Bridging Connections with Bryan Reeves

163. KINGS COUNCIL: Living in Alignment, Letting Go, & Giving Your Gift Even When No One Cares

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 12:00:55 +0000

In this soul-nourishing episode, Bryan opens the circle on a private men’s gathering with longtime brothers John Lee, Larry Winters, Mikey Brackett, and Troy Ravenseye. What follows is a deeply honest exploration of aging, art, resistance, and the sacred tension between creating from joy versus performing for the world’s approval.

⏱️ Highlights

00:00 – Introduction by Bryan: What makes this episode different

03:23 – John’s discovery of a spiritual retreat property—and a powerful synchronicity

09:00 – A 43-year-old book changes lives: The Flying Boy comes full circle

12:58 – Red Hawk, Osho, and the wisdom of “dropping your old solutions”

16:30 – The Rainmaker story: Alignment vs. control in creating change

20:02 – Seasonal resistance: When your body wants rest but your world demands action

25:18 – Earth connection, aging, and the wisdom of listening to your body

32:45 – Embracing help: Why asking (and receiving) is harder—and more vital—than we think

37:55 – John’s viral video on aging and the surprising reaction it received

41:40 – Mikey on letting art lead the way instead of trying to monetize purpose

43:30 – The trap of measuring everything—and the freedom of creating without needing outcome

48:55 – From shadow artist to soul creator: letting music, poetry, and spirit come forward

49:48 – The power of slow creation: bonsai trees, hand tools, and meaning-making

53:21 – Contraction vs. expansion: Thaddeus Golas and The Lazy Man’s Guide to Enlightenment

57:20 – Closing reflections and the quiet power of being in the work

📞 Connect With Us

🔹 John Lee @ https://johnleebooks.com/

🔹 Larry Winters @ https://substack.com/@larrywinters

🔹 Bryan Reeves @ https://bryanreeves.com

🔹 Mikey Brackett @ https://mikeybrackett.com/

🔹 Troy Ravenseye (email bryan@bryanreeves.com)

🔥 ELEVATE 2026 Men's Coaching Journey

162. The Seduction of AI: Convenience, Creativity … Catastrophe? w/ Akira Chan

Fri, 28 Nov 2025 12:00:21 +0000

In this expansive and very human conversation, filmmaker and creative technologist Akira Chan joins Bryan Reeves and co-host Tait Arend to explore the wild, exhilarating, and sometimes terrifying frontier of artificial intelligence. From AI-generated songs and robot companions to the ways technology is already shaping our relationships, creativity, and emotional lives, this episode dives deep into what it means to stay human in an AI-driven world.

Grounded, curious, and refreshingly real, this dialogue asks the questions that matter most: How do we use AI to bridge connections, not replace them? What parts of our humanity should never be outsourced? And how can these tools actually make our relationships richer?

00:00 – Dogs, Heartbeats, and Nervous System Whisperers

03:00 – “This Is Not AI”… or Is It?

04:30 – How Bryan and Akira First Met

07:00 – The First Wave of AI Magic

08:00 – Why This Episode Matters Now

10:45 – Can AI Help Us Connect More Deeply?

11:30 – The AI-Generated Song for Bryan & Tait

15:45 – The Imposter Question: Is Anything Truly Original?

20:00 – “I Feel Manipulated Sometimes”

23:00 – Will Men Fall in Love with AI Companions?

26:00 – How AI Is Already Shaping Our Thinking

33:00 – AI Tools Akira Actually Recommends

37:00 – The Atrophy of Human Skills

45:00 – Robots Are Coming Into Our Homes

52:00 – The Line Akira Won’t Cross as a Filmmaker

1:00:00 – What We Must NOT Outsource to AI

1:04:30 – Wrapping with Heart

Contact Details

Connect with Akira

Website - https://akirachan.com/

Production Company - https://www.raremedia.tv/

Connect with Bryan Reeves

Official Website: https://bryanreeves.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bryanreevesinsight/

Men’s Coaching Program: https://bryanreeves.com/elevate

161. An Ode To Women (Who Compel Men Into Manhood)

Fri, 14 Nov 2025 09:00:50 +0000

In this raw and revealing episode, Tait and Bryan reflect on a powerful and often overlooked truth: So many men only find this work because the women in their lives refused to give up on them. Whether it’s a book left on a nightstand, a therapy session demanded through gritted teeth, or a heartbreaking confrontation, women have been the silent initiators of many men's healing journeys. This episode is an acknowledgment. A thank-you. An ode. It’s also a challenge to the men listening to hear the love beneath the criticism. And to the women: keep standing strong.

💡 What You’ll Learn:

Why resistance is often the first step in every man’s growth
The role women play in awakening men to their potential
Why emotional isolation is harming modern relationships
What makes a true men’s group different from a friend group
How being witnessed by trustable men changes everything
Why your partner's frustration may be the invitation of a lifetime

📍 Chapters

00:00 - Intro: The Most Awkward Part of Every Podcast

01:17 - An Ode to Women: The Real Gateway to Men’s Work

03:32 - The Elevate Program: 6 Years and 100+ Men Later

05:05 - Resistance: “I Didn’t Want to Go to Therapy”

07:34 - What Women Are Really Asking For

09:14 - Traumatizing Rites of Passage: Frats, Gangs, and Military

10:50 - Looking to Women for Validation—and the Fallout

13:15 - Women as Unintended Stewards of Manhood

16:27 - The Disney Lie: Where Love Stories Break Down

18:11 - Why Men Without Friends Lean Too Hard on Their Partners

20:20 - Friend Groups vs. Men’s Groups: The Third Option

21:44 - A Real-Time Breakthrough: When One Conversation Changes Everything

23:32 - “This Is Just Normal Now”—How Fast Growth Can Happen

25:03 - A Message to Women: Your Nagging Might Be an Invitation

26:49 - Hurtful Words and Hidden Truths

28:03 - What Men’s Work Gave Me That My Wife Couldn’t

30:45 - What Support from Other Men Really Looks Like

32:27 - Final Thoughts: Thank You, Women. Truly.

34:03 - Learn More About Elevate 2026

🙏 Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website

• Instagram

160. When a Dream Dies: Healing Through Major Life Changes and Invisible Loss

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 12:36:40 +0000

Have you ever grieved something difficult to explain to others ... or to yourself? A dream you never got to live, a world you left behind after moving, a home you never got to call home, a relationship that never got off the ground?

In this powerful solo return, Bryan Reeves explores the deep emotional terrain of ambiguous loss: grief without closure, headlines, or a clear reason. From the loss of a dream wedding and the promise of parenthood to the emotional cost of eight moves in five years, Bryan shares personal stories and hard-earned insights on how to grieve the invisible, hold space for uncertainty, and honor your experience without needing it to make sense to anyone else.

If you're carrying sadness you can't fully name or explain, this episode will help you feel seen, and invite you to start healing.

⏱️ Highlights

00:00 – Why I Took a Break

01:32 – The Ireland Retreat That Changed Everything

03:20 – The Weight of Eight Moves in Five Years

04:45 – What Is Ambiguous Loss?

06:30 – Invisible Grief: Our Lost Wedding & Parenthood Dreams

08:15 – The House We Couldn't Live In

10:00 – Guilt, Grief, and Comparing Pain

12:05 – Grieving the End of a Day: A Malibu Story

14:00 – Why Some Grief Is Hard to Explain

15:25 – The Loneliness of Loss Without Witness

17:10 – Wisdom from Francis Weller on Communal Grief

19:40 – Moving In, Letting Go: A Nervous System Exhale

21:10 – Lessons From a Decade-Long Relationship

23:00 – Life Has Seasons—And That’s Okay

25:15 – Tiny Green Shoots: Signs of Spring After Long Winter

27:05 – New Beginnings: Retreats, Books, and Rebuilding

29:15 – Closing Reflection: You’re Not Broken for Feeling This

30:45 – Name Your Grief, Honor Its Place

📬 Connect with Bryan:

🌐 Join the newsletter & explore Bryan's coaching & retreats: https://bryanreeves.com
📸 Instagram
📺 Youtube

159. Healing the Emotionally Unavailable Man

Thu, 28 Aug 2025 12:17:43 +0000

Bryan Reeves sits down with renowned relationship coach and therapist Jayson Gaddis. Together they dive into the origins of men’s emotional unavailability, how childhood experiences shape intimacy in adulthood, and what it takes to build secure, nourishing partnerships. From personal stories of shame and armor to raising emotionally present sons, Jayson offers vulnerable insights and hard-won wisdom. This is a must-listen conversation for anyone who wants to understand why men struggle with intimacy—and how they can finally come home to their hearts.

⏱️ Highlights

00:00 – Welcome

02:45 – Bryan recalls Silvy's admiration for Jayson’s practical relationship wisdom

06:10 – The sixth-grade fight that taught Jayson to hide his sensitivity

12:25 – How shame around crying created lifelong armor

16:20 – From childhood wounds to emotional unavailability in adult relationships

21:15 – Teaching relationship skills to high schoolers: challenges & breakthroughs

26:30 – The greatest gift men can offer: emotional presence

32:40 – Navigating discipline, boundaries, and presence as a father and partner

38:00 – Mission Impossible vs. real life: balancing work, purpose, and family

43:20 – The foundation of intimacy: emotional security and safety

50:15 – Facing blind spots: learning to stop blaming and start owning feelings

56:45 – One foot in, one foot out: the cost of not being fully committed

01:04:00 – Why men chase “greener grass” fantasies—and the painful wake-up call

01:10:25 – Growth-oriented partnership: why your partner won’t stay if you stop growing

01:17:15 – Do men really want sex—or do they want intimacy and belonging?

01:23:00 – The Five Key Takeaways Finale: insight, mentor, resource, investment, practice

01:37:20 – Where to find Jayson Gaddis and his work

📬 Contact

Guest – Jayson Gaddis

Website: https://relationshipschool.com
Podcast: The Smart Couple (available on major platforms)

Host – Bryan Reeves

Website: https://bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight
Men’s Coaching Program: https://bryanreeves.com/elevate

158. Adrian Grenier on Fame, Fatherhood & Finding the True Man Within

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 09:50:37 +0000

In this raw and heartfelt rebroadcast, actor and environmental activist Adrian Grenier (Entourage, The Devil Wears Prada) joins host Bryan Reeves for a soul-baring conversation about his transformation from Hollywood heartthrob to grounded father and conscious community builder. They dive into the emotional challenges of shedding ego-driven fame, the sacred importance of modern brotherhood, and how fatherhood and marriage are awakening to his deepest purpose.

Adrian reflects on old-paradigm masculinity, spiritual confusion, and why meaningful connection with men saved his life.

⏱️ Highlights

[00:00] Welcome & Summer Break Setup

[01:29] Who Is Adrian Grenier Now?

[03:46] "I needed to get low to the ground" – Leaving Hollywood behind

[06:48] The sacred discomfort of men's work

[09:57] What success didn’t solve for Adrian

[13:36] “Why did I come here?” — The spiritual reckoning

[17:45] The illusion of media masculinity

[24:32] Reframing brotherhood: Entourage vs real men’s work

[30:14] Navigating differences: “I believe in the direction of our love”

[41:03] What men miss without committed brotherhood

[45:56] Breaking generational patterns as fathers and husbands

[50:49] Becoming a father: “It’s the greatest call to action”

[57:06] Healing through fatherhood: “I’m not going anywhere”

[58:18] Closing: Grief, gratitude, and Barton Springs

👤 Adrian Grenier

Instagram
Earth Speed YouTube – His docuseries on regenerative living

👨‍🏫 Bryan Reeves

157. [FEISTY WIFE EPISODE] Stop Wanting Your Partner To Be More Like You w/ Silvy Khoucasian LMFT

Thu, 31 Jul 2025 11:27:29 +0000

What happens when a precision-timed therapist and a free-spirited adventurer fall in love? In this candid, spicy, and surprisingly hilarious conversation, Bryan Reeves and Silvy Khoucasian pull back the curtain on their own relationship to explore what it really takes to embrace differences—and not just survive them, but grow because of them.

From cultural clashes to conflicting travel styles, sexual pacing to social preferences, they reveal the real stories behind the highlight reel—and how they've learned to navigate those gaps without losing themselves (or each other).

Whether you’re navigating a new relationship or decades into one, this episode is your permission slip to stop fixing, start witnessing, and love without needing sameness.

⏱️ Episode Highlights:

00:00 – Silvy calls Bryan out.

02:00 – Introducing Silvy: “This is my unmasked version”

03:30 – Speaking alongside The Gottmans at the Real Love Ready Conference

05:00 – Time: Is being late disrespect—or just different wiring?

08:00 – Ireland trip flashback: how they travel at totally different speeds

10:30 – “You’re fast. I’m slow.” – Processing pace in life and relationship

13:00 – Cultural differences: Armenian-Arabic collectivism vs. American individualism

16:00 – Privacy vs. openness: Who gets to tell the story?

18:30 – Affection gaps, erotic blueprints, and the golden retriever dynamic

21:00 – The wounds we bring: neglect, protection, and projection

25:00 – “Willing to disappoint—and to be disappointed”

27:00 – Grieving expectations: Letting go of the fantasy version of your partner

30:00 – Creating clear agreements vs. quiet resentment

33:00 – The dance of individuality and support

35:00 – Navigating transitions and identity shifts over 10 years

38:00 – Why difference isn’t the enemy—it’s the initiation

40:00 – Wrap-up and a preview of more episodes to come

🧠 Notable Quotes:

“The problem isn’t our differences—it’s making them wrong that causes problems.” – Silvy

“Your wound is holding hands with mine.” – Bryan

“I grieve my expectations of you so that I may discover your love yet again.” – Silvy

“You’re in my story now. It’s not just mine anymore.” – Bryan

“When it’s hysterical, it’s historical.” – Silvy and Bryan

“Respect can still be late.” – Silvy

“Resentment dies in the land of clear agreements.” – Bryan

💌 Connect with Bryan & Silvy:

Bryan Reeves → https://bryanreeves.com

Silvy Khoucasian → www.silvykhoucasian.com

156. Navigating The Death of Your Dream

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 10:23:35 +0000

In this heartfelt solo episode of Bridging Connections, host Bryan Reeves delves into the profound journey of navigating life transitions and personal growth. Reflecting on his own experiences, Bryan shares the challenges and revelations that come with the death of a dream, the practice of grief, and the art of surrender. Join Bryan as he explores the importance of embracing change with grace, finding gratitude in unexpected places, and the enduring power of love and loss. Tune in for an introspective conversation that invites you to reflect on your own life transitions and how you can meet them with more ease and gratitude.

💡 Topics Covered:

The paradox of being relational yet introverted
Grieving the dream of home ownership and fatherhood
Moving back to Los Angeles after the “great pandemic migration”
Letting go of material things and the stories they hold
The practice of grief in a death-phobic, grief-illiterate culture
The meaning behind Bryan’s tattoo: Command. Surrender. Breathe.
The flowering of a crepe myrtle as a symbol of unexpected beauty in endings
A reflection on leaving behind gifts that may benefit others

🧠 Memorable Quotes:

“It’s not the end of everything. It’s just the end of everything you know.”

“A dream can’t die if you don’t dare to dream in the first place.”

“Grief is the price we pay for love.”

“We are like plants. We need the right soil to thrive.”

“How might you meet the death of a dream with more grace, more ease, and perhaps even more gratitude?”

🌱 Closing Reflection:

Bryan invites listeners to consider the dreams they may be quietly grieving or actively resisting. Rather than clinging to what was or what might have been, he offers a profound question:

"What if the greatest act of courage isn't holding on—but letting go with love?"

📚 Books Mentioned in the Episode:

Die Wise by Stephen Jenkinson
The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller
Iron John by Robert Bly

🙏 Connect with Bryan:

For more on Bryan’s coaching, writing, and future episodes, visit bryanreeves.com

🙏 Show Highlights:

[00:02:15] - Introduction to the episode and the theme of life transitions.

