It's a raw, honest, and much-needed conversation.

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About the guest - Lewis Wedlock

Lewis is an academic and social psychologist. His work revolves around exploring and challenging structures that limit pathways to expressing one’s magnificence.

He has spent the last five years providing culturally and compassion-centred training on masculinities to governments, schools, CICs, organisations and universities.

Lewis is also the author of Masculinity in Schools

Lewis’ website: www.lewiswedlock.com/

I’m joined by James Hawes to unpack one of our most misunderstood emotions for men, anger, and explore why it’s not something to suppress, but to understand and express.

We dive into:

• What anger really is, and its different forms
• Why anger can actually be good for you
• How to express anger in healthy, constructive ways
• What happens when anger is ignored or bottled up
• The cultural differences in how anger is shown

Tune in for a raw, insightful, and empowering discussion about turning anger into awareness and strength.

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About the guest - James Hawes

James has been working as a counsellor and psychotherapist since 2004 and established Synergy Counselling, where he works with a broad range of clients. He is also a trained mediator.

Apart from working in his private practice, he also works in Nottingham High School with teenagers for two days a week. James also runs workshops for teachers, counsellors and youth workers.

James is also the author of The Secret Lives of Men.

James' website: https://jameshawes.org/

James' Instagram: @jamesrhawes

Cedric opens up about his personal journey, including the emotional challenges he faced growing up in France and how they’ve shaped his perspective today.

As we wrap up the season, I’d love to hear from you—whether it’s topic ideas, guest suggestions, or just a quick hello.

Connect with me on socials (links below), and let’s keep the conversation going as we gear up for Season 4!

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About the guest - Cedric Bertelli

Originally from France, he is the founder of the Emotional Health Institute, operating in the USA, France, and Japan. 

A seasoned somatic practitioner, Cedric co-developed Emotional resolution® (EmRes®), a groundbreaking method for resolving debilitating emotional patterns. 

Cedric's website: www.cedricbertelli.com/about

Cedric's Instagram: @cedricbertelli

Trigger warning: we discuss the topic of sexual harassment in detail. 

It’s a holistic and detailed conversation that covers:

•⁠ ⁠what sexual harassment is

•⁠ ⁠the prevalence of sexual harassment of women, ethnic minority populations and men 

•⁠ ⁠⁠the multidimensional impact of sexual harassment

•⁠ ⁠how to build trust with someone who has experienced sexual harassment

•⁠ ⁠⁠what men can do to move beyond traditional stereotypes around masculinity which often restricts vulnerability and support

Most importantly, we delve into ways men can hold each other accountable and challenge harassing behaviour.

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About the guest - Dr. Enya Doyle

Enya Doyle is a trusted advisor and advocate specialising in anti-harassment, equity, and inclusion for values-driven companies worldwide. 

Visit Enya’s website: enyadoyle.com

Connect with Enya on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-enya-doyle

Follow Enya on Instagram: @theharassmentdoctor/

Arlyne and I are talking about what financial wellbeing is, and what practical steps you can take to improve your finances.

We also talk about some gender stereotypes around money, explore various cultural perspectives on finances, and unpack why it's important to talk about money with family or even colleagues.

I also drop a "fun fact" on financial independence and the law here in the UK.

Check it out, you don’t want to miss this one!

About the guest - Arlyne Chinyanganya

Arlyne is an experienced accountant with over a decade of experience in finance, she's a qualified Chartered Institute of Management Accountant professional and holds a Money Guider certificate awarded by the Money and Pension service.

During the pandemic, she founded Roots to Froots, a financial wellness platform dedicated to supporting the community with valuable financial knowledge, resources, and guidance.

Roots to Fruits resources

Financial confidence course

Free workshops - available until April 2025

Free Excel budget planner

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Join Petra and me as we explore the intricate world of romantic relationships for men. We’ll dive into:  

•⁠ ⁠Diverse viewpoints on gender roles within couples 

•⁠ ⁠⁠The impact feminism, one's culture and society can have on the relationship

•⁠ ⁠The challenges men face in navigating today’s relationship landscape  

•⁠ ⁠The vital need for creating safe spaces in relationships where partners can freely express and share their thoughts

Thank you for being part of this journey. I can’t wait to explore fresh and exciting topics with you in 2025!

