the founder of the Rad Cat Press and writes books about uplifting lives and reimagining society. His works include You&#39;re A Snarky Darkness, Radical Self-Care, and You Are A Great And Powerful Wizard.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> fca5289d-91a2-4706-9cf8-776c7fc52dc2 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Fri, 13 Oct 2023 22:29:00 +0000 3492 no full Male Grief - The Lifesaving Medicine of Grieving Male Grief - The Lifesaving Medicine of Grieving 16 2 Arjuna Perkins Men often struggle to grieve. Grief is one of the most basic human impulses and imperatives. Without it, we will always on some level lead tortured or incomplete lives. Women in most cultures are more encouraged to feel and express grief, which helps them to maintain healthy emotional balance. Without this same encouragement and healthy outlet, men can become lonely, alienated and violent. Today’s show discusses the challenges of male grief and suggests some approaches to unlocking it.

Also don’t forget to check out previous episode “Boys Don't Cry - How to Work With Feelings” for some useful tips for men wanting to get into grief: https://pod.fo/e/1e457f

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]]> <p>Men often struggle to grieve. Grief is one of the most basic human impulses and imperatives. Without it, we will always on some level lead tortured or incomplete lives. Women in most cultures are more encouraged to feel and express grief, which helps them to maintain healthy emotional balance. Without this same encouragement and healthy outlet, men can become lonely, alienated and violent. Today’s show discusses the challenges of male grief and suggests some approaches to unlocking it.</p><p>Also don’t forget to check out previous episode “Boys Don&#39;t Cry - How to Work With Feelings” for some useful tips for men wanting to get into grief: <a href="https://pod.fo/e/1e457f" rel="nofollow">https://pod.fo/e/1e457f</a></p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 5897923f-d23f-4a96-a185-e15101365934 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Wed, 04 Oct 2023 01:07:00 +0000 2254 no full Walking - Peer Pressure and Role Modeling in Male Violence Walking - Peer Pressure and Role Modeling in Male Violence 15 2 Arjuna Perkins Some would consider violence to be an innate male trait. Statistics would certainly seem to back up this hypothesis. The nature / nurture debate around this and many other topics related to gender continues. Today’s show focuses on the nurture side of the equation. I see a clear pattern of nurture towards boys and men that drives them in the direction of violence. In this episode I explore some of those patterns, and cover aspects of my own personal story related to male violence.

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]]> <p><span>Some would consider violence to be an innate male trait. Statistics would certainly seem to back up this hypothesis. The nature / nurture debate around this and many other topics related to gender continues. Today’s show focuses on the nurture side of the equation. I see a clear pattern of nurture towards boys and men that drives them in the direction of violence. In this episode I explore some of those patterns, and cover aspects of my own personal story related to male violence.</span></p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> fcb933d8-a48a-49cc-8f92-0d370279c9c1 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Fri, 29 Sep 2023 22:43:25 +0000 1294 no full The Cost of Privilege - Manhood and Monstrosity The Cost of Privilege - Manhood and Monstrosity 14 2 Arjuna Perkins A lot of discussion is given to the cost of privilege for the underprivileged. Less attention has been given to the ill effects of privilege on the privileged. The assumption is often that men enjoy - and benefit from - male privilege. In today's episode I argue otherwise. The ways are numerous in which male privilege separates men and makes them feel like monsters. Many of the things men most need are obscured from them by the very privilege that is purported to make their lives better. A world without privilege is a better world for men, and a better world for everyone.

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]]> <p>A lot of discussion is given to the cost of privilege for the underprivileged. Less attention has been given to the ill effects of privilege on the privileged. The assumption is often that men enjoy - and benefit from - male privilege. In today&#39;s episode I argue otherwise. The ways are numerous in which male privilege separates men and makes them feel like monsters. Many of the things men most need are obscured from them by the very privilege that is purported to make their lives better. A world without privilege is a better world for men, and a better world for everyone.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 08b625d8-217a-40e0-afb1-44a0f5eeacd4 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Tue, 19 Sep 2023 23:36:00 +0000 1917 no full Male Body Dysmorphia - It Probably Affects You Male Body Dysmorphia - It Probably Affects You 13 1 Arjuna Perkins Today the topic is male body dysmorphia - a preoccupation with or a belief that a part of the body is wrong or ugly. Men commonly struggle with dysmorphias related to their height, musculature, penis size, hair and other parts of the body. These are conditioned insecurities that rest upon a deep foundation of cultural expectations around what men should be and do. Today we explore these dysmorphias and how we can begin to understand and address them.

