Dear Mattsons with Jeff and Terra

How to avoid over committing and say No

Mon, 17 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +0000

Saying no is hard and mom guilt is real, but we were not made to do everything. Join us as we talk through setting up a support system, language to use when you are put on the spot, and choosing what to commit to.

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Is doing it all what God asked you to do?: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/is-doing-it-all-what-god-asked-you-to-do/
Learning to be in the no: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/learning-to-be-in-the-no/
Pleasing God, not people: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/pleasing-god-not-people/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

What to do when your adult child is in an unhealthy relationship

Mon, 10 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +0000

Watching your child be mistreated is heartbreaking at any age, and we are here to walk this journey with you. Join us as we discuss how to ask healthy questions, listen, and try to understand why your adult child is choosing an unhealthy relationship.

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How do I tell my adult daughter I don’t like her boyfriend: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vyAhGBAmrDQ&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=25
Learning to trust God with your adult children: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/learning-to-trust-god-with-your-adult-children/
Dr. Michelle Watson: https://www.drmichellewatson.com/blog

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Encouraging my child to eat healthy and exercise without making it about appearance

Mon, 03 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +0000

What do you do if your teen is eating unhealthy, not exercising and gaining a lot of weight? Join us as we talk through how to engage your teen, find a fun way to incorporate exercise into the day, and encourage healthing eating without negatively impacting your child’s self esteem.

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How to help our kids fight body shame: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZQSWagXi_s&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=35&t=13s
Three ways to model a healthy body image for your daughter: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/three-ways-to-model-a-healthy-body-image-for-your-daughter/
Teaching our kids how to view food: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/teaching-our-kids-how-to-view-food/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

How to teach manners and raise a gentleman

Mon, 26 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +0000

Teaching manners is always a challenge, but when one parent doesn’t model the behaviors you are trying to encourage in your child, it is extra challenging. Join us as we talk through tips on teaching your son to be a gentleman and discussions to have with your spouse to parent as a team.

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Three character qualities that set your kids up for success: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/3-character-qualities-that-set-your-kids-up-for-success/
What your son needs most from you now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SSq6U2c_AFM&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=20&t=24s
Manners Matter: https://www.christianparenting.org/podcasts-post/manners-matter/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

What to do when your child is NOT a morning person

Mon, 19 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +0000

What do you do when your child has a hard time getting up in the morning and their attitude affects the whole family? Join us as we talk through strategies to set up a calm morning routine, conversations to have the night before, and how to rewire the brain to look forward to getting up in the morning.

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Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/
How do I help my kids with big emotions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LFjLYA0c-8&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=3&t=9s
Raising grateful kids: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/raising-grateful-kids-three-ways-to-practice-gratitude/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

How do I help my shy child engage with others?

Mon, 12 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +0000

Shy and introverted children are wired to need more information and tend to be more cautious in new situations. We will encourage you to practice and talk through social situations at home, learn what introverts need and speak life into your child and their wiring.

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How do I get my introverted child to communicate with me?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h95dVDrs2GQ&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=48
Helping our kids overcome fear: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UfMN78Huyc&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=40
How to guide your family through life’s hard things: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-guide-your-family-through-lifes-hard-things/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Parenting a perfectionist

Mon, 05 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +0000

Teaching your children to understand their design and wiring will help set them up for success in life. In this episode we will talk through the language to use when parenting a perfectionist, physical outlets when frustration sets in and how to help your child have a kingdom mindset.

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How do I help my kids with big emotions?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LFjLYA0c-8&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=3&t=71s
How to ease the press for perfection in your parenting: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-ease-the-press-for-perfection-in-your-parenting/
Parenting overwhelmed children: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/parenting-overwhelmed-children-using-gods-story-to-help-navigate-big-emotions/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Help! My kids fight all of the time.

Mon, 29 May 2023 05:00:00 +0000

Managing sibling rivalry can be exhausting, but teaching your kids to fight well will set them up for success as adults. Join us as we talk through tips to help your children cool down and teach true reconciliation.

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Stop the sibling rivalry: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ma_5W99C3uA&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=27
Sibling Rivalry: How to survive daily conflict: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/sibling-rivalry-how-to-to-survive-daily-conflict/
Teaching your kids to fight well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pg6bC_ObwPE&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=24

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

How do I let my kids know I value them as individuals?

Mon, 22 May 2023 05:00:00 +0000

When you have multiple kids, it can be easy to find yourself comparing them to their siblings. Join us as we encourage you to share with your child their unique contributions to the family, ask the Lord who he made each of your children to be and lean on each family member's strengths.

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Trusting God’s plan for my kids: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fbTyoz-_X9E&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=7&t=1s
Helping our children love each other well: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-our-children-love-each-other-well/
Running into grace: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/running-into-grace/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Help! Homework is a constant battle in our home.

