The Healing Trauma Podcast

Mother's Day With An Emotionally Immature Mother With Dr. Lindsay Gibson

Thu, 07 May 2026 03:43:07 +0000

In this replay episode, Dr. Lindsay Gibson is back just in time for Mother's Day.

About our Guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist and the author of the Emotional Immaturity series of books, including her bestseller Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

In this conversation, Monique and Lindsay discuss the complexities of navigating Mother's Day emotions, particularly for those with emotionally immature parents. They explore the conflicting feelings of grief and obligation, the importance of self-validation, and practical tips for managing relationships during this challenging time. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-care and reconnecting with one's true self to foster personal growth and healing.

Takeaways

Mother's Day can evoke mixed emotions, including grief and obligation.
It's important to honour your own feelings during this holiday.
Emotional immaturity in parents can complicate relationships.
Self-validation is crucial for emotional well-being.
Finding a balance between honouring a parent and honouring oneself is key.
It's okay to choose how to engage with emotionally immature parents.
Reconnecting with oneself is essential for personal growth.
Practicing self-care can help manage emotional turmoil.
Taking a pause to reflect on feelings can lead to better self-understanding.

Find Lindsay's books here:

Adult children of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/4kpLu1l

Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy

https://amzn.to/42YKdHg

Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence

https://amzn.to/3RTG6XX

Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/44qhHRo

Connect with Monique on IG https://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/

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Betrayed By Your Partner With Michelle Mays

Thu, 23 Apr 2026 21:42:41 +0000

In this replay conversation, host Monique Koven is chatting with trauma therapist and author Michelle Mays. They discuss the concept of betrayal trauma, its connection to attachment theory, and how childhood trauma influences adult relationships. Michelle explains the importance of understanding betrayal trauma as a relational issue and outlines the three trauma traps that betrayed partners often face: fear of loss, shame, and powerlessness. She also introduces her six phases of healing, emphasizing that healing is a complex, non-linear process that requires individuals to confront their fears and engage in deep emotional work.

Michelle's Books & Resources:

The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst

https://amzn.to/3Z6P8Ve

The Aftermath of Betrayal https://amzn.to/4qOveKR

When It All Breaks Bad: 10 Things To Do (And Not Do) After Betrayal https://amzn.to/3ZDwBQi

Michelle's Website: https://michellemays.com/

How To Talk To Your Partner About Trauma With Elizabeth Earnshaw

Thu, 09 Apr 2026 14:04:22 +0000

In this replay conversation, therapist and author Elizabeth Earnshaw discusses the challenges faced by trauma survivors in relationships, particularly the need for understanding and effective communication with partners. She emphasizes the importance of empathy, active listening, and creating a safe space for sharing experiences. She also provides strategies for expressing needs to partners and navigating situations where partners may struggle to understand or respond appropriately. The conversation highlights the significance of persistence in communication and the potential for healing through supportive relationships.

takeaways

Many trauma survivors feel isolated and misunderstood by their partners.
It's essential for partners to listen and hold space for trauma survivors.
Survivors need to clarify what understanding looks like for them.
Empathy and compassion are crucial in supporting a loved one with trauma.
Effective communication requires choosing the right time and approach.
Expressing positive needs can reduce defensiveness in conversations.
Partners should be responsive and curious about their loved one's experiences.
It's important to gauge a partner's ability to listen and support.
Persistence in communication can help partners improve their understanding.
Safe relationships allow for ongoing discussions about needs and feelings.

Liz's book:

Til Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal the #1 Issue in Our Relationships

https://amzn.to/4bvmjY3

Website:https://elizabethearnshaw.com/

Help Me Understand Dissociation with Dr. Bethany Brand

Thu, 26 Mar 2026 16:27:13 +0000

This replay episode features Dr. Bethany Brand—author, trainer, and forensic expert in trauma and dissociative disorders. In this conversation, she answers key questions about dissociation, including the different types, levels of severity, its connection to trauma, and available treatment options. You’ll gain a clearer understanding of how dissociation impacts mental health and learn practical steps for managing it effectively.

Resources & Books

The Finding Solid Ground Program Workbook: Overcoming Obstacles in Trauma Recovery Workbook https://amzn.to/4dRavSG

The Stranger In The Mirror: The Hidden Epidemic ―A Groundbreaking Psychology Guide to Dissociation, Trauma, and Reclaiming Your True Self https://amzn.to/3PpuZIp

Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists https://amzn.to/4dK0LJV

Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma-Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Daily Life https://amzn.to/4rVjXb4

https://www.bethanybrand.com/

Mother Hunger with Kelly McDaniel

Fri, 13 Mar 2026 13:35:59 +0000

In this replay conversation, psychotherapist Kelly McDaniel discusses her book 'Mother Hunger,' which explores the deep emotional needs for maternal love and the impact of unmet needs on women's lives. She explains the concept of mother hunger, the essential needs from a mother, and how these needs shape our relationships and emotional well-being. The discussion also delves into the effects of frightening mothers, the connection between food and love, and the importance of finding a compassionate witness for healing.

Kelly's Book: Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance

https://amzn.to/40OFI1d

Website: https://kellymcdanieltherapy.com/

The Impact of Early Attachments on Relationships With Melissa Callahan

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 14:43:37 +0000

In this replay conversation, licensed marriage and family therapist Melissa Callahan discusses the profound impact of early attachment experiences on adult relationships. She explains attachment theory, the different attachment styles, and how early trauma can shape our perceptions of safety and trust in relationships. The discussion emphasizes the importance of creating emotional safety, understanding one's own patterns, and the journey of healing and resilience in fostering healthier relationships.

Attachment theory explains how early bonds affect adult relationships.

Attachment styles can be seen as threat mitigation systems.

Trust issues in adulthood often stem from childhood experiences.

Anxious and avoidant attachment styles often attract each other.

Understanding your attachment style can improve relationship dynamics.

Early trauma influences our ability to trust others.

Creating safety in relationships requires vulnerability and communication.

Repairing relationships after conflict is essential for security.

Healing from attachment wounds takes time and effort.

Resilience is often found through supportive relationships.

Books mentioned: Attached

https://amzn.to/4r6Pfvn

https://www.instagram.com/callahantherapy/

Parenting After Childhood Trauma With Cath Counihan

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 19:03:13 +0000

In this replay conversation, psychotherapist Cath Counihan and Monique delve into the complexities of parenting when one has experienced childhood trauma. They discuss the challenges of emotional regulation, the impact of trauma adaptations, and the importance of self-compassion in navigating parenthood. The conversation emphasizes the need for understanding one's own trauma history to better support children and highlights the messiness of parenting as a shared human experience.

Books Mentioned:

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

https://amzn.to/4qGtrq1

Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation by Janina Fisher

https://amzn.to/4rRJkey

Transforming The Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists by Janina Fisher

https://amzn.to/3ZWmIxD

Cath's website & podcast : https://www.cathcounihan.com

/https://www.cathcounihan.com/grow-yourself-up

Trauma & Stress Responses With Rebekkah LaDyne

Sat, 31 Jan 2026 18:16:14 +0000

In this replay conversation, host Monique Koven interviews Rebekkah LaDyne, a somatic therapist and author about her book 'The Mind Body Stress Reset.' They discuss the importance of somatic practices in managing extreme stress and trauma, emphasizing the body-mind connection. Rebecca shares her personal journey and the development of self-administered somatic tools that can help individuals navigate their stress responses and build resilience. The conversation highlights the need for accessible mental health resources and the significance of understanding trauma's impact on stress responses.

takeaways

Somatic therapy focuses on the body-mind connection.
Extreme stress responses require different coping strategies.
Cognitive reframing is less effective for high-stress events.
Self-administered somatic tools can be highly effective.
Resilience pathways help individuals recover from stress.
Trauma can reset our baseline stress levels.
Building resilience pathways is essential for recovery.
Accessible mental health resources are crucial for everyone.
Mindfulness practices should be adapted to individual needs.
Understanding trauma helps in managing stress responses.

Book: The Mind-Body Stress Reset: Somatic Practices to Reduce Overwhelm and Increase Well-Being

https://amzn.to/4c4Ph2R

https://www.rebekkahladyne.com/

The Hidden Impact of Parentification With Dr. Alison Cook

Sat, 17 Jan 2026 20:49:37 +0000

*This new season of the HTP podcast will be a slowing down with an offering of older (replay) episodes from previous seasons.

In this conversation, Monique Koven and psychologist and author Allison Cook delve into the concept of parentification, where children take on adult responsibilities, leading to significant emotional and relational challenges in adulthood. They explore the effects of parentification on self-esteem, boundaries, and the ability to form healthy relationships. The discussion emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns, setting boundaries with parents, and navigating the complexities of caring for aging parents. They also touch on the healing process, dealing with guilt, and breaking the cycle of unhealthy family dynamics.

takeaways

Parentification involves a role reversal where children care for their parents.
This phenomenon can lead to long-term emotional and relational issues.
Children may feel overly responsible for their parents' needs.
Setting healthy boundaries with parents is crucial for emotional well-being.
Recognizing signs of guilt and manipulation from parents is important.
Healing from parentification involves reparenting oneself.
It's essential to negotiate responsibilities towards aging parents.
Creating safe spaces and support systems can aid in healing.
Understanding false guilt can help in breaking unhealthy cycles.
Open communication with children fosters healthier relationships.

Dr. Alison Cook's Books, Website & Podcast

I Shouldn't Feel This Way: Name What’s Hard, Tame Your Guilt, and Transform Self-Sabotage into Brave Action https://amzn.to/4jLAeNz

Boundaries for Your Soul: How to Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts and Feelings into Your Greatest Allies https://amzn.to/3ZeIY5g

The Best of You: Break Free from Painful Patterns, Mend Your Past, and Discover Your True Self in God https://amzn.to/4jNPLMH

https://www.dralisoncook.com/

https://www.dralisoncook.com/podcast

Healing After Betrayal Trauma With Tammy Gustafson

Wed, 31 Dec 2025 01:32:49 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Dr. Mark McNear speaks with Tammy Gustafson who shares her personal journey through betrayal trauma and the healing process that followed. As a licensed professional counselor, she discusses the complexities of betrayal, the misconceptions surrounding it, and the importance of understanding betrayal trauma as a legitimate form of trauma. Tammy emphasizes the need for time in the healing process, the significance of emotional regulation, and the role of fun and joy in recovery. She also highlights her professional insights gained from her experiences and the creation of her upcoming book aimed at helping others navigate their healing journey.

Takeaways

Betrayal trauma is a legitimate form of trauma that can overwhelm one's ability to process emotions.

The healing process takes time and cannot be rushed or bypassed.

It's crucial for betrayed partners to understand that the betrayal is not their fault.

Emotional dysregulation is common in betrayal trauma, and support systems are vital for recovery.

Finding joy and fun is an essential part of the healing journey.

Tammy emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing one's worth.

The journey of healing can lead to personal growth and empowerment.

Tammy's upcoming book aims to guide betrayed partners through their healing process.

Healing from betrayal can lead to profound transformation and resilience.

About Our Guest

Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC, is a trauma-informed

licensed professional counselor, coach, and speaker

with over 15 years of experience. She holds a master’s

degree in counseling and is the founder and CEO of

Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling. Tammy

hosts the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, which

provides compassionate, expert guidance to

thousands of betrayed partners worldwide.

Guest Host: Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear

https://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnear/

Tammy's Book:

Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal

https://amzn.to/4s5bZh0

website:https://tammygustafson.com/betrayal-healing/

https://www.instagram.com/tammylgustafson/

A Therapist's Journey Of Discovering Complex Trauma With Esther Schwarz

Wed, 17 Dec 2025 23:40:47 +0000

*This episode is a re release from an earlier season of the HTP.

In this conversation, Monique Koven and holistic psychotherapist Esther Schwarz discuss the profound effects of childhood trauma and the journey of healing from complex PTSD. Esther shares her personal experiences with trauma, symptoms, and the importance of understanding and managing these challenges. They explore the role of support systems, the impact of overwhelm on daily functioning, and the necessity of educating partners about trauma. The conversation emphasizes resilience, hope, and the possibility of recovery, encouraging listeners to seek help and not give up on their healing journey.

takeaways

Esther shares her journey of living with childhood trauma.
Understanding complex PTSD is crucial for healing.
Support systems play a vital role in recovery.
Overwhelm can significantly impact daily functioning.
The journey from anxiety to recognizing complex trauma is complex.
Educating partners about trauma can enhance relationships.
Resilience is a key component in the healing process.
There is hope for recovery and personal growth.
Sharing experiences can help others feel less alone.
Don't give up before the miracle happens.

Find Esther here: https://www.instagram.com/estherschwarz.lmsw/

Honoring Your Story With Dr. Dan Allender

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 23:47:29 +0000

Trigger Warning: Contains sensitive content & language related to childhood sexual abuse.

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host Dr. Mark McNear talks with Dr. Dan Allender to discuss the profound impact of trauma and the healing power of story work. They explore the complexities of personal narratives, the importance of kindness in therapy, and the long-term journey of healing from trauma. The conversation emphasizes the need for a compassionate approach to understanding one's story and the role of kindness in facilitating healing. Listeners are encouraged to engage with their own stories and recognize the ongoing nature of healing.

takeaways

Story work can lead to profound healing and joy.
Engaging with personal trauma stories is essential for healing.
Kindness is crucial in the therapeutic process.
Betrayal and powerlessness are common themes in trauma.
Shame can complicate the experience of pleasure in trauma.
Touch and arousal can evoke complex feelings in trauma survivors.
Healing is a lifelong journey, not a quick fix.
Understanding the past is essential for present healing.
Kindness differs from niceness; it involves deeper engagement.
The process of remembering trauma is vital for recovery.