About the guest - Petra Velzeboer

Petra is a renowned author, psychotherapist, TedX speaker, and the CEO of mental health consultancy PVL - www.petravelzeboer.com

Connect with Petra on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/petra-velzeboer/

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Well, look no further, as in this episode Jindy and I discuss:

•⁠ ⁠masculine and feminine energies 

•⁠ ⁠⁠the difficulties of expressing masculine or feminine energies in today's world 

•⁠ ⁠⁠how to nurture one’s primary energy and express freely 

In closing, we briefly touched on male privilege and the 4 billion ways to be a man.

About the guest - Jindy Mann

Jindy is the founder of 'Leader Brother Son' - a space where he and his team create spaces for men to discover expressions of masculinity that serve them and the world around them.

Jindy facilitates men’s groups and has built an online global community for men, called Kinship.

Resources

What’s healthy about masculinity? (This article is meat-free) (blog)

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We chat about how:

• having different religious backgrounds impacts one's experience of integration
• one's views of masculinity can change due to migration 
• stereotypes about being a man 

Resources

Why it doesn't matter where I'm from (blog)

Hear Our Stories: An Exploration of Migration, Identity and Hope (book)

The Good Immigrant by Nikesh Shukla (book)

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We often hear the perspectives of host countries and how they feel and view migration - the good and the bad.  

In this episode, I turn my attention and the mic to those who have migrated to the UK. The guests share their stories and views on the topic, and the impact migration can have on one's mental health.

We chat about:

• What migration is and the stages of migration
• First hand experiences of migration
• How migration can affect one's mental health

Resources

Hear Our Stories: An Exploration of Migration, Identity and Hope (book)

The Good Immigrant by Nikesh Shukla (Editor) (book)

Dinner for Loners (campaign)

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Guests

Morshed Akhtar

A thespian, who always worked in finance. He is a British citizen of Bangladeshi descent, married and has two boys and a cat.

Keshav Shree

An A&E NHS Doctor, Filmmaker and Actor. In his own words. His films and characters are rooted in mental health issues and socio-political topics. 

Teresa Norman

Diversity and Inclusion Consultant, and CEO of TogetherInTheUK, an organisation telling stories of migration for the last 8 years. 

We may sometimes feel distant and unable to reach out to people from our workplace, community, friendship groups, and sometimes even our family. This can negatively impact our mental health.

The points John-Paul Davies and I talk about are:

•⁠ ⁠What makes us feel lonely?

•⁠ ⁠⁠What can we do about it?

•⁠ ⁠⁠How does loneliness affect men? 

The key takeaway from this episode is that to be connected with others, and less lonely, one needs to prioritise time to connect with oneself.

John-Paul is an experienced therapist, and has worked as a solicitor for the first half of his career. He has published a self-help book, Finding a Balanced Connection, and written about a range of wellbeing and psychological topics. 

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In this episode, I talk to an up-and-coming star, ChatGPT, to get its insights and views on men’s health and issues. I asked questions like: 

• Is mental health real?
• ⁠What are the stigmas men experience?
• Are men toxic?
• ⁠⁠Is the concept of masculinity outdated? 
• ⁠⁠What is the role AI can play in supporting one's mental health?
• ⁠⁠Can we trust AI? If so, how and why?
• ⁠Does technology make us happy?

Don't miss this insightful conversation that bridges the gap between technology and mental health. 

Whether you're familiar with AI or just curious about its role, this episode promises valuable takeaways for all.

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We also briefly cover how to change your behaviour and achieve your goals around establishing healthy habits, the stereotype that "mean should eat meat", and the benefits of having good quality vegetables with your stake.

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Resources:

Becca is a behaviour change, Functional Health Coach and nutritionist with a particular interest in autoimmune disease - www.beccabenning.com/

TEDx talk: ‘Everyday ways to love a struggling body’

TEDx talk: 'What it means to be a good man'

Blogpost: Some Food for Thought — Food and Your Mental Health

Tune in and chart a new course towards authentic masculinity as we head into 2024.

James is the CEO of Xtreme Character Challenge (XCC), a leadership development consultant, and a priest in the Church of England.

TEDx Talk - What it means to be a good man

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Ask yourself the hard questions if you want to change, but give compassionate answers in return.

Self-empathy is the key to your development.

