What They Never Told Us

Epilogue: Final Thoughts

Tue, 30 Aug 2022 04:00:00 +0000

After more than a year's journey of talking about and doing "the work", the podcast is coming to an end. In their last recording co-hosts, Crystal and Sasha leave you with their final thoughts.

EP 64: Are You an Asker Or a Guesser?

Tue, 05 Jul 2022 04:00:00 +0000

When communicating with others, some of us are askers and some are guessers. If you don't know, Crystal and Sasha break down each style and of course, use their own experiences to help you figure out what your style is.

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EP 63: Breakup Lessons- The Good, Bad & the Untold

Tue, 21 Jun 2022 04:00:00 +0000

There are always lessons to be learned when a relationship does not work out, if you choose to. In today's episode Crystal and Sasha discuss what they've learned about themselves and how to be in better, healthier relationships from the mistakes they've made in the past.

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EP 62: You're Not Just Tired, You May be Burnt Out

Mon, 06 Jun 2022 04:00:00 +0000

Hearing the term "burn out" is more common nowadays but how do you know if you're experiencing it? In this episode, Crystal and Sasha go in depth on what it looks & feels like and give some tips on how to recover.

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EP 61: Why Are YOU So Defensive!?

Tue, 24 May 2022 04:00:00 +0000

Defense mechanisms are completely normal and necessary in order to survive in this world. In this episode Crystal and Sasha talk about what defenses are, how they protect us and they breakdown some of the more common defense mechanisms.

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EP 60: Men in Therapy with Alex Z.

Tue, 10 May 2022 04:00:00 +0000

Crystal and Sasha are back with their Men in Therapy series with special guest Alex Zamora. In this episode of the series, Alex discusses his journey with mental health, his therapist and the connection to his art.

Alex Zamora: @zamoravisuals

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EP 59: We're Still Recovering (From More than the Pandemic)

Tue, 26 Apr 2022 04:00:00 +0000

Things are returning back to "normal" after more than 2 years living through a pandemic, but if it's been pretty difficult to feel good or back to your old self, you're not the only one. In this episode, Crystal and Sasha discuss the difficulty in adjusting back to "normal" after recognizing the way we've been living, even before the pandemic, may not have been so normal after all.

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EP 58: When Self-Care Alone Isn't Enough

Tue, 12 Apr 2022 04:00:00 +0000

Self-care is promoted everywhere you look, but are we doing it right as a collective? In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha discuss community self-care and how it can possibly be more beneficial for us as a whole.

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EP 57: Therapy Check-in - How it's Going

Tue, 29 Mar 2022 04:00:00 +0000

In the first therapy check-in of 2022 Crystal and Sasha come together to talk about what's changed, what hasn't and why. They discuss the themes coming up in therapy and in their overall life.

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EP 56: Lost Letters: My Abusive Relationship with My Boss

Tue, 15 Mar 2022 04:00:00 +0000

In this Lost Letter's episode, Crystal and Sasha read and tease apart an anonymous letter written to an ex-boss who was emotionally abusive. Abuse in the workplace, how it can be spotted and what to do if you find yourself in that dynamic at work is discussed.

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EP 55: What We Wish We Were Told Pt2

Tue, 01 Mar 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Since Crystal and Sasha received such good feedback from the first episode they did (EP 37), they decided to do a part two. In this episode they continue the conversation on what they wish they were told about relationships and life.

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EP 54: The Trauma We Inherit

Tue, 15 Feb 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Trauma is complex experience that comes at us from many different angles. In this episode Crystal and Sasha focus on discussing what generational and racial trauma are and how we are ALL affected by it.

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EP 53: Why is it So Hard to Ask for Help?

Tue, 01 Feb 2022 05:00:00 +0000

Crystal and Sasha are back, refreshed from their break and ready for some changes in 2022. In their first episode back, the idea of asking for help and why it is so damn hard to do it is discussed.

4 Tips on Asking For Help

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EP 52: It's Been a Year...

Tue, 28 Dec 2021 05:00:00 +0000

It has officially been one whole year of podcasting for Crystal and Sasha. In the last episode of 2021, they review the good and bad of what they learned together and they talk about changes to come for 2022.

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EP 51: The Last Check-in

Tue, 21 Dec 2021 05:00:00 +0000

In the fourth and final therapy check-in of the year, Crystal and Sasha discuss the main themes of what they have been dealing with in therapy and life in general.

Thought Record

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EP 50: A Conversation With Marvin Toliver

Tue, 14 Dec 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Marvin Toliver, LCSW is the final guest of the podcast for the year From practicing as a therapist to his view on how to normalize mental health, him and the co-hosts get into a little bit of everything while putting humanity at the forefront of the conversation

Marvin Toliver Ig: @mtoliver_lcsw

Melanated Social Work

ZentoAmen

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EP 49: Lost Letters: "I'm Surviving"

Tue, 07 Dec 2021 05:00:00 +0000

*Trigger Warning*

In this episode of Lost Letters, the anonymous writer discusses their experience with sexual assault and trauma. Co-hosts Crystal and Sasha break down what sexual assault is and how to create boundaries in relationships.