About the Guest: Dr. Dan Allender, co-founder of The Allender Center and founding president of The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, has pioneered a unique and innovative approach to trauma and abuse therapy over the past 30 years.

https://www.instagram.com/allendercenter/

Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear

https://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnear/

Understanding Developmental Trauma With Mily Gomez

Thu, 27 Nov 2025 18:27:12 +0000

*This episode is a re release from an earlier season of the HTP. It is a wonderful conversation about understanding Developmental Trauma.

In this conversation, Monique is chatting with trauma therapist Mily Gomez. Mily discusses the concept of developmental trauma, its impact on emotional regulation, attachment styles, and relationships. She explains how early experiences shape our ability to connect with others and manage our emotions. The discussion also covers the importance of validation, support, and the healing process through reparenting and somatic work. Mily emphasizes the need for individuals to develop tools for self-regulation and the significance of building healthy attachments in adulthood.

takeaways

Developmental trauma occurs from conception to age two or three.
Implicit memory affects how we feel without conscious awareness.
Early experiences set the foundation for emotional regulation.
Insecure attachment can lead to trust issues in relationships.
Validation and support are crucial for healing.
Reparenting oneself is a key part of the healing process.
Somatic experiencing helps in processing trauma stored in the body.
Clients can learn to self-regulate their emotions.
Healthy attachments can be built even after trauma.
Therapy provides a safe space for exploring difficult emotions.

Find Milly Gomez on IG

https://www.instagram.com/latibulecounseling/

Your Pain Has A Name: A Journey to Healing with Monica DiCristina

Sat, 15 Nov 2025 20:40:57 +0000

In this conversation, author and trauma therapist Monica DiCristina shares her insights on the importance of naming pain and understanding one's emotional triggers. She discusses her book, 'Your Pain Has A Name,' and emphasizes the significance of accurate diagnosis in therapy. The discussion also touches on the impact of dismissal in therapeutic settings, the dangers of oversimplified healing approaches, and the importance of finding the right therapeutic relationship. Monica encourages listeners to keep seeking understanding and healing, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles.

takeaways

Monica wrote her book to help others name their pain.
Naming pain is essential for separating identity from trauma.
Many people walk around feeling something is wrong with them.
Accurate diagnosis is crucial for effective healing.
Understanding one's wiring can help in managing mental health.
Dismissal in therapy can lead to feelings of isolation.
Oversimplified healing approaches can be harmful.
The therapeutic relationship is key to successful outcomes.
It's important to find a therapist who feels right for you.
Everyone's journey to understanding and healing is unique.

Monica's new book: Your Pain Has a Name: A Therapist’s Invitation to Understanding Your Story and Sorting Out Who You Are from What Hurts https://amzn.to/4i3qmxF

Where to Find Monica:

Website: https://monicadicristina.com

Instagram: @monicadicristina

Still Becoming Podcast

Generational Trauma With Gina Birkemeier

Mon, 03 Nov 2025 14:42:25 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Monique Koven speaks with trauma therapist Gina Birkemeier about her book 'Generations Deep,' which explores the impact of generational trauma and the importance of healing. They discuss how family patterns shape our beliefs and behaviors, the significance of corrective experiences in healing, and the role of curiosity in breaking cycles of dysfunction. Gina shares her personal journey of recognizing and addressing inherited trauma, emphasizing the need for supportive relationships and the importance of not navigating this journey alone.

takeaways

The title of the book is 'Generations Deep, Unmasking Inherited Trauma and Dysfunction to Rewrite Our Stories.'
Family patterns can carry significant weight and influence our lives.
Healing is a non-linear process that involves ups and downs.
Curiosity can help combat shame and rigidity in our lives.
Corrective experiences are essential for emotional healing.
Breaking cycles of trauma starts with individual healing.
It's important to recognize and address inherited beliefs and behaviors.
Supportive relationships can provide a foundation for healing.
Self-reflection is crucial in understanding our childhood needs.
Do not navigate the healing journey alone; seek support.

Find Gina here: Gina Birkemeier, LPC, NCC

Gina's Book: Generations Deep: Unmasking Inherited Dysfunction and Trauma to Rewrite Our Stories Through Faith and Therapy https://amzn.to/3X9ytPC

Generations Workbook: Generations Deep Journal: Write Your Healing Story

https://amzn.to/47lrR6L

Transforming Your Inner Critic With Dr. Maureen Gallagher

Mon, 20 Oct 2025 17:27:14 +0000

In this conversation, Monique and Dr. Maureen Gallagher explore the integration of Somatic Experiencing and Inner Relationship Focusing as powerful tools for healing trauma and understanding the inner critic. They discuss how these methods can help individuals build a compassionate relationship with their experiences, update old emotional learnings, and transform the inner critic into a supportive part of the self. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, the role of attachment in personal growth, and the potential for learning these techniques to enhance emotional well-being.

takeaways

Somatic experiencing connects deeply with the nervous system.
Inner relationship focusing builds a relationship with somatic experiences.
The inner critic often stems from old emotional learnings.
Transforming the inner critic involves understanding its protective role.
Updating emotional learnings can alleviate unnecessary fears.
Self-compassion is crucial for personal growth and healing.
Integrating somatic experiencing with focusing enhances transformation.
Learning these techniques can be done individually or with guidance.
Building a secure attachment to self fosters emotional safety.
Recognizing the inner critic as a part of oneself can change relationships.

About Our Guest: Dr. Maureen Gallagher is a Licensed Psychologist (NY, NJ), Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Faculty Member, Inner Relationship Focusing Trainer, Emotionally Focused Therapist and Supervisor and a Relational Psychoanalyst. Her work and teaching are dedicated to the embodiment of psychotherapy and related healing disciplines, in which she integrates somatic awareness and the use of somatic intervention along with adult attachment work and a relational focus. She brings a broad range of experience and training to this endeavor, including Certifications in Somatic Experiencing, Inner Relationship Focusing, Relational Psychoanalysis, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Integral Somatic Psychology, SE Touch skills training and Biodynamic Cranial Sacral Therapy. Her clinical work integrates focusing, somatic experiencing, relational psychoanalysis and experiential and process oriented models of attachment theory. She has maintained a private practice for over 20 years. She is the founder of Embodying Psychotherapy.

Get started right away with the Inner Critics Companion Guide:

https://maureengallagherphd.com/inner-critics-companion-guidebook

Stay in touch with Maureen via her monthly letter:

https://maureengallagherphd.com/join-my-newsletter

The Emotionally Immature Mother With Dr. Lindsay Gibson

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 19:20:29 +0000

In this conversation, Monique welcomes back Dr. Lindsay Gibson to discuss the complexities of emotionally immature mothers and their impact on daughters. They explore the characteristics of emotional immaturity, the need for empathy and connection, and the challenges faced by adult children in navigating relationships with such parents. The discussion also touches on healing strategies, the importance of supportive relationships, and the future of parenting emotionally mature children.

takeaways

Emotional immaturity can manifest in various ways, affecting relationships.
The need to be seen and understood is fundamental for emotional health.
Daughters of emotionally immature mothers often feel invisible and misunderstood.
Empathy is crucial for healthy relationships and emotional maturity.
Navigating relationships with emotionally immature parents requires self-care and boundaries.
Healing is a process that involves recognizing and managing one's own emotional needs.
Supportive friendships can provide the empathy and connection lacking in parental relationships.
Understanding emotional immaturity can help adult children cope with their experiences.
Raising emotionally mature children involves fostering empathy and emotional intelligence.
It's important to acknowledge the pain of unmet emotional needs and work towards healing.

Watch this episode on youtube

https://youtu.be/fthdfUk5WHE?si=X4qmjUrY5jbzT373

Find Lindsay's books here:

Adult children of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/4kpLu1l

Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy

https://amzn.to/42YKdHg

Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence

https://amzn.to/3RTG6XX

Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/44qhHRo

IFS: Working With Child Part's With Dr. Richard Schwartz

Sat, 04 Oct 2025 20:42:15 +0000

This episode is a re release from a previous season.

In this conversation, Monique is talking with Dr. Richard Schwartz, the creator of Internal Family Systems, (IFS) They discuss the model and its application in healing trauma, particularly childhood and complex trauma. Richard emphasizes the importance of understanding the 'self' within IFS, the process of unburdening parts of oneself that carry trauma, and the transformative potential of accessing one's inherent self. The discussion also covers practical techniques for working with protectors and exiled parts.

takeaways

IFS helps in healing trauma by addressing parts of oneself.
The self is an untainted essence that knows how to heal.
Unburdening parts can lead to rapid transformation.
Curiosity and compassion are key in working with inner critics.
Healing involves retrieving and nurturing the inner child.
Protectors must be honored and understood, not fought against.
Accessing the self can take time and patience.
Children can easily understand and engage with their parts.
Spiritual insights suggest that the self is inherent in everyone.
The upcoming book aims to make IFS accessible to a wider audience.

https://ifs-institute.com/

The Internal Family Systems Workbook: A Guide to Discover Your Self and Heal Your Parts https://amzn.to/3Ky7nPf

No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model https://amzn.to/4mUZHUF

Introduction to Internal Family Systems https://amzn.to/3VPnudK

Indigenous Generational Trauma : Sixties Scoop with Nakuset

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 16:37:38 +0000

*This episode is being re released on September 30 to honour the National day For Truth And Reconciliation.

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, host Monique Koven speaks with Nakuset, an Indigenous woman who shares her powerful story of being a survivor of the 60s scoop and the impact of residential schools on her life and family. Nakuset discusses her journey of self-discovery, the challenges faced by Indigenous communities, and her work as the executive director of the Native Women's Shelter in Montreal. The conversation highlights the importance of healing, community support, and the need for accountability in addressing historical injustices.

takeaways

Trauma recovery is a messy and challenging process.
The 60s scoop involved the forced adoption of Indigenous children.
Residential schools had a devastating impact on Indigenous families.
Sisterly bonds can be both a source of strength and trauma.
Grief can be transformed into action for social change.
Empowering Indigenous women is crucial for community healing.
Creating sustainable solutions for homelessness is essential.
Collaboration with youth protection is necessary for effective support.
Accountability for historical injustices is vital for healing.
Community-driven solutions are key to addressing systemic issues.

https://www.instagram.com/supacree/

Documentary: https://youtu.be/9P4iYYL4FYY?si=tayMiSmckkSWOe9C

Complex Trauma & Parenting With Sidu Arroyo

Thu, 25 Sep 2025 20:07:50 +0000

*This episode is a re release from a previous season.

In this conversation, Monique is talking with guest family therapist Sidu Arroyo about the critical aspects of emotional regulation, particularly for those with trauma histories. She emphasizes the importance of understanding that emotions are neither good nor bad, and that self-regulation is a skill that requires practice and co-regulation with others. The discussion also addresses the feelings of guilt and shame that parents may experience when they lose control, and the significance of repairing relationships with children after emotional outbursts. Overall, the conversation highlights the need for compassion towards oneself and the importance of creating a safe environment for emotional expression.

takeaways

Emotions are neither good nor bad; they are experiences.
Self-regulation is a skill that takes practice.
Safety is essential for effective self-regulation.
Co-regulation is crucial for children to learn self-regulation.
Parents often struggle with guilt and shame after losing control.
Repairing relationships is vital after emotional outbursts.
Acknowledging emotions with compassion is important.
Children need consistent support to develop emotional skills.
It's okay to be human and make mistakes as a parent.
This journey of emotional regulation is a process, not linear.

Sidu Arroyo:

https://www.instagram.com/becomingathome/

A Journey of Healing With Linda Pevac

Fri, 12 Sep 2025 23:45:32 +0000

In this conversation, Linda Pevac shares her journey of healing through writing, discussing her three books that explore her experiences as an adoptee and the therapeutic techniques that have aided her growth. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's identity, the impact of trauma, and the necessity of embracing change for personal development. The discussion also highlights the nuances of the adoptee experience and the significance of creating a safe space for healing.

takeaways

Healing is a continuous journey that brings joy.
Writing has been a powerful tool for self-discovery.
Therapy can help individuals connect with their inner parts.
Choosing to breathe symbolizes making conscious choices.
Adoption starts with trauma, affecting identity development.
Creating a gathering place allows for dialogue with inner parts.
Truth and authenticity are essential for personal growth.
Anxiety can cloud creativity and self-expression.
It's important to challenge the stories we tell ourselves.
The journey of healing can inspire others to find their own path.

Watch this episode on Youtube

https://youtu.be/c6I8Z76syKM

Linda's new book: Choosing to Breathe

https://amzn.to/4mynPMR

The Gathering Place: An Adoptee's Story

https://amzn.to/3JYO1T7

A Fire is Coming

https://amzn.to/4mdBc4y

Linda's website: www.emmastevenswriter.com

https://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/

Complex Trauma with Tim Fletcher

Fri, 05 Sep 2025 23:46:45 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Tim Fletcher, who shares his journey from burnout to becoming a trauma counselor. Tim discusses the roots of complex trauma, the importance of emotional needs in childhood, and the long road to recovery. He emphasizes the significance of self-love, finding safe people, and the challenges of navigating emotions in complex PTSD. Tim also provides insights on tools for emotional regulation and the necessity of patience in the healing process.

