RedCircle VERIFY_TOKEN_3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58 -- Rendered At Sun, 31 May 2026 10:44:04 +0000 The Origins Of Loving Us https://redcircle.com/shows/the-origins-of-loving-us en-US All rights reserved. Will Ray & Co Host: Chan Join Will Ray and Co Host Chantal, as they get real about the aftermath of relationship breakups. By using raw honesty, they share their experiences and opinions on: healing, accountability and vulnerability. They’ll take deep dives into the complexities of concepts like black love, self love, emotional growth, discernment, conflict management, helpful communication and more. They blend personal stories with wisdom and comedy, so this podcast offers practical advice and heartfelt insights to help you work through the ups and downs of your next relationship. Nothing is off limits!! Just candid conversations to inspire growth, connection, and understanding. Everyone experiences break ups but it doesn’t have to be nasty or toxic. We can navigate through these awkward feelings and situations like adults. Together. Our community used to thrive off of love & now, it seems like nobody believes in it anymore. Can Will & Chan help get us back on track? Tune in to find out. https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-chanbepoddin-spot/ ~~~ Follow us for more information: IG : @willraycomedy @chanbepoddin Visit chanbepoddin.com If you enjoy listening to this show, it would mean the world to us if you would write a 5-star review for our show. This act of giving back will help this show grow so that it can be found by others who will benefit from the content. Thank you in advance for taking the time to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify !!! 3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58 Join Will Ray and Co Host Chantal, as they get real about the aftermath of relationship breakups. By using raw honesty, they share their experiences and opinions on: healing, accountability and vulnerability. They’ll take deep dives into the complexities of concepts like black love, self love, emotional growth, discernment, conflict management, helpful communication and more.

They blend personal stories with wisdom and comedy, so this podcast offers practical advice and heartfelt insights to help you work through the ups and downs of your next relationship. Nothing is off limits!! Just candid conversations to inspire growth, connection, and understanding.

Everyone experiences break ups but it doesn’t have to be nasty or toxic. We can navigate through these awkward feelings and situations like adults. Together. Our community used to thrive off of love & now, it seems like nobody believes in it anymore. Can Will & Chan help get us back on track? Tune in to find out.


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]]> episodic no Will Ray & Co Host: Chan chantalsmarshall@gmail.com yes bonus “Choosing To Love You”... Pt. 2 “Choosing To Love You”... Pt. 2 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan How can you tell when you’re working against your needs, values and morals? 

We knew better…was it love? Was it pride? Was it trying prove you had someone to others? Sometimes it’s self hate…

This person has shown/ told you by now emotionally, verbally or indirectly if they long term or short term what they want to do…

You chose to stay… is it your low standards?…

You know that you are working against your needs, when you feel ignored. What you want is never in motion. What they want is a given. How they want to be treated… easy. What about you tho?

#values #boundaries

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#afterthebreakup #nocontact

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]]> <p>How can you tell when you’re working against your needs, values and morals? </p><p>We knew better…was it love? Was it pride? Was it trying prove you had someone to others? Sometimes it’s self hate…</p><p>This person has shown/ told you by now emotionally, verbally or indirectly if they long term or short term what they want to do…</p><p>You chose to stay… is it your low standards?…</p><p>You know that you are working against your needs, when you feel ignored. What you want is never in motion. What they want is a given. How they want to be treated… easy. What about you tho?</p><p>#values #boundaries</p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p>Merch here: <a href="https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-chanbepoddin-spot/" rel="nofollow">https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-chanbepoddin-spot/</a></p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://chanbepoddin.com/" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p> 8753992d-ce06-4e6e-8e1b-35d75aa6ad6b https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 23 May 2026 11:00:43 +0000 3648 no full “Choosing To Love You”... Pt. 1 “Choosing To Love You”... Pt. 1 8 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan How can you tell when you’re working against your needs, values and morals?

We knew better…was it love? Was it pride? Was it trying prove you had someone to others? Sometimes it’s self hate…

This person has shown/ told you by now emotionally, verbally or indirectly if they long term or short term what they want to do…

You chose to stay… is it your low standards?…

You know that you are working against your needs, when you feel ignored. What you want is never in motion. What they want is a given. How they want to be treated… easy. What about you tho?

