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#90 The Jealousy Trap Inside Affairs

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 02:00:46 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea and Carolina Vilalva dig into the jealousy nobody wants to admit they're drowning in—jealous of his wife's access, his timeline you weren't in, the version of him you never got to meet. But here's what jealousy in an affair is really telling you: it's fear of losing what you think you have mixed with desire for what you don't. Carolina breaks down the difference between jealousy (fear-driven) and envy (desire-driven), why affairs start with radical presence but devolve into surveillance and control, and how curiosity is the only antidote to the fear that's eating you alive. If you're spending more time managing jealousy than being present, you're not in a relationship—you're in a control project, and those always fail.

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#89 Meet Julie: The Fairy Godmother Who Creates Space for Floodgates

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 02:00:50 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea introduces you to Julie—not as a team member or service provider, but as the kind of human who shows up in her pajamas at 4AM when you're collapsing. Julie is a clarity partner who creates the kind of space most people have never experienced, where your floodgates can finally open. She doesn't coach (Chelsea hates that word—it implies fixing). Instead, Julie witnesses, translates your nervous system's reactions into language you can understand, and helps you see what you're actually feeling underneath what you think you're feeling. Chelsea shares Julie's powerful piece "Last Hour of the Year"—a response to someone 16 months into an affair who crashed on New Year's Eve—demonstrating how Julie holds pain without judgment, reframes struggle without fixing it, and helps people see they're not regressing but standing at a threshold between surviving something and building towards something else.

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#88 When Love and Dying Live in the Same House

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 02:00:32 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea returns to the studio for what might be the heaviest episode yet – and that's saying something. Inspired by a listener who reached out with an impossible truth, Chelsea reads a raw, unfiltered letter from "Liz," a woman having an affair while caring for her dying husband. This isn't fiction – it's a distillation of real conversations, real suffering, and the kind of impossible choices that society refuses to acknowledge exist. Chelsea explores the unbearable weight of being a caregiver to someone who's dying while seeking refuge with someone else, the crushing shame of betrayal alongside devotion, and why we're all more complex than the simple narratives we're supposed to fit into. If you're drowning in guilt over choices that don't make you a monster – just human – this is your safe space to breathe. Because sometimes survival looks nothing like what we thought it would, and that doesn't make us broken. It makes us whole.

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#87 The Power of Words: How Your Internal Language Creates Your Reality

Mon, 08 Dec 2025 02:00:39 +0000

This week Chelsea goes solo to talk about something nobody's addressing—how the words you use inside your head are literally creating the reality you're living. She dives into the difference between "I can't leave" and "I'm choosing to stay," why getting loud doesn't mean having a voice, and how every criticism you have about someone else is actually revealing your deepest fears about yourself. From her makeshift recording setup in parking lots to raw truths about language that liberates versus language that traps, this episode challenges you to audit your internal dialogue for 24 hours and replace one limiting phrase that's been running your life. Because the woman who found her voice through infidelity isn't just surviving her story—she's rewriting it.

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#86 When Control Destroys Connection: The Real Betrayal in Marriage - Carolina Vilalva

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 02:00:40 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with therapist Carolina Vilalva to explore a client story that'll make you rethink everything about control, punishment, and what betrayal really means. Carolina shares the raw reality of working with a couple where the betrayed wife's quest for control became more destructive than the infidelity itself—controlling finances, social media, even access to his children from a previous marriage. Together, they dive into the uncomfortable truth that connection and control cannot coexist, why punishment never equals healing, and how the ultimate betrayal isn't always what we've been conditioned to believe. They get real about how men and women negotiate freedom in relationships, the dangerous fantasy that we can control outcomes, and why the reaction to infidelity often causes more trauma than the affair itself. This conversation challenges the rigid narratives we've been sold about cheating and invites us into the messy, complex space where real transformation happens—because sometimes the person you're controlling the most is yourself.

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#85 Why Affair Sex Feels Better Than Marriage Sex - Dr. Diane Mueller

Thu, 06 Nov 2025 02:00:16 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with Dr. Diane to tackle the question every woman in an affair has asked: "Why does sex with my affair partner feel so different than sex with my husband?" Dr. Diane—who holds two doctorate degrees in naturopathic medicine and acupuncture—breaks down the real reasons: new relationship energy, novelty, how female arousal actually works, and why boredom in marriage isn't inevitable. They explore what your affair is really revealing about unmet needs, the role your nervous system plays in desire, and practical ways to bring that chemistry back into long-term relationships. This isn't about shame or fixing what's broken—it's about understanding your body, reclaiming playfulness, and discovering that passion doesn't have to die just because you've been together for years. Because the affair isn't the answer; understanding your desire is.

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#84 Infidelity and It’s Overlap with High-Performance Relationship Coaching -Katarina Polonska

Thu, 23 Oct 2025 01:00:20 +0000

This week on The Other Woman And The Wife Chelsea sits down with Katarina Polonska, a High-Performance Relationship Coach who frequently encounters clients dealing with infidelity. Having personally experienced betrayal, Katarina brings a nuanced perspective to the conversation, offering insights from both her professional expertise, which is vast, and personal journey as someone who has been on the receiving end of infidelity.