Takeaways

Tim's journey into trauma counseling began unexpectedly.
Complex trauma includes both big T and little t traumas.
Unmet childhood needs can lead to complex trauma.
Healing from trauma is a long and messy process.
Finding safe people is crucial in recovery.
Emotions can be difficult for those with complex PTSD.
The past can influence present emotional responses.
Self-love and validation are essential for healing.
Emotional regulation tools can aid in recovery.
Connection with safe people is vital for healing.

Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/llF501d9mkY?si=ywL7to0XUXnmPsJYTim's Website:https://www.timfletcher.ca/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/timfletcherco/

Guest host :Dr. McNear's Website: https://markmcnear.com/

Fawning: Answering Your Questions With Dr. Ingrid Clayton

Fri, 29 Aug 2025 21:07:40 +0000

In this conversation, host Monique Koven has invited Dr Ingrid Clayton back to answer your questions. They explore the concept of fawning as a relational trauma response, discussing its implications on identity, relationships, and personal growth. They delve into the complexities of fawning, including its connection to chronic pain, dissociation, and the importance of setting boundaries. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-compassion and understanding in the healing process, as well as the role of environment in shaping fawning behaviors. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the journey towards authenticity and self-worth, encouraging listeners to embrace their true selves.

Ingrid's new book:

Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back

https://amzn.to/45QPceD

IG:https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/

Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/

Watch this episode on youtube

https://youtu.be/0noqt2I1oa0

Fawning: A Hidden Response to Trauma With Dr. Ingrid Clayton

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 19:55:08 +0000

In this conversation,Trauma psychologist and author Dr. Ingrid Clayton shares her journey of healing from complex trauma and the significance of the fawn response in understanding relational dynamics. She discusses her experiences as a survivor and therapist, emphasizing the importance of recognizing fawning behaviours and their impact on self-identity and relationships. The dialogue explores the process of building self-trust, compassion, and the ongoing journey of healing, highlighting the need for a trauma-informed perspective in understanding these responses. Ingrid's insights aim to empower listeners to embrace their experiences and foster a deeper connection with themselves.

takeaways

Ingrid's first podcast experience was transformative for her healing journey.
Fawning is a response to relational trauma that often goes unrecognized.
Understanding fawning can help individuals make sense of their behaviors.
The journey of healing involves recognizing and addressing fawning behaviors.
Building self-trust is crucial for personal empowerment and healing.
Fawning can manifest in various relationships, including familial and romantic.
Self-compassion is essential in the healing process.
The importance of creating safe spaces for sharing personal stories.
Healing is an ongoing process that requires patience and understanding.
Everyone deserves access to tools and information for healing.

Ingrid's new book:

Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back

https://amzn.to/45QPceD

IG:https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/

Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/

Healing Trauma Through Psychodrama With Dr. Tian Dayton

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 21:30:46 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, clinical psychologist and author Dr.Tian Dayton shares her extensive knowledge and experience in trauma, addiction, and recovery through the lens of psychodrama. She discusses her journey into psychodrama, its origins, and how it can be integrated into addiction treatment. The conversation highlights the importance of role reversal in healing, the impact of trauma on the self, and the development of a trauma-informed approach. Dr. Dayton also emphasizes the significance of sociometry and group dynamics in therapy, and how psychodrama can address fragmentation within individuals.

takeaways

Dr. Tionne Dayton is an expert in trauma, addiction, and recovery.
Psychodrama is a role-playing method developed by J.L. Moreno.
Role reversal in psychodrama empowers individuals to see different perspectives.
Trauma can freeze our emotional responses and hinder healing.
Sociometry helps to understand group dynamics in therapy.
Psychodrama allows for the expression of complex emotions and experiences.
The method can be adapted for addiction treatment effectively.
Creating a safe environment is crucial for trauma recovery.
Understanding the origins of trauma can aid in healing.
Self-care is essential for therapists and clients alike.
The Power of Role Reversal in Therapy

About Our Guest:

Dr. Tian Dayton is a senior fellow at The Meadows and author of fifteen books including Treating Adult Children of Relational Trauma, Sociometrics,The ACoA Trauma Syndrome:, Emotional Sobriety, The Living Stage and Forgiving and Moving On. Dr, Dayton was formerly a professor of psychodrama at NYU. Dr. Dayton is a fellow of the American Society of Psychodrama, Sociometry and Group Psychotherapy ASGPP, winner of the Lifetime Achievement award, their scholar’s award, the President’s award and editor in chief of the Journal of Psychodrama, Sociometry and Group Psychotherapy and sits on the professional standards committee. She is also the winner of The Marty Mann Award, The Mona Mansell Award and The Ackermann Black Award. Dr. Dayton has been a guest expert on NBC, CNN, MSNBC, Montel, Rikki Lake, John Walsh, Geraldo. For further information log onto tiandayton.com, RTR-sociometrics.com to learn more about RTR.

Newest Book: Growing Up with Addiction: How Adult Children of Addicts Can Heal Family Trauma, C-PTSD, and Codependency https://amzn.to/3V9eS0R

Tian's Website:

https://www.tiandayton.com/

https://relationaltraumarepair.com/

Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear

https://markmcnear.com/

Healing Trauma: The Body's Role In Recovery With Pat Odgen

Fri, 08 Aug 2025 17:42:49 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, host Monique Koven engages in a profound conversation with Dr. Pat Ogden, the founder of Sensory Motor Therapy. They explore the critical role of the body in healing complex trauma, emphasizing that trauma affects not just the mind but also the body. Dr. Ogden discusses how unresolved trauma can manifest in physical responses and the importance of somatic therapies in addressing these issues. The conversation delves into the processes of empowerment through therapy, the complexities of navigating relationships for those with trauma histories, and practical tools for emotional regulation. The episode highlights the ongoing nature of trauma for many individuals and the necessity of understanding and addressing these experiences holistically.

takeaways

The body must be involved in healing complex trauma.
Trauma affects the body first, leading to dysregulated responses.
Healing requires addressing both cognitive and somatic aspects.
Empowerment in therapy is a gradual process.
Understanding the freeze response is crucial for trauma recovery.
Cognitive understanding alone is insufficient for healing.
Ongoing trauma can affect emotional regulation and safety.
Therapeutic safety and rapport are essential for effective healing.
Mindfulness and body awareness can aid in trauma recovery.
Practical tools for regulation vary for each individual.
Path to Healing

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute https://sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org/

Healing Trauma: A Journey of Understanding With Estefana Johnson

Fri, 01 Aug 2025 16:15:00 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Dr. Mark McNear speaks with Estefana Johnson, a trauma therapist, about her personal journey and the impact of cultural background on therapy. They discuss the challenges faced by individuals from minority populations, the importance of understanding critical memory integration (CMI) in trauma therapy, and the need for creating safety in therapeutic relationships. Estefana emphasizes the significance of acceptance, compassion, and empowerment through adversity, highlighting that healing is about digesting experiences rather than pathologizing them.

Learn More here:

https://arisealliance.org/about-us/estefana-johnson/

https://arisealliance.org/press/mental-health-spotlight-podcast/

https://arisealliance.org/trainings/critical-memory-integration-cmi/

Disclosure: This episode includes a paid guest feature. The guest’s comments represent their own views and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Healing Trauma Podcast or its hosts. This episode should be considered sponsored content.

The Science Of Safety & The Polyvagal Theory Q & A With Deb Dana

Sat, 26 Jul 2025 15:36:03 +0000

In this rerelease conversation, returning guest therapist & author Deb Dana answers your questions. Deb delves into the Polyvagal Theory, explaining its significance in understanding the autonomic nervous system and its impact on our daily experiences. She discusses the hierarchy of the nervous system, the importance of co-regulation, and the process of befriending one's nervous system. The conversation also addresses the challenges of building capacity in a reactive system, practicing regulating tools, and navigating anxiety. She also emphasizes the need for safe connections and the role of attachment and boundaries in our relationships, providing insights into how to reshape our nervous systems for better emotional health.

takeaways

Polyvagal Theory helps us understand our autonomic nervous system.
The autonomic nervous system has a hierarchy of responses.
Ventral state is where we experience wellbeing.
Co-regulation is essential for survival and thriving.
Befriending your nervous system is a process of gathering information.
Building capacity in a reactive system takes time and patience.
Practicing regulating tools is crucial for emotional health.
Listening to your nervous system is key to understanding your needs.
Safe connections are vital for healing and growth.
Attachment styles influence our relationships and boundaries.

Deb Dana's Books & Resources:

Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory https://amzn.to/3GSm8Lj

Polyvagal Practices: Anchoring the Self in Safety https://amzn.to/4515qBj

The Nervous System Workbook: Practical Exercises to Ease Anxiety, Find Safety, and Come Home to Yourself Using Polyvagal Theory https://amzn.to/4mdNzOw

Polyvagal Card Deck: 58 Practices for Calm and Change https://amzn.to/3TZkw5m

Polyvagal Exercises for Therapists and Clients: 50 Client-Centered Practices https://amzn.to/4lYl4oc

https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/

Find a list of recommended books + resources for the healing trauma journey.

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Healing Trauma & Internal Family Systems With J. Ashley T. Booth

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 15:12:27 +0000

Join Guest host Dr. Mark McNear as he welcomes J. Ashley T. Booth to the Healing Trauma Podcast. In this episode, they delve into the transformative world of Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy. Discover how IFS offers a gentle, non-pathologizing approach to healing trauma by exploring the different parts of ourselves and fostering a deeper connection to our true self. Ashley shares insights from her book, "Quieting the Storm Within," and discusses the power of curiosity and compassion in the healing journey. Tune in to learn how IFS can help you navigate inner conflicts and embrace post-traumatic growth.

Find ashley here:ashleybooth.net

Book:Quieting the Storm Within: An Illustrated Introduction to Your Parts Through Internal Family Systems and Beyond https://amzn.to/3GtRE28

Disclosure: This episode includes a paid guest feature. The guest’s comments represent their own views and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Healing trauma Podcast or its hosts. This episode should be considered sponsored content.

The Origins Of Complex PTSD: A Conversation with Dr. Judith Herman

Sat, 12 Jul 2025 12:58:14 +0000

So Honored and thrilled to reshare this conversation with Dr. Judith Herman.

In this conversation, renowned trauma expert Dr. Judith Herman and host Monique Koven delve into the complexities of trauma and recovery, particularly focusing on the impact of interpersonal violence and the importance of social movements in validating survivors' experiences. They discuss the challenges faced by survivors within the justice system and the need for community support in the healing process. Dr. Herman introduces her new book, 'Truth and Repair,' which expands on the themes of her previous work, emphasizing the necessity of social healing alongside individual recovery.

takeaways

The book 'Trauma and Recovery' was pivotal for many survivors.
Complex PTSD is often misunderstood and under-diagnosed.
Interpersonal violence has profound effects on identity and mental health.
Social movements play a crucial role in validating survivors' experiences.
Recovery involves both individual and social healing processes.
Survivors often seek truth and validation over monetary compensation.
The justice system can be re-traumatizing for survivors.
Community support is essential for healing from trauma.
Survivors often want to confront their perpetrators for closure.
Empathy and understanding within communities can aid recovery.

About our guest:

Dr. Judith Herman is a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. She was the recipient of the Lifetime Achievement Award from the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies and is a distinguished life fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. 'Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror,' Judith’s second book, is revered as the seminal text on understanding trauma survivors.

The conventional retributive process fails to serve most survivors; it was never designed for them. Judith argues that the first step toward a better form of justice is simply to ask survivors what would make things as right as possible for them. In her new book, 'Truth and Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice,' she commits the radical act of listening to survivors. Recounting their stories, she offers an alternative vision of justice as healing for survivors and their communities.

Deeply researched and compassionately told, Truth and Repair envisions a new path to justice for all.

Judith's Books:

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

https://amzn.to/40d7R2b

Truth and Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice https://amzn.to/40aTmMr

Understanding Complex Trauma and Its Effects With Amber Trejo

Thu, 03 Jul 2025 22:26:47 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Leah Denton interviews Amber Trejoa licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in integrative trauma therapy. Amber shares her personal journey with trauma, her approach to therapy, and the complexities of dealing with complex trauma and its effects on relationships and parenting. The conversation delves into attachment styles, the importance of self-care, and the challenges of navigating grief and loss. Amber emphasizes the significance of finding the right therapist and understanding emotional flashbacks, particularly in the context of parenting. The episode provides valuable insights for trauma survivors and those seeking to understand the impact of trauma on their lives.

takeaways

Amber is an integrative trauma therapist who combines various modalities.
She emphasizes the importance of understanding complex trauma.
Amber's personal experiences with trauma shaped her therapeutic approach.
Attachment styles significantly affect relationships for trauma survivors.
Self-care is crucial for parents with complex trauma backgrounds.
Building safe connections in therapy is essential for healing.
Grief and loss can trigger unresolved trauma issues.
Finding a trauma-informed therapist is vital for effective healing.
Generational trauma impacts parenting styles and emotional responses.
Emotional flashbacks can complicate parenting and relationships

Find Amber Trejo here:

https://www.theintegrativetraumathera...