[00:05:30] - Brian shares his personal journey of moving across the country and the death of a dream.

[00:12:45] - The importance of acknowledging and grieving the loss of dreams.

[00:20:10] - Reflections on the practice of surrender and its role in personal growth.

[00:28:00] - The story of planting a tree and its symbolic meaning in life transitions.

[00:35:20] - Brian's insights on love, loss, and the enduring power of gratitude.

[00:42:00] - Closing thoughts and an invitation to reflect on personal life transitions.

155. Full Range Masculinity (When Men Come Alive)

Thu, 03 Jul 2025 10:37:00 +0000

What does it mean to become fully alive as a man? In this powerful debrief, Bryan and Tait reflect on the transformative journey of Elevate 2025, a year-long men's journey that culminates in a life-changing retreat.

From breaking emotional masks to finding real brotherhood and discovering true purpose—not as a destination, but as a way of being—this episode dives into what happens when men are finally given permission to feel it all and be it all.

This isn’t just another “men’s retreat recap.” This is a raw, grounded look at the healing, aliveness, and lasting connection that unfolds when the right men gather in the right way.

💡 What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why most men are stuck between anger and apathy
What “being a full-range man” actually looks like in real life
The power of emotional safety in all-male spaces
What happens when a man finally says, “I’m f*cked up” and gets met with real support
The truth about purpose: It’s not out there—it’s right here
How this retreat created friendships that will last a lifetime
Why most men don't have people who would fly across the country for their funeral—and how that can change
The 3 Promises of the Elevate journey: Fully Enlivened, Powerfully On Purpose, Deeply Supported

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

[03:00] – Why it’s so hard to describe the magic of a retreat

[06:15] – The emotional wiring of boys—and how we shut it down

[07:50] – Anger and apathy: the two emotions men are left with

[10:30] – Real talk: “I’m not okay” and finding support

[14:00] – Becoming a full-range man: Warrior and Lover archetypes

[17:00] – Why purpose isn’t a future goal—it’s a daily choice

[24:00] – Deep support: what real brotherhood looks like

[28:45] – Who would fly to your funeral? The power of connection

[30:45] – Living with men who will hold your grief and your greatness

[32:00] – How to join the Elevate journey + what's next

🎧 Perfect For You If:

You’re a man who feels like something’s missing—even if life looks “successful” on the outside
You’ve been curious about men’s retreats but unsure if they’re for you
You’ve felt alone in your struggles and want genuine connection
You’re a woman who loves a man who’s ready for more depth, purpose, and heart

🧠 Memorable Quotes:

“Most men live lives full on paper—house, car, kids, career—and yet feel empty. That’s apathy. That’s what we’re here to change.” — Tait Arend

“A man who puts everyone before himself? That’s not heroic. That’s a ticking time bomb.” — Bryan Reeves

📣 Mentions & Resources:

Elevate Men’s Journey → https://bryanreeves.com
Book Mentioned: Real Boys by William Pollack
Past Retreats: Elevate 21, 24, and now Elevate 25/26
Upcoming Podcast Series: SEX (Yep—we’re finally going there)

📲 Connect With Us: https://bryanreeves.com

🗣️ Call to Action:

If you’re ready to explore what it means to be fully alive—and deeply supported—email Bryan at bryan@bryanreeves.com to get info about Elevate 2026.

And if you know a man who needs this… send him this episode. It might just change everything.

154. Behind The Scenes of a Life-Changing Men's Retreat

Thu, 19 Jun 2025 09:00:00 +0000

In this special on-the-road episode, Bryan and Tait reflect on five years of deep men’s work as they gear up for the Elevate 2025 Men's Retreat — a five-day, mountaintop experience in western North Carolina designed as a modern-day rite of passage. From sacred brotherhood to the storms that shape us this conversation is raw, real, and radically human.

Episode Highlights:

00:01:44 – The Elevate Retreat: A modern-day rite of passage for men

00:03:12 – The first year’s tears: What vulnerability unlocked for men

00:06:28 – Creating sacred, no-demand space for transformation

00:08:25 – Who really has your back? Reframing masculine support

00:09:21 – Bryan’s past distrust of men—and the healing that followed

00:12:39 – The magic of presence, and Bryan’s role in creating breakthroughs

00:16:44 – Power without domination: Becoming Kings among Kings

00:17:56 – From deep conversation to competitive games: A full-spectrum retreat

00:21:16 – Three stages of the storm: Before, during, and after life's crises

00:26:24 – Why men don’t need fixing—just new patterns and community

Connect with Bryan:

📧 bryan@bryanreeves.com

🌐 bryanreeves.com

Join the Journey:

🚀 Early access to Elevate 2026 👉 bryan@bryanreeves.com

🌍 2 spots left for "Elevate Ireland 2025" Men’s Retreat! (email for details)

153. What Repair Really Looks Like in a Healthy Relationship w/ Jayson Gaddis

Thu, 05 Jun 2025 08:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Bridging Connections, we welcome Jayson Gaddis, psychotherapist, author, and founder of The Relationship School, to discuss the vital topic of conflict and repair in relationships. Highlighting the inevitability of conflict, we delve into effective repair processes encompassing ownership, empathy, and validation. Additionally, we explore themes of emotional safety, sensitivity in men, and the dynamics of partnership. Jayson shares insights from his book 'Getting to Zero' and offers practical advice for navigating and improving relational conflicts. The episode is a treasure trove of actionable strategies aimed at fostering deeper connection and understanding in long-term relationships.

00:00 The Importance of Repair in Relationships

00:20 Introduction to Bridging Connections Podcast

00:53 Meet Jayson Gaddis

03:46 Discussing Relationship Conflict

14:12 Understanding Sensitivity in Men

22:07 The Role of Emotional Safety

28:36 The Repair Process in Relationships

29:36 The Importance of Repair in Relationships

30:39 Steps to Effective Repair

31:09 Ownership, Empathy, and Validation

31:57 Challenges in Validation

32:37 Listening and Reflecting Back

33:30 Personal Experiences and Reflections

34:24 Handling Defensiveness

36:02 The Role of Humor in Relationships

37:08 Biggest Repair Maneuvers in Marriage

42:36 Avoiding Conflict vs. Speaking Up

45:55 Masculine Leadership and Conflict

47:55 Conflict and Repair in Parenting

48:47 Rapid Fire Relationship Questions

52:55 Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Jayson:

• Website: https://www.jaysongaddis.com/

Podcast: https://relationshipschool.com/

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website: bryanreeves.com

• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08

152. The Cost of Overgiving w/ Terri Cole

Thu, 22 May 2025 08:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Bridging Connections, we welcome Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and bestselling author, to discuss high-functioning codependency. We dive into Terri’s extensive experience with codependency, exploring the ways in which overly selfless behaviors can lead to burnout, resentment, and health issues. Terri shares personal stories and professional insights, examines the impact of societal expectations, and offers actionable advice on setting boundaries and practicing self-consideration. This episode is a must-listen for anyone feeling perpetually exhausted and seeking to reclaim their time, energy, and emotional well-being.

00:00 Introduction: Taking Control of Your Life

00:24 Welcome to Bridging Connections

00:59 Meet Terri Cole: Psychotherapist and Author

01:19 Understanding Codependency

02:32 Terry's Journey from Talent Agent to Therapist

12:05 High Functioning Codependency Explained

24:26 The Costs of High Functioning Codependency

33:43 The Connective Role of Women in Families

34:13 Challenges with Labels and High Functioning Codependency

35:57 Emotional Labor and Household Equity

39:55 Resentment and Taking Responsibility

46:57 The Importance of Setting Boundaries

54:36 Self-Consideration as the New Self-Care

01:00:34 Final Thoughts

Connect with Terri:

• Website: https://www.terricole.com/

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website: bryanreeves.com

• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08

151. Living a Liberated Life w/ Josh Trent

Thu, 08 May 2025 08:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Bridging Connections, we dive into the profound topic of living a liberated life with Josh Trent, host of the Wellness and Wisdom podcast. Josh discusses the importance of alignment with nature's laws and the concept of being in harmony. Our conversation explores the relevance of nonviolent communication, the significance of self-awareness, and the continuous journey of self-integration. We also touch on the challenges and rewards of practical spirituality, emotional epigenetics, and the day-to-day dynamics of intimate relationships. Josh introduces his new initiative, the Liberated Life community, designed to guide individuals towards deeper self-understanding and harmonious living.

Connect with Josh:

• Website: https://joshtrent.com

• Instagram: @joshtrentofficial

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website: bryanreeves.com

• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08

00:00 Introduction and Host Welcome

01:00 Exploring a Liberated Life with Josh Trent

02:48 Top Three Insights from 700+ Episodes

06:52 Understanding Nature's Laws and Human Connection

23:56 The Simplicity of Truth and Relationships

29:21 Defining Liberation and Freedom

31:09 Understanding Manufactured Concerns

32:01 The Importance of Human Connection

32:24 Deeper Concerns and Self-Realization

35:05 Balancing Survival and Soul Work

39:19 Navigating Triggers and Vulnerability

46:04 The Power of Nonviolent Communication

53:10 Emotional Epigenetics and Healing

56:45 Introducing the Liberated Life Community

01:00:04 Final Thoughts and Reflections

150. From Inner Critic to Inner Lover w/ Allana Pratt

Thu, 24 Apr 2025 08:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Bridging Connections, we discuss profound topics of self-acceptance, intimacy, and healing with Allana Pratt, an intimacy expert. This conversation touches on the importance of embracing one's flaws, the journey to overcome self-loathing, and the deep need for authentic connection. Allana shares her methods, including her work with psychedelic somatic integration and the transformative power of confronting and integrating deep-seated emotions. We also discuss the significance of nurturing all parts of oneself and the value of making peace with unresolved wounds. This episode emphasizes the critical role of self-intimacy in fostering meaningful connections and navigating the complexities of human relationships.

Connect with Allana:

• Website: https://allanapratt.com/

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website: bryanreeves.com

• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08

00:00 Embracing Imperfection: Self-Acceptance

00:19 Introduction to Bridging Connections

00:55 Welcoming Allana Pratt: Intimacy Expert

03:08 The Essence of Bridging Connections

04:42 Exploring Loneliness and Connection

05:43 The Journey to Self-Intimacy

07:01 Patterns of Disconnection

09:19 The Role of Divine Mother Energy

13:44 The Power of Somatic Integration

19:47 Men and Emotional Disassociation

22:07 Societal Pressures and Emotional Suppression

22:19 Body Sensations and Emotional Expression

23:21 Men's Struggle with Disconnection

23:47 The Desire to Feel Alive

25:15 Embracing All Emotions

26:15 A Mother's Journey with Her Son

27:30 Making Art from Pain

29:17 The Importance of Allowing Pain

35:41 Unconditional Self-Love and Acceptance

40:19 Practical Tips for Relationships and Self-Love

41:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

149. Overcoming Shame as a Parent w/ Louis Weinstock

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 08:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Bridging Connections, we talk with Louis Weinstock, a seasoned child psychotherapist and author. This discussion centers on overcoming shame and guilt in parenting, the importance of parental healing, and the impact of unresolved traumas on children. Louis shares personal experiences and professional insights on being a present and effective parent. We also delve into the roles of fathers, the concept of divine masculinity, and the importance of congruence and presence for children's psychological well-being. The episode concludes with a focus on daily acts of love and practical advice for parents to be more present with their children.

00:00 Introduction

00:41 Introduction to Bridging Connections

01:32 Meet Louis: Child Psychotherapist and Author

02:52 The Journey of Fatherhood

03:36 Navigating Grief and Loss

07:07 The Protector Role in Parenting

16:49 Healing and Emotional Presence

33:25 Emotional Breakthrough in a Singing Workshop

34:16 The Last Barrier for Men: Fear

35:04 Expressing Emotions: Anger, Fear, and Sadness

37:20 The Role of Fathers and the Impact of Guilt

39:05 Boys' Sensitivity and Cultural Conditioning

40:19 Defining Positive Masculinity

49:48 Bridging Connections Between Parents

59:56 The Importance of Presence in Parenting

01:02:35 Conclusion

Connect with Louis:

• Website: https://louisweinstock.com/

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website: bryanreeves.com

• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08

148. Rising Woman: From Trauma to Transformation w/ Sheleana Aiyana

Thu, 27 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Bridging Connections, we welcome Sheleana Aiyana, founder of Rising Woman. Sheleana takes on her journey from tumultuous upbringing and traumatic relationships to her spiritual and healing path. Sheleana shares profound experiences from ayahuasca ceremonies and the importance of working through personal wounds to foster healthy relationships. We touch on the challenges men and women face in understanding each other's experiences and the significance of mutual vulnerability and support in partnerships. Sheleana dives into the need for self-healing and becoming 'the one' rather than seeking someone to complete us.

00:00 Introduction to Episode

00:34 Welcome to Bridging Connections

01:17 Rebranding the Podcast

02:27 Introducing Sheleana

04:40 Men and Relationship Anxiety

06:59 Challenges in Male-Female Dynamics

11:59 Founding Struggles of Rising Woman

18:02 Spiritual Path vs. Healing Path

24:31 Becoming the One

29:18 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships

29:41 The Importance of Healing Work

30:49 The 10-Year Relationship Journey

34:40 Understanding Safety in Relationships

35:49 Ayahuasca and Profound Healing

42:15 Building Trust and Healing with Men

52:43 Steps to Self-Discovery and Healing

54:28 Final Thoughts

Connect with Sheleana:

• Website: https://risingwoman.com/ / https://sheleanaaiyana.com/

• Instagram: @sheleanaaiyana

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website: bryanreeves.com

• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08

147. The 5 Stages of Male Growth (and How They Impact Women) w/ Alison Armstrong

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +0000

In this episode, we welcome back relationship expert Alison Armstrong. We explore the profound journey of male development, the transition from knights to princes and eventually kings. We delve into the concept of 'the tunnel,' a challenging phase between princehood and kingship marked by self-awareness, shame, and the necessity of personal responsibility and forgiveness. Alison also touches on the deeply complex and often interconnected dynamics of male ambition, fulfillment, and the need for adventure. We extend to the rare shift some men make from kings to elders, highlighting significant changes in ambition and responsibility.