#values #boundaries

#theoriginsoflovingus

#afterthebreakup #nocontact

#toolu 

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]]> <p>How can you tell when you’re working against your needs, values and morals?</p><p>We knew better…was it love? Was it pride? Was it trying prove you had someone to others? Sometimes it’s self hate…</p><p>This person has shown/ told you by now emotionally, verbally or indirectly if they long term or short term what they want to do…</p><p>You chose to stay… is it your low standards?…</p><p>You know that you are working against your needs, when you feel ignored. What you want is never in motion. What they want is a given. How they want to be treated… easy. What about you tho?</p><p>#values #boundaries</p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p>Merch here: <a href="https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-chanbepoddin-spot/" rel="nofollow">https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-chanbepoddin-spot/</a></p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://Chanbepoddin.com" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p> d25dc286-a45d-4573-b3c8-b0bc8a963e4b https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 23 May 2026 06:22:11 +0000 4821 no bonus Everything Isn’t Supposed To Make You Comfortable Pt 2 Everything Isn’t Supposed To Make You Comfortable Pt 2 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan The Rest...

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]]> <p>The Rest...</p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p><br></p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://Chanbepoddin.com" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p><p><br></p><p>If you would like to support this podcast, donate to our link <a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations" rel="nofollow">https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations</a></p> e463d270-eb85-48e4-a78d-d48eec2fc354 https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 09 May 2026 15:30:23 +0000 5739 no full Everything Isn’t Supposed To Make You Comfortable Pt 1 Everything Isn’t Supposed To Make You Comfortable Pt 1 7 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan  I would love for relationships to be as easy as I think it...Thats not real life.

The things that become uncomfortable after that breakup…

  • Emotionally your just exhausted
  • The shame you might feel remembering what you did that you shouldn’t or what you said
  • You get irritated with other people because your mad at yourself, the situation

LETS BE REAL !!! YOUR ADDICTED TO LIFE WITH THIS PERSON !!!

You are actively working off a high, because its really setting in that… thats not your person anymore.

Stop listening to those old memories. The uncomfortableness is also the times where you knew better, the realization that they were right about some things they said in arguments… you really have self work to do, will you do it?

#theoriginsoflovingus

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]]> <p> I would love for relationships to be as easy as I think it...Thats not real life.</p><p>The things that become uncomfortable after that breakup…</p><ul><li>Emotionally your just exhausted</li><li>The shame you might feel remembering what you did that you shouldn’t or what you said</li><li>You get irritated with other people because your mad at yourself, the situation</li></ul><p>LETS BE REAL !!! YOUR ADDICTED TO LIFE WITH THIS PERSON !!!</p><p>You are actively working off a high, because its really setting in that… thats not your person anymore.</p><p>Stop listening to those old memories. The uncomfortableness is also the times where you knew better, the realization that they were right about some things they said in arguments… you really have self work to do, will you do it?</p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p><br></p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://Chanbepoddin.com" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p><p><br></p><p>If you would like to support this podcast, donate to our link <a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations" rel="nofollow">https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations</a></p> 37b827f5-474f-4f5f-916c-745d64e10360 https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 09 May 2026 08:44:32 +0000 4121 no bonus Feel, Deal, & Heal Pt 3 Feel, Deal, & Heal Pt 3 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan Last bit.

Part 3

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]]> <p>Last bit.</p><p>Part 3</p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup </p><p>#nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p>r<a href="http://chanbepoddin.com/" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p>@therealwillray</p><p>Twitter@willraycomedy TT/IG </p> c7ea9305-23f1-4b0c-9914-0dc60b49995f https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 18 Apr 2026 21:00:26 +0000 4844 no bonus Feel, Deal, Heal Pt 2 Feel, Deal, Heal Pt 2 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan Still At it.

Part 2

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]]> <p>Still At it.</p><p>Part 2</p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://Chanbepoddin.com" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p> c99530c7-dd77-4115-a8c0-d0831edad0b0 https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 18 Apr 2026 16:22:55 +0000 5100 no full Feel, Deal, Heal Pt 1 Feel, Deal, Heal Pt 1 6 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan Do I even want to feel feelings again? Right now? At all?