Enjoy the journey, and don't let your ego get in the way.

Bernie is a masculinity and equality workshops expert, Director of Innovative Enterprise and CareersWeek, author of TheLadder, TEDx speaker and cyclist.

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Adult men in the UK and elsewhere have long struggled to maintain meaningful bonds with other men. Men may suffer a friendship deficit, likely affecting their health and happiness.

Kim Evenson and I are talking about how that might be changing, what stops guys from building meaningful connections, and why guys need to take risks in being vulnerable with one another.

Kim is an author and international public speaker on male friendships and the Founder and CEO of Brothers. He joins me all the way from Norway.

Find out more about Brothers

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Rob, among others, is a DJ and uses house music to show the dynamics between the two. We had a great chat about music and how to use it to support our mental health and its benefits. He also drops a spoken word and an excellent tune (if you ask me) to show the power of music to uplift our spirits. 

TEDx Talk - What it means to be a good man

Due to music copyright, I can't play the spoken work tunes and banger Rob has recommended, but you can listen to them here.

ANNA - Let you in (for the spoken word)

Ugo Banchi - Dance with Ibiza (the closing tune)

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More about Rob, he is a leading voice in the world of mental health. He is the CEO of FormScore and the Founder of the InsideOut LeaderBoard. He's a TEDx Speaker, a mental health campaigner, a keynote speaker, and a facilitator.

In this episode, Lau chats with Carla Hoppe, Founder and CEO of Wealthbrite, about the dynamic relationship between money problems and mental health and practical ways to deal with both.

They also explore some aspects of how men deal with money and unhealthy gender norms around money that can sometimes impact men's mental health.

Wealthbrite is a company that delivers financial education and coaching to build your people's confidence and resilience.  

You can support the podcast with a small donation on Ko-Fi.

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FREE Resources:

Mind - https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/money-and-mental-health/the-link-between-money-and-mental-health/#mental-health-can-affect-money

StepChange the debt charity - https://www.stepchange.org

Citizens Advice Bureau - https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/debt-and-money/get-help-with-the-cost-of-living/ 

Get Wealthbrite's free budgeting tool, access blogs and find out more about their work at: https://www.wealthbrite.co.uk

I also talk about some of the pitfalls of low empathy for others, the power of self-empathy, and how you can develop it.

Drop me a text with your thoughts about the topic via Instagram or Twitter.

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Misogyny affects women in a myriad of ways, and we men can play an active role in changing the narrative about how we view women and build relationships and view ourselves as men.

I slightly move on into the territory of self pe and the importance of living a fuller life by engaging with the whole of who we are and unpack the idea that being vulnerable is being strong and confident at the same time.

Drop me a text with your thoughts about the topic via Instagram or Twitter.

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David and I discuss leadership and the importance for us men to learn new ways to lead by combining empathy and strength. We also cover leadership that presents destructive and empowering messages and what the differences are.

Be inspired by David's tips on being a good leader, self-care in leadership and which leaders he finds inspirational.

Travvu offer for Mentality Podcast listeners.

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Learn more about David here - https://www.davidmcqueen.co.uk/

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In this episode, I'm talking to Az Anjum about adventure. Az is the Coordinator for Extrem Character Challenge (XCC), a mind, body and soul experience for men - https://www.xtremecharacterchallenge.com/ 

This a great episode to make you reflect on how you can start the new year and continue growing!

You can share your thoughts about content ideas and guests for the new seasons, or any feedback about previous episodes here - https://bit.ly/40gCLFa

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Claude and I discuss the importance of mentoring in raising young boys as a support system for them and their families.

Mentoring is also about leaving healthy and positive legacies of what it means to be a man for the coming generations of young boys and men.

If you haven't considered being a mentor, we share a few tips on why you should give it a thought. Irrespective of your age, your time, experience and presence, it's more than enough to start your mentoring journey.  

To support this podcast, you can buy us a coffee here.

You can get in touch with Claude on social media:

Instagram: @_cm_murray

Twitter: @cmurraylive 

LinkedIn: Claude Murray

Or check out his podcast on Instagram @conversationswithcandc 

Check out the blog on the importance of community and the third part of a series of blogs I've put on mentoring - It takes a village to raise a child.