Today on Bridging Connections:

00:00 Introduction: Self-Betrayal and Shame

00:38 Welcome to Bridging Connections

01:10 Reintroducing Alison Armstrong

01:55 Understanding the Tunnel

03:03 Stages of Men's Development

03:49 Navigating the Tunnel

23:29 The Importance of Adventure

31:15 The Prince Stage

38:07 Anticipation and Initial Reflections

38:56 Navigating Personal Loss and Challenges

40:35 Understanding the Tunnel of Transformation

41:11 Self-Betrayal and Awareness

49:07 The Role of Shame and Anger

49:51 Ownership and Forgiveness

55:28 Emerging from the Tunnel

58:18 Grieving and Moving Forward

01:00:54 Transitioning to Elderhood

01:11:21 Final Thoughts and Resources

Resources:

Alison Armstrong: Chemistry and Connection Series - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL3kRxLdJODq54hzbmGHKz5VhTQun5bQuy&feature=shared

Connect with Alison:

• Website: alisonarmstrong.com

• Youtube Channel: AlisonArmstrongVideos

• Resources: Sample Understanding Women

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

• Website: bryanreeves.com

• Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08

146. The Way of the Satisfied Woman w/ Alanna Kaivalya

Thu, 27 Feb 2025 10:00:00 +0000

"Satisfaction is the pleasure derived from the fulfillment of wishes and needs".- Alanna Kaivalya

Today on Bridging Connections:

00:00 Welcome & Co-host Introduction
01:14 Introducing Guest Dr. Alana Cavalia
03:12 Discussing "The Way of the Satisfied Woman"
04:16 Exploring Redefined Masculinity
05:11 The Need to Reclaim Femininity
06:13 Cultural Teachings on Feminine Power
08:11 Addressing Repression of Feminine Qualities
10:22 Importance of Intuition
11:59 Feminine Power and Societal Impact
14:55 Success versus Satisfaction
17:07 Definition and Discussion of Satisfaction
20:12 Critique of Success Drive
21:25 Feminine Approach to Life and Satisfaction
22:11 Enhancing Comfort and Feminine Questions
23:09 Mother's Happiness and Family Dynamics
24:13 Jungian Psychology and Feminine Energy
28:10 Safety, Trust, and Feminine Expression
29:01 Masculine World Challenges for Feminine Expression
30:56 Importance of Community and Empathy
31:22 Insights on Relationship Longevity
32:31 Challenges in Articulating Needs
33:19 Advice for Men on Emotional Support
33:58 The Role of Intuition in Personal Growth
36:51 Importance of Trusting Intuition
37:15 Intuition in Relationships
38:12 Leveraging Intuition in Adverse Environments
40:21 Self-Intimacy and External Validation
41:13 Masculine and Feminine Energy Collaboration
41:48 Trust in Partner’s Intuition
42:27 Burnout in High-Performance Roles
43:39 Women as Nurturing Sources and the Need for Reciprocity
45:02 Personal Story of Maternal Dedication
46:28 Empowering Women to Say No
47:58 Childhood Wounds and Feminine Healing
49:02 Devaluation of Feminine Qualities
49:41 Training and Conditioning of Young Girls
50:14 Men’s Role in Supporting Feminine Reclamation
51:58 The Importance of Community for Women
53:04 Overcoming Narrative of Competition Among Women
54:24 Historical Undermining of Family Systems
55:56 Closing Thoughts and Final Questions

Connect with Alanna:

Website: www.thesatisfiedwoman.com
Order: The Way of the Satisfied Woman: Reclaiming The Feminine Power
Free resources: www.thesatisfiedwoman.com/empowerme
Download the App: The Satisfied Woman
Subscribe to: @TheSatisfiedWoman

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08

145. What Women Don’t Get About Men (But Should) w/ Alison Armstrong

Thu, 13 Feb 2025 10:00:00 +0000

"Men often use 'safe' to describe someone they can openly talk to, showing their deep but often hidden need for trust and vulnerability." Alison Armstrong

Today on Bridging Connections:

00:00 Welcome & Introduction
01:00 Alison Armstrong's Impact on Bryan's Relationship Journey
01:54 Longing for Elder Wisdom
03:39 How Alison’s Journey with Men Began
05:07 Becoming a "Frog Farmer" – Transforming Men
09:44 The Power of Listening and Understanding Men
13:33 The Well of Men's Emotional Responses
14:14 Men and Congruency: Understanding Commitment
17:09 Differences in Male and Female Communication Styles
19:10 The Attention Women Crave from Men
21:52 Safety, Security, and Connection in Relationships
25:46 The Emotional Depth of Men: What It Means to Be “Safe”
29:28 Asking for Connection and Attention in Relationships
31:48 Men Are Like Icebergs: Emotions and Depth Below the Surface
34:12 Women’s Desire for Men to Feel Desired
43:18 The Problem with Labeling in Relationships
47:16 Rethinking Relationships: The Instance of Being Related
54:16 How to Be in the Moment: Being, Listening, and Speaking
58:35 Women's Instinct to Speak for Safety
01:02:26 Alison's Resources and Final Thoughts

Connect with Alison:

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08

144. Spirituality & The Messy Human Experience w/ Danny Morel

Thu, 30 Jan 2025 10:00:00 +0000

"The moment of realization when you're on your knees and you're realizing that all you've been chasing might not actually be what you truly need." Danny Morel

Today on Bridging Connections:

00:00 Introduction & Welcome
02:36 Discussing the Pivotal Shift in Danny's Life
03:16 The Catalyst for Change
04:01 Exploring New Opportunities
05:07 Experiencing Betrayal and Loss
07:10 Reflecting on Deep Personal Questions
09:41 The Importance of Deep, Genuine Conversations
11:01 The Awakening Process Explained
11:47 Exploring Three Energies of Human Mastery
13:10 Responsibilities and Misconceptions About Money
14:13 Discussing the Energy of Sex and Creation
15:12 Understanding the Root of Personal Issues
16:11 Realizing and Confronting Life's Patterns
17:10 The Need for Authentic Self Reflection
18:13 Integrating Personal Stories into Spiritual Teachings
20:33 The Importance of Genuine Spiritual Connection
21:44 Exploring Stories of Transformation and Freedom
23:00 Discussing the Role of Humility and Authenticity
24:32 Overcoming Deep-Seated Fears
26:58 Experiencing Ego Death and True Change
28:00 Discussing the Symbolism of Family and Healing
29:21 The Significance of Names and Personal Healing
30:25 Learning Through Personal Relationships
31:16 Challenges in Maintaining Authentic Connections
32:38 Discussing the Difficulties in Family Dynamics
33:52 Recognizing the Role of Partners in Personal Growth
37:18 Embracing the Concept of Family
39:16 Confronting Fears and Insecurities in Relationships
41:12 Avoiding the Pitfalls of Pedestalization in Relationships
42:13 Addressing Issues of Self-Worth and Relationship Dynamics
43:07 Healing the Tendencies to Elevate or Diminish Others
45:15 Discussing Common Traps in Spiritual Journeys
47:12 Reevaluating Material Desires on the Spiritual Path
51:27 Discussing the Role of Providing and Spiritual Abundance
52:23 The Practice of Surrender in Life and Spirituality
54:01 Encouraging Deep Personal Inquiry into Desires and Dreams
55:01 Concluding Thoughts on Freedom and Personal Choice

Takeaways from this episode:

Highlighting the transformative power of difficult experiences.
The recognition and confrontation of deeply ingrained patterns and wounds from one's past.
How relationships can serve as mirrors and catalysts for deeper self-awareness and growth.
How a spiritual journey can reshape your views on possessions and success.
The necessity of surrendering control in life's processes, trusting in a higher flow, and allowing life to unfold without forcing outcomes.

Connect with Danny:

Instagram: @dannymorel
Website: dannymorel.com
Listen to: The Higher Self Podcast with Danny Morel

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08

Trailer: Bridging Connections (Formerly "Men This Way")

Thu, 30 Jan 2025 09:30:00 +0000

Welcome to Bridging Connections, formerly known as "Men This Way." Join your host Bryan Reeves —former U.S. Air Force captain, renowned author and professional coach to men, women, and couples; along with his lifelong best friend and leadership coach, Tait Arend. Together, they tackle the essential, raw conversations we all need to engage in about relationships, purpose, health, spirituality, and more. Dive deep into discussions that matter and explore the connections that bind us all.

143. The Evolution of a Podcast: As One Era Ends Another Begins

Thu, 23 Jan 2025 11:25:00 +0000

In this episode, we have a big announcement. We're changing the podcast name from 'Men This Way' to 'Bridging Connections.'

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

03:03 Reflecting on the Podcast Journey

05:58 Key Conversations and Insights

08:57 The Evolution of the Podcast

11:56 Bridging Connections: The New Direction

14:46 The Importance of Vulnerability and Connection

17:54 Future Plans and Audience Engagement

Connect with Bryan

Official Website

Instagram

Youtube

142. Success, Grief, and Living Boldly w/ Tripp Lanier

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 13:32:24 +0000

"Once it starts to become empty and it doesn't work, that's when it's time to rethink our strategies and find what truly fulfills us." Tripp Lanier

Today on Men, This Way:

00:01 Introductions
02:34 Announcement of Last Episode and Transition of Show's Name
03:23 Reflections on the Past and Initiating the Main Discussion
05:08 Introduction of Tripp Lanier and His Work
07:24 Tripp's Personal Journey and Path to Coaching
09:01 Introduction to Men's Work and Personal Growth
12:01 The Shift in Men's Conversations Over Time
13:45 The Role of Media and Privacy in Personal Development
15:10 The Challenge of Admitting the Need for Help
16:32 Exploration of New Beginnings and Reflections on Personal Growth
18:00 Shifts in Personal Interests and Professional Evolution
19:28 The Ongoing Journey of Personal and Spiritual Development
21:18 The Modern Challenges and Evolutions Facing Men
22:46 Reflections on Personal Satisfaction and Life's Deeper Questions
24:11 Discussion of Future Plans and Podcast Rebranding
25:43 Reflections on Ambition and Life Stages
27:03 Personal Insights on Marriage and Family
29:26 Discussing the Awareness of Mortality and Its Impact
30:12 Philosophical Reflections on Life and Aging
31:30 Grief and Learning from Life's Challenges
33:36 Engaging Men in Meaningful Conversations and Facing Grief
34:03 How to Encourage Men to Stay Present and Engaged in Growth
36:04 Addressing Personal Struggles and Embracing New Beginnings
38:04 Listening and Understanding as Tools for Helping Others
39:20 The Power of Empathy in Men's Development
40:10 The Relief of Discovering One Is Not Alone in Their Struggles
41:38 Humor's Role in Healing and Personal Growth
42:57 Tripp's Views on Success and Personal Fulfillment
44:45 Helping Men Identify and Pursue Their True Desires
46:50 Discussion on the Nature of Desire and Internal Conflicts
48:42 The Importance of Play and Joy in Personal Development
50:42 The Role of Safety and Threat Perception in Playfulness
52:24 The Challenges of Maintaining Joy During Difficult Times
54:47 Wrapping Up the Podcast and Reflections on the Journey
58:15 Maintaining Deep Connections and Embracing New Learning Opportunities
59:55 Closing Thoughts and Acknowledgments

Takeaways of this episode:

Tripp Lanier shares personal stories, including his past struggles, the death of his mother, and how these events have shaped his personal growth and professional life.
The importance of men’s work, creating spaces for men to explore their vulnerabilities, and the impact of community and belonging.
Maintaining a balance between playfulness and the seriousness of life, how staying connected to a sense of play can be crucial for mental health and relationship dynamics.
The definition of success, the ongoing process of personal growth, and the existential aspects of life and death.
The podcast episode serves as a closing of one era and the beginning of another.

Connect with Tripp:

Website: tripplinear.com
Instagram: @tripplanier
Order: This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide for Men Who Refuse to Settle
Listen to: The New Man with Tripp Lanier

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

141. Overcome Resistance: The Five Stages of Change

Thu, 09 Jan 2025 10:50:00 +0000

“Resistance always shows up at the threshold of your transformation.” — Bryan Reeves

In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative process of personal growth and change, exploring the five stages of change. We discuss the resistance men often face when stepping into new challenges and the power of embracing the unknown to create a life of fulfillment and meaning. Through candid stories, actionable insights, and heartfelt reflections, we reveal how we can break through barriers, reconnect with our true selves, and build lives that deeply matter—not just for us, but for the people we care about most. Whether you're on the edge of change or seeking clarity on your next step, this episode will inspire you to take action and cross the threshold into transformation.

HIGHLIGHTS:

00:00 - Reflecting on five years of transformative work.

01:14 - Who this episode is for: Men ready for deep transformational work.

04:51 - The importance of a supportive brotherhood: “Who has your back?”

07:35 - The cost of carrying burdens alone: Impact on men and their families.

09:12 - Recognizing dissatisfaction as the first step to change.

11:46 - The crisis of fulfillment: "I have everything I wanted. Now what?"

13:30 - The five stages of change.

18:43 - Facing resistance: Why stepping forward is so challenging.

20:14 - Sting’s wisdom: “The greater risk is not jumping off the cliff.”

25:12 - Confronting the shadow: The necessity of descending before elevating.

28:02 - Addressing resistance: How cynicism and isolation hold men back.

30:15 - True accountability: How men’s groups challenge you to grow.

32:39 - A wife’s gratitude: The ripple effects of men’s transformation.

36:41 - Final encouragement: Step into the threshold and elevate your life.

MEN: ELEVATE 2025 👉 https://bryanreeves.com/elevate

140. The 4 Masculine Archetypes (And Beyond) w/ Legendary Author Douglas Gillette

Thu, 02 Jan 2025 11:00:00 +0000

“This reveals that both reality and our personal identities extend beyond the obvious, and the various levels of our consciousness hold significant practical value”.- Douglas Gillette

Today on Men, This Way:

00:00 Welcoming Douglas M. Gillette
01:01 Discussion on "King, Warrior, Magician, Lover"
01:29 Background of Douglas Gillette
02:00 Douglas' Pastoral Background and Interfaith Work
03:01 Family Dinners and Personal Introductions
04:01 Discussion on Douglas' New Book and Life Experiences
06:00 Upcoming Book Discussions on Zoom
07:04 The Role of a Guru in Learning
07:42 Importance of Masculine Archetypes
14:06 Deep Dive into Archetypal Work in Men's Groups
16:05 Experiences from a Men's Workshop
17:10 Exploring the Shadows of Masculine Archetypes
20:20 Discussion on Shadow Work and Personal Wholeness
21:06 Explanation of Collective Shadow
23:48 Carl Jung's Contributions to Psychology
30:02 Integration of Imagination in Personal Development
33:06 Discussion on Modern Relevance of Douglas' Book
37:40 The Lack of Elders and the Need for Maps
41:17 Integrating the Whole Man
48:08 Embracing the Paradox of the Spiritual Path
56:57 Reflections on Personal Life and Legacy
67:18 Final Message from Douglas Gillette

Takeaways of this episode:

The significance of the archetypes and their profound resonance with the male psyche.
Men's work that focuses on exploring and integrating the shadow aspects of the archetypes.
The importance of shadow work—engaging with the parts of oneself that are typically hidden or suppressed.
Science and spirituality both can contribute to a deeper understanding of the self and the universe.
The future of men's studies, and the importance of continuing personal and collective growth.

Connect with Douglas:

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

139. If You’re Dying Inside (Listen To This) w/ Francis Weller

Fri, 27 Dec 2024 11:50:00 +0000

Why do men often have to hit bottom before we’re able to make meaningful changes in our lives?

Could our cultural obsession with the individual self be serving to propel us towards our collective doom?

Could learning how to properly grieve be key to our vitality, to living a rich, soul-centered life?

Well, in this very special episode, my guest Francis Weller, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life.

And this is a very special episode. For about the last year, I’ve been diving down the Francis Weller rabbit hole, and if you haven’t yet, I’m telling you, you need to. Humanity needs you to. This man is a medicine carrier for humanity.

I first discovered him a year ago when a good friend of mine turned me onto his book,

The Wild Edge of Sorrow. That book is the one of the most beautiful, poignant, rich and instructive books I’ve ever read. Now, it’s not merely a book about grieving in the way we traditionally think of grieving in our western culture, as if grieving is something that only happens when we experience a major and obvious loss in our lives – which by the way, we don’t even do that well in our culture – but Francis’ book is about ways of creating soul renewal by recasting grieving in our culture as essential routine practice to ensure not just our individual health and well-being, but the health and well-being of our entire community, and of the planet itself.

Francis’ work is immense.

In a world of many olders but too few elders, particularly elder men, Francis Weller is a true wise elder. And he’s super easy to talk with. For more than 30 years he’s been a psychotherapist, a writer, and soul-activist. He is a master of synthesizing diverse streams of thought, from psychology, anthropology, mythology, alchemy, indigenous cultures, and poetic traditions. The core of his work is creating pathways to reclaiming our indigenous soul, what psychologist Carl Jung called the “unforgotten wisdom” that resides in the heart of the psyche. He’s the founder of WisdomBridge, an organization that offers educational programs that seek to integrate the wisdom from traditional cultures with the insights and knowledge gathered from Western Cultures. I’m so excited for you to hear our conversation.