Too many ppl become okay masking “ I’m okay” or “ I’m over it”… if you aren’t… okay. if is okay to feel ya feelings, because if not now when? When are you gonna address what you need to come to terms with?

How did you come up with this?

  • Hurting people
  • Getting hurt & feeling how others have felt
  • Getting sick of myself 
  • Having a daughter
  • Realizing that men don’t have “safe spaces” to heal


... My best was reserved and locked tf away. PRESERVES!!!!

What did we realize? 


The Inner Fight: 

Do I even wanna get better just to try this bs again?

Will I know when to pull out faster next time!?! 

Short answer no. Long answer: ain’t no short cuts in real bonding with ppl. Either you try or you die never knowing. 


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]]> <p>Do I even want to feel feelings again? Right now? At all?</p><p>Too many ppl become okay masking “ I’m okay” or “ I’m over it”… if you aren’t… okay. if is okay to feel ya feelings, because if not now when? When are you gonna address what you need to come to terms with?</p><p>How did you come up with this?</p><ul><li>Hurting people</li><li>Getting hurt &amp; feeling how others have felt</li><li>Getting sick of myself </li><li>Having a daughter</li><li>Realizing that men don’t have “safe spaces” to heal</li></ul><p><br></p><p>... My best was reserved and locked tf away. PRESERVES!!!!</p><p>What did we realize? </p><p><br></p><p>The Inner Fight: </p><p>Do I even wanna get better just to try this bs again?</p><p>Will I know when to pull out faster next time!?! </p><p>Short answer no. Long answer: ain’t no short cuts in real bonding with ppl. Either you try or you die never knowing. </p><p><br></p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p><br></p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://Chanbepoddin.com" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p> 7ea85e40-3045-4fdf-b444-f86817a63835 https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 18 Apr 2026 06:22:46 +0000 5139 no bonus Your Dick Cannot Solve This Problem Pt 2 Your Dick Cannot Solve This Problem Pt 2 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan Part 2:

Once a person spent months - years learning how to please you… it becomes addicting. You may have the same friends, or be around each others family... you might need to not show up to certain events if they are there. You cant think about doing anyone else, cuddling up with anyone else or going out to eat with anyone else. A lot of times how you bypass the fact that yall broken up is selfishly thinking about how good this orgasim might feel....

Guess what? you are now soul tied to a person who is not healthy for you and who you want to become...

What did we realize? 

The Inner Fight: 

Do not mix up kindness, understanding and good intentions with they want me back !!!

  1. Is it high effort?
  2. Do they try to get physical with you in a more than friends way?
  3. Do they contact you after hours on purpose, or demand your attention when they know you are working?
  4. Did they tell you straight up, I want to be with you, im doing xyzzy, I love you and im going to put in the effort to show you?
  5. Are they avoiding seeing other people and ask if you are dating or not?


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]]> <p>Part 2:</p><p>Once a person spent months - years learning how to please you… it becomes addicting. You may have the same friends, or be around each others family... you might need to not show up to certain events if they are there. You cant think about doing anyone else, cuddling up with anyone else or going out to eat with anyone else. A lot of times how you bypass the fact that yall broken up is selfishly thinking about how good this orgasim might feel.... </p><p>Guess what? you are now soul tied to a person who is not healthy for you and who you want to become...</p><p>What did we realize? </p><p>The Inner Fight: </p><p>Do not mix up kindness, understanding and good intentions with they want me back !!!</p><ol><li>Is it high effort?</li><li>Do they try to get physical with you in a more than friends way?</li><li>Do they contact you after hours on purpose, or demand your attention when they know you are working?</li><li>Did they tell you straight up, I want to be with you, im doing xyzzy, I love you and im going to put in the effort to show you?</li><li>Are they avoiding seeing other people and ask if you are dating or not?</li></ol><p><br></p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://chanbepoddin.com/" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p><p><br></p><p>If you would like to support this podcast, donate to our link <a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations" rel="nofollow">https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations</a></p> 0b039e66-150c-45c8-9bf3-2daf725a7f1e https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-chanbepoddin-spot/ Sat, 11 Apr 2026 16:35:04 +0000 5651 no full Your Dick Cannot Solve This Problem Pt 1 Your Dick Cannot Solve This Problem Pt 1 6 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan We back, Spring has Sprung. Hope yall good.