Resources: RAINN

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EP 48: Breaking up with Toxic, with guest, Josephina R.

Tue, 30 Nov 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Leaving a toxic relationship is something that's easier said than done when love is involved. In this week's episode, co-hosts invite Josephina R. to discuss her separation from a partner who was unhealthy and toxic.

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EP 47: Embracing Your True Identity with Matthew Melissa M.

Tue, 23 Nov 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Exploring your identity and figuring out how to be the protaganist in your story is a process we all go through. In this week's episode LMHC, board game enthusiast and content creator: Matthew Melissa M., talks about how he found parts of his identity and how he incorporates them into all his worlds.

Instagram: @thisisroom51

Room 51 Social Media Content

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EP 46: Fabio Peña on Being First-Gen

Tue, 16 Nov 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Fabio Peña, the co-founder & CEO of The First Generation Consulting Page is this week's guest. Together, the co-hosts and their guest discuss being first-gen, how that changes your narrative and how it affects your mental health.

Peña & Co., LLC

IG: @pena.consulting

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EP 45: The Most Wonderful Time of the Year?

Tue, 09 Nov 2021 05:00:00 +0000

It's that time again...The holiday season is quickly approaching and of course it brings a lot of emotion. In this week's episode Crystal and Sasha discuss the different feelings that can come up during this time and give helpful tips on how to get through.

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EP 44: Men in Therapy: Anthony G.

Tue, 02 Nov 2021 04:00:00 +0000

In this episode Crystal and Sasha continue to try and shed light on men in therapy. Guest, Anthony G helps the co-hosts continue the discussion on the impact and importance of therapy.

Anthony G. Instagram: @_Quesoblanco_

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EP 43: Do Women Feed into Toxic Masculinity?

Tue, 26 Oct 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Taking ownership over the roles women can play within toxic masculinity is a necessary, but uncommon topic of conversation. In this episode, Crystal and Sasha have an open discussion on the ways they feel women can contribute to toxic masculinity.

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EP 42: Getting Old, We ALL do it

Tue, 19 Oct 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Getting older is an inevitable process we all go through, but it seems to be something we don't talk about. This week Crystal and Sasha explore aging, death and why we should be thinking about it more.

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EP 41: Taking Up Space

Tue, 12 Oct 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Taking up space is a term that was not discussed, thought of or taught to both Crystal and Sasha. In this week's episode they break down the meaning and importance on taking up space in every way.

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EP 40: Intro to Trauma: It Happens to You

Tue, 05 Oct 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Crystal and Sasha constantly reference "trauma" and it's long term effects on an individual. In this week's episode, they just get started in explaining what it is and how it affects someone and they're mental health.

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EP 39: What Do You Want to be When You Grow Up?

Tue, 28 Sep 2021 04:00:00 +0000

We all have to do it and we spend about a third of our life doing it. What we choose as our line of work will have an affect on us and how we live our lives. In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha explore how we are closely tied to how we make money and how that affects our sense of self.

Circumscription and Compromise

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EP 38: Confronting You, Again

Tue, 21 Sep 2021 04:00:00 +0000

The idea of working on yourself to be better for you is much easier said than done. In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha are back with a part two on how to "do the work" with yourself. They continue to explain what the process looks like and of course, give tips on how to approach the "work."

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EP 37: What We Wish We Were Told

Tue, 14 Sep 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Every week, Crystal and Sasha break down topics they feel are necessary to having an overall healthy emotional life. But in this week's episode, they are doing things a little differently and break down what they wish they were told earlier in life.

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EP 36: Was it a Shot Girl Summer?!

Tue, 07 Sep 2021 04:00:00 +0000

In the beginning of the summer, co-hosts Crystal and Sasha laid out their plans and intentions for what they wanted their summer to look like. In this week's episode, they discuss what actually happened and any life lessons (because there's always a lesson) they learned.

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EP 35: Men in Therapy - Ramon G.

Tue, 31 Aug 2021 04:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha bring on their third guest for their Men in Therapy series. Topics like toxic masculinity, racism and capitalism are all discussed within the framework of mental health.

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EP 34: Rupture and Repair

Tue, 24 Aug 2021 04:00:00 +0000

All relational dynamics will have their moments of conflict, aka rupture, and as well as "repair." But what does healthy approach to repair actually look like? In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha use their own relationship as a model to help explain.

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EP 33: What's Your Love Language?