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]]> <p>Today the topic is male body dysmorphia - a preoccupation with or a belief that a part of the body is wrong or ugly. Men commonly struggle with dysmorphias related to their height, musculature, penis size, hair and other parts of the body. These are conditioned insecurities that rest upon a deep foundation of cultural expectations around what men should be and do. Today we explore these dysmorphias and how we can begin to understand and address them.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> cf72919b-b503-492a-9054-f2b26352e143 https://gentlemanpodcast.net/ Thu, 07 Sep 2023 22:19:39 +0000 1972 no full Walking - Self Care and why Men Need More of It Walking - Self Care and why Men Need More of It 12 2 Arjuna Perkins Self care is near the top of the list of things men struggle with. We are raised in a culture that tells us we don't need it, and when it is clear that we do need it, we don't know how to do it. From going to the doctor, taking downtime and relaxing, having emotionally supportive conversations with friends – men struggle to do even these basic activities. As a result, men are more prone to negative behaviors and self harming behavior. This episode talks about these challenges and suggests some ways for men to get proactive about self care.

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]]> <p>Self care is near the top of the list of things men struggle with. We are raised in a culture that tells us we don&#39;t need it, and when it is clear that we do need it, we don&#39;t know how to do it. From going to the doctor, taking downtime and relaxing, having emotionally supportive conversations with friends – men struggle to do even these basic activities. As a result, men are more prone to negative behaviors and self harming behavior. This episode talks about these challenges and suggests some ways for men to get proactive about self care.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 0acd2f68-7623-4d21-9392-1bd3f81e4493 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Tue, 29 Aug 2023 23:08:08 +0000 1097 no full Walking - The Pressure on Men to Work and Produce Walking - The Pressure on Men to Work and Produce 11 2 Arjuna Perkins Society is flush with the implication that men have to work, or produce something of value, in order to be respected as men. The idea of man as a machine of production has been around long before the industrial revolution – it likely dates back as far as the advent of agrarian culture, and perhaps further. As such, men are raised with the implicit imperative that they must work hard and be successful in order to be worthy. When men lose their livelihood or sense of purpose, it can come as a huge blow to their self esteem.

This episode addresses this paradigm and suggests some alternative ways of approaching and living within it. Men whose sense of self-worth comes from a place deeper than how productive they are being – and divorced from any notion of how 'manly' they are – will be happier and more resilient to change.

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]]> <p>Society is flush with the implication that men have to work, or produce something of value, in order to be respected as men. The idea of man as a machine of production has been around long before the industrial revolution – it likely dates back as far as the advent of agrarian culture, and perhaps further. As such, men are raised with the implicit imperative that they must work hard and be successful in order to be worthy. When men lose their livelihood or sense of purpose, it can come as a huge blow to their self esteem.</p><p>This episode addresses this paradigm and suggests some alternative ways of approaching and living within it. Men whose sense of self-worth comes from a place deeper than how productive they are being – and divorced from any notion of how &#39;manly&#39; they are – will be happier and more resilient to change.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence #toxicmasculinity</p> 3a1a54bf-559f-4810-b8de-23517d57c4fa https://gentlemanpodcast.net/ Tue, 22 Aug 2023 20:53:28 +0000 1056 yes full Boys Don't Cry - How to Work With Feelings Boys Don't Cry - How to Work With Feelings 10 2 Arjuna Perkins "Boys don't cry" is how the saying goes. Men have incredible trouble feeling their feelings, and it has huge consequences in their lives and in society. This episode covers how the messaging starts during infancy, how it gets perpetuated by peers in school, and how 'grown man' propaganda continues it in adulthood. Then we cover how men can start to get in touch with their feelings, and we explore methods that can concretely help to create safety and inspiration around exploring feelings.