👉 https://www.francisweller.net/

ELEVATE 2025, my year-long coaching journey for men committed to thriving, has just 5 spots left as of this recording.

We begin in January, right around the corner.

So, if you’re a man interested in stepping into a powerful brotherhood of men, alongside me and 10 other like-hearted men, please apply now @ https://bryanreeves.com/elevate

ELEVATE 2025 includes personal coaching with me throughout the entire year, and alongside a select group of solid men, your soon-to-be brothers, we’ll go on a deep-dive into the insights, distinctions, and practices that allow you to step into your deepest life purpose, create and support a thriving intimate relationship, tap into real, authentic heart-centered power to truly serve your loved ones, your aspirations, your community. We’ll also meet in person for an epic 5-day retreat in a beautiful nature location in North Carolina.

Through this experience these men, and I, will become your brothers for life, and you will be challenged to go beyond your comfort zone. Because you surely know by now that if you’re going to touch the heart of what matters most to you in life, you ain’t gonna get there by staying comfortable.

This isn’t for everyone.

But if you have an inkling it might be for you … apply now @ https://bryanreeves.com/elevate ... Just take the next step. This could be the one of the greatest gifts you ever give yourself. The gift of brotherhood with extraordinary men.

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138. The Absent Father Wound w/ Dr. Warren Farrell

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 11:00:00 +0000

"Historically speaking, when we heard criticism, it was from a potential enemy, so it was biologically natural to get up our defenses.That was really functional for survival. It's just dysfunctional for love”.- Dr. Warren Farrell

Today on Men, This Way:

00:00 Introduction of Dr. Warren Farrell
00:50 Dr. Farrell's background and contribution to understanding modern men's struggles.
01:28 Dr. Farrell's reception and personal experience in the field.
03:49 Discussing the role of criticism in personal and relational development.
04:18 The impact of workshops on handling criticism and personal growth.
05:23 Importance of non-defensive communication in relationships.
06:07 Defensiveness and its effects on relationship dynamics.
07:16 Discussion on defensiveness and its ubiquity across different types of relationships.
07:48 Gender dynamics in criticism and defensiveness.
10:08 Exploration of gender dynamics, respect, and protection in relationships.
10:45 Link between boy crisis and absence of father figures
12:08 Comprehensive discussion on the causes and effects of the boy crisis.
14:46 Role of communication in relationships and its impact on children.
16:00 Detailed statistics on the boy crisis and its societal implications.
18:33 Connection between dad deprivation and various social issues.
20:00 Broader implications of declining male societal contributions.
22:38 Dr. Farrell's shift from feminism to focusing on boys' and men's issues.
29:22 Personal reflections on fatherhood and its impact on personal success.
34:27 Comprehensive discussion on dad deprivation and its various forms.
37:39 The importance of dad-style parenting and its specific strategies.
41:55 Discussion on the importance of balanced parenting and its challenges.
47:33 Discussion on boundary setting and enforcement in parenting.
50:22 The evolving role of fathers in modern family units.
53:29 Challenges and strategies for checks and balance parenting
58:16 Strategies for single parents to incorporate balanced parenting styles.
01:01:12 Closing thoughts on the importance of father figures and balanced parenting.

Takeaways from this episode:

The shift from traditional roles towards a deeper, more emotionally connected partnership.
The societal and psychological challenges men encounter today.
How to overcome defensiveness to maintain healthy relationships.
Different impacts of "dad-style" and "mom-style" parenting.
The role fathers play in the psychological development of children, especially boys.
Societal issues like the "boy crisis," which includes higher suicide rates among boys and young men.

Connect with Dr. Farrell:

Website: warrenfarrell.com
Order: The Boy Crisis & The Role Mate to Soul Mate
Resources: Warren Farrell’s Resources
Twitter: @drwarrenfarrell

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

137. The Manhood Crisis (Why So Many Men Feel Lost)

Thu, 12 Dec 2024 12:00:00 +0000

In this episode I explore the themes of manhood and the significance of rites of passage in a man's life. I reflect on my personal experiences and my own lack of intentional initiation into manhood, which continues to haunt many men today. I dive into the importance of having wise elders to guide men through their journeys and the impact of not having these figures in our lives.

ELEVATE 2025: https://bryanreeves.com/elevate

Takeaways

Many men have never undergone a true rite of passage.
The absence of initiation can lead to feelings of inadequacy.
Rites of passage involve separation, threshold, and return.
Men often seek validation from women, which is unsustainable.
Elder support is crucial for personal growth and maturity.
Pseudo initiations do not provide the same benefits as true rites of passage.
Adolescence can persist into adulthood without proper guidance.
Mature men take responsibility for their impact on others.
Intimate relationships can become containers for ongoing initiation.
The journey of manhood is often lonely without support.

Chapters

00:00 The Journey of Manhood and Initiation

20:07 The Importance of Rites of Passage

26:01 Seeking Support and Guidance in Manhood

136. The Myth of Polarization (We're All Living It) w/ Michael Meade

Thu, 05 Dec 2024 11:00:00 +0000

"Many of us spin our wheels, blame others because we can't find our way out. But the work-this soul work-is about digging deep, finding that genius within." - Michael Mead

Today on Men, This Way:

00:02 Introduction and Welcome
00:29 Michael Mead's Background and Expertise
01:00 Insights on Storytelling and Mythology
02:12 The Role of Early Stories in Personal Development
02:50 Personal Impact of Mythology on Michael Mead
04:09 The Importance of Myth in Understanding Chaos
04:30 Misinterpretations of Myths in Modern Times
07:16 Political Polarization and Mythical Understanding
10:25 Myths of Chaos and Creation
12:18 Viewing Social Issues Through Mythical Frameworks
13:18 The Psychological and Societal Impact of Rites of Passage
17:21 Crafting Effective Modern Rites of Passage
21:34 Discovering Inner Genius and Personal Uniqueness
24:04 Reflections on Solitary Confinement as an Unintended Rite of Passage
27:59 The Role of Accidental Rites of Passage in Modern Society
30:33 Implementing Vision Quests as Contemporary Initiations
37:04 The Limitations of Parental Involvement in Children's Rites of Passage
41:22 The Need for Societal Renewal Through Individual Awakening
43:18 Perspectives on the Kali Yuga and the Challenges of Modern Times
47:20 Finding Purpose and Calling Amidst Societal Chaos
50:47 The Healing Potential of Myth and Community
54:49 Sharing Personal Myths as a Way to Connect and Heal
58:48 The Eternal Quest for Personal Destiny and Collective Transformation

Takeaways:

How mythology bridges the gap between ancient wisdom and contemporary issues.
The crucial role of rites of passage and initiation in fostering maturity for life's challenges.
Mythology as a tool for understanding personal and collective crises.
How individual experiences can resonate with universal stories.
Acknowledging personal and collective wounds is essential for true growth and healing.

Connect with Michael:

Website: mosaicvoices.org
Listen to: Living Myth Podcast
Instragram: @michaelmeade_mosaicvoices
Check out: Holding the Thread of Life

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

135. Healing The Mother Wound w/ John Lee

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 10:00:00 +0000

“The mother wound is wanting to be saved by someone, some thing, some process outside yourself, and it's not going to happen.” - John Lee

Today on Men, This Way:

0:00 - Introduction & Overview
0:38 - Global Context & Personal Impact
1:16 - Introducing the Mother Wound
1:46 - Reflections on the Mother Wound
2:11 - The Book 'He' and Its Impact
3:37 - Defining the Mother Wound
5:03 - Archetypes of the Mother Wound
6:26 - Personal Stories of Mother Wounds
10:13 - The Mother vs. Father Wound
12:30 - Struggles with Self-Worth
16:29 - No Saviors, Only Self-Reliance
18:27 - Facing Illusions in Relationships
22:20 - The Role of Therapy in Self-Healing
24:41 - Self-Responsibility & Accountability
27:22 - Projections and the Feminine
30:42 - The Need for Soothing & Relief
35:18 - Relearning Trust and Soothe
42:09 - Self-Worth & External Validation
46:35 - Time as a Catalyst for Change
46:59 - Conclusion & Gratitude

Takeaways from this episode:

Understanding the Mother Wound.
The Impact of the Mother Wound on Relationships.
How the Mother Wound Deeply Impacts One's Sense of Self-worth and Value.
Healing from the Mother Wound Involves Self-reflection and Inner Work.
Societal and Cultural Factors that Shape the Mother Wound.

Connect with John:

Website: johnleebooks.com
Order: Odd One Out: Radical Revelations on Relationships, Self-Help, and Personal Growth
Book: Private Session
email: john@johnleebooks.com

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

This show is produced by Synchro Social

134. Why Life Sucks For Successful Men and What To Do About It

Thu, 07 Nov 2024 10:00:00 +0000

"I'm not against pornography; however, if you're using it to distract yourself or to numb the pain you're experiencing, it might be serving as an escape from having tough conversations" .- Bryan Reeves

Today on Men, This Way:

00:02 Greetings & Reconnection
01:08 Celebration of Elevate 2025
02:27 Discussion on Male Relationships & Growth
03:58 Importance of Men's Groups
05:44 Introducing the Concept of Resistance
07:11 Deep Dive into Resistance
10:16 The Illusion of Control
12:48 Daily Responsibilities and Life's Illusions
14:13 Crafting a Life of Enthusiasm
16:05 Cynicism in Personal Growth
17:38 Navigating Life's Journeys
19:35 Handling Cynicism and its Impacts
21:58 Personal Development & Community Support
24:38 Encouragement and Reflections on Growth
27:14 The Value of Inspiration and Support
30:57 Establishing a Sense of Belonging
33:41 Overcoming Isolation and Embracing Community
35:09 The Dynamics of Men's Groups
37:21 The Challenge of Numbing Out
40:11 Parental Challenges and Personal Growth
43:06 Facing and Understanding Life's Resistance
45:34 Disorientation and Life's Direction
48:35 Military Experience and Personal Orientation
51:48 Momentum and Life's Orientation
54:02 Powerlessness and Finding Strength
56:31 The Role of Power in Personal and Professional Life
59:04 Men's Roles and Challenges in Modern Society
01:01:09 The Five Dead Ends and Their Antidotes
01:03:46 Closing Thoughts and Invitation to Join

Take Aways:

The Power Gathering with other Men to Maintain Clarity and Motivation
Birth and Evolution of "Men This Way"
Celebrating Community Growth with Elevate 2025
The Necessity of Peer Support
Overcoming Resistance as a Path to Personal Growth
Community as an Antidote to Isolation
Reframing Challenges with Community Support

Transform Your Life – Join Elevate Sign up here!

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

This show is produced by Synchro Social

133. How To Stop Fighting and Create a Securely Attached Relationship Instead w/ Dr. Stan Tatkin

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 10:00:00 +0000

"They have to organize. if we're organized where the kids come first, well, the couple is dead, long live the kids, they go away and bye. Because we lost that loving feeling, we never nurtured it. We weren't important enough to maintain." - Dr. Stan Tatkin

Today on Men, This Way:

00:00 Introduction

01:48 PACT Method and Psychobiological Approach

02:22 Personal Reflections on Dr. Tatkin's Work

04:40 Setting Up the Discussion on Relationships

05:09 Defining Secure Functioning Relationships

05:44 Importance of Teamwork in Relationships

06:43 Challenges in Relationships and Power Dynamics

09:35 Explanation of Attachment Styles: Anchors, Waves, Islands

10:07 The Impact of Childhood on Relationship Dynamics

11:55 Clinging and Distancing in Relationships

13:16 Insights into Attachment from Studies

13:30 Personal Narratives and Their Impact on Perception

14:32 Neglect and Its Subtle Impact

15:32 Resentment from Childhood Expectations

16:04 The Metaphor of "The Bite that Fits the Wound"

17:04 The Role of Anger in Insecure Attachments

18:20 Strategies for Secure Functioning

19:20 Adapting to Partner's Needs and Insecurities

20:11 Understanding Attachment and Its Effects on Relationships

22:38 Responsibility in Relationship Dynamics

23:31 Importance of Understanding Danger and Care in Relationships

26:14 The Importance of Shared Vision in Maintaining Relationships

27:21 Designing Relationships Intentionally

28:21 Prioritizing Relationships Over Other Aspects of Life

31:04 Teamwork and Interdependency in Relationships

31:56 Role of Partners in Regulating Each Other's Nervous Systems

34:21 The Practical Application of Co-regulation Techniques

38:28 The Unreliability of Narratives in Understanding Relationships

40:05 The Flaws of Memory and Perception in Communication

41:03 The Challenge of Modeling Successful Relationships

43:02 Strategies for Better Relationship Dynamics

44:12 The Need for Intentionality in Relationships

46:05 The Impact of Stress on Relationship Dynamics

49:05 The Necessity of Protective Measures in Relationships

50:09 The Importance of Commitment and Intention in Relationships

52:22 The Timeframe for Developing Strong Relationship Skills

54:17 The Role of Purpose and Principle in Relationship Longevity

55:06 Establishing and Adhering to Relationship Principles

56:07 Vision and Future Planning in Relationships

57:19 Deciding When to Persist or Let Go in Relationships

59:21 The Social Contracts That Define Personal Relationships

61:02 The Mutual Benefits of a Committed Relationship

64:07 The Hopeful Aspect of Engaging in Relationship Work

66:30 Dr. Tatkin's New Publications and Future Projects

67:44 Closing Thoughts and Reflections on Relationship Dynamics

Takeaways from this episode:

The Importance of Secure Functioning in Relationships.
The Impact of Attachment Styles.
Role of Co-regulation
Communication Strategies Under Stress
The Necessity of Intentionality and Planning in Relationships
Navigating Relationship Challenges with Emotional Intelligence
The Psychological Impact of Neglect
The Influence of Past Trauma on Current Relationships
The Concept of Mutual Support and Teamwork
Shared Vision and Purpose

Transform Your Life – Join Elevate Sign up here!

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

Connect with Dr. Stan Tatkin:

Website: thepactinstitute.com
Buy the book: In Each Other's Care
Therapy with Dr.Tatkin: Couples therapy
Sign up: Retreat
Instagram: @drstantatkin

This show is produced by Synchro Social

132. Emotional Regulation: The (Vital) Role of Parents w/ Brooke Weinstein - PART II

Thu, 10 Oct 2024 10:00:00 +0000

"I constantly remind parents to ask their children how they feel and to always respond with 'thank you for sharing.' This simple practice can transform relationships.” -Brooke Weinstein

Today on Men, This Way:

02:02 Welcome & Introduction.

02:32 Acknowledging Past Discussions.

03:08 Expertise in Sensory and Emotional Regulation.

03:28 The Importance of Parental Emotional Regulation.

03:40Understanding Co-Regulation.

05:38 Influence of Parental Behavior on Children.

07:50 Addressing Challenges of Premature Birth.

10:17 Developmental Stages and Parenting Approaches.

18:16 Discussing Boundaries in Parenting.

19:28 Early Childhood Development and Setting Boundaries.

27:48 Challenges with Social Transitions and Sensory Overload.

31:35 Transition to Adolescence.

38:25 Medication and Support for Sensory Issues.

42:35 Adolescent Social Interactions and Emotional Regulation.

47:30 Preparing for the Social World in Adolescence.

53:50 Supporting Adolescents Through Challenges.

56:19 Addressing Anxiety and Depression in Young Adults.

Takeaways from this episode:

We're never truly ready for parenting.
Co-regulation is essential for emotional health.
Understanding developmental stages helps parents support their children.
Birth experiences can significantly impact a child's development.
Emotional regulation starts with the parents.
Setting boundaries is crucial for children's growth.
Children need to express their feelings openly.
Independence is built through gradual support from parents.
ADHD symptoms can overlap with sensory regulation issues.
Open communication is vital for addressing anxiety and depression in teens.

