Okay Kiasi

Navigating Forgiveness of Parents

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 16:00:00 +0000

How do you go about forgiving a parent for how they affected you negatively in your upbringing? In this episode we are joined by our stepfather Sekou Rubadiri who shares some history of his relationship with his father and how he navigated forgiveness.

We're so glad you made it to the end of season 4. We hope you have a restful and joy filled holiday season and we'll see you in the new year!

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Prompted

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 16:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Gathoni prompts us to learn more about each other by asking us questions from her journal. Listen in to discover whose teddy bears move around at night, who the piano prodigy in the family is and what advice we would give our 7 year old selves. Get out a notebook and answer these for yourself.

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Youth Pastor Mommy

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 17:39:02 +0000

Following our discussions earlier in the season on having children and the framing of sex from the perspective of the church and culture, we invited a special guest, Mellap Murila, to share her journey of having a child while in college.

We talk about the lessons her experience taught her, how she’s navigating parenthood and her babies also make a brief debut - never play with Bluey! We are grateful for her vulnerability and openness. Please share your takeaways from the episode with us on social media.

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Red, Green & Beige

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 16:00:00 +0000

In this flag themed episode, we answer a series of scenario based questions and share our opinions on whether they are worth ignoring, putting up with or warrants ending the relationship. We also sprinkle some fun flag trivia throughout the episode.

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Fight or Flight

Tue, 17 Oct 2023 16:00:00 +0000

Is fear hardwired or learned? In this episode, we dive into our fears, exploring whether they're inborn or learned based on an article on the evolutionary purpose of fear. We chat about where we picked up some fears plus share tips from the book "You Are a Badass" by Jen Sincero on how to conquer fear. Also, here's an interesting article on why we fear the dark: https://www.sciencealert.com/here-s-the-evolutionary-reason-why-we-re-afraid-of-the-dark Let us know how you face your fears!

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Sex & Hula Hoops

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 16:00:00 +0000

Does the title say sex? Yes it does! We are going into the conversation about our perspectives on sex, where we first heard about it and how our experiences have formed our relationship with it. Of course, it would not be complete without a bit of a science lesson! Get your headphones on if you don't want your mother asking you questions.

Resources:

Crave: https://www.instagram.com/lovecrave/

Shan Boodram: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/

Love Hour Podcast: https://shorturl.at/jyDW1

Brittany Broaddus-Smith: https://www.instagram.com/theintimacyfirm/

Also, as always, we would love to hear your thoughts on the topic! Hit us up on social media or email!

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The Struggle of Independence

Tue, 03 Oct 2023 16:00:00 +0000

How independent are you? In this episode, we discuss how our upbringing affects the level of independence we have and the rise of the label "toxic independence" when referring to women. Are there certain behaviors and traits that can be considered toxic in independent people? Find out in today's discussion!

Article mentioned:https://www.powerofpositivity.com/independence-toxic-behaviors/

We’d love to hear your thoughts on independence!

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Childfree Choice

Tue, 26 Sep 2023 16:00:00 +0000

Season 4 kicks off with an electrifying start as Nyam brings back her "It is to say" Kamusi definitions. In this episode, we delve into our experience with Spotify's AI DJ Xavier, affectionately dubbed ZayZay by Gathoni, the profound topic of parenthood and the factors that have shaped our decisions on whether to embark on this journey or not. We’d love to hear your thoughts on the considerations you took before having children and if you can resonate with our points of view.

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The Spin Remix

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 16:00:00 +0000

Spin spin spin spin mi yeh! To celebrate the end of season 3 and to thank you for over 15,000 streams, we reached out to some of our loyal listeners and had them spin the wheel. Hear some of their recommendations and our reactions to them. Thank you for all the support thus far! Season 4 is coming soon!

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Bonus: You Asked We Answered

Tue, 29 Aug 2023 16:00:00 +0000

We asked you on our social media to ask us anything and you showed out! In this bonus episode we answer your questions and give a quick catch up as we plan for Season 4.

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Sibling Nini

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 16:00:00 +0000

In this last episode of season 3, Chiku surprises us with questions which will definitely help you get to know us better. We talk about funerals and discover which of our exes our sisters hate. If you do this question tag with your friends or siblings, please share the thing that surprises you most. Thank you for sticking with us through it all. We appreciate you! See you in season 4!!

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The Art of Combat

Tue, 18 Jul 2023 16:00:00 +0000

You asked us how we deal with conflict and we address it in this episode. We looked at different conflict resolution strategies based on the research of American educators Kenneth Thomas and Ralph Killman. Does accommodating others make you resentful? Does your conflict resolution style change based on the person and situation? We’d love to hear from you!