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]]> <p>&#34;Boys don&#39;t cry&#34; is how the saying goes. Men have incredible trouble feeling their feelings, and it has huge consequences in their lives and in society. This episode covers how the messaging starts during infancy, how it gets perpetuated by peers in school, and how &#39;grown man&#39; propaganda continues it in adulthood. Then we cover how men can start to get in touch with their feelings, and we explore methods that can concretely help to create safety and inspiration around exploring feelings.</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on social media:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism</p> 5aeb0568-b891-44ab-81d9-1bd2352d0785 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Tue, 15 Aug 2023 23:17:52 +0000 2000 no full Meeting the Challenges of Men Within and Without College with Dr. Arian Mobasser Meeting the Challenges of Men Within and Without College with Dr. Arian Mobasser 9 2 Arjuna Perkins Today we are joined by Dr. Arian Mobasser, neuro & behavioral scientist and coordinator of the Men's Resource Center at the University of Oregon, as well as cofounder of Circle Science. He has done men's work both theoretically through the lens of his research and pragmatically through his position at UO. In this episode we explore his deep insight into the world that young men navigate, both within and without the academic settings of colleges and fraternities. He shares how important it is to meet men where they are and to function from a fundament of understanding when doing social justice work.

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]]> <p>Today we are joined by Dr. Arian Mobasser, neuro &amp; behavioral scientist and coordinator of the Men&#39;s Resource Center at the University of Oregon, as well as cofounder of Circle Science. He has done men&#39;s work both theoretically through the lens of his research and pragmatically through his position at UO. In this episode we explore his deep insight into the world that young men navigate, both within and without the academic settings of colleges and fraternities. He shares how important it is to meet men where they are and to function from a fundament of understanding when doing social justice work.</p><p>Follow Dr. Arian on instagram:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/arian.mobasser/</p><p><br></p><p>Follow Gentle Man on social media:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism</p> 1aa1719a-6e0a-44d5-a7eb-1bc8ebddd190 http://gentlemanpodcast.net/ Thu, 27 Jul 2023 21:12:01 +0000 3016 no full Man As Protector and the Warrior Archetype Man As Protector and the Warrior Archetype 8 2 Arjuna Perkins Today we're examining the role of the man as protector in society. We explore how the two current main cultural warrior archetypes – the soldier and the police officer – are both dangerous and lacking in necessary restraint, moral bearing and responsibility. Then we go into healthier ways that men can express the protector role in their relationships and communities.


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]]> <p>Today we&#39;re examining the role of the man as protector in society. We explore how the two current main cultural warrior archetypes – the soldier and the police officer – are both dangerous and lacking in necessary restraint, moral bearing and responsibility. Then we go into healthier ways that men can express the protector role in their relationships and communities.</p><p><br></p><p>Follow Gentle Man on social media:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism</p> f8352fd5-0f91-4e17-8039-84c6bea53793 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Fri, 30 Jun 2023 01:02:00 +0000 2092 no full Choosing Your Manhood, Hormones & Being a Seahorse Dad with Foster McKeon Choosing Your Manhood, Hormones & Being a Seahorse Dad with Foster McKeon 7 2 Arjuna Perkins This week we are fortunate to share a conversation with Foster McKeon, a trans man and seahorse dad who has deep learning and insight into the spaces between gender binaries. We explore how he conceptualized manhood during his transition and the surprising privileges he gained along the way. Then we dive into hormones and how they do – and importantly don't! – affect our behaviors. Finally, we explore the complex and rich experience of being a trans man giving birth (known as 'seahorse dads') and some of the social challenges therein.

This episode also contains a deep rumination on male violence against women and how invisible it can be to other men. There are aspects of this work that are mostly or only visible to women, which underscores the importance of believing women and survivors of abuse. I am so grateful to be able to have this deep and insightful conversation with a man who has been on so many sides of the cultural navigation between genders.

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https://www.instagram.com/foster.the.person/

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]]> <p>This week we are fortunate to share a conversation with Foster McKeon, a trans man and seahorse dad who has deep learning and insight into the spaces between gender binaries. We explore how he conceptualized manhood during his transition and the surprising privileges he gained along the way. Then we dive into hormones and how they do – and importantly don&#39;t! – affect our behaviors. Finally, we explore the complex and rich experience of being a trans man giving birth (known as &#39;seahorse dads&#39;) and some of the social challenges therein.</p><p>This episode also contains a deep rumination on male violence against women and how invisible it can be to other men. There are aspects of this work that are mostly or only visible to women, which underscores the importance of believing women and survivors of abuse. I am so grateful to be able to have this deep and insightful conversation with a man who has been on so many sides of the cultural navigation between genders.</p><p>--</p><p>Find Foster on Instagram:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/dearellisonlouise/</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/foster.the.person/</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on social media:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p>--</p><p>The track &#34;Radio Right Now&#34; by Felix Laband is used with direct permission from the artist. Find Felix&#39;s music here:</p><p>https://open.spotify.com/artist/3E6Tbv49KoKnCoGqHJHQGx?si=Np0twh5xTv2ah2aBkfJKPw</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence #toxicmasculinity</p> 4705fc7c-c332-4ae1-98bb-753a09c0ff38 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Tue, 20 Jun 2023 22:21:30 +0000 4106 yes full Spirituality, Clean Shame and Straight Relationships with Luke Adler Spirituality, Clean Shame and Straight Relationships with Luke Adler 6 2 Arjuna Perkins Today we are joined by Luke Adler, a bodyworker and spiritual healer with deep insight into men's challenges and their movement towards maturity. On this show we discuss key points in his childhood and adolescence that shaped his adult understanding of manhood and a spiritual life. We dip into topics such as reconciling assertiveness with gentleness, clean shame and what it looks like, and some of the dynamics underlying straight relationships between men and women.