/ integrativetraumatherapist

Find Leah Denton:

https://www.instagram.com/psycho.therapypodcast/profilecard/?igsh=NW43djFkMGZ2NTli

Psycho Therapy Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/psycho-therapy/id1728786872?i=1000647241277

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The Power of Memoir in Healing With Dr. Frank Anderson

Sat, 21 Jun 2025 13:45:24 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Dr. Mark McNear interviews Dr. Frank Anderson, a Harvard-trained psychiatrist and trauma expert, about his memoir 'To Be Loved.' They discuss the healing journey through writing, the importance of integrating personal trauma experiences, and the impact of shame on adult relationships. Dr. Anderson shares insights on the evolution of trauma treatment and the need for trauma-informed media, emphasizing that healing is possible for everyone.

takeaways

Dr. Anderson's memoir aims to inspire hope and healing.
Writing can be a powerful tool for personal healing.
Integration of trauma experiences is crucial for recovery.
Shame from childhood can deeply affect adult relationships.
Understanding personal trauma can lead to healthier choices.
Taking responsibility is key to healing from trauma.
The field of trauma treatment has evolved significantly.
Trauma-informed media can change societal narratives.
Everyone has the capacity to heal from trauma.
Healing is a journey that requires compassion and understanding.

About the Guest:Frank Anderson, MD, is a world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist. He is the acclaimed author of Transcending Trauma, a recently released memoir, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation, and the co-author of the Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual. As a global speaker on the treatment of trauma and dissociation, he’s passionate about teaching brain-based psychotherapy and integrating current neuroscience knowledge with Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Dr. Anderson is the co-founder of The Trauma Institute and Trauma Informed Media, organizations that promote trauma awareness, education, integration, and healing. He is a lead trainer at the IFS Institute under Richard Schwartz and has a long affiliation with Bessel van der Kolk and the Trauma Research Foundation. Dr. Anderson maintains a private practice in Harvard, MA, where he lives with his husband and two sons.

Frank's Books

To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation https://amzn.to/3ST15KU

Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family Systems https://amzn.to/4l3PPat

Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual: Trauma-Informed Treatment for Anxiety, Depression, PTSD & Substance Abuse https://amzn.to/44hQMGF

The Power of Parts in Healing Trauma With Robin Shapiro

Sat, 14 Jun 2025 14:30:00 +0000

In this episode, Monique re-releases a conversation with trauma therapist Robin Shapiro, focusing on the concept of ego states and their role in trauma therapy. Robin explains how ego state therapy differentiates various parts of the self, particularly in individuals with trauma histories. The discussion covers the importance of understanding these parts, the role of dissociation, and the integration of different therapeutic approaches to facilitate healing. Robin also shares techniques for creating safe healing spaces and nurturing inner child parts, emphasizing the need for therapists to have a multifaceted approach to treatment.

takeaways

Ego state therapy helps differentiate parts of the self.
Understanding ego states is crucial for trauma recovery.
Dissociation can lead to a lack of control over ego states.
Therapists must be creative in their approach to therapy.
Building safe spaces is essential for healing.
Integrating various therapeutic modalities enhances treatment effectiveness.
The adult self plays a vital role in therapy.
Imaginal nurturing can help heal early attachment trauma.
Therapists should be aware of their clients' different needs.
Healing is possible at any stage of life.

Robin's book:Easy Ego State Interventions: Strategies for Working With Parts https://amzn.to/43F9Mic

Robin's Website: https://www.emdrsolutions.com/

Your Story: A Roadmap to Healing With Adam Young

Fri, 06 Jun 2025 16:00:00 +0000

In this episode of The Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Adam Young, a licensed clinical social worker and author, about the importance of storytelling in healing from trauma. Adam shares insights on how personal stories shape our lives, the significance of engaging with our past, and the role of kindness in self-discovery. The conversation delves into family dynamics, the neuroscience of memory, and practical steps for individuals to begin their journey of healing through storytelling.

takeaways

Understanding your story can lead to freedom and release.
Symptoms are linked to past experiences and should be explored.
Engaging with your story requires curiosity and kindness.
Family dynamics can create emotional triangles that affect relationships.
Trauma is often compounded by a lack of care and witness.
The journey of self-discovery is ongoing and requires multiple passes.
Witnessing others' stories is crucial for healing.
Neuroscience shows that coherent storytelling aids in trauma recovery.
Bringing kindness to your past can transform your present.
The end goal of story work is to become more fully yourself.

Thank you to our guest:

Adam Young - https://adamyoungcounseling.com/

Adam's New Book: Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Past with Kindness Changes Everything https://amzn.to/4kRN9wy

Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear

https://markmcnear.com/

How Internal family Systems Can Help with Shame With Dr. Laryssa Creswell

Sat, 31 May 2025 14:15:00 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Monique and her guest Dr. Laryssa Creswell discuss the impact of trauma and the importance of understanding our internal family systems (IFS) in healing. Laryssa emphasizes the role of shame, self-energy, and the need for self-compassion in navigating our emotional landscape. The conversation explores the significance of reparenting our younger parts and the journey of self-discovery in therapy. Dr. Creswell encourages listeners to trust themselves and recognize their own expertise in their healing journey.

About The Guest: Dr. Laryssa Creswell is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Board-Certified Music Therapist with over 25 years of experience in the mental health field. She is the owner of Fearlessly Inspired Therapeutic Solutions, LLC, a private practice devoted to helping women and teen girls heal from trauma. Dr. Creswell’s past research focused on developing creative arts therapies for women experiencing mental health and substance use challenges. She currently serves as an adjunct professor at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology and is the author of The Invisible Weight We Carry, a powerful guide to setting down generational burdens and reclaiming one’s voice.

Laryssa's website: https://fearlesslyinspiredsolutions.com

Find Her book here: The Invisible Weight We Carry: Breaking Free from Generational Burdens and Emotional Baggage

https://amzn.to/4jpgygJ

Connect with Monique on IG https://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/

Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/lfbuk_xv7j8

Disclosure: This episode includes a paid guest feature. The guest’s comments represent their own views and do not necessarily reflect the views of The healing Trauma Podcast or its hosts. This episode should be considered sponsored content.

Brainspotting & Healing Trauma With David Grand, Ph.D.

Fri, 16 May 2025 00:00:00 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Dr. Mark McNear interviews Dr. David Grand, the developer of Brain Spotting, a psychotherapy technique particularly effective for trauma. They discuss the principles of Brain Spotting, its discovery, and how it differs from other therapeutic approaches. The conversation includes a role-play demonstration, insights into the healing process, and the importance of following the client's lead in therapy. Dr. Grand emphasizes the developmental nature of trauma and the need for a compassionate, attuned therapeutic relationship. The episode concludes with reflections on the future of Brain Spotting and its potential to help those with trauma.

takeaways

Brain Spotting is effective for both single and complex trauma.
The eyes are deeply connected to emotional processing.
Therapists should follow the client's lead in therapy.
Healing involves moving from the past to the present.
The nervous system knows how to heal itself.
Trauma manifestations are natural responses to unnatural circumstances.
Shame and guilt are often passed from perpetrators to survivors.
Everything in therapy is developmental.
Brain Spotting can be integrated with other therapeutic modalities.
The future of Brain Spotting holds great potential for healing.

About our guest:

David Grand, PhD is the developer of Brainspotting, the groundbreaking relational brain-body-mindfulness-based method. He is the author of Brainspotting: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Rapid and Effective Change and the co-author of This is Your Brain on Sports. Dr. Grand is involved in humanitarian activities with survivors of 9/11, Katrina, and Sandy Hook/Newtown. He has accomplished breakthroughs in performance and creativity with Brainspotting Sports Work and Brainspotting Acting Coaching. Dr. Grand has been widely featured in the media, including The NY Times, NBC National News, The Discovery Channel, CNN, MSNBC, Sports Illustrated, and Sirius Radio.

Website: https://brainspotting.com/

Book: Brainspotting: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Rapid and Effective Change by David Grand

https://amzn.to/4dDSVzP

Connect with Dr. Mark McNear

https://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnear/

Having To Celebrate Your Emotionally Immature Mother With Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

Mon, 05 May 2025 20:37:58 +0000

Dr. Lindsay Gibson is back just in time for Mother's Day.

About our Guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist and the author of the Emotional Immaturity series of books, including her bestseller Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

Takeaways

Mother's Day can evoke mixed emotions, including grief and obligation.
It's important to honour your own feelings during this holiday.
Emotional immaturity in parents can complicate relationships.
Self-validation is crucial for emotional well-being.
Finding a balance between honouring a parent and honouring oneself is key.
It's okay to choose how to engage with emotionally immature parents.
Reconnecting with oneself is essential for personal growth.
Practicing self-care can help manage emotional turmoil.
Taking a pause to reflect on feelings can lead to better self-understanding.

Find Lindsay's books here:

Adult children of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/4kpLu1l

Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy

https://amzn.to/42YKdHg

Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence

https://amzn.to/3RTG6XX

Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/44qhHRo

Connect with Monique on IG https://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/

Saving the Lost Girl with Kelly Jean Torres

Fri, 25 Apr 2025 01:30:00 +0000

In this conversation, host Monique Koven and author and survivor Kelly Jean Torres discuss the profound themes of trauma, healing, and the complexities of relationships stemming from Kelly's memoir, 'Saving the Lost Girl.' They explore Kelly's early life experiences, including her adoption, the abuse she faced in foster care, and the impact of these experiences on her self-worth and relationships as an adult. The discussion emphasizes the importance of therapy, the ongoing journey of healing, and the power of storytelling to reclaim one's narrative and foster understanding in others.

takeaways

Kelly's memoir is a raw and authentic account of her life.
The impact of childhood trauma can persist into adulthood.
Isolation in foster care can exacerbate feelings of worthlessness.
Therapy can help individuals process trauma and rebuild self-worth.
Relationships can be complicated for trauma survivors, often leading to codependency.
Understanding one's triggers is crucial for healing.
Empowerment comes from reclaiming one's story and sharing it with others.
The foster care system often fails to protect vulnerable children.
Shame can stem from a lack of validation and support during childhood.
Healing is a continuous journey that requires self-reflection and growth.

Find Kelly here:https://www.instagram.com/kellyjeantorres1/

Kelly's book available here: https://amzn.to/3Gk05N1

Connect with Monique on IG https://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/

The Importance of Safety in Therapy With Simone Saunders

Fri, 18 Apr 2025 00:54:25 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Kimberly Weeks speaks with Simone Saunders, a licensed therapist and founder of The Cognitive Corner. They explore the importance of somatic therapy in addressing trauma, emphasizing the need for safety in therapeutic relationships and the integration of mind and body. The conversation delves into the challenges of resistance and disconnection in clients, the impact of toxic relationships on identity, and the necessity of building internal safety. Simone shares tools for regulating the nervous system and highlights the significance of cultural responsiveness in therapy.

Follow Simone on Instagram / thecognitivecorner

Follow Simone on Tiktok / thecognitivecorner

Kimberly Weeks supports survivors of narcissistic abuse and is an accomplished instructor and coach in leadership development and business coaching. She is also a specialist in rupture and repair, helping individuals and organizations navigate and heal from interpersonal conflicts and challenges.

Kimberly Weeks | Narcissistic Abuse Recovery for Women

Certified Trauma Care Practitioner & Supervisor

Follow Kimberly Weeks:

https://www.instagram.com/iamkimberlyweeks/?hl=en

The Body's Response to Trauma With Dr. Maureen Gallagher

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 17:09:00 +0000

Re Releasing this informative conversation with psychologist & Somatic Experiencing faculty member Dr. Maureen Gallagher.

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, host Monique Koven engages with trauma expert Maureen Gallagher to explore the complexities of trauma, its impact on the body and mind, and effective healing modalities. They discuss the significance of understanding developmental and complex trauma, the role of attachment, and the importance of a gentle, titrated approach to healing. The conversation emphasizes the need for awareness of one's nervous system responses and the integration of somatic experiencing with interrelational focusing to foster resilience and healing.

Takeaways:

Understanding trauma's impact on the body is crucial for recovery.

Developmental trauma can lead to complex PTSD if not addressed.
Attachment plays a significant role in how trauma affects individuals.
Shutdown and hyperactivation are common responses to trauma.
Titration is a key concept in gradually expanding resilience.
Trauma responses can persist long after the traumatic event has passed.
Slow and steady healing is more effective than rushing into trauma narratives.
The cortex often misguides individuals in their healing journey.

Find Maureen: https://maureengallagherphd.com/

Body & Soul, Healed & Whole with Tabitha Westbrook

Thu, 03 Apr 2025 21:57:52 +0000

Trigger warning: This episode includes mentions of faith, discussed in a safe and respectful manner.

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Tabitha Westbrook discuss the complexities of healing from trauma, particularly in the context of faith and the church. Tabitha shares her expertise as a licensed therapist specializing in complex trauma, domestic abuse, and coercive control, and emphasizes the importance of empathy, embodiment, and self-compassion in the healing process. They explore the church's role in addressing trauma and sexuality, the need for honest conversations, and practical steps for individuals seeking healing. The discussion highlights the significance of recognizing one's worth and the journey towards recovery, filled with hope and actionable insights.

Tabitha's new book: Body & Soul ,Healed & Whole, An Invitational guide To healthy Sexuality After Trauma ,Abuse & Coercive Control.

👉 Order the book here:https://amzn.to/3FT0aXB

Disclosure: This episode includes paid promotion. The guest’s comments represent their own views and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Healing Trauma Podcast or its hosts. This episode should be considered sponsored content.

We All Have Parts With Colleen West

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 22:00:00 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, we are revisiting an episode which was originally recorded in 2022. My guest is licensed therapist Colleen West and author of the book "We All Have Parts, An Illustrated Guide To Healing Trauma with Internal Family Systems".