Transform Your Life – Join Elevate Sign up here!

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

Connect with Dr. Brooke:

This show is produced by Synchro Social

131. Life Will Drag You To Soul Initiation w/ Bill Plotkin

Thu, 03 Oct 2024 09:55:00 +0000

I’ve got a profound episode for you today. My guest is Bill Plotkin, one of the most genius and inspired visionaries of our time that you’ve likely never heard of.

He’s the author of a few books that have rocked my world, most notably, Nature and The Human Soul.

When I first read Nature and The Human Soul some years ago, I felt like I’d discovered a sacred tablet with the codes to living every stage of life well.

Through his work spanning 5 decades as a depth psychologist, wilderness guide, and founder of western Colorado’s Animas Valley Institute, Bill has led thousands of women and men through nature-based initiatory rites-of-passage, and from his work he HAS brought back a vigorously detailed map of the stages of human development, from birth to death, including the specific tasks that are required for someone to complete if they are to psychologically progress from one developmental stage to the next, like from late adolescence to early adulthood. Building on Carl Jung’s work, and the work of countless other brilliant hearts and minds spanning a myriad of human cultures, when I read Bill’s work, I understand more clearly the adventure of my life, the story arcs that have played out, the excruciating bottoms I’ve hit at critical and pivotal moments of my life, and what the real tasks of the different stages of life are that, if I don’t accomplish those tasks, then I don’t truly grow or evolve, even though my body may age.

A major theme he explores in his work, which we talk about in this episode, is the overwhelming lack of true adults in the modern world, and the state of humanity as being currently made up largely of people stuck in adolescent ways of thinking, being, and doing.

We also talk about a critical phase of the life journey, The Journey of Soul Initiation, an experience undertaken between adolescence and adulthood, and a prerequisite for any human to step into true adulthood, and sadly a journey our culture does not support, and in fact actively discourages.

Soooo much to explore here. Bill is one of my beloved elders and teachers, I encourage you to listen to this entire episode, get Bill’s books. If you have or want kids, Bill’s work can help you understand what your own children need to experience at different stages of development, if they are to become truly healthy adults.

So let’s get going. I start off our conversation with a personal story of something that happened to me after I got out of the military, and we take off from there into a profound conversation, which is still but a short stroll on the tippy top of the massive iceberg that is his life’s work.

Near the end, before he gives us insight into how you can move further in the direction of your own journey of soul initiation, I ask Bill whether he has hope for humanity, given culture’s resistance to creating mature adults. His answer will surprise you, maybe frighten you. He does have hope, but not in the way you might think.

So, definitely stay tuned all the way through to the end of this episode of Men, This Way …

👉 https://www.animas.org

130. The Power of Connection (Men Don’t Know What They’re Missing) w/ Owen Marcus

Thu, 26 Sep 2024 10:00:00 +0000

"We're hardwired not just for survival but for connection. We need different types of bonds, like intimate ones with partners. Many of us struggle because we didn’t experience enough secure attachment as children." - Owen Marcus

Today on Men, This Way:

00:00 Welcome & Introduction

01:07 Background and Everyman

02:20 Early Challenges with Dyslexia and Asperger's

03:25 Realizations and Growth

04:23 Motivation to Start Men's Work

05:00 The Importance of Feeling in Relationships

08:33 Introducing Somatics and Co-regulation

11:12 Discussing Safety and Vulnerability

13:16 Creating Safe Spaces in Men's Groups

14:11 Deepening Connections Through Vulnerability

16:17 The Rock Formula: Relax, Open, Connect

18:35 The Impact of Constant Stress on Relationships and Health

22:48 Proactive Approaches to Men's Mental Health

25:44 The Process of Embracing Change and New Practices

28:47 The Role of Community and Connection in Men's Work

33:15 Finding and Creating Men's Groups

37:22 Challenges of Emotional Expression in High-Stakes Professions

40:17 Somatic Practices and Mindfulness

43:14 Patterns in Men's Emotional Growth and Resistance

47:13 The Importance of Language in Expressing Emotions

50:23 Current Personal Challenges and Insights

52:54 The Future of Men's Work and Community Growth

55:49 Advice for Women Supporting Men's Emotional Growth

59:24 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

Join Elevate: https://bryanreeves.com/elevate

Connect with Owen Marcus:

Website: owenmarcus.com
Instagram: @owenmarcus

This show is produced by Synchro Social

129. The Present Man: Why Women Crave It w/ Allana Pratt

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 11:35:00 +0000

I’m talking today with my dear friend, intimacy coach and expert, and just all around lovely human being, Allana Pratt. We’re talking about Presence … whatever does that mean!

So many of us men may get that feedback from an intimate partner … “I just don’t feel your presence” …or “I don’t feel connected to you.” Or … “It’s like you’re not really here.” … and we have no idea what they’re talking about because ... "I’m right here!!!!"

So, I invited Alanna on to explore presence … from a woman’s perspective.

Allana's new online course for singles, “Becoming The One” in which she helps show you how to stop looking for the one and learn instead how to BECOME the one; BECOME the love you are looking for.

👉 Becoming The One Intro Course https://allanapratt.com/becomeintro

Use discount code: BRYAN to get it FREE (100% discount)

Allana drops all kinds of wisdom nuggets and insights in this episode so … Take a deep breath, and dive into presence with us, in this episode of Men, This Way …

Alright …

Let’s dive ...

128. The Silent Struggles of Successful Men

Thu, 12 Sep 2024 10:00:00 +0000

“I didn't believe my stories or experiences had value, so I lacked confidence. But being in this group, getting feedback, and realizing that what I share brings value, joy, and insight has filled me with confidence.

- Jeff Wright -Elevate 2024 Member.

"My confidence comes from knowing I have a trustable brotherhood to rely on, something I never had before."

- Scott Silvi - Elevate 2024 Member.

“You can bring anything—your suffering, questions, or sadness—and you'll get caring feedback without anyone trying to fix you.”

- Jamie Bruffey - Elevate 2024 Member.

Today on Men, This Way:

[00:00] Welcome & Introduction

[03:00] The Weight Men Carry

[04:42] The Turning Point

[05:27] Meet the Guests

[07:09] The Burden of Carrying It Well

[09:51] Crushing Loneliness

[12:22] Lonely Success

[13:49] Confessions of Shame

[16:27] The Power of Men's Work

[21:02] Vulnerability as Strength

[30:22] Masks of Masculinity

[33:25] Fatherhood Reimagined

[38:59] Trusting Men Again

[39:33] Transformation in Relationships

[41:09] The Importance of Trustable Elders

[53:11] From Lone Wolf to Brotherhood

[49:05] Final Reflections

[1:10:33] Join Elevate 2025

Join Elevate: https://bryanreeves.com/elevate

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

This show is produced by Synchro Social

127. What Men Really Want (And What's in The Way)

Thu, 05 Sep 2024 09:00:00 +0000

I’ve got a special episode for you today … if you’ve been listening this year, you know that after 4 years of doing this podcast I’ve invited my long-time childhood best-friend of 40 years, Tait, … to co-host the podcast with me. And the last 10 or so episodes we’ve been doing just that …

Tait is also my business partner and co-facilitator for the last 4 years in the men’s work we’ve been hosting for men all over the world. He and I together have stewarded around 70 men through our two immersive coaching programs, our year-long ELEVATE Men’s Coaching Adventure, and Elevate Your Relationship, our 6-month live relationship coaching program for men.

Today, we take a step back, put him back in the guest role, and talk about the journey of our friendship, the ways men show up for each other, and the ways we often don’t know how … like accountability we tend to suck at really holding each other accountable … we also talk about what men really want in life, and what typically stands in our way of having it and fully experiencing the joy of it.

We revisit the origins of our map, The 5 Pillars of a Thriving Man, … how that map came to us one fateful weekend after a life-changing decision we’d each made for ourselves … and we do a little dive into each pillar …

If you’re inspired or intrigued or this just stirs up something for you, consider joining us for our next ELEVATE men coaching adventure, where we work with men for an entire year to elevate their lives in the ways that are most meaningful to them … Learn more about that at https://bryanreeves.com/elevate

This episode drops all kinds of wisdom nuggets and insights that could absolutely be life-changing for you,

So, take a deep breath, and stay present with us, all the way through to the end of this episode of Men, This Way …

Alright …

Let’s dive …

126. The Spiritual Practice of Abundance with Preston Smiles

Thu, 29 Aug 2024 10:00:00 +0000

"If you make room for your gifts, your gifts will make room for you." - Preston Smiles

Today on Men, This Way:

00:00 Introduction and Welcoming Preston Smiles
04:40 Honoring Preston's Journey and Friendship
10:52 Preston's Philosophy on Failure and Success
22:52 Conversations With God
27:24 Impact of Shame and Forgiveness
33:40 Somatic Body and Joy Alarms
49: 39 Challenges of Masculinity and Porn
59:27 Navigating Marriage and Relationships
1:01:50 The Importance of Conflict Resolution with Nervous System Regulation

Connect with Preston:

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

This show is produced by Synchro Social

125. What Ancient Myths Teach Us About Modern Masculinity with Sophie Strand

Thu, 15 Aug 2024 10:00:00 +0000

"The heroic individual carries such an onerous responsibility. Don't we want to be entangled, connected, and create a community so we don’t have to carry everything on our shoulders?" - Sophie Strand

Today on Men, This Way:

07:45 - Sophie’s introduction to her life and work background.
15:36 - Bryan's journey on healing his masculine energy through reading 'Women Who Run With the Wolves.
16:55 - Sophie shares the evolution of her life through writing and how it evolves along with her life.
18:37 - Swords or Wands: Creating connections instead of dividing and feeling alone in the world as men.
25:46 -Understanding why masculinity is healthier when it embraces a greater diversity of archetypes.
30:31 - Where is Dionysus in our modern world?
33:27 - Embracing the present and overcoming the modern culture that values feeling good only when doing more.
39:59 -Bryan shares the lessons and insights he has gained while facing the challenges of infertility in his marriage
42:06 - How our culture struggles with understanding that some things are not resolvable, and that's okay.
43:52 - We can learn valuable lessons from the character Tom Bombadil for our lives.
52:03 Are narcissists really the bad guys of modern culture?

Ready to stop going it alone? Join Elevate:

https://elevaterelationship.com/

Connect with Sophie Strand:

Website: Here
Instagram:@cosmogyny

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

This show is produced by Synchro Social

124. Elevate Your Life With A Trustable Brotherhood

Thu, 01 Aug 2024 10:00:00 +0000

"I think one of the greatest freedoms we men can give ourselves is through the willingness to be hurt. It's the greatest practice that leads to profound freedom.“ - Bryan Reeves

Today on Men, This Way:

01:40 - Tait and Bryan share their highlights from the men's retreat
05: 00- How Tait and Bryan experienced brotherhood building.
08:17 - Understanding the fruits of having a trustworthy brotherhood.
12:41 - Reasons that keep men from building a trustable brotherhood
17:19 - Understanding why most men lie about their lives.
19:52 - The loop of isolation and resisting support most men experience.
23:30 - Bryan and Tait explain their trustable brotherhood model.
25:37 - the three pillars of a trustable brotherhood.
37:22 - Bryan shares the first time he experienced real vulnerability with a partner.
39: 29 - Wins Bryan and Tait have gained from being vulnerable.
46:46 - Bro Code
49:40 - Consequences of men not holding themselves accountable.
57:46 - The impact of trustable brotherhoods on society.

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

This show is produced by Synchro Social

123. The Emotional Struggles of Men (and Fathers) ft. Dr. Brooke Weinstein

Thu, 18 Jul 2024 10:00:00 +0000

"If you have never chosen to tap your toe into the world of vulnerability, sharing, being open, and being interested in your feelings, it's going to be very uncomfortable and scary. That's because your brain is saying, 'Hold on, I'm not used to doing this. This is uncharted territory, and this doesn't feel safe.” - Brooke Weinstein

Today on Men, This Way:

04:30 - Understanding how our brain works involves identifying specific behaviors and patterns to start embracing regulated parenting.
11:48 - Brooke shares how she began her journey in neuro-sensory based parenting
17:27 - Brooke opens up about how she was able to overcome her husband's suicide.
21:50 - Unique challenges and pressures men face in society and while raising a family
27:08 - Reflecting on Brooke’s strategy for working with men and helping them regulate their nervous systems.
36:53 - Tait and Bryan discuss their journey in discovering practices for releasing anger and how these practices have enhanced their lives and interpersonal relationships.
39:59 - Essential tools to integrate to start living a more regulated and grounded life.
46:06 - Embracing vulnerability as the leverage to start acknowledging your emotions and begin healing

Connect with Brooke Weinstein:

Instagram: @brookeweinst
Website: https://drbrookeweinstein.com/
Podcast: https://drbrookeweinstein.com/thrive-podcast/

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

122. Is Unresolved Grief the Source of Your Pain? with Joshua Wenner

Thu, 04 Jul 2024 10:00:00 +0000

“Grief sculpts our souls and crafts our characters into the men that we're supposed to be.” — Joshua Wenner

Today on Men, This Way:

03:22 – The pervasive presence of grief in men's lives
04:02 – Why men resist talking about grief
05:02 – Understanding grief from birth and navigating change
06:33 – Men resisting grief and its impact on growth
09:25 – Joshua’s personal encounters with grief
13:22 – Coping mechanisms: Achievement, avoidance, and commitment to grief work
15:19 – Interviewing grief experts and understanding duality
17:54 – Accepting and facing grief
19:29 – Transformation through grief and men's retreats
20:12 – Training first responders and high achievers on grief
23:07 – Strategies for dealing with grief and family dynamics
25:40 – Overlooked types of grief in men’s lives
28:33 – The impact of unmetabolized grief
32:12 – Learning to be present with oneself through grief work
34:21 – Willingness to lose and its impact on relationships
37:14 – Developing the skill of grief and nervous system regulation
39:52 – Practical methods for daily nervous system regulation
43:39 – Somatic practices for moving grief through the body
48:39 – The CPR method: Conscious Awareness, Pause, Regulation
53:02 – Navigating conflicts with regulation and awareness
56:24 – Co-regulating in relationships
59:31 – Advice for men struggling with grief
1:03:01 – The importance of forgiveness in the grief journey

Connect with Joshua Wenner:

Instagram: @joshuamichaelwenner
Website: joshuawenner.com
Emotional Resilience Training (ERT) for learning more about the nervous system

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

121. Creating Healthy Attachment (When You’re Anxious or Avoidant) with Silvy Khoucasian

Thu, 20 Jun 2024 10:00:00 +0000

“Understanding our attachment styles and how they influence our relationships can transform the way we connect with others. It's not about reaching a perfect state of secure attachment but about attuning to our own needs and those of our partners. This journey is a lifelong process of learning, growing, and healing together.” — Silvy Khoucasian

Today on Men, This Way:

5:05 – Silvy's inspiration for exploring attachment styles during her psychology studies
6:15 – The attachment theory and how childhood experiences with caregivers shape adult relationships
7:42 – The different attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant
10:10 – Personal experiences and realizations around attachment styles in dating and relationships
12:32 – How attachment styles manifest in relationships and the importance of awareness
15:04 – Tools and practices for identifying your attachment style
18:34 – The role of family systems and childhood responsibilities in developing attachment patterns
21:12 – Healing and developing secure attachment through relationships and self-awareness
24:08 – The importance of creating agreements and consistency in relationships for healing
27:20 – How different attachment styles magnetize towards each other and the opportunities for healing
29:02 – The balance between independence and interdependence in relationships
31:32 – The gifts and challenges of each attachment style and finding balance
35:13 – The importance of direct communication and creating secure functioning patterns in relationships
39:21 – Brian and Silvy's personal journey and the strategies they use to support each other's needs
44:16 – The long-term commitment to relationship growth and healing over years
47:45 – The role of professional support in working through attachment patterns