Mon, 15 May 2023 05:00:00 +0000

Homework can be a frustrating battle where both you and your child end up in tears. Join us as we talk through ideas to set up a homework routine, fight negative self-talk and stay engaged with your child and teachers.

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Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/
Five things to remember as your kids start school: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/five-things-to-remember-as-your-kids-start-school/
10 truths middle schoolers should know: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/10-truths-middle-schoolers-should-know/

How to navigate dating as a divorced parent

Mon, 08 May 2023 05:00:00 +0000

When it comes to introducing new boyfriends/girlfriends into your kids' lives, the key is to take it slow and listen to your kids. We will encourage you to have open conversations with your kids, honor their pacing and be careful about infusing your lives too quickly.

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How do I help my kids deal with divorce: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bet0-1rmNas&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=52&t=29s
Helping your kids with the home is splintered: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-your-kids-when-the-home-is-splintered/
Guiding my girls as a solo mom: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/guiding-my-girls-as-a-solo-mom/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

How do we encourage our parenting practices with grandparents?

Mon, 01 May 2023 06:15:00 +0000

Grandparents are a huge blessing to our children, but sometimes they use different discipline techniques and methods.

Join us as we talk through how to have hard conversations with parents and in-laws, the importance of affirming their love and contribution, and when it is time to set boundaries.

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Which battles are worth fighting with a preschooler?

Mon, 10 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +0000

When it comes to preschoolers, you have to pick and choose which battles are worth fighting. Join us as we give you tips on how to step out of power struggles and give your preschooler choices.

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Help! I am always saying no to my toddler: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_zYBI0w5Bs&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=19&t=12s
Pointing your preschooler to Jesus: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/pointing-your-preschooler-to-jesus/
Discipling and sowing seeds of faith with toddlers: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/discipling-and-sowing-seeds-of-faith-with-toddlers/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Should we pay our kids for household chores?

Mon, 03 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +0000

When it comes to allowance and chores, we think it is all about balance. There are some things you do because you are part of the family and some things you get paid for. Join us as we give you ideas and tips for finding the balance in your home.

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Generosity starts in the home: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/generosity-starts-in-the-home/
Teaching kids to be smart with money: https://www.christianparenting.org/podcasts-post/teaching-kids-to-be-smart-with-money/

How do I encourage my child to stay in their own bed at night?

Mon, 27 Mar 2023 05:00:00 +0000

Some children experience more worry and fear than others and creating a daytime plan is the first step to help your child overcome their fears and stay in bed. Join us as we talk through how to set up a comforting bedroom environment and reward system and remind you that consistency is the key.

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Helping our kids overcome fear: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UfMN78Huyc&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=40
Making a toolbox for anxiety: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/making-a-toolbox-for-anxiety/
How to help your child navigate anxiety: https://www.christianparenting.org/podcasts-post/how-to-help-your-child-navigate-anxiety/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

What do you do if your child walks away from God?

Mon, 20 Mar 2023 05:00:00 +0000

It is heartbreaking when your child chooses to walk away from God, but remember you are parenting the long game. Join us as we encourage you to ask clarifying and curious questions, stay engaged and walk you through the steps to practice effective listening.

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Help! What do I do when my child is not attending church: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUGMCNxueX0&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=16&t=1s
Return to sender: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/return-to-sender/
Raise your children to be independent: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/raise-your-children-to-be-independent-its-ok-if-its-hard/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

How do you handle potty talk with little boys?

Mon, 13 Mar 2023 05:00:00 +0000

Potty talk with little boys is a very normal thing. As parents we need to communicate when and if that type of humor is appropriate. Join us as we walk through the ACT model to help curb unwanted behaviors in a positive loving way.

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How do you balance discipline and grace in parenting?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMSG9xPfVNU&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=46
Raising boys with boundaries and freedoms: https://www.christianparenting.org/podcasts-post/raising-boys-with-boundaries-and-freedoms/
How to avoid power struggles with your children: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-avoid-power-struggles-with-your-children/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Should I bend on our kids' technology rules when friends come over?

Mon, 06 Mar 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Kids are craving real connection and parents that will set some boundaries. How do we know when to enforce the rules and when it’s ok to bend them because friends are over? Join us as we discuss technology and teens and give you tips for creating a fun, compelling environment that will help teens put their phones down and connect face to face.

Check out these similar resources:

Helping your son navigate the digital age: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-your-son-navigate-the-digital-age/

My kid is addicted to their phone, help!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zaNDBkwVy58&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=4

What age should I let my child have social media?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5tKuBeCXD24&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=40

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

What to do when your child is a picky eater

Mon, 27 Feb 2023 06:00:00 +0000

There are many reasons a child might be a picky eater. Join us as we give you tips and tricks to make mealtime less of a battle. In this video, we talk through setting boundaries at mealtime, inviting your kids into the meal prep process and picking and choosing what battles are worth engaging in.