• 40,572 women were victims of sexual assault between Oct 2020 and Sep 2021 in England and Wales - a 13% increase from the previous year and the highest number of sexual offences ever recorded within a 12-month period.
• 177 women were killed between Apr 2020 and Mar 2021 in England and Wales. Where the suspect was known, 92% of women were killed by men.

Sarah-Jane Lawrence and I discuss the importance of women's safety and the causes behind men's aggressive behaviour towards them. One of them is men's perception of masculinity.

We also talk about how men can help women feel safe, address some toxic behaviours that lead to violence against women, and offer practical advice.

Sarah-Jane is a trained therapist and coach, and you can learn more about her work here: www.sj-lawrence.co.uk

Source:

The figures are from the Office for National Statistics (ONS)

A rigid and obsolete view of what it means to be a man can leave some men trapped in a space where they cannot live freely. In addition, we discuss the impact it might have on other genders or people of different sexual orientations.

Please see the 'My Whole Self' toolkit created by MHFA England to access FREE resources and tools. It's an emotional MOT checklist to help your mental health and wellbeing.

To learn more about Simon and his work at MHFA England, see here.

Aaron and I have an open and raw chat about how to change your mindset from a negative to a positive one in the context of race relations in Britain.

Included are tips on how to 'overstand' a situation and how that could help you stay optimistic, consider a different perspective of life, and expand your mindset.

Aaron is the founder and Lead Captain at Maroon Fitness, a community-based fitness group in SE London.

Instagram: maroonfitness

We carry on talking about masculinity and some of the stereotypes men face. Aaron shares some brilliant tips on how to challenge these views and also shares some invaluable insights into why it's beneficial to have female friends.

Aaron is the founder and Lead Captain at Maroon Fitness, a community-based fitness group in SE London. Check out classes and all they do on Instagram @maroonfitness

For an update on the London Triathlon, I recently completed to raise funds, check out our Instagram @man_mentoring!

We explore the importance of therapy and how that can help overcome pain and life's disappointments.

We also talk about the attitude of gratitude and how that can helps us to understand that although life is hard, there are plenty of things we can be grateful for. Small and even free things.

The link to the men's mental health triathlon that I'm doing is available here.

Aaron is the Founder and Lead Captain at Maroon Fitness, a community-based fitness group in SE London.

Insta: maroonfitness

We also talk about how men engage with women, the importance of leaving a better legacy to young boys on the dynamic between men and women, and why men should be feminists.

The link to the blog post mentioned in the episode: The idea of male vulnerability is so so so ancient.

Emmanuel is an Assistant Headteacher and Special Education Needs Coordinator (SENCo), and Director of the Reach Out Project - a mentoring programme for young boys disengaged from school.

Personal website: Mannysconscience.com

Personal instagram: MannyAwo

Personal Twitter: MannyAwo

Reach Out Project Website: www.reachoutproject.co.uk

Insta: thereachoutproject

Twitter: reachoutproj

Emmanuel Awoyelu (Manny) and Lau explore the importance of male role models for young boys and representation behind the teaching desk for boys' school attainment. We also talk about the views some boys have about masculinity and why this matters, particularly when it comes to how boys relate to the opposite sex.

The link to the blog post mentioned in the episode: Three things stood out in ‘Nowhere special’ about manhood 

Emmanuel is an Assistant Headteacher and Special Education Needs Coordinator (SENCo), and Director of the Reach Out Project - a mentoring programme for young boys disengaged from school.

Personal website: Mannysconscience.com

Personal instagram: MannyAwo

Personal Twitter: MannyAwo

Reach Out Project Website: www.reachoutproject.co.uk

Insta: thereachoutproject

Twitter: reachoutproj

Dan is Managing Director at Beyond Equality, and you can learn more about Beyond Equality at https://www.beyondequality.org

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Tune in to hear from my guest Dr Andrew Parnham about men's wellbeing and mental health, Winston Churchill and Aragorn. Yes, I know. What a combo??? Check out the episode to hear how the conversation unfolds.

About Dr Andrew Parnham

Andy's an independent coach and wellbeing advisor. He runs a free wellbeing course called “The Happiness Course” comprising four sessions – A Happy Life, A Successful Life, A Relational Life and A Meaningful Life. To find out more about his work or check out his book, visit: https://www.andyjillparnham.com/lasting-happiness-book/

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