Link to article: https://kilmanndiagnostics.com/overview-thomas-kilmann-conflict-mode-instrument-tki/

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Like a Girl

Tue, 11 Jul 2023 16:27:51 +0000

You asked and we listened! Navigating female friendships has been a requested subject and in this week’s episode, we're diving into it. Friendship between women is complicated but do female friends just expect too much? Can you have a male BFF with no feelings attached? Tune in to find out!

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Mind Over Mirror

Tue, 04 Jul 2023 16:11:54 +0000

In this episode, we take a look at our individual journeys with body image and physical fitness.

We would love to hear you chime in on the conversation on our social media

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Beyond the Syllabus Ft. Baraka Mwaura

Tue, 27 Jun 2023 16:00:00 +0000

In this episode we talk about our career journey’s and how they are linked to the courses we studied at university. We host Baraka Mwaura who has had several career paths in different sectors, each one very divergent from his Law Degree. He talks us through his decision making process and what factors led to each change. We also discuss if we should be asking children what they want to be when they grow up. Has your career journey been linear? Share your career stories with us!

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It Gets Bloodier Ft. Janet Mbugua

Tue, 20 Jun 2023 16:00:00 +0000

This episode continues last week's discussion on ending period stigma. We hosted Janet Mbugua who is a media personality, advocate for social impact and boy mum. She shares the story of her first time and let’s us know how we can play our part as individuals to amplify and advocate for period justice. Here are the resources mentioned of organizations playing their part in ending period injustice. Like, follow, share and continue this important conversation in your own circles.

Heels for Pads https://www.sisterspeaksglobal.org/heels-4-pads

Superb CBO https://www.facebook.com/superbcbo/

PadMad https://padmadkenya.com/

Zana Africa http://www.zanaafrica.org/

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That's on Period

Tue, 13 Jun 2023 16:00:00 +0000

Menstruation, Shark Week, Red Robot, Aunt Flo, Crimson Tide, Code Red! This week we talk about all things period. For something that is experienced by 49.5% of the world population, there’s a lot of hush tones and secrecy around it. Did you know that on average, a woman menstruates for 7 years during her lifetime? In this episode we share our experiences as we add to the conversation on a normal part of life and lend our voices to ending period stigma.

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Aunty Saloon

Tue, 06 Jun 2023 16:00:00 +0000

We’re so excited to be back! We decided to start off season 3 discussing our hair journey. In this episode, we explore the things we thought/were taught as young girls, Kenyatta market visits, our loc journey and what cutting our hair meant to each of us.

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Bonus: The Catch Up

Tue, 02 May 2023 16:00:00 +0000

Thank you! Thank you for getting us to 10,000+ streams!! Thank you for your patience too. In our first episode back, we catch you up on what’s been happening in our lives. You took the journey with us as we learnt about ourselves and in this episode we share a key learning we each had in 2022. We’re planning for Season 3 and would love to know what you’d like to hear. We can’t wait to hear from you.

Blocking My Blessings

Tue, 06 Dec 2022 22:47:00 +0000

Do you ever have a win and immediately start worrying about what is about to go wrong? Gathoni had introduced the upper limit problem as written in the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. The goal in this book is to accept the possibility of always feeling good and having things go well for you. In this episode we discuss the four hidden barriers to achieving impact and how we have seen them in our lives. Let us know which has been your biggest barrier.

Also apologies for the audio, the technical difficulties continue!

Cue Trump's Intro Song

Tue, 29 Nov 2022 16:05:00 +0000

In this week's episode, we talk about our view on money and how our parent's approach to finances affected our outlook. We also take a deep dive into understanding what our relationship with money looks like based on the article below.

https://www.wespath.org/health-well-being/health-well-being-resources/financial-well-being/understand-your-relationship-with-money

Education, Exposure and Experience

Wed, 23 Nov 2022 01:51:39 +0000

How does your education affect your thinking? In this episode we discuss our education history and the importance our parents placed on doing well at school. We also discuss the 70-20-10 rule developed by the Center for Creative Leadership. While the theory is used in organization training development, we explore how much of our learning can be attributed to experience, exposure and education.

It All Makes Sense Now

Tue, 15 Nov 2022 16:00:00 +0000

Have you heard of attachment styles? According to the attachment theory, there are 4 attachment styles which develop early in life and affect your relationships. After our chat in the last two episodes, we decided to take the free quiz and share our results and our thoughts about them in this episode. As always, we encourage you to also do the quiz and learn how it affects your relationship behavior.