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#83 The Truth About What Your Affair Is Really Seeking - Paul Keable

Thu, 09 Oct 2025 01:00:32 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with Paul Keable, Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, for a conversation that flips everything you think you know about infidelity. Paul reveals the uncomfortable truth that men are actually seeking emotional validation while women are outsourcing their sexual needs, explores why toxic male fragility creates dead bedrooms, and explains how affair partners might be the most honest online daters. They dive into compassionate affairs for caregivers, why discretion isn't about shame but empowerment, and how the judgment we heap on complicated humans like us creates the very underground behaviors we claim to despise – because sometimes going into our pain rather than around it is exactly what transforms relationships.

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Summer Break Announcement: My Happily Ever After Includes Rest

Sun, 29 Jun 2025 17:00:41 +0000

In this announcement, Chelsea shares her decision to take a summer break from the podcast to focus on personal growth, family time, and self-reflection. While the show pauses, the community's safe space continues, and Chelsea promises to return in early September with fresh perspectives and new stories about love, loyalty, and authenticity. She encourages listeners to use this hiatus as their own opportunity for self-discovery and self-care.

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#82 How to Distinguish Between a Red Flag and a Triggered Wound - Joshua Marable

Sun, 22 Jun 2025 17:00:25 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with integrative bodywork and somatic therapist Joshua Marable for a serendipitous conversation about the messy realities of human connection. Joshua challenges us to go into our pain rather than around it, exploring how synchronicity, self-awareness, and somatic healing intersect with relationships. They dive deep into maintaining your sense of self within partnerships, the real talk about sex and intimacy, conflict resolution beyond surface fixes, and why infidelity is often about unmet needs rather than simple betrayal. This raw, unfiltered discussion transcends judgment and approaches relationships with the kind of radical honesty that transforms pain into growth – because sometimes the conversation you're avoiding is exactly the one you need to have.

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#81 What Your Affair Is Really Telling You - Kara Nance

Sun, 15 Jun 2025 17:00:00 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea is joined by guest Kara Nance to explore the unconscious nature of desire, attachment styles, and the three key instinctual energies that drive human behavior—self-preservation, social, and sexual. Together, they delve into the delicate balance required in partnerships, how unmet trauma can perpetuate cycles of pain, and the ongoing challenge of maintaining sexual energy in long-term relationships. They also emphasize the critical importance of authenticity, personal growth, and facing difficult truths in relationships.

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#80 From Trolling to Friendship: A Betrayed Spouse’s Journey Through Infidelity Pt. 2

Sun, 08 Jun 2025 17:00:00 +0000

Sometimes the harshest critics become the most profound teachers. In this follow-up episode of TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea reconnects with one of her original TikTok trolls. Avid listeners might remember him from Episode 35—”From Trolling To Dialogue”. He spent months processing his wife's infidelity by trolling her in the comments. Nearly a year later, he's back with a completely different perspective, sharing his journey from anger to healing and proving there really is life after infidelity for everyone involved. This isn't your typical "happily ever after" story—it's a real look at how our biggest critics are often fighting battles we can't see, and how transformation happens when we choose growth over grudges

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#79 Complicated Women Have the Best Stories: Ann Marie Edition

Sat, 31 May 2025 14:34:00 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea flips the script and puts Ann Marie in the hot seat. You know that familiar voice who's been weaving through our episodes? Time to meet the woman behind it. Ann Marie opens up about her own messy, beautiful journey with infidelity and reveals how she went from podcast listener to now co-conspirator in creating this safe harbor for complicated humans like us.

This isn't just Ann Marie's origin story – it's a love letter to everyone who's ever felt like they needed permission to be human. If you're still reading remember: You don't need permission, but you deserve to feel less alone. Welcome to the messy, transformative world of finding your voice.

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#78 How Do You Break Free of the Victim or Villain Mindset? -Carolina Vilalva

Sun, 25 May 2025 16:00:00 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea sits down with returning guest Carolina Vilalva. Together they discuss how to move from the drama triangle (where we play hero, villain, or victim) into the empowerment triangle where we claim our personal power as creators, facilitate self-empowerment as coaches, and provoke positive action as challengers. If you’ve been feeling ‘stuck’ in your circumstance this episode is for you!

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Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Master’s in International Education.

Her training includes EFT, IOPT, DISC assessments, and she is pursuing licensure in Neurofeedback. A Third Culture Kid and part of a blended multicultural family, she has lived on four continents and is currently based in Maputo, Mozambique, where her husband serves as a diplomat.

#77 Story Time: Silence is Deafening, Delphine’s Ghosting Experience

Sun, 18 May 2025 17:00:00 +0000

In this raw episode of The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie explore the painful aftermath of being ghosted by an affair partner after 3.5 years. When someone who shared your deepest secrets suddenly vanishes, what happens to all that unresolved emotion? From processing relationship trauma to sending 500 crickets to at least make a statement, this judgment-free discussion offers insights for anyone who's ever been left to write their own ending when no one else would.

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#76 Infidelity & The Power Of Female Friendship -Kris Haraldsson

Sun, 11 May 2025 17:00:00 +0000

This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea and Ann Marie have recurring guest Kristine Haraldsson back on the show to discuss the impact that their women friendships play in their lives, but more specifically how their experience within infidelity was impacted by the female friendships in their lives.

Kris Haraldsson, MS is a coach and educator who gained a following of 100k followers across platforms discussing relationships, divorce, and personal empowerment in the context of relationships. Her passion lies in weaving her extensive background in psychology with her experience working in social services to help people understand how they can change unhelpful patterns in their relationships.