Tue, 17 Aug 2021 04:00:00 +0000

In the Five Love Languages, author Gary Chapman explains the different ways humans experience and give love in relationships. In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha discuss and explore all five expressions, how it's not a one size fits all model, and how we can relate it to all kinds of relationships.

The 5 Love Languages

What's your love language Quiz

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EP 32: Let's Talk About Sex, Part Deux

Tue, 10 Aug 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Wildy, our personal sex therapist is back as promised and ready to discuss ALL kinds of relationships with your co-hosts. In this episode John Gottman's, "Sound Relationship House" theory is explained in order to map out what a stable relationship looks like and how it is necessary when engaging in polyamorous relationships.

What is the Sound Relationship House?

Wildilisa Silverman, LMFT: @lovesexwithwildy

EP 31: The Update # 3: Therapy Check-In

Tue, 03 Aug 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Its about time for Crystal and Sasha to update the listeners on their progress or possibly lack of in therapy. In this week's episode, they discuss what has been recently coming up for them and how they are handling it.

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EP 30: Lost Letters: What is love?

Tue, 27 Jul 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Crystal and Sasha are beginning a new series where they read and discuss an anonymous letter submitted by one of their listeners. The letter can be about anything or to anyone. They tease apart the themes that come up because the human experience is universal. in the first epiosde of the series, they discuss romantic love.

EP 29: Don't Tell Me to be Positive!

Tue, 20 Jul 2021 04:00:00 +0000

The messages of toxic positivity are fed to us constantly creating more harm than we realize. So in this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha discuss the reasons why sometimes you just gotta observe and live in the "not so nice" emotions.

The gift and power of emotional courage | Susan David

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EP 28: Amplifying the Voices of Others

Tue, 13 Jul 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Mozo, from the Watch Yo Mouth Podcast is a special friend and guest who has chosen to amplify the voices of those he feels have a positive message to spread. Co-hosts Crystal and Sasha were part of that earlier this year where Mozo had them as guest on his live show on IG. In this episode, they all have a discussion on the benefits of being your authentic self, amplifying others and building community.

Watch Yo Mouth with Mozo Podcast

Follow: @_therealmozo

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EP 27: Online Dating: Game Changer or Complicating the Game?

Tue, 06 Jul 2021 04:00:00 +0000

As if dating wasn't difficult enough, it's become a little more complicated since majority of us have shifted to doing it online. In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha talk about dating, on and off the apps and how they think people should be showing up.

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EP 26: Can Men and Women be Friends?

Tue, 29 Jun 2021 04:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode Crystal and Sasha explore the very tricky dynamics between men and women as friends. Spoiler alert: they don't come to a real conclusion!

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EP 25: Men in Therapy: Marcus J.

Tue, 22 Jun 2021 04:00:00 +0000

In the second epiosde of the series, Crystal and Sasha are continuing to normalize therapy amongst men. They invited a mutual friend to share his personal journey with therapy and the ways he has benefited from it.

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EP 24: We Can't Forget About the Good Dads

Tue, 15 Jun 2021 04:00:00 +0000

A few episodes back, Crystal and Sasha had a real conversation on what it was like growing up without the presence of a father in the house. In honor of Father's Day coming up, they chose to highlight good men and father's in their lives, because they do exist!

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EP 23: Shot Girl Summer

Tue, 08 Jun 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Summer is here and Crystal and Sasha are taking a break from "doing the work." In this week's episode they talk about their plans on how they’re going to enjoy their summer while living in this "new norm."

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EP 22: Thoughts on Religion and Spirituality

Tue, 01 Jun 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Whether you practice a specific religion, don't believe, or are somewhere in the in-between, we all put our belief and faith in something that drives us. In this week's episode, co-hosts Crystal and Sasha discuss different belief systems and the alternative ways we all practice.

EP 21: What's Your Attachment Style?

Tue, 25 May 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Crystal and Sasha talk a lot about attachment and how that affects you and the relationships you build with others. In this episode they break down each style so you can find out more about which one you are and how that is affecting the kinds of relationships you engage in.

Attached by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A.

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EP 20: Let's Talk About Sex

Tue, 18 May 2021 04:00:00 +0000

This week your co-hosts invite sex and couple's therapist, Wildy, into one of many conversations they'll have on sex. In this episode they discuss the wrong information we were given and bust a few myths we grew up hearing about sex.

Wildilisa Silverman, LMFT: @lovesexwithwildy

EP 19: It's My Birthday! & I'll do What I Want!

Tue, 11 May 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Co-host Sasha is celebrating a birthday this week and of course feelings are coming up. In this episode Crystal and Sasha explore the value we place on birthday's and how we can gain control of those feelings.

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EP 18: The Update: Therapy Check-in #2

Tue, 04 May 2021 04:00:00 +0000

It's time for an update on how therapy is going for both Crystal and Sasha. In this episode, they discuss everything they have learned and are currently working on for themselves from the last check-in they did.