Find Luke online:

The Luke Adler Healing Podcast

https://open.spotify.com/show/6k6WH1tFeL7hWzJY6aKr8y?si=c5adc1a257014e8b

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lukeadlerhealing/

Website: https://lukeadlerhealing.com/


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]]> <p>Today we are joined by Luke Adler, a bodyworker and spiritual healer with deep insight into men&#39;s challenges and their movement towards maturity. On this show we discuss key points in his childhood and adolescence that shaped his adult understanding of manhood and a spiritual life. We dip into topics such as reconciling assertiveness with gentleness, clean shame and what it looks like, and some of the dynamics underlying straight relationships between men and women.</p><p>Find Luke online:</p><p>The Luke Adler Healing Podcast</p><p>https://open.spotify.com/show/6k6WH1tFeL7hWzJY6aKr8y?si=c5adc1a257014e8b</p><p>Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lukeadlerhealing/</p><p>Website: https://lukeadlerhealing.com/</p><p><br></p><p>Follow Gentle Man on social media:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>Patreon coming soon!</p><p>#boys #men #masculinity #feminism</p> 288d3880-9bb9-4f69-b5d2-cec65a764c00 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Wed, 14 Jun 2023 22:45:27 +0000 3799 yes full Homophobia's Toll on Straight Men Homophobia's Toll on Straight Men 5 2 Arjuna Perkins Today's episode focuses on the toll homophobia takes on society, with a focus on its effects on straight men. The harm goes so far beyond the harm to gay and queer men. Straight men need to examine how they are perpetuating homophobic behaviors and how they can experience more pleasure, connection and wellbeing by escaping them.

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]]> <p>Today&#39;s episode focuses on the toll homophobia takes on society, with a focus on its effects on straight men. The harm goes so far beyond the harm to gay and queer men. Straight men need to examine how they are perpetuating homophobic behaviors and how they can experience more pleasure, connection and wellbeing by escaping them.</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on social media:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #masculinity #feminism</p> 2f36c8de-2119-48ab-bff2-478ec179a9e5 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Tue, 30 May 2023 21:56:32 +0000 1653 no full Beautiful Man Beautiful Man 4 2 Arjuna Perkins Today's episode tackles the vulnerable and complex topic of men's relationship with beauty and aesthetics. Men are encouraged away from aesthetic pursuits and towards concretely productive pursuits. This focus denies many men from experiencing beauty, or feeling beautiful. This in turn prevents men from experiencing pleasure and from exploring their tenderer selves.

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]]> <p>Today&#39;s episode tackles the vulnerable and complex topic of men&#39;s relationship with beauty and aesthetics. Men are encouraged away from aesthetic pursuits and towards concretely productive pursuits. This focus denies many men from experiencing beauty, or feeling beautiful. This in turn prevents men from experiencing pleasure and from exploring their tenderer selves.</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on social media:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #masculinity #feminism</p> 71f34f84-42fd-4f43-a351-bb69ffb07f38 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Sat, 20 May 2023 16:00:00 +0000 2484 no full Why Men Die Sooner & Strategies for Wellbeing Why Men Die Sooner & Strategies for Wellbeing 3 2 Arjuna Perkins Today's episode looks at men's health through the lens of average life expectancy. The episode is informed by this article in the Washington Post:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/04/17/mens-health-longevity-gap/

Using the statistics in this article as a baseline, Arjuna explores the ways that men are not showing up for their wellness and self care. The episode lays out a number of ways men can create more wellness and resilience in their lives.