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#75 Where in the World Are Chelsea and Ann Marie? TOWTW Retreat Edition

Sun, 04 May 2025 18:00:00 +0000

What are the women of the TOWTW community doing in Mexico? Nobody asked so let me tell you. They are celebrating women's friendships and the power of community when faced with life's adversities. Please tune in next week for another jam-packed episode of the TOWTW Podcast! Thank you for being here, listeners, and keep an eye out for details on how you could join us for our next Women's Retreat!

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#74 Is Infidelity Hereditary? -Luke Shillings

Sun, 27 Apr 2025 17:00:00 +0000

In this weeks episode of TOWTW podcast, hosts Chelsea and Ann Marie welcome back guest Luke Shillings. Chelsea and Luke courageously share their contrasting experiences growing up in the shadow of parental infidelity revealing how the same type of family disruption created two very different journeys to healing. This episode explores how childhood perspectives on adult betrayal shape our relationships, outlook, and personal growth. A must-listen for anyone navigating family complexities or supporting children through difficult transitions.

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Plot Twist: TOWTW Easter Pause

Sun, 20 Apr 2025 18:25:00 +0000

Self-care alert: TOWTW Podcast will be taking an Easter Break this week. With new episodes and guests returning next Sunday!

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#73 Story Time: Let's Talk About Sex

Sun, 13 Apr 2025 17:00:00 +0000

In this week’s episode, Chelsea retells a story about a woman experiencing a sexual awakening through an affair, leaving her torn about her marriage's future. Together, with co-host Ann Marie, they unpack the woman's complex dilemma, examining how societal judgment shapes our views on infidelity while advocating for personal autonomy and authentic desires over rigid marital expectations. Join us for a candid conversation about navigating the tension between personal fulfillment and societal pressure in intimate relationships.

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#72 Story time: Widow Grieves Death of Affair Partner Re-Release

Sun, 06 Apr 2025 17:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode of TOWTW Podcast we are revisiting an episode from our vault. Chelsea shares a story about a woman who finds herself widowed and in an affair with a co-worker. When her affair partner passes away suddenly she finds herself very alone in her grief as nobody knows the full extent of their relationship.

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#71 Should You Stay Together For The Kids? - Carolina Vilalva

Sun, 30 Mar 2025 17:00:00 +0000

In this powerful TOWTW episode, Chelsea is joined by returning guest Carolina Vilalva to challenge the notion of staying in unhappy marriages "for the kids." They reveal how children inevitably sense parental tension and Carolina explains why showing children it's acceptable to leave situations that compromise your wellbeing might be more valuable than preserving an unhappy home, offering a fresh perspective on this difficult parenting dilemma.

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#70 Dear Listener, This One’s Just Between Us

Sun, 23 Mar 2025 17:00:00 +0000

In this intimate solo episode of TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea speaks directly from the heart about the business she has created. With characteristic honesty, she shares the pivotal moments that inspired her new courses and the current life experiences deepening her commitment to this work. Join her for this rare, vulnerable conversation as she reveals the true passion behind her mission and why she's more excited than ever to help others transform their challenging experiences into opportunities for growth.

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#69 Spiritual Thought-Leader Rob Bell

Sun, 09 Mar 2025 18:58:18 +0000

In this powerful episode of The Other Woman and The Wife, Chelsea sits down with New York Times bestselling author and spiritual thought-leader Rob Bell. The former pastor and creator of the RobCast explores how love extends beyond conventional boundaries—especially after infidelity. Rob offers a compassionate framework for understanding our most complicated relationships without judgment, showing how better questions can transform our approach to life's messiest moments and open genuine pathways to healing.

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#68 Can You Trust Yourself After Infidelity? Pt. 2 -Luke Shillings

Sun, 02 Mar 2025 18:08:27 +0000

In this follow-up episode, Chelsea and Luke explore the journey beyond infidelity trauma. Building on their previous discussion of grief, we examine how to rebuild trust in others and ourselves after infidelity has entered the chat. Together they share their insights on overcoming self-sabotage, managing vulnerability fears, and rediscovering authentic connection.

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#67 Can You Trust Love After Infidelity? Pt. 1

Sun, 23 Feb 2025 18:14:20 +0000

Why does love feel dangerous after betrayal? Part 1 of this special series of The Other Woman & The Wife features Chelsea and Luke Shillings exploring the paradox of craving connection while being terrified of it. Join us next week for Part 2, where they share how pain can be transformed into deeper, more authentic connection.

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#66 How Is Your Shame Serving You? (Spoiler: It's Not) -Kris Haraldsson

Sun, 16 Feb 2025 18:15:53 +0000

Host Chelsea and incoming coach Kris explore why shame might be holding back your healing after infidelity in this episode of The Other Woman & The Wife. Together they unpack the difference between productive guilt and paralyzing shame, showing you how to write a new story - one of self-compassion and growth instead of self-judgment."

Kris Haraldsson MS is a coach and educator who gained a following of 100k followers across platforms discussing relationships, divorce, and personal empowerment in the context of relationships. Her passion lies in weaving her extensive background in psychology with her experience working in social services to help people understand how they can change unhelpful patterns in their relationships.

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#65 Is Your Need to Collaborate Keeping You Stuck?