We chat about various therapeutic approaches, including Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the concept of the window of tolerance. The conversation delves into how trauma manifests in symptoms, the importance of understanding self-energy, and the impact of pre-verbal trauma on individuals. Colleen shares insights on the role of protectors in therapy and the significance of attachment in relationships, providing listeners with a comprehensive understanding of trauma and healing.

Find Coleen West's Book :

We All Have Parts: An Illustrated Guide To Healing Trauma with Internal Family Systems

https://amzn.to/4bRaKKP

https://www.colleenwest.com

The Ongoing Reality of Healing Trauma With Benjamin Fry

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 20:00:00 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Benjamin Fry, a psychotherapist and founder of Khiron Clinics. Benjamin shares his personal journey through trauma, detailing his experiences with anxiety, suicidal ideation, and the impact of his early childhood loss. He discusses the complexities of trauma, the importance of understanding its effects on relationships, and the ongoing process of healing. The conversation also touches on the innovative approaches in trauma therapy, including EMDR and somatic experiencing, and the potential of technology in understanding and managing trauma responses.

takeaways

Benjamin Fry shares his journey through trauma and recovery.
He emphasizes the exaggerated physiological reactions to stress and anxiety.
The importance of understanding trauma's impact on relationships is highlighted.
Healing trauma is an ongoing process, not a one-time fix.
The role of early childhood experiences in shaping adult behavior is discussed.
Innovative therapies like EMDR and somatic experiencing are effective in trauma recovery.
The significance of community and relational dynamics in healing is explored.
Benjamin's passion lies in helping others navigate their trauma.

Benjamin Fry is the founder of Khiron Clinics, one of the world's leading residential trauma-treatment centers, and Televagal, an innovative mental health technology platform. An accredited psychotherapist, couples therapist, speaker, author, and entrepreneur, he has written four books, including The Invisible Lion: How to Tame your Nervous System and Heal your Trauma. With a diverse career spanning psychology, media, and business, Benjamin read Physics and Philosophy at Oxford and then attended film school, directing a feature-length film distributed by HBO and Paramount.

Khiron Clinics

https://khironclinics.com

Benjamin Fry

https://www.benjaminfry.co.uk

Benjamin's Book:

The Invisible Lion: How Tame your Nervous system and heal your Trauma

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Navigating Toxic Family Dynamics with Dr. Sherrie Campbell

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 14:10:00 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Monique is chatting with psychologist and author Dr. Sherrie Campbell. Sherrie shares her insights on navigating the complexities of emotional abuse and toxic family dynamics. Drawing from her personal experiences and professional expertise, she discusses the importance of establishing boundaries, taking responsibility for one's own healing, and transforming pain into purpose. Dr. Campbell emphasizes that not all parents are good and that recognizing toxic relationships is crucial for mental health and personal growth. The conversation highlights the journey of healing and the empowerment that comes from understanding one's worth and setting healthy boundaries.

takeaways

Dr. Sherrie Campbell has written multiple books on toxic family dynamics.
Emotional abuse can be subtle and often goes unrecognized.
Establishing boundaries is essential for personal healing.
It's important to take responsibility for your own mental health.
Healing involves becoming the person you were meant to be.
Not all parents are good, and it's okay to cut ties.
Self-care is not selfish; it's necessary for well-being.
Recognizing toxic relationships is crucial for mental health.
Transforming pain into purpose can lead to personal growth.
It's never too late to realize that your life matters.

To Get in Touch with Dr. Sherrie:https://drsherriecampbell.com/

Sherapy Sessions: Cutting Toxic Family Ties Podcast:https://drsherriecampbell.com/cutting...

*Sherrie's Books:

Adult Survivors Of Emotionally Abusive Parents:

https://amzn.to/4ihLAaa

Adult Survivors Of Toxic Family Members

https://amzn.to/4ilVw2p

Take what You Need, Soft Words For Hard Days With Aundi Kolber

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 12:20:00 +0000

Today I am sharing my second interview with trauma therapist and author of Aundi Kolber. Her latest book is Take What You Need, Soft Words For Hard Days. We continue our conversation on the necessity of compassion and gentleness in the healing process. Aundi emphasizes the ebb and flow of healing, the significance of recognizing and validating personal needs, and the impact of developmental trauma on emotional health. She also explores the role of shame in hindering healing and the necessity of embodied knowledge in therapy. The discussion concludes with a focus on the power of language in facilitating healing and the hope that her book can serve as a valuable resource for those on their healing journeys.

Podcast highlights:

Healing should be approached with gentleness and compassion.
The process of healing is not linear; it has ebbs and flows.
Compassion is essential in therapeutic settings.
Recognizing and validating our needs is crucial for healing.
Developmental trauma can have long-lasting effects on individuals.
Shame can prevent us from expressing our needs and seeking help.
Our bodies possess wisdom about our needs, even when we are unaware.
Healing often requires a thawing process to access buried emotions.
Language can be a powerful tool for healing and connection.
Resources like books can provide support on the healing journey.

Grab Aundi’s book “Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days”

You can also find her previous books, Strong Like Water and Try Softer.

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Aundi Kolber’s – Website and Instagram

Soft Words For Hard Days with Aundi Kolber

Sat, 08 Feb 2025 00:55:00 +0000

Monique is joined by the incredible Aundi Kolber, a trauma therapist and bestselling author of Try Softer. Aundi will be with us over the the next two episodes. Aundi discusses her latest book, 'Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Times,' focusing on the importance of gentleness and compassion in healing. She emphasizes the need for safety and empowerment in the healing process, highlighting the role of self-compassion and the significance of relationships.

Some highlights of the conversation:

Our capacity for aliveness can be discovered through gentle practices
Safety and compassion are essential for learning and healing.
Self-compassion is often lacking in trauma survivors.
Finding glimmers of aliveness can enhance emotional well-being.
The body holds wisdom that can guide healing.
Compassionate resourcing helps convey safety to our bodies.
Understanding our limits is crucial for personal growth.
Connection with others is vital for healing.
Healing is a journey that requires patience and self-kindness

AundiKolber.com

Aundi's book :Take what You Need Soft Words For Hard Days

https://amzn.to/41a0kSQ

Navigating the Complexity of Boundaries with Lauren Auer

Thu, 23 Jan 2025 19:55:00 +0000

In this conversation, Monique is chatting with trauma therapist Lauren Auer about the importance of setting boundaries, especially for trauma survivors. They explore the discomfort and challenges that come with establishing personal limits, the emotional toll of boundary-setting, and the necessity of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. The discussion emphasizes that while setting boundaries can be difficult, it is essential for emotional well-being and personal growth.

You can find Lauren here:

website : steadfastcounseling.com

Instagram: Instagram

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The Emotionally Unsafe Mother With Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 16:10:00 +0000

In this conversation, Monique Koven and returning guest trauma specialist and psychologist Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia discuss the profound impact of being seen in relationships, particularly between mothers and daughters. Deniz explores how early attachment experiences shape our sense of self and emotional health, leading to patterns that persist into adulthood. The discussion delves into the effects of emotional immaturity in parenting, the connection between trauma and self-perception, and the importance of reconnecting with our bodies to express emotions. Monique emphasizes the challenges of navigating relationships with emotionally immature parents and they discuss the journey towards authenticity, highlighting the need for compassion and boundaries in healing.

Find Deniz here:

https://www.drdeniz.com/

Cycle-Breakers: Positive Discipline With Sarah R. Moore

Sun, 29 Dec 2024 01:00:00 +0000

In this conversation, Monique welcomes back certified master parenting trainer Sarah R Moore as part of a cycle breakers parenting series. They discuss the importance of understanding discipline in parenting through a trauma-informed lens. Sarah emphasizes that discipline should be viewed as a teaching opportunity rather than punishment, highlighting the impact of attachment on children's development. The discussion covers the significance of creating emotional safety, practical techniques for mindful parenting, and the power of repair in relationships. Sarah also shares insights on how to break cycles of negative parenting and offers support through coaching programs for parents.

Podcast takeaways

Discipline is about teaching, not punishment.
Children's attachment styles are influenced by parenting methods.
Fear-based discipline can lead to unhealthy adult relationships.
Creating emotional safety is crucial for children's learning.
Cycle breaking starts with inner safety for parents.
Mindful parenting techniques can be practiced in six seconds.
Repairing relationships after conflict is essential for healthy development.
Children learn better in a safe and supportive environment.
Positive parenting techniques can be applied to all ages.
Coaching and support can empower parents to create change.

Sarah R. Moore's Book : Peaceful Discipline:Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior: Get it here:

https://amzn.to/4gTSEZF

Empowering Yourself For Family Holiday Gatherings With Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

Sun, 15 Dec 2024 04:25:00 +0000

In this conversation, Monique and her guest psychologist and trauma specialist Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia discuss the emotional challenges individuals face during holiday gatherings, particularly when dealing with challenging family dynamics. She emphasizes the importance of self-validation, understanding personal triggers, and setting boundaries to protect one's emotional well-being. Deniz also highlights the significance of inner child work and self-compassion in navigating these complex relationships, encouraging listeners to recognize their agency and the choices they have as adults.

Podcast episode takeaways:

The holiday season can trigger intense emotions from childhood.
Family dynamics often pull us back into our childhood roles.
Understanding our triggers can help us prepare for family gatherings.
Setting boundaries is crucial for emotional well-being.
We have the power to choose how we respond to family members.
Inner child work is essential for healing past wounds.
Compassion towards ourselves is vital during stressful interactions.
Our bodies hold memories of past family dynamics.
We can validate our feelings without relying on others.
Preparation and self-care can empower us during the holidays.

Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia is a licensed clinical psychologist with expertise in trauma, anxiety disorders, and mindfulness meditation.

Instagram @drdenizpsyd.

Is It Trauma And ADHD? With Britt Frank

Fri, 06 Dec 2024 19:00:00 +0000

In this conversation, host Monique Koven and trauma therapist and author Britt Frank explore the intricate relationship between ADHD and trauma, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and the role of diagnosis in mental health. They discuss personal experiences, the challenges of navigating mental health labels, and practical strategies for managing everyday life. The dialogue highlights the significance of understanding one's unique needs and the power of acceptance in the journey of healing and personal growth.

Find Britt's books here:

The Science Of Stuck https://amzn.to/3ZlCLEs

The Getting Unstuck Workbook https://amzn.to/4gihNNq

Britt's Upcoming book: Align Your Mind: https://amzn.to/3ZqBHio

Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP, is a licensed neuropsychotherapist, speaker, and author. Her first book, The Science of Stuck, is now available from Penguin Random House in 9 languages and newest book, Align Your Mind, is now available for pre-order. Britt received her B.A. from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning adjunct professor. Frank speaks and writes widely about the brain and how to get unstuck from even the most long-standing habits and patterns. Her work has been featured by New York Magazine, Forbes, NPR, The Society for Human Resources Management, Psychology Today, Cosmopolitan, Parade Magazine, Esquire, and The New York Times.

Cycle -Breakers: Creating Safe Relationships With Our Children With Sarah R. Moore

Fri, 29 Nov 2024 21:30:00 +0000

In this conversation, Monique Koven and guest certified Master parenting Trainer Sarah R. Moore discuss the importance of creating safe spaces for children, the significance of secure attachment, and the impact of trauma on parenting. They explore the four S's of secure attachment—seen, safe, soothed, and secure—and how parents can navigate their own dysregulation to foster safe relationships with their children. Sarah shares insights from her programs designed to support parents and caregivers in their journey towards positive parenting and healing.

Podcast takeaways

Creating a safe space for children is essential.
Understanding trauma helps in parenting effectively.
Children are wired for secure attachment.
Emotional validation is crucial for children.
Repairing relationships is more important than perfection.
Emotions are contagious; children pick up on them.
Secure attachment leads to healthier relationships.
Parents should delight in their children.
Dysregulation can affect parenting responses.
Support programs can empower parents to heal.

Sarah R. Moore a certified parenting Master Trainer and, most importantly, a mama. Sarah is the author of Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior.Her life’s work is to support families to grow their peace, connection, and JOY together. Although she supports all sorts of families in all stages of parenting, some of her specific areas of expertise include parenting highly sensitive and/or strong-willed children, playful parenting, secure attachment, healthy communication, emotional intelligence, and re-parenting ourselves.

Sarah's book:Peaceful Discipline :https://amzn.to/4iiY9Tc

Understanding Dissociative Identity Disorder From A Lived Perspective With Adrian A. Fletcher, Psy.D

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 20:35:08 +0000

In this conversation, I am honoured to sit down and chat with Adrian Fletcher. Adrian is a licensed psychologist, author, and survivor with lived experience of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder. She also uses the name Adrienne & Co.System to reflect a DID system of 22 + parts. She discusses discusses the complexities of living with the condition, the challenges of diagnosis, and the importance of understanding and support from both therapists and the general public. She emphasizes the need for trauma-informed care and the significance of advocacy in breaking down stigma surrounding DID.

*Correction: in the audio its 1-3% of the population is suspected to live with it, not one in three.

takeaways

DID is often misunderstood and misdiagnosed, leading to a lack of appropriate treatment.
The average age of diagnosis for DID is around 37 years old.
Many people living with DID are unaware of their condition until later in life.
DID is a response to extreme and ongoing trauma, not a result of a single incident.
The media often misrepresents DID, contributing to stigma and misunderstanding.
Therapists need to be flexible and trauma-informed to effectively support clients with DID.
It's crucial for individuals with DID to communicate and check in with their parts regularly.
Advocacy and education are essential in changing public perception of DID.
Living with DID can lead to a complex relationship with identity and self-perception.
Support from family and friends is vital for those living with DID.