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Once a person spent months - years learning how to please you… it becomes addicting. You may have the same friends, or be around each others family... you might need to not show up to certain events if they are there. You cant think about doing anyone else, cuddling up with anyone else or going out to eat with anyone else. A lot of times how you bypass the fact that yall broken up is selfishly thinking about how good this orgasim might feel.... Guess what? you are now soul tied to a person who is not healthy for you and who you want to become.

-Reasons Why Dick Never Solves the issue? How does your Aint Shitness Work To your advantage? What does that do to the psyche?

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]]> <p>We back, Spring has Sprung. Hope yall good.</p><p>—————————————————</p><p>Once a person spent months - years learning how to please you… it becomes addicting. You may have the same friends, or be around each others family... you might need to not show up to certain events if they are there. You cant think about doing anyone else, cuddling up with anyone else or going out to eat with anyone else. A lot of times how you bypass the fact that yall broken up is selfishly thinking about how good this orgasim might feel.... Guess what? you are now soul tied to a person who is not healthy for you and who you want to become.</p><p>-Reasons Why Dick Never Solves the issue? How does your Aint Shitness Work To your advantage? What does that do to the psyche?</p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p><br></p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://Chanbepoddin.com" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p><br></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p><p><br></p><p>If you would like to support this podcast, donate to our link <a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations" rel="nofollow">https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations</a></p> f1eb97d8-4d06-4c3f-a542-4bf22d03611c https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 11 Apr 2026 06:22:53 +0000 5455 no bonus The Love Guilt Pt 2 The Love Guilt Pt 2 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan Part 2 continued of Ep 4:

Last ep you spoke on something: selflessness and selfishness… a lot of people confuse them… but we need both for balance. Can you explain what you meant? Also, what are 5 selfless acts men can do while being selfish in a healthy way-

How can we handle that guilt in a healthy way?

  • Realize when you are craving what you’re used to vs what you need to crave
  • Journal your feelings before you text them or call
  • A lot of people don’t mention this… pray your urge away

What did we realize?

The Inner Fight: Is this fixable? Pride and ego can block what’s fixable.

Am I looking for perfection or do I deserve to move forward?

I’m never looking for what’s perfect, just reciprocating effort

We have to make sure we don’t confuse love with saturated entitlement mixed with who we know. That who we already know mindset will keep you stuck in positions with ppl who do not deserve you or who will never provide the appreciation your efforts deserve. I never want a man to think just because I love you I won’t save me. If you love yourself you will self preserve too.

#theoriginsoflovingus

#afterthebreakup #nocontact

#toolu 

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]]> <p>Part 2 continued of Ep 4:</p><p>Last ep you spoke on something: selflessness and selfishness… a lot of people confuse them… but we need both for balance. Can you explain what you meant? Also, what are 5 selfless acts men can do while being selfish in a healthy way-</p><p>How can we handle that guilt in a healthy way?</p><ul><li>Realize when you are craving what you’re used to vs what you need to crave</li><li>Journal your feelings before you text them or call</li><li>A lot of people don’t mention this… pray your urge away</li></ul><p>What did we realize?</p><p>The Inner Fight: Is this fixable? Pride and ego can block what’s fixable.</p><p>Am I looking for perfection or do I deserve to move forward?</p><p>I’m never looking for what’s perfect, just reciprocating effort</p><p>We have to make sure we don’t confuse love with saturated entitlement mixed with who we know. That who we already know mindset will keep you stuck in positions with ppl who do not deserve you or who will never provide the appreciation your efforts deserve. I never want a man to think just because I love you I won’t save me. If you love yourself you will self preserve too.</p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://chanbepoddin.com/" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p><p><br></p><p>If you would like to support this podcast, donate to our link <a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations" rel="nofollow">https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations</a></p> d1ee2749-d072-4a03-b93a-146fc1c377e6 https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 28 Mar 2026 16:22:10 +0000 4473 no full The Love Guilt Pt 1 The Love Guilt Pt 1 4 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan Last ep you spoke on something: selflessness and selfishness… a lot of people confuse them… but we need both for balance. Can you explain what you meant? Also, what are 5 selfless acts men can do while being selfish in a healthy way-

Mid march updates in life

  • spring weather, brighter days and finally a reason to be outside
  • The people are really living the pod, yall can drop a review and even donate to the show. Let us know if you would like the show weekly or every two weeks too. Also, are their topics yall feel like after a breakup no one speaks on?