Sun, 09 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +0000

Tired of your boundaries turning into group discussions? In this episode of The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie expose the trap of 'collaborative communication' and provide practical tools to transform your requests into powerful statements. Learn why being 'demanding' might be exactly what your relationship needs.

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#64 Beyond Stereotypes: How Gender Expectations Shape Affair Recovery -Luke Shillings

Sun, 02 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +0000

Join host Chelsea and our returning guest Luke Shillings as they explore how gender stereotypes influence both the experience of infidelity and the recovery process. They examine society's expectations of how men and women 'should' process pain, and discuss how breaking free from these stereotypes can lead to more authentic healing. If you’re seeking to better understand the complex dynamics of affair recovery, this episode offers fresh perspectives and practical insights for moving forward.

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#63 Therapy vs. Coaching: Healing After Infidelity - Carolina Vilalva

Sun, 26 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +0000

In this illuminating episode, Chelsea sits down with Carolina Vilalva, a licensed clinical therapist joining The Other Woman and The Wife coaching team. They explore the crucial differences between therapy and coaching, helping you understand which path might be right for your healing journey after infidelity. Whether you're considering professional support or looking to make a change in your current therapeutic relationship, this episode provides valuable insights to guide your decision-making process.

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#62 Debunking Betrayal Stereotypes - Luke Shillings

Sun, 19 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +0000

Chelsea and returning guest Luke Shillings bring their personal experiences to challenge common stereotypes about infidelity. As a former other woman and betrayed spouse respectively, they examine which stereotypes rang true, which missed the mark, and whether these labels help or hurt healing. A raw, honest conversation about moving beyond societal assumptions to find understanding.

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Betrayed Spouse Stereotypes
Affair Partner Stereotypes
How Stereotypes Affect Healing

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#61 Revisiting Hard Truths a Q&A: Did he use me? Is he having Sex with his wife?

Sun, 12 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +0000

TOW&TW kicks off the year with a journey down memory lane. In this encore episode, we revisit an episodes that deeply resonated with our longtime listeners – and offers our new audience a powerful glimpse into some of our previously aired compelling conversations. From our carefully curated archives, this raw and honest Q&A with Chelsea explores the questions that keep affair partners awake at night.

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#60 The Affair That Rekindled Her Soul - Luke Shilling's

Sun, 22 Dec 2024 18:00:00 +0000

This week on The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie are once again joined in the studio by Luke Shillings. Together they retell and explore the emotional story of a woman torn between her role as wife and mother to her family and a rekindled connection with a man from her past. As relationship coaches, they delve into the roots of infidelity, unresolved trauma, and finding constructive paths forward when in complicated relationships.

Whether you’re seeking understanding or guidance, this episode offers a compassionate look at the nuances of love, betrayal, and self-discovery.

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#59 Empower, Transform, Connect: Inside Our Upcoming Puerto Vallarta Retreat

Sun, 15 Dec 2024 19:00:00 +0000

This week on The Other Woman & The Wife, Chelsea and Ann Marie welcome Julie, the Chief of Knowledge at TOW&TW, to the studio. Julie has been working tirelessly to create an all-inclusive, transformative retreat for women in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. This retreat is designed to foster connection, empowerment, and personal growth in a supportive and inspiring environment.

If you've ever wanted to meet Chelsea and our team while building lifelong friendships with like-minded women, this is your opportunity! Don’t miss the chance to join this life-changing experience. Visit our website or click the link to sign up: https://towtw.com/retreats.

Give yourself the gift of transformation—you won’t regret it! Walk away feeling empowered, inspired, and connected like never before.

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#58 Mark's Affair Story Pt. 2 - Luke Shillings

Sun, 08 Dec 2024 18:00:00 +0000

This Week on The Other Woman and The Wife: Ann Marie and Luke Shillings continue unraveling the gripping story of infidelity shared by Tim Teddor, writing under the alias "Mark." In Part 2, we uncover the twists and turns of Mark’s journey in the aftermath of his affair and divorce, exploring how his decisions shaped the years that followed.

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Don’t miss this raw conclusion to a story that’s both deeply personal and universally resonant. For Tim’s full story and more visit his website https://www.affairhealing.com/mark-affair-story.html

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#56 What Makes People Leave Their Marriage For An Affair? - Carolina Vilalva

Sun, 24 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +0000

This week Chelsea sits down with Carolina Vilalva. Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Master’s in International Education.

After commenting on an Instagram post asking, “What makes somebody leave their marriage for the affair?” Carolina was overwhelmed by the response, inspiring her to continue to connect with other people who had found themselves in similar situations involving infidelity.

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Infidelity
Blending families
Parenting through divorce
Life Transitions

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#55 Ignorance is Bliss - Luke Shillings

Sun, 17 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode Chelsea, Luke, & Ann Marie explore a story submitted to them by a follower. The writer reveals the confusing and emotional complexities of infidelity. Once a harsh critic of affairs, she found herself involved in one after 23 years of a stable but unfulfilling marriage. A connection with a coworker, her direct report, sparked an intense, secret relationship that has lasted for over a year, even though her husband now knows about it and wants to repair their marriage. Now, with a greater empathy for those in similar situations, she faces the painful choice between duty and fulfillment.