Attachment Style Quiz https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/

Attachment Style Article https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/attachment-theory-and-the-4-attachment-styles#:~:text=The%20four%20attachment%20styles%20are,considered%20types%20of%20insecure%20attachment.

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Husbands, Wasbands & Almostbands

Tue, 08 Nov 2022 17:00:00 +0000

We’re talking about loin springers! This week, we take a deep dive into our individual relationship history and how we feel about marriage and children. We also had a special guest, Chiku’s husband Christian, join us to share his perspective on our family dynamic and how it has affected their relationship.

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Relationships Don't Last

Tue, 01 Nov 2022 16:00:00 +0000

At the end of season one we asked you what you want to hear from us in the upcoming season and relationships was the number one response. In this episode we talk about how our upbringing affects our relationships, both romantically and within friendships.This episode is very vulnerable. We give a trigger warning (very on brand for us) so grab your box of tissues and enjoy the episode!

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Aunties Equals Audacity

Tue, 25 Oct 2022 16:00:00 +0000

Who needs haters when you have aunties? In our first episode of season 2, we start off on a lighter note and talk about some out of pocket things we’ve been told by aunties. We reached out to our followers on Instagram to chime in on their aunty stories. Join us as we discuss some of the unsolicited “umenona” aunty comments!

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Bonus: A Therapist Chimes In

Tue, 11 Oct 2022 16:00:00 +0000

As we’ve spoken about our experiences, we’ve been clear about the importance of seeking professional guidance and how therapy has helped each one of us on our personal journey. For the second bonus episode, we brought Faith Gichanga, a counseling therapist to give us her views on some of the topics we tackled. Hear her thoughts on grief, divorce and the church supporting divorcees.

Here's where you can find Faith:

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/psychologistfaith.ke/

Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@psychologistfaith.ke

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/psychologistfaith.ke/

Article https://www.pd.co.ke/lifestyle/making-religious-institutions-safe-for-the-divorced-140704/

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Bonus: Let's Revisit Birth Order

Tue, 04 Oct 2022 16:00:00 +0000

So we already discussed this in season 1 but let’s bring some research in. In this bonus episode, we explore the effects birth order has on your personality based on the theory of Alfred Adler. Join us as we explore and learn more on the characteristics, strengths and weaknesses of our personalities.

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Church Gatekeepers

Tue, 30 Aug 2022 16:00:00 +0000

In the final episode of Season 1 we talk about our faith foundation, our disappointments, disillusionment and what we really believe. Spoiler Alert - It’s Love! We believe in Love!

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Effects of Divorce

Tue, 23 Aug 2022 16:00:00 +0000

What are some things you should do or avoid if you are navigating parenthood in a difficult season of marriage? In this episode, we share some pointers based on our experience growing up with divorced parents.

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The Parentals (Part 2)

Tue, 16 Aug 2022 16:00:00 +0000

This week we continue our discussion about our relationships with our parents. We tackle single parenthood and the dynamics of a blended family. This episode may contain emotional triggering content.

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The Parentals (Part 1)

Tue, 09 Aug 2022 16:00:00 +0000

This week we talk about our relationships with our parents. The episode is broken down into two parts. This week tackles loss, self identity and being an “adult child”. Warning: This episode may contain grief triggers.

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Apologies: Fool Me Once

Tue, 02 Aug 2022 16:00:00 +0000

Have you ever wondered why some apologies mean more than others? This week we did a test to find out our preferred Apology Languages. The test is set out to help people better understand how to heal hurt in relationships. Listen for our results and take the quiz here: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language

Birth Order vs Personality

Tue, 26 Jul 2022 16:00:00 +0000

We took the personality test and figured out why we act the way we do. We get into our strengths, weaknesses and career preferences. Listen to find out the dentist of the family.

Links from the episode:

Breakdown of Myers Briggs here

Take the test here

Read the article on Birth Order

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"Now Hear My Side"

Tue, 19 Jul 2022 16:00:00 +0000

In this episode we discuss our sister relationship through age difference, changes in family dynamics and moving to different countries. Apologies and healing through tears and laughter is where it's at!

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Spin the Wheel

Tue, 12 Jul 2022 16:00:00 +0000

On this first episode of the podcast, we introduce you to the hosts, explain their family dynamic and give you a glimpse of what to look forward to in the coming season.

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Okay Kiasi: Trailer

Thu, 30 Jun 2022 03:47:32 +0000

Welcome to Okay Kiasi, a weekly podcast aimed at sharing our experiences and perspectives on various topics as siblings from a blended family.

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