Having something or someone you once enjoyed, shared moments with… then not having them… Prepare to experience withdrawal… it’s a different kinda drug. Just because you are broken up doesn’t mean the feelings instantly go away, doesn’t erase good times you had with them either. No one died, but the idea you had with you and them may have…

That’s where that guilt comes in at…

What makes you feel guilty for loving them?

Reasons You may feel guilty for loving a person?

  • “why do I feel like this?”
  • “wtf is wrong with me?”
  • “what do I do now that I deal with just myself & my feelings by myself?”
  • “i anticipated the pain but i didn’t know it was gonna hurt LIKE THIS”
  • “i wish we could go back 6 months & fix this”
  • “i hurt & abandoned my person”
  • “i failed”

How can we handle that guilt in a healthy way?

  • Realize when you are craving what you’re used to vs what you need to crave
  • Journal your feelings before you text them or call
  • A lot of people don’t mention this… pray your urge away

What did we realize?

The Inner Fight: Is this fixable? Pride and ego can block what’s fixable.

Am I looking for perfection or do I deserve to move forward?

I’m never looking for what’s perfect, just reciprocating effort

We have to make sure we don’t confuse love with saturated entitlement mixed with who we know. That who we already know mindset will keep you stuck in positions with ppl who do not deserve you or who will never provide the appreciation your efforts deserve. I never want a man to think just because I love you I won’t save me. If you love yourself you will self preserve too.

#theoriginsoflovingus

#afterthebreakup #nocontact

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]]> <p>Last ep you spoke on something: selflessness and selfishness… a lot of people confuse them… but we need both for balance. Can you explain what you meant? Also, what are 5 selfless acts men can do while being selfish in a healthy way-</p><p>Mid march updates in life</p><ul><li>spring weather, brighter days and finally a reason to be outside</li><li>The people are really living the pod, yall can drop a review and even donate to the show. Let us know if you would like the show weekly or every two weeks too. Also, are their topics yall feel like after a breakup no one speaks on?</li></ul><p>Having something or someone you once enjoyed, shared moments with… then not having them… Prepare to experience withdrawal… it’s a different kinda drug. Just because you are broken up doesn’t mean the feelings instantly go away, doesn’t erase good times you had with them either. No one died, but the idea you had with you and them may have…</p><p>That’s where that guilt comes in at…</p><p>What makes you feel guilty for loving them?</p><p>Reasons You may feel guilty for loving a person?</p><ul><li>“why do I feel like this?”</li><li>“wtf is wrong with me?”</li><li>“what do I do now that I deal with just myself &amp; my feelings by myself?”</li><li>“i anticipated the pain but i didn’t know it was gonna hurt LIKE THIS”</li><li>“i wish we could go back 6 months &amp; fix this”</li><li>“i hurt &amp; abandoned my person”</li><li>“i failed”</li></ul><p>How can we handle that guilt in a healthy way?</p><ul><li>Realize when you are craving what you’re used to vs what you need to crave</li><li>Journal your feelings before you text them or call</li><li>A lot of people don’t mention this… pray your urge away</li></ul><p>What did we realize?</p><p>The Inner Fight: Is this fixable? Pride and ego can block what’s fixable.</p><p>Am I looking for perfection or do I deserve to move forward?</p><p>I’m never looking for what’s perfect, just reciprocating effort</p><p>We have to make sure we don’t confuse love with saturated entitlement mixed with who we know. That who we already know mindset will keep you stuck in positions with ppl who do not deserve you or who will never provide the appreciation your efforts deserve. I never want a man to think just because I love you I won’t save me. If you love yourself you will self preserve too.</p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://Chanbepoddin.com" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p><p><br></p><p>If you would like to support this podcast, donate to our link <a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations" rel="nofollow">https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3e852ec9-cc6d-4949-ad4d-0ce094c0bc58/donations</a></p> 20ccfbe7-db88-4c4d-9896-4e9b47b430b8 https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 28 Mar 2026 06:22:16 +0000 3680 no bonus We Feel Stupid For Caring... Pt 2 We Feel Stupid For Caring... Pt 2 3 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan ...We're glad We don’t hate them, We just wish we didn’t love them.. It be like that sometimes. Pt 2

The Show Run Down:

-why do people still care after the breakup? How do we fight those feelings in a healthy way?  