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How to avoid power struggles with your children: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-avoid-power-struggles-with-your-children/
Help! I am always saying no to my toddler: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_zYBI0w5Bs&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=19&t=8s
Three reasons your kid might be treating you disrespectfully: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/three-reasons-your-kid-might-be-treating-you-disrespectfully/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Help! My college kid is partying a lot

Mon, 20 Feb 2023 06:00:00 +0000

College is a carefree wonderful time. Sometimes partying can become the thing to do, but it may be masking real life issues. Keep pursuing your college child and don’t be afraid to let them know that you care and are worried. Join us as we give you some ideas on how to connect with your child at this stage of their life.

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A word to parents of college-bound kids: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/counting-the-days-a-word-to-parents-of-college-bound-kids/
Parenting 2.0 - The empty nest stage: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvDCkuT2qtw&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=21&t=1s
The faith of your grown children: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/independent-dependents-the-faith-of-your-grown-children/

How do I help my kids deal with divorce?

Mon, 13 Feb 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Divorce is hard, and having a support system for you and your child is so important. Join us as we talk through ways to help your children process grief, the importance of keeping routines consistent and how to guard against meeting your own needs through your children.

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Helping your kids when the home is splintered: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-your-kids-when-the-home-is-splintered/
Seven ways children react to grief: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/seven-ways-children-react-to-grief/
Our kids are struggling too: https://w ww.christianparenting.org/articles/our-kids-are-struggling-too-heres-how-to-help-them/

Dear Mattsons is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

As a single mom, how do I talk to my son about puberty and sex?

Mon, 06 Feb 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Discussing puberty and sex is a nerve racking conversation for every parent but having those conversations as a single mom presents its own unique challenges. Join us as we remind you that talking openly with your son about sexuality and the body takes shame out of the picture. It is great to pull a dad or male figure into the conversation if one is available, but don’t be afraid to engage your son just because you are a mom.

Check out these similar resources:

When should I start talking to my kids about sex?: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/when-should-i-start-talking-to-my-kids-about-sex/
How do I talk to my child about sex? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nfNaE1jLpKU&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=11&t=102s
Good Pictures Bad Pictures: https://www.amazon.com/Good-Pictures-Bad-Porn-Proofing-Todays/dp/0997318732/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3L7B34EBRSHO5&keywords=Good+Pictures+Bad+pictures&qid=1674590594&sprefix=good+pictures+bad+pictur%2Caps%2C492&sr=8-1

How do I teach my child to be thankful and not entitled?

Mon, 28 Nov 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Don’t just talk about being thankful, teach your children how to serve others. Join us as we talk though ideas on how you can teach your kids to use the gifts that God has given them to serve others in your community. The experience of serving others helps curb entitlement.

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Teaching kids to love their neighbor: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/teaching-kids-to-love-their-neighbor/

Raising generous kids who see others: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xjaemZ9tcMk
Raising grateful kids: Three ways to practice gratitude https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/raising-grateful-kids-three-ways-to-practice-gratitude/

How do I get my introverted child to communicate with me?

Mon, 21 Nov 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Introverts need more time and space to articulate their feelings. They enjoy the quiet spaces of the world, and if we want to connect with our introverts, we need to join them in those spaces. We will encourage you to figure out what your child is into, be curious, and join them in their passions. And remember silence is ok.

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How to thrive as the parent of a sensitive teenager: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-thrive-as-the-parent-of-a-sensitive-teenager/
How fifteen minutes could save your relationship with your teen: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-fifteen-minutes-could-save-your-relationship-with-your-teen/
Hope for introverted moms: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/hope-for-introverted-moms/

How do I explain same sex families to my young child?

Mon, 14 Nov 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Keep it simple and point your child towards God’s Word and his design for families when these questions arise. We will encourage you to continue to talk about God’s love, how we can love and serve families that are different from us and how to point your children to what we are for as opposed to what we are against as Chrisitans.

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How do I explain homosexuality to my kids?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V_-6OKLvjms&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=21&t=1s
How to tackle tough topics with your kids: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-tackle-tough-topics-with-your-kids/
The Jesus Storybook Bible: https://www.amazon.com/Jesus-Storybook-Bible-Every-Whispers/dp/0310708257/ref=sr_1_4?crid=1VX3UU31PVC6J&keywords=story+book+bible&qid=1663599562&sprefix=story+book+bible%2Caps%2C277&sr=8-4

How do you balance discipline and grace in parenting?