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Complex Trauma Through The Generations with Dr. Alison McClymont

Fri, 15 Nov 2024 04:16:07 +0000

In this conversation, I am joined with child psychologist and trauma therapist Dr. Alison McClymont. The discussion delves into generational trauma, exploring how the experiences of previous generations shape current parenting practices and emotional responses. Alison highlights the importance of recognizing and addressing small T traumas in children's lives, providing practical strategies for parents to navigate these challenges with compassion and awareness. Alison is the author of her upcoming book 'How to Help Your Child with Anything,' which focuses on everyday parenting challenges and offers a trauma-informed approach to addressing them.

takeaways

Trauma is a journey for survivors, impacting all facets of life.
Generational trauma influences parenting styles and emotional responses.
Understanding one's own childhood experiences is crucial for effective parenting.
Compassion for oneself as a parent is essential for growth.
Small T traumas can have significant impacts on children.
Emotional language is vital for children to express their experiences.
Recognizing the patterns of trauma in family history can aid healing.
Parents often project their unresolved trauma onto their children.
It's important to validate the experiences of trauma survivors.
Therapy can help individuals understand and process their emotional responses.

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Her Book: How to help your Child Cope With Anything. https://amzn.to/4fMDRQ5

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Red Flag Therapists With Leah Denton

Thu, 07 Nov 2024 16:00:00 +0000

In this conversation, host Monique Koven sits down with her friend trauma survivor and podcast host Leah Denton. Leah is the host of the podcast Psycho Therapy. Leah shares her personal journey through trauma, the challenges of seeking help, and the importance of recognizing red flags in therapy. The discussion emphasizes the need for accountability in therapeutic practices and highlights the healing power of sharing stories through her podcast, which aims to empower others who have experienced therapy harm.

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Permission To Grieve With J.S. Park

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 10:05:00 +0000

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host, Trauma therapist Dr. Mark McNear interviews JS Park, a hospital chaplain and author about the complexities of grief and trauma. They discuss the role of a chaplain as a 'grief catcher,' the importance of allowing space for grief, and the impact of personal trauma on resilience. JS shares insights on the significance of rituals in the grieving process and emphasizes the body's role in experiencing and processing grief. The conversation highlights the need for compassion and understanding in the face of loss, as well as the importance of redefining societal narratives around grief.

JS Park's book:

Take as Long As you Need.https://amzn.to/4f35TH5

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Parenting A Child Through Mental Health Struggles With Kristina Kuzmic

Fri, 25 Oct 2024 23:42:21 +0000

I am joined with the beautifully authentic and encouraging Kristina Kuzmic. Kristina shares her own journey of parenting Luca, her son who was struggling with depression, anxiety and even thoughts of suicide.

The conversation highlights the importance of curiousity, connection, empathy and the power of simply being present for loved ones in times of crisis.

Kristina shares her full story in their incredible journey her book.

I Can Fix This: And Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child. (Her son Luca, wrote a chapter.)

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The Science of Trauma Healing With Dr. Aimie Apigian

Fri, 04 Oct 2024 17:00:00 +0000

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Trauma Expert Dr. Aimie delve into the complexities of trauma healing, emphasizing the importance of understanding the body's role in processing trauma. They discuss the necessity of completing trauma responses, the significance of creating a sense of safety, and the journey from safety to aliveness. The conversation highlights the essential sequence in trauma healing, the role of support, and the importance of building new neural pathways for lasting change.

takeaways

Healing trauma requires a thoughtful and intentional approach.
The body holds trauma, and understanding its needs is crucial.
Completing trauma responses is essential for recovery.
Understanding the three states of the nervous system is vital for healing.
Creating a felt sense of safety is the first step in trauma recovery.
The journey from safety to aliveness is a key aspect of healing.
Building new neural pathways is necessary for lasting change.
Support from others can enhance the healing process.
Tools and skills for self-regulation empower individuals in their healing journey

Find a list of my recommended books, trainings + resources for healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/

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Thawing the Freeze: Moving Beyond Trauma With Dr. Arielle Schwartz

Sat, 28 Sep 2024 01:00:00 +0000

In this beautiful conversation, Monique Koven and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz delve into the complexities of trauma, resilience, and healing. They explore the nuances of complex trauma, the importance of therapy, and the power of community support in overcoming adversity. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, they highlight the journey of self-discovery and the significance of finding beauty in the midst of hardship. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and the gradual process of thawing from trauma, ultimately leading to post-traumatic growth.

The Post-Traumatic Growth Deck: Cards to Inspire Growth, Foster Your Resilience, and Awaken You to Your Potentialhttps://amzn.to/3TPqUMLThe

Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole https://amzn.to/4gJZRwn

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Understanding Overwhelm as a Trauma Response with Dr. Aimie Apigian

Fri, 20 Sep 2024 02:00:00 +0000

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Dr. Aimie Apigian discuss the topic of overwhelm and how it relates to trauma and our nervous system. They explore the concept of overwhelm as a trauma response and the ways in which our body tries to protect us from it. They also discuss the role of parts work in addressing overwhelm and how to work with the protector parts that prevent us from accessing the younger, overwhelmed parts. Aimie emphasizes the importance of collaboration and building trust with these parts. They also touch on the integration of biology, somatic work, and parts work in the healing journey

takeaways

Overwhelm is a trauma response that is different for trauma survivors compared to those who do not have a history of trauma.
Our body remembers past experiences of overwhelm and tries to protect us from experiencing it again.
Parts work is a tool for addressing overwhelm and involves working with the protector parts that prevent us from accessing the younger, overwhelmed parts.
Collaboration and building trust with these parts is essential in the healing process.
The integration of biology, somatic work, and parts work is important in addressing overwhelm and building a foundation of regulation.

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Navigating Relationships with Emotionally Immature People With Dr. Lindsay C Gibson

Fri, 30 Aug 2024 01:00:00 +0000

In this second conversation, Host Monique Koven and psychologist and author Dr. Lindsay Gibson discuss emotional immaturity and its impact on relationships. They explore the characteristics of emotional immaturity, such as egocentrism and poor empathy, and how it can manifest in various relationships. They also discuss the continuum of emotional maturity and the role of hope in dealing with emotionally immature individuals. Dr. Gibson offers insights into the experiences of those raised by emotionally immature parents and offers strategies for navigating relationships with emotionally immature people. She also shares information about her books on the topic.

takeaways:

Emotional immaturity can manifest in various relationships, including parent-child relationships, romantic relationships, and friendships.

Emotional immaturity is characterized by egocentrism and poor empathy, where individuals prioritize their own needs and emotions over others.
Emotional maturity is a continuum, and individuals can exhibit emotional immaturity in certain areas while being mature in others.
Hope is important in dealing with emotionally immature individuals, but it is also important to recognize and set boundaries to protect oneself.
Those raised by emotionally immature parents may have developed skills in caretaking and empathy, but it is important for them to prioritize their own needs and establish healthy boundaries in relationships.
Listening to one's body and recognizing how relationships make them feel can help identify emotionally draining or unhealthy dynamics.

Dr. Lindsay C Gibson's Books

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

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Disentangling From Emotionally Immature People

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Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence

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Trauma Healing : Living In Your Head To Moving Into Your Body With Deb Dana

Wed, 14 Aug 2024 00:37:51 +0000

You cannot to heal from Trauma until you gently learn to become friends with your nervous system. Many survivors have adapted to trauma by shutting down or disconnecting from their feelings and sensations.This makes sense when you live in a dangerous and threatening environment. However the patterns of disconnection remain long after the trauma is over.

Welcome to a brand new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. In this first healing trauma conversation, host Monique Koven and Trauma expert Deb Dana discuss the Polyvagal theory and trauma healing. They emphasize the importance of understanding the nervous system and how it shapes our experiences. They highlight the need to start making the nervous system a friend, rather than trying to solve problems without considering its role. They discuss the concept of glimmers, which are small moments of safety and regulation that can reshape the nervous system. Glimmers are seen as a way to build capacity for processing trauma and unresolved experiences..

The polyvagal theory is a foundational concept in understanding trauma and the nervous system.It is important to recognize and appreciate the wisdom of the nervous system and its survival responses. Befriending the nervous system and working with it can lead to a sense of safety and regulation. Glimmers, small moments of safety and regulation, can reshape the nervous system and build capacity for processing trauma.

Deb Dana's books:

Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory https://amzn.to/3N2lFpi

Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection

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Healing From Sexual Trauma With Kindness With Sam Jolman

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 20:47:43 +0000

This is the final episode of the *faith edition* of the Healing Trauma Podcast. We do plan to be back with a new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. For those of you who support the HTP podcast, content will continue to be shared through your Spotify subscription feed. You are also invited to join me in an upcoming Zoom call so I can have the chance to meet you. The details and zoom link will be found in the in the next podcast episode. I look forward to meeting you! In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host & trauma therapist Dr. Mark McNear interviews trauma therapist and author Sam Jolen. They discuss the importance of addressing sexual trauma and the challenges survivors face in opening up about their experiences. Sam shares his own journey of healing and how therapy helped him connect with his story. They also explore the concept of trauma and the role of play in the healing process. Sam emphasizes the importance of kindness and self-compassion in the journey of healing from trauma.TakeawaysSexual trauma survivors often hold their trauma as shame and may struggle to open up about their experiences.Therapy can provide a safe space for survivors to connect with their stories and begin the healing process.Trauma is a wound that overwhelms with negative felt experience and lacks a source of love or comfort.Play can be a healing tool that allows survivors to reconnect with joy and pleasure. Kindness and self-compassion are essential in the journey of healing from trauma.

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Refusing To Repeat, Telling The Truth & Healing Generational Trauma With Lisa -Jo Baker

Fri, 31 May 2024 19:19:43 +0000

This healing conversation delves into the author's book, 'It Wasn't Roaring, It Was Weeping,' and explores themes of family, trauma and transformation. Lisa Jo shares her emotional response to the book and engages in a deep discussion about her personal journey and the impact of generational trauma. The conversation offers insights into the complexity of parent-child relationships, and the potential for healing and transformation.

Takeaways

The power of forgiveness and its impact on personal healing and transformation
The complexity of parent-child relationships and the potential for repair and growth
The impact of generational trauma and the importance of self-reflection and change
The emotional response to the author's book and the deep connection it fosters with readersThe power of forgiveness and its impact on personal healing and transformation

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Emotional Maturity Through Learning How to Name What You Feel -With Dr. Alison Cook

Mon, 20 May 2024 22:08:53 +0000

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Alison Cook discuss the importance of acknowledging and embracing our emotions rather than brushing them aside or numbing them. They explore the concept of naming our emotions as a way to bring order and relief to our inner world. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and curiosity when it comes to our emotions, and the importance of pausing and reflecting before taking action. The conversation also touches on the healing journey of trauma survivors and the role of framing our emotions in a healthy way. Overall, the conversation highlights the practices of naming, awareness, framing, and braving as essential tools for emotional well-being.Key words emotions, naming, order, relief, self-compassion, curiosity, pausing, reflecting, trauma, healing, framing, braving, emotional. The conversation is based on themes in Alision’s new book “ I Shouldn’t Feel This Way.” Takeaways Acknowledging and embracing our emotions is important for our emotional well-being. Naming our emotions brings order and relief to our inner world. Self-compassion and curiosity are key in dealing with our emotions. Pausing and reflecting before taking action allows for wiser decision-making. The healing journey of trauma survivors involves learning to name and honor their emotions. Framing our emotions in a healthy way helps us understand and respond to them effectively. Braving involves taking action based on our emotional awareness and understanding. Embracing Our Emotions: The Key to Emotional Well-being Healing Trauma: Learning to Name and Honor Our Emotions "I shouldn't feel this way has become for me a little bit of a, oh, I feel something. I feel something I don't want to feel." "The truth sets us free. This is what I feel. I'm not gaslighting myself. I'm not trying to dupe myself into not feeling what I really feel." "Numbing is to try to keep those emotions outside of our conscious awareness. Naming is bringing them up into the surface and looking at them."Dr. Alison Cook's Website & Resources dralisoncook.com

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Mother's Day ~ Attending To Our Sacred Wounds With Dr. Arielle Schwartz

Thu, 09 May 2024 13:00:34 +0000

With Mother's Day approaching I'm re-releasing a special episode with psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz.In this episode, Monique Koven and Dr. Arielle Schwartz discuss the complexities of Mother's Day and the impact it can have on individuals with trauma. They explore the range of emotions that can arise, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion and attending to the sacred wounds of the past. They also discuss the role of attachment and how our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self. The conversation highlights the healing potential of acknowledging and validating our feelings and offering love and compassion to ourselves.

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Mother's Day, trauma, emotions, self-compassion, attachment Mother's Day can bring up a range of complex emotions for individuals with trauma, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. It is important to practice self-compassion and attend to the sacred wounds of the past. Our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self and can lead to feelings of responsibility and confusion. Acknowledging and validating our feelings is essential for healing and creating space for self-love and compassion. Attachment plays a significant role in our relationship with our mothers and our ability to offer love and compassion to ourselves. The Range of Emotions on Mother's Day Practicing Self-Compassion and Healing Sacred Wounds "Mother's Day is approaching, we start to feel this almost as countdown of a complexity of feelings."