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Crumbling Convictions
Infidelity in the workplace

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#54 Mark's Affair Story Pt. 1 - Luke Shillings

Sun, 10 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +0000

Join Chelsea, Luke Shillings, and Ann Marie as they dive into a gripping story of infidelity by Tim Teddor, writing under the alias Mark. Tim recounts his affair, the struggle to choose between his marriage and his affair partner. Tune in for a raw discussion on the complexities of love, choice, and consequence—and look out for Part 2, where we learn how Mark’s journey unfolds in the years that follow. For Tim’s full story and more visit his website https://www.affairhealing.com/mark-affair-story.html

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#53 Divorce Attorney's Thoughts on Infidelity & Relationships -James Sexton

Sun, 03 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +0000

This week on The Other Woman and the Wife, Chelsea is joined by renowned divorce attorney and author James Sexton, who brings over two decades of experience handling high-conflict divorces. Together, they dive into the complexities of modern relationships, examining the intricate roles of infidelity, love, and commitment. James shares surprising truths from the courtroom and beyond, revealing what often goes unsaid about why marriages end and what we can learn from those who face it head-on. Don't miss this candid conversation about the legal and emotional landscapes of divorce.

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#52 Dangerous Liaisons

Sun, 27 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +0000

This week, Chelsea interviews Mama Coll, who opens up about her experience as “the other woman” and the extreme harassment she faced from her affair partner’s spouse. From online stalking to restraining orders, Mama Coll shares her story and how she found her voice as an advocate. With a large TikTok following, she first connected with The Other Woman & The Wife as a passionate supporter in the comments. Join us for an eye-opening conversation about infidelity and resilience.

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#51 From Infidelity to Empowerment: Forging New Communities for Men and Women

Sun, 20 Oct 2024 17:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, Chelsea passes the hosting baton to Luke Shillings, who turns the spotlight on her journey in building a thriving women's community and coaching program. Together, they dive deep into the recent launch of a men's community in August, sharing the inspiration behind it and their vision for its future. Join them as they explore the evolution of these supportive spaces and the exciting expansion of their mission.

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#49 Finding Home Outside My Marriage

Sun, 06 Oct 2024 17:00:00 +0000

In this episode, Chelsea interviews Lindsey, who shares her deeply personal experience with infidelity. She discusses how her life changed when she realized she had found safety and a sense of “home” with someone who wasn’t her husband. Lindsey opens up about the emotional struggles of divorce and what it took to rebuild her life with her affair partner.

A story of vulnerability and transformation, Lindsey’s journey sheds light on finding oneself amid heartache.

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#48 Welcoming Luke Shillings

Sun, 29 Sep 2024 17:00:00 +0000

We’re back from summer break, and we have some exciting news! Joining our team here this season at The Other Woman and The Wife is a special guest Luke Shillings. Luke is stepping in to help us expand our reach to not just include women but men as well as we grow and develop The Other Man and The Mister community.

In this episode, we explore complex topics surrounding a men’s community, relationships, and the delicate issue of infidelity. Together, we dive deep into the emotional landscapes that often go undiscussed. Whether you’re navigating these challenges yourself or simply curious, this conversation is sure to resonate. Tune in for fresh insights, a powerful new perspectives, and a preview of what’s to come this season!

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#47 The Temptation To Cheat Again

Sun, 23 Jun 2024 17:00:00 +0000

How does a woman who is self described as "the most unlikely candidate to cheat" find herself in an affair? An affair that leaves her reeling and conflicted with a temptation to cheat again no less. Join Chelsea and Ann Marie as they candidly share their reactions, thoughts, and insights about this very situation.

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#46 To Tell Or Not To Tell: Affair Disclosure v. Discovery

Sun, 16 Jun 2024 17:00:00 +0000

In this week’s episode, Chelsea and Ann Marie delve into the topic of disclosing your affair verses waiting for it to be discovered. The discussion weighs the merits of voluntary disclosure against the potential trauma of a partner finding out about the affair independently.

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Weighing Discovery Against Disclosure
Steps to Prepare for Revealing an Affair
Evaluating the Necessity of Revealing an Affair

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#45 Does Limerence Cause Affairs?

Sun, 09 Jun 2024 17:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, Ann Marie and Chelsea dive into the concept of limerence and its role in infidelity. They discuss how the limerence narrative can limit self-growth by offering overly simplistic explanations, and examine its impact on addressing the root causes of affairs. Finally, they challenge the labels associated with limerence, suggesting it be viewed as a facet of human emotion rather than an addiction.

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Limerence
Infidelity
Relationship Dynamics

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#44 Gangster Gate and Passion Driven Work

Sun, 02 Jun 2024 17:00:00 +0000

In this weeks episode, Chelsea and Ann Marie delve into "Gangster Gate," where a group of women doxed members of Chelsea's online community. They explore the dramatic events and their fallout. Chelsea shares her experience and the valuable lessons learned from this challenging situation. They also discuss the struggles and triumphs of building a controversial business from scratch, driven by passion and purpose, despite facing skepticism and opposition.

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#43 Is Your Affair a Painkiller or a Refuge?

Sun, 26 May 2024 17:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, Chelsea and Ann Marie explore the complex motivations behind infidelity by defining and distinguishing between "painkiller" and "refuge" affairs. By facing past traumas and recognizing unhealthy patterns, they discuss how addressing the root causes of infidelity can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Join us for an insightful discussion on the nuanced reasons behind why people seek affairs and how to move forward in a constructive way.