Mon, 07 Nov 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Grace and discipline are not exclusive of each other and parenting requires both. Rules without relationship breeds rebellion and on the flip side relationship without rules leads to entitlement. Join us as we talk through how to find a balance between discipline and grace in parenting.

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Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/
Parenting teens: Grace or consequences?: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/parenting-teens-grace-or-consequences/
Modeling and teaching love: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/modeling-and-teaching-love-it-starts-with-christ/

What to do if your child gets caught cheating

Mon, 31 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +0000

What do you do if your child gets caught cheating at school? It is important to get to the root of why your child cheated and determine an appropriate consequence. Join us as we discuss the three things you need to address if your child cheats.

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When your child has a character misstep: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a4bAqKQW9A0&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=5&t=10s
3 character qualities that set your child up for success: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/3-character-qualities-that-set-your-kids-up-for-success/
Helping your child with lying: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-your-child-with-lying/

What to do when your preschooler is touching themself

Mon, 24 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Children begin to discover and learn the differences between boys and girls between the ages of 2 and 4. It is very normal for them to be curious about their bodies. We will guide you through how to help your children understand what their bodies are for, their design and healthy coping mechanisms.

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Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/
When should I start talking to my kids about sex?: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/when-should-i-start-talking-to-my-kids-about-sex/
Tough conversations with our kids: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OCxbgR0Tp8o&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRPOxygemmbhhIOCD67AvSx&index=11&t=6s
Teaching kids about boundaries: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/teaching-kids-about-boundaries/

What do you do when your child lies?

Mon, 17 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Children lie for a variety of reasons, and it is important to get to the root of lying. Affirm your love for your child, so that they know their actions do not affect your love for them. Join us as we talk through ways to encourage your child to tell the truth, what to do when you catch them in a lie and the importance of setting a good example in truth telling.

Check out these similar resources:

Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/
Helping your child with lying: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-your-child-with-lying/
When your child has a character misstep: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/when-your-child-has-a-character-misstep/
Children are complex: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/children-are-complex/

Help! My husband is the fun parent and I do all of the disciplining

Mon, 10 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Children need to see parents as a team with both participating in the discipline and fun. Join us as we talk through how to encourage your spouse, affirm each other in parenting and explain the “why” behind joint discipline.

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Prioritize your marriage over your parenting: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/why-you-should-prioritize-your-marriage-over-your-parenting/
Parenting from a healthy marriage with Jamie and Aaron Ivey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZonZdGSYxkA

How to model God’s design for marriage: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-model-gods-design-for-marriage

How can I get my kids to listen without yelling?

Mon, 03 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Yelling works in the short term, but eventually children will ignore the yelling. It is ok to take a parent time-out and calm yourself before you respond to a situation. Join us as we talk through the ACT method and encourage you to acknowledge your child’s emotion, communicate a limit, and target an alternative.

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How do I keep from losing my temper and yelling at my children?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6I_X4SKQUI&t=4s
Visuals over verbals: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/visuals-over-verbals/
5 ways to be a better parent and not repeat your parent’s mistakes: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/5-ways-to-be-a-better-parent-and-not-repeat-your-parents-mistakes/

How to deal with teens talking back

Mon, 26 Sep 2022 05:00:00 +0000

The teenage years are a developmental stage that require a lot of patience and grace. But, we do not want to normalize or tolerate that teens talk back to their parents. You are helping your children develop a life skill and how we talk to each other is important. Join us as we give you tips on how to react when your tween or teens talk back.

Check out these similar resources:

Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/
Practical help for parents raising teens: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/practical-help-for-parents-raising-teens/
How to avoid power struggles with your children: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/how-to-avoid-power-struggles-with-your-children/
Decide to discipline: Tweens and teens: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/decide-discipline-tweens-teens/

How do I get my child to listen?

Mon, 19 Sep 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Being consistent and following through on what you say are so important in parenting. They are the keys to building trust and help children feel safe. Join us as we give you practical tips to get your child’s attention and let them know you mean what you say.

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Help! I am always saying “No” to my toddler: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_zYBI0w5Bs&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=19&t=5s
Raising rule benders, breakers and believers: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/raising-rule-benders-breakers-and-believers/
Raising boys with boundaries and freedoms: https://www.christianparenting.org/podcasts-post/raising-boys-with-boundaries-and-freedoms/

What age should I let my child have social media?

Mon, 12 Sep 2022 05:00:00 +0000

There is really not a compelling reason for our kids to have social media. The data is clear and there is a direct correlation to all of the mental health issues kids are struggling with and social media. Join us as we talk through why it is important to regulate the overwhelming pressures our kids are facing today by delaying social media as long as possible.