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]]> <p>Today&#39;s episode looks at men&#39;s health through the lens of average life expectancy. The episode is informed by this article in the Washington Post:</p><p><a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/04/17/mens-health-longevity-gap/?fbclid=IwAR0YrwH5HJf2LNninzbebYjofmsF7UefUfgZrcwA_H5H3C51QJtNBwc9TB4&utm_source=pocket-newtab" rel="nofollow">https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/04/17/mens-health-longevity-gap/</a></p><p>Using the statistics in this article as a baseline, Arjuna explores the ways that men are not showing up for their wellness and self care. The episode lays out a number of ways men can create more wellness and resilience in their lives.</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on social media:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #masculinity #feminism</p> 46d08193-7af3-43d1-a58c-c2720b230b12 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Fri, 19 May 2023 16:00:00 +0000 1735 no full The 4 Tenets of 21st Century Manhood The 4 Tenets of 21st Century Manhood 2 2 Arjuna Perkins Join Arjuna in going through his 4 Tenets of 21st Century Manhood. These are 4 categories that, when focused on, can help men transform their lives and their relationships. The 4 categories are:

  1. Do no harm
  2. Contribute
  3. Work on yourself
  4. Develop social awareness


When men embrace and work on these 4 tenets, they will see huge positive change in their lives. They will start to feel like more responsible and empowered participants in their families, relationships, communities and workplaces.

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]]> <p>Join Arjuna in going through his 4 Tenets of 21st Century Manhood. These are 4 categories that, when focused on, can help men transform their lives and their relationships. The 4 categories are:</p><ol><li>Do no harm</li><li>Contribute</li><li>Work on yourself</li><li>Develop social awareness</li></ol><p><br></p><p>When men embrace and work on these 4 tenets, they will see huge positive change in their lives. They will start to feel like more responsible and empowered participants in their families, relationships, communities and workplaces.</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on social media:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p><br></p><p>#boys #men #masculinity #feminism</p> 58840e16-6b5e-4d29-a425-b4b237e7fe5e https://gentlemanpodcast.org Thu, 18 May 2023 16:00:00 +0000 1980 no full Is Manhood Shrinking? Is Manhood Shrinking? 1 2 Arjuna Perkins Gentle Man returns – new, updated, reinvigorated! Today, Arjuna tackles the big picture question troubling lots of men: is manhood shrinking? Are the parameters of acceptable behavior narrowing in the wake of the #metoo movement and other 21st century criticisms? Are men less today than they once were?

This show presents a counterpoint – rather than getting smaller, manhood is growing in the space it provides men to experience rich and fulfilling lives. Men today have more space to feel their feelings, express themselves, get the support they need and live healthier lives than they have at any other time in recent memory. This show will explore the ways in which manhood is expanding and affording men more opportunities for self-knowing and self-expression.

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]]> <p>Gentle Man returns – new, updated, reinvigorated! Today, Arjuna tackles the big picture question troubling lots of men: is manhood shrinking? Are the parameters of acceptable behavior narrowing in the wake of the #metoo movement and other 21st century criticisms? Are men less today than they once were?</p><p>This show presents a counterpoint – rather than getting smaller, manhood is growing in the space it provides men to experience rich and fulfilling lives. Men today have more space to feel their feelings, express themselves, get the support they need and live healthier lives than they have at any other time in recent memory. This show will explore the ways in which manhood is expanding and affording men more opportunities for self-knowing and self-expression.</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on social media:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p><br></p><p><span>#boys #men #masculinity #feminism </span></p> 1751a6af-e534-4a46-953d-99ca611b0089 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Wed, 17 May 2023 23:31:47 +0000 1712 no full Men's Role in Society - What's Missing from the Dialogue Men's Role in Society - What's Missing from the Dialogue 10 Arjuna Perkins This episode goes into what is missing from the cultural dialogue about what men need – missing not from the conversation entirely, but underrepresented by the main information outlets. With the advent of generations of young men growing up in the 21st century who feel the world doesn't have a place for them, a number of personalities and organizations are capitalizing on the trend to recruit from among these men. Organizations such as the Alt Right, and people such as Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro and Andrew Tate are appealing to this generation. To understand what's really going on, we profile why those people have been successful in their recruitment - and the more important conversation in desperate need of being had.