"We learn to push down our authentic feelings because somebody else gave us this message that they couldn't handle our feelings."

"What is true for you is welcome here now."Grateful for Dr. Arielle Schwartz enormous contribution to the work of Trauma Recovery and Healing.

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This Is Complex Trauma- Naming What It Is with Dr. Alison Cook

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 22:00:38 +0000

This episode is a recent recording from psychologist Dr. Alison Cook's podcast "The Best Of You' where I was a guest. Taken from her podcast description

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You Are Safe Now With Tricia Lott Williford & Jana Richardson

Tue, 09 Apr 2024 15:02:08 +0000

In this trauma healing conversation, I am joined with Tricia Lott Williford & Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, authors of the book, You Are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, and Living in Freedom. This conversation is so unique as you will hear from both sides of the Trauma healing journey. Tricia shares from her perspective of feeling stuck in overwhelm & PTSD, and how she was able to slowly move through with the gentle support and guidance of her skilled therapist. Jana shares what it was like working with Tricia and what really helped and supported her through. They talk about the process of untangling the trauma and coming to the understanding of grooming, manipulation and sexual and spiritual abuse by a person of trust.

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You Are Safe Now offers a survivor’s first hand story of abuse in the church, including an explanation of the nature of abusers and their common tactics; a compassionate, nuanced discussion of trauma responses; research, examples, and statistics to identify abusive dynamics, predation, grooming, and psychological manipulation; and practical tools and resources to facilitate recovery. For survivors of abuse, counselors, therapists, pastors who treat survivors, and those who support survivors in their healing, You Are Safe Now is an indispensable resource.

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Tricia Lott Williford is a writer, blogger, teacher, and co-host of the podcast Let’s Talk Soon with her brother Rob. A prolific writer and ghostwriter, Tricia is the author of many books. She lives in Colorado with her family. Connect with her and followher writing at https://www.tricialottwilliford.com/.Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, and trained in EMDR, is a seasoned therapist with decades of expertise in counseling victims of trauma, grief, and addiction. Jana has presented internationally as a mental health educator with an emphasis in oncology.Jana lives in Colorado with her family.

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Redeeming Heartache With Dr. Dan Allender & Cathy Loerzel

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 03:07:02 +0000

It was an absolute pleasure to be joined by psychologist Dr. Dan Allender and therapist Cathy Loerzel for an incredible conversation about the journey of healing Trauma.

Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel are the authors of the book Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling.They are also the founders of The Allender Center. Dr. Dan Allender has pioneered a unique therapy centered around his innovative theory and training in transforming betrayal, ambivalence, and powerlessness into faith, hope, and love. He is a professor of counseling psychology at The Seattle School and founder of The Allender Center, speaking on trauma, sexual abuse recovery, love and forgiveness, and intimacy. He’s a popular podcaster on The Allender Center Podcast and the author of multiple books, Health the Wondered Heart,The Wounded Heart, The Healing Path, To Be Told and God Loves Sex. Connect with Dr. Allender on Facebook or Instagram The Allender Center Cathy Loerzel received her MA in Counseling Psychology in 2007 is the Co-Founder of The Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and co-author of Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Your True Calling. She has spent the last 15 years developing the theory and methodology of a popular new coaching and therapeutic approach called Story Work that moves people through their past stories of heartache to heal and discover healthier ways of being in the world. You can find her here. https://www.cathyloerzel.com

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Recovery And Healing With Dr. Mark McNear

Sun, 10 Mar 2024 23:16:40 +0000

On Today's healing conversation you are going to get compassionate validation as well as some understanding around the impact of childhood trauma on the body and the brain. I am joined once again with my friend, Dr. Mark McNear. Mark is a survivor and a therapist that shares openly about the healing journey. I loved our conversation and think you will too. Mark shares his personal journey to help others in theirs in his book, Finding My Words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma.

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Healing Trauma With Dr. Curt Thompson

Tue, 06 Feb 2024 22:35:02 +0000

I am delighted and to be able to share this conversation with therapist, podcast host, author and psychiatrist Dr. Curt Thompson. We talked about healing, safety and connection and the formation of embodied hope.

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Dissociation & Trauma With Tamara McClintock Greenberg, Psy.D

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 13:17:21 +0000

Tamara McClintock Greenberg, Psy.D., M.S., a beloved returning guest joins me on the podcast today. She is the author of six books including The Complex PTSD Coping Skills Workbook & Treating Complex Trauma.Tamara is a clinical psychologist in private practice in San Francisco, CA, where she specializes in treating adults with depression, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma, and those who are coping with medical illness, either as a patient or affected family member. She also has extensive experience with older adults and their children regarding coping with dementia or other medical illnesses. In addition, Tamara treats couples, as well as families with adult children.Her therapeutic approach is active and engaging and she uses a variety of evidence-based techniques that focus on reducing symptoms and feeling more connected to others. She has been practicing psychology in San Francisco since 1997. As a Volunteer Full Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco, Tamara spent over 12 years seeing medical patients and their families in the UCSF hospitals and clinics and has spent the last 25 years supervising psychiatry residents, psychology interns and students in a number of different training centers. Watch here: Youtube https://youtu.be/5RH3D_RTZPA?si=62pjkLIxttCExYiOTamara’s Latest Book: https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-C...Her Website:https://www.tamara-greenberg.com/

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Spiritual Bypassing With Dr. Mark McNear

Thu, 28 Sep 2023 00:13:58 +0000

We are joined again with therapist Dr. Mark McNear to discuss what spiritual bypassing is and how important it is to understand the whole person. Dr. Mark McNear, a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book Finding My words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark shares his personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and finding his words.Dr. Mark McNear's website:https://markmcnear.com/"Finding My Words" book:https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Wor... Meet with Monique https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/Thank you Mark for sponsoring the episode.

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Finding My Words With Dr. Mark McNear

Tue, 29 Aug 2023 17:31:25 +0000

Trigger warning: Childhood sexual abuse. On today's episode I am joined with Dr. Mark McNear, a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book Finding My words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark shares his personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and finding his words.To learn more or to purchase Dr. Marks book, head to the link below:Get his book here: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Wor... Mark's website:https://markmcnear.com⁠

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Healing from Betrayal Trauma With Michelle Mays

Wed, 16 Aug 2023 15:07:49 +0000

On today's episode I am joined with Michelle Mays. Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. She reveals the depth of the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect with, yet connection is the key to healing. Michelle looks at betrayal through the lens of attachment, as our attachment system is the very thing that connects us with anyone in our lives, and how betrayal causes a break in the attachment bond to the person we are closest with, shattering trust, and leaving a betrayed partner feeling unsafe and violated.

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Prayed Upon, Breaking Free From Therapist Abuse with Amy Nordhues

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 20:17:53 +0000

*Trigger warning: Talk of Sexual abuse On today's episode I sat down with Amy Nordhues, author and survivor of both childhood sexual abuse and sexual abuse as an adult at the hands of a mental health professional. Her story is detailed in her book “Prayed Upon, Breaking Free From Therapist Abuse.”During our conversation Amy touches on some of the following:The inner workings of the abuse process of adult victims -How past childhood trauma can make an adult vulnerable to predators -Understanding how an otherwise functional adult can be duped provides much needed healing for the victim and aides loved ones in providing support -Recognizing and bringing “into the light” the defective beliefs that are causing victims to doubt their own realities and become ensnared by abusers and more.Thank you so much Amy for sharing your vulnerable and personal experiences with the world in hopes of helping others feel less alone and more empowered.

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Feeling Safe Is Essential To Healing

Mon, 10 Jul 2023 18:58:42 +0000

I am still in vacation mode and have taken a little break from recording and sharing, however I was inspired to record a short video after I shared a post over on IG which says "Feeling Safe is Essential To Healing." I realized a little video may be helpful to elaborate just a tiny bit. Should be back to recording sometime in August.

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Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents - With Dr Lindsay C. Gibson

Fri, 19 May 2023 21:26:10 +0000

Today I am sharing an episode to watch or listen to. Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins us on the podcast to discuss “Emotionally Immature Parents”.

Dr. Gibson has been a psychologist for over thirty years, working in both public and private practice. In the past, she has served as an adjunct assistant professor in Clinical Psychology, teaching doctoral students clinical theory and psychotherapeutic techniques.Dr. Gibson is the author of four books: Who You Were Meant to Be, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents and Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self & Live With Confidence. Lindsay’s book “ Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents” prompted me to reach out to her to ask her more.

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Speaking Truth To Power with Rosie McMahan

Sat, 06 May 2023 14:21:00 +0000

I had the absolute honor and pleasure of talking with author,counsellor, educator, activist and childhood sexual abuse survivor Rosie McMahan. I decided to share this one via video (available through spotify platform & youtube). Rosie is the author of Fortunate Daughter: A Memoir of Reconciliation. Rosie and her family were one of the first families to work with renowned Trauma expert and psychiatrist Dr. Judith Herman and therapist Emily Schatzow in the 1970's. Dr. Judith Herman understood the need for survivors to take back their power and speak their truth about the impact of the abuse. With their guidance and support Rosie participated in family confrontation and disclosure where she gave her "Victim Statement." Listen as we discuss her memoir and questions around disclosure, empowerment and healing.About the book:Fortunate Daughter: A Memoir of Reconciliation. Though the book begins as an all-too-common story of childhood sexual abuse, it gradually becomes a rare story of how one person heals from that early trauma. In this intimate first-person narrative, McMahan offers the reader a portrait of misery, abuse, and hurt, followed by the difficult and painful task of healing. It’s a journey that, in the end, reveals the complicated and nuanced venture of true reconciliation and the freedom that comes along with it. Fortunate Daughter: A Memoir of Reconciliation is a first prize winner in the 2021 Chanticleer International Journey Book Awards.First, a daughter, sister, wife, and mother, McMahan identifies as an irreverent and opinionated white cisgendered woman, who is also a survivor, a feminist, writer, educator, counselor, attending Quaker, community activist, and avid botanical enthusiast. Her poetry has been published in several journals. She works at MA Mentoring Partnership and owns and operates Optimistic Options, a private practice rooted in trauma informed care and restorative justice principles.

Rosie's website optimistic-options.comRosie's Podcast: Heart2Heart Listen to conversation with Dr. Judith Herman and Emily Schatzow, the two clinicians that worked with Rosie and her family. Hear what they have to say on the topic of breaking secrecy.

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Caring For Aging Parents Who Did Not Care For You With Dr. Tamara McClintock Greenberg

Fri, 28 Apr 2023 02:55:31 +0000

On today's episode I welcome back psychologist and author Dr. Tamara McClintock Greenberg. The complexities of caregiving through illness, aging and the end of life issues is extremely challenging when there is a history of trauma/abuse/neglect by a parent in the family. This is a huge topic and one we will only cover very briefly. Dr. Greenberg offers ideas to help you think things through when it comes to determining your capacity & involvement.

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Self-Compassion With Dr. Kristin Neff

Fri, 21 Apr 2023 22:50:10 +0000

In this episode I’m releasing an episode from 2021 with author, teacher, speaker and researcher Dr. Kristin Neff. In our conversation, Kristin explains what self- compassion is and how we can balance having both tender and fierce Self-Compassion on our journey of healing from Trauma. You can connect with Kristin www.selfcompassion. Thank you to our sponsor Dr Tamara Mc Clintock Greenberg. https://www.tamara-greenberg.com/ https://a.co/d/0OBIAkF

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Predator- Therapist with Emma Stevens

Fri, 31 Mar 2023 02:59:49 +0000

Emma Stevens is back with us to talk about her second memoir “ A Fire Is Coming.” She is a U.S. domestic adoptee from birth and has survived layers of trauma that have put her on multiple journeys. Her traumas were born from first being relinquished, and then becoming an adoptee to abusive parents. Her developmental trauma increased her vulnerability to fall prey to an exploitative therapist. She has great courage to share and hopes to inform & educate others. You can get her book here. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BT76LPGF?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_dp_P4BKM5GPGVN57PJ9QY77 https://linktr.ee/EmmaStevensWriter

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Strong Like Water With Aundi Kolber

Fri, 24 Mar 2023 03:22:41 +0000

On today's episode I had the joy of welcoming back trauma therapist and author Aundi Kolber. Our conversation focused around her brand new book, Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing .

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Coping Skills For Complex PTSD with Dr. Tamara McClintock Greenberg

Fri, 03 Mar 2023 18:42:44 +0000

Today's guest is Dr. Tamara McClintock Greenberg. She is a clinical psychologist in private practice in San Francisco and a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California. She is also an author and her latest book is The Complex PTSD Coping Skills Workbook: An Evidence-Based Approach to Manage Fear and Anger, Build Confidence, and Reclaim Your Identity. During the episode, Tamara talks about the importance of having present day coping skills to manage some of the common symptoms of complex PTSD such as anger and fear and how they can show up in present day relationships. She shares why she views Trauma as an "Identity Theft" and talks about the difference between PTSD and Complex PTSD.Tamara's writing has focused on care taking, health psychology, psychodynamic psychology, women’s issues and trauma, with the aim of helping people navigate complex physical and/or psychological issues. Tamara is the author of six books and numerous contributed chapters. She is a champion of combining multiple approaches to treating the nuances and intricacies of psychological problems and has advocated for integration of psychotherapy methods, as dogmatic adherence to just 1-2 approaches can limit the help we can provide to clients.Tamara's books: The Complex PTSD Coping Skills Workbook: An Evidence-Based Approach to Manage Fear and Anger, Build Confidence, and Reclaim Your IdentityTreating Complex Trauma: Combined Theories and Methods.When Someone You Love Has Chronic Illness

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Attachment & Parenting With Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Fri, 24 Feb 2023 16:10:14 +0000

This episode is a rerelease recorded two years ago with best selling author, speaker and psychotherapist Dr. Tina Payne Bryson. We chat about attachment science and ways that parents can start to reflect and make sense of their own attachment history.