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Social media, screens, and the overindulgence of information: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/social-media-screens-and-the-overindulgence-of-information/
What if you kids already have screens, and you’re having second thoughts?: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/what-if-your-kids-already-have-screens-and-youre-having-second-thoughts/
Helping your son navigate the digital age: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/helping-your-son-navigate-the-digital-age/

Talking about gender pronouns and sexuality with our kids

Mon, 05 Sep 2022 05:00:00 +0000

How do we address gender pronouns and sexuality with our kids? As professionals in leadership and therapy we have been processing this with parents and kids for many years. We will encourage you to stay curious, research topics as questions arise and step into these conversations with your children. Your voice as the parent is the key factor in how your children will react to these issues, so remember to approach sensitive topics with truth, grace and gentleness.

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How to approach transgender topics with your teen: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_EPogLO-W4&list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l&index=24&t=26s
Embodied: Transgender Identities, The Church, and What the Bible Has to Say: https://www.amazon.com/Embodied-Transgender-Identities-Church-Bible/dp/0830781226
Helping moms raise confident daughters: https://www.cpguides.org/
Meet them with Jesus: Responding biblically to our kids’ problems: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/meet-them-with-jesus-responding-biblically-to-our-kids-problems/
Talking to your kids about dating and relationships: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/talking-with-your-kids-about-dating-and-relationships/

How do I help my children build lasting friendships?

Mon, 29 Aug 2022 05:00:00 +0000

God wired us all differently and some children just need a few friends and others prefer a large circle of friends. Join us as we talk through practical ideas to help your child build lasting friendships. We will also encourage you to affirm your child so that they feel known and seen and will in turn be better at engaging with others.

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Should I pull my kids out of school sex education?

Mon, 22 Aug 2022 05:00:00 +0000

As a parent, we want to equip our children and be the first voice they hear on topics like sexuality and gender. Join us as we talk through options when it comes to opting in or out of public school health curriculum and how to know if it’s too much too soon. We will encourage you to consider your children’s differences, what they may be vulnerable to and to know the curriculum being taught.

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How do I protect my kids from school bullies?

Mon, 15 Aug 2022 05:30:00 +0000

We want to protect our children from school bullies, but the reality is the greatest defense against bullies is building up our child’s confidence and sense of identity. Join us as we talk through how to coach your child to have healthy boundaries, ways to build their confidence and how to identify red, yellow and green light relationships.

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What to do if your child says “I hate you”

Mon, 01 Aug 2022 05:00:00 +0000

The most important thing to remember if your child says “I hate you” is not to react or take it personally. We all say things we don’t mean when we are tired, hungry or afraid, and we put these emotions on those we feel safest with. We will remind you to ask questions, not let your children’s behaviors dictate how you love them, and to get professional help if this is an ongoing issue.

How do I help my high school child plan for the future without putting too much stress on them?

Mon, 25 Jul 2022 05:00:00 +0000

God created your child and knows the plans he has for them. When we get our perspective as parents in check it helps lead our children in peace. It is important to remind our children to work hard and do their best, but who they are as a person is separate from what they do. We will remind you to frame this conversation as an adventure, remember that there are a lot of options besides college, and that ultimately we can’t mess up God’s plan.

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How do I set boundaries and discipline my toddler?

Mon, 18 Jul 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Two year olds are learning that they can do it themselves and build confidence apart from you. There is a balance between giving them freedom to learn cause and effect and disciplining. Join us as we talk through ideas on how to give your toddler choices that will help them feel independent while also setting boundaries.

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How do I help my child find their activity or sport?

Mon, 11 Jul 2022 05:00:00 +0000

We live in an achievement oriented culture and the pressure to know your expertise at an early age is an outside pressure. As a parent we want to help our children discover their passions, but remember it takes time to figure out what you are good at and what you enjoy. It is important to remind your child that we are not what we do. Join us as we talk through ideas to help your child find out how they are wired and what activities they may enjoy.

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Are sleepover parties safe?

Mon, 04 Jul 2022 05:00:00 +0000

You are the parent and need to discern what's best for you and your child, but we say no to sleepovers in our family. It’s about risk assessment, and we decided sleepovers are not worth the risk. A lot of experimentation and exposure occurs at sleepovers and just because a family says they love Jesus does not mean they are safe. Join us as we discuss “late overs” and ways your child can join in the fun without the risk of sleepovers.

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Help! My teen doesn’t like our church

Mon, 27 Jun 2022 05:00:00 +0000

It’s normal that teens begin to pull away from their family and are focused on their peer group, so what do you do when that impacts the church they want to attend? Join us as we walk you through steps to sit down and have an open conversation with your teen. We will encourage you to validate, empathize and help your child think critically about the reasons behind their desire for change and be prepared to compromise if appropriate.

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How to help your child navigate anxiety

Mon, 20 Jun 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Anxiety at all age levels is at an all time high. Children have not had the opportunity to navigate normal social situations the past few years, so they may be extra anxious when new situations arise. Join us as we walk through tips to prepare your children for new situations and what to do when anxiety arises.