Connect with Silvy Khoucasian:

Website: silvykhoucasian.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/silvykhoucasian/

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

This show is produced by Synchro Social

120. How to Create An Unbreakable Connection in Your Relationship

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 10:00:00 +0000

“The path to an unbreakable connection is the commitment to staying in partnership, no matter what.” — Bryan Reeves

Today on Men, This Way:

2:24 – The emotional investment people have in relationships
3:08 – Exploring the real reasons behind conflicts in relationships
4:17 – The concept of “crisis of connection” in relationships
5:38 – Ending unnecessary conflict as a bridge to connection
6:42 – The importance of support in men’s groups
19:55 – Weekly connection rituals with family
23:27 – Reflecting on personal experiences of disconnection and reconnection
27:30 – The role of men’s emotional vulnerability in relationships
34:23 – The impact of small daily connection rituals
42:24 – What is the difference between connection and unbreakable connection
45:14 – Key elements of building an unbreakable connection
47:15 – The significance of praise and gratitude in relationships
50:17 – The power of presence and intentionality in relationships
59:15 – Addressing the challenge of one partner being more growth-oriented than the other
1:03:30 – The distinction between requests and requirements in relationships
1:14:25 – Leaning into relationship challenges and the role of support

Connect with Bryan & Tait:

Website: bryanreeves.com
Instagram: @bryanreevesinsight / @taitarend08
Email: bryan@menthisway.com / tait@menthisway.com

119. At 50: My Biggest Lessons of a Life Well Lived

Thu, 23 May 2024 09:00:46 +0000

“Honesty without kindness is just cruel. But kindness without honesty is manipulation. And honesty with kindness, that’s divine. So I think that’s an inquiry that serves us well to live in, like, ‘How can I be honest?’ ‘How can I be transparent in a way that also takes into account her sensitivity?’” — Bryan Today ... Read more

118. You Will Never Grow, If You Don’t Do This

Thu, 09 May 2024 09:00:33 +0000

“One of the benefits of having this tool, knowing how to hold other men accountable, is that you get to call men into their greatness. You get to help your kids, your partners, your friends, and your own life step into greatness. So, this is not just a tool for your benefit; it’s about developing ... Read more

117. Conflict to Connection: How to End & Repair Unnecessary Conflict

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 09:00:12 +0000

“Sometimes the initiation of conflict is really a bid for connection. It’s really a desire to figure out how we can get this connection going again. A thriving intimate relationship through conflict and repair, it’s vital for us. It’s vital for our health, for our longevity and for our children. But what we need as ... Read more

116. Are You Sure Your Partner Feels Safe With You?

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 13:41:36 +0000

“Getting into a relationship is one of the most courageous acts that men and women can have. Each of us are bringing our own pain and suffering into a relationship, and now trying to work it out between two couples. Not only that, everybody’s walking into a new relationship with a 100% breakup rate prior ... Read more

115. Our Experience Surrendering Control to Gain Real Power

Thu, 28 Mar 2024 09:00:35 +0000

“Pretending to have control where we don’t only leads to losing ourselves in the chaos…Embracing this, we learn to dance with uncertainty, finding true power not in control, but in acceptance and adaptability.” – Tait Today on Men, This Way: 6:30 – The overwhelming complexities of life and finding power in surrender 9:30 – ... Read more

114. Confronting Masculine Checkout Syndrome in Relationships

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 09:00:25 +0000

“One of the things we have to be willing to do as men is look at what the impact our actions and our lack of presence is having on ourselves and on the people that we care about most.” – Tait Today on Men, This Way: Commitment challenges men face with fully choosing partners ... Read more

113. A New Era Begins: 40 Years of Friendship, Masks Men Wear, Embracing Honesty

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 11:00:47 +0000

“As men, we paint our faces the best we know how, and we go out into the world and try to be good men, fathers, workers, providers, lovers — and in large measure, because we don’t know what we’re doing, we end up leaving a trail of tears behind for ourselves and for the people ... Read more

Men, This Way - The Trailer

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 01:54:04 +0000

Few men have safe, trustworthy spaces for real conversations about the things that matter most to us. Instead, men have suffered in silence, but that changes now. Join renowned author and men’s coach, Bryan Reeves, and his lifelong best friend, Tait Arend, a leadership coach, as they delve deep into the urgent topics men are ... Read more

112. The 3 Reasons Men Check Out of Relationship (And How To Step Back In)

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 11:00:00 +0000

Do you know why men tend to check out of relationships? Do you know the 3 Pillars of Intimacy? Do you have a tried and tested roadmap for creating a thriving relationship? Welcome … I’ve got a fantastic episode for you today … I’m putting out less episodes at the moment because something big is ... Read more

111. Challenges I've Faced in Relationship With My Wife w/ Silvy Khoucasian (My Wife)

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 11:00:34 +0000

Do all relationships struggle? What even is intimacy … really? Why do so many men struggle with relationships and intimacy? In this episode, my very special guest and I dive into these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life … And my very special guest is … my ... Read more

110. The Roadmap To Enlivenment For Men

Thu, 07 Dec 2023 11:00:21 +0000

Do you live with an inspired vision guiding your way? Have you set up accountability to help you achieve what you deeply desire? Are you really even aware of what’s in your way of achieving it? In this episode, my brilliant guest is again, none other than my life long childhood friend, Tait Arend, … ... Read more

109. The Deeper Truths of (Sexual) Polarity w/ Michaela Boehm

Wed, 22 Nov 2023 11:00:09 +0000

In this episode, my brilliant guest is Michaela Boehm. Michaela Boehm is one of the most influential and wise teachers who’s work has profoundly influenced my life. I was fortunate to study with her personally over the course of about 3 or 4 years. I was certified by her as an “Intimacy & Attraction” workshop ... Read more

108. How to Be Fully Enlivened & Powerfully On Purpose w/ Tait Arend

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 11:00:45 +0000

In this episode, my brilliant and inspired guest is none other than Tait Arend. Tait is my business partner in “Men, This Way,” and my co-faciltator for the last 3 years in the men’s work I’ve been hosting for men all over the world. He and I together have stewarded around 50 men through our ... Read more

107. Men Aren’t Prepared For Real Intimacy w/ Mark Groves

Thu, 26 Oct 2023 10:10:34 +0000

Today I’m talking with my old friend, Mark Groves, founder of “Create The Love,” the massively successful Instagram Page and Community dedicated to helping people create inspired and inspiring relationships. This is actually a rebroadcast of an episode Mark and I did on HIS podcast. I just love my conversations with Mark, and in this ... Read more

106. Fathers, Sons, and Rites of Passage w/ Luke Entrup

Fri, 13 Oct 2023 10:20:21 +0000

In today’s episode, I engage in a profound conversation with the founder of “The Father Son Connection Experience,” Luke Entrup. We discuss various topics related to men and emotions, fathers and sons, and rites of passage for boys at different ages. HIGHLIGHTS (brought to you by … obviously … AI!) (00:00) Intro (07:03) Some significant ... Read more

105. The Grand Delusions of Fame & Success w/ Adrian Grenier

Thu, 28 Sep 2023 10:00:35 +0000

Today, I have the pleasure of hosting actor and activist Adrian Grenier as my guest. You may recognize Adrian from his roles in the popular HBO series “Entourage” or his appearances in films like “The Devil Wears Prada” alongside Meryl Streep, Anne Hathaway, and Emily Blunt. More recently, he has been featured in the Netflix ... Read more

104. Death Brings Gifts w/ Hal Elrod

Thu, 14 Sep 2023 10:27:14 +0000

Have you ever been confronted with death? Either yours or someone else’s? What gifts has that confrontation brought you? (it has brought you gifts, right?) Are you daily committed to making every day your best day? If not, why not? In this episode, my esteemed guest, Hal Elrod, author of “The Miracle Morning,” and I ... Read more

103. The Wisdom of Psychedelics w/ Dr Rachel Harris

Thu, 31 Aug 2023 10:45:01 +0000

Have you ever experienced a transformational psychedelic trip? Have you ever experienced a traumatic psychedelic trip? Are you curious about the world of psychedelic therapy and whether it might benefit you? In this episode my brilliant guest is Dr.Rachel Harris, and together she & I mine these questions and more for wise insights that can ... Read more

102. The Eloquence of Silence w/ Thomas Moore

Fri, 18 Aug 2023 10:00:22 +0000

Do you ever feel overburdened by the busyness our modern lives require? Do you practice creating spaciousness, emptiness in your daily life? Have you ever tasted profound freedom in a moment of aimless being? Join us for a profound conversation with the esteemed Thomas Moore, a true elder in a world crowded with older men ... Read more

101. Man's Fear of Aliveness w/ Ken Page

Thu, 03 Aug 2023 10:36:09 +0000

Do you repress yourself expression for reasons conscious or otherwise ? Do you find it difficult to cry ? Or feel real joy ? Might you disconnect from the world around you out of self protection? In this thought-provoking episode, my guest Ken Page and I embark on a deep exploration of gender identity and ... Read more

100. Stop Playing Son To Your Father w/ John Lee

Thu, 20 Jul 2023 10:00:36 +0000

Are you still wanting (even subconsciously) your father to “show up”? Are you angry at your father, or resigned from him, and yet something still nags at you about it? Do you have any wise elders you can consistently look up to, whom you can trust to help you navigate difficult situations? I am incredibly ... Read more

99. When You Hit Bottom w/ Brad Wetzler

Thu, 06 Jul 2023 10:00:49 +0000

Have you ever gone on a journey into the world that fundamentally changed you? Have you figured it out by now what means to truly live a good life? Might you still be functioning as an adult from childhood wounds unexamined ? In this episode I had the pleasure of connecting with Brad Wetzler whose ... Read more

98. Fierce Empathy w/ David Waldy

Thu, 22 Jun 2023 10:00:53 +0000

Have you figured out what empathy actually is? Do you have a negative view of empathy? Have you ever considered empathy can also be fierce and powerful? In this episode, I dive into the concept of empathy and its true meaning. Do you hold a negative view of empathy? And have you considered that empathy ... Read more

97. Just Give The World Your Gifts Already! w/ Jairek Robbins

Thu, 08 Jun 2023 10:14:29 +0000

Are you consistently offering your unique gifts to the world? Might you be offering your gifts in one critical area of life, only to be offering little or nothing in another critical area? How can you know if you’ve fully stepped out from living in your father’s shadow? Well, in this episode, I mine these ... Read more

96. How to Speak Your Truth (Skillfully) w/ Vasavi Kumar

Thu, 25 May 2023 10:00:39 +0000

Do you struggle to let people in to what’s really going on for you? Are you afraid your intimate partner doesn’t really want to hear what’s true for you on this inside? Do you know how to skillfully talk with others about what you really want and need? In this episode, we have the pleasure ... Read more

95. Design The Man Within w/ Johnny Elsasser

Thu, 11 May 2023 09:35:07 +0000

Could you potentially be sitting on a reservoir of shame, or guilt, or regret? Do you tend to resist changing to meet the demands of the world around you? Do you feel deeply connected to your authentic power in all domains of life? As men, we often face a variety of challenges when it comes ... Read more

94. How Men’s Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships w/ Dr. Avrum Weiss

Thu, 27 Apr 2023 10:01:43 +0000

Have you ever considered that you might might be afraid of women? Have you ever felt afraid of a woman’s emotions? Or your own? Do you ever walk on eggshells around women, and do you loathe that? In this episode Dr. Avrum Weiss and I explore these questions and more to provide useful insights that ... Read more

93. Masculine Leadership: From The Core w/ John Wineland

Fri, 14 Apr 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Do you agree with those who say the world doesn’t need masculinity, or men? Of course you don’t but do you think it is time for a new vision of masculinity, one that would truly serve the world rather than only seek to dominate over it? Do you know what that vision could look like? ... Read more

92. Why We Must Face Our Darkness w/ Connor Beaton

Wed, 29 Mar 2023 10:00:17 +0000

What is men’s work, really? Why do men often resist it? What happens for men in the world of men’s work? In this episode, my guest, Connor Beaton, the creator of the renowned organization Mantalks, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life. I love ... Read more

91. Living Connected to Heart w/ HeartMath co-founder Bruce Cryer

Thu, 16 Mar 2023 10:00:07 +0000

What does it mean to be a man connected to the heart? What is the gift of feeling emotions, anyway? What can you do to be more connected to the heart? In this episode, my guest is Bruce Cryer, he’s a man of many gifts, talents and experiences, but perhaps most notably, he’s a co-founder ... Read more

90. Mastering Fatherhood w/ Kelly Gardner

Wed, 01 Mar 2023 11:05:11 +0000

What is the essential role of a father? Have you faced your own father-wounds yet? Or are you still, on some level, holding it against your father for not being all you needed him to be? Kelly Gardner is a deep, wise man and a father. Kelly is yet another man in my recent series ... Read more

89. Living The Paradox: Navigating Freedom and Relationships w/ Stefanos Sifandos

Thu, 16 Feb 2023 11:00:27 +0000

Do you suffer from the “freedom wound”? Do you struggle to reconcile freedom with the bonds of relationship? Do you understand why you need deeply trustable men in your life? Stefanos Sifandos’ journey in life has brought him through the experiences of intense childhood trauma of violence and abuse, being a child immigrant in a ... Read more

88. Building Men (What Boys Really Need) w/ Dennis Morolda

Fri, 03 Feb 2023 11:12:03 +0000

What are young men learning about masculinity today? How can we help build young men into the resilient, connected, empathetic AND strong adult men we need in the future? What kinds of rites of passage can we offer young men in today’s modern world? And should we? In this episode of Men, This Way, my ... Read more

87. Radical Intimacy (The Courageous Way To Love) w/ Zoe Kors

Wed, 18 Jan 2023 11:08:22 +0000

Do you struggle with intimacy in relationships? Do you sometimes struggle to feel connected to yourself? Does sex stop satisfying you not long after the honeymoon hormones wear off? Zoe Kors is a long time, really close friend of mine and she’s also the author of radical intimacy: cultivate the deeply connected relationships you desire ... Read more

86. Standing at The Crossroads of a Major Life Change w/ Mark Groves

Thu, 05 Jan 2023 11:00:45 +0000

Are you in the midst of a major life transition? Or heading towards one? Have you ever felt both excitement and terror of change overtaking you? Are you comfortable with not knowing what’s next, as you let go of what was? In this episode, my guest, Mark Grooves, the Creator of Create the Love, and ... Read more

85. Rites of Passage: When Your Soul is Calling for Change w/ Jeddy Azuma

Thu, 22 Dec 2022 11:22:20 +0000

Have you ever undergone a rites of passage? Have you ever felt called to do a rites of passage? Do you even know what I’m talking about? In this episode, my guest, Jeddy Azuma … the founder of Rising Man Movement and the Podcast of the same name, … and I mine these questions and ... Read more

84. The Tragic Loss of Creativity in Men w/ Aryeh-Or

Thu, 08 Dec 2022 11:04:32 +0000

Did you long ago bury your creative spirit so you could fit in? Did you long ago stop writing poetry or songs, or painting, or drawing or whatever because it wouldn’t make you money? Do you ever use drugs, alcohol, porn, to bring your body alive, but in ways that you know don’t serve you? ... Read more

83. When Men Get REAL With Themselves (and Other Men) w/ Sean Hotchkiss

Tue, 22 Nov 2022 15:13:36 +0000

Have you ever achieved something huge, only to feel let down soon after the triumph? Have you ever lived the life you wanted, only to wake up one day feeling disillusioned by it? Do you consistently share the raw truth of your experiences with other men? In this episode, my guest, Sean Hotchkiss, and I ... Read more