Steps to create space away from your ex

What needs to be said?

What did we realize?

The Inner Fight: Is this truly the last fight or argument? Are we really done?

Rules of engagement when dating again?

Whats Next? Tell them the next topic…

“what did this episode teach you?”



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#afterthebreakup  #nocontact

#toolu 

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Chanbepoddin.com

@therealwillray Twitter

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]]> <p>...We&#39;re glad We don’t hate them, We just wish we didn’t love them.. It be like that sometimes. Pt 2</p><p><strong>The Show Run Down:</strong></p><p>-why do people still care after the breakup? How do we fight those feelings in a healthy way?  </p><p>Steps to create space away from your ex</p><p>What needs to be said?</p><p>What did we realize?</p><p>The Inner Fight: Is this truly the last fight or argument? Are we really done?</p><p>Rules of engagement when dating again?</p><p>Whats Next? Tell them the next topic…</p><p>“what did this episode teach you?”</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><strong>#theoriginsoflovingus</strong></p><p><strong>#afterthebreakup  #nocontact</strong></p><p><strong>#toolu </strong></p><p><strong>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</strong></p><p><strong>Chanbepoddin.com</strong></p><p><strong>@therealwillray Twitter</strong></p><p><strong>@willraycomedy TT/IG </strong></p> efb476a3-f488-4e1c-91d7-fe53d6bd071a https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 14 Mar 2026 16:12:39 +0000 4577 no full We Feel Stupid For Caring Pt 1 We Feel Stupid For Caring Pt 1 3 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan ...We're glad We don’t hate them, We just wish we didn’t love them.. It be like that sometimes.

The Show Run Down:

Catch Up: recap of previous episode to lead into present episode’s topic

We discussed black history month, valentines day, etc, Chan had to vent real quick…

It was a lot of Ain’t Ish activity for the V Day.

—————————————————

What do we do with old feelings? Should we check in? Did you block them, if so why? 

-why do people still care after the breakup? How do we fight those feelings in a healthy way?  

Steps to create space away from your ex

What needs to be said?

What did we realize?

The Inner Fight: Is this truly the last fight or argument? Are we really done?

Rules of engagement when dating again?

Whats Next? Tell them the next topic…

“what did this episode teach you?”



#theoriginsoflovingus

#afterthebreakup  #nocontact

#toolu 

@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter

Chanbepoddin.com

@therealwillray Twitter

@willraycomedy TT/IG 

]]> <p>...We&#39;re glad We don’t hate them, We just wish we didn’t love them.. It be like that sometimes.</p><p><strong>The Show Run Down:</strong></p><p>Catch Up: recap of previous episode to lead into present episode’s topic</p><p>We discussed black history month, valentines day, etc, Chan had to vent real quick…</p><p>It was a lot of Ain’t Ish activity for the V Day.</p><p>—————————————————</p><p>What do we do with old feelings? Should we check in? Did you block them, if so why? </p><p>-why do people still care after the breakup? How do we fight those feelings in a healthy way?  </p><p>Steps to create space away from your ex</p><p>What needs to be said?</p><p>What did we realize?</p><p>The Inner Fight: Is this truly the last fight or argument? Are we really done?</p><p>Rules of engagement when dating again?</p><p>Whats Next? Tell them the next topic…</p><p>“what did this episode teach you?”</p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p><strong>#theoriginsoflovingus</strong></p><p><strong>#afterthebreakup  #nocontact</strong></p><p><strong>#toolu </strong></p><p><strong>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</strong></p><p><strong>Chanbepoddin.com</strong></p><p><strong>@therealwillray Twitter</strong></p><p><strong>@willraycomedy TT/IG </strong></p> 5f62cce1-8d36-45d6-88c8-ff4d5162f163 https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 14 Mar 2026 06:22:36 +0000 5466 no bonus I Don't Have Time To Be Heart Broken Pt 2 I Don't Have Time To Be Heart Broken Pt 2 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan Part 2: I Don’t Have Time To Be Heartbroken 

 Last ep: how did we get here, the introduction of us and what we discussed 

Catch up: What new with us?