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When friends turn parenting into a competition

Mon, 13 Jun 2022 14:41:58 +0000

It’s natural to do some comparing when you have children the same age, but it can quickly turn into a competition. Close friendships go through seasons, and it’s important to view conflict as an opportunity to grow closer and deepen true friendships. Join us as we talk about healthy ways to move through conflict.

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Stop the sibling rivalry

Mon, 09 May 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Join us as we discuss sibling rivalry and how to encourage our family members to intentionally affirm each other. We will walk you through practical ways to encourage your children to celebrate their siblings' gifts and achievements. Competition isn’t a bad thing, but sometimes we need to reframe it so that our children acknowledge and see others' gifts as well as their own.

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Help! My child whines all the time.

Mon, 02 May 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Whining is a form of manipulation and we need to teach our children a better way to communicate. Join us as we walk through 3 important communication skills your children need to learn to stop the whining. Teaching our kids healthy forms of communication is a life skill worth investing in.

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How do I tell my adult daughter that I don’t like her boyfriend?

Mon, 25 Apr 2022 05:00:00 +0000

As our children grow into adulthood, we have to lean into the investments we have made in them throughout their childhood. If you do not approve of the relationship choices your child is making, we will encourage you to express your concerns, give tangible reasons for your opinions, and open up the lines of communications. We will also remind you that sometimes it is appropriate to keep our opinions to ourselves and give the situation to God.

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Is time out an effective discipline method?

Mon, 18 Apr 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Time out is a great method to calm ourselves down, and it teaches children to self regulate their emotions. We will walk you through effective ways to use the time out and time in approach with your child and encourage you to use it as a parent when you need a break as well.

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How to approach transgender topics with your teen

Mon, 11 Apr 2022 05:00:00 +0000

What do you do if your child tells you they are transgender? As a professional counselor we have been processing this with parents and kids for many years. It’s ok to be sad and concerned, but don’t panic, this doesn’t surprise God. We will encourage you to get support, continue to pursue a relationship with your child and hold the tension of love and truth as you navigate this journey.

Links for Supplemental Resources:

https://www.centerforfaith.com/

How do I get my kids to help out with chores?

Mon, 04 Apr 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Having our kids help out around the house can seem like more work for us, but remember we are teaching skills that will benefit our kids into adulthood. Join us as we give you practical ideas to implement chores for your children and talk through ways to set your child up for long-term success.

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How do I explain homosexuality to my kids?

Mon, 28 Mar 2022 05:00:00 +0000

With media at our fingertips, most kids are exposed to sex and homosexuality from a young age. We need to have age appropriate, intentional conversations with our kids early so that we will be their trusted guide, and they will come to us with questions. Join us as we walk through how to discuss homosexuality with care and grace as we remind our children that everyone is worthy of dignity and respect and that we all need a Savior.

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Should I let my child connect with friends online?

Mon, 21 Mar 2022 13:02:09 +0000

Kids that are constantly on social media and video games are missing out on the face to face connections that are vital to our human development and long term life skills. Join us as we talk through how to pursue your child and learn about the games he is playing and the friends he is connecting with online. We will also discuss how to create options and experiences outside of the digital space to foster those face to face connections that our children need.

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Help! I am always saying “No” to my toddler.

Mon, 07 Mar 2022 06:00:00 +0000

The toddler and teen years are when kids push the limits, so it is normal to feel like you are constantly saying “No”. Join us as we walk through how to become a “Yes” parent by offering choices and consequences. We talk about when children are old enough to understand consequences, how to redirect younger toddlers and the correct language to use that will set your child up for success.

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How do I set boundaries with my parents and in-laws?

Mon, 28 Feb 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Grandparents are a huge blessing to our children, but sometimes they do not realize that we parent differently than how we were raised. We will walk you through three steps that will show you how to affirm grandparents contributions, while still setting boundaries.

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How do I encourage my daughter to dress modestly?

Mon, 21 Feb 2022 06:00:00 +0000

The way we dress informs the world a little bit about you. We want to take shame and legalism out of the modesty discussion and make sure that we do not put the pressure of others' purity on our daughters. Instead join us as we discuss how to encourage our daughters to dress in a way that will highlight who they are and not put the focus on their body.

Help! What do I do when my child is not attending church?

Mon, 14 Feb 2022 06:00:00 +0000

When you regularly attend church and make God a priority, it is extremely hard to watch your college child not make that same choice. College is when a lot of kids make their faith their own and live that out in different ways. We will encourage you to give your child room to breathe and make their own choices, but continue to pursue them as a person and stay connected. Grace takes the long view and this time away from church may just be a small part of their story.