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#42 The Affair That Resulted In a Decade-Long Marriage.

Sun, 19 May 2024 17:10:00 +0000

In this weeks very special episode we are joined on the podcast by non other than Chelsea's husband, Stan. Join them as they discuss the intricate terrain of love, resilience, and personal growth after partaking in an affair. From Stan's immigrant roots to the complexities of their relationship dynamics, they offer raw honesty and shared wisdom, illuminating the transformative power of commitment amidst adversity.

Through candid reflections on overcoming challenges, rebuilding trust, and the importance of therapy, they inspire listeners with their tale of redemption and renewal.

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#41 Whose Happiness Comes First – Mothers or Children?

Sun, 12 May 2024 17:00:00 +0000

In this thought-provoking episode, Chelsea and Ann Marie delve deep into the often overlooked aspect of motherhood: the mother's own happiness and well-being. Join us as we explore the tendency for mothers to prioritize their children's experiences over their own, the societal expectations placed upon mothers, and the impact of relationships, like marriage, on a woman's happiness.

Join us as we celebrate the multifaceted journey of motherhood, encouraging mothers everywhere to nurture their own happiness as they nurture their children. Tune in for an empowering and enlightening conversation.

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#40 How The 20 Year Affair with My Brother in Law Worked Out

Sun, 05 May 2024 17:00:00 +0000

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This week Chelsea is joined in the studio with a special guest, Grace. They delve into the intricate layers of Grace's life, where she candidly shares her journey through a decades-spanning marriage. Discover the profound impact of infidelity on Grace's life, as she opens up about her 20-year affair with her brother-in-law, unraveling the tangled web of emotions, guilt, and longing.

In this episode, we confront the uncomfortable truths of marital discord, the allure of forbidden love, and the difficult journey toward reclaiming one's sense of self. We will navigate the depths of Grace's experiences, offering a counterweight to conventional narratives surrounding infidelity and providing a beacon of hope for those grappling with similar struggles.

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#39 Why Do People Stay and Cheat Instead of Leave

Sun, 28 Apr 2024 18:00:00 +0000

This week Chelsea and Ann Marie explore the concept of opportunity cost in relationships, emphasizing the human tendency to prioritize external factors like financial stability and social standing over personal well-being and growth. They discuss how pro's and con's lists can lead to analysis paralysis, hindering individual growth within relationships.

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#38 Does The World Change or Does How You View The World Change?

Sun, 21 Apr 2024 18:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, Chelsea & Ann Marie embark on an exploration of how marriage, infidelity, motherhood and many other factors transformed the way they viewed the world. Dispelling common misconceptions along the way, they bravely share their experiences of embracing new mindsets. As they reflect on the transformative power of flexibility over rigidity, listeners are invited to join them on a candid and thought-provoking journey.

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#37 Am I Giving Him an Ultimatum or Setting a Boundary?

Sun, 14 Apr 2024 18:00:00 +0000

In this weeks episode join us for a thought-provoking exploration of boundaries, self-care, and the profound impact they have on the fabric of our relationships. Get ready to embark on a journey of empowerment and connection as we navigate the intricate terrain of setting healthy boundaries.

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Distinguishing boundaries from ultimatums.
Understanding self-abandonment.
Empowerment through boundaries.
Comprehensive ways to model boundaries and why it's impactful.

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#36 Chelsea Jubilee Reaction

Sun, 07 Apr 2024 18:00:00 +0000

Chelsea reacts to her own guest appearance on an episode of Jubilee centered around infidelity. Join Chelsea as she pulls back the curtain on this experience and talks about what it was really like on this set.

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#35 From Trolling to Dialogue: A Betrayed Spouse Shares His Journey

Sun, 25 Feb 2024 19:10:00 +0000

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#34 On The Other Side Of Infidelity w/ Melanie

Sun, 21 Jan 2024 19:00:00 +0000

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#33 Twin Flames, Validation & Real Love w/ Kristin

Sun, 14 Jan 2024 07:00:00 +0000

Chelsea & Kristin discuss infidelity, the essence of love, societal expectations of relationships, and the concept of soulmates or twin flames. Rather than sticking to societal norms, they emphasize the paramount significance of cultivating self-love, seeking internal validation and nurturing genuine self-understanding. They explore the idea that one's relationship with oneself sets the foundation for their relationships with others.

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#32 Male Emotional Affair Gone Wrong w/ Marty

Sun, 07 Jan 2024 19:00:00 +0000

Marty shares his complex journey about an emotional affair he had while being married for 20 years. He details his struggle with balancing his love for his wife and the feelings for his affair partner, while also dealing with personal growth and realization.

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#31 Why He Won't Leave Her w/ Minister Jamie

Sun, 10 Dec 2023 19:05:00 +0000

In this episode of The Other Woman and a Wife, host Chelsea is joined by minister Jamie to discuss the topic of infidelity and why women often find themselves in competition with one another. They explore how societal expectations and upbringing shape women's perception of themselves in relation to men, the importance of passion in relationships, and the complexities of reconciling after infidelity. Jamie shares valuable insights on love, the difference between being in love with the idea of a person versus the actual person, and the role of circumstances in changing individuals.