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]]> <p>This episode goes into what is missing from the cultural dialogue about what men need – missing not from the conversation entirely, but underrepresented by the main information outlets. With the advent of generations of young men growing up in the 21st century who feel the world doesn&#39;t have a place for them, a number of personalities and organizations are capitalizing on the trend to recruit from among these men. Organizations such as the Alt Right, and people such as Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro and Andrew Tate are appealing to this generation. To understand what&#39;s really going on, we profile why those people have been successful in their recruitment - and the more important conversation in desperate need of being had.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> aa19b104-5144-492d-a4c3-267cc4dabf79 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Tue, 11 May 2021 05:04:17 +0000 1729 no full George Floyd - The Impact of Male Violence in Policing George Floyd - The Impact of Male Violence in Policing 9 Arjuna Perkins On May 25, 2020, George Floyd, a 46-year-old black American man, was murdered in Minneapolis by Derek Chauvin, a 44-year-old white police officer. This murder spurred huge riots, brought a resurgence to the Black Lives Matter movement, and was one of the more galvanizing events of the COVID era. In this episode we explore what police violence has to teach us about men's behavior. Male violence is a deep topic not easily understood by one point of view or one biological explanation. It has a long history and an unfortunately heavy precedent. We also explore the role of man as protector and the dubiousness of uniformed killers. This is a heavy and unflinching look at male violence in policing.

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]]> <p>On May 25, 2020, George Floyd, a 46-year-old black American man, was murdered in Minneapolis by Derek Chauvin, a 44-year-old white police officer. This murder spurred huge riots, brought a resurgence to the Black Lives Matter movement, and was one of the more galvanizing events of the COVID era. In this episode we explore what police violence has to teach us about men&#39;s behavior. Male violence is a deep topic not easily understood by one point of view or one biological explanation. It has a long history and an unfortunately heavy precedent. We also explore the role of man as protector and the dubiousness of uniformed killers. This is a heavy and unflinching look at male violence in policing.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 2becb6f3-4cde-42dd-aa50-dd29f8b18d59 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Thu, 28 May 2020 19:02:02 +0000 1496 no full Being One Of The Guys - Every Man Struggles With It Being One Of The Guys - Every Man Struggles With It Arjuna Perkins Today, we discuss what it means to fit in and be "one of the guys." There's a surprising amount of misconception when it comes to what this means or looks like. We take the example of a young trans man trying to understand what being "one of the guys" means to explore the broader conversation about manhood and male behavior.

]]> <p>Today, we discuss what it means to fit in and be &#34;one of the guys.&#34; There&#39;s a surprising amount of misconception when it comes to what this means or looks like. We take the example of a young trans man trying to understand what being &#34;one of the guys&#34; means to explore the broader conversation about manhood and male behavior.</p> bc79702f-0f40-44c1-a53b-26510e88df04 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Wed, 14 Aug 2019 07:31:45 +0000 1660 no full Male (dis?)Empowerment – Incels and the Challenge of Intimacy Male (dis?)Empowerment – Incels and the Challenge of Intimacy 7 Arjuna Perkins How can men wield power and yet feel so disempowered? Why do somany men feel threatened by the idea of women gaining power? This episode is a meditation on the nature of power and how it is healthily and unhealthily expressed. There is a power struggle, both real and perceived, happening in cultures around the world at this stage of human history. It is the struggle of women (and many other marginalized people) asserting their rights and their need for a greater consideration in cultural practice and public policy. Many organizations, such as the Alt Right in the Western world, are using this moment to target young and vulnerable men with sexist and antifeminist rhetoric. They are weaponizing contemporary cultural shift in an attempt to enroll a next generation in their ideologies. It's a confusing time to be a man, and this episode explores the just and unjust use of power as it concerns men and male privilege.

]]> <p>How can men wield power and yet feel so disempowered? Why do somany men feel threatened by the idea of women gaining power? This episode is a meditation on the nature of power and how it is healthily and unhealthily expressed. There is a power struggle, both real and perceived, happening in cultures around the world at this stage of human history. It is the struggle of women (and many other marginalized people) asserting their rights and their need for a greater consideration in cultural practice and public policy. Many organizations, such as the Alt Right in the Western world, are using this moment to target young and vulnerable men with sexist and antifeminist rhetoric. They are weaponizing contemporary cultural shift in an attempt to enroll a next generation in their ideologies. It&#39;s a confusing time to be a man, and this episode explores the just and unjust use of power as it concerns men and male privilege.</p> 93d5d0a3-3afe-4f16-b3a3-1a6d38a5bad7 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Fri, 02 Aug 2019 06:17:45 +0000 1480 no full The Dangers of 'Man Enough' The Dangers of 'Man Enough' 6 Arjuna Perkins We hear it our whole lives – "If only you were man enough." This damaging phrase is at the heart of a lot of compensating – and ultimately harmful – behaviors that men exhibit. The suggestion that manhood can somehow be measured is as hurtful as it is ridiculous. It results in men who push themselves too hard, disregard their own needs and desires, and sometimes end up hurting others in the process. Let's dive into 'man enough' and see what's really there. And in case you didn't already feel this – you are already man enough.