What to do if my child is a bully

Mon, 07 Feb 2022 06:00:00 +0000

As a parent, we are on alert and try to protect our children from being bullied, but what happens when we realize our child is the bully? Remember insecurity is at the core of bullying and you need to discover why your child is acting out.

We will walk you through teaching your child to ask for forgiveness and how to work with the other parents as you build a safe community that encourages our children to repair relationships after they mess up.

How do I encourage my child when they don’t receive awards?

Mon, 31 Jan 2022 06:00:00 +0000

We live in a culture that focuses on achievement and grooms our children to desire recognition.

The scriptures are full of parables and ways that we can talk to our kids about how God sees us even when others don’t. Join us as we discuss how affirming our children’s gifts even those that are unseen is a powerful way to ease the pain and jealousy of lacking recognition and helps our kids celebrate others well.

How to deal with my child viewing porn

Sat, 29 Jan 2022 20:57:24 +0000

We live in a hyper-sexualized culture and the porn industry is out to create addicts. So what do we do if we discover our child has been viewing porn? Join us as we discuss how to turn toward your child and take shame out of the conversation. We will encourage you to take a proactive approach to discussing pornography with your child and remember that it is less about sex and more about connection and emotional intimacy.

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How to handle meltdowns in public

Mon, 17 Jan 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Help! What do I do when my toddler has a meltdown in public?

Join us as we walk through specific steps to make a plan to tame the tantrums. We will remind you to set reasonable expectations, set up a simple reward system and give lots of grace as we train our little ones.

How do I talk to my child about sex?

Mon, 10 Jan 2022 22:39:52 +0000

Sex can be an uncomfortable conversation to have with our kids, but we need to have these discussions early and often so that that our children have a healthy biblical view of sexuality. Join us as we talk through when and how to start the conversation. We will encourage you to have an ongoing open dialogue about sex so there is no added shame and our kids will feel safe to come to us with questions.

How do I build healthy self-esteem in my children?

Mon, 20 Dec 2021 06:00:00 +0000

How can we raise our children to have a healthy self-esteem and be confident in who God created them to be while still encouraging humility? If we expect perfection and are constantly correcting, this leads to insecurity. Instead, we will encourage you to notice and affirm who your kids are and the gifts that God has given them, so that they will not seek that affirmation elsewhere.

How can I encourage my kids to love people no matter their beliefs?

Mon, 13 Dec 2021 06:00:00 +0000

How do we shield and protect our kids while still encouraging them to have non-Christian friends? Teaching our kids to identify counterfeit by knowing what is real and studying God’s word is the best place to start. We will walk through three tips that will help us get out of our comfort zone while still holding true to our core values and beliefs.

How do I be consistent in discipline?

Mon, 06 Dec 2021 06:00:00 +0000

God gives us limits and guardrails because he loves us, and we need to do the same for our children. Rules without relationships breeds rebellion and relationships without rules breeds entitlement. Join us as we walk through how to find the balance between the two and become the parents God wants us to be.

How do I help my kids make their faith their own?

Mon, 29 Nov 2021 06:00:00 +0000

We take our children to church and read the Bible to them, but how do we help our kids develop real faith? Join us as we seek to recognize that God made each of our children uniquely in order to encourage them to experience God in their own way. Be open about your faith and talk about all that God is doing in your own life and your children will be encouraged to make their faith their own as well.

I want to be a good parent but I am exhausted all of the time

Mon, 22 Nov 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Raising kids is exhausting and balance is an illusion when parenting young children. The order of our priorities should be God, marriage, children, and when we get those out of order, life can feel overwhelming. Quality time with your children is important, but put your guilt aside and remember that your kids do not have to be constantly entertained.

How do I keep from losing my temper and yelling at my children?

Mon, 15 Nov 2021 06:00:00 +0000

The Mattsons give us practical steps for regulating our own emotions before we take them out on our children. When we inevitably mess up, they remind us that owning our responses and asking for forgiveness repairs relationships and models those skills to our children.

My kid is addicted to their phone, help!

Mon, 08 Nov 2021 06:00:00 +0000

More than ever, smartphones are a part of our children’s lives, but they can become addictive and cause more harm than good. What are some steps we can take to set parameters with technology as a family?

The Mattsons are in this technology battle with us and remind us that ground rules are important, but relationships and modeling are the most important thing when it comes to teaching our children how to use technology.

How do I help my kids with big emotions?

Tue, 02 Nov 2021 03:31:05 +0000

Parenting teens and the roller coaster of emotions that they experience can be difficult without the right tools to help them along their journey. The Mattsons show us how to stay calm and keep our children grounded when big emotions are on the rise. Join us as we learn to mirror emotions, create 5 calming strategies and parent our teens with grace during emotional times.

How young is too young for my kids to have a boyfriend or girlfriend?