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#29 Growing Up in a Toxic Family Environment w/ Kaity

Sun, 19 Nov 2023 19:00:00 +0000

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Katie shares her story of growing up in dysfunctional families, dealing with emotionally unstable parents, and the trauma these experiences have inflicted on her. Katie extensively shares her childhood experiences, detailing how her parents' unhappy marriage and subsequent divorce shaped her. Katie discusses the lessons she's drawn from these experiences, as well as her efforts to ensure these patterns don't repeat in her own family and relationships.

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Impact of Parent's Toxic Relationship
Relationship with Parents as an Adult
When to End a Relationship
Experience with Toxic Stepmothers
The Impact of Divorce
Boomer Mentality and Its Effects
The Fallout of a Family Conflict
Struggles of Blending a Family
The Importance of Validation and Apology
The Bond Between Siblings Amidst Chaos
The Aftermath and Moving Forward

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#28 From Shame to Growth: Therapist Talks Infidelity w/ Romi Cumes

Sun, 12 Nov 2023 19:00:00 +0000

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Romi Cumes is a leading professional in somatic and relational psychotherapy, bodywork, yoga instruction, and intuitive healing. She supports people to explore the profound relationship between somatic (body-centered) awareness, inner-healing and personal growth.

In this episode Romi shares her professional & personal opinion on the topic of infidelity covering the following topics:

Topics:

Fear of therapy in affairs
Body's response to thoughts impacts experiences
Intentionality and mindfulness
The inner critic and addiction to mobile phones in a relationship
Powerful exercise for managing stress.
Processing shame and imbalances
Communication and open agreements in relationships
Are cheaters bad people?
Once a cheater always a cheater?

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#27 Former Pastor got Accused of Cheating w/ Dave Capozzi

Sun, 05 Nov 2023 19:00:00 +0000

Dave Capozzi is a former evangelical pastor turned teacher. Dave shares his personal experiences with infidelity, including unexpected proposals and accusations. Chelsea and Dave explore deconstruction, the challenges of marriage within the confines of religion, and the importance of trauma-informed care.

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Personal Experiences with Infidelity
The Impact of Marriage and Expectations
The Decision to leave marriage
The Process of Deconstruction
Importance of Trauma-Informed Care

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#26 Exploring the Intersection of Religion and Infidelity w/ Bible School Black Sheep

Sun, 29 Oct 2023 19:00:00 +0000

Topics:

fear of being ostracized
purpose of religious relationship
religious deconstruction
fear of hell
miss-use of religion
religion & human development
community

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#25 From Resentment to Healing: How a Betrayed Husband Overcame the Pain of Infidelity w/ Luke Shillings

Sun, 22 Oct 2023 18:00:00 +0000

Luke is relationship coach specialised in infidelity recovery. In his previous marriage he got cheated on by his wife. He now uses that experience to help the betrayer and betrayed parties to heal from their affairs.

This episode is packed with personal stories and insights.

Topics:

Luke's infidelity experience
The Role of Feelings and Emotions
Decision to stay
Wanted and Unwanted Emotions
Boundaries to leave
Handling expectations in a relationship
Getting over resentment
Co-parenting
Rebuilding Trust
Acceptance and Communication in Relationships

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#24 Q&A: Did he use me? Is he having Sex with his wife?

Sun, 08 Oct 2023 18:00:00 +0000

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#23 How Money Influences your Relationship & Independence w/ Julie

Sun, 01 Oct 2023 19:48:55 +0000

Topics

Lack of money
Independence
Leaving without money
Finding a job
Value system around money

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#22 Betrayed Wife Stays in Marriage After Affair w/ Kayti

Sun, 24 Sep 2023 18:00:00 +0000

Topics

Kayti's betrayal story
Being honest with emotions
leading military couples after infidelity
Fear in affairs
Avoiding infidelity in marriage
Choice in affairs
Managing kids after the divorce
What men are allowed to do..
letting go of identity

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#21 Leaving Husband for Best Friend w/ Suzi

Sun, 17 Sep 2023 18:00:00 +0000

Topics

How did the affair start?
Distance through no contact
Feeling used by AP
Signs of the universe
Christianity & Adultery
Dissecting to move forward with AP
Women judging women
Honesty between betrayed parties
Focus on yourself
Impact of affair on children

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#20 How To Forgive Yourself After the Affair

Sun, 10 Sep 2023 18:00:00 +0000

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#19 How to Reinvent Yourself After Divorce w/ Marissa Baker

Sun, 03 Sep 2023 18:00:00 +0000

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#18 Lessons of 19 YEARS in an Affair w / Julie

Sun, 27 Aug 2023 18:00:00 +0000

Topics of the podcast:

How the affair started
Growth in relationship
Not to die in a relationship
Deciding to leave
Why don't men leave marriages?
Qualities for lasting relationships
Good and bad reasons to marry AP
The spark

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#17 Leaving Unhappy Marriage For Her Best Friend w/ Kristin

Sun, 20 Aug 2023 18:00:00 +0000

Topics of the podcast:

Kristin's "affair"
The "idea of" vs "actual" relationship
Dating yourself
Decision to leave the marriage
Convincing a guy to care who does not care
Relationships without obligation
Finding a new group of friends
Maintenance of a striving relationship

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#16 Should You Tell His Wife About The Affair?

Sun, 13 Aug 2023 18:00:00 +0000

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#15 Who To Tell About Your Affair?