82. Find Authentic Power Thru Authentic Relationship w/ Jon Vroman

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 11:00:48 +0000

Do you ever struggle to feel deeply connected to your authentic power? Could that be preventing you from being fully present in your everyday life? Could that be preventing you from having the love you deeply desire? In this episode, my guest, Jon Vroman, the Founder of Front Row Dads, and I mine these questions ... Read more

81. Honest Sex (Create Passion Thru Safety) w/ Shana James

Thu, 03 Nov 2022 12:10:00 +0000

Are you able to have honest conversations about sex with your partner, in ways that bring you closer together rather than push you apart? If not, would you like to learn how? Do you buy into the myth of happy sex, as most men do? In this episode, my guest, Shana James … and I ... Read more

80. How Conflict (Done Well) Can Heal Men w/ Arjuna O'Neal

Wed, 26 Oct 2022 15:49:40 +0000

Do you hate conflict? Especially with other men? Did you know that conflict can actually build trust? … But only when done well? Have you ever seen conflict done well? In this episode, my guest, Arjuna O’Neal … and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your ... Read more

79. Are You (Consciously) Choosing How To Be A Man? w/ Johnny Elsasser

Wed, 19 Oct 2022 17:31:09 +0000

Have you ever questioned where your definition of manhood came from? Have you ever taken time to define for yourself what it means to be a man? In this episode, my guest, Johnny Elsasser, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life. I like Johnny. ... Read more

78. The 3 Big Struggles Men Don't Talk About w/ Tait Arend

Wed, 12 Oct 2022 12:00:56 +0000

What are the common struggles men face (that we don’t talk about)? What are the costs of us not talking about it? If you’re a man, are you aware that you probably don’t trust other men? Do you understand the costs of that? In this episode, my guest is Tait Arend, my lifelong childhood friend ... Read more

77. The Power of a Man's Presence w/ Allana Pratt

Wed, 05 Oct 2022 19:03:04 +0000

Welcome back to a new season and a new era, really … of MEN, THIS WAY. If you’ve been following this podcast for a while, you’ll know I haven’t released an episode in a few months. I took a hiatus because well, frankly, I just got burned out. This year has been intense. I’ve moved ... Read more

76. Everything You Love (You Will Lose) w/ Francis Weller

Thu, 24 Mar 2022 17:52:31 +0000

Do you regularly turn away from the sorrows of the world? Are you aware of the great cost to your vitality, your joy, by doing so? Why might it be important to regularly confront your own sorrows, even if you think you have none? In this episode, my guest, Francis Weller, and I mine these ... Read more

75. The Life of a Peaceful Warrior w/ Dan Millman

Thu, 10 Mar 2022 13:00:33 +0000

Could overthinking be negatively affecting your entire life? Have you ever struggled with a big decision because of differences with an intimate partner? What are the dangers of endlessly comparing yourself (and competing with) others? **CORRECTION: I misspoke in the intro. Dan is the author of “Way of the Peaceful Warrior,” not “Way of the ... Read more

74. Before We Rise, We Must First Descend w/ Francis Weller

Thu, 16 Dec 2021 04:00:53 +0000

Why do men often have to hit bottom before we’re able to make meaningful changes in our lives? Could our cultural obsession with the individual self be propelling us towards our collective doom? Could learning how to properly grieve be key to our vitality, to living a rich, soul-centered life? Well, in this very special ... Read more

73. The 5 Pillars of A Thriving Man

Thu, 25 Nov 2021 00:52:24 +0000

Why do men (even when we succeed) often struggle to enjoy our daily lives? What are we missing on our endlessly futile “pursuit of happiness”? What are the key ingredients for a deeply fulfilling life? In this episode, I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life. ... Read more

72. Letting Go (When The World is Falling Apart) w/ Peter Russell

Sat, 20 Nov 2021 08:30:28 +0000

How do you practice “letting go”? What does “letting go” even really mean? Can you “let go” AND still take powerful, effective action? In this episode, my guest, the brilliant and wise author, teacher, lecturer, sage, Peter Russell, and I mine these questions and more to help make a meaningful difference in your life. Peter ... Read more

71. How Healthy Relationships Do Conflict w/ Jayson Gaddis

Fri, 22 Oct 2021 19:25:51 +0000

What did your father teach you about conflict? What does conflict look like in healthy relationships? Do healthy couples regularly experience conflict? And if so, how do they do it? In this episode, my guest, relationship expert Jayson Gaddis, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in ... Read more

70. Men & Emotions w/ Mark Groves

Wed, 29 Sep 2021 08:00:29 +0000

Are you constantly trying to make your partner more like you? (i.e. less emotional, more rational, etc.) Are you constantly getting stuck over your differences? Do you struggle to really feel your feelings? In this episode, I’m talking with my old friend, Mark Groves, founder of “Create The Love” a massively successful Instagram Page and ... Read more

69. Radical Responsibility as a Path to Wisdom w/ Dr. Fleet Maull

Thu, 16 Sep 2021 22:34:04 +0000

In this episode: Dr. Maull and I talk about his prison experience as a convicted drug “Kingpin”; what happened with his son both during and after his prison experience; about the importance of emotional intelligence as a foundation for healthy relationships; the need for men to gather with other men in doing essential personal growth ... Read more

68. No Accountability, No Greatness w/ Tayo Rockson

Thu, 12 Aug 2021 08:04:27 +0000

Are you living inside of stressful stories that don’t serve your life? Why should you be aware of the emotional triggers in your body? Do you know what your core values are? In this episode, my guest is Tayo Rockson. Tayo Rockson is a man whose work I’m just beginning to learn about. He’s been ... Read more

67. Don’t Overthink It w/ Sylvester McNutt III

Thu, 29 Jul 2021 22:02:20 +0000

Are you addicted to overthinking? (like I am) How do you know what to say yes to, or no to? Do you understand the essential importance of being in a men’s group? In this episode, my guest is author Sylvester McNutt III. I loved this conversation with Sylvester. In fact, this conversation felt more like ... Read more

66. When Men Don't Grow Up ... Everyone Suffers

Thu, 17 Jun 2021 05:00:21 +0000

Do you prefer the fantasy of relationship to the reality of it? Does relationship seem like an ongoing problem (you have yet to solve)? Could it be that …. we men have been set up to fail in love? Recently, I got an excited call from one of my closest friends. Tait. Tait is actually ... Read more

65. The Journey of Soul Initiation w/ Bill Plotkin

Wed, 02 Jun 2021 05:16:51 +0000

What does it look like to live a truly authentic life? Not just the way some 22-year old tik-tok’er might tell you to live “authentically” … but I mean to live daily connected to the your soul’s deepest purpose for living? … What does THAT kind of life look like? Perhaps more importantly, how do ... Read more

64. Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) - Part Two

Wed, 19 May 2021 04:00:09 +0000

Do you struggle with intimate relationship? Do you have a hard time choosing your partner every … single … day? Do you ever feel UNCHOSEN by your intimate partner? This episode is a bit unusual in that it’s actually a rebroadcast of another podcast I was recently featured on, The Art of Authenticity, hosted by ... Read more

63. Are You Being Authentic … Or Just A Jerk? w/ Dr. Aziz

Thu, 06 May 2021 05:00:37 +0000

What does it (really) mean to be authentic? How can you know when you’re being authentic, or just being a jerk? Are you aware that your thoughts may be lying to you, actually preventing you from being authentic? In this episode, my guest is Dr. Aziz Gazipura, the founder of The Social Confidence Center, author ... Read more

62. The Magic of Surrender w/ Kute Blackson

Fri, 23 Apr 2021 18:36:47 +0000

Do you really think you’re in control of your life? Do you ever feel stuck or stagnant, or like no matter how hard you grind, true happiness and fulfillment seem always just out of reach? What if the fulfillment you seek, only comes through the practice of surrender? In this episode, my guest, Kute Blackson, ... Read more

61. Navigating Chivalry & Gender-Equality in The Modern World w/ Shu Matsuo Post

Thu, 25 Feb 2021 08:00:51 +0000

How can we reconcile old notions of chivalry with modern expectations of gender-equality? Can gender-equality actually help MEN feel more free, too? Do you really understand the (daily) privileges men have over women? In this episode, my guest, Japanese author Shu Matsuo Post … and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to ... Read more

60. Sexual Self-Mastery w/ Destin Gerek

Sun, 31 Jan 2021 05:00:02 +0000

What do men tend to misunderstand about sex and sexual pleasure? Can a lack of body sensitivity be the underlying cause of sex and intimacy issues? What practices can men do to increase sensitivity, and thus sexual pleasure (both for ourselves and our partners)? In this episode, my guest, renowned and certified sexologist Destin Gerek, ... Read more

59. The 4th Pillar of a Thriving Man ~ BROTHERHOOD ~ w/ Tait Arend (My Lifelong Soul-Brother)

Wed, 13 Jan 2021 06:00:05 +0000

What happens when men don’t have deep connections with other men? What’s the cost to our vitality, fulfillment, when we lone-wolf it through life? Could being part of an intentional brotherhood serve your life? In this episode, my guest is, Tait Arend … my lifelong childhood best friend. In this episode, we’re diving into the ... Read more

58. The 2nd Pillar of a Thriving Man ~ INTIMACY ~ w/ Silvy Khoucasian (My Intimate Partner)

Wed, 02 Dec 2020 09:00:21 +0000

What is intimacy … really? Can you experience intimacy without another person actually present? (hint: yes!) Why do so many men (women, too!) struggle with sustaining intimacy? In this episode, my very special guest and I dive into these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life … my ... Read more

57. The 5 Pillars Of A Thriving Man

Thu, 12 Nov 2020 02:45:19 +0000

Why do men (even when we succeed) often struggle to enjoy our daily lives? What are we missing on our endlessly futile “pursuit of happiness”? What are the key ingredients for a deeply fulfilling life? In this episode, I dive into the 5 Pillars of a Thriving Man. These 5 pillars came to me 3 ... Read more

56. Don’t Take Sides (Do Take a Position)

Thu, 17 Sep 2020 16:16:32 +0000

Are you struggling with the growing divisions in our current world? Are you afraid things might get worse before they get better? Did you know that a descent into darkness, a terrifying uncertainty, is essential for human transformation? In this episode, I explore how our current ego-centric model of society almost guarantees the kinds of ... Read more

55. Why Men Need Personal Growth Work (With Other Men) w/ Sascha Lewis

Wed, 26 Aug 2020 15:50:37 +0000

Do you genuinely trust other men? Do you hesitate to trust your own emotions? Why do we men need to hit bottom before we’re (truly) ready to change? In this episode, my guest is Sascha Lewis, co-founder of the international men’s group organization, Evryman (with no second “e”). Sascha and I were recently reconnected by ... Read more

54. Your Divine Appointment (When The Worst Thing Becomes The Best Thing) w/ Rev James Trapp

Wed, 12 Aug 2020 19:46:39 +0000

What is your divine appointment (what you’re uniquely here to do)? What is your “essential necessity” (that keeps you going when things get tough)? How can we contribute to the world in ways that don’t create more upset & division? My guest today, the honorable and inspired and inspiring Rev James Trapp, and I mine ... Read more

53. The New Alpha Male (Feels Everything) w/ Lance Allred

Fri, 31 Jul 2020 17:47:17 +0000

Have you (finally!) discovered the power of questioning your conclusions? Have you ever successfully climbed the mountains of your aspirations … only to find utter disappointment there? In this episode, my guest is, Lance Allred, the first deaf NBA basketball player in history. Lance just released a new book, The New Alpha Male, with Sounds ... Read more

52. A Man Without A Father’s Praise (Never Feels Successful Enough)

Mon, 06 Jul 2020 22:44:09 +0000

Have you struggled to feel successful (enough)? Have you struggled in relationship when you were professionally unfulfilled? Did you know that a dad’s essential gift to a child is to instill both the drive to succeed, and the understanding that you’re already (always) successful? My father’s in town. Now I love my dad, but like ... Read more

51. Don't Let Ambition Ruin Your Happiness w/ Brenden (Bam!) Durell

Fri, 26 Jun 2020 16:49:11 +0000

Can you tell a better story about your greatest disappointments? Could ambition be getting in the way of you (actually) enjoying your life? Did you know cacao – REAL cacao – can help you connect with an intimate partner, and with yourself? Brendan Durell aka BAM! is a new friend of mine whom I first ... Read more

50. The Heart Knows w/ Arjuna O'Neal

Fri, 12 Jun 2020 16:17:12 +0000

Ever struggle with forgiveness? Can you stay in your heart, even when facing someone who hates you? Are you open to an essential, profound conversation between two men on racism? In this episode, my guest, Arjuna O’Neal … and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your ... Read more

49. You're Hurt. I'm Angry. Now What? w/ Figs O'Sullivan

Fri, 29 May 2020 22:21:48 +0000

Is relationship conflict your ongoing nemesis? Have you ever been accused of not being sensitive? Do you really understand empathy (and why it’s essential)? In this episode, my guest, Figs O’Sullivan, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life. “Fiachre” O’Sullivan … otherwise known as ... Read more

48. How Porn Ruined My Intimacy

Thu, 14 May 2020 21:42:35 +0000

When was the last time you watched porn? Could porn be negatively affecting your sexuality? Do you ever turn to, or prefer porn, over an actual partner? Have you ever used porn to get turned on for a partner? (even if just in your imagination?) If you ejaculate fast with a partner, or struggle to ... Read more

47. The Power of Stopping (Before Starting) w/ Tommy Rosen

Fri, 17 Apr 2020 20:20:11 +0000

What is the real addiction this pandemic is forcing us to face? When your world suddenly stops, what’s the most inspired way to get it started again? Tommy Rosen, founder of Recovery 2.0, is one of the reasons I love living in Los Angeles. I first met Tommy years ago when the conscious music band ... Read more

46. Why ‘The Feminine’ Will Destroy You (and You Need Her To)

Sat, 28 Mar 2020 18:45:41 +0000

As this coronavirus pandemic has been unfolding, I’ve been replaying over and over in my mind that scene from the movie Avatar, at the end, where Pandora – that’s the name of the planet the movie takes place on – marshals all her resources, all the creatures of the planet, to come together to fight ... Read more

45. How To Date (and Love) Authentically, Powerfully w/ Joshua Hathaway and Robert Schwenkler

Tue, 17 Mar 2020 19:41:51 +0000

Do you ever repress your desires for fear of being judged or rejected? Do you know how to lead powerfully with authenticity in the dating world? Are you turned off (and secretly fascinated) by the pick-up artist world? In this episode, my guests, Joshua Hathaway and Robert Schwenkler, and I, mine these questions and more ... Read more

44. Why You Must Do The One Thing (You Love) Every Day

Wed, 19 Feb 2020 01:56:24 +0000

What is the one thing you know you should be doing everyday to ensure you have an epic day? Are you regularly doing it? If not, why not? … Are you aware of the cost? In this episode, inspired by a conversation I had just last night, I’m gonna share with you both my triumphs ... Read more

43. Where Do We Go From Here

Tue, 24 Dec 2019 05:55:58 +0000

In this episode I share with you how 2019 was for this podcast, including specific download numbers and insights, and also 4 powerful lessons I learned doing this. Also, given it’s the end of 2019, I share my Life Theme Mantra process and invite you to create your own for 2020 (see video below – ... Read more

42. Stop This Tragic Cycle (Ruining Your Relationship)

Fri, 06 Dec 2019 23:25:30 +0000

Ever been stuck in a relationship cycle of disagreement, arguing, then breakdown? Do you dismiss feelings – yours or another’s – as invalid when they don’t make sense to you? Do you ache for more harmony and ease in intimate relationship? In this episode I dive into my popular blog: Stop This Tragic Cycle In ... Read more