We are really grieving what we thought in our minds…

  • Maybe figuring out myself is what I need…
  • Which L was it?!? Lust, Love or Loss 

Story time: Do you really love fully twice?

Whats Next? Tell them the next topic… short snippet of it and stop…


#theoriginsoflovingus

#afterthebreakup #nocontact

#oolu 

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Chanbepoddin.com

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]]> <p>Part 2: I Don’t Have Time To Be Heartbroken </p><p><strong> Last ep: </strong>how did we get here, the introduction of us and what we discussed </p><p><strong>Catch up: </strong>What new with us?</p><p><em>We are really grieving what we thought in our minds…</em></p><ul><li>Maybe figuring out myself is what I need…</li><li>Which L was it?!? <em>Lust, Love or Loss </em></li></ul><p><strong>Story time:</strong> Do you really love fully twice?</p><p><strong>Whats Next? </strong>Tell them the next topic… short snippet of it and stop…</p><p><br></p><p><strong>#theoriginsoflovingus</strong></p><p><strong>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</strong></p><p><strong>#oolu </strong></p><p>@chanbepoddin IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://Chanbepoddin.com" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy /IG </p> cb5cdc45-51d7-4be7-935c-60d0be634fb1 https://www.chanbepoddin.com/the-origins-of-loving-us Sat, 28 Feb 2026 17:12:35 +0000 6030 no full I Don't Have Time To Be Heart Broken Pt 1 I Don't Have Time To Be Heart Broken Pt 1 2 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan I Don’t Have Time To Be Heartbroken 

 Last ep: how did we get here, the introduction of us and what we discussed 

Catch up: What new with us?

  • What does it feel like to be heart broken?
  • How do you push through when you feel like shit?
  • Do I want to open up about what I’m scared about?
  • Do I want to be good to someone new? Am I over my get back stage?

We are really grieving what we thought in our minds…

  • Maybe figuring out myself is what I need…
  • Which L was it?!? Lust, Love or Loss 

Story time: Do you really love fully twice?

Whats Next? Tell them the next topic… short snippet of it and stop…


#theoriginsoflovingus

#afterthebreakup #nocontact

#oolu 

@chanbepoddin IG/ Twitter

Chanbepoddin.com

@therealwillray Twitter

@willraycomedy /IG 

]]> <p>I Don’t Have Time To Be Heartbroken </p><p><strong> Last ep: </strong>how did we get here, the introduction of us and what we discussed </p><p><strong>Catch up: </strong>What new with us?</p><ul><li>What does it feel like to be heart broken?</li><li>How do you push through when you feel like shit?</li><li>Do I want to open up about what I’m scared about?</li><li>Do I want to be good to someone new? Am I over my get back stage?</li></ul><p><em>We are really grieving what we thought in our minds…</em></p><ul><li>Maybe figuring out myself is what I need…</li><li>Which L was it?!? <em>Lust, Love or Loss </em></li></ul><p><strong>Story time:</strong> Do you really love fully twice?</p><p><strong>Whats Next? </strong>Tell them the next topic… short snippet of it and stop…</p><p><br></p><p><strong>#theoriginsoflovingus</strong></p><p><strong>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</strong></p><p><strong>#oolu </strong></p><p>@chanbepoddin IG/ Twitter</p><p><a href="http://Chanbepoddin.com" rel="nofollow">Chanbepoddin.com</a></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy /IG </p> 27ca5da0-8786-49d1-ae1c-e2a1c67f512a https://www.chanbepoddin.com Sat, 28 Feb 2026 07:22:06 +0000 5401 no full We Ain't Have To Get Here !!! We Ain't Have To Get Here !!! 1 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan
  • “Why did we create this podcast? What’s our objective?”
  • What needs to be said:
  • What did we realize?

    • Every break up aint a loss

    GET THE LESSON AND MOVE ON 

    • Story time: 1 of the worst/best breakups of my life (explain this but Chan has to explain why she’s never had a “bad” break up)

    Who’s fault is this? Was it theirs? Was it yours? Was it ours? What did we learn?

    Alone vs. Lonely.