Mon, 25 Oct 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Jeff and Terra kick off episode one of their new series by answering the question every parent wants to know...How young is too young for my kids to have a boyfriend or girlfriend? The Mattsons remind us that every child is different and they walk through questions to discuss with kids to help navigate the intimidating subject of dating. Join us as we forgo shame in our parenting and work to have open communication with our children, especially as we cross these big milestones.

Welcome to Dear Mattsons!

Fri, 15 Oct 2021 19:50:47 +0000

Parenting is one of the greatest leadership roles. And yet, most parents feel ill-equipped for its up and down challenges. There are no manuals or graduate schools for how to parent your unique child(ren) and at the end of the day, parenting can just feel a little too much like gambling. That’s why we are bringing you Jeff Mattson, MA Org.L and Terra Mattson, MA LPC, LMFT, a husband and wife team who are raising two daughters of their own in the great Northwest.

With 20 years of experience in marriage and family therapy, professional counseling, leadership development, and pastoral ministry, they bridge the gap between Biblical, clinica,l and relational wisdom.

Each week, the Mattsons will answer your BIG and small questions about raising kids in today’s anxious world. Nothing is off the table! Though God says he will never leave or forsake us, sometimes we just need a few friends to help us run our race well. Consider the Mattsons your personal parenting coaches, bringing you practical how-tos that will help you lead your children with greater integrity, always rooted in grace, and remind you each week that YOU are the right person for this job.

The Mattsons will be cheering you on every step of the way!

Dear Mattsons with Jeff and Terra

How to avoid over committing and say No

What to do when your adult child is in an unhealthy relationship

Encouraging my child to eat healthy and exercise without making it about appearance

How to teach manners and raise a gentleman

What to do when your child is NOT a morning person

How do I help my shy child engage with others?

Parenting a perfectionist

Help! My kids fight all of the time.

How do I let my kids know I value them as individuals?

Help! Homework is a constant battle in our home.

How to navigate dating as a divorced parent

How do we encourage our parenting practices with grandparents?

Which battles are worth fighting with a preschooler?

Should we pay our kids for household chores?

How do I encourage my child to stay in their own bed at night?

What do you do if your child walks away from God?

How do you handle potty talk with little boys?

Should I bend on our kids' technology rules when friends come over?

What to do when your child is a picky eater

Help! My college kid is partying a lot

How do I help my kids deal with divorce?

As a single mom, how do I talk to my son about puberty and sex?

How do I teach my child to be thankful and not entitled?

How do I get my introverted child to communicate with me?

How do I explain same sex families to my young child?

How do you balance discipline and grace in parenting?

What to do if your child gets caught cheating

What to do when your preschooler is touching themself

What do you do when your child lies?

Help! My husband is the fun parent and I do all of the disciplining

Parenting from a healthy marriage with Jamie and Aaron Ivey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZonZdGSYxkA

How can I get my kids to listen without yelling?

How to deal with teens talking back

How do I get my child to listen?

What age should I let my child have social media?

Talking about gender pronouns and sexuality with our kids

How do I help my children build lasting friendships?

Helping moms raise confident daughters

Should I pull my kids out of school sex education?

How do I protect my kids from school bullies?

What to do if your child says “I hate you”

How do I help my high school child plan for the future without putting too much stress on them?

How do I set boundaries and discipline my toddler?

How do I help my child find their activity or sport?

Are sleepover parties safe?

Helping moms raise confident daughters

Help! My teen doesn’t like our church

Helping moms raise confident daughters

How to help your child navigate anxiety

Helping moms raise confident daughters

When friends turn parenting into a competition

Three reasons why I am a “Judgy Mom” and three ways to stop

Helping moms raise confident daughters

Stop the sibling rivalry

Help! My child whines all the time.

How do I tell my adult daughter that I don’t like her boyfriend?

Is time out an effective discipline method?

How to approach transgender topics with your teen

How do I get my kids to help out with chores?

How do I explain homosexuality to my kids?

Should I let my child connect with friends online?

Help! I am always saying “No” to my toddler.

How do I set boundaries with my parents and in-laws?

How do I encourage my daughter to dress modestly?

Help! What do I do when my child is not attending church?

What to do if my child is a bully

How do I encourage my child when they don’t receive awards?

How to deal with my child viewing porn

How to handle meltdowns in public

How do I talk to my child about sex?

How do I build healthy self-esteem in my children?

How can I encourage my kids to love people no matter their beliefs?

How do I be consistent in discipline?

How do I help my kids make their faith their own?

I want to be a good parent but I am exhausted all of the time

How do I keep from losing my temper and yelling at my children?

My kid is addicted to their phone, help!

How do I help my kids with big emotions?

How young is too young for my kids to have a boyfriend or girlfriend?