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A Somatic Understanding Of Trauma With Dr. Maureen Gallagher

Fri, 03 Feb 2023 02:59:18 +0000

l am joined with Dr. Maureen Gallagher, psychologist, Somatic Experiencing faculty member, and Inner Relationship Focusing Trainer. Maureen was my teacher at S.E and I’m asking her lots of questions to support you in your understanding of what is happening in your body and mind as it relates to trauma.

Maureen's work, visit: https://embodyingpsychotherapy.com/

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Losing Someone You Love To Suicide

Fri, 13 Jan 2023 23:42:52 +0000

Trigger Warning: The following episode contains conversations touching on suicide of a partner. On today's episode I am joined with Alexandra Wyman. Alexandra is an Amazon best-selling author of The Suicide Club: What To Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death, a guide to navigate the grief process after loss by suicide. Alexandra was plunged into grief and shock when her husband died by suicide. The sudden loss of the love of her life left her reeling with so many unanswered questions. One of the reasons she decided to write the book was to provide others with the kind of guidance and support she needed and could not find. You can find her book here:The Suicide Club: What to Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death https://a.co/6PdT3Gv Her Website: www.forwardtojoy.com

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The Wisdom Of Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride

Tue, 03 Jan 2023 22:01:06 +0000

In today’s conversation, psychologist and author Dr. Hillary McBride joins Monique to talk about trauma healing and embodiment. She is the author of the book, The Wisdom of the Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection through Embodied Living.You can find Hillary :https://hillarylmcbride.com/Instagram @hillaryliannamcbrideThank you to our sponsor Tyndale House Publishers Company. Dr. Daniel G. Amen newest book Change Your Brain Everyday is available for preorder www.tyndale.com/p/change-your-brain-every-day/9781496454577 Trauma Recovery Coaching and Resources www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/

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Try Softer With Aundi Kolber

Thu, 22 Dec 2022 17:15:17 +0000

On today's episode I am re-releasing a favorite episode of mine from last year. Aundi Kolber is trauma therapist & author of the book Try Softer, Aundi Kolber. In the episode, Monique and Aundi talk about the impact of Complex- Trauma on the body, mind and heart. Aundi shares how her own experience as a survivor & therapist helped to shape the book into a source of hope and comfort for others on their healing journey.

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Chandra's Journey Of Remembering

Fri, 09 Dec 2022 18:11:24 +0000

*Trigger WarningSensitive Content related to childhood sexual abuse. The impact of recovering memories that have been completely repressed for years or even decades can be a devastating process. On today’s episode, Chandra Moyer shares her personal experience of becoming aware of childhood sexual abuse after more than thirty years of dissociative amnesia. She talks about the impact it had on her and on those around her. She also talks about the support that was helpful for her journey.Chandra Moyer is a sought-after speaker, author, life coach and veteran army officer. For three decades, she has empowered women through conferences, healing retreats, and workshops. Chandra is the recipient of the FBI Director’s Community Leadership Award for her child trafficking prevention work. Visit Chandra’s website

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Anxiety from a Somatic Lens With Ilene Smith

Thu, 24 Nov 2022 22:44:40 +0000

On today's episode I am joined with therapist, coach and author Ilene Smith. We have often thought of anxiety as being in our "head" anxiety is a somatic ( in the body) experience. We talk about the body, mind and how you can begin to move through anxiety.Ilene is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP) whose work is rooted in the principles of attachment theory and eastern philosophies. She integrates several modalities into her practice, including talking, touch-work, and movement, to help clients develop deeper and safer relationships within and increased capacities for resilience and joy. She is the author of Moving Beyond Trauma: The Roadmap to Healing from Your Past and Living with Ease and Vitality (Lioncrest, 2020), an Amazon Bestseller that shows readers how to bring the body into the trauma healing process

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The Regulated Classroom with Emily Read Daniels

Fri, 11 Nov 2022 18:02:05 +0000

Today I am joined with Emily Daniels, the author and creator of The Regulated Classroom. The Regulated Classroom is a Trauma informed/Polyvagal-informed approach to cultivating conditions for felt safety in the classroom. Traditional approaches have tended to be seen through the lens of a behavioural paradigm. Without the understanding of the autonomic nervous system from a Polyvagal and Somatic perspective, one may conclude that behaviour or responses are always choice driven. Polyvagal Theory offers an understanding for why we may behave /respond in the way that we do. With this understanding, behaviours make more sense and it opens the space for more compassionate and curiousity.Y

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Body Aware With Erica Hornthal

Fri, 21 Oct 2022 23:06:41 +0000

On today's episode I am joined with Erica Hornthal. Erica is a dance and movement therapist and licensed clinical professional counselor. She is also known as the "Therapist Who Moves You. "Erica is also the Author of a new book Body Aware, a step-by-step journey how a mindful movement practice can slow down thoughts to lessen anxiety and panic and impact how and what we feel.When we talk about movement, most of us think "exercise". But the way we move our bodies, how we walk, roll, dance, stretch, stretch, connect, and take up space - is about so much more than physical fitness.Erica shares about how our movements impact our mental health and wellbeing and when we change the way we move, we can change the way we experience life. She even shares a little gentle practice with us during the episode.Body aware helps readers to learn and identify where they physically hold their emotions, understand and interpret their body's unique language, explore bodily sensations, identify emotional blockages and upgrade harmful thought cycles to patterns that instead foster resilience, emotional regulation, and productivity. During the episode she even shares a gentle movement practice.

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Believing Me- Healing Complex Trauma with Dr. Ingrid Clayton

Mon, 03 Oct 2022 22:14:31 +0000

In this episode I’m joined with psychologist and trauma therapist Dr. Ingrid Clayton. Ingrid experienced abuse at the hands of her narcissistic stepfather and recently released her powerful memoir called Believing Me, about her survival as a child and adult healing from narcissistic and complex trauma.

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PTSD and First Responders With Dr. Peter Salerno

Thu, 22 Sep 2022 21:49:37 +0000

In this episode I am joined with trauma therapist, Dr Peter Salerno. He is also the author of the book "Fit for Off-Duty:A Manual for firefighters: Healing from Work Related Trauma, Restoring Personal Relationships. and Thriving at Home." We talk about how first responders are repeatedly exposed to overwhelming emergencies and the impact that can have on the body, mind and on relationships. He also shares with us about EMDR and how this trauma healing modality can be very helpful for those with trauma related work experiences

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Healing And EMDR with Mark Odland

Thu, 08 Sep 2022 22:13:57 +0000

On today's episode I am joined with award -winning artist and poet Mark Odland. Mark is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Certified EMDR therapist. In this episode we talk about some themes around healing Trauma taken from his latest book, EMDR Inspired Art and Poetry, a Meditation on Hope and Pain for Troubled Times. We talk about how scary it can sometimes feel to go for help as well the beauty of what can come from being in a safe and space where you feel seen, heard and validated. Thank you Bilateral Innovations for sponsoring this episode.

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Widen The Window with Dr. Elizabeth A Stanley

Fri, 26 Aug 2022 00:45:28 +0000

In this episode, I am joined with Dr. Elizabeth Stanley. She is the author of the acclaimed book, "Widen the Window." Elizabeth had developed a program used by the US military called Mindfulness -based Mind Fitness Training. She talks about how to widen your window for stress tolerance, how stress and trauma affect the mind and body and how to support and train your brain for resilience.

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Hope & Healing with Kelley Gunter

Thu, 18 Aug 2022 19:35:50 +0000

*Trigger warning: content includes childhood sexual abuse.On this week's podcast episode I had the pleasure to talk with licensed therapist Kelly Gunter. Kelly is a childhood sexual abuse survivor, internationally acclaimed speaker, coach and author of her memoir You have Such A Pretty Face.Kelly shares about the numerous addictions she developed as a result of trying to manage her painful childhood trauma. Kelley shares her journey of healing and finding herself. Kelly is currently working on her doctorate in Counselling and Traumatology.

Kelly's website is https://kelleygunter.com

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Insomnia & Chronic Pain

Sun, 07 Aug 2022 20:25:40 +0000

On today's episode I'm joined with licensed psychotherapist Annie Miller. Annie specializes in working with sleep disorders, chronic pain, and trauma. Annie uses a variety of evidence -based techniques including CBT-I for Insomnia, EMDR for trauma ,and PRT ( pain reprocessing therapy for chronic pain.)We are going to talk about these modalities and how they may be supportive in healing.

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Adoption Trauma With Author Emma Stevens

Fri, 22 Jul 2022 21:18:58 +0000

On today's episode I am joined with author and trauma survivor Emma Stevens. Emma is an American Adoptee and she will be sharing how that experience and many others have shaped her. She is the author of the memoir " The Gathering Place."A beautiful book about her journey and her process of welcoming back the parts of herself she had to hide or push away in order to be safe

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You can find Emma on Facebook and Instagram @emmastevensthegatheringplaceTwitter & tiktok @emmastevensTGPEmail @ emmastevens99@yahoo.com

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Getting In Touch With Our Needs After Being Raised By A Narcissistic Caregiver With Dr. Jean Cheng

Mon, 27 Jun 2022 02:11:09 +0000

Today on the podcast, we will be revisiting an episode from last summer with Dr. Jean Cheng. Jean will be talking about the challenges of being raised by a narcissistic caregiver and how to begin to get in touch with our needs.

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We All Have Parts with Colleen West

Wed, 15 Jun 2022 22:46:49 +0000

Today We are talking with author and psychotherapist Colleen West. Colleen is the author of the book “ We all Have Parts” We are going to be talking about themes in her book such as the window of tolerance, autonomic defences, parts work and more.

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The Living Legacy Of Trauma with Dr. Janina Fisher

Tue, 31 May 2022 17:24:34 +0000

Today I’m re-releasing a conversation I had last July with Dr. Janina Fisher. It’s based on her latest book “ Transforming The Living Legacy Of Trauma”. Dr Janina Fisher is a world renowned expert in trauma recovery. She’s a psychologist, author, consultant and trainer. She shares how trauma can show up as a present experience and hope for healing and transformation. Janina’s Website https://janinafisher.com

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Healing And Thriving After Developmental Trauma With Samantha Messias

Wed, 18 May 2022 22:00:01 +0000

In this episode I am joined with childhood trauma survivor Samantha Messias, an incredibly talented artist who shares her journey of childhood abuse and neglect. She talks about her early childhood environments and how she processed some of her trauma. Her desire is to bring hope and understanding to those who are healing from trauma.Upon first glance, the drawings of Samantha Messias appear to be photographs. Samantha 's hyper-realistic drawings are laden with stunning visual dexterity as they are emotional meaning.

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Mother's Day - Attending To Our Sacred Wounds With Dr. Arielle Schwartz,PhD

Fri, 06 May 2022 14:35:01 +0000

On today's episode I am joined again with Dr. Arielle Schwartz. We talk about the complexities that Mother's day may have for some survivor's of Complex Trauma and how we can attend to our sacred wounds. Arielle is a clinical psychologist, yoga teacher and the author of six books and is a leading voice in the treatment of PTSD and Complex Trauma.

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Somatic Experiencing With Joshua Sylvae

Sun, 27 Mar 2022 21:07:30 +0000

On today's episode I'm joined with Joshua Sylvae. Joshua has been involved in Somatic Experiencing since 2004. Joshua Holds an MA in clinical psychology and a PhD in higher learning and Social change, and he is a licensed marriage and family therapist. He is a faculty member at the SE Trauma Institute, leading professional trainings around the world and is also Legacy Faculty for Peter Levine's Ergos Institute for somatic education.We talk about why somatics is important in healing Trauma and how somatic healing can be helpful. You can reach him at http://revolvefoundation.org/ and http://sylvae.net/Somatic Expereicing International http://somaticexperiencing.com/

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Mary Knight - Childhood Trauma & Are Your Memories True?

Tue, 01 Feb 2022 23:55:57 +0000

**Trigger Warning:** This episode discusses disturbing experiences related to childhood sexual abuse, and extreme violence. Todays guest is retired Social Worker and film-maker and writer Mary Knight, MSW. Mary is a survivor of child pornography and familial sex trafficking. We discuss her personal documentary “Am I Crazy? My journey to determine if my memories are true.” Mary shares how today she has a good life, what has brought her increased peace and healing. You can email Mary @maryknighthappy@yahoo.com

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Move Towards with Jenna Riemersma

Thu, 30 Dec 2021 19:38:35 +0000

On today’s episode I’m joined with therapist and author Jenna Riemersma. We talked about Internal family systems, protective and burdened parts of ourselves and how to begin to move towards them in a gentle way to offer support and acknowledgement. Jenna is the author of the book Altogether You.

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Try Softer With Aundi Kolber

Thu, 25 Nov 2021 22:11:34 +0000

Todays’s guest is trauma therapist & author of the book Try Softer, Aundi Kolber. In the episode, Monique and Aundi talk about the impact of Complex- Trauma on the body, mind and heart. Aundi shares how her own experience as a survivor & therapist helped to shape the book into a source of hope and comfort for others on their healing journey.

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