    • 1. What’s the difference?
    • 2. Do you like yourself when you’re “alone”? (let’s start there)
    • 3. Things that can happen when you get “lonely”


    The Inner Fight: From sex whenever I wanted to no sex at all ; Call or don’t call; healthy/safe space vs losing a friendship 

    Whats Next? Tell them the next topic...

    #theoriginsoflovingus

    #afterthebreakup #nocontact

    #toolu 


    @chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter

    Chanbepoddin.com


    @therealwillray Twitter

    @willraycomedy TT/IG 

    ]]>     <ul><li>“Why did we create this podcast? What’s our objective?”</li><li>What needs to be said:</li><li>What did we realize?</li></ul><p><strong><em>Every break up aint a loss</em></strong></p><p><strong>GET THE LESSON AND MOVE ON </strong></p><ul><li>Story time: 1 of the worst/best breakups of my life (explain this but Chan has to explain why she’s never had a “bad” break up)</li></ul><p>Who’s fault is this? Was it theirs? Was it yours? Was it ours? What did we learn?</p><p>Alone vs. Lonely.</p><ul><li>1. What’s the difference?</li><li>2. Do you like yourself when you’re “alone”? (let’s start there)</li><li>3. Things that can happen when you get “lonely”</li></ul><p><br></p><p>The Inner Fight: From sex whenever I wanted to no sex at all ; Call or don’t call; healthy/safe space vs losing a friendship </p><p>Whats Next? Tell them the next topic...</p><p>#theoriginsoflovingus</p><p>#afterthebreakup #nocontact</p><p>#toolu </p><p><br></p><p>@chanbepoddin /IG/ Twitter</p><p>Chanbepoddin.com</p><p><br></p><p>@therealwillray Twitter</p><p>@willraycomedy TT/IG </p> 0233f6d4-dd1d-4b99-90e6-2394add47596 https://www.chanbepoddin.com/the-origins-of-loving-us Sat, 14 Feb 2026 07:22:46 +0000 7544 no     trailer The Origins Of Loving Us The Origins Of Loving Us 1 Will Ray & Co Host: Chan Join Will Ray and Co Host Chantal, as they get real about the aftermath of relationship breakups. By using raw honesty, they share their experiences and opinions on: healing, accountability and vulnerability. They’ll take deep dives into the complexities of concepts like black love, self love, emotional growth, discernment, conflict management, helpful communication and more.

    They blend personal stories with wisdom and comedy, so this podcast offers practical advice and heartfelt insights to help you work through the ups and downs of your next relationship. Nothing is off limits!! Just candid conversations to inspire growth, connection, and understanding.

    Everyone experiences break ups but it doesn’t have to be nasty or toxic. We can navigate through these awkward feelings and situations like adults. Together. Our community used to thrive off of love & now, it seems like nobody believes in it anymore. Can Will & Chan help get us back on track? Tune in to find out


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    ]]>     <p>Join Will Ray and Co Host Chantal, as they get real about the aftermath of relationship breakups. By using raw honesty, they share their experiences and opinions on: healing, accountability and vulnerability. They’ll take deep dives into the complexities of concepts like black love, self love, emotional growth, discernment, conflict management, helpful communication and more.</p><p>They blend personal stories with wisdom and comedy, so this podcast offers practical advice and heartfelt insights to help you work through the ups and downs of your next relationship. Nothing is off limits!! Just candid conversations to inspire growth, connection, and understanding.</p><p>Everyone experiences break ups but it doesn’t have to be nasty or toxic. We can navigate through these awkward feelings and situations like adults. Together. Our community used to thrive off of love &amp; now, it seems like nobody believes in it anymore. Can Will &amp; Chan help get us back on track? Tune in to find out</p><p><br></p><p><a href="https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-chanbepoddin-spot/" rel="nofollow">https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-chanbepoddin-spot/</a></p><p><br></p><p>~~~</p><p>Follow us for more information:</p><p>IG : @willraycomedy @chanbepoddin </p><p>Visit <strong>chanbepoddin.com </strong></p> dbd2ebcb-48b5-4e5c-a310-0671c158fdd9 https://www.chanbepoddin.com Tue, 20 Jan 2026 07:22:10 +0000 102 no