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]]> <p>We hear it our whole lives – &#34;If only you were man enough.&#34; This damaging phrase is at the heart of a lot of compensating – and ultimately harmful – behaviors that men exhibit. The suggestion that manhood can somehow be measured is as hurtful as it is ridiculous. It results in men who push themselves too hard, disregard their own needs and desires, and sometimes end up hurting others in the process. Let&#39;s dive into &#39;man enough&#39; and see what&#39;s really there. And in case you didn&#39;t already feel this – you are already man enough.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 3783b17b-5107-4149-bf98-1f3168b550bd https://gentlemanpodcast.org Mon, 22 Jul 2019 07:19:58 +0000 1388 no full In Defense of Nice In Defense of Nice 4 Arjuna Perkins Today, we explore the nice guy / asshole dichotomy, how it demeans everyone, and how misunderstood niceness is.

]]> <p>Today, we explore the nice guy / asshole dichotomy, how it demeans everyone, and how misunderstood niceness is.</p> 78b90621-5537-4ef1-a678-cdfa61ffd98c https://gentlemanpodcast.org Wed, 19 Jun 2019 08:04:36 +0000 3428 yes full The Pressure on Men to Keep It Together The Pressure on Men to Keep It Together Arjuna Perkins Keep it together, man! This is a common line we recognize from movies and popular culture. This week we explore how men are expected to be "the rock" in their work and personal relationships and keep it together. Many men feel a crushing pressure to perform at work and in their home lives. There may be no part of their lives where they feel comfortable letting go, or letting it all hang out. Today's show gives us permission to collapse every once in a while. To let the pressure off. To be imperfect. To be ok with not being ok. And to seek that safety in our relationships. This will open men up to greater levels of wellbeing and allow the intimacy we all crave.

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]]> <p>Keep it together, man! This is a common line we recognize from movies and popular culture. This week we explore how men are expected to be &#34;the rock&#34; in their work and personal relationships and keep it together. Many men feel a crushing pressure to perform at work and in their home lives. There may be no part of their lives where they feel comfortable letting go, or letting it all hang out. Today&#39;s show gives us permission to collapse every once in a while. To let the pressure off. To be imperfect. To be ok with not being ok. And to seek that safety in our relationships. This will open men up to greater levels of wellbeing and allow the intimacy we all crave.</p><p>--</p><p>Follow Gentle Man on other platforms:</p><p>https://www.instagram.com/gentlemanpodcast/</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbQdEk0mgyXDsql7PPyqUQA</p><p>https://www.tiktok.com/@gentlemanpodcast</p><p>https://gentlemanpodcast.org/</p><p>#boys #men #manhood #masculinity #feminism #maleviolence</p> 2ac4af16-b684-46b7-ab6e-a366ab287559 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Sun, 16 Jun 2019 01:28:00 +0000 917 no full Men's Groups - Why They're Critical to Everyone's Wellbeing Men's Groups - Why They're Critical to Everyone's Wellbeing 2 Arjuna Perkins Today we're going over men's groups, exploring positive and negative opinions on them, and discussing their importance in the culture.

]]> <p>Today we&#39;re going over men&#39;s groups, exploring positive and negative opinions on them, and discussing their importance in the culture.</p> 3c8f64e1-19d5-4820-b8c4-4a15bc08e02a https://gentlemanpodcast.org Mon, 10 Jun 2019 06:24:24 +0000 1131 yes full What Is 'Manhood'? What Is 'Manhood'? 1 Arjuna Perkins Today, I explore manhood and how I define it.

]]> <p>Today, I explore manhood and how I define it.</p> b40cd7d0-013c-404f-9283-e3d182c970c9 https://gentlemanpodcast.org Sun, 09 Jun 2019 07:23:53 +0000 1136 no