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EP 17: Life & It's Stages

Tue, 27 Apr 2021 04:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode co-hosts Crystal and Sasha explore the different phases of a person's life and how each stage can affect our view on life. Their discussion is mainly based off of Erik Erkson's developmental model, and their own experiences.

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EP 16: Breaking Up is Hard to do

Tue, 20 Apr 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Going through a break up is never easy or fun. In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha explore the different reasons people ultimately decide to end their relationships and the many feelings involved.

The 7 Principles for Making a Marriage Work by John Gottman

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EP 15: The Basics of Boundaries

Tue, 13 Apr 2021 04:00:00 +0000

Exploring what healthy versus unhealthy boundaries can get confusing and overwhelming. In this week's episode, Crystal and Sasha discuss different boundary types and how to begin to practice creating and setting them.

Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

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EP 14: Men in Therapy: Pabel Martinez

Tue, 06 Apr 2021 04:00:00 +0000

It's no secret that Crystal and Sasha are no strangers to therapy. In this series , they will be talking with different men who have been or are in therapy, to break the stigma and normalize talking about feelings amongst men.

Our first guest is Pabel Martinez,@Plurawl

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EP 13: For the Fatherless

Tue, 30 Mar 2021 04:00:00 +0000

A father figure, or lack of, in the home can have long lasting impacts on a child's development. In this episode Crystal and Sasha discuss why the father role is so important along with their own personal stories.

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EP 12: When You Look in the Mirror

Tue, 23 Mar 2021 04:00:00 +0000

How we view our bodies has a lot to do with what we are consuming, and we're not just talking about food. In this episode, Crystal and Sasha get real and vulnerable about their personal journey's with their bodies, as well discuss the harms of having a negative body-image.

Body Image in America: Survey Results

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EP 11: A Year in Review

Tue, 16 Mar 2021 04:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode Crystal and Sasha review the past year and their experiences during the pandemic.

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EP 10: Choosing a Therapist

Tue, 09 Mar 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Therapy is something the podcast hosts talk about often and encourage their listeners to try out. But how should you go about finding a therapist once you're ready? In today's episode Crystal and Sasha discuss how to approach the process of finding a therapist that's right for you.

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EP 9: Therapy Check-in

Tue, 02 Mar 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Both Crystal and Sasha have been vocal about their experiences in therapy and how it has helped them progress in life. This week's episode is the first of many where they get real and personal about their therapy journey's and what they are currently tackling.

Maryam Hasnaa

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EP 8: Part 2: Check your privilege

Tue, 23 Feb 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Continuing the conversation from last week, Crystal and Sasha explore the individual's role and responsibility in being an anti-racist.

Me and White Supremacy - Layla F. Saad

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EP 7: Part 1: A racist history

Tue, 16 Feb 2021 05:00:00 +0000

In honor of Black History Month, Crystal and Sasha have a conversation on being an anti-racist in two parts. In this episode, they discuss the history of racism in America.

STAMPED: Racism, Antiracism, and You - Ibram X Kendi

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EP 6: Confronting You, You & You

Tue, 09 Feb 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Crystal and Sasha have been talking a lot about "doing the work" for themselves. And In this episode they talk about why its important, what it looks like and how you can approach it at your own pace.

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EP 5: Who we are: Mental Health Professionals with Feelings

Tue, 02 Feb 2021 05:00:00 +0000

In the final episode of the identity series, Crystal and Sasha look back on their journey to becoming mental health professionals. They discuss the good, bad and ugly of their experiences in the field.

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EP 4: Who we are: New York Born and Raised

Tue, 26 Jan 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Growing up in NY can teach you a lot of unique skills and some unnecessary ones as well. In this episode Crystal and Sasha discuss how their education on life was shaped by their city and the boroughs they were born in.

Sources on internalized capitalism:

Forge Medium article

Therapy with Lee pic

EP 3: Who we are: Latina Pride

Tue, 19 Jan 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Being Latina looks and shows up differently in Crystal and Sasha's lives, but they both agree it plays a role in their identity. In this episode they break down how they feel it has shaped their experiences.

EP 2: Who we are: The first... first-gen to be exact

Tue, 12 Jan 2021 05:00:00 +0000

Crystal and Sasha continue the discussion on identity by talking about their experiences on being first-generation.

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EP 1: Who we are: On being Women

Tue, 05 Jan 2021 05:00:00 +0000

In the first part of their identity exploration, Crystal and Sasha discuss how identifying as women has shaped their sense of self and how that affects their present day.

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Intro: How it all started

Mon, 28 Dec 2020 02:44:00 +0000

Crystal and Sasha discuss how their knowledge and similar experiences led them to start this podcast.