41. 5 Signs A Man Is Connected to Heart

Wed, 27 Nov 2019 21:25:47 +0000

Why is it important for a man to learn how to connect to his heart? What does it really look like when a man is connected to his heart? How can a man connect to heart without disconnecting from his balls? In this episode, I dive into those questions by diving into one of my ... Read more

40. There Are No Evil Atoms w/ Leigh McCloskey

Mon, 18 Nov 2019 20:30:07 +0000

Have you considered whether the daily questions you live in are sourced in fear? Or in wonder? Do you regularly spend time with what truly matters to you? Where do you go when you can’t run away (from your challenges) anymore? This is one of my favorite conversations I’ve ever had with another human being. ... Read more

39. Learn to Shift Your Mindset (Fastest Way to Change Your Life)

Mon, 11 Nov 2019 23:37:21 +0000

Are you sure it’s your circumstances holding you back? Are you sure you don’t have everything you want because of too many things outside your control? Could it be that your mindset has far more affect on your life than your circumstances? Could it be that simply changing your mindset, can change your life profoundly? ... Read more

38. Fix Less, Feel More (You’ll Feel Better) w/ Joshua Wenner

Sat, 28 Sep 2019 18:13:03 +0000

Do you ever feel emotionally … stuck? Ever say (think) you’re over something when you’re just not? Could so many of your so-called “problems” actually resolve themselves if you could just BE with your feelings? (hint: yes) I love what Joshua Wenner is up to in the world, in particular his work to help men ... Read more

37. Stop Seeking Success (Let It Find You, Instead) w/ Sam Ryter

Thu, 19 Sep 2019 21:07:10 +0000

Are you “trying too hard” to succeed … Could that be getting in the way of success? What if “letting go” was the fastest way to the success you dream of? Could the same hold true for relationship success? Sam Ryter is actually a former coaching client of mine. We worked together in the first ... Read more

36. The Master Does Nothing (Yet Leaves Nothing Undone)

Sat, 14 Sep 2019 19:54:16 +0000

Does life sometimes seem like an unending sequence of frustrations and disappointments? Do you ever feel like “I’m damned if I do, damned if I don’t!” (especially in relationship)? Is it possible that living masterfully actually takes LESS effort than you currently exert? In this episode, we explore LIVING PARADOX: Can you be honest AND ... Read more

35. The Profound Gifts of Heartbreak & Illness w/ Adam Piandes

Thu, 05 Sep 2019 22:19:13 +0000

What are your addictions helping you avoid? Can illness – and heartbreak – be the best gift for you? Do you (ever) make an intimate partner responsible for your pain? Adam Piandes is a dear friend of mine. He and I first met back in 2014 on a 3-hour road trip up the pacific coast ... Read more

34. (Pt 2) A More Beautiful World w/ Charles Eisenstein

Wed, 28 Aug 2019 09:00:16 +0000

Are you ever discouraged by your limited impact on the world? Do you struggle to find purpose, or perhaps you have purpose yet struggle to balance that and being present with your loved ones? Are you even connected to what you really care about? This is part 2 of my conversation with Charles Eisenstein (Part ... Read more

33. (Pt 1) A More Beautiful World w/ Charles Eisenstein

Wed, 21 Aug 2019 09:00:48 +0000

You know those people you don’t like … do you really know what it’s like to be them? Do you see yourself as alone in the world, or part of a greater whole? Did you know the current political climate – which has you either upset or checked out – can be liberating for you? ... Read more

32. It Hurts To Live Your Purpose (It Hurts More NOT To!)

Thu, 08 Aug 2019 03:19:18 +0000

Are you struggling to figure out your purpose? Maybe you’re clear on your purpose, but it’s often a struggle to fully live it? Do you fear intimate relationship could get in the way of fulfilling on your purpose? A few days ago, a man wrote these words to me: Hey Bryan Recently became aware of ... Read more

31. How to Make Meditation (and Isolation) Actually Work For You w/ Shinzen Young

Wed, 31 Jul 2019 19:58:59 +0000

Can you learn to be happy no matter your external conditions? How does meditation, or simple mindfulness, play a big role in that? Don’t see any benefit when you meditate? (try the technique in this episode) Shinzen Young is the author of the groundbreaking book, The Science of Enlightenment. This episode will appeal more to ... Read more

30. Why Men Can’t Be Friends With Women They’re Attracted To (And Some Can)

Sat, 27 Jul 2019 02:00:24 +0000

Can a man be genuine friends with a woman he’s attracted to? Can you ignore, or transmute, the pull of sexual polarity when it would otherwise threaten your relationship … or simply your peace of mind? Can a relationship survive (even thrive?) when opposite sex friends are in the picture? In this episode, I explore ... Read more

29. How Avoiding Honesty (in Love) Ruins Pleasure & Connection w/ Ian Ferguson

Wed, 10 Jul 2019 12:05:21 +0000

Do you genuinely value open communication in relationship, particularly around sex and attractions? Or, like most people, are there some things you really don’t want to hear? Do you get why knowing the difference between the stories your brain tells you, and the sensations your body tells you, is essential for living (and loving) well? ... Read more

28. Is Monogamy (Really) Natural? w/ Robert Kandell

Sat, 06 Jul 2019 23:59:55 +0000

Are you still attracted to others when you’re in a relationship? Do you think non-monogamy might be easier, or more fulfilling, or just more … natural? Are you being honest with your partner – or yourself – about your deepest sexual desires? (and should you be?) This is an epic episode. Robert is a wise ... Read more

27. Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her)

Fri, 28 Jun 2019 07:01:18 +0000

Why is intimate relationship uniquely so challenging? Do you still think relationship should just be easy, and flow effortlessly? What does it actually look like to choose (or reject) your intimate partner everyday? In this episode, I dive into my blog, Choose Her Everyday (or Leave Her), the blog that back in 2015 changed everything ... Read more

26. A Man Divided Causes Stress in His Partner

Wed, 19 Jun 2019 12:00:43 +0000

Have you ever felt divided about being in a relationship? Does your partner seem to feel divided about … you, or your relationship? Would you choose to succeed at your mission, your career, your purpose in life … over succeeding in relationship? In this episode, I dive into one of my recent popular blogs, A ... Read more

25. Bridging (Painful) Cultural Divides w/ Tarek Mounib #FreeTripToEgypt

Fri, 14 Jun 2019 18:59:17 +0000

Are you concerned (frightened, pissed) about the state of the world politic today? Have you given up hope that we can all just get along? Have you been to Egypt, or thought about going … or wouldn’t now dare go now?! In this episode, my guest is Tarak Mounib, whose courageous new film, Free Trip ... Read more

24. Reclaiming Your (Primal) Masculinity w/ Eivind Skjellum

Wed, 05 Jun 2019 22:49:16 +0000

Do you feel disconnected from your father, grandfather(s) … from Life? Do you feel disconnected from your wild nature? Do you yearn for a deeper connection … to yourself? I really enjoyed this conversation with Eivind Figenschau Skjellum of Norway. His company, Reclaim Your Inner Throne, a rich expression of men’s work that, among other ... Read more

23. Why Men Use Sex (Porn) to Avoid Pain w/ Mark Groves

Wed, 29 May 2019 17:57:09 +0000

Are you leaking sexual energy all over the place, at the store, gym, work, online? Could you be using sex or porn to avoid shame, or avoid intimacy, or live up to some outdated model of a man? Could you be using orgasm to self-soothe because you rarely received emotional soothing as a child? Mark Groves ... Read more

22. Comparison is the Thief of Joy w/ Quddus Phillippe

Wed, 22 May 2019 20:03:11 +0000

Are you still pursuing success, recognition, or just more likes on your posts ‘cause you think it’ll make you happy? Do you compare your success to others … and come up short? Do you hide your vulnerability and authenticity – or overuse it? – to sell yourself (your brand)? “If Oprah and Ryan Seacrest had ... Read more

21. Are You Living True Path ... or False Path? w/ Jeff Brown

Wed, 15 May 2019 18:40:27 +0000

Are you living just to survive … or to fulfill your soul’s purpose? What’s the cost of not living your soul’s purpose? How can you even know if you’re living your soul’s path? How do you navigate the need to pay the bills (or show up for your loved ones) … AND the drive to ... Read more

20. The Courage It Takes to Live Your Truth w/ Kute Blackson

Wed, 08 May 2019 22:39:27 +0000

Are you (still) afraid of the consequences of fully living your truth? Are you (still) living in your father’s shadow? Are you aware your partner can’t trust you when you don’t own your truth (even if your truth is inconvenient to them)? Kute Blackson is a lightning rod for truth and inspiration. Kute grew up ... Read more

19. Why My Girlfriend Was Always Angry With Me

Wed, 01 May 2019 20:43:25 +0000

Have you ever had an intimate partner be routinely upset (with you), and you (mostly) had no clue why? How do your triggers from previous relationships show up in a new relationship, too? How can your childhood experience – even if you had great parents – still negatively affect your adult relationships? This episode of ... Read more

18. How to Stop Feeling Burdened By Life

Thu, 25 Apr 2019 00:48:05 +0000

Do you ever (often) feel trapped, or burdened by life – your work, relationship, kids, parents, your bank account, your body, or just your circumstances, in general? Do you often experience resistance to the life you’re right now living? (or just what’s happening at the moment … like you just want it to go away!) ... Read more

17. Apologizing For Our Masculinity is Not What Makes Women (Or Anyone) Feel Safe w/ Mark Grainger

Wed, 17 Apr 2019 18:27:20 +0000

Are you a man disconnected from your power? How can you be your full, wildly masculine self without apology (and without hurting anyone)? Are you committed to going all in on your dreams … or are you half-assing it? Mark Grainger is actually one of my coaches (yes, I have multiple!). A few years ago, ... Read more

16. How Men Can Overcome Resistance to Getting Support (and Why We Must!) w/ Connor Beaton

Wed, 10 Apr 2019 08:29:11 +0000

Why do men often seem to resist support (therapy/coaching/asking for directions)? Why is getting support essential for a great life and great relationships? What can help a man overcome his resistance to getting support? In this episode, my guest Connor Beaton and I dive into this conversation about men and support … why we need ... Read more

15. Why You Suck at Intimacy (and How To Do It Better) w/ Zat Baraka

Wed, 03 Apr 2019 19:32:36 +0000

Do you struggle to be genuinely vulnerable? Did you know intimacy with self is required for true intimacy with others? What’s the connection between self-awareness and life (love) mastery? Zat Baraka is a dear friend of mine. I first met him about 9 years ago in Los Angeles before he was a renowned men’s coach. ... Read more

14. Your Loyalty To Truth Can Hurt You w/ Jesse Elder

Wed, 27 Mar 2019 16:50:08 +0000

Do you get angry over small things? Can you instantly change your thoughts to be more empowered? Does loyalty to some idealogy or “truth” get in the way of what’s actually useful for your life? Jesse Elder is a fascinating man. His inspired, and improvised, mind-vitamin wisdom videos have been viewed by over 60 million ... Read more

13. Whatever You Accomplish, It Will Never Be Enough w/ John Raatz (Global Alliance for Transformational Entertainment)

Wed, 20 Mar 2019 00:57:44 +0000

What is your relationship to fear? Is there a way to overcome fear to help you make better decisions? How do you know what to say yes to, or no to, in a WORLD full of distractions and demands? John Raatz is one of the most fascinating people I’ve ever met. We first connected in ... Read more

12. Why You Need Mentors w/ Satyen Raja

Wed, 13 Mar 2019 05:36:31 +0000

Why are teachers/mentors ESSENTIAL for a man to live well? Why must a great leader first know how to be a wise follower? And is the secret to a great relationship … separate bedrooms? In this episode, my guest, Satyen Raja, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights that can make a ... Read more

11. Living at the Edge of Your Truth w/ Mark Groves

Wed, 06 Mar 2019 19:06:11 +0000

Are you doing work every day of your life that you’re not aligned with? Are you having the uncomfortable conversations you need to be having with the people you love? Do you know how to love without losing yourself? I first met Mark Groves about 7 or 8 years ago in Los Angeles through a ... Read more

10. The Power of Allowing w/ Ash Ruiz

Wed, 27 Feb 2019 08:06:37 +0000

Does “inner freedom” seem to elude you, always just outside your reach no matter what you do? Did you know the worst thing that can happen to you is just a thought? Did you know all that clarity you seek … you already have? Ash Ruiz is a fascinating human being. As a teenager, he ... Read more

9. The Emotionally Unavailable Man w/ Jayson Gaddis

Wed, 20 Feb 2019 17:28:46 +0000

Do you know what “emotionally unavailable” actually means? Do you know why it’s so destructive to intimacy – and a man’s life, in general? Do you know how easy it is for a man to say – even believe! – he’s both feet into a relationship with only one foot actually in? If you’ve never ... Read more

8. How to Shift from Anger to Love w/ Preston Smiles

Wed, 13 Feb 2019 06:08:52 +0000

What is this thing called LOVE … really all about? How do you know when you’re being genuinely loving … versus just being an arrogant self-righteous ass? Also, do men, CAN men, actually have NEEDS in a relationship? If so, why do we so often fail to own them? In the last few years, Preston ... Read more

7. Why Uncomfortable Conversations Will Enrich Your Life w/ Connor Beaton, Mantalks Founder

Wed, 06 Feb 2019 17:48:51 +0000

Why is it important for a man to be open and honest about his personal challenges, what he’s really going through in his work, his relationships, his life … especially with other men? When we hide what we’re going through behind a facade of invulnerability, what’s the cost to our lives, our intimate relationships, our ... Read more

6. Relaxing into (True) Freedom w/ GuruViking aka Steve James

Wed, 30 Jan 2019 17:04:54 +0000

What is the actual point (and benefit) of meditation? Are intimate relationships always going to feel burdensome? How can we men ever experience true freedom amidst life’s endless challenges? Steve James is a wise man. I’ve known Steve personally for a few years. He’s been my teacher, my coach, and as a man I just ... Read more

5. Being a True Leader Means Being Able to Shut Up and Listen (Especially in Intimacy) w/ Joshua Hathaway

Wed, 23 Jan 2019 09:45:37 +0000

Do you communicate clearly with your partner? … Are you sure? Do you even know what your partner is asking for, when they’re asking you to listen? Do you know what TRUE MASCULINE LEADERSHIP is? I first experienced Joshua Hathaway one evening in Los Angeles when he was leading a workshop for men. I remember ... Read more

4. Stop Chasing Success (Money) Have Fun Instead w/ Mindvalley's Ajit Nawalkha

Wed, 16 Jan 2019 17:50:20 +0000

Are you stuck in work overwhelm, living to work rather than working to simply enjoy life? Do you know how to stay true to yourself and STILL create a fulfilling intimate relationship? Are you aware how you need an encouraging support crew of men you can be vulnerable with … for the sake of your ... Read more

3. How Death Opens the Masculine Heart w/ John Wineland

Wed, 09 Jan 2019 19:07:56 +0000

Are you still afraid of death? Did you know that emotional presence … that thing women often cite as the reason they don’t trust men … is something you can relax into? And are you aware you can play a significant role in helping your partner heal past traumas? This conversation with John Wineland was ... Read more

2. Why Commitment Never Works (Only Devotion Does) w/ Mikki Willis

Fri, 04 Jan 2019 22:56:53 +0000

What’s the difference between commitment and DEVOTION in relationship? What should a man be teaching his children in today’s chaotic, confusing, rapidly changing world? What do you do when you keep trying and pushing to solve an important problem … yet it just won’t budge?

1. There's No One Left To Show Us

Mon, 24 Dec 2018 07:20:50 +0000

In the very last scene of the recent movie epic, Wind River, two men played by actors Jeremy Renner and Gil Birmingham share a brief conversation that pierced me to my core. In this chilling murder-mystery thriller set on a snowy American Indian reservation in Wyoming, Gil’s character is a native american man named, Martin, ... Read more