Sun, 06 Aug 2023 18:00:00 +0000

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#14 Community, Throuple & Monogamy | 014

Sun, 30 Jul 2023 18:00:00 +0000

This is a special episode where we talk about insider topics from the community, throuple relationships and models to lasting relationships.

Topics:

Women in the community
Throuple Experience
Monogamy
5 love languages
Manifesting Stan into my life

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#13 How No Contact Hurts & Messes Up Your Life

Sun, 23 Jul 2023 18:00:00 +0000

How do you handle no contact? Resist the urge to text him.. To think about him.. Going through the whole process unscathed.

In this episode I share my thoughts on the process and how other women in the community are handling their experience ghosting someone they love. I explore the male and female perspective, how no contact can be seen as a form of abuse and how you can ease going through the process by showing up for yourself.

We also talk about boundaries and cultivating awareness so, let's dive in!

Topics:

Hurt
Boundaries
Ghosting & Abuse
Awareness
Showing up for yourself

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#12 When Will He Leave His Wife? Can You Trust Him?

Sun, 16 Jul 2023 18:00:00 +0000

How do you know your affair partner will leave his wife? Can you even trust your AP? How does he follow up on his word?

In this episode I share how it all went down with me and Stan, how women can make their own decisions and how that translates into the dating scene.

Topics:

Building trust
Decision to leave
Dynamics of moving forward
Dating Checklist
Understanding your partner

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#11 Story time: Widow Grieves Death of Affair Partner

Sun, 09 Jul 2023 18:00:00 +0000

How do you experience an affair as a widow? How does it feel to grieve the death of your affair partner?

In this episode I share the story of 76 year young "Roxy", how she met her affair partner after her husband passed away and my thoughts on her experience.

Thank you "Roxy" for sharing your story with me.

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#010 How to NOT Fall Out of Love in your Relationship / Affair

Sun, 02 Jul 2023 18:00:00 +0000

How can you prevent falling out of love in your relationship? Chelsea shares her fear of meeting another man, losing self-control and the potential of entering a new affair. Falling out of love with her husband and how to prevent it. She discusses how to sustain a healthy relationship with her partner & the mindset involved to be successful in a long-term marriage.

Topics:

Losing yourself
Immature relationships
Resenting your partner
Cultivating awareness
Delegating your power
Discovering your voids

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#009 How Does Guilt & Shame Manifest in an Affair? w/ Luna

Sun, 25 Jun 2023 18:00:00 +0000

Luna gets to ask Chelsea burning questions on infidelity.

Hindsight on her dad's affair
How did she perceive infidelity as a child
Abandonment of religion
Thoughts on infidelity before cheating
Accountability and allowing to be involved in an affair

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#008 Can Women Fall PREY to Cheating? w/ Luna

Sun, 18 Jun 2023 18:00:00 +0000

Did you ever connect infidelity with women's empowerment? Luna delves deep into the complexities of infidelity and its connection to women's empowerment. Breaking societal norms, Luna challenges the notion that women who seek satisfaction outside their committed relationships are selfish, shedding light on the interplay between infidelity, patriarchy, and women's empowerment. Drawing from her personal experience, Luna explores the nature versus nurture debate, discussing how individuals can become unwitting prey to affair

Topics:

Her experience with infidelity
Nature vs nurture
Becoming prey to affairs
Male vs Female cheating
Fulfilment
Shaming and judging
Putting yourself first

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#007 Why Do Men Cheat?

Sun, 11 Jun 2023 18:00:00 +0000

Do men cheat because they don't have the ability to be honest?

Because they have tons of unmet needs, wants and desires that they don't know how to communicate to their spouse?

Or could it just be that they like to hurt people?

In this episode I sit down with Kevin to discuss male infidelity.

We talk about:

Why infidelity happens in marriages
The psychology of cheating in men vs women
Masculinity's dark side
Emotional attachement
Authentic being in a relationship

If you liked this episode, please leave us a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify. We will be selecting a few to read out loud in future episodes!

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#006 Can you Prevent Affairs?

Sun, 04 Jun 2023 18:00:00 +0000

Can you prevent infidelity in a marriage? Chelsea discusses her stand point on eradicating affairs in society and shares her struggles in moving forward with her affair partner.

Topics discussed:

Preventing affairs
Stan's story in and out of the US
Moving from affair to a healthy relationship
Chelsea's why of making infidelity mainstream

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#005 Betrayed Wife Shares Her Story on Being Cheated On w/ Nicole & Sarah

Sun, 28 May 2023 19:14:31 +0000

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#004 Q&A How To End the Affair Without Breaking My Husband?

Sun, 21 May 2023 18:00:00 +0000

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#003 Confronting Infidelity in Marriage w/ Greg

Sun, 14 May 2023 18:00:00 +0000

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#002 Q&A: How Do You Get Over a Secret Long-term Affair

Sun, 07 May 2023 18:00:00 +0000

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#001 Betrayed Wife Falls in Love with Someone Other Than Husband w/ Veronica

Sun, 30 Apr 2023 18:00:00 +0000

Veronica was the betrayed wife and the other woman. I wanted to understand what went through her mind, how she dealt with falling in love with someone who wasn't her husband, and get her perspective now that this is all over. She is also a child abuse survive and we delve into the topic of parenting and what it means to be a good mom